Latest / Next Act with Jeff Ornstein / Estes Tarver - Actor, Director & Artistic Director, Moonlight Arts and Entertainment
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- 0:02Jeff Ornstein: Today's guest is Estes Tarver, an award-winning actor, director, writer, producer, and voice artist with more than 25 years in the entertainment industry.
- 0:12Jeff Ornstein: He is the founder and artistic director of Moonlight Arts and Entertainment and has appeared in projects including Outer Banks, Mayor of Kingston, Mr.
- 0:20Jeff Ornstein: Mercedes, Under the Dome, and House of Cards.
- 0:23Jeff Ornstein: Estes also wrote, directed, and produced and starred in the award-winning feature film Changeover, now streaming on Amazon.
- 0:31Jeff Ornstein: Besides his own work, he coaches actors and has served as a creative advisor for the Sundance Film Festival Feature Film Lab.
- 0:38Jeff Ornstein: Estes, welcome.
- 0:40Jeff Ornstein: Thank you.
- 0:41Jeff Ornstein: Good to be here.
- 0:42Jeff Ornstein: That's a mouthful in terms of an introduction.
- 0:45Jeff Ornstein: You have been very busy.
- 0:47Jeff Ornstein: So I want to kind of just jump right into it.
- 0:50Jeff Ornstein: It's not uncommon that folks start as directors and then they feel, oh, there's a role I want to play, but it doesn't exist.
- 0:58Jeff Ornstein: So I'm going to write it.
- 0:59Jeff Ornstein: They become writers.
- 1:00Jeff Ornstein: And oftentimes after they've got a couple of projects under their belt, they get a yearning to be behind the lens and be a director.
- 1:09Jeff Ornstein: What was your journey there?
- 1:11Jeff Ornstein: How did that all develop for you?
- 1:13Estes Tarver: Oh, that's a that's a good question.
- 1:14Estes Tarver: I was a late starting actor.
- 1:16Estes Tarver: I think I took my first acting class for my last semester of college.
- 1:19Estes Tarver: I was pre-med psych with four of us studying my brains out.
- 1:23Estes Tarver: And I realized from this class, oh my gosh, this is what I want to do.
- 1:26Estes Tarver: And I realized I think I just wanted to be on ER.
- 1:29Estes Tarver: I didn't really want to be a doc.
- 1:30Estes Tarver: Which also dates me a little.
- 1:32Estes Tarver: And so, but I started knocking around and I didn't know anybody in the business.
- 1:36Estes Tarver: So I was in Tennessee at the time, and I started trying to find wherever I could acting stuff.
- 1:41Estes Tarver: And then as I trained more and more, and I started to find things in the butt started doing country music videos out of Nashville, and I was doing things like that and some theater and kind of a little bit of everything.
- 1:54Estes Tarver: And then I went to LA after I got some work and was there for a couple of years.
- 1:59Estes Tarver: And I really learned while I was in LA, because I had been uh actually, believe it or not, I was tennis, I played through college playing tennis, and I was one of my day jobs was teaching tennis, and I was doing mostly that and bartending while I was running around LA trying to piece together some kind of acting career.
- 2:19Estes Tarver: And as an athlete, I really was like, man, I used to do this six days a week.
- 2:23Estes Tarver: I played tennis six days a week.
- 2:25Estes Tarver: That's how I got really good.
- 2:26Estes Tarver: And so it made me want to go find a way to do that, which for me was grad school.
- 2:30Estes Tarver: So I went and got my master's at Carolina in acting, and I was really lucky.
- 2:36Estes Tarver: I hit them at a time when they had it was like a lot of old Yale faculty had come down there and was teaching old mine in terms of who was there.
- 2:45Estes Tarver: I had read about them all, and I really wanted to lucky enough to get in there because they take eight people.
- 2:49Estes Tarver: So I had auditioned for about, I don't know, 13 programs, 15 programs, and I got into two of them.
- 2:54Estes Tarver: And then I went to Carolina, and after I got my master's, I got agents in New York, and I went up to New York and was doing well, but I'm so not someone who waits well.
- 3:06Estes Tarver: So while I'm like, I'm having good things happen, I'm booking some plays and soaps, but for me, the six months in between these things or four months in between, or whatever the action business is, I always tell my students and people think about a week in any other business is six months in the entertainment business in terms of waitings.
- 3:25Estes Tarver: So I'm like, you're gonna be waiting.
- 3:26Estes Tarver: So what are you doing while you're waiting?
