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Can Men and Women Really Just Be Friends? · Talking Shed

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Welcome back to the Talking Shit podcast and we're.
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Back man, here we go. Time to potty to my lift.
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The bro Josiah from the valley, the Chargedale Kings and the
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Sieve taker. No, just saw.
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The sensei, it's am I right? It's my right hand man.
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The bro Machu too much host from the coast, but 30 in plain
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golden oldies. Any champagne puppy jeans.
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Yo, welcome back to the Talking Shit podcast.
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You're here with Josiah Machu, bringing you the latest in
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sports, pop culture, and lots of big questions.
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On today's episode, we're going to be talking about a few
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things. The first thing on our list?
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We got on a bit of a flat challenge at the moment aren't
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we bro? Yeah, bro, yeah, bro.
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That's a good one. Touch on that.
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Then we'll go into some of my car experiences in the moment.
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Another. Tough week of a tough one.
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We're going to have a question of the week as well.
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Is it OK to be friends with someone of the opposite 6 when
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you're in a relationship? Tricky.
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Questionable. Yep, and then we're going to go
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into something we wish we knew before we were adults.
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Last but not least, stories of people getting fired or
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resigning from their jobs. Yeah, bro, some good, some good
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topics there. There is, there is bro.
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Kick us off man. General update.
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What's going on with the car? Bro So yesterday I woke up
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early. I was going to go into sight
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early and bro I was driving pulled up to a red light and I
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was fully stopped. I was stopped at a red light and
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there was car's behind me. I was first in the queue, but
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and then out of nowhere I just had a boom come behind me.
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And I was thinking, but what the heck, Honest to God, my car's
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that old and mud. I thought my car just stalled so
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bad that it threw me forward. So I was just there and I said
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and I was like, no way. My car just just absolutely
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slingshotted me forward. But then I was I thought about
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it more. Nah, someone just hit me, bro.
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Turned around, looked out. Because you know when you I felt
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bad because automatically when you get hurt, you get angry.
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Yeah, I know. So I got hurt and I was like,
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but what? Turbo opened the door, spun it.
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I was like, what the hell? And then what the hell is that?
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And. Then the lady was so apologetic
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and she was free. I could tell she was freaked out
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as well. Was she old?
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Nah, she was young. And then I was like, how does
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this happen? But we were stopped at the red
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light. Everyone stopped for about 1020
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seconds and then out of nowhere just went dunk.
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You know why? She's what I mean on her phone,
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yeah, 100% And then we got, and then we so then I pulled over
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and I was a little when I got in that situation, I haven't really
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happened that much and I was like, what do we do?
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Like, you know, so I was like, should we exchange numbers?
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So what? Did you do?
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So far we got out and then we got out and she goes, so sorry,
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I'm so sorry. I thought the light went green.
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First of all, I don't care if it goes green, but I could like
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watch me. You don't make your own decision
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a week ago, but I'm in front of you, you know, just go.
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You know, just like I thought that like we agreed.
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I was like, you're pissing me off, but pissing me off.
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But then but you know, when you you're like the cause of the
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accident, you're just automatically going, oh, there's
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no damage. There's no damage luckily.
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And I was looking at my bumper like, what the heck, where's my
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pirates? My bumper's pushed in, She's
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like, oh, luckily no damage. You know, now the bump is a bit
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like how you going? And then anyway, exchange
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details and that kind of thing. And I'm just going through the
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process of like insurances or if you do it privately and the boot
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is like similar to what happened to you bro, the boot.
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I was going to bring up that story, Yeah.
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Because I'm still filthy about it.
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Yeah. And this happened 2 1/2 years
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ago. Yeah.
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Problem is, like, it gets tricky when you don't have insurance.
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And like, obviously I don't have insurance.
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Yeah, on my car, but that's because my car's old and like
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beaten up already, you know what I mean?
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Anyway, kind of similar to you. I stopped at, you know, set a
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lights. I was first in line and this
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fella came racing and a trying to trying to like thinking that
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I was going to go and I was like no bro like the lights are
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almost a red and it was a wet day and I could see this thing
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and no. Rear vision mirror.
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But you know how, like, things really go slow?
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Yeah, that's how I felt. Say the sky I could see.
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I was like, Oh no, hell no Smash, right?
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I seen it and then he just slammed his brakes and the
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craziest thing, bro, right? He got mad at me, bro.
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He got mad at me bro. What?
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What did he say for not going? And I was like, bro, it's real.
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Like what do you want me to? Do like bro, you follow me, go
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behind me. I don't care if it's red or
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green or whatever. Anyway, I was like, how the hell
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do you have a right to be pissed off when I'm the one that just
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been smashed? Oh, but I was off of me anyway.
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I still remember his name. Marco, Marco, you owe me, bro.
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Like I, I followed up with everything too.
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Like I went to go get a quote and everything because obviously
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I didn't have insurance. Yeah, bro, insurance companies,
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man, they're tricky. Are they?
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They're pricks, bro. I'm going to put it out there
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right now, and this is a hot take.
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I'm just saying insurance companies will do anything to
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not pay, to not pay, right? And so here I am on the phone,
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calling, calling, calling and his own company.
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So we exchanged details. Yeah, because he knew he was on
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the wrong. I took pictures and all that
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stuff. But anyway call the insurance
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company bro and they go Nah he has to make the claim and I'm
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like he hit me. Yeah.
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Hell, is that even a thing? You know what?
