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328. You're Not Stuck. You're Untrained - Why You Can't Change · The Impossible Life

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  Speaker 1: That's impossible.
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  Speaker 2: Welcome to another episode of the Impossible Life Podcast. I'm
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  Speaker 2: your co host, Nick Surface, and I'm looking across at
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  Speaker 2: a man so capable he recently developed a sixth sense.
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  Speaker 2: That's right. Friends, the fore Garrett Uncle back, a man
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  Speaker 2: with infrared vision that allows him to see all the
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  Speaker 2: weaknesses in a person from up to seventy five feet away.
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  Speaker 1: That's very limited.
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  Speaker 2: All right, man, Well you know you developed it, Maybe
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  Speaker 2: you should develop a better sense. Would you like one
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  Speaker 2: hundred and fifty range?
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  Speaker 1: I can smell your weakness before it walks through the door.
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  Speaker 2: Well did? I actually was inspired by the pit viper,
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  Speaker 2: which you know they have the infrared vision. It serves
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  Speaker 2: them pretty well. So I was thinking, you know, what
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  Speaker 2: would you develop also known as a noeprope? Yeah, for real,
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  Speaker 2: stay clear, stay clear a argie. Well, this is a
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  Speaker 2: fun one because we're doing tools and tactics in person
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  Speaker 2: since we're a day late today, and I much prefer
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  Speaker 2: doing them in person, and so does our video and
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  Speaker 2: audio equality. So I'm glad that we're doing this. We
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  Speaker 2: are here, we are so man. Today we're covering change
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  Speaker 2: and specifically why you can't change because so many people
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  Speaker 2: I think people can experience change, but they struggle with
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  Speaker 2: lasting change. And this is true of so many programs.
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  Speaker 2: And you know we have our thirty day Discipline Challenge
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  Speaker 2: Basic discipline training, which if you haven't done it, go
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  Speaker 2: do it. It's free. It's on school. I promise you.
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  Speaker 2: It'll be a massively beneficial thirty days. I've done it myself.
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  Speaker 2: You'll get plenty of mindset from Garrett in like bite
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  Speaker 2: size one minute chunks. You'll read your Bible every day.
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  Speaker 2: We give you all that, and you'll get a podcast
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  Speaker 2: to listen to, plus a workout that requires absolutely no
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  Speaker 2: equipment whatsoever. And at the end of thirty days, if
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  Speaker 2: you do what we actually say and not your own
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  Speaker 2: version of it, you will be noticeably better and improved.
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  Speaker 2: And then after that here's the hard part.
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  Speaker 3: Gy.
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  Speaker 2: It's up to you what you do. And this is
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  Speaker 2: where so many people.
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  Speaker 1: I would say, also, this program is really great. It's
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  Speaker 1: great for anyone, but also great if you're new to
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  Speaker 1: the podcast. Yeah, because part of the daily work is
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  Speaker 1: some podcasts listening, right, And I love it when I
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  Speaker 1: meet people who are new to the show, or or
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  Speaker 1: when I meet people who listen to the show. And
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  Speaker 1: if you tell me you listen to the podcast just now,
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to ask you, right, I don't lie to me.
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  Speaker 1: I'm just curious, and it's fine if you haven't. But
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  Speaker 1: I asked people like, hey, how many episodes have you
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  Speaker 1: listened to? And some people say twenty or fifty. I
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  Speaker 1: think that's great. Yeah, And then I have other people
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  Speaker 1: who are like, I've no, I've listened every episode. Like
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  Speaker 1: I met a guy the other day and I asked
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  Speaker 1: him how many listens, how many episodes he's listened to.
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  Speaker 1: He's like, no, I've listened to all of them. I go, wow,
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  Speaker 1: I long, how long have you been listening to those
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  Speaker 1: four months? Yeah, we had went all the way back
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  Speaker 1: to the beginning, listened to every single episode in four months.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. I get to interact with a lot more listeners
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  Speaker 2: than you. We had a guy right now. I'm sorry,
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  Speaker 2: I don't have his name. It just popped. Uh, this
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  Speaker 2: story popped in my head, but I don't have his name,
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  Speaker 2: so I apologize for not giving you the shout out.
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  Speaker 2: He said he's listened to every episode five times.
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  Speaker 1: What.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I was like, you you are like the champion
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  Speaker 2: of listen. I think that's the most I've heard of anybody.
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  Speaker 2: And then we had I mean, like, for example, what
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  Speaker 2: you said. We had a guy a comment on our
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  Speaker 2: fear series, which the Fear series is awesome. It will
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  Speaker 2: help and he talked about how it helped him eliminate
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  Speaker 2: fear exactly, and it's like praise for example.
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  Speaker 1: And really the point I was making if you're new
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  Speaker 1: to the show, going through the discipline training will expose
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  Speaker 1: you to some of the old If you just jumped,
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  Speaker 1: you know you like the show and you just caught
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  Speaker 1: up where you were six months ago, and you've just
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  Speaker 1: been listening to those episodes, that's fine. But there's some
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  Speaker 1: great series, like one of the original I think it
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  Speaker 1: was the first series we did. We did a three
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  Speaker 1: part series on fear, and we go through that or
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  Speaker 1: you get told to listen to it in the discipline training.
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  Speaker 1: Some amazing stuff back there anyways, talking about the change, talking.
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  Speaker 2: About the change process, and so like we see this
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  Speaker 2: all the time. One of the more well known recent ones.
