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How to Master Your Energy with Christy Whitman · The Trauma Therapist

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Speaker 1: Welcome to the Trauma THEPIS podcast. My name is Got Macpherson.
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Speaker 1: I interview incredible people who've dedicated their lives to helping
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Speaker 1: those who've been impacted by trauma. Here we go. You ready, Okay?
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Speaker 1: Here we go? So five or three, two and one,
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Speaker 1: our folks, welcome back to the podcast. Very excited to
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Speaker 1: have as my guest today, Christy Whitman. Christy welcome, well,
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Speaker 1: thank you so.
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Speaker 2: Much and so happy to be with you guys.
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Speaker 1: Awesome So. Christy is a transformational leader, spiritual teacher, and
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Speaker 1: New York Times best selling author of the Art of
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Speaker 1: Having It All Taming Your Alpha Bitch. Her international bestsellers
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Speaker 1: The Desire Factor and Quantum Success have inspired millions, and
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Speaker 1: her new book, Just Out The Flow Factor, How to
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Speaker 1: Master Your Energy and Interest State of Flow, continues her
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Speaker 1: mission to help people align with their highest potential. For
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Speaker 1: over twenty five years, Christy has taught the law of attraction,
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Speaker 1: manifestation and energy mastery with appearances on The Today Show,
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Speaker 1: Ted X and the Hallmark Channel. All right, Christy, just
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Speaker 1: a little bit about you before we get going. Share
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Speaker 1: with our listeners where you're from originally and where you
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Speaker 1: are currently.
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Speaker 2: You know It's funny.
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Speaker 3: I met and I was born and raised in Scottsdale, Arizona,
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Speaker 3: And two days after I graduated Arizona State University, I
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Speaker 3: was out of here, and I found myself back here
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Speaker 3: ten years later. So I'm currently I live about a
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Speaker 3: mile away from where.
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Speaker 2: I grew up. Wow, so I'm Scottsdale, Arizona.
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Speaker 1: All right.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, So I left, I went to Chicago, I went
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Speaker 3: to California, I went to Philadelphia, I went to Montreal,
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Speaker 3: and then came back home.
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Speaker 1: So awesome, awesome, So your bio, what you've done, what
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Speaker 1: you're doing is super impressive. How did this start for you?
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Speaker 1: All of this, this this passion, this interest.
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Speaker 2: Well, thank thank you. Yeah, well, thank you.
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Speaker 3: So there's a lot of levels to the story, obviously,
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Speaker 3: but I myself living in Chicago, and I, you know,
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Speaker 3: I always had an idea of what I thought would
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Speaker 3: make me happy. And I thought, Okay, go to college,
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Speaker 3: get a degree, you know, get a great career, make
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Speaker 3: some money, find the guy, you know, get married. And
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Speaker 3: I was in the process of checking all the boxes
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Speaker 3: and I felt really unfulfilled, which really confused me, because
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Speaker 3: you know.
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Speaker 1: Door in college or after college or door in college
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Speaker 1: or after college.
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Speaker 2: I had graduated from college, I met Yeah.
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Speaker 3: After college, I moved to Chicago, and I started a
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Speaker 3: great career and I was making money, and I was,
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Speaker 3: you know, getting promoted, and you know, I worked for
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Speaker 3: a liquor and wine company and I got promoted to
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Speaker 3: a wine company and I had you know, responsibility for
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Speaker 3: all the Midwest for you know, restaurants, bars, hotels for
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Speaker 3: particular wines, and was making great money and I was
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Speaker 3: engaged to be married, and I was miserable, and.
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Speaker 2: So I was so confused.
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Speaker 3: Because it was like, wait a minute, I thought, I
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Speaker 3: if I checked all the boxes. I thought, if I
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Speaker 3: had this and this and this, then I would finally
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Speaker 3: be happy. And it was around that time that I
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Speaker 3: was really searching. And that's when I started therapy, traditional therapy,
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Speaker 3: and that led me to start to you know, really
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Speaker 3: get to know myself and question some of my things.
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Speaker 3: So I broke off my engagement and I happened to
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Speaker 3: meet a guy that was from California, and I moved.