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I mean. Yeah, so anyway, it just pussed
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me out. Anyway, Marco, I still know your
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name, and I know your last name too, so I'm going to call him.
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Nah, I just do it. He owes me bro a couple of grand
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because my boots too. Stuffed up.
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Yeah. Slammed up, pushed up.
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Yeah, I know you're paying, bro. I know your car's paying.
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So yeah, that's my update, isn't it?
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What's your update bro? Bro, so we're on a bit of a flat
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challenge, something that Machu actually suggested at dinner
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this weekend. So for those that don't know, we
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all flat together and pretty much every week we have flat
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dinners together. So it's just a nice way for us
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to kind of catch up and see how things are going in our week.
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And it's always interesting because we always have
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interesting topics. Anyway, Machu suggested that we
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do a flat challenge and that flat challenge is to create.
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Is it? It's a week, correct?
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Yeah, we do. One week, yeah, to start with.
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So we're going to do one week and basically it's we have to
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write down 10 things that we're grateful for every night for
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that for that week. So when we come to dinner next
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week together and we're sharing obviously our food, we'll
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obviously share what we're grateful for.
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And pretty much much you basically suggest that us said
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that there will be a common denominator with basically what
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you're grateful for. Now, the the hardest part to our
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challenge is that we actually aren't allowed to write the same
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stuff day-to-day. Yeah.
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And that's that I'm kind of I'm. Struggling with that now.
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Yeah, yeah, OK. Yeah, yeah.
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So it's actually been a cool journey, man.
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We are enjoying it and excited to kind of see what you know,
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yeah, turn out with that. And like that kind of stemmed
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from like mental health is such a big commercialized and such a
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crazy at the moment and now day and age and because it's such a
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problem with like suicide and that kind of thing.
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But I have a pet peeve, bro, for people that just comment or post
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on social media saying reach out to me or like you just know
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you're loved or just saying stuff that is like virtue
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signalling and not actually helping or giving people tools
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or anything like that. I think when people when people
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are going through a hard time, bro, if I I can't, I can only
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speak from my experience. Maybe other people deal with
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stuff differently. But if I was going through a
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hard time, if I read something on social media saying you'll
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love, don't worry about it, it's that kind of thing.
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Or if you're ever in trouble, reach out bro.
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That's not going to help me at all.
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I'm going to read straight past it and still be sad like, you
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know what I mean? So I think people need to
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understand that rather than just trying to virtue signal and do
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all these nice little post thingies on social media,
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realize they're not that, that maybe it's spreading awareness,
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but it's not actually helping people.
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And like, I like this one because it's actually a tool
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that you can use. And like you said, when you do
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10 gratefuls, first of all, it's hard to think of 10 gratefuls.
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But then when you think, think back to it, but it shouldn't be
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hard to do 10 gratefuls. Like our lives are filled with
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so many cool things that 10 gratefuls should be easy.
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It should come to you like this. But it's because we're not
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trained to pick up those gratefuls as we're going
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throughout the day. Like but honest to God, one of
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my gratefuls is I take took a big poo and I was like, bro,
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that's that's me. That starts my day off me.
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But like I would, I wouldn't appreciate that sometimes, you
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know what I mean? Are you sharing?
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That right now, I swear to God that's one of my bro.
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I gotta put it out there, bro. Every time we have
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conversations, no matter if it's at flat dinners or whatever it
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is, Machu always brings up shit. I'm always, he's like, he always
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brings it up. I.
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Don't know, it's funny bro. And finished.
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For it and then and but just about not to to to to but the
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the, the, the I think this is when you're doing 10 and you're
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doing everyday. By the end of it, we'll get to
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it and be like, bro, I didn't realize, but every time I spoke
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to Greg from work, I really had a good conversation.
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I was grateful for it. I'm going to do that more or
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every time I woke up early, I was grateful for it and I'm
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going to do that more. So it actually gives you a tools
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instead of bro people just on social media saying reach out to
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me if you're depressed. Like that's not helping anyone
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bro. Jumping on your basically your
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comments, bro. Like one thing that I've kind of
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seen as well is when I go into work or when I go into certain
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environments is the amount of negative energy coming from
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certain people as well. And it's always like, you know,
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when you start with small check because most conversations they
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start, they start with small check, you know what I mean?
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And this is kind of jumping on why we started this whole thing
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as well. Generally when I say to you,
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Barry, how's your day? You know?
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Yeah, like people kind of straight away or the people that
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I've asked, they go, you know, this is, this is what I've been
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having issues with. This is, you know, but they
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don't focus on the good stuff because I guarantee for everyone
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bad thing, bro, there's 10 good things, Yeah. 100%.
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Do you know what I mean? Now, again, we're speaking from
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our personal experiences, but I guarantee you, and this is
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something that I've heard in the recent podcast that I listened
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to and I shared this with you as well, would you switch places
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with your grandparents born in the 1930s or 40s?
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Hell no. No way, bro.
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Yeah, they've been through World War 2, Vietnam War, bro.
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Like financial crisis, all of that stuff in the years.
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There's no way I'm switching lives with.
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Bro, they didn't have ACL reconstructions or you've done
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your knee, you're done. You're.
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Done. Bro you imagine how many people
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walking around with bad knees back in there?
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The amount of, yeah, the amount of grateful's I'm actually, you
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know, happy about living in the area that we Live Today.
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But it's it's it's way better than what my big grandparents,
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you know, grew up with. And the only other thing that I
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can say is, bro, my grandparents, I guarantee you
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would be straight away. They would switch with me
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straight away. There's no doubt about it.
