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The Dads: Late Nights, Little Victories, and Tough Choices · HAVE FAITH LET IT BEGIN®

• 0:31
  What's up, buddy? You know, just pacing around the house. Yeah.
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  Do some chores while I'm pacing.
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  And that's okay. That's what I wanted to talk to you about. You know,
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  as two dads, one father of a father of two, which is one is,
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  we're going to do our sons here.
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  So my son is three, going to be four, and yours is?
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  He's 18, going to be 19 here in about February 18th. Oh, that's right.
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  And look at that. My son's going to be four on January 22nd.
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  Oh, my. 24th. Oh, my God. I was going to say, that's tomorrow.
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  It's, yeah, January 24th, 24th, 2022.
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  That was his date of birth. That's what throws me off. Gotcha.
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  So welcome in, Tabby. We're doing a live episode on Half Faith.
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  Let it begin with our good friend, DJ Greg. And we're talking about fathers and nostalgia.
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  Tell me right now, what is the hardest part? Because only you can answer this,
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  Greg. What is the hardest part right now about being a dad to an 18-year-old?
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  Oh, worrying about where he is, what he's doing.
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  That is probably the hardest part right now. I actually just texted him about
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  30 minutes ago because me and my ex-wife, we split custody every other week.
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  And he hasn't been over in a couple of weeks.
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  It's because he's staying with
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  his friends. You know, he's trying to learn that life as an 18-year-old.
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  He's, I guess, helping his friends pay rent. And I have more power to him.
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  I applaud him for that, to be honest.
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  Yeah, of course. And we're seeing comments below.
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  Tabby's involved there. She says their decision-making. I'll have to agree with that.
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  I can't say that with a three-year-old, but I will say the decision-making of
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  oatmeal or oatmeal is usually the choice. And he wins every time.
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  I will say I lucked out here recently because he just got it.
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  All right. So he's going to college for automotive stuff. And he got a great
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  job here about six to seven months ago.
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  And he absolutely loves it. Like he literally works over a hundred,
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  not a hundred, over 80 hours a week. Okay. He absolutely loves it.
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  And when I go to my, you know, when I go to his grandfather, my dad, we go eat.
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  He just explains about what he does to cars and he absolutely loves it.
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  And it's just, I love seeing that work ethic.
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  See, and what we're going to do is, you know, we'll have to wait to get approval.
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  But if we can get approval where he works, maybe we can do something along the
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  lines of saying, hey, you know, get some good feedback for him.
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  Let's get some great, uh, you know, uh, what do you call it?
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  Uh, reviews for him so that he continues.
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  That'd be awesome. We have to do that five. Look, I have a five-year-old tabby
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  says a 17 year old and a 26 year old.
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  Oh man. Now are they all boys tabby? We have to ask her. Cause that's crazy.
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  Five, 17 and 26. Wow.
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  That's a spread. Yeah. Right. I mean, think about it. The five-year-old probably
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  doesn't know what time five kids. Yeah.
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  Holy. Oh my goodness, Debbie. We should have just put her on the show with us.
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  I'm over here. I'm complaining about two children. You got one successful.
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  Oh, keep them busy. Successful.
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  God bless. That is crazy. All right. So walk me down your path as far as you're
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  in, you're in a transition period right now, right?
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  So for those of you don't know, Greg and I, we met on TikTok.
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  My son was getting sick. Well, we thought we were sick. I was on TikTok because
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  I went into DJ Greg's live.
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  He is basically an entertainer, I like to call him, but an influencer.
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  I don't like to use the word influencer because it's thrown around so negatively. You didn't say DJ.
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  No, I didn't. I didn't. You're an entertainer. We call him DJ Greg because he plays the ones and twos.
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  We know that term in New York. That means he just keeps playing over and over and over again.
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  So he stopped his live because he heard that my son needed to be prayed over
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  and he prayed, oh, thank you.
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  He prayed over our live and we became friends ever since.
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  So I guess what I want to say to you is Greg, you're on a new journey.
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  We're trying to get Greg onto voiceovers. As you heard, he did a great job on our introduction.
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  With this new transition period as dads, I'll be more than happy to go first.
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  That way I don't keep throwing that. Yeah.
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  You know, you get to that age where you're like, okay, what can I do to make
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  this, you know, this child or children, um, understand that,
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  that life's not going to be easy, right?
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  It's, it's a challenge. It's a struggle, but you got to keep motivation.
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  So for me, um, because they're little, I'm constantly reminding them the rights and wrongs.
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  I'm constantly reminding them of, of what not to do, but more importantly,
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  what manners is all about.
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  I mean, where would you stand right now? I mean, are you still doing that?
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  You're always teaching, right?
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  Yeah, I mean, I agree with you completely. I'm so lucky that we,
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  you know, we had a, you know, we were married and we had a household all the
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  way up until he was 15. And we got to teach him, you know, what we thought was right and wrong.
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  And he learned from that. And like I said, he has a great work ethic. Yeah.
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  But, you know, he's seen the bumps and bruises both, you know,
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  me and her, his mom have gone through.
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  And he's also learned from that as well. So, and he has a little girlfriend too.
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  So, oh no, that's like, they've been together for like over a year now and they're doing good.
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  I'm worried about that. I imagine he's probably not like wanting to be like
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  his mom and dad, but it didn't end horribly. We were still co-parenting.