- 3:28Estes Tarver: And basically, that was around 2010 when I was really realizing all that and why I was frustrated, and I was like, digital was really starting to blow up, and I was like, I'm gonna go start making stuff.
- 3:40Estes Tarver: And for me, it wasn't about a certain role.
- 3:42Estes Tarver: I I'm like, I'll play anything, I just love to act.
- 3:45Estes Tarver: So I was like, what movie could I make in North Carolina that I would sort of pick that location for?
- 3:52Estes Tarver: What kind of movie?
- 3:53Estes Tarver: I also had a lot of students after a couple of years, and I had a couple of students that were doing amazing work.
- 3:58Estes Tarver: So I was like, I'm gonna cast them, they've been training their butts off.
- 4:02Estes Tarver: What am I writing?
- 4:02Estes Tarver: And I kind of a backwards engineer writing.
- 4:05Estes Tarver: To me, it's sort of the Mark DuPlass model.
- 4:08Estes Tarver: He talks about what are your locations?
- 4:09Estes Tarver: He wrote a film that got into Sunday, and it's called The Puffy Chair, and he wrote it because he had a puffy chair, and he was like, What can I do with this?
- 4:16Estes Tarver: So changeover was really, I had this great student that was like, she was like my niece.
- 4:23Estes Tarver: I had coached her for a long time, and I literally was like, Let's what is this story?
- 4:27Estes Tarver: And then I wrote it based on a handful of things.
- 4:31Estes Tarver: I also dealt with a lot of clinical depression in my 20s, so it was hereditary.
- 4:36Estes Tarver: And so as I had worked through all of that and then had all these other elements, this story came together.
- 4:43Estes Tarver: I was really excited about the story, not as much worried about what I was playing, but I was like, I'm gonna play this uncle who takes care of this kid.
- 4:51Estes Tarver: And the premise of the movie is her parents die, and she has to go live with her uncle, who's a single dad with an eight-year-old.
- 4:57Estes Tarver: And so that's what the setup is.
- 4:59Estes Tarver: So it was also very character-driven.
- 5:01Estes Tarver: No car chases, no big budget things I need.
- 5:04Estes Tarver: Let's make a story that we can shoot.
- 5:06Estes Tarver: And then we raised about 45,000, and I put in about 15 by the end of it with promotion and stuff, and nine festivals and things like that.
- 5:16Estes Tarver: But the story came out of all of that, and I had literally left New York saying, okay, I want to try to have made a feature within five years of being in North Carolina.
- 5:25Estes Tarver: And what was so crazy was Atlanta also exploded and North Carolina at the time with work.
- 5:31Estes Tarver: So I started getting a lot of television because I was in the Southeast, which totally surprised me because I had been in New York and I was getting things, but it's a much more saturated market.
- 5:41Estes Tarver: And all of a sudden, the Southeast needs actors.
- 5:44Estes Tarver: And it's like, wait, this guy has training, put him in the small pile.
- 5:48Estes Tarver: And so I was getting looks at things that I wasn't getting looks at in New York for a while, and now it's pretty saturated in the Southeast now, but it's still a great market.
- 5:56Estes Tarver: It's mature over the last kind of 14 years.
- 5:58Estes Tarver: But anyway, so the movie came out of kind of all of that stuff, and I made it in three years.
- 6:04Estes Tarver: I've been down there three years, and it was shot by 2013.
- 6:09Estes Tarver: I think we went through the post, it took a year, and then we got it into we started entering it in festivals, and I had to learn that game, which is a whole nother game.
- 6:17Estes Tarver: And then it started to actually get in a lot of stuff a year later, and so and then it won some best pitchers.
- 6:23Estes Tarver: Then I got a distributor that's out of LA, and then and now it's on, I think it's on about four streaming platforms now, but it's been it's honestly been trending in the last year, which is crazy because it's done a little bit of this, and now, like in the last year, it's really been probably some of the most views it's had, which is kind of great.
- 6:42Jeff Ornstein: Well, it's awesome.
- 6:42Jeff Ornstein: I mean, from what I've seen of it, you have a great connection with the actress playing your niece.
- 6:47Jeff Ornstein: It's a powerful premise.
- 6:49Jeff Ornstein: Clearly, the festival circuit loved it because I there were so many laurels on the poster.
- 6:54Jeff Ornstein: I had to keep making it bigger because they were so small too in order to read what it was.
- 6:57Jeff Ornstein: So congratulations.
- 6:59Jeff Ornstein: And also, first time out of the gate for your first project to do so amazing and well, be so well received, must have made you feel over the moon.