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Does they move from Samore my? Grandparents, yeah, my dad's
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parents, they move from Samore, so different lifestyle.
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Obviously they grew up, you know, you know, living off the
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land, you could say, you know, in different traditions,
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different customs, very different small country,
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etcetera. My mom, obviously she my mom's
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adopted, so she come from, I wouldn't say broken family, but
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you know, you could say to an extent, yes, a bit broken and
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different, different situation and scenario.
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So right is for sure, you know, like I just don't think I would
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switch places at all with my grandparents.
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But. Yeah.
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I mean, and then lots of times you're talking about that
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question about how, how's your day going?
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But everyone will either focus on the bad thing or when they
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say they might just always say, I know, I say lots of times
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like, yeah, it was all good or, yeah, not too bad or not too
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bad. It's a real big one.
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It's like, was it not too bad or was it good or was it just not
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too bad? Like, and that's not checking
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in. That's not checking in with
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someone is just asking how, how, how's your day going.
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Yeah, in my opinion, I think like because you can so easily
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just brush that brush that that question off kind of thing.
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So I think proper chickens is, you know, actually having
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conversations with someone and getting into it with them.
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And then so your point about us living in the best time, but I
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agree, like we can do so many, so much stuff.
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We're so we're so lucky, like going to the gym, bow saunas.
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Pools, Yeah. How safe do you feel now?
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Like, you know, knowing that you can actually fly to the other
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side of the world. Oh yeah, we can fly to the other
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side world easily. You know, not have to jump on a
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ship or a boat or cruise ship, you know, yeah, spend 20
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freaking days on a boat, you know, like we can do that, you
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know? So, yeah, I like to think I'm,
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I'm definitely being a lot more grateful, you know, and saying
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that though, when I speak to my grandparents or when I've spoken
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to them in the past, you know, the things that they say that
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are very different is like, for example, when they went and met
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their partners, they met them at, you know, dancers or
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something like that. You know, they went out like
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they actually physically met their partner.
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So it wasn't through social media and stuff like that.
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So it's give and take this given pool, you know what I mean?
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When it comes to certain things that they would like and what we
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would like. But I still definitely believe
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they would switch, you know, lives with, with, with us.
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Your grandparents would be on Tunda JFL when our age but.
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Yeah, hey. But yeah, Grateful's man.
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Looking forward to what we're sharing at dinner this week.
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Yeah, we'll, we'll wrap this up next week as well with a few of
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the things that we were most grateful for.
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So the question of the week, the one to break everyone's minds,
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is do you think it's OK to be friends with the opposite sex
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when you are in a relationship? This is a question with topic
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bro. I'm going to put it out there
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Yeah, because I know I know people are going to say yes,
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it's fine. And then definitely the other
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side. Weird.
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No, that's not fine at all. I know where we kind of sit with
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this. But if I had to get my personal
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opinion on it, Nah, I don't reckon that is and the only
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reason why is because I'm only mates with my female mates
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because I'm mates with their their partner first, if that
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makes sense. So for me, like if I'm hanging
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out with my girl mates, you could say in my inner circle,
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yeah, I'm obviously just hanging out with him because my, my
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actual mate, you know, is there with me.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah.
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So I need to just make sure that and we all know why would you
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say? Yeah, but 100% there's just like
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you have to. I think people who try say no,
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you can be friends with the opposite.
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There's no, there's no problems. They're just trying to be blind
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to the fact that boys and girls, bro, you end up brooding.
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Yeah. Like, yeah, you do.
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Like, it's why the most affairs happen at work, because you're
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just around people more. And like, if I was to go out
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with coffee for a girl with a girl that's not my partner,
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there's no way that she wouldn't get upset about that.
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And like, even if you guys you think it's fine and you have no
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problem with like no bad intentions, like thinking about
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how it will make your partner feel is a big one.
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You know what I mean? And growing up, I never really
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had, but my honestly, my personal opinion in it is, but I
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growing up, my friend group was primarily boys.
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There was a few girls there, people's girlfriends and that
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kind of thing. And honestly, I just enjoy being
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friends with boys more because I feel like the humor is there.
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We relate to lots of sports and that kind of thing.
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Talk about that, that stuff. And you just hit a different
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level of comfort when you're with the boys compared to when
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there's girls there. Then when people cuz bro, I
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actually had a big argument. Well, not argument talk with my
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missus and her best mate, both girls.
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And they were saying like no, we're, we're really good friends
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with boys. And so I'm dealing with this
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right now like trying to. Hey, I got your back.
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Just hey, give me in that convo brother, give me in that convo.
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I'm trying to navigate it because like end of the day, I
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know that their friends have been friends for ages, but if
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they were to bro go on a one-on-one dinner that would
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make me feel uncomfortable. Yeah, and like some someone
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who's trying to act like they're so self confident and secure in
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themselves that that would be sweet with it.
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I just reckon they're they're lying.
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Like bro, there's no way you can't feel a little bit like,
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bro, why aren't we doing that? Why are you doing that with
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them? Yeah, you know what I mean.
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I know my partner and I got together.
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I obviously had girl mates. Yeah.
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Do you know what I mean? And I know that she was a bit
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uneasy about it at first. Yeah.
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Me hanging out with obviously, you know, certain girls.
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Yeah. And obviously, especially when
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you're teaching, bro, like, bro, I'm like 1 dude, and he's like
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300 girls, bro. Yeah, you know what I mean?
