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Ep. 39 - Game Night and Shared Light-Passing Go, Making Memories · Shared Light

• Dustie & JR: Greetings all. Welcome to another episode of Shared Light with Dustie and JR. I am obviously JR. And I'm Dustie. how are you doing? Good. Good. been kind of a chill week at home this week. Yeah. A little bit of a change, I feel, considering everything we got going on. Yeah. I feel like it's been calmer. It has Settled a bit. I don't feel as stressed as I was. some things did work out finally. We'll see what that does long term, but maybe starting to see some light at the end of the tunnel. Yeah. Just to update. Puppies are fat. So big. They're what? 11 days old? 11 days old, and they're already. Two pounds. Yeah. The first litter did not get to that weight, I feel like, for at least two or three weeks. At least, yeah. But the chunkers. Yeah, they they literally look like little pot belly pigs. Their bellies are bigger than their feet right now. They're bigger than their heads. Yeah, I mean it's belly and heads. It's funny to see. They're cute. But all they want to do is eat. They all they want to do is eat. If they're not sleeping, they're eating. But I think their eyes are opening starting today. We did a peak of them. Yeah, we did see a peak. their ears have been kind of perking up when we're talking, so I think they're also starting to hear a little bit. Yep. Mama's doing great. Mama could care less about Really anything as long as nobody goes near her kennel. So she's Yeah. She mellowed out quite a bit. The girls have been able to handle and play with the babies and Yeah. When when they're out of the kennel. Yeah, so she's been out being really social, which is I mean, she's always kind of been a social dog, but she's really been excited to see the girls and Yeah, I think before she got pregnant, well I know before she got pregnant she Wasn't as social, but she was a beagle. she was focused on food and that's it. She didn't want to play with people or visit with them. She just was worried about crumbs or yeah. and now that she's had her babies, it's the opposite. I mean she sniffs around a little bit, but she wants to be with you and cuddle with you and Yeah, she climbed up in the bed with us the other day and cuddled for quite a while where her babies just Yeah, so that's our new routine at night. Since she's in here with us before bed, we let her out to roam around and she'll hang out with us for a while. So So on that front everything is going great. But I have been doing some research. for this podcast. Yes. and actually came across a very interesting trend that I think that you can relate to pretty well. Just knowing your family and knowing how you guys grew up and how your parents enjoy particularly New Year's. Yeah. So I guess a whole a new trend in social media right now is something called Analog gaming. Yes. which for those of you that are not tech savvy and for those of you that are of our generation will not see this as something entirely new. Right. But I could see where it is relatively new for some folks. Yeah. so the idea of analog gaming is shifting away from high tech video games And playing board games. Mhm. Or just screens in general. Yeah. Yeah. So I would be remiss to say that we are not huge into board games, but we do play them from time to time. We do. we're not gonna play them every day or multiple times a week, but when we do sit down and play with our kids, they're really into So they used to be more into when they were younger, but Yeah, it's It's intriguing to me that we talked about the nineties last episode. How some of those things have come back. and in reading a little bit about this analog gaming stuff, I remember particularly when we were little and this was obviously I mean you think what, the Nintendo was released in maybe eighty eight, eighty nine. So so gaming was relatively new. Mid eighties. Yeah. Maybe I maybe we got a Nintendo in our house. Well it was eighty eight Yeah, I can't remember. I wanna say eighty four, but it could be right. You could be right. I'm leaning back to I think when we got one. but even after we got the Nintendo, I mean we played the Nintendo pretty hard as as kids do. Yeah, we did too. but I remember having some n knockout drag out fights around Monopoly and Uno. Yeah. Which is funny 'cause right now McDonalds is doing their annual Monopol Monopoly thing. Yeah. and we actually got into I don't want to say an argument, but I was calling out that when I was little there was no brown spots on the on the board. Yeah. Properties. They were yeah, they were they purple. They were purple. They were. They changed so when they were telling me that They got these brown ones. I'm like, there was no brown on. There's no brown on Monopoly. And I remember seeing brown well, I remember both. When they were like four and five, five and six. you know, when they had already changed to brown. So Yeah, I think we looked it up and it was like what, two thousand and seven or something? Maybe I don't know. Around there. But yeah, I remember both. But So And it's it's intriguing to talk about because I think about my my girls especially when we do play board games are crazy competitive. Yeah. crazy competitive. So they're they will they will cheat to to win. I didn't realize I guess how competitive I was. I guess because we always played a lot of board games growing up and you know we still do as a family, but my oldest sister She is the most competitive. And so for me, I didn't feel like I