- 7:07Jeff Ornstein: And I want to keep doing this.
- 7:08Jeff Ornstein: I mean, I don't think you need any encouragement to keep doing it.
- 7:10Jeff Ornstein: Clearly, you want to keep doing it.
- 7:12Estes Tarver: You have to, it's a grind.
- 7:13Estes Tarver: Making movies is hard work, so you're right.
- 7:15Estes Tarver: It's it takes a little what you say, I think has a lot of truth to it, is in terms of you got to gear up for another one if you're gonna do it.
- 7:21Estes Tarver: I did so many jobs on that one that I'm like, I don't know that I could do that many jobs again at the same time.
- 7:27Estes Tarver: But it's like you're writing, you act and you're directing, and it's I wouldn't change a thing about it.
- 7:33Estes Tarver: It was such a great process, and I learned so much.
- 7:36Estes Tarver: But at the same time, I've also learned as a director or an actor, like whichever hat I'm wearing, if I want to enjoy it, it's easy to overload it if you're doing all those jobs and go, Yeah, I've got to do them all.
- 7:48Estes Tarver: And then you get done and go, Well, we got it done, and I think it was good, but and I didn't really get to stop and drink coffee with an actor or or enjoy any of the, you know, so I've learned like how I do it adapts, I guess.
- 7:59Jeff Ornstein: So it now there are people who believe that the film festivals, first of all, it's a great honor just to get into one, let alone then be given a distinguishing award for a particular facet of it, but they don't necessarily translate into distribution, which yours did.
- 8:16Jeff Ornstein: So I mean, that's an accomplishment also on top of an accomplishment on top of an accomplishment.
- 8:22Jeff Ornstein: Did you find that you had new relationships developed from the film festival circuit?
- 8:30Estes Tarver: Yes, in small places, like what you're saying is I think 100% true, is like really most of the time, distribution situations don't because there's so many festivals now.
- 8:43Estes Tarver: And I think for filmmakers, it's really good to look at a festival and say, okay, it's a festival.
- 8:49Estes Tarver: Is it also a good event?
- 8:51Estes Tarver: Do they know how to put on a good event, or are they just cranking out a festival, getting entry fees, and screening all these movies without saying, hey, how do we make this an event that's gonna be fun for people to attend?
- 9:05Estes Tarver: Do promote the filmmakers?
- 9:06Estes Tarver: Can we get distributors to this thing and have the filmmakers get to meet them?
- 9:11Estes Tarver: If they're not doing all those things, I think festivals can be a tough thing because they are all getting more entries than they have room for by a ton.
- 9:20Estes Tarver: And then also, I really learned that game.
- 9:23Estes Tarver: I had submitted to us a ton of stuff and not heard a peep, and I got a rep.
- 9:27Estes Tarver: And the rep was expensive.
- 9:30Estes Tarver: I did it for basically a year, but the rep was great, and the rep told me the game.
- 9:35Estes Tarver: And she said, look, I've heard Rebecca Luisa Smith, she's called the Film Festival Doctor.
- 9:41Estes Tarver: That's her business real.
- 9:42Estes Tarver: Yeah.
- 9:42Estes Tarver: But she said, Hey, look, here's how programming works at festivals.
- 9:47Estes Tarver: They look at this first, then they look at this, then they look at this, then they look at these entries.
- 9:52Estes Tarver: And it's like, if you're just entering on your own, you might be down.
- 9:56Estes Tarver: They've already got 95% of their content when they're looking at the entries.
- 10:00Estes Tarver: So she said, they call me, or if I send them something and I have a relationship, they know, hey, this came from Rebecca, let's give it a watch.
- 10:08Estes Tarver: But I really learned, I also, some of them will say we screen every entry, and I go, maybe, because I did the math on how many screeners they would need with the number of entries they had over, say, four months.
- 10:18Estes Tarver: And I was like, they need three screeners, and all that communication's got to be tough.
- 10:23Estes Tarver: So I kind of went, okay, I think I need to try this.
- 10:26Estes Tarver: And when I did, it was amazing.
- 10:28Estes Tarver: The minute I started with her, she said, Hey, because I had to pay her a retainer, and she goes, You're gonna hate me because I know you just made a movie, so you're probably broke.
- 10:35Estes Tarver: And she goes, but I want you to enter it here tonight.
- 10:39Estes Tarver: The entry fee is a hundred bucks, send it to World Fest Houston.
- 10:43Estes Tarver: I did, it got in, and then it won the Houston Film Critics, gave me best actor.
