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Season 3 - Episode 155 - How do I define myself & who am I really? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning from the Chicken Coop podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop, along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop and I am in the
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  chicken coop today. Rain, rain, rain, rain and more
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  rain. So we are inside and it's really
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  actually nice in here with the sound on the metal roof.
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  It's pretty cool. Anyway, today we are talking
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  about how you define yourself. This is always a fascinating
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  question to ask somebody, or even yourself for that matter.
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  Because most of the time we don't think about defining
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  ourselves. We just think about, you know,
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  what we have to do and the chores of the day and what has
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  to get done. And we rarely take the time to
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  pause and say, wait, how do I define myself?
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  Because we have so many different areas of ourselves.
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  Most of us have relationships, whether we're children to
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  somebody or we're parents to somebody or we're grandchildren
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  to somebody. We're partners, we're wives,
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  we're husbands, we're, you know, an employee, a business owner, a
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  leader. All these different roles
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  actually are used in the definitions of ourselves.
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  But I'm not just talking about the big role portion of this.
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  I'm talking about the humanness of you.
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  How do you define the humanness of yourself?
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  When you get down to it, the phrases I am, whatever that I am
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  might be. I am creative.
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  I am loving. I am, you know, abundant.
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  How do you think of yourself? How do you define yourself?
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  And typically this isn't something that anyone teaches
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  you. This isn't something that you
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  sit there in school and you say, OK, I'm going to figure out how
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  now, how I define myself. What happens?
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  It is it comes out in the moments I am frustrated, I am
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  sad, I am overwhelmed. We use that phrase so readily
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  when it comes to certain things, but not typically the healthy
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  things. It usually shows up with the
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  unhealthy aspects of stuff and before you know it, we're in a
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  place where we are actually really like embedding this into
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  our subconscious that this is who we are.
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  I, I am broke, I am out of money.
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  I am whatever language you want to use on it.
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  Lots of times this shows up with money.
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  So it's important to pay attention to that piece because
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  it's a very sensitive spot, as you've heard me mention before.
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  But this I am phrase tends to show up in the negatives and you
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  know, I am out of I'm out of ideas.
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  I'm starving. I love that one when people say
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  that I'm starving, I'm not starving.
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  We're hungry. It's that simple.
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  But we always over exaggerate and then we put ourselves in
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  this place of lack. And once you start that, again,
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  the phrase I am, many teachers will talk about the fact,
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  especially, especially if you're in in, you know, religious
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  teachers or spiritual teachers. The I am phrase is the closest
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  phrase that you can use to the holy ground, if you will,
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  because it's talking directly and at to whatever you might
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  believe, to God, to the universe, and it speaks to how
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  you view yourself in the world. So when you start using it and
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  you use it haphazardly, it is a dangerous, dangerous pond of
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  thin ice, my friends. So the first step in this is
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  asking yourself, well, how do I define myself?
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  Grab a piece of paper, sit down and start to ask yourself, well,
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  what else? What are the other things you
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  you'll start? You'll get a few off that your
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  head right away, like was when I start mine, one of the very
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  first things that comes up for me is I'm creative.
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  It's part of my identity that I developed early on in my life.
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  And I am very, very blessed that I had a grandmother who really,
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  like poured into that part of me and talked about it all the
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  time. Any time I drew something for
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  her or any time I painted something, she would always say,
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  oh, my gosh, you're so creative. You're so creative, you're so
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  creative. So I believed her.
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  And it was fortunate for me that she was putting in something
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  really wonderful because very easily she could have been
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  putting in something not so wonderful, you know?
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  And that happens all the time. You know, it happens all the
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  time where somebody doesn't realize what they're doing, you
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  know, and boom, before you know it, what their view of you
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  becomes your belief and your I am's.
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  But when you sit down and you start asking the question, who
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  am I? How do you define yourself
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  across the board? I am organized.
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  I am full of love, I'm kind, I share readily with my friends.
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  These definitions are the road map to defining yourself, yes,
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  but redefining yourself really. So if there are things on there
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  that you don't feel are accurate about yourself, when you look
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  back at the list and you say, well, you know, I, I, I am like,
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  especially around the negative ones.
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  If you look back and you say, well, this is here, but I don't
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  want this to be here. You can redefine this, but
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  you've got to be honest with yourself when you start to write
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  the list. So the first thing you're going
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  to notice is you'll come up with a few right away and they may be
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  positive, they may be negative, they may be a mix, mix, mix of
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  both. But it's not important that you
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  sit there and say, OK, these are negative, these are positive.
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  What's important is that you nail the list down and get that
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  first wave, then there'll be a second wave.
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  So I suggest what you do is you kind of keep it out.
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  That's really loud right now because he's right above my
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  head. You get you.
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  The second list will show up or the second part of the list, and
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  it will flow out of you over the course, typically of 24 to 48
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  hours, where you'll start to get more and more clarity.
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  You'll have more and more things that pour out of you.
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  You'll have a thought and write it down.
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  You'll have a thought and write it down.
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  So some people find that doing this on paper with a pencil is
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  great. Some people will keep notes on
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  their phone. But whatever.
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  Whichever way you decide to do it, allow yourself enough time
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  to get a full list of things and a full identity that you know
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  you feel is pretty accurate of how you see yourself currently.
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  Then you can go back and say, which ones of these do I want to
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  keep and which ones of these do I want to reshape?
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  And the reshaping process is simply taking those negatives,
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  moving them off the list, or rewriting them, in other words.
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  So if you think I'm poor, I'm broke.
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  If that's on your list, a positive would be I'm abundant.
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  I have more than enough money. I'm a money magnet.
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  You can start doing the flip the opposite.
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  Will these feel right in the beginning?
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  No, but this is part of the re identification that you're going
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  through the redefining, if you will.
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  So you just have to be patient with yourself and start the
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  process off. So right now, that's what you're
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  going to focus on. That's what you're going to do.
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  And I hope you guys have a fabulous day defining who am I?
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  I'll see you guys tomorrow. Bye.