was that competitive until I'm playing with you and the kids and then yeah. So I am going to put in this a disclaimer right there. Because I have seen you play games with your brother and your mom and your dad. I'm I mean And you guys all go ham. To be fair, there was four kids and my parents, so You had to be competitive growing up. your dad is no chill in board games either. he will go for the throat It's not even about letting people win to make them feel good. Like Yeah. And your brother the same way. And you're I've seen your brother cheat on numerous occasions to win. my gosh. Yeah, probably. That's hilarious. So it's it I remember Uno being a big deal in our family and it still is I would imagine. I haven't played with my cousins. But it was the same kind of thing. I guess to me it was never like like you guys are really into it when you go and start playing. what was a game we were playing the other day when their friend was here? I don't know the name of it. Green team or something? Something like that. You're gonna stay on the green team. It's like green and orange or something? Yeah. I don't know. It But you have to guess what the other people are going to come up with. Yeah. The answer. Anyway, that one's really fun with the kids. They get really competitive. Well and our oldest gets a really competitive. And you do too. You guys all kinda do. Mm-hmm. So to me it's kind of amusing because I've just nonchalantly. I really don't I really don't care who wins. but you enjoy the banter though. I do. Back and forth. Because it's funny to me that you guys get so mad about it. But I feel like even with video games, I mean I'm not as into Fortnite as you guys are, but when we were playing like Mario Kart, there's nobody better in our house than me. So I will say that I have mentioned that we have been really into Fortnite as of late. It is a way for me to decompress. But also for me to spend time with my girls because they're Yeah. They have Uber fun playing. I used to play a lot until they changed our game that we played together. Yeah. And my daughter's pretty competitive. My younger daughter, she's not so much. She's She just is having fun. Yeah. But my oldest is has to be. Yeah. Our oldest has to win. Yes. She has to win and she has to be right. And our youngest is more like, well, it I would rather you win. Like she wants everybody to win and and feel good and so she's not as worried about herself winning. But yeah, it's interesting dynamic. But it's a good call out to see just how in society and culturally there has been a shift away from a lot of the screens and electronics to get back to a place where you're actually spending time with people. Yeah, and I feel like your kids especially. I mean, know for me a lot of my memories growing up, which I don't have a whole lot. But the ones that I do, I mean, there's a lot of playing games and just having those you know, we grew up Mormon and so we always had what is it called on Monday night? It left my brain. Anyway, it was like family night. It's like a thing they do in the church. I can't remember the actual name of it. Family home evening. That's what it's called. On Mondays. and so we would have dessert and we would play games and you know, usually you have like a lesson about whatever in the Bible or something, but It was every week. pretty much we would do that. And so a lot of my memories are centered around games, playing games together. And even, for New Year's and stuff, like we've done it a couple of times where we play like the what do they call? Like minute to win it games. We've done that. like I say, your parents when we do spend time with them and hang out with them for New Year's. I and holidays in general. Me and your dad have played chess for hours. Board games. Yeah, there's all sorts of board games that they play. The kids play with him a lot. I can't even remember what game they've been playing, but they were playing a little game. But they I mean, that's all memories that they're gonna have forever. You know, that's things that they're gonna remember from their childhood. Which not to discount if you are playing games like on a you know, in an Xbox or a PlayStation or something with your kids. They're gonna remember that too. They will. but I feel like it's a different level of at least the way you're communicating is a little bit different. It's more personal because you tend to at least me, right, when I'm playing Fortnite, while I'm still playing with the kids, I get really focused in on like trying not to die or whatever it may be. so you're not as engaged and again, Dustie mentioned it, you know, a lot of that banter back and forth and being able just to see the joy in their faces when they get an answer right. thinking back to me when I was a kid and I mean we had some pretty epic monopoly nights where families didn't talk to each other for a couple of days after 'cause Yeah. Well you think about too, it's just a different dynamic because when you think back on those memories and even, you know, when we do it now with our kids, there's a whole lot more to it than just sitting at the computer or the, game system and playing. You think about board games and things like that and you're surrounded by your family and you're all talking and communicating. You're having food, you're sharing meals, and so I think it's just a whole different dynamic. Which leads to the question. What could you do in your day to take ten minutes to play a quick game with your kids? Now, see, one of my biggest complaints that I