- 10:49Estes Tarver: It won a platinum remi and all it did amazing at the festival.
- 10:52Estes Tarver: And what's so funny is I don't know that it would have gotten seen had I not entered it the right way.
- 10:57Jeff Ornstein: Right, right.
- 10:58Jeff Ornstein: So tell me this.
- 10:59Jeff Ornstein: I mean, that has a very human, the tale is very human and it's very personal.
- 11:04Jeff Ornstein: And the way, by the way, it's filmed, really, is almost like the cinematography of it is almost another character in the film.
- 11:11Jeff Ornstein: It's so beautiful.
- 11:12Jeff Ornstein: Are those the kinds of stories that interest you the most to tell?
- 11:16Jeff Ornstein: Or they are.
- 11:17Jeff Ornstein: So it's small cast, intimate story.
- 11:21Estes Tarver: Yeah, well, it doesn't necessarily have to be all those things, but I what I would say is that's actually something that one of my producers that I work with, I just sent them a feature that I'm starting to pitch and stuff.
- 11:32Estes Tarver: And and she said, when I read these things, it's like I get a little life lesson when I read them.
- 11:38Estes Tarver: And I was like, Ah, I'm so glad to hear that.
- 11:41Estes Tarver: Because why I got into acting in the first place was because I would watch my favorite things and go, man, I feel like I I learned something about life through the lens of this person that, or I connected to something that I go through that makes me feel a little less alone as a person on the planet struggling in their 20s or whatever.
- 12:03Estes Tarver: But so for me, the movies that stand out the most, the stories that stand out the most for me are the ones where I go, hey, this watching this teaches me something about life in some way where I think has value for all of us.
- 12:16Estes Tarver: So those are the stories that I pick.
- 12:19Jeff Ornstein: Right.
- 12:19Jeff Ornstein: So okay, that makes a lot of sense.
- 12:21Jeff Ornstein: And it kind of ties to the lead to good leading to my next question, which was well, let's see, the way the producers described it, it said your work being deeply rooted in human resilience and transformation, and your journey feels like a slow burn instead of an overnight success.
- 12:36Jeff Ornstein: So you're like a slow, steady, self-aware, it's all coming together as it's going to come together.
- 12:43Jeff Ornstein: And some people don't have the patience for that for our industry, or they're easily discouraged.
- 12:48Jeff Ornstein: I mean, were you able to deal with rejection and disappointment easily, or did that impact you?
- 12:53Jeff Ornstein: Or it doesn't seem like it slowed you down any.
- 12:56Estes Tarver: No, but it's a great man.
- 12:57Estes Tarver: That's a great way to say that.
- 12:58Estes Tarver: I always tell this story a lot.
- 13:00Estes Tarver: Do you know who Harris Ewin is?
- 13:02Estes Tarver: He was the guy on Ozark who was like with the heart machines, the roommate.
- 13:07Estes Tarver: He's been in Ghostbusters 2.
- 13:09Estes Tarver: He was the judge at the beginning.
- 13:11Estes Tarver: He was in training day.
- 13:12Estes Tarver: He was one of the guys, he tells the story about the chunky gif with Denzel.
- 13:16Estes Tarver: This guy's been acting forever.
- 13:19Estes Tarver: And he came to my grad school when I was training and said, Hey, look, for some people, this happens quick.
- 13:26Estes Tarver: For most people, it's a 20-year journey if you can with it that long.
- 13:31Estes Tarver: Because he said, For me, it was a 20-year journey.
- 13:34Estes Tarver: I can tell you a lot of my friends, we started really working after we'd been going for 20 years.
- 13:38Estes Tarver: And he goes, and he said, So if you can find anything else that makes you happy, go do it.
- 13:44Estes Tarver: And if not, you're an actor.
- 13:47Jeff Ornstein: And I was literally sitting there reiterated by other people that like yourself, seasoned person in the industry, and it seems like never a truer word was spoken.
- 13:57Jeff Ornstein: So bring that brings me to your other really intense endeavor, which is Moonlight Arts and Entertainment.
- 14:05Jeff Ornstein: So that ties to your mentorship and helping forming young actors develop their sense of awareness and their craft.
- 14:14Jeff Ornstein: Do you find that the students you're teaching, do you think that because I have a lot of young people come through my office at my day job, and I've noticed a seismic shift in the approach to life over the last 40 years that I've had my business.
- 14:29Jeff Ornstein: How where are your students on the spectrum?
- 14:31Jeff Ornstein: Are they impatient?
- 14:32Jeff Ornstein: Are you able to break through and say this is a what's the word?