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But obviously there were more, more males and stuff.
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But that's just the way it works.
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And you know, when you're studying, teaching, I don't know
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about engineering, but yeah, for me anyway, that's just the way
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it was when I was studying. So men, yeah.
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So anyway bro. Middle age men.
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Middle age white men. So, yeah, just like I know that
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my partner did feel uneasy about it and that so I had to just
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reassure her, like, you know, it's all good.
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Yeah. Like, don't don't worry too much
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about it. But I did find myself slowly,
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you know, like leaving them behind, if that makes sense.
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Yeah. You know what I mean?
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Because I knew, OK. But if it's even gonna be a .5%
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chance that it's gonna make them feel uncomfortable, it's like,
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but it's not worth it. Yeah, not worth it.
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It's. Not worth it bro.
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Yeah, and I get that. But if you have known someone
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for ages and you already have that bond, like you're not just
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gonna cut it, you know what I mean?
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I'm not saying that because like bro, all friendships and stuff
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have their place, but in terms of best friends and really
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spending time together, I just think that I don't think that
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it's all good at. So here's a story that I
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actually was sent recently. OK.
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Oh, yeah. By someone.
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And basically the story is. So this is from a female.
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Yeah. So we were together, my partner
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and I, for 22 years. Yeah.
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We had three kids together and we were living life.
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I then find out that after 22 years of our of our relationship
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and our three kids, my partner cheated on me with my best mate.
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That's Rothbart, yeah. You know what I mean?
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Yeah. Yeah.
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So I don't like that at all. Like.
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So her best mate was the one that cheated with her partner?
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Yes, yeah. And they were together for 22
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years, 3 kids, like kids are now teenagers, you know, it's it's
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just, yeah, that's a you just can't do that, bro.
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Like, yeah, you got to seriously, bro, you got to,
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yeah, you got to have, you understand?
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The thing is as well, I'm just going to say I reckon that and
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all those boy girl relationships, I reckon most of
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the time one of them is king. Yeah, and and there's there's
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one saying no and one of them the other one party is is low
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key, just like I would just be friends then.
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Yeah, you know what I mean. This is kind of shakes over.
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But yeah, I reckon that that's my personal opinion because to
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me, if I ever went through a problem, I, I honestly have
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maybe like two or three close friends that are girls that I
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just like grew up with and we played sports and stuff
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together. So we have that.
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But like if I ever went through a problem, then they're going to
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be like the 50th person. I would, I would call you kind
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of thing. There's so far down all my boys
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that, you know, I've been through trials and tribulations
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and that kind of stuff with and my family, like they're nowhere
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near that. And for me, it's because, yeah,
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I just, I don't have that connection with them because
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they're girls. But it honestly is because that.
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Yeah. Yeah.
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Do you have that as well? Yeah, I do.
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Like at the end of the day, bro, I just, I avoided at all costs,
20:02
to be honest with you, like I really do.
20:03
But yeah, see there are certain like for example, I have
20:06
colleagues that work that are female that I'm close with.
20:08
Yeah, but they know my partner and they actually hang out like
20:11
when I, when I go out and do events with them, like they will
20:14
invite Hanalei. Yeah.
20:15
Does that make sense? So.
20:16
Because. They know that she's my, you
20:19
know, my fiance. Yeah, you know, and, and that,
20:21
and so they obviously they respect that.
20:22
And I'm, I'm grateful for that bro, you know what I mean?
20:24
Because they get it. Like they get it.
20:26
But I treat them like, bro, we're family, you know what I
20:29
mean? So, but we've like it's a,
20:32
there's a line. Yeah, there's still a line.
20:34
Everyone knows knows the line. Yeah, yeah.
20:36
You know they know not to cross the line and I know not to cross
20:39
the line. Not that you know, we ever
20:40
would, but I'm grateful because every time we, you know, we say
20:44
we're going to go to an event, they always put out the invite
20:46
to. 100 Yeah, yeah, yeah. Which makes me feel comfortable
20:49
as well. So and that helps my partner as
20:52
well, you know, obviously. Yeah, and bro, I've seen it so
20:56
many times when you're just friends and it ends up being
21:01
more than just friends. And it's like, bro, that, you
21:04
know, everyone knows a couple that's end up got it together.
21:07
They were friends for 10 years and then end up dating.
21:10
Like it's, it's, it's just because you're friends doesn't
21:14
mean that there's nothing that could ever potentially happen.
21:16
Or like, I don't know, maybe it's my insecure side coming.
21:20
But like but yeah, I guess my bottom line of this is if it's
21:25
gonna make your partner feel even a chance of feeling
21:28
insecure or jealous, just thought just there's no point,
21:32
you cut it. Yeah, yeah, 100%.
21:33
I get it. I get it.
21:35
Sigma 3 for today. What is something we wish we had
21:38
learned before adulthood? There's a few topics that or,
21:41
you know, ideas that came to my mind, you know, when I came
21:44
across this. So I'll kick us off.
21:47
But for me, the number one thing on my, my, my, you know, my list
21:51
basically when I was kind of slimming it all down, it was
21:56
nobody taught me that petrol prices would actually affect my
21:59
mood. Like, I don't know bro, but when
22:04
I go and I see like yesterday for example, on a earlier in the
22:08
week actually, right, Petrol prices here in Australia where
22:11
we live in Queensland, but it was $1.50, seven, yeah, for
22:14
petrol, bro. Yesterday I saw $2.00 and I was
22:18
like bro, I was like what in the heavens is going on here?
