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Quick Lift: How to Stop Overthinking Decisions as a Leader · Loud & Lifted

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  Welcome to loud and lifted quick lift, where
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  we take a full episode and boil it down to the
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  key takeaways with action items. If you are a
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  solopreneur and if you've been feeling like you're
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  doing all the things, but the results aren't
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  matching the effort, then this episode is for
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  you. Caleb brought the kind of truth that feels
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  like a deep exhale and a gentle slap at the same
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  time. This episode brought a fresh perspective
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  and a new vibe, which I loved. So let's get into
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  it. Takeaway number one, your orientation is
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  important. Kayla introduced the idea of orientation,
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  basically where you're standing when you look
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  at the problem. Because so many of us do this,
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  and especially high -performing women, if something
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  isn't working, we think, it's me. It's my messaging.
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  I need to try harder. I need to work more. I
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  need to put more out there. And the biggest blind
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  spot that women have is that they don't realize
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  where they're standing when they look at the
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  problem of their business. So how can you solve
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  it? I mean, how often have you heard someone
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  say, oh, I'm too close. I don't have a good perspective.
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  This is orientation. So instead, orientation
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  says, step back and look at the full ecosystem.
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  Understand what's your offer? What's the sequence?
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  What happens after someone says yes to your services?
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  Is that system coherent, or is it chaos just
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  wearing a cute outfit? Kayla talked a lot about
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  from a solopreneur perspective, because when
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  you're building everything by yourself, it's
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  very difficult. Trust me, I get that. I have
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  been living that the last year. I've realized
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  that this can also happen in a corporate situation.
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  This isn't just for solopreneurs. If your team
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  isn't responding, you assume you're the problem
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  or something else is going on when it might be
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  the priorities. It might be the clarity or generally
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  the system. Action item this week is a quick
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  orientation reset. Before you fix anything, think
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  about What am I assuming the problem is? What
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  else could it be? And if this wasn't so personal
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  and so close, what would I adjust first? Takeaway
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  number two, coherence comes from subtraction,
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  not more hustle. OK, this part I wanted to stand
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  up and clap because I felt this. This has been
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  me in the last year. She said with women she
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  works with, the answer is almost always taking
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  things away. Not adding more, not doing more,
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  not putting more messaging out there, not launching
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  another offer, not joining another program, being
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  on five platforms. It's subtraction. It makes
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  so much sense. We try to have so many priorities
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  and so many things going on, we can't do anything
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  well, and we're everywhere just very thinly.
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  She calls this coherence, when things work in
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  harmony, in the right sequence, and the system
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  is connected in the way that it's meant to be.
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  This is just about the quality of being logical
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  and consistent. And she made a huge point about
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  why this gets especially messy for women who
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  are leaving corporate. In corporate, the ecosystems
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  exist. You do X, you get Y. You get paid, you
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  get promoted, there's a structure. In entrepreneurship,
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  you have to build the ecosystem and the stability
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  yourself. Action item this week is the subtraction
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  challenge. Pick one area of your work or life
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  and remove one layer. What's one meaning that
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  doesn't need to exist? Or one platform that you're
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  using that you're just not able to get any kind
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  of traction on? Or what's one nice -to -have
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  project that's muddying up the real priority?
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  One habit you're over -explaining. Then ask,
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  does this create more calm and follow through
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  or more anxiety? Look at the data that you have
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  and make a decision. But more isn't always better.
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  Often it is less is more and less is better.
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  Takeaway number three intuition needs space and
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  precision keeps it clean Kayla's take on intuition
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  was so practical. I loved it We talk about women
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  having this intuition and we do it's true But
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  if you want to connect to your intuition you
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  have to create space for it She said you can
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  try to listen to your intuition all day long,
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  but if your environment is noisy Physically or
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  mentally you won't hear it You have to create
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  the space for intuition. And she gave some real
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  examples that she has done recently with reducing
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  her input, unfollowing accounts, unsubscribing
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  from emails, not consuming a bunch of social
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  media, not doom scrolling, removing Instagram
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  from her phone, because less input equals more
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  space and clearer signals. And this is so true.