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Speaker 3: I transferred companies or transferred with my company to California,
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Speaker 3: and we broke up within a month because I found
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Speaker 3: out he was cheating on me, and that sort of thing.
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Speaker 3: I always dated bad boys, right. If they were bad boys,
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Speaker 3: I was very I was a magnet to the bad boy.
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Speaker 3: And it was because I didn't have any self love.
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Speaker 3: I didn't have any my own self respect. And so
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Speaker 3: the one person and I met from the said boyfriend
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Speaker 3: was a hairdresser, and I went to go get my
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Speaker 3: haircut and I'm watching Jeanine and she was just so
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Speaker 3: different than any person I had ever met. She had
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Speaker 3: a bubbliness about her that it was just so absolutely different.
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Speaker 3: And I asked her, I said, Janine, what do you do?
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Speaker 2: Because I was so cute and I'm so blunt. I'm like,
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Speaker 2: all right, what do you do? Right?
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Speaker 3: And she's like, I meditate, And I'm like, meditate. I mean,
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Speaker 3: this is mid nineties. I was born, you know, Italian
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Speaker 3: American Roman Catholic. I mean, I never knew anybody that meditated.
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Speaker 3: So my idea of someone that meditated was some guy
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Speaker 3: with long you know, white hair, with a long beard,
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Speaker 3: owming on the top of a cliff somewhere or a mountain.
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Speaker 3: You know, that was my idea of who meditated. So
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Speaker 3: here's this like hip chick from San Ramon, California. She's
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Speaker 3: married she's got a dog. She's a cool hairstylist, and
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Speaker 3: I'm like, what you know. So she introduced me to
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Speaker 3: her meditation teacher, and I went to visit Melanie and
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Speaker 3: I sat down in her house.
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Speaker 2: And it was very strange because there was clinky clinky new.
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Speaker 3: Age music and candles and you know, statues of angels,
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Speaker 3: and it was very strange for me to be in
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Speaker 3: that scenario. And she invited me to sit down on
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Speaker 3: a cushion, not a chair, not a couch, in the
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Speaker 3: middle of this room, and she just glared at me.
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Speaker 3: She just stared deep into my soul. And when I finally,
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Speaker 3: you know, kind of gave in, she said to me,
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Speaker 3: you create your own reality.
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Speaker 2: And something in me came alive that day.
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Speaker 3: It was like yes, you know, it was like finally, yes,
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Speaker 3: you know, it's like yes. But then my mind kicked
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Speaker 3: in and said, how how do I create my own reality?
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Speaker 3: And so she said, by your thoughts, you're either repelling
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Speaker 3: things from you or attracting things to you based on
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Speaker 3: the way you think. And she could see I was
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Speaker 3: tweaked about that. I was like, the way I think
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Speaker 3: I thought I was my thoughts right. I thought, if
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Speaker 3: I had a negative thought, that that negative thought was true,
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Speaker 3: and I would go along with it and feel that
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Speaker 3: and you know, have the repercussions of that. So I
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Speaker 3: started working with Melanie, started learning meditation, started learning that
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Speaker 3: I was in fact not my thoughts and that I
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Speaker 3: could actually change my thoughts and no matter what I created,
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Speaker 3: no matter what I accomplished, no matter what I did,
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Speaker 3: because I was in a lack of mentality, because I
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Speaker 3: was in a space of scarcity within my own beingness,
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Speaker 3: the way I spoke, the way I thought, the way
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Speaker 3: I perceived things, the way I felt, I was never
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Speaker 3: going to feel good.
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Speaker 2: I was never going to feel good.
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Speaker 1: Hig on second, Christy would give me an example of
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Speaker 1: some of the things you were thinking that might be
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Speaker 1: perceived as negative or were negative.
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Speaker 3: I'm not thinningen, I'm not tall enough, I'm not successful enough.
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Speaker 3: I haven't I don't have enough money, I don't have
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Speaker 3: enough love.
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Speaker 1: I don't.
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Speaker 3: I can't find a man that would love me the
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Speaker 3: way I want to be loved. Right, it was, it
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Speaker 3: was all I don't have what it takes, you know,
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Speaker 3: I have no idea what to do.
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Speaker 2: I am so met, I'm so screwed up. Right, those
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Speaker 2: kind of thoughts.