22:22
Burley or something? I don't know.
22:24
No, yeah, no, it was. No, it was.
22:25
Yeah, Actually it was hitting inland some more, you know, like
22:27
more like Robina. And I was just kind of like,
22:30
bro, they're actually mentally. Are you one of the people that
22:34
will search for are used to good gas?
22:37
Prices I used to be, yeah. But now I kind of know which
22:40
brands offer good prices, so I kind of just automatically drive
22:45
in that direction towards that petrol station when I know I
22:47
need it. But how much do you end up
22:49
saving? Yeah, I actually don't know.
22:51
But well, actually no, I do like if petrol is like 2 bucks, for
22:54
example, like I'm spending probably 80 something bucks,
22:57
close to 80, Yeah, you know, with my Gates.
22:59
But then if I know that it's $1.50, I know I'm only paying
23:02
like mid 60s. Right.
23:03
OK. So you do 1520?
23:05
Yeah. Yeah, it does make a difference.
23:06
It makes a bit messy there. But then the reason why I bought
23:09
the supper is because like obviously growing up in New
23:11
Zealand and you see the petrol prices in comparison to here,
23:14
bro, when you see $3.20 something that's that's
23:17
different, that's different. Like when we say NZ built
23:22
different, it really is bro. That's really like.
23:25
Damn, I actually might take the bus.
23:28
That's like, damn, I might walk. Yeah, you know, like that.
23:31
It really it. It fixed my mood massively.
23:34
But you know, you can do like price locks on gas.
23:37
I've heard about that. Yeah, some people in my work do
23:39
it. So how does that work?
23:41
But I don't know, I don't do it. But the the for the apparently
23:45
you can search up where the gas prices are good and then at that
23:50
moment lock it in and then go an hour later.
23:53
It's gotta be an app. Yeah, it's like an app, but bro,
23:56
my opinion on gas, I'm just like, I just never think that.
24:00
I always think in my head, I'm probably gonna save like 5 bucks
24:02
and but what am I gonna do? I need gas.
24:05
I'm not good, but it's like, what am I gonna do?
24:08
Oh no, the gas prices are too high.
24:09
No, I still have to buy it, you know, Right.
24:12
Yeah. Yeah.
24:13
But I definitely could probably save a bit more money.
24:17
Yeah. Well, for me, I just, that's the
24:18
way I think. I'm always thinking like, how
24:19
can I save? How can I save?
24:20
Yeah, you know, or get, get the best deal.
24:22
Yeah, it comes to things like that, you know, so, but I'm on
24:24
the same mindset. We know we need petrol.
24:26
See, You know what I mean? Like, yeah, I'm definitely not
24:29
catching the bus, I'll tell you that.
24:30
Yeah. So no matter how cheap it is.
24:32
For 100. Yeah, efficiency.
24:33
What about you, man? Bro, my one's a bit more
24:36
serious, I guess than that. It was just like something that
24:39
I wish before adulthood is bro, like not trying to grow up too
24:45
fast kind of thing. Yeah.
24:47
So there's a few points to that. But for me it was, you know,
24:51
when you're in school, you're trying to leave school because
24:52
you wanna, you think that it's going to be cool.
24:54
Yeah. It's like bro, you don't realize
24:55
like. School's the best.
24:58
I mean, you see your friends every day.
25:00
Take me all. All that kind of stuff.
25:03
You have no worries about bills and like that kind of thing.
25:09
And then also just like remember when you're growing up and you
25:12
always like want a girlfriend or I did anyway, like you always or
25:16
you just want like a find a guilt pretty much.
25:20
But I reckon there's a lot to be said for to go through that
25:24
younger stage and just be and, and being single and being okay
25:27
to be be single. Like you don't need someone to
25:30
make you happy, that kind of thing.
25:31
Rather it's getting deep. But but the main thing is just
25:34
like not worrying too much about adulthood when you're a kid.
25:40
And just enjoy it. Yeah, enjoy it.
25:42
I don't even know. This isn't even answering the
25:43
question. It is.
25:45
OK, it is. Yeah.
25:46
Like what's something? Yeah, yeah.
25:47
No, you are. You are.
25:50
But yeah, we actually touched on this topic a few weeks ago and I
25:52
was just like, what's the best? Like we did the kiss it, kiss
25:57
it, kiss, kill Mary. Yeah.
26:00
And I chose primary as my favorite memory.
26:02
And As for all those reasons you brought up, like bro, when you
26:05
first get to school man, you just Chuck your bag down, go
26:07
outside, start playing obviously, then do your classes,
26:11
whatnot, lunches, food, like it's no key in the world.
26:15
And even like we've talked about it as well, like when you're in
26:18
high school and you put so much pressure on yourself to make
26:22
first 15 and that kind of thing. And but when you keep playing
26:26
sports out of high school, you realize.
26:29
But high school, there's two points to this.
26:31
High school is very important if you're going to be professional
26:34
because good schools put you in good systems and put you they
26:38
directly can send you to some clubs, but but of like 90% of
26:44
the guns from 1st 15, but they're not good.
26:49
They're not good after school. So they're not playing.
26:51
Putting pressure on yourself in terms of sports and high school.
26:55
I reckon there's another part of that like not putting too much
26:59
pressure on yourself when you're a kid because bro, if you just
27:01
stick out, honestly, you, you end up overtaking all those
27:05
dudes that were guns. Yeah.
27:06
Yeah, I agree. I agree.