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  Speaker 2: Because as much as I would love for our basic
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  Speaker 2: disciline training to go viral, not for us, but because
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  Speaker 2: then people would be reading the word and getting close
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  Speaker 2: to the Lord, there was something that went viral. The
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  Speaker 2: Fitness Challenge of course seventy five Hard from Andy Forslogy,
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  Speaker 2: and the seventy five Hard was pretty simple. It had
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  Speaker 2: a book, you do two forty five minute workouts a day,
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  Speaker 2: and one had to be outside structured diet, drinking gallon
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  Speaker 2: of water a day, read ten pages of nonfiction, and
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  Speaker 2: take a daily progress photo. If you miss a day over,
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  Speaker 2: you start over from the beginning. Now yeah, now that's
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  Speaker 2: so like this came out.
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  Speaker 1: Now.
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  Speaker 2: I was actually really surprised because that is not easy, okay.
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  Speaker 2: And I was actually surprised that this thing went viral
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  Speaker 2: at the time. And I watched as like friends and
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  Speaker 2: people I knew, you know, they're posting their progress photos
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  Speaker 2: and You're like, man, you're jacked. And then I would
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  Speaker 2: see these same people like twenty one days later, and
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, ooh, you're not jacked anymore. Like you you
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  Speaker 2: went seventy five hard and then just went straight back
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  Speaker 2: to whatever seventy five normal was or whatever left in
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  Speaker 2: the year three hundred or two hundred and ninety normal, right,
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  Speaker 2: And so like, what's so funny is you get to
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  Speaker 2: see people's what people do, right, because what society did
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  Speaker 2: you feed something like that that actually can help you
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  Speaker 2: make an impacting your life in seventy five days, you
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  Speaker 2: feed that through the old social media machine, and what
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  Speaker 2: happens People start whining and complaining about it, debunking it.
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  Speaker 2: You get all the TikTokers, and so this thing developed
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  Speaker 2: called seventy five soft right, and this was like their
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  Speaker 2: like compromised version of you don't have to start over,
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  Speaker 2: can drink, you should take a round and like they
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  Speaker 2: basically came up with their own version because what people.
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  Speaker 1: Realize that's extremely low tea, right, Well, what it was
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  Speaker 1: was not hard dog. That's a corn dog.
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  Speaker 2: Right. You love corn dogs, dude, you got to find
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  Speaker 2: something else other than that.
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  Speaker 1: No, I like corn dogs. And how many corn dogs
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  Speaker 1: do actually get to eat a year? I don't know
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  Speaker 1: half a dozen? Right, So that pains are your heart.
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  Speaker 2: But the point being, I think it's so interesting that
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  Speaker 2: like we we can see something that's effective for change
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  Speaker 2: and we immediately like if it doesn't shange, if it's
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  Speaker 2: not forever, then we're like, well, I don't know if
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  Speaker 2: that really worked. And so so many people I think
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  Speaker 2: can come out of a period like that. I've seen
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  Speaker 2: it myself. They'll come out of the thirty day discipline
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  Speaker 2: training and they're like, man, I'm like on fire, and like,
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  Speaker 2: if you don't understand how change process happens and what's
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  Speaker 2: actually important, you will find yourself reverting back. And that
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  Speaker 2: is one of the hardest things to deal with because
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  Speaker 2: now you have to go like, was all that and
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  Speaker 2: a lie? And that's where a lot of people you
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  Speaker 2: know then so then you change the program, right because
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  Speaker 2: clearly the program is the problem, not you. And this
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  Speaker 2: is what this is what's so interesting to me about
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  Speaker 2: the psychology. So I want to dive into why people
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  Speaker 2: can't change. You've used your Garret uncle Bock brain to
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  Speaker 2: categorize very systematically and break down the elements of change nowhere.
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  Speaker 1: So much of this starts for me is this is like,
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  Speaker 1: this is my actual sixth sense. And this is one
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  Speaker 1: of the things about you about me that you appreciate.
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  Speaker 2: Your actual I love that you referenced the true.
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  Speaker 1: One of the things about me that you appreciate, Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: is when stuff's not when people believe something that's not true.
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  Speaker 1: I get that's where I get a little autistic and
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  Speaker 1: I get stuck on something. And one of the things
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  Speaker 1: that people say that will bought like, oh I can't
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  Speaker 1: be that way or I can't change, and that's it's
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  Speaker 1: it's my kids got you know, some of my oldest
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  Speaker 1: got a little bit of my stubbornness or denial or
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  Speaker 1: whatever you want to call it. But I hear things
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  Speaker 1: like that and I'm like, no, that's not right. You
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  Speaker 1: can change. Who told you that you're that way? Who
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  Speaker 1: told you you can't change? And then that's a thought
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  Speaker 1: for me that I've this is what I've worked through.
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  Speaker 1: That's why today's prep was really easy, right. I mean
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  Speaker 1: it just I had to walk back through some of
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  Speaker 1: my own thought process and how I went through this myself.
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  Speaker 1: But I got reminded of it recently, and that's why
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  Speaker 1: it was what I wanted to talk about today. So
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  Speaker 1: people get stuck in this thought process of all I
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  Speaker 1: can't be that way or I'm not like that, Like
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  Speaker 1: I hate that one. Yeah, I'm not like that, says who? Right,
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  Speaker 1: So let's dive into this. The beginning of understanding you
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  Speaker 1: can change. This is where I'm going to start with
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  Speaker 1: anything in life is the mindset shocker.
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  Speaker 2: So I'm very unlike you.
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  Speaker 1: Ye, well, it's you know, I'm at this point. I'm
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  Speaker 1: pretty sure it's the right place to start. Neck the beginning.
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  Speaker 2: Well, I say this all the time to clients. I
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  Speaker 2: go the beginning of change is belief. Yeah, and I
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  Speaker 2: because I dove into my own thoughts before Christ and
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  Speaker 2: everything and what started me on the process, and I.
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  Speaker 1: Believed It's funny, Nick, kind of like how following God
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  Speaker 1: starts with you just having a little bit of faith.
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  Speaker 2: Right, amazing shocker, it's a coincidence.