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Speaker 1: Sounds like a lot of us have those thoughts. I
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Speaker 1: mean I have a lot of those thoughts. Yeah, so
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Speaker 1: you meet her, she blows your mind? How do things unfold?
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Speaker 2: So I started paying attention.
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Speaker 3: I started really becoming a student of now what I teach,
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Speaker 3: and that is understanding that there are thoughts, words, perspectives
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Speaker 3: that come from lack of limitation, from scarcity, but there
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Speaker 3: are also thoughts and perspectives and words that come from abundance.
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Speaker 3: And I learned about the universal laws, like law of attraction.
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Speaker 3: What I say, what I think, what I feel gives
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Speaker 3: off a vibration, and that vibration is attracting people's situations
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Speaker 3: circumstances to me. So I started getting really mindful of
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Speaker 3: my thoughts. And when I would hear something say you're stupid,
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Speaker 3: I would say, no, I'm not, and I would I
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Speaker 3: would say I'm smart.
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Speaker 2: You know.
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Speaker 3: I would start to interrupt those old thoughts and declare
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Speaker 3: something new.
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Speaker 2: And this is the beginning, right.
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Speaker 3: So within five years it was interesting because I was
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Speaker 3: practicing this myself, my life totally started changing.
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Speaker 2: I attracted a really nice guy.
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Speaker 3: I was in an eight year relationship with him, very
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Speaker 3: different than any person I'd ever dated before.
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Speaker 2: I had my ideal body.
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Speaker 3: I had a home, we were married, I had a
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Speaker 3: great career making great money, you know, and I was
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Speaker 3: satisfied and I felt good until another layer came up.
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Speaker 3: And what I learned is that I had a pattern
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Speaker 3: of automatically looking for what was wrong and bad instead
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Speaker 3: of what was right and good.
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Speaker 2: And I learned that from my parents. I learned that
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Speaker 2: from you know, people that I was associated with.
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Speaker 3: And so one night I was meditating, as that became
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Speaker 3: part of my daily practice, and I saw an.
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Speaker 2: Image of a book with my name on it and.
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Speaker 3: Said, perfect pictures. I saw the cover, everything, and I
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Speaker 3: went to bed that night, and at one oh five
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Speaker 3: in the morning, I was woken up by a voice
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Speaker 3: giving me the first word, giving me for sentence, the
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Speaker 3: first you know paragraph, and it was like talking to me.
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Speaker 3: So I got up because what I was hearing, I
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Speaker 3: knew it wasn't me. What I was hearing was amazing,
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Speaker 3: it was it was profound. So I got up and
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Speaker 3: started writing, and my hand just started audit matically writing.
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Speaker 2: It's like one hand.
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Speaker 3: Was turning the page, the other one was like just
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Speaker 3: writing right. And this happened seven days in a row,
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Speaker 3: seven nights in a row, one o five in the morning.
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Speaker 2: So I got the book published.
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Speaker 3: There's a lot of details that I'm leaving out just
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Speaker 3: to you know, for time's sake. But I got the
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Speaker 3: book published, and I started speaking in spiritual churches and
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Speaker 3: you know, bookstores, and people would say to me, will
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Speaker 3: you coach me?
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Speaker 2: Now?
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Speaker 3: This is like two thousand, right, it's like nineteen nine, ninety,
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Speaker 3: two thousand, and I had no idea what a life
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Speaker 3: coach was. But I was just like, you know, no,
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Speaker 3: give me a call on the phone. We'll walk you
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Speaker 3: through it. And I loved the process of doing that.
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Speaker 3: I loved how they would then call me back and go,
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Speaker 3: you're never going to believe this.
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Speaker 2: I met the guy, You're never going to believe this.
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Speaker 2: I got the.
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Speaker 3: Promotion, I got a new job, I got a raise, right,
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Speaker 3: and it felt so good to help others transform their
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Speaker 3: lives that I just kept taking one step forward, just kept,
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Speaker 3: you know, one thing, and more clients were coming to me.
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Speaker 3: And then I went and got a certified as a
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Speaker 3: coach and just kept following the breadcrumbs, right, and here
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Speaker 3: I am twenty five.
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Speaker 2: Years later, seven books.