- 14:36Jeff Ornstein: A marathon, not a sprint, and you got to be patient.
- 14:40Jeff Ornstein: How are they dealing with it all?
- 14:41Estes Tarver: Oh my gosh, these are great questions.
- 14:43Estes Tarver: I this is stuff that I talk about all the time.
- 14:45Estes Tarver: The biggest thing that I try to instill in them is the realities of the business, because I say, look, I could tell you you might hit it tomorrow, you might hit it in 10 years or 20 years.
- 14:56Estes Tarver: The biggest thing I can prepare you for is to show you what it's really like so that you have a realistic understanding of what you'll get into.
- 15:03Estes Tarver: And the first thing is so many people now, it's so easy to get on camera now.
- 15:08Estes Tarver: Whereas when I was coming up, when we were coming up, it was so hard to get on camera.
- 15:14Estes Tarver: You had to have connections and training and all the things lined up to even be filmed in anything.
- 15:19Estes Tarver: And now you can turn your phone on and film yourself.
- 15:22Estes Tarver: And it's like what that in some ways has led to, which is I think what you're talking about, is a little bit of like, I want to be in a movie.
- 15:30Estes Tarver: Can we do that tomorrow?
- 15:30Estes Tarver: And you go, have you trained at acting?
- 15:33Estes Tarver: Are you a good actor?
- 15:34Estes Tarver: Have you worked at that skill?
- 15:35Estes Tarver: And if you haven't, that's what I would recommend first.
- 15:38Estes Tarver: And some of that will be on camera.
- 15:40Estes Tarver: But I used to say to I'll have an actor get a big audition for the first time, and they'll be so excited.
- 15:46Estes Tarver: And I'm like, look, I love the excitement.
- 15:47Estes Tarver: And I I'll coach them, we'll crush a tape.
- 15:49Estes Tarver: They'll do a really good tape.
- 15:50Estes Tarver: They know it's a good tape.
- 15:52Estes Tarver: And now they're even more excited to book it.
- 15:54Estes Tarver: And I go, look, here's the deal.
- 15:56Estes Tarver: If you get down to the last 10 actors for this part, they're all going to have amazing tapes.
- 16:02Estes Tarver: And it's going to be about which flavor the producers and the directors want.
- 16:06Estes Tarver: And so if you're down to the last 10, you now have a 10% chance of booking the part.
- 16:12Estes Tarver: And then I'll say, now I know that sounds terrible, but what I'm preparing you for is to say, so go get 10 callbacks and you might hit one.
- 16:20Estes Tarver: And then your odds of getting the next one get better as your resume grows.
- 16:25Estes Tarver: And so that's what I try to instill in their brains.
- 16:29Estes Tarver: Doesn't always work.
- 16:31Jeff Ornstein: It's interesting because a very close friend of mine is a very successful booking coach.
- 16:35Jeff Ornstein: So in Los Angeles, and she's known on both coasts.
- 16:39Jeff Ornstein: I mean, she's got a great program, seminars, everything, blah, blah, blah.
- 16:42Jeff Ornstein: She's very skilled.
- 16:43Jeff Ornstein: And she said to me, They'll call a hundred people in for a audition for a role.
- 16:48Jeff Ornstein: 90 of them will suck.
- 16:50Jeff Ornstein: So that leaves 10.
- 16:52Jeff Ornstein: And if you're one of the 10, you're good.
- 16:54Jeff Ornstein: Okay.
- 16:54Jeff Ornstein: So the question is do you have the ward on your nose the way the director wanted the character to appear?
- 17:00Jeff Ornstein: It's very similar to what you're saying.
- 17:02Jeff Ornstein: That's exactly right.
- 17:03Jeff Ornstein: Exactly what I'm saying.
- 17:04Jeff Ornstein: Right.
- 17:05Jeff Ornstein: Then you're good.
- 17:06Jeff Ornstein: You can't then if you don't get it, it could be something completely out of your control and have nothing to do with the your performance and how you read on the character, anything.
- 17:15Jeff Ornstein: Could you whatever the way you wore parted your hair that day.
- 17:18Jeff Ornstein: So interestingly, I also understand you've had what you've described as a couple of big near misses in Hollywood.
- 17:26Jeff Ornstein: Now, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger.
- 17:28Jeff Ornstein: I mean, did that set you back a bit?
- 17:31Jeff Ornstein: How did you deal with that?
- 17:32Estes Tarver: I had one that was a lead in a film opposite an A-lister.