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  Speaker 1: So there's a certain set of beliefs that I think
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  Speaker 1: are going to guide us in this direction. And truly,
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  Speaker 1: let me start with well definition of beliefs for those
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  Speaker 1: who are new right, and a reminder for everyone else
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  Speaker 1: until you should hear beliefs. If you've been listening to
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  Speaker 1: this episode long enough, you hear beliefs and you know
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  Speaker 1: the next words that are coming. Right, These are things
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  Speaker 1: that we know are true but can't prove. And this
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  Speaker 1: is really what you're going to have to anchor your
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  Speaker 1: life on, right, And you don't want to live your
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  Speaker 1: life anchored And this is what I've seen, you know
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  Speaker 1: what that turns into. That turns into a scornful person,
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  Speaker 1: that turns into a depressed person, that turns into an
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  Speaker 1: empty person. You've also got to live your life based
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  Speaker 1: upon what you know is true. You've got to live
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  Speaker 1: your life based upon beliefs. The Bible says this is
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  Speaker 1: where hope comes from, right, that that hope comes from
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  Speaker 1: a belief that turns into a testing, that turns into
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  Speaker 1: endurance that produces hope in the end. This is what
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  Speaker 1: scripture says. So two beliefs that have shaped my life
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  Speaker 1: and are going to help us unpack the ability to change.
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  Speaker 1: By the way, this is what I call the infinite
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  Speaker 1: potential unlock.
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  Speaker 2: Number one. Hey, I thought you were quaring me up there, man.
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  Speaker 1: Number one. This is purpose. Okay. God is a plan
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  Speaker 1: for your life. One of the most important things that
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  Speaker 1: you could ever hear, that you could ever know, is
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  Speaker 1: that God is a great plan for your life. And
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  Speaker 1: we talked about this the other day and some of
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  Speaker 1: my friends like man, that hit me of understanding. Well
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  Speaker 1: step one, Yeah, God has a plan. The next question
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  Speaker 1: is do you believe God is a plan for you? Right?
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  Speaker 1: But and you have to that's really when you have
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  Speaker 1: this belief, that is what you believe, not just like
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  Speaker 1: God is a plan. No, God is a plan for me.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, this will come a live for you when you
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  Speaker 2: start reading scriptures, because everybody wants the scripture that where
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  Speaker 2: God told them, Hey, man, I really chose you before
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  Speaker 2: you were born, and so we'll read that like if
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  Speaker 2: you read Jeremiah, it says before you were before you
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  Speaker 2: when you were in the womb, I knew you when
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  Speaker 2: you read in Psalms one thirty nine where he says
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  Speaker 2: I formed you in the womb, formed your innermost parts.
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  Speaker 2: I think a lot of people like, well, that's cool
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  Speaker 2: for David, or that's cool for Jeremiah. But when you
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  Speaker 2: start realizing, hang on a minute, like and I could
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  Speaker 2: go through the scriptures. Now is not the time, But
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  Speaker 2: there's plenty of scripture about how intimately God knows you
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  Speaker 2: and that you have been craft very intentionally. And when
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  Speaker 2: you wake up to that, and it's not just an idea,
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  Speaker 2: it's an event, AKA, it's just the truth. It's a
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  Speaker 2: factual thing to deal with. Man, the implications of that
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  Speaker 2: change for you so much because now it's like, oh man,
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  Speaker 2: my whole life has been crafted by the Creator, with design,
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  Speaker 2: with purpose, with intent. It's so powerful.
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  Speaker 1: So purpose, God is a plan, And here's what I
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  Speaker 1: can guarantee you about your plan. I don't know your
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  Speaker 1: purpose whoever's listening to this, though, I do always get
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  Speaker 1: fascinated and helping individuals specifically walk through this process. Whatever
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  Speaker 1: your plan is, here's whatever God's plan for you is.
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  Speaker 1: Here's what I can tell you and can guarantee you
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  Speaker 1: about that plan. It's part of that plan is that
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  Speaker 1: you would grow and change. And when people tell me
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  Speaker 1: I'm not like that, it's like my daughter Grace, who
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  Speaker 1: you know, is like forty inches or forty five inches
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  Speaker 1: tall right now, it's like here saying, well, you know,
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  Speaker 1: I'm only four feet tall. You know I'm not like that.
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  Speaker 2: It's just not going to get there.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, just keep going right right. This is You've got
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  Speaker 1: to understand God made us in that way. God made
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  Speaker 1: like even when Adam was perfect, God said, you're going
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  Speaker 1: to spend time with me, you'll grow, you'll develop. It
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  Speaker 1: is a part of our journey that we would grow
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  Speaker 1: and change. So step one just the beginning of this.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm shaking people, hopefully in your belief and your
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  Speaker 1: understanding of maybe being stuck in your life on something
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  Speaker 1: or you're like, I'm just not like that. Well, God
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  Speaker 1: made you to grow and change.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, And I mean there's so many there's so much scripture,
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  Speaker 2: but the whole of salvation like two Corinthians five seventeen. Therefore,
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  Speaker 2: if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come,
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  Speaker 2: the old has gone, the new is here. And when
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  Speaker 2: you look over and over again, it like all the
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  Speaker 2: stories of people in the Bible. God never found the
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  Speaker 2: guy who was like, great, you're all set, let's go.
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  Speaker 2: Like your favorite T shirt that you developed that we
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  Speaker 2: sold zero of, was you are not enough, Like I
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  Speaker 2: am not enough because everybody, you know, those I Am
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  Speaker 2: enough shirts have went around though you're not. Yeah, and
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  Speaker 2: you love saying that, and that sounds funny because you're
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  Speaker 2: a Navy seal. But I think it's so interesting, Like Moses,
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  Speaker 2: what a guy chosen by God delivers the Old Testament,
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  Speaker 2: goes to the most powerful nas in the world and
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  Speaker 2: wipes and literally like wipes off their whole leadership, not
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  Speaker 2: him personally, but obviously God with the bringing the river
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  Speaker 2: back over them. Now, what's so amazing is when God said, Moses,
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  Speaker 2: here's the plan. You're the guy, here's what you're gonna
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  Speaker 2: go do. He's like, yeah, you got the wrong guy.