27:07
But yeah, let us know what you guys think about, you know, what
27:11
you wish you had known before you obviously entered big old
27:14
age of adelhood. All right, Last segment of the
27:18
podcast. So we got getting fired or
27:21
resigning from a job. It's a relevant subject for us
27:24
at the moment. So I just thought that there'd
27:27
be some funny stories there or people that got fired or
27:30
resigning. I know I have a story of myself,
27:33
you as well. So yeah, we'll jump straight
27:35
into it. Do you want me to start it off?
27:36
Yeah, so bro, when I first moved to Aussie, I moved to Mackay and
27:42
I'm civil engineer, but I moved there wanted to try have a bit
27:46
more work life balance when I was playing footy.
27:48
So I did teacher aide. So I was a teacher aide bro, you
27:51
know teacher aide as a teacher, you know them well.
27:54
But and I was having dramas with my manager, a dramas bro.
27:59
So I'll show up to work on time every day and the problem they
28:03
were having with me is I was just turning up to the classroom
28:07
and the managers set me down like 3 or 4 times.
28:09
They'd bring me to the office and they'd go mate, you need to
28:12
be getting more prepared for these lessons.
28:14
You need to be printing off all these things and talking to your
28:17
teachers before you get there and when you get there, really,
28:20
really like get involved and be help out.
28:23
I was like, bro, I am involved. I'm looking after all the
28:25
naughty kids. They're trying to like, throw
28:28
pencils at each other and stab each other.
28:30
And I'm like, I'm, I'm stop. I'm saving the classroom.
28:34
And The thing is, bro, my whole thing is that I reckon the level
28:38
of stress you want me to take on is should be reflected on how
28:42
much pay I'm getting. So bro, the teacher's getting
28:44
paid. I'm teacher aide, bro.
28:46
Like I'm going to take on as much as I need to.
28:50
Like. Bro preparing for the lesson.
28:54
So teachers like Bro, if he needs me to do something, tell
28:57
me. But like bro, I'm turning up the
28:58
class. I'm pretty much a student at
28:59
this point. What, what, what, what?
29:01
Were they wanting you to actually?
29:02
Do so they wanted me to like talk to the teacher before the
29:06
lesson, OK. Every teacher.
29:07
Yeah, I was messing science as well.
29:09
I was in because I was I was helping with the subjects that
29:11
the kids didn't want to do yeah. Like if they needed something
29:14
printed off, if they needed me to do anything before the lesson
29:18
set up anything or anything like that.
29:20
So really, when I say it out loud, it makes sense what they
29:23
want me to do, but it is a bit much to just be honest.
29:26
Teachers aren't doing that. Yeah.
29:29
So anyway, I don't want to put smut on teachers names.
29:31
But anyway, so get to the point is they sat me down for my 4th
29:36
or 5th meeting and they, they sat me down in the in the, in
29:41
the meeting room and they sent me.
29:43
Oh mate, you need to be getting more prepared for these lessons.
29:45
Like you're just walking into the into the stage telling me
29:48
off like I'm a kid, bro. And I'm just sitting there
29:50
thinking, Oh, my God, shut up my car.
29:54
Stay high. But thank you.
29:56
I was appreciated for the job. But anyway, they're both.
29:59
So they go through this whole spiel about how I'm not doing
30:02
enough and that kind of thing. But at the end of the meeting, I
30:04
go, oh, by the way, I'm resigning.
30:09
But so they just, I just laid the door.
30:12
I was like, yeah, yeah, yeah. Oh yeah. 20 minutes later. 2
30:15
minutes. Oh, by the way, I'm resigning
30:16
tomorrow and they're like, oh, good rhythms.
30:22
But you're you're, you're more like gotten.
30:24
Yeah, I was like, gotcha. Wasted 20 minutes of your time.
30:31
Yeah. Oh, boy, that's crack up.
30:33
You know the other thing that as well, man, Like, just just
30:37
because I know you're obviously a male and it's very rare that
30:39
they're a male teacher Aides. Oh, I see.
30:42
Yeah, yeah, I feel definitely. No, there definitely isn't as
30:46
much male male teacher aides as females, right?
30:50
One thing I know that when it comes to males, the kids lean on
30:53
you a little bit more, right? And so I know when you say that
30:58
the kids, you know when they're naughty, they're getting you to
31:00
look after naughty kids. That's a real thing, bro,
31:02
especially with your personality.
31:04
I'm not saying every male teacher aide with your
31:08
personality and your background in terms of footy and culture
31:10
and all that, you, they will gravitate towards you just
31:14
naturally those naughty kids, if that makes sense.
31:16
And they're not naughty, they're just, it's just not engaging for
31:19
them. It just needs to be again.
31:21
But one thing I remember you talking about was this fire
31:25
drill. Let me get into that.
31:27
So Bo, I've never been a teacher in my life.
31:31
I'd never been a teacher. I would just come to play footy
31:36
in Mackay. So anyway, I got to Mackay,
31:38
Mackay State High and they we're trying to be like we got to
31:43
McKay state high end. I was in my first week of the
31:48
job and I was in a math class and they would have been like
31:52
bro year sevens. And we were all sitting down and
31:57
then all of a sudden, bro, the, the not a fire alarm, but it was
32:02
a intruder alarm. It was like intruder lockdown,
32:06
lockdown, lockdown and just this mess of the thing.