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Speaker 3: I've started a coaching academy in two thousand and eight
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Speaker 3: where I certified over three thousand coaches. You know, wow,
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Speaker 3: it's just been an incredible journey.
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Speaker 2: But I want to say this.
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Speaker 3: When I started this, I didn't feel passion and I
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Speaker 3: didn't feel purpose in my life. I felt lack of
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Speaker 3: purpose and passion. But because of what I know that
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Speaker 3: all flow, all energy is available to us now. Anything
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Speaker 3: that we're not feeling that we want to feel, the
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Speaker 3: feeling of connection, security, love, happiness, abundant success, We have
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Speaker 3: access to that. It's not when then or if something happens.
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Speaker 3: How most of us are trained, well, if I get
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Speaker 3: the partner, then I'll feel love. If I get that promotion,
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Speaker 3: then I'll feel successful. If I had that money, then
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Speaker 3: I'd feel secure.
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Speaker 2: Right. That is accessible to us now.
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Speaker 3: So even though I didn't feel passion and purpose in
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Speaker 3: my life, I started to cultivate that and within a
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Speaker 3: month of practicing, meditating on contemplating it, that's when my
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Speaker 3: first book came through me and all that transpired.
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Speaker 1: Sense when you were meditating or what type of meditation
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Speaker 1: were you did you start with?
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Speaker 3: I do the same for clients now, so it's not
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Speaker 3: just like you know with a blank space and don't
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Speaker 3: think about things because the mind needs to think about something.
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Speaker 3: The mind naturally wants to think. So what I do
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Speaker 3: with clients now and what I learned all those years ago,
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Speaker 3: is that I'm working with light. I'm working with energy
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Speaker 3: to transform because light is healing and our minds as
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Speaker 3: we invite in life, like if you could just imagine
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Speaker 3: that a ray of light is coming down through the
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Speaker 3: top of your head. As you imagine it, you're calling
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Speaker 3: light to you and so getting our minds to create
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Speaker 3: a state of being that we want, whether it's to
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Speaker 3: feel lighter or to feel at peace. Right when we
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Speaker 3: are playing with energy, working with energy with.
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Speaker 2: Our minds, we command, we call energy into our being.
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Speaker 3: That's what I do in meditations with people is that
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Speaker 3: if there's a block, you know, to be able to
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Speaker 3: see that block dissolving with our minds, with our intention,
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Speaker 3: with our focus, and then bringing in light a different
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Speaker 3: frequency to replace it, and it's transformative. So that's what
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Speaker 3: that's what I learned, and that's what I still do
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Speaker 3: after all thirty five years later.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, the move mind. Everyone was speaking with Christy Whitman.
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Speaker 1: Her new book out is called The Flow factor how
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Speaker 1: to master your energy and enter a state of flow.
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Speaker 1: Excuse me, Chrissy, I love this, and I think a
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Speaker 1: lot of people do. And I think a lot of
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Speaker 1: people are listening, going, yeah, right, she can do this
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Speaker 1: because she is X y Z, she has a ABC,
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Speaker 1: She's done. You know, Dee, I couldn't do this. What
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Speaker 1: do you mean? Think about things? And how do you
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Speaker 1: define the law of attraction?
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Speaker 2: So, okay, a couple things.
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Speaker 3: First of all, I want to say that I wasn't
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Speaker 3: always this person.
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Speaker 2: I was very negative. I've had a lot of contrast.
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Speaker 3: In my life, meaning what I don't want my sister
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Speaker 3: around this time that I was opening up, committed suicide.
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Speaker 3: Oh and I had to apply what I was learning
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Speaker 3: and what I was feeling and what I you know,
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Speaker 3: the whole healing process. During that time, I got fired
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Speaker 3: from a job, I went.
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Speaker 2: Through a divorce.
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Speaker 3: I had my two months old son that was rushed
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Speaker 3: to the hospital and had to have open heart surgery.
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Speaker 3: I've had debt that was so like, you know, strangling
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Speaker 3: that I had no idea how he's going to pay
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Speaker 3: the bills, how I was going to get out of it,
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Speaker 3: and felt totally terrified and scared right, and that feeling
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Speaker 3: of desperation. I've had all those life experiences, but what
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Speaker 3: I know has carried me through to create a different
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Speaker 3: ending to those stories. And the biggest thing in all
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Speaker 3: of those moments and in all of those contrasting situations,
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Speaker 3: I would pivot and ask myself.