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  Speaker 2: He told God five times, he went through all the
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  Speaker 2: different things. Who am I you know, like, I'm not
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  Speaker 2: very good at speech. What if the people who are
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  Speaker 2: leading Israel don't believe me? Not one time? Did God go, hey,
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  Speaker 2: come on, man, like you grew up in Israel or
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  Speaker 2: you grew up in Egypt. You got this, Like there's
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  Speaker 2: people there who will still know you like you were trying.
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  Speaker 2: You know what he said every single time whenever MOS
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  Speaker 2: was like who am I, he goes, I will be
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  Speaker 2: with you, right. It was always it was never like yeah,
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  Speaker 2: you're right, like let me encourage you. It was like, no,
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  Speaker 2: I'm going to be there to make up what you lack.
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  Speaker 2: And that is a really key thing. I think if
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  Speaker 2: we feel like we have to wait until we're ready,
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  Speaker 2: It's like people say this about having kids, You're never
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  Speaker 2: gonna feel ready, right, And it's the same thing. If
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  Speaker 2: you feel like you're gonna have to get to a
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  Speaker 2: point where like, Okay, God, I finally trained and now
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  Speaker 2: I can go, it's like, no, you're missing it. The
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  Speaker 2: whole point is that that you're only enough with God.
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  Speaker 2: You're never meant to do it on your own. So
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  Speaker 2: I really want to highlight.
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  Speaker 1: That second second part here, right, This is the infinite
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  Speaker 1: potential unlock. Just a great reminder for those of you
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  Speaker 1: who don't know it. Number One, God is planned. Number
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  Speaker 1: two is you can have anything you want in life
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  Speaker 1: if you're willing to pay the price. This is something
• 14:26
  Speaker 1: my parents said to me all the time. And you
• 14:28
  Speaker 1: know what that means. That means you can grow. It
• 14:31
  Speaker 1: means you can learn. That means when I was, you know,
• 14:34
  Speaker 1: thirteen years old and I wanted to be James Bond
• 14:37
  Speaker 1: and Jackie Chan, but I was skinny and had an afro,
• 14:41
  Speaker 1: you know what I knew. I knew I could change.
• 14:43
  Speaker 1: I knew I could be different. And you've got to
• 14:46
  Speaker 1: understand that this is just a part of your process
• 14:48
  Speaker 1: in life, that there's things you're going to like. Not
• 14:51
  Speaker 1: only has God meant a sanctification and transformation process for
• 14:55
  Speaker 1: you that you would change in the most important way
• 14:57
  Speaker 1: inside spiritually and through him. Also, you know you can
• 15:01
  Speaker 1: develop yourself in a million different ways. That's the second piece.
• 15:04
  Speaker 1: You got to have both of these. God is a
• 15:06
  Speaker 1: plan and you can have anything you want in life
• 15:08
  Speaker 1: if you're willing to pay the price for it. You
• 15:10
  Speaker 1: can grow and develop, you can be different. And who
• 15:12
  Speaker 1: told you that you're not smart? Who told you that
• 15:14
  Speaker 1: you're not whatever is is a you know, trigger word
• 15:18
  Speaker 1: for you can change.
• 15:19
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Now, it's very rare that we get such direct
• 15:23
  Speaker 2: scriptures that tell us very clearly what God's will is
• 15:26
  Speaker 2: for usg But there's no room for interpretation here. First,
• 15:28
  Speaker 2: let's Lilian's four to three for this is the will
• 15:31
  Speaker 2: of God, pretty plane, your sanctification, and then he goes
• 15:34
  Speaker 2: into all the what that means for them. It doesn't
• 15:37
  Speaker 2: really get any more plane than I think. This is
• 15:39
  Speaker 2: where so many people miss what salvation is and what
• 15:43
  Speaker 2: you said about paying the price, because so often it's
• 15:46
  Speaker 2: easy to be like, man, well I'm gonna get safe
• 15:48
  Speaker 2: and then I'm just not gonna want these things anymore, right,
• 15:50
  Speaker 2: And it's like, no, I wish that was the case.
• 15:53
  Speaker 1: There are someone Once I become a Navy seal, I
• 15:56
  Speaker 1: just I'm automatically a terminator, right, yeah, obviously everything I'm
• 15:59
  Speaker 1: just younger than everyone, and I have ultimate infinite discipline
• 16:04
  Speaker 1: and everything is just easy and I can't be stopped, right,
• 16:06
  Speaker 1: you know, it gets harder and it doesn't you know,
• 16:09
  Speaker 1: you you now the expectation is.
• 16:11
  Speaker 2: Higher, right, And I think that when you if you
• 16:14
  Speaker 2: think that's the way it's going to be a you're
• 16:15
  Speaker 2: following your feelings, right, because you're you're like, I just
• 16:18
  Speaker 2: won't want to do anything you're gonna want to do.
• 16:20
  Speaker 1: It's the worst question you can ask. When's it going
• 16:22
  Speaker 1: to be easy?
• 16:22
  Speaker 2: Right?
• 16:23
  Speaker 1: Yeah?
• 16:24
  Speaker 2: Exactly right? And as always you just sum it up
• 16:26
  Speaker 2: very shortly. And that's that's that's.
• 16:27
  Speaker 1: The reason these podcasts are less than an hour, not
• 16:30
  Speaker 1: two hours. Okay, anyways, that was a good dig I
• 16:34
  Speaker 1: applaud you.
