Why Love Feels Unsafe: The Cycle of Abandonment Wounds
People with abandonment wounds often appear to need constant reassurance, but what’s really happening goes much deeper. Beneath the surface, they’re not just seeking love—they’re testing it.
Unconsciously, they may create situations where others have to “rescue” them emotionally. This isn’t manipulation in a calculated sense; it’s driven by a deep internal question: Are you going to stay? When someone shows up—offering comfort, attention, or reassurance—it briefly works. They feel safe, valued, and loved.
But that feeling doesn’t last.
The moment they experience love is also the moment their…
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