have, and it's partially my fault, because I haven't really shown them. but also my kids are kind of wild stallions and can't sit for the kind of games that I like. Yeah. So a lot of the quick games that I have learned and come up with, we were really big into I guess blackjack, but we it was just twenty one when we were eight. Yeah. And then there's a lot of Gin Rummy, some of those games. So most of the games that we played were card games. My kids do not do well with cards or card games. Yeah. So I think for me it gets to be like, Well now you gotta pull a board out of the closet and get it all ready and you're taking twenty, thirty minutes to so it's hard for me To take all the time just because I don't always have it. Yeah. Yeah, and some of those, especially if you're bringing out Monopoly and stuff, those go for those can go for a long time. Right. And even a game I like Candyland I remember I've played Candyland with my kids and even those take a little while. I remember though one that I enjoyed that was pretty I would say it's pretty quick is Boggle. It's like a word game. Mm. Because you can do is you don't have to do a certain amount of rounds. You can just do I feel like your dad has also played a lot of Yahtzee. Mm-hmm. Boggle, Yahtzee, Scrabble. but some of those could be quicker, Easier. But it's good to think about games like that, right? Because w like for me especially where I really don't have three hours midweek to to sit down and and do Monopoly and do Our weeks are pretty during the week is pretty packed. come the weekend, sure, we've we've got time too, but But I feel like we're also packing in so many other things that we aren't able to do during the week, and so are the kids. Right. they want to do this, this, this and this, and we have to do this, this and this, and it's Yeah, so the weekends turn into a little bit of a now we're gonna do everything that we couldn't do during the week. Get all this stuff done. and I'm asking our listeners if you guys have any recommendations on games that don't take very long. By all means share because we have a few that we know of. Again, my kids are not super into cards and don't really I mean I'm sure they would understand it to a point, but they're just not they're just not interested. Well, and they might be to an age now that they can understand it. Right. You know, now that they're a little bit further into math and things like that. And when they're younger it I think that's hard for them. I remember trying to play goldfish and them not really just enjoying that. Youngest cannot play goldfish. She does not have a poker face at all. So she she you know what she has every single time. She can't play that game. But and switching to that, a lot of the games that you're gonna play with your kids when they're little, I don't think we could sit down and play Candyland with the kids now at their preteenage. No, I don't know that they would. So it does enjoy it. I mean it does take a transition of understanding like what kind of things, especially if you're playing with kids. But finding games that are enjoyable for everybody. even if you don't have kids, and it's just you and your spouse or you and a roommate or whatever, right? finding games that you both enjoy that help bring that level of intimacy because it is intimate to have a game like that in a setting because you guys are all around, you know, a table talking, convert like you said, you know, all the points of it really is like a communal thing that you're experiencing in that moment. Yeah. Yeah, I think it's important, especially in this day and age with everything being on a screen and online and kids especially but also adults can just get lost in all of that. so I think it's important. I mean it was important back in the day too. Like those are good memories that I have. But now especially, any day of the week, any time, our kids would gladly put down any screen or phone to come play a game with us. it's not even a question. we wouldn't have to beg or bribe you know. So I think that it's important that you can maybe implement some of that if you don't already finding games outside during the summer. yard games. Yeah, I mean her hear cornhole's really fun. I've never really played cornhole, but those are fun. We played horseshoes in my day. Yeah. But I mean cornhole, same thing. I feel like same thing. Yeah. you know, throwing the ball around could be a fun game. I mean there's a a plethora of things that are out there that really do help. drive that ability to detach from some of the electronics. Because the other thing is, generally speaking, when you're involved in some of that, you're also not glued to your phone. Mm-hmm. You're not so worried about everything that like your notifications and Facebook and what this person's up to or this person or Yeah. Well, and then you mentioned it, even if you were gonna try and focus and you are one of those people that just cannot break from electronics. Getting into retro games. Yeah. arcade games. Yeah, arcade games, the old Super Mario Brothers. Two reasons, right? Especially if you're of our age. Number one, you're gonna smoke your kids on those games. Yeah, 'cause you were I mean you grew up playing Well in Mario Kart for me. It's different muscle memory. There's not there's not so much there's not so much going on, so it really is it's a different level of gaming, I feel. I mean, in our day you didn't have all the saves and all the you had to make it through your game in one shot. Yeah. but I even think about it on