• 16:35
  Speaker 2: Actually, that's see, that's the kind of roasting of a
• 16:37
  Speaker 2: friend that you just have to go like, yeah, well done,
• 16:39
  Speaker 2: that has some that had some art to it. You're
• 16:41
  Speaker 2: to play my part. Yeah, well you're playing your part well.
• 16:44
  Speaker 2: So the point is just no, that process is what
• 16:47
  Speaker 2: you're gonna be. And we're going to go into the
• 16:48
  Speaker 2: change process. And I want to give this big, big,
• 16:50
  Speaker 2: big note because we highlight the fact that you need
• 16:52
  Speaker 2: to know that when you get say it saved, you
• 16:54
  Speaker 2: have a deposit the Holy Spirit in you. But the
• 16:55
  Speaker 2: sanctification process means that there's still gonna be plenty of
• 16:58
  Speaker 2: things that get to be worked out as you become
• 17:00
  Speaker 2: completely dedicated to God's purpose for you in your life.
• 17:04
  Speaker 1: And just a reminder that there's responsibility those of you
• 17:08
  Speaker 1: who have the privilege of living in this area or
• 17:11
  Speaker 1: who have come and visited Frisco and been to mighty men.
• 17:15
  Speaker 1: You hear me say this all the time. God's sovereign,
• 17:17
  Speaker 1: man's responsible. There's a part that God. God's in control
• 17:21
  Speaker 1: of it all, and there's a little peace that God said, Okay,
• 17:23
  Speaker 1: this part's up to you. Roman's twelve one and two
• 17:26
  Speaker 1: hits on that process. That's part of the reason that
• 17:29
  Speaker 1: we do push ups and at our at our men's group,
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: and in our discipleship process. The whole point is there's
• 17:35
  Speaker 1: a reminder, it's not God's not going to do everything
• 17:37
  Speaker 1: for you.
• 17:38
  Speaker 2: Yeah, there's parts that you have to do right, and
• 17:40
  Speaker 2: here's another. But here's another part where it takes submission
• 17:43
  Speaker 2: and humility for this process, which is a change. You
• 17:46
  Speaker 2: don't get to determine how long it is.
• 17:48
  Speaker 1: Dang it?
• 17:48
  Speaker 2: Well, I mean, what can at least speed up? No,
• 17:51
  Speaker 2: that's still trying to determine how long it is.
• 17:52
  Speaker 1: I love that that piece and I give this to
• 17:55
  Speaker 1: people all the time. In Metcalf's Chop wood carry water,
• 18:00
  Speaker 1: do you remember this where the guy goes, well, what
• 18:02
  Speaker 1: if I, you know, carry do all my wood carrying
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: and wood chopping and water carrying faster, and then I
• 18:08
  Speaker 1: shoot twice as long in the afternoon, then how long
• 18:11
  Speaker 1: will it take? And the guys like it takes longer? What?
• 18:14
  Speaker 2: Yeah?
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: I mean?
• 18:15
  Speaker 2: And that that is I think that that release of
• 18:19
  Speaker 2: time is one of the hardest things because over and
• 18:21
  Speaker 2: over again we're reminded of how finite we are. But
• 18:23
  Speaker 2: when you can release the time process, like hey, when
• 18:26
  Speaker 2: are you going to step into whatever it is this
• 18:28
  Speaker 2: calling that you think you have is when God says
• 18:30
  Speaker 2: you're ready? Well, yeah, but I thought it would be
• 18:32
  Speaker 2: great because I'm like, I'm like forty now, and like really,
• 18:34
  Speaker 2: you know, that's a holy noe, Okay, like cool story.
• 18:37
  Speaker 1: It's the equivalent of you know, one of my kids
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: or even one of yours, saying I think I'm ready
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: to drive now. Yeah.
• 18:45
  Speaker 2: Yeah, But that's a lot clearer than even what we
• 18:47
  Speaker 2: get because it's not like God didn't say you will
• 18:49
  Speaker 2: enter your call. And by the time it's like some
• 18:51
  Speaker 2: people very young, other people very.
• 18:53
  Speaker 1: Old, right, or you know, maybe Abraham and you have
• 18:56
  Speaker 1: the child that God called you to have at a
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: hundred years.
• 18:59
  Speaker 2: Old, yeah, or Moses what was like eighty two whenever
• 19:01
  Speaker 2: he's like went to go see you know, just crazy
• 19:04
  Speaker 2: so or you think he was eighty years old anyways,
• 19:06
  Speaker 2: all right, So you broke the change process down into
• 19:09
  Speaker 2: three categories.
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: I don't know if you want to get at and
• 19:11
  Speaker 1: a great master chief. And I had a few great
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: master chiefs that I learned from in the navy. These
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: are you know, you spend twenty five years in the
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: seal teams, you're gonna have announce of wisdom, right, And
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: some of what's funny, I think a couple of these
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: guys that know their story, and it's like they didn't
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: come from a wise home. Right. These guy like their
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: wisdom was squeezed out of blood. Right. Yeah. But and
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: but the wisdom they had was very refined. And one
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: of them said to me, all complicated problems are just
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: a bunch of simple problems put together. And if you're
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: great at simple problems, then complicated problems are easy for
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: you too, right, So good. And so the change process,
• 19:50
  Speaker 1: like you look at anything that's difficult in your life,
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: growing and changing is difficult, okay. And why because it's
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: a multifaceted problem. There's more than one thing going on.
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: And if you try to you know, figure out how
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: to do if you're not looking at all the different
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: elements and you just try to do three things at
• 20:06
  Speaker 1: the same time, it's near infinitely possible. Until you simplify
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: the problem, and until you simplify the problem and say Okay,
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: I just have to do this and this and this
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: and will succeed. So what we're gonna do is I'm
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: going to break down changing and growing into three main categories.