- 17:36Estes Tarver: And I found out on the day before they were gonna cast it that it was down to two guys.
- 17:43Estes Tarver: And well, actually, I found out the day they cast it, my agent said the other guy got it.
- 17:48Estes Tarver: And I said, the one other guy?
- 17:50Estes Tarver: And she goes, Yeah.
- 17:52Estes Tarver: And I said, What happened?
- 17:53Estes Tarver: And she said, Well, she said they had two scripts, and if it goes this way, it's a lead role and you're booking it.
- 18:01Estes Tarver: And if it goes this way, and that there was another A-lister in the movie that wanted the story to center around their character, and it was initially the two guys in a girl movie, and this other actor wanted it to be about this guy, and so when he made that, I will do it otherwise.
- 18:20Estes Tarver: The script where I was gonna play the lead went to the shelf, and the part went down to one scene where the guy was like a jerk and it they wanted a different look.
- 18:29Estes Tarver: And I was like 25 and blue-eyed, and so I would look like a nice guy, and that's why it worked as a lead because it's hard to break up with him.
- 18:36Estes Tarver: He's a nice guy when it was this one of those.
- 18:39Estes Tarver: And so I what was so funny is I was like devastated for a minute, and then I hung up the phone and I heard how upset my agent was, and I called her back and I said, Hey, it's gonna be okay, we're gonna get another one.
- 18:49Estes Tarver: And she was like, Yeah, yeah.
- 18:52Jeff Ornstein: Yeah, how sweet though.
- 18:54Jeff Ornstein: How sweet.
- 18:54Jeff Ornstein: I mean, to know she's really in your corner for you.
- 18:57Estes Tarver: Yeah, she was the best.
- 18:58Estes Tarver: She's casting out, she's a great agent.
- 19:00Estes Tarver: I loved her.
- 19:02Jeff Ornstein: Tell me this on a little bit more of a somber note.
- 19:04Jeff Ornstein: You discussed that there have been times where there have been mental distress that has impacted you, and as it does everyone, we all go through periods of that, and how we deal with it can be deeply personal and very different from even someone that's very close to us.
- 19:19Jeff Ornstein: But those things, that kind of those kinds of experiences where you're really challenging your inner strength can really be transformative in your performance.
- 19:29Jeff Ornstein: And I was just wondering, because if I understood it, I think your academy and your acting does start with some lot of folks that are very young and then goes through different age groups.
- 19:41Jeff Ornstein: But when you're really young, you might not have a lot of those downward spiral situations that can actually be really beneficial to an actor.
- 19:50Estes Tarver: Understanding, yeah.
- 19:52Jeff Ornstein: Right.
- 19:52Jeff Ornstein: So is there a way that you can express experiences to your students that you're mentoring for and how that would impact your role if they haven't had that experience?
- 20:03Estes Tarver: Yeah, well, that's that's again a great question.
- 20:05Estes Tarver: I was doing this yesterday.
- 20:06Estes Tarver: I was working with an actor yesterday that if I can tell they don't, I will look for analogies in their life and sometimes simpler analogies.
- 20:15Estes Tarver: There's a lot of stories that are dealing with loss in some way.
- 20:18Estes Tarver: And I'll ask a 10-year-old, have you ever lost a pet?
- 20:21Estes Tarver: And lots of times I'll get a yes of something, or have you ever had a best friend move away?
- 20:26Estes Tarver: Or have you ever had to move?
- 20:27Estes Tarver: And I'll ask these questions that lots of times will provoke a and I'll see a reaction in the actor, go, oh yeah.
- 20:33Estes Tarver: And I go, Okay, well, let's play with that idea in underneath in the scene.
- 20:38Estes Tarver: And then sometimes different things work with different actors, but sometimes then I'll also share experiences of mine and I'll see them connect and go, Oh, I've I have I know something like that.
- 20:50Estes Tarver: And then sometimes it's okay if you haven't had any of this.
- 20:54Estes Tarver: Let's find something else to play with behaviorally, and we'll do that.
- 20:58Estes Tarver: And behavior tells a story too.
- 21:00Estes Tarver: And sometimes for them, it's understanding what is really there in a moment, meaning I had one yesterday, and there was a moment, and the scene was really about telling this other character who was really down that they were gonna be their friend and they were there for him.
- 21:15Estes Tarver: And it was this this kid saying, I don't have this, and I don't have this, and I've never had this.
- 21:19Estes Tarver: And this other kid says, Well, you do now.
- 21:22Estes Tarver: And the actor was like, I feel like I have to deliver this perfectly.