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Speaker 2: What do I want? Why do I want it? And
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Speaker 2: how do I want to feel?
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Speaker 3: And even though the evidence of success or connection or
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Speaker 3: love or healing or any.
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Speaker 2: Of that wasn't I couldn't see it.
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Speaker 3: I cultivated it within myself by bringing in the energy
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Speaker 3: of passion and purpose or connection or love or success
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Speaker 3: or fulfillment. And if I can do it, everybody can
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Speaker 3: do it. And it's a universal law law of attraction.
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Speaker 3: It's what you send out in your energy comes back.
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Speaker 3: Because we are energy receivers, each of us. We're receiving
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Speaker 3: in energy all day every day. If we're receiving in
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Speaker 3: negativity and we're around negative people, we're being affected by
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Speaker 3: that energy because we're taking that in. If we're watching
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Speaker 3: you know, the news and constantly focusing all the bad
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Speaker 3: things that are happening, and we're bringing in that negativity, right,
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Speaker 3: we are we are energy receivers. If we are in
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Speaker 3: a place of meditating, if we are connecting to our
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Speaker 3: higher selves, if we're focusing on being in rooms with
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Speaker 3: people that are like minded, when we're joining communities like
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Speaker 3: I have that you know, where people support each other
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Speaker 3: and they think alike and they're all about, you know,
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Speaker 3: creating their own reality by that energy.
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Speaker 2: Because we are energy receivers.
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Speaker 1: So what you're saying here is important. You're talking about
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Speaker 1: not just sitting on your couch eating pizza and wishing
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Speaker 1: or hoping that all good is going to come to
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Speaker 1: You're talking about putting yourself. You're talking about taking action too, right,
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Speaker 1: I mean, I think that's Isn't that any important ingredient here?
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Speaker 1: You're talking about putting yourself in places that inspire you,
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Speaker 1: fulfill you, help that energy come. Is that correct?
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Speaker 2: That's one hundred percent.
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Speaker 3: So what I write about in the Flow Factor is
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Speaker 3: that you know, we create from our consciousness. We create
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Speaker 3: from the words that we say, from the thoughts that
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Speaker 3: we think, from the perspectives what we hold, from the
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Speaker 3: emotions we feel, and the actions we take. So it's
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Speaker 3: not just sitting around and meditating all day and thinking
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Speaker 3: and feeling good.
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Speaker 2: It's like that creates.
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Speaker 3: The momentum for then the behaviors or the actions that
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Speaker 3: we do take. And that's really when you think about it,
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Speaker 3: that's all we have control over is what words do
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Speaker 3: we speak. Nobody can speak for us, nobody can think
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Speaker 3: for us, nobody can have a different picture in our
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Speaker 3: minds for us. Nobody can feel for us, and nobody
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Speaker 3: can take any actions, nor can we do that for
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Speaker 3: other people. That's why you know, when Melanie's told me
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Speaker 3: years ago, my meditation teacher, she said, and when I said,
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Speaker 3: how do we create our own reality?
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Speaker 2: She said, by your thoughts? Well, I say, go even
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Speaker 2: more practical your words.
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Speaker 3: When you watch your words and your words are coming
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Speaker 3: from a place of feeling good and feeling expansive, right,
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Speaker 3: and you eliminate the words that don't feel good. The
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Speaker 3: words create the thoughts, The thoughts create the images, the
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Speaker 3: images create the emotions, and then that all creates that
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Speaker 3: why and what to say instead? Because when you start
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Speaker 3: to shift your language, you shift your life. I mean,
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Speaker 3: it says in the Bible in the beginning there was
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Speaker 3: the word right.
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Speaker 2: That's the start of all creation.
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Speaker 3: And if we're speaking and saying oh I can't or
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Speaker 3: I should have done that, or I miss or oh
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Speaker 3: you know, these words constrict our energy. And when we
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Speaker 3: have constriction, we don't have that flow and flow feels good.
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Speaker 3: That's how we know we're in the flow, and all
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Speaker 3: good things that we want is.