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: And the whole point this entire podcast is teach a
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: man to fish. Okay. What I'm trying to do here
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: is teach you how to fish, teach you how to
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: change that. If you could say is this is the
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: fruit of my life that I'm trying to give to
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: other people. If you could think different, your life would
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: be different. And so that's what I've tried to do.
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: I know if my thinking in my mindset has brought
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: me to where I am in life, and so I'm
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: always trying to just give that a way to people.
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: And so what I want you to have is this
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: mindset of Okay, I can change. We just covered that,
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: and then here's the way that I need to categorize.
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: Here's the way that I need to think through changing,
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: and now I can go and address my problems better. Yeah.
• 21:04
  Speaker 2: Good. And there's three things here. So we're saying that
• 21:06
  Speaker 2: these three things are the reason why you're not changing.
• 21:09
  Speaker 2: What I want to also say, it is highly unlikely
• 21:12
  Speaker 2: that you will only be suffering in one of these right,
• 21:14
  Speaker 2: there will be a varying degree, so like it's not like, oh,
• 21:16
  Speaker 2: if I can just figure this one part out, the
• 21:18
  Speaker 2: other two are like at one hundred, that's that's not
• 21:20
  Speaker 2: actually not going to be the case. There's gonna be
• 21:22
  Speaker 2: elements where I think each of these three are going
• 21:25
  Speaker 2: to be of greater significance, and that will be part
• 21:29
  Speaker 2: of the process.
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: Is that it is take time. So I'm gonna give
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: all three of them really quick. Then we're going to
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: talk through them. Let's do it, and I will let
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: me prove it to you. Okay, okay, these three things,
• 21:39
  Speaker 1: this is the three different categories or understanding the change
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: process that you got to get all these right, to
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: be able to all these things right, to be able
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: to grow and change. That you could look at that
• 21:49
  Speaker 1: question the same way that I am, and instead of
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: being someone who says I'm not like that, be someone
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: who says, what would it take for me to be
• 21:56
  Speaker 1: like that? Right? Right? And that can be like really
• 21:58
  Speaker 1: admirable things that can be stuff that you really want
• 22:01
  Speaker 1: to become, like you want to become special in a
• 22:03
  Speaker 1: certain way. But you could look at any of these
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: categories in your life and or any of these things
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: great things that you want to be and say, Okay,
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: I I could be like that. Here's the process that
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: I got to go through. So these three things sin
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: skill and suffering, and I would say positive suffering. I'm
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: quick to remind men that they find plenty of dumb
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: suffering in your life. And that's you fixing the you know,
• 22:25
  Speaker 1: the flat tire because you drove over the you know,
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: the wrong way, exactly right, you drove over the like
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: you did that to yourself. This isn't like, this is
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: a dummy reminder. This isn't like positive development reminders. Okay,
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: so sin skill and positive suffering. Now, I think let's
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: let's just take anything that you want to change in
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: your life. I want to lose weight. I want to
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: I want to be able to make money. I want
• 22:52
  Speaker 1: to I'm tired of being poor. I want to stop
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: losing my temper. I want to stop cursing. I want
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: to be smart.
• 22:58
  Speaker 2: Better marriage.
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: I want to have a better marriage. You've always told
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: me I was dumb, and I don't want to be dumb.
• 23:02
  Speaker 2: I want to be admired.
• 23:03
  Speaker 1: Whatever it is.
• 23:04
  Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, insert.
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: Anything if you now let's just pick one. Okay, if
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: you want to make more money, if you are skilled
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: and you are willing to go through suffering, okay, hard work,
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: but you are you aremired in sin, then you're going
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: you're going to probably struggle if you want to, you know,
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: if you want to lose weight, and say you are okay, like,
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: and I'm proving this by getting a couple of them, right,
• 23:36
  Speaker 1: missing one. Okay, I want to lose weight, and you're
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: a very godly person and you're willing to do the
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: hard work, but you're a zero in the skill category.
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: You're going to struggle to lose weight if you could
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: get that third one, Like, if you're and this this
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: is for people who struggle to lose weight, you're missing
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: one of these things. Maybe you have the skill and
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: maybe you're willing to pay the price, but you might
• 23:59
  Speaker 1: have you might have some sinful mindset, some sinful thought
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: processes that keep pulling you back into your old ways.
• 24:06
  Speaker 1: For a lot of people struggling to lose weight, it's
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: either the skill or the suffering, right, right, But for
• 24:14
  Speaker 1: any of these different categories of processes in your life
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: that you want to change, if you can become godly,
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: and that's not perfect. If you can become godly, if
• 24:23
  Speaker 1: you can develop the skill required, and if you're willing
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: to pay the price, if you're willing to go through
• 24:28
  Speaker 1: the positive suffering, you can change. So infant potential unlock.
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: God is a plan for your life. I can have
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: anything I want if I'm willing to pay the price.
• 24:37
  Speaker 1: Know that you have the ability to change. Let's talk
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: through really quickly some of these three things. So number
• 24:42
  Speaker 1: one sin category, and certainly on an episode that is
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: mindset and belief based, because a lot of this is
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: less tactical, much more mindset and belief today. If you
• 24:55
  Speaker 1: pay attention on the episodes or we give more scripture,
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: it's on the episode that are more mindset and belief based.
• 25:01
  Speaker 1: I'm not trying to teach you and baptize you in
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: the ways of Garrett R. Right. What I'm trying to
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: teach you is this is what's right, and this is
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: what's true. Second Peter, Chapter one, verse three and four.
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: His divine power has given us everything we need for
• 25:15
  Speaker 1: a godly life through our knowledge of Him who called
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: us by his own glory and goodness. Through these he
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: has given us his very great and precious promises, so
• 25:27
  Speaker 1: that through them you may participate in the divine nature,
• 25:31
  Speaker 1: having escaped the corruption in the world caused by evil desires.