- 21:25Estes Tarver: And I said, No, it's not about it's about you letting him know and make sure that he and then I said, So say it to him, and then make sure that he hears you say it, and then he heard you.
- 21:35Estes Tarver: And so, because I said, I'm gonna react because I'm reading with him lots of times, and I said, I'm gonna hear it, and it's gonna make me do something, and you need to see what that is.
- 21:42Estes Tarver: And then the actor will say it, and then I'll react as the other character, and then they'll see it, and it'll make them go, Oh, I just gave a gift.
- 21:51Estes Tarver: And then you see this moment of these two people coming together, and it may not be exactly what you expected, but it's usually pretty great.
- 21:58Jeff Ornstein: Is that wonderful?
- 21:59Estes Tarver: Yeah, it's What's too great about it?
- 22:01Jeff Ornstein: You've been a veteran now for a bit, a little bit.
- 22:03Jeff Ornstein: I'm not going to age you or date you, but you know, it's not your first day at the rodeo.
- 22:07Jeff Ornstein: And the industry has gone through some significant changes kind of rapidly in the last decade or so.
- 22:14Jeff Ornstein: Basically, since you've been around for a bit, I mean, what is your take on the changes?
- 22:18Jeff Ornstein: Does the business still surprise you, or have you been able to roll with the punches so much that nothing surprises you anymore?
- 22:25Estes Tarver: I think I still get surprised some, and some of it I'm surprised, but I'm like, well, it's not a surprise that happened, but it's a surprise.
- 22:32Estes Tarver: But so I roll with a lot.
- 22:33Estes Tarver: Like in the last 10 years, I would tell you, I agree, like massive, especially then COVID and all the strikes and everything.
- 22:40Estes Tarver: Like for me, you know, and a lot of my friends, there's a three and a half year dead zone in everybody's careers.
- 22:47Estes Tarver: And I was even talking to a friend of mine in New York who does a ton of stuff as a director and a coach.
- 22:53Estes Tarver: And I was like starting to really get back, get myself back going.
- 22:56Estes Tarver: This is probably two years ago.
- 22:57Estes Tarver: I had family stuff happening, so I had kind of taken myself out for a while to get everything right with parents and things like that.
- 23:04Estes Tarver: And so as I was coming back in, I was talking to him about re-entering, and he said, Estes, everyone has a three-year gap on their resume.
- 23:11Estes Tarver: Go look.
- 23:12Jeff Ornstein: Yeah, you know, I hear it from a lot of our guests.
- 23:14Jeff Ornstein: So they keep busy with other stuff.
- 23:16Jeff Ornstein: And in fact, I had someone talk about your medical experience.
- 23:20Jeff Ornstein: I had a fellow who is a doctor at MD Anderson, and I don't know, 32 gave it up and went to LA.
- 23:29Jeff Ornstein: And he said, I I went from rich to poor overnight.
- 23:32Jeff Ornstein: And but and he's very committed.
- 23:35Jeff Ornstein: I mean, obviously, if he's leaving a career like that behind, and but keeping busy with projects and writing and directing, but he talked also about 12-month, and 18-month and 24-month drive periods.
- 23:48Jeff Ornstein: And you have to be determined to say this is part of the career that I've chosen.
- 23:53Jeff Ornstein: Okay, of course, we've gone grossly over time, but I did want to just ask you two quick questions.
- 23:58Jeff Ornstein: Is there a story you're dying to tell?
- 24:01Estes Tarver: Is there something percolating in the SD's brain works that you want to I have two features that I've written that are not easy sells because they're not, it's what you just said earlier.
- 24:11Estes Tarver: They're not big concept features, which a lot of people are looking for.
- 24:15Estes Tarver: Hey, does it open with a car chase or three speed boats crashing into each other?
- 24:20Estes Tarver: And they're human stories, but one of them is a story about a girl who goes to meet her grandmother and her grandmother disowns the family, and she goes to Portugal to try to meet her.
- 24:30Estes Tarver: And so that's a story that I love that I've been starting to pitch.
- 24:34Estes Tarver: And then I have another story that's about a uh vigilante woman who's 75, who's a baker in a small town.
- 24:42Estes Tarver: And I kind of wrote it after one of my mentors, Joan Darling, who is uh I credit her with so much of the good things that have happened to me.
- 24:50Estes Tarver: And so it's like a dark comedy about this baker who's taking out the bad people in the small town.
- 24:56Estes Tarver: It'd be the most fun to shoot that thing.
- 24:58Estes Tarver: So I'm really starting to sort of pitch more.