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Speaker 2: In the flow.
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Speaker 1: Let's talk about the book. What you mean You've written
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Speaker 1: so so many books. Why this book now?
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Speaker 3: Well, it's interesting because when my last book, The Desire Factor,
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Speaker 3: came out three years ago, I was like, you know what,
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Speaker 3: I think I'm done writing books. You know, I think
20:13
Speaker 3: I'm good. I'll just do courses online. And I've been teaching,
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Speaker 3: you know, about the flow factor for years and in
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Speaker 3: different configurations within my community. And I had a professor
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Speaker 3: from a university come to me and say, we want
20:28
Speaker 3: to give you a PhD in your public works. And
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Speaker 3: I said, great, you know, what do I have to do,
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Speaker 3: doctor Christy.
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Speaker 2: That sounds like fun.
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Speaker 3: It's good for the ego, right, And he asked me,
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Speaker 3: He goes, well, you have six books. What is the
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Speaker 3: flow through? What's the thread through all of your books?
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Speaker 3: And all of that is about energy. It's about light,
20:49
Speaker 3: it's about universal laws. It's about how to take esoteric
20:53
Speaker 3: principles and spiritual principles and make it practical. All of
20:57
Speaker 3: my books share my stories and examples of how I
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Speaker 3: got over my sister's suicide and how I got over
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Speaker 3: the divorce, and how I found my idol you know, partner,
21:06
Speaker 3: and all of.
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Speaker 2: These different stories.
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Speaker 3: All of these books have how I created quantum success
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Speaker 3: in my business and with money, you know. All of
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Speaker 3: these have like the universal laws, the seven Essential laws,
21:18
Speaker 3: and how to create in certain aspects.
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Speaker 2: And then he said to me, he goes, so, what
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Speaker 2: haven't you said yet?
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Speaker 3: And I said, well, it's about flow, and it's about
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Speaker 3: the drama triangle, and it's about the fact that we
21:31
Speaker 3: all when we experience contrasts, meaning what we don't want.
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Speaker 3: It could be a thought, it could be a manifestation.
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Speaker 3: It could be someone says something rude to you. You get
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Speaker 3: a rude email, you know, whatever happens during the day,
21:43
Speaker 3: get a flat tire on the right, you know, on
21:44
Speaker 3: a way to important meeting. When there's things in your
21:47
Speaker 3: life that do not feel good and manifest and don't
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Speaker 3: you don't want it, all of us go into our
21:55
Speaker 3: primitive brains of fight, flight, freeze.
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Speaker 2: And fawn.
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Speaker 3: We can't cut that off, we can't change it, we
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Speaker 3: can't get enlightened enough.
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Speaker 2: To surpass that.
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Speaker 3: Right, it naturally occurs when something we don't want happens.
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Speaker 3: But how do we then use instead of those you know,
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Speaker 3: those animalistic primitive brain parts of fight, flight, freeze, and fawn,
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Speaker 3: how do we also choose the fifth f which is flow?
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Speaker 2: Because flow is also available.
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Speaker 3: So I basically downloaded the book, you know, same way
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Speaker 3: I do all my books, and everything came through. And
22:36
Speaker 3: then I went to go do the PhD, and it
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Speaker 3: was all about formatting and thesises, and you know, I
22:42
Speaker 3: was just like, wraw, that doesn't feel like flow to me.
22:45
Speaker 3: So my intention of no, I'm not going to write
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Speaker 3: any more books. The path of least resistant became writing
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Speaker 3: a book instead of getting my PhD.
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Speaker 1: Very cool. So it's interesting to me when I first
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Speaker 1: saw flow the flow factor I thought of. I mean
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Speaker 1: flow is commonly thought of along with side creativity and
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Speaker 1: even in sports. What did you want to say with
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Speaker 1: the book? What was? What did? What did you want
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Speaker 1: to get out there?
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Speaker 2: Yeah?
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Speaker 3: That it's not about athletes or celebrities or you know,
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Speaker 3: it's not about an elite group of people being in
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Speaker 3: a state of flow.
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Speaker 2: Each one of us is in the flow.
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Speaker 3: The flow exists, but we are the factor where the factor.
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Speaker 2: Are we in the flow or not?