• 25:36
  Speaker 1: What is this saying, like, God's divine power given us
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: everything we need for a godly life. It's not saying
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: that you could be perfect. It's saying that you could
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: live a godly life. And you know what a godly
• 25:48
  Speaker 1: life is. You probably don't sin very often.
• 25:50
  Speaker 2: Yeah, let me ask you a question on this.
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: Gee.
• 25:52
  Speaker 2: So, because I think everybody out there, nobody out there
• 25:55
  Speaker 2: is going like, yeah, dude, sins a good thing, right,
• 25:57
  Speaker 2: I don't think anybody's going to defend that position.
• 25:59
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but we also all have things that we know
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: are sin that we do correct.
• 26:02
  Speaker 2: But then there's also where I'm kind of curious, because
• 26:05
  Speaker 2: some sins are obvious, some are very deceptive, and the
• 26:08
  Speaker 2: deceptive ones are the hardest. Like pride. People struggle with
• 26:11
  Speaker 2: pride for a reason. So how do you deal with
• 26:13
  Speaker 2: sin when you're unsure if it's sinful or not? You know,
• 26:16
  Speaker 2: because like you know, thank God, God doesn't show us
• 26:19
  Speaker 2: all our sins at once.
• 26:20
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a that's a good question that I think
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: people struggle with. And I know why you're asking me
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: this question. I know you know the answer to this question.
• 26:28
  Speaker 3: Nick.
• 26:30
  Speaker 1: The sin that's obvious to you is the sin that
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: you're supposed to change right now, right okay? And there
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: is some sin. And this is where like it's I
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: love and we have guys who are about to start
• 26:42
  Speaker 1: going through the freedom process at church. And this is
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: also like I've experienced this in my own life before
• 26:48
  Speaker 1: where I'm like, God, why can't you know I'm gonna
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna overgeneralize here and not spend the time telling
• 26:54
  Speaker 1: a story, but I'm saying, God, why why can't like
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: I move forward in this area of business in my life?
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: And God's like, what I hear the Lord tell me
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: is like you need to forgive that person. I'm like,
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: that's not hold on. Nothing has nothing to do with
• 27:07
  Speaker 1: what I'm asking you right now. I said that to say,
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: the sin that's obvious for you is the sin that
• 27:13
  Speaker 1: you're supposed to change. Like the path of following God
• 27:15
  Speaker 1: is faithful obedience, okay, And God's not trying to jump
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: you from level one to level one hundred. Is the
• 27:22
  Speaker 1: it is the karate kid analogy, or it is chop
• 27:25
  Speaker 1: wood carry water wax on, wax off. God's like the
• 27:29
  Speaker 1: stuff that's obvious to you, that's what you need to
• 27:30
  Speaker 1: do right now. Don't worry about the stuff that's not
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: obvious to your God is not. God's requirement of you
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: is not that you're as smart as he is.
• 27:38
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: I hope that releases so many people. Just basically to
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: do what you know to do. And there is sin
• 27:44
  Speaker 1: today that is obvious in my life that was not
• 27:46
  Speaker 1: obvious to me before. Yeah. Why because you grow and develop.
• 27:50
  Speaker 1: This is developing in any martial art. This is developing
• 27:53
  Speaker 1: in any great skill. There's stuff that at a certain
• 27:56
  Speaker 1: when you're a master of something, you'd make like little
• 27:58
  Speaker 1: mistakes and your friend or you're instruction like Matt, Wow,
• 28:01
  Speaker 1: you're an idiot, right, but there would you would never
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: have that expectation of someone who's new. Right. This is
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: the same as we watch guys develop and grow in
• 28:09
  Speaker 1: their faith. I love the guy. It's always like it's
• 28:13
  Speaker 1: a small blip in guy's story. But it's always funny
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: to me when I meet guys who it's like like
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: you can see it on them, like they're new in
• 28:21
  Speaker 1: their faith. They're all about it. They're reading their Bible,
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: and they just curse left and right right, and but
• 28:26
  Speaker 1: it's like so innocent that they had. They just haven't
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: been convicted in that area yet because they're brand new,
• 28:32
  Speaker 1: like coming to it's it's not hey, quit cursing, you know,
• 28:37
  Speaker 1: quit having addiction, quit watching porn, then come to.
• 28:40
  Speaker 2: Church, right, yeah, bring all that stuff to the Jesus.
• 28:44
  Speaker 1: Jesus said, if you love me, you'll obey my commands.
• 28:46
  Speaker 1: And it wasn't an ultimatum. The more you love me,
• 28:49
  Speaker 1: the less you'll do that stuff.
• 28:51
  Speaker 2: Very good man, all right, So number two was skill.
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: Skill. Man. I was saying this to Nick. The more
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: I've I've been through many seasons of this in my life.
• 29:01
  Speaker 1: I've been around very skilled people in the seal teams.
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: I've been around Navy seals of success, people who are
• 29:11
  Speaker 1: very capable, And something that exposed to me is like, man,
• 29:15
  Speaker 1: this really is a skill issue. When I look at
• 29:17
  Speaker 1: guys like guys that are great in the seal teams,
• 29:20
  Speaker 1: like this dude wasn't born this way. People who are
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: great in business, this guy wasn't born this way. Like
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: they've learned a lot of great lessons. They've really developed themselves.
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: Look at the way guys like Steph Curry can shoot. Now,
• 29:33
  Speaker 1: Steph Curry's a very talented athlete. Just watch him play golf,
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  Speaker 1: and like, this dude's gifted. But he's also like, if
• 29:39
  Speaker 1: you know his training routine, these guys are go way
• 29:43
  Speaker 1: beyond the normal person. Michael Phelps talks about, He's like,
• 29:47
  Speaker 1: I knew I was going to win because I knew
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: I trained harder than anybody else on the planet. Right,
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: He's like the amount of time he was spending like
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: eight hours or something in the pool per day. Right.