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  We are all going. thousand miles per hour between
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  work and professional things and personal situations
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  and taking care of our family that we don't ever
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  just leave space for quiet and this is really
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  hard and I mentioned on the episode that sometimes
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  I'll be coming home from yoga where I already
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  have a good headspace and I won't listen to the
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  radio and this sounds so dumb But being in your
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  car and having to be quiet is sometimes kind
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  of awkward. And it forces me to just chill and
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  sit. And I don't look at my phone. I don't look
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  at the text messages I missed for the hour that
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  I was there. But it just gives me a little bit
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  longer time to disconnect and think. I mean,
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  this goes back to why so many people talk about
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  having great ideas when they're in the shower
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  or when they go for a run, because you're disconnecting
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  from everything that's going on around you. So
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  figure out a way that you can create space. And
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  maybe it's first thing in the morning. when you
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  wake up, you sit there for five minutes in silence.
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  I try meditating, it's really hard for me to
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  turn my brain off, but at least if I have to
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  sit there in silence, it helps me to really just
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  create that space. The other thing that Kayla
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  talked about is precision. And precision isn't
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  doing more, it's doing more of what matters and
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  cutting what doesn't. And I love the Her Word
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  of the Year's precision and the mantra of say
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  less, do less. Because again, we're constantly
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  trying to be engaged and overstimulated all the
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  time. And if you want to be creative, you want
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  to be innovative, you need that space. And even
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  the fact of think about how if you're sitting
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  somewhere and you have a few minutes or even
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  in your car at a light and you pick up your freaking
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  phone to quickly scroll Instagram to check your
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  email to respond to a text, we can't ever just
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  be still. So start your day with a quiet or use
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  the time in the car with your quiet. Figure out
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  where quiet and space fits into your day, but
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  make that part of your routine. One line that
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  Kayla said that stuck with me is that precision
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  means you can't entertain the noise. You have
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  to get to the point. Do less, say less. And I
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  think that's such a leadership lesson, not just
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  a business one. When we're scattered, we talk
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  more, explain more, we agree more, and we wonder
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  why we're exhausted. Precision is a boundary.
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  It's clarity, and it's self -trust. I love her
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  quote that says, truth feels like this is it,
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  and I literally don't care what anyone else has
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  to say about it. She's creating those boundaries
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  and being focused and having that precision.
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  So they actually end this week and this might
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  be one of the toughest ones we've had in a while
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  is the quiet experiment. So choose one, choose
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  a few, unfollow accounts, unsubscribe from emails,
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  stay off of social media. Put your phone down.
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  Remove an app. Sit in your silence in the car.
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  Sit in your silence in the morning. But figure
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  out what you can start to do. And do it for a
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  couple of days in a row. Not just one time for
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  five minutes. Make this part of your routine
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  for an entire week and see how it feels. And
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  at the end, ask yourself, what decisions feel
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  clearer now? Or what do I know that I have been
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  negotiating with? Or what great problem solving
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  opportunity did I have? Or creative new thing
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  that I came up with? So here's a quick lift recap.
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  Orientation is stepping back. Don't assume the
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  problem is you. Coherence is the answer is often
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  subtraction. Make it simpler and sequenced. And
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  intuition and precision. Clear the noise so you
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  can hear the signal. Think about this. Everything
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  that we just talked about is taking away. It's
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  not adding more to your day. It's taking away
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  and getting focused and prioritized and being
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  able to focus on what you need to. Much better.
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  If this episode hit for you, share it with the
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  woman who's been carrying too much and calling
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  it ambition. If you haven't listened to Kayla's
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  full episode, I strongly encourage you to do
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  so. And as always, keep showing up like you mean
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  it and don't forget to lift others along the
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  way.