the games that I play with the kids on now, right? There's a ton going on in those games. You can't even really converse or do anything. You're there's just so much going on. And you you you take some of that away and some of that nostalgia and and some of them, retro style games. there isn't a lot going on, so you're able to still converse and treat it the same as a similar dynamic of it's not gonna be apples to apples with the board game, but it's similar in the fact that there's not so much going on that you have to Focus in so hard. Well, and not only that, but you think back then, we had, the an original Nintendo. Well, it's not like gaming systems now where, our kids have their own gaming systems and they can you can all three play together and you had to sit and watch and you were engaged in the person playing and watching them and you're waiting for your turn. So you're still like a board game, I guess. You're still sitting all around and you're hanging out together and you're talking and you're, waiting your turn and watching them play their games. So it's a different dynamic, I guess, than it is now, 'cause, like I said, you guys have your gaming systems and so you're in three separate rooms playing and it's just it's different. And not to say that that's not fun. Because it is. Yeah. That's still you're still spending time together. I mean you're still engaging with each other and you're playing together, but it's just a different dynamic, I guess. And it Helps bridge a lot of gaps. especially like one of the biggest fears that I have as a parent is that I am not going to be able to relate to my kids as they start hitting some of these, milestone years of preteens. Yeah. I know that at least through games and some of the things that they like that I don't completely find miserable. Yeah. Like thrifting. Is something that is going to be relatable enough That we are still gonna be able to maintain that connection. And I don't know that that's a fear that every parent has, but I assume it probably is, right? That every parent at some level has to fear that at some point that you're not gonna be the center of the universe. Yeah. I'm sure it'll happen at some point. well yeah. And the goal for Any of this is to maintain and have an established path so that you're able to bridge a gap. Yeah. And maintain a level of connection. Even if it's just through a game. Even if it's just through, you know, Sunday night board games with the family. You know, I know a lot of people do Sunday dinner or a lot of other traditions that people have weekly that they do. I know you've spoken a lot about Your guys' Sunday dinners when you were little. Which imagine involved gaming, maybe. I don't know. Yeah. we were all together, it's like when we get together now at my parents for holidays and stuff. Some people are playing games, some people are chatting, some people are in the kitchen, you're just spending time together. But The other thing that I will say is good, particularly about board games in general, is they're not sixty or seventy dollars to buy. Yeah. And it's not something that you can just beat and be done with. Right. So a lot of the games that kids gravitate to now, I mean, if you're a parent, you know. And if you're a gamer, you know. you go and get a new game and it's sixty seventy bucks. And yeah, some of them are are made so that you can go through them a few times and maybe have different outcomes. But generally speaking, you beat the game and you don't want to play it no more. Unless there's an online portion or something else going on outside of it, right? Yeah. Yeah, that happened with our youngest. I don't I think it was a free game. I don't think we paid for it, but I mean she had a it conquered that same day. I'm like I'm glad I didn't pay sixty dollars for that game. Right. but you can get a few board games for that and shoot, you could play those the rest of your life probably. Yeah over and over and over. And that's what I'm getting at, right? It's a very easy low cost option. and really easy, low cost, even if you wanted to just treat it as a as like a family weekend type deal. Like this weekend we're doing family weekend. board game weekend or whatever. they're easy to take along with you if you are going somewhere to to help maintain some level of amusement. I've mentioned I think a few times that we have a cabin that my the people that I work for own that we've been up to a few times. like they've got board games all over. Yeah. They have a whole closet full of And our kids, every single time we go up there, that's the first thing they go to. Right. So all the games in there. And I mean, yeah, we've taken the PlayStation a couple of times, but even then they gravitate towards They don't really use it up there though. Yeah. Mhm. And it just speaks to the power of some of that, right? It's a different again, it's a communal experience that really just helps build a lot of those family bonds. It builds a lot of those memories. Yeah. And it like we've spoken about before, it opens up communication in general with your kids, with your spouse, with whoever you're with. Yeah. Yeah. You'd be surprised some of the conversations that we have when we do play board games. Mhm. Even with our kids, things that they'll just open up about or talk about and might seem kind of left field at times, but then you think back and you think, Well, I get it now because that was they felt safe and they're in in that type of environment in that moment. So Yeah, I our daughter has told us a