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Your Mental Bank Account is Running Low · Live 100 Podcast with Jason Yarusi

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  SPEAKER_00: Leading your team, making decisions, being patient with your family, taking care of your health, and believing that the work you're doing is actually going to lead you somewhere.
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  SPEAKER_00: These four accounts are hope, confidence, resilience, and optimism.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you've been feeling drained, distracted, or unusually just negative lately, you may not need another productivity system.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's that your mental bank account may just simply be running low.
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  SPEAKER_00: Think about your life right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: That you're gonna look back, you're gonna spend 20, 30, 40, 50 years working in some system, in some system that you don't want to be in.
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  SPEAKER_00: And look at how that can affect your mental bank account if you don't start to transition.
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  SPEAKER_00: You have to realize that you can get through it.
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  SPEAKER_00: The audit from one to 10, you have to ask yourself, your hope, your confidence, your resilience, your optimism.
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  SPEAKER_00: Where do you stand today?
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  SPEAKER_00: Don't overthink it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Which account is the lowest?
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  SPEAKER_00: Where does your attention need to go today?
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  SPEAKER_00: And don't respond to it, just say, well, just get tougher, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: That's vague.
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  SPEAKER_00: Action, it creates evidence.
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  SPEAKER_00: Evidence restores your belief.
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  SPEAKER_00: You need to understand that you have all the abilities, but you have to be patient enough to allow those abilities to develop, to become the most.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right, let's go if you're tired, not feeling fit, tired, just not having to focus, tired, just not having a life that you deserve.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is your place to be.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm Jason Rucey.
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  SPEAKER_00: Today, just talk about your mental bank account and how it's running low.
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  SPEAKER_00: In life, there are four accounts that you uh depend on every single day.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you can't see them on a balance sheet.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can't go call your accountant to find out how to measure them or uh check your bank account.
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  SPEAKER_00: But when your accounts run low, everything it gets harder.
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  SPEAKER_00: Leading your team, making decisions, being patient with your family, taking care of your health, and believing that the work you're doing is actually going to lead you somewhere.
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  SPEAKER_00: These four accounts are hope, confidence, resilience, and optimism.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now stay with me, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because if you've been feeling drained, distracted, or unusually just negative lately, you may not need another productivity system.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's that your mental bank account may just simply be running low.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, there was a study done by the American Psychological Association in 2026 for work in America, and it looked at more than 2,000 American workers.
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  SPEAKER_00: 48% of them said they typically just feel stressed, right, during the workday.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just that as the day is, they just feel outwardly stressed.
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  SPEAKER_00: Another 37%, their work negatively affects their mental health.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just the things they're doing, they just despise and hate and just pushes back about them.
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  SPEAKER_00: Think about this, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So that puts us here that we have what?
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  SPEAKER_00: Over 85% of people are hating or despising or having some negative effect from their day.
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  SPEAKER_00: And more than one out of every three people believes that the place that's providing their paycheck is also damaging to their mental health.
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  SPEAKER_00: Think about your life right now, that you're gonna look back, you're gonna spend 20, 30, 40, 50 years working in some system, in some system that you don't want to be in.
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  SPEAKER_00: And look at how that can affect your mental bank account if you don't start to transition.
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  SPEAKER_00: Researchers, they also measure something called psychological capital.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it includes four capacities: hope, efficacy, resilience, and realistic optimism.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm gonna call effectively confidence, uh, the belief that you can find a way forward and just figure it out and just execute, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Workers with stronger psychological capital were less likely to describe their word workplace as one that's harmful or less likely to say that, you know, they're just gonna leave.
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  SPEAKER_00: And now that doesn't mean that you can fix a toxic workplace by just thinking positively, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So I'm not just saying that if you're at the wrong workplace, that if you just think the right way, that everything will just get better.
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  SPEAKER_00: Uh potentially it will make it not as bad, but the survey shows that it's an association.
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  SPEAKER_00: It does not prove your mindset caused better outcomes, but bad leadership is still bad leadership.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's an impossible workload is still an impossible workload.
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  SPEAKER_00: You cannot breathe your way out of an abuse, uh dishonesty, or just a culture that just treats people like machinery.
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  SPEAKER_00: But here's where it gets interesting.
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  SPEAKER_00: This same research had also pointed towards something important.
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  SPEAKER_00: Skills determine what you do.
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  SPEAKER_00: Psychological capacity determines whether you still do it or when the conditions deteriorate.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, you may have talent, experience, or even you might have a plan, but you can access those assets when the deal falls apart, the team disappoints you, your child needs you, your energy is gone, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: You get in a fight with your spouse.
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  SPEAKER_00: It all matters.
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  SPEAKER_00: So the first account, it's hope.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean, hope is not sitting around wishing things would improve.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hope is believing that there's a path forward and that you can take one more step.
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  SPEAKER_00: When hope gets depleted, you stop looking for options.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you lose hope, that's why we have Star Wars.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you lose hope, every problem becomes permanent.