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  So, oh yeah, but that's a mile, mile and a half from me. So it's a maturity
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  of it. It's a maturity level.
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  And I think that that's something that you, you know, I think that he's learned
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  a lot in his 18 years. I will say that.
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  Yeah. Well, listen, you know, you went through the scars, right?
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  I did an episode not too long ago about scars and how they do heal.
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  Listen, we've all had our hearts broken as men. We can only speak about our
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  side of it. But at the end of the day, we get back up. We have no other choice
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  because we have children.
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  And we have to do our best to put our foots forward.
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  But more importantly, we got to do what's best for us too. It's about us too.
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  Yeah, exactly. I couldn't agree more. It's hard. What do you think is the hardest
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  part about being a dad? I can, poof.
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  Making good decisions on my own.
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  Being a single man. Yeah. You know, I mean, I had a corporate job twice,
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  the same job twice, and guess what I did? I removed myself twice.
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  Because, I mean, I think to now, I still regret the decision,
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  even if it was November 4th was the last time I worked there.
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  But yeah but you know what but you know what though greg you
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  may have had it made but i think we talked about this offline and we can
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  definitely explore this one other episode it's about
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  environment your environment was if i'm correct was not a good environment for
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  you and it wasn't healthy so sometimes yeah sometimes you gotta sometimes you
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  have to make a decision based on your health and i think that i think you removed
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  yourself the in a way where it caused you not to have a mental, uh.
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  Breakdown, so to speak.
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  I've been there. I have been there and I have pushed myself out of an environment.
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  I was a banker for two years and I really liked banking.
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  I do miss it, but there was an environment that just drove me up the wall.
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  They wanted me to lie. They wanted me to do this and that. And my,
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  one of my coworkers made me feel like, like crap.
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  And it was like, I can't do this. So I just removed myself. I regret it.
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  Yeah. I mean, I couldn't agree more. I mean, at the time, all I could think
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  about was life is short. Life is too short for this.
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  Like, why am I doing this to myself every day? Yeah, definitely.
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  I'm waking up on a Monday morning and not liking what I do.
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  Yes. That's how I looked at it. And I looked at it for a while.
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  My dad even saw it coming. He was like, did you quit yet? And I said,
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  you know what, dad? He called it. And I did.
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  Well, parents know, right? But we can't do it for ourselves when we are parenting our children.
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  But when it comes to us, our parents know still, even to this stage, what we did.
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  Isn't that weird? It's so weird. It is weird. I don't get it.
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  I didn't even plan to tell him until during our Thanksgiving vacation who we had with him.
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  And he asked me right before, and I was like, oh my gosh, please don't discuss
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  this over the whole family. Listen, it's called Parenting Radar.
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  Yeah, exactly. So what did he say? He just was like, he was like,
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  yeah, I mean, he literally said, so did you quit yet?
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  And that was the last thing he said before we got off the phone.
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  I said, dad, I started giggling. He said, yeah, you did, didn't you?
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  I was like, uh, maybe, yeah, let's not talk about it though.
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  Maybe after Thanksgiving.
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  That's, that's what you got to do. Well, you know, he kept that promise. He kept that promise.
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  And that's key. That's key. So this is a new segment. We're calling this the dads.
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  And every once in a while, we're going to bring DJ Greg back in.
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  We call him DJ Greg again because he knows how to spin the ones and twos and
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  he's a great entertainer.
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  Now, if you are an amazing TikToker follower, if you want to be entertained
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  by an influencer, if you want to be a part of a family, I suggest you find him. It's DJ Greg.
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  And we're going to put his link in our description page.
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  We're going to put a picture in his bio. We are encouraging you to stop by.
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  And if he doesn't know who you are, tell him.
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  You heard him on Half Faith. Let it begin. Tell him that you would like to be
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  a part of his family. And I'm telling you, he'll let you in.
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  Greg, always a pleasure. A lot of people don't know this, but Greg was,
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  at last second, I said, we're going to record.
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  And I said, by the way, you're also doing the intro. So Greg did not know.
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  And I wanted him to feel uncomfortable because I wanted him to come out of his
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  comfort level, which is important. I heard myself break up during the intro,
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  so I hope. No, who cares? I loved it. That's all that matters.
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  I liked it. So with that being said, everybody, we're going to do a quick prayer
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  because Greg's going to be seeing his pops tomorrow and that'll be around 1.30 Eastern Standard Time.
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  This is what I want all the Half-Faith Let It Begin people to do.
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  Tomorrow at 1.15 PM Eastern Standard Time, we are all going to stop and we're
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  going to pray that Greg's luncheon will go successful,
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  will be peaceful, will be enjoyable for the two of them.
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  And we want all dads out there to get along with their pops, with their moms.
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  And we are hoping that each and every one of you will help out and follow us
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  on this new series called The Dads.
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  It'll be starring myself and
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  DJ Greg. And guess what? We're inviting all dads. All dads are welcome.
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  But right now we're running the ones in twos because it's DJ Greg.
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  With that being said, God be with you.
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  Don't forget, God loves you. Don't forget that DJ Greg is here.
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  I'm here. And we'll see you next time On behalf of all of us Never forget Have faith.
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  That's it We'll talk to you soon.