few stories. Just about stuff that she wouldn't randomly tell us about at school that or that's happening when we're in the middle of stuff like that. Yeah. she really just thinks it's hilarious. I mean, she'll connect, this is funny and this happened that was also funny and you start hearing about all these little experiences that she has in her day that we don't even think about. Yeah. Yeah, and they're they're not something that they just come out and talk about when you're how was your day today? after school or whatever. Yeah, it just opens up some different lines of communication, I think. And you get to see their personalities on a different level. yeah. so I talked about that game where we were playing with them and their little friend like I don't know, it was maybe a month or two ago. Mm-hmm. the three of them together. That was hilarious. It was like the the funniest thing I've ever heard. Hilarious. I mean, they were just they're just they're funny. I mean, not like I'm laughing at you funny. they're all hilarious. they joke around. Three of them yeah, the three of them together. Hilarious. I mean, like we saw some of that when we went out to dinner the other night after my My daughter's concert. Yeah. She was with us, their friend. Started out as our youngest best friend. But the more she came over and our girls are so close in age they're only fourteen months apart. So my oldest even told her, I think, 'cause she stayed over that night. She told her that night. She's like, I remember when you first came over, I thought you were obnoxious. You were annoying. I was like, my gosh. Yeah, but so now they're just all like all three the best of friends, so they're hilarious together. So that's fun to see. And you're making memories, but it's like it doesn't have to be this big grand expensive vacation or it's just very lighthearted. And there are memories that you might not see in any other capacity. 'Cause you may not even see those personalities out on vacation. No. I know for me as a mom When we do vacations and stuff, like I think about when we went to Disneyland. it was fun. Not the funnest place on earth. It was fun. I'm challenging that right now. But as a mom in mom mode, I don't really feel like I enjoy the moments of vacations like everybody else does. You know, because I'm planning and worrying and doing and Between the kids and the plans and the whatever. And so for me, being at home and having game nights or just playing games with my kids and and you, those are a lot more enjoyable for me because I can just be in the moment. I'm not worried about what we're eating for dinner, where what the plan is for tomorrow and do I have everything ready for the kids and this and that and Well, and there are memories that they also gravitate to. Yeah. The year before we lost my mom, they were up here for the holidays. It was like six months before. And with in that year we decided, taking a cue from your parents, that we were gonna do some of those minute to win it games with my with my folks here. Because there's something that they had never done. Mm-hmm. My kids to this day still talk about that Christmas and that New Year's as probably the funnest thing that they've ever done. Yeah. So much so that they asked if they could do it this year and have my niece come over and because my dad's coming with the kids and it's something that they want to re experience. And I think it also helps them feel closer not just to my my dad and the kids but also to their grandma who they lost. Yeah. aside from all the other traditions that we have in the during the holidays, this is one that was meaningful enough to them that they talk about it all the time. Yeah. Yeah, I think it'll probably be one of our new traditions. and it's for the same thing is they got to spend time with their grandparents in a capacity that they don't always get to. They don't always get to have especially with my mom and my dad, right? Yeah. They were never the ones to play a lot of games. they loved they loved my kids. They treated my kids great, but it they were never really playful like that in that capacity like they were that particular Christmas. Yeah. and that was also the Christmas that my oldest got really close to my mom. Yeah. So Those are memories that you're never going to be able to experience if you're not involved in some of these analog type games that you do. tech is great. Yeah. It's fun. like I say, I use Fortnite as a decompress. But for The actual component of relationship building and having something meaningful. Yeah. Meaningful experiences. I would venture to say that, board games or, any kind of game like that that you can come up with is probably gonna have some of the best impact long term for the memories that you make. Yeah. I think it's just more quality time. It is. A hundred percent. you can think back to when you were a kid. I can think back to when I was a kid playing board games, right? My kids to this day speak about the board games that they play with grandma and the board games that they played with my mom and the board games that they play with grandpa and the And it's you see that we talk about all the time, right? You really get to experience that light. Yeah. When when you're involved in stuff like that. Not to say that it's always fun, because you do get people that get ultra competitive and get upset when they lose. Talking talking to my wife over here. I don't get upset, but I am competitive. I don't get mad if I lose. I just Don't like to lose. I don't like to lose. It's