32:09
But, and we're in Mackay and I already thought I was going to
32:12
GC and I ended up in Mackay and I thought, bro, this is pretty
32:15
rough. There's like cars getting stolen
32:17
on the news every night and that kind of thing.
32:19
So it was like lockdown, lockdown, lockdown boat that
32:23
teacher for reeked out. The teacher for reeked out boat.
32:26
He goes, he's like everyone get under the disks, get under the
32:30
disk, get on the ground, get on the ground.
32:31
And then all the because you know the kids by the E sevens
32:34
and they're all naughty and they're all looking like you're
32:37
scared. You're scared.
32:38
What a ski guy like like chucking stuff with each other
32:41
and the teacher boat honest to God started crying and started
32:45
going you think this is a drill? He's like, does this look like a
32:49
drill? This is a serious real life
32:52
situation and you're gonna fire and then I'm one week, my first
32:55
ever week of teacher aide and he's freaking out like this and
32:58
I'm thinking, oh bro, no way. There's a gun shooter.
33:02
There's a shooter. What have I got to myself?
33:05
No bro, it would be just my luck bro.
33:07
The first week of teaching and there's a school shooter.
33:10
How was this come to? Life I was like stuff my car,
33:12
bro. I should have, should have
33:14
stayed in Auckland. And then but anyway, they're all
33:16
doing this. And in my head I'm having this
33:19
process like when I say one of these kids, if, if, if the
33:23
school shooter came in and then I was looking at them being
33:25
naughty and I was like, they're going to get us killed if it's a
33:28
school shooter because they're not being they're not under the
33:30
desks. They're all running around
33:32
still. And then in that moment I
33:34
realized, but no way I'm saving my cell phone.
33:38
These kids are going to kill us. And this teacher screaming and
33:41
crying at the same time, but I'm using.
33:43
Them as a shield. They look at me like so, so it's
33:46
a serious. I was like, I don't know, man,
33:48
just move to my car. You guys are horrors.
33:52
I don't know what they are. Oh that would have been a freaky
33:57
man bro. That added to my resignation.
34:00
I was like, bro, you put me through how?
34:02
My first, Yeah. Yeah, but I know exactly what
34:04
you mean because when we do these lockdowns at school,
34:07
practice drills and stuff, obviously because we know it's a
34:09
practice drill. Yeah, the kids don't take it
34:11
serious, bro, like as much as you want them to take it
34:14
serious. But if it happened.
34:17
Bro yeah. God forbid, but damn that really
34:22
be crazy. Because none of them are
34:25
listening. But yeah, that's when I realized
34:28
I was looking at them. I'm not saving you.
34:31
You see that deeper but. I almost feel like every school,
34:34
every school needs actual I don't know if we're talking
34:38
school shooter stuff level. Yeah, every school needs like
34:41
bulletproof windows or something or doors that people can't get
34:44
in. Like, yeah, because I look at
34:46
the doors that at the school I'm at, you could just push it with
34:50
your winky. Hello.
34:52
Yeah, yeah, that's rough, bro. That's rough.
34:58
Oh man, those. Are that's a crazy.
35:03
Oh well. Oh well, yeah.
35:05
How about you, bro? Well, what's have you?
35:06
Oh yeah. Any stories?
35:08
I do, actually, I do now, I can't name anyone, but I have
35:13
been at a school. Right.
35:14
And just on the resigning thing. Yeah.
35:19
OK. Like we all know when someone
35:21
wants to resign from a job, you know, they either got a new
35:23
opportunity or they've got, you know, challenges in their
35:27
personal life or they they just don't like the job and so they
35:29
move on. Right.
35:30
Anyway, in one of the classes, like at the school, we're able
35:35
to share our screen from the laptop, you know what I mean?
35:40
So we can share our screen on the laptop and we can actually
35:43
show the kids what we're doing on our computers, right?
35:47
And anyway, one of these teachers, OK, was doing work on
35:53
the laptop, showing the kids exactly what they needed to do.
35:55
Anyway, they go on a different tab on the computer and that's
36:02
typing and the kids are looking at this teacher typing.
36:06
And it's this teacher writing their resignation letter in
36:11
front of the kids. Hey, And they forgot that they
36:14
were sharing it, but it was the funniest thing.
36:18
It was the funniest thing. And the kids are looking at the
36:21
teacher and like, so are you resigning?
36:27
But the teacher just looked at me and was like, oh, Oh no, no,
36:30
no, no. No, no.
36:30
Gotcha, gotcha. Tricky.
36:33
Well, I just remember that story.
36:34
It was the funniest thing ever. Very well.
36:36
I was just like, oh, the kids, yes, that too.
36:39
Smart, the kids say. It was too funny, bro.
36:41
So yeah, teachers, man, you need to be careful you're sharing on.
36:44
Your screen man. Man, I'll tell you because
36:47
there's other stories about that stuff too that we know about.
36:49
Oh. Very, yeah.
36:50
But I can't say some of that stuff, but we all know where
36:53
that's going, yeah. But yeah.
36:57
Do you have another? One yeah, yeah, I've got a few
36:58
ways so we put it on our socials I just want to share some of
37:01
them but one of the one of my boys, he replied to our our
37:06
story and he said he was a manager at Huffer.
37:09
I'm just going to call him out, stuff it and he sorry.
37:13
They had a homeless person that lived outside their their their
37:16
store. And every day you'd see him.
37:19
He was a good dude. Apparently we say hi when they
37:22
had deliveries, he'd help them move in and that kind of thing.