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Speaker 3: Meaning flow feels good, flow is abundant, flow is available right,
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Speaker 3: all creativity, productivity, everything we want, happiness, joy, that's representation
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Speaker 3: of the flow. So flow, you know, is a spiritual concept.
23:54
Speaker 3: It's a universal concept that when we again were the factor,
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Speaker 3: with our own free will, will and choice, when we
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Speaker 3: can be in it. That's our choice by the words
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Speaker 3: that we say, the thoughts that we think, the perspectives
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Speaker 3: we hold, the emotions we either process or don't, right,
24:12
Speaker 3: because emotions can get stuck and then they end up
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Speaker 3: affecting our nervous system and our subconscious and all that stuff,
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Speaker 3: and then the actions.
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Speaker 2: That we take.
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Speaker 3: It's like that's all ours and a lot of people
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Speaker 3: don't know how to do that. I wanted to create
24:28
Speaker 3: a practical tools and processes that people when they have
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Speaker 3: someone that criticizes them. What do you do when you
24:36
Speaker 3: have someone that betrays you? What do you do when
24:38
Speaker 3: you have something physical that happens, or you get this
24:41
Speaker 3: unexpected bill and you're like, I have no idea.
24:44
Speaker 2: How to pay this right?
24:45
Speaker 3: When these life situations and circumstances happen. The book has
24:50
Speaker 3: sixteen different processes in the back, like literally step by
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Speaker 3: step processes, sixteen to help us get out of that
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Speaker 3: primitive flight, freeze, fawn, and back into flow. And so
25:04
Speaker 3: I just wanted to make it a handy book so
25:06
Speaker 3: that people can understand why we get into those places,
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Speaker 3: how we get out of them, and how we can
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Speaker 3: easily get back into them get back into flow.
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Speaker 1: I think this is a very timely subject, especially in
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Speaker 1: this world we find ourselves with a lot of negativity,
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Speaker 1: a lot of contrast, a lot of contradiction, a lot
25:32
Speaker 1: of negative energy, A lot of us feel I think
25:35
Speaker 1: I'm speaking for many people, not just myself, a lot
25:39
Speaker 1: of people. It's just hard. The bill comes in, we can't,
25:43
Speaker 1: we don't have the money. How the hell is sitting
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Speaker 1: on a cushion, gonna help me? What do I do?
25:50
Speaker 1: What do you say to someone?
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Speaker 3: Yeah, So one of the first things that when we
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Speaker 3: recognize something contrasting is happening is to ourselves compassion because
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Speaker 3: that compassion and I always there's three steps to compassion.
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Speaker 2: I also outline this in the flow factor.
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Speaker 3: But the first thing is to you know, someone can
26:11
Speaker 3: say they pray, or maybe they intend, or they invite in.
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Speaker 3: You're inviting in a different energy from the way the
26:18
Speaker 3: physical body may be feeling. There's different processes where you
26:22
Speaker 3: release the fight flight freeze from the back of the
26:25
Speaker 3: head so it doesn't stay stuck. Because when we're in
26:28
Speaker 3: that the bill comes right, we get stuck in the
26:31
Speaker 3: survival mode. Oh my god, how am I going to survive?
26:34
Speaker 3: How am I going to do this? I don't know
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Speaker 3: what to do?
26:36
Speaker 2: Right?
26:36
Speaker 3: And what happens then is that energy gets stuck back here.
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Speaker 3: But the spiritual centers for higher awareness, even the part
26:44
Speaker 3: of our brain, the prefrontal cortex that can like go oh,
26:48
Speaker 3: the solutions all are up here, not back here. And
26:51
Speaker 3: so when we can learn to activate the parts of
26:54
Speaker 3: our brain even you know, bring in light compassion. Does
26:59
Speaker 3: that compassion or soothing energy. Right, it neutralizes us because
27:06
Speaker 3: we have lack over here, there's three different states of being.
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Speaker 3: There's lack that doesn't feel good, there's abundance that feels great,
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Speaker 3: and then there's neutrality, and we can't go from lack
27:17
Speaker 3: over to abundance. We need to take that step of neutrality.