funny. but yeah, you know, I would challenge our listeners to really just take a moment and And do some of that unscripted low pressure memory building through, simple things like a board game. Yeah. again, it's something that is all over social media and I can understand why, you know, just talking through it a little bit with you this afternoon. Because I could see the value add. Yeah. Well, and I think too it's coming about because like we talked about last week, like the nineties. are really back right now and that in is including a lot of the way that we played games and my kids are interested in like those videos I sent them the other day about what our internet looked like back then, our America online and the dial up and infomercials and what was the other one I sent them? You sent them something for a phone. yeah, yeah. It was like it was like a headgear that would hold your home phone. You know, like those big long phones that have the spiral cords. Well it was like a headpiece that you could stick the phone up underneath it and it would hold it to make it hands free so that the lady was like washing dishes and she had the phone stuck up under the the headpiece, but They were like, You had do you had to wear those to hold your phone? I'm like Well yeah, it was connected to the wall. it had a big long cord. So I think a lot of the nineties stuff that's coming back is that includes the games and the arcade games especially. I mean retro's really in style right now. I can't say that. and you see it all over pop culture, Pac Man, Mega Man. Yeah. a lot of those a lot of those nineties horror flicks right now are are super popular and making a comeback. Yeah. our kids have been watching some of some of the not super scary movies, but some of the like Scream and what is the other one? I did let them watch House of a Thousand Corpses. What you let our oldest our youngest did not watch that. She would not sleep for a week, but they're watching The Purge. Yeah. which again don't come at us, but they know their movies and it's good for them to experience Our oldest really likes it. she's not really scared of it. she's very much I know this is fake, like it's she just is like you. She enjoys that. Those kind of movies. Our youngest wants to, I think, but she she cannot handle it. I have found that I don't enjoy them as much since I've had some of the courses I've had in college. Yeah. Make you look deeper into the Yeah. It's not as appealing to me to see some of the social commentary that is being put in front of you in a genre that I really enjoyed. but that's a whole nother topic for a whole nother day. Our youngest she doesn't watch that kind of stuff because it freaks her out. Yeah, and she won't sleep and then she's worried that what if it is real? she can't distinguish real from she can to a point. To a point, but but what if she in her mind it's what but what if there's always a what if something happens and it does happen, I know it hasn't happened, but it could. so we have to be careful with her at least. but I I think she just wants to enjoy them and watch them because her sister does. I think that's a big part of it. it's not something that she gravitates to naturally. It's not something that she'll choose to watch on her own. She's constantly asking me like what Scares me in those moments. Yeah. Yeah, I think she more enjoys comedies and But she's very in tune with her sister and what her sister likes right now. So she's actively trying to find things that she can have in common with her sister. Yes. Yeah. But I still don't let her watch those things 'cause I know they're not what she really is interested in and I know it's gonna affect her. And she won't watch them if she knows they're gonna be Yeah. they're watching the purge movies right now, but those I don't feel like those are real scary in that sense. It's just social commentary. Yeah. Yeah. I mean when you think about it. Again, I'm not as big of a fan now that I have dug a little deeper into some subjects. I like I will say that I will say that what is that ignorance is? But yeah, you know, with the popularization of retro gaming, retro clothing, and I call it retro, even though I think if to me it feels like it was yesterday. Yeah. Yeah, I have to constantly remind myself that I'm pushing fifty. You I'm retro. You have to wonder what the next big fad will be. Yeah. we'll see, I guess. 'Cause like what did I really enjoy the nineties right now though. I hope it stays a while. But it does feel like yesterday. It doesn't feel like it was that long ago. When I see a a lot of these things that the kids are into and just thinking back and listening to the music, that we used to listen to and I'm like, gosh, that really does not seem like that long ago. Time flies when you're having fun. It really does, yeah. Well and you think about right at the end of the nineties. life essentially changed. Yeah. Well, we all thought we were gonna die. Well, there was that because of Y2K there was there was that, right? And then, a year later you had nine eleven. Mm hmm. And that just changed the world. Ever yeah, changed yeah. It really did. So you really think about the nineties was the last real decade where kids didn't have to be worried about all the crap that they're worried about now. No. at least not to the extent that it it is now. I'm sure it was happening. I'm sure it was, but you didn't hear about it every day. and I don't know, I feel like even with nine eleven everything changed, but even with Y two K and the internet and