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  SPEAKER_00: Every setback feels like the confirmation that nothing will ever change, nothing will ever improve.
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  SPEAKER_00: Don't ask yourself, do I feel hopeful?
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  SPEAKER_00: Ask, can I identify one thing that would improve this situation right now?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is there one thing?
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  SPEAKER_00: And if the answer is no, your job today is not to solve the entire problem.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your job is to find one path forward, make that one phone call, ask for help.
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  SPEAKER_00: Create that first option.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean, hope grows when you prove to yourself that movement is still possible.
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  SPEAKER_00: Account number two, well, we have confidence.
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  SPEAKER_00: Confidence is not believing that you'll win every time.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not at all.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's just it's trusting yourself that when things go wrong, that you can respond according to plan.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, a lot of men, they say that they're waiting to feel confident before they act, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: You want to be good at something before you go out there and do it, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: That is it's it's so backwards because the confidence, it's usually the result of the evidence.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's trying and failing, trying and failing, trying and failing and trying and succeeding.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then all of a sudden you have the confidence.
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  SPEAKER_00: You build it by commitments and keeping them, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: It's that whole point of the saying you're gonna do something and then getting up and doing it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Say you're gonna get up in the morning and then getting up and doing it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Say you're gonna do this, go work out and you're doing it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Say you're gonna pick up the phone, you make that comp that call.
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh, you said you would train?
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  SPEAKER_00: Good.
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  SPEAKER_00: You go and train.
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  SPEAKER_00: You said you would just have that difficult, difficult conversation?
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  SPEAKER_00: Good.
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  SPEAKER_00: You did it.
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  SPEAKER_00: You said you would be home for dinner, be present with your family, and you protected that time.
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  SPEAKER_00: Every promise you do, right, you keep becomes a deposit.
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  SPEAKER_00: Every promise that you casually just break, it becomes a withdrawal.
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  SPEAKER_00: If your confidence is low, stop making 10 new commitments that you can't fulfill.
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  SPEAKER_00: Choose one small thing that you promised and just follow through and keep it today.
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  SPEAKER_00: Account number three, resilience.
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  SPEAKER_00: This one beyond measure.
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  SPEAKER_00: Resilience is not pretending something didn't hurt.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not suppressing the emotion, ignoring the loss, or telling you yourself that everything is fine.
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  SPEAKER_00: Resilience is your ability to absorb the hit, recover, remain useful.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's that thing that it requires more toughness.
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  SPEAKER_00: It requires, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: It's that you would think would be the main ingredient.
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  SPEAKER_00: But what it really requires, it requires for you to get sleep, have movement, get honest conversations, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Time away from the problem, the humility to change your approach.
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  SPEAKER_00: Resilience is not just trying to fight through a wall when a door is like two feet to the left and you're too stubborn to go and say, oh, maybe I was wrong.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, some men are not becoming more resilient.
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  SPEAKER_00: They're becoming numb, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: There is this difference.
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  SPEAKER_00: Numbness, it says nothing affects me at all.
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  SPEAKER_00: Resilience says, well, man, that that kind of hurt.
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  SPEAKER_00: That affected me.
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  SPEAKER_00: But it will not determine what I do next.
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  SPEAKER_00: Ask yourself, what am I carrying that has never stopped long enough to be processed?
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  SPEAKER_00: It could be mental, emotional feelings for years.
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  SPEAKER_00: You cannot recover from something that you can't confuse and go to acknowledge.
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  SPEAKER_00: Account number four, realistic optimism.
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  SPEAKER_00: Optimism is the everything that we work for out of exactly what we want.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's fantasy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Realistic optimism sees the difficulty clearly why believing your actions matter.
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  SPEAKER_00: It sounds a lot like, you know, this is harder than I expected, but I can adjust, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: We talked about this in the Sackdale paradox is that you have to admit how hard it is, but honestly, you have to realize that you can get through it.
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  SPEAKER_00: The audit from one to 10, you have to ask yourself, your hope, your confidence, your resilience, your optimism.
• 8:00
  SPEAKER_00: Where do you stand today?
• 8:02
  SPEAKER_00: Don't overthink it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Which account is the lowest?
• 8:04
  SPEAKER_00: Where does your attention need to go today?
• 8:06
  SPEAKER_00: And don't respond to it, just say, well, just get tougher, right?
• 8:09
  SPEAKER_00: That's vague.
• 8:10
  SPEAKER_00: Action, it creates evidence.
• 8:11
  SPEAKER_00: Evidence restores your belief.
• 8:13
  SPEAKER_00: You need to understand that you have all the abilities, but you have to be patient enough for to allow those abilities to develop to become the most.
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  SPEAKER_00: Make one deposit today.
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  SPEAKER_00: Next day, do another one.
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  SPEAKER_00: Follow through.
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  SPEAKER_00: Four, three, two, one, go.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's do this.