27:20
Speaker 3: So compassion gives us that neutrality. When you can bring
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Speaker 3: in the energy, the awareness of your soul's got you
27:28
Speaker 3: that there's a solution beyond what the problem is. When
27:32
Speaker 3: you can sense that there's something bigger or greater than you,
27:36
Speaker 3: that's part one, right, and then to be able to
27:39
Speaker 3: give yourself a somatic touch like hug yourself. Just give
27:43
Speaker 3: yourself a hug. Everybody that's watching right now, please do
27:46
Speaker 3: this guide. Do this to yourself seriously, Just give yourself
27:50
Speaker 3: a hug. Take a good hug for about ninety seconds.
27:54
Speaker 3: Because what this does is it calms your nervous system.
27:57
Speaker 3: It calms your limbic system, elms that fight flight, freeze,
28:01
Speaker 3: excuse me, part of the brain, and it brings you
28:05
Speaker 3: back into an embrace.
28:07
Speaker 2: You know, you could rub your arm, you can. You know,
28:09
Speaker 2: tapping is really good to do.
28:11
Speaker 3: As EFT is a great process, right, you know, putting
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Speaker 3: your hand on your heart if you don't like the hug,
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Speaker 3: but doing something somatic to just hug yourself. And then
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Speaker 3: the third piece is telling yourself it's okay, it's okay,
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Speaker 3: I'm all right, I'm okay, you're gonna be okay.
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Speaker 1: Rights, so funny you said that.
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Speaker 2: I mean self talk.
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Speaker 1: There's so many times where I feel like I just
28:35
Speaker 1: want someone to say, guy, it's going to be okay,
28:40
Speaker 1: it's going to be okay. That's so funny you say that.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, so you get to say that to yourself.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, wow, I love this, Christy.
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Speaker 3: You don't have to wait for somebody else to hug
28:52
Speaker 3: you or somebody else to tell you right, it's like right,
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Speaker 3: you get to invite that energy in. You get to
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Speaker 3: hug yourself and then go, you know, it's okay, it's
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Speaker 3: all right, you're going to get through this. That self
29:02
Speaker 3: compassion is what more people need. If more people are
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Speaker 3: allowing in this self compassion, then we can have compassion
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Speaker 3: for others. Right now, people are not empathetic and they're
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Speaker 3: not compassionate. Everybody's in fight mode. Everybody's in like I'm
29:21
Speaker 3: out of here mode. Everybody's in survival mode and all
29:25
Speaker 3: the good stuff is in flow mode.
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Speaker 1: Awesome, all right, Christy, how do people learn more about you?
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Speaker 1: What's the best way? And I will have watch your
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Speaker 1: Words dot com listed in our show notes, but go ahead,
29:40
Speaker 1: what's the best way for people to learn more about you?
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Speaker 2: Yeah?
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Speaker 3: So I would definitely go as a start, go to
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Speaker 3: watch your Words dot.
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Speaker 2: Com because then will help really help you.
29:50
Speaker 3: It's like, you know, the spiritual brudcrumbs, right to get
29:53
Speaker 3: into that place.
29:54
Speaker 2: You can also go to Christywhitman dot com.
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Speaker 3: It's where I have all my meditation series anything that
29:59
Speaker 3: I have coming up. And then to buy the book,
30:02
Speaker 3: you can go to the Flow Factor Book dot com.
30:04
Speaker 3: I have listed a bunch of different places where you
30:08
Speaker 3: can click and get the book. And when you do there,
30:10
Speaker 3: we've got some surprise and delights and bonuses like a
30:14
Speaker 3: beautiful sixty minute healing called being in Flow that we
30:19
Speaker 3: just did and you'll get the recording of it. So
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Speaker 3: the Flow Factor Book dot Com is a great place to.
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Speaker 2: Go as well.
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Speaker 1: Awesome, all right. Well, again, we'll have all that links
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Speaker 1: up here at the show notes page at the Trauma
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Speaker 1: Therapist Podcast dot com. Christy super inspiring love to have
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Speaker 1: you back. You just exude inspiration and positivity and I
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Speaker 1: love it. Thank you so much for being here.
30:45
Speaker 2: Thank you. I love to come back.
30:46
Speaker 3: Guy.
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Speaker 2: I love this conversation. Thank you so so much.
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Speaker 1: You are welcome. Take care,