technology and that's when everything really started you know. Yeah, like exploded ramped and exploded. So I feel like yeah, the nineties are The last kind of decade of I don't know what the word is. I'm looking for Naivity. Yeah. Yeah. People were really naive to the worlds, I feel like, still in the nineties. Mm-hmm. And had some real hard eye opening experiences once the new decade hit. Yeah. Yeah, I saw something the other day that someone was asking what decade you'd go back to if you could and I nineties all the way. you think about just I mean think about restaurants, right? Up until I would say even ninety nine, a lot of restaurants still had smoking sections. Mm-hmm. Yeah. You would not you could not get people to eat at a restaurant now with a smoking section. Mm-hmm. I don't even know if there is any anymore. And I bring that up because it's something that was so just normal. Yeah. I mean you just walk in and they And you were the smoking section and you were and you were naive to the fact that yeah, they're on they're on their side, so we're not in any danger, but right. You learn that yeah, that all the all those chemicals are everywhere and it's not good for anybody. So Yeah. And that's just one example, of a hundred that I can think of just off the top of my head. Yeah. Well, and you weren't so worried, I think too, about food and what you were eating and what's in you what you're eating and was healthy to you know, my grandma and my mom, they're always cooked and good old country style meals and that was healthy back I mean Well then you probably you were eating healthy. Yeah. That's what I'm saying. You didn't have to worry about everything that was genetically modified organics and organisms that are now present in foods. Yeah. Again, not to say that they weren't around in the nineties, but they weren't near as prevalent and they weren't so nobody was so hyper focused on it that people really I feel like yes, they were naive to the world, but they were also I would venture to say a little happier because they didn't have to think about all the crap that goes on. Yeah. because like right now, if I was my kids I would be a neurotic mess with everything. you can't get away from hearing about Iran. You can't get away from hearing about, Epstein Island and kids getting abducted about School shootings. School shootings and there's just something. I mean, we just had one close to home here. That seems close to home. it's not far from where we are. Yeah. Yeah. They just have so much access and knowledge of just so much more than we ever did. Yeah, and I guess we were just a lot more naive. Which is why I think this is a good trend. Mm-hmm. To really get off of the screens and off of the media and get back to basics of studies have shown that family structure contributes more to positive society than a lot of the the laws and everything that get put in place. Well Longevity. And long I mean you it's been proven you live longer. Yeah. Yeah, social integration with a family, having people having strong bonds, do I mean studies show that too. they allow you to have a longer life, a longer fulfilled life at that. More than the food you eat, more than exercises that you do. I mean, how often do you hear about people that, smoked and drank every day and lived to be a hundred? And a lot of the reason is because They had a strong family bond, a strong family connection, people that helped them maintain that integration into the family structure that allowed them to continue forward. Yeah. And not just family, friends, community. Yeah, you know. Just those bonds and that connection. So on that note, another listener question. what quick game starts instant rivalries in your house? what would you say is for you? In our house. I would say talk let's talk your you and your siblings house. What game caused the biggest rivalry? I can tell you in my family it was Monopoly. Hands down. Monopoly very closely tied in second by Uno. I don't know about my family. Might have been Monopoly. Might have been Boggle. I don't know. All of Maybe all of if I had to say in our family, it's probably that game that we're we've played. That's the one that we play the most, I feel. I don't know the name of it. It's something green theme. that's all I know. Green team. We'll post it down in the description. Yeah. I'll have to figure out what game it is. there is another one for us. It's called the game called Conquien. It's a Spanish game that my grandpa taught me. That one also creates instant rivalries. our yeah, Loteria. In our house. When we get Lotería out Yeah It gets kind of intense. Yeah, my daughter gets mad because you cannot Get any kind of advantage in that game whatsoever. Nope. So if hers don't get called. Yeah, I forgot about that one. Yeah. We do love playing lotería though. For those of you that don't know, that is basically Mexican bingo. Yeah. It's a good way to teach your kids Spanish too. It is. My my girls ask constantly what the words are and then repeat them back when we're playing. Yep. And then they'll try and gamble. Yes. But on that note, we do wish you the best. Have a blessed week. Please continue sharing your light. I do want to call attention to our website, WWW.SHAREDLIGHTPODCAST.COM We do have a shop section. We do have a way to get in contact with us. Like, share, and subscribe to any of our various platforms and social media. It's a good way to see what's going on with us and also a good way to connect if you're wanting to connect with us. Outside of that, have a good one.