37:25
And after he did that one time, my mate, we said, bro, you want
37:28
to grab something? I can give you like a staff
37:30
discount. So he gave the dude his staff
37:32
discount. The Huffle dudes find that found
37:34
out and fired him because what's crazy?
37:39
A Oh yeah, some companies, bro, you need to be more grateful for
37:45
the yeah, get from your community, yeah.
37:47
Bro seriously bro, just not even for free.
37:50
It's just the soft discount, right?
37:52
And he goes giving all of us it as well.
37:54
So very there's Lucky and he found that one.
37:57
Oh, that's ratchet, bro. Yeah, I don't like that.
38:00
I don't like that. Hey man, businesses be more for
38:02
your community when it comes to that stuff.
38:03
Yeah, one of my other mates, Simon Anderson replied and he
38:06
said he used to do HR for this North Carolina company in
38:09
America, But and at work one day, apparently they had an
38:14
argument. This dude had an argument the
38:16
next day, brought in a gun and then trying to shoot somebody
38:21
and then they ended up getting fired.
38:22
And this dude was trying to sort it all out because he was the HR
38:25
for them. What?
38:26
Yeah, that's crazy. The other one we had was Alison.
38:32
She works with her husband in a law firm and apparently her
38:36
husband's fired her twice, but she said she just shows up it
38:39
the next day and it just works itself out.
38:41
I know you don't mean it. Yeah, I know you love me.
38:46
But then the best one we probably got was anonymous.
38:50
Anonymous. But we it was a Friday afternoon
38:55
after work and this person went out for drinks with his
38:59
colleagues and they had a new starter from a different country
39:04
and they're all drinking. It was like late as at night
39:08
they're drinking. And then while they were
39:10
drinking, they said that that they were like kind of
39:15
bantering. And the bro has sect taped the
39:18
dude and bro, he's turned up on Monday and got fired.
39:23
That's. For Friday night antics after
39:26
for drinking. By the amount of people that
39:28
would get fired from my job for the things they've done, I'm
39:31
just saying. But that'll be half the staff.
39:34
But that's the people don't realize that you can still get
39:36
fired from your work being in workplace if it's like a work
39:39
drinks after at like 11:00 PM at night.
39:43
So bro that I reckon that's a crazy one.
39:47
There needs to be like a real what constitutes being fired
39:51
when it comes to things like that.
39:52
Yeah. Because, yeah, they'll say
39:54
sexual harassment. Yeah, bro, come on.
39:56
That's more sexual harassment. Not if you are bantering.
40:00
Yeah. And the people around you can
40:02
see it. Yeah.
40:03
Throughout the whole night. Grow up as if that's a bad
40:07
situation and you're like, bro, I swear there's way worse stuff
40:11
that can happen. Yeah, if someone you need to
40:12
have fire that dude for having no social awareness, Yeah, or no
40:17
social communication skills or I don't know, like I feel like
40:20
he's more to blame than the guy that got fired.
40:23
I reckon, yeah, yeah, exactly that.
40:25
I don't know. I don't know.
40:27
I have a more as well. Yeah.
40:29
And it's something that I know you know as well.
40:31
Anyway, they got not fired, but they chose to leave themselves
40:35
because it was leading down that pathway and they were just
40:40
updating their CV, right? This is interesting.
40:44
They were updating their CV on their computer because it just
40:48
needed an update, right? And they did it during their
40:51
lunch break. Right now, during your lunch
40:55
break, that's your free time. Right now, I don't know, but the
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business said to them you are not allowed to do that during
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work hours. Yeah.
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Now I need to kind of understand, is that OK to do
41:11
during your lunch break? But that's OK to do in general,
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like, but I reckon if you're, if you're because really he's
41:20
getting fired because he's doing ACV and they think he's gonna
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leave. That's why they're gonna.
41:24
That's why he got fired like they did.
41:27
If he was writing a letter to, you know, someone for saying
41:33
happy birthday, that's nothing to do with work, but they
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wouldn't have got angry about that.
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It's because he's trying to leave.
41:38
So but updating your CV bro is something for your personal
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needs. Like you don't know the company
41:45
could go busting and you need your CV to be updated like you.
41:48
It's just, it's just it's a personal requirement in my
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opinion to have an updated CV. So that's crazy.
41:54
In my opinion though, but during that period of your lunch break,
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that's your free time. You should be entitled to do
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that anyway. I don't know the legalities
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around this right. Yeah, damn this tongue twister
42:05
anyway. But I'm pretty sure they're not
42:10
allowed to look at what you're doing on your computer during
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that period. Yeah, during the work day, they
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might be able to because it's the intellectual property,
42:17
right? Because you're using their
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software, the computers, etcetera.
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But during your lunch break, that's your free time.
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Surely. Yeah, I.
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Don't know man, but. Just in general, don't look at
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your staff's laptops. Well, from what I heard, bar
42:32
this basically the boss, he had just started the job, right?
42:37
And from day one he kind of had a thing against this individual.
42:40
We know, right? And basically they had meetings
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on meetings on meetings about, you know, certain things that
42:48
they both disagreed with. And basically in short, updating
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your CV in my opinion just does not warrant you being told that
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you. Can't.
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No way bro, no way. That's crazy.
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That was the final straw, bro. And anyway, this individual we
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know obviously moved on and is in a better environment and that
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place that he used to be at, bro, like 3 or 4 staff members
43:09
within a certain time frame left and a couple of them actually
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work with them now at his new at the new job.
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So yeah, so funny how things work out.
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