- 25:00Estes Tarver: I used to produce myself a lot, and I'm getting to where I'm like, I want to start just putting decks together and starting to see how I get interest other ways rather than doing the self-funding is always an issue.
- 25:12Jeff Ornstein: Always an issue.
- 25:13Jeff Ornstein: Okay, I'm gonna wrap it up with asking you this question.
- 25:16Jeff Ornstein: So here you are, your younger self, you're sitting in your first acting class, which was a deep, soulful search that you did junior year, I think it was you said in college.
- 25:26Jeff Ornstein: Um senior, yeah.
- 25:28Jeff Ornstein: Senior, pardon me.
- 25:29Jeff Ornstein: And so from that that kid sitting in your first acting class to what you where you are now, is there anything if you told him that would you think would shock you that based upon your life's experiences, get ready, batten down the hatches because this is what you're in for, or is it kind of what you thought it would be?
- 25:50Estes Tarver: Oh I said something about this the other day to my wife.
- 25:52Estes Tarver: I said if I looked back and was able to look forward as that kid and see, hey, look what you did, I'd be super thrilled.
- 26:01Estes Tarver: Because I was the shyest guy on the planet.
- 26:03Estes Tarver: I was like, what am I doing?
- 26:05Estes Tarver: But it's all I wanted to do.
- 26:06Estes Tarver: And then looking back to that kid, I would say that it definitely was going to be harder than you thought in Lays, but always worth it to stick it out.
- 26:17Estes Tarver: And George Cloney said something I'll never forget, just to say, he said, Success teaches you nothing, failure teaches you everything.
- 26:24Estes Tarver: And then he said, But I never won't look back and say, Man, I didn't, I wish I would have tried that or I didn't do it, I didn't finish it.
- 26:32Estes Tarver: He said, That's always going to be the regret versus I tried it, I failed at it, I didn't do it, but I tried.
- 26:37Estes Tarver: And then I would also say, you don't have to starve either.
- 26:40Estes Tarver: I try to tell that to a lot of actors.
- 26:42Estes Tarver: I go, get the right job for you.
- 26:44Estes Tarver: Don't think of it as Will Smith said, plan B is just another way to get to plan A.
- 26:50Estes Tarver: And he said, So just because you're going to get a job that's gonna give you a little bit of a more you're not gonna have to starve all the time.
- 26:58Estes Tarver: It's gonna help you take classes and do workshops and get headshots and all the stuff you have to do as an actor.
- 27:03Estes Tarver: Don't consider it your give up job.
- 27:06Estes Tarver: Consider it the job.
- 27:08Estes Tarver: If you're always looking at it as the job that's gonna make plan A work eventually, that's what it'll do.
- 27:13Estes Tarver: I say that to everybody as I go, get a good plan B that's gonna help you get to plan A in a way that's gonna be a life you enjoy because you can't trust the bigness.
- 27:24Estes Tarver: And I tell them looking wide actors that is like you might book a big gig tomorrow and it might be in 20 years, and I can't tell you, and it may have nothing to do with how good of an actor you are.
- 27:34Estes Tarver: So you have to enjoy that 20 years, and you that's the thing to figure out.
- 27:39Jeff Ornstein: Right, that's awesome.
- 27:40Jeff Ornstein: All right, my friend.
- 27:41Jeff Ornstein: It was a pleasure having you on.
- 27:43Jeff Ornstein: If you get one of your two little German germinating ideas, starts getting up big up momentum.
- 27:49Jeff Ornstein: I hope you call us back, come back on the show, tell us what's going on.
- 27:52Jeff Ornstein: Maybe during the process, maybe after you go into production, maybe once you start entering whenever you feel you want to talk, yeah.
- 27:58Jeff Ornstein: And I'd love to hear more about all of you the time you spend in your academy and at Sundance and everything.
- 28:05Jeff Ornstein: It just seems like you're keeping busy and you're keeping inspired, and that's really what it's all about.
- 28:09Estes Tarver: Absolutely.
- 28:10Estes Tarver: I appreciate it.
- 28:10Estes Tarver: Thank you, Jeff.
- 28:11Estes Tarver: That's great.
- 28:11Estes Tarver: It's truth.
- 28:12Estes Tarver: Estes, have a great day.
- 28:14Estes Tarver: You too.
- 28:15Estes Tarver: Thanks for talking.
- 28:15Estes Tarver: Enjoyed it.
- 28:16Estes Tarver: Bye bye.
- 28:17Estes Tarver: Bye bye.