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  Speaker 1: I've seen a podcast where he's talking about his story
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: and his preparation for Olympics. He's like, winning was obvious, Right,
• 30:08
  Speaker 1: I was going to win just because of the amount
• 30:10
  Speaker 1: that I prepared. So so many people think like, well, man,
• 30:13
  Speaker 1: it's just so easy. It's not easy, dude. Yeah, you
• 30:17
  Speaker 1: have to learn. But if you'll learn the skills, you'll
• 30:20
  Speaker 1: be great.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. Now you know the stories that came out of
• 30:22
  Speaker 2: that were Michael Phelips eats twenty five thousand calories a
• 30:25
  Speaker 2: day and eats McDonald's, and he happens to have really
• 30:28
  Speaker 2: long arms. And so the stories that the journalists tell
• 30:31
  Speaker 2: are all the exceptional little things that he has that
• 30:33
  Speaker 2: you can't get, like longer arms, and.
• 30:36
  Speaker 1: Plenty of people have that.
• 30:37
  Speaker 2: Well, that's exactly what the point level, right, exactly the
• 30:39
  Speaker 2: point they're missing what actually makes the difference, and that
• 30:42
  Speaker 2: because because it's not you.
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: Know, well, I always joke about, you know, me not
• 30:46
  Speaker 1: being good at golf. After how much time I've played,
• 30:48
  Speaker 1: I know why I'm not good at golf, right, because
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: I don't do what I know greatness requires. Right, I've like,
• 30:54
  Speaker 1: I've I've played a lot of golf. I really like golf,
• 30:58
  Speaker 1: and I've played a lot of golf with people who
• 31:00
  Speaker 1: are great. I know that's not enough, I joke, and
• 31:03
  Speaker 1: so I just enjoy it and I don't care that
• 31:05
  Speaker 1: I'm not as good as i'd like to be at golf.
• 31:07
  Speaker 1: If I wanted to be good at golf, i'd go
• 31:08
  Speaker 1: be good at golf. I know what it takes, I
• 31:11
  Speaker 1: understand the formula for greatness, and I don't do what
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: greatness requires to be great at golf. So that's not
• 31:16
  Speaker 1: that's not where I want to put my time. If
• 31:19
  Speaker 1: I wanted to be great at golf, I would spend
• 31:21
  Speaker 1: a lot of time doing the basics. And you know
• 31:23
  Speaker 1: what the guys who are really great at golf, they
• 31:25
  Speaker 1: can make fifty six foot putts in a row. Right, Okay,
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: that's how you'd be great. That it is. It's the
• 31:31
  Speaker 1: same thing of shoot the shoot the bullet through the
• 31:33
  Speaker 1: same hole at the three yard line. Do those things,
• 31:36
  Speaker 1: you'll be great. It's called skills, not you know, vanity training.
• 31:41
  Speaker 1: And people like to do this stuff like man, I
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: like AI and all these this AI development and stuff.
• 31:49
  Speaker 1: But when I see a lot of people work on
• 31:51
  Speaker 1: it or use it and the way they're working with it,
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: I go, that's vanity. You're giving yourself the misconception of
• 31:57
  Speaker 1: how capable you are. Look at how much I can
• 31:59
  Speaker 1: make my AI do in a short amount of time.
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  Speaker 1: And I would ask you, like, okay, how many businesses,
• 32:05
  Speaker 1: Like how much money has your AI made for you?
• 32:07
  Speaker 1: What is the fruit of that? Don't show me like
• 32:10
  Speaker 1: how cool it is. It's the equivalent of you go
• 32:13
  Speaker 1: to the trade shows and this guy's showing you this
• 32:15
  Speaker 1: tool you know that replaces seventy two other tools, but
• 32:18
  Speaker 1: like it's terrible at all of them, right, yeah, exactly.
• 32:22
  Speaker 1: No one wants to be great and there's a process
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  Speaker 1: for it.
• 32:24
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you don't want the Uzbekistan army knife.
• 32:27
  Speaker 1: You want the Swiss army knife. This is a couple
• 32:30
  Speaker 1: of scriptures for you. Ecclesiastes ten ten. The Bible talks
• 32:33
  Speaker 1: about skill as well. Ecclesiastes ten ten. If the ax
• 32:37
  Speaker 1: is dull and it's edge unsharpened, more strength is needed.
• 32:42
  Speaker 1: But skill will bring success. Amazing, the axe is dull
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: and it's edge unsharpened, more strength is required. You know
• 32:49
  Speaker 1: this is literally the Seal teams. Be smarter, be hard right.
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  Speaker 2: It's also Abraham Lincoln.
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: He shout the X, sharpen the X. But skill will
• 32:56
  Speaker 1: bring success. Proverbs twenty two, verse twenty nine. Do you
• 33:00
  Speaker 1: see a man skilled in his work? He will stand
• 33:04
  Speaker 1: before kings. He will not stand before obscure men. You
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: know what obscure men are? Who's that guy?
• 33:10
  Speaker 2: Right? You know where? You really unlocked this for me
• 33:12
  Speaker 2: because rather than ask you a question, I just wanted
• 33:15
  Speaker 2: to remind we've told this. I don't even know, maybe
• 33:17
  Speaker 2: a couple hundred podcasts ago. Mary, you and I were
• 33:19
  Speaker 2: hanging out at one time and you were talking about
• 33:21
  Speaker 2: these CIA spoot guys, like the Jason Bourne types, and
• 33:24
  Speaker 2: you said that you encountered one or two of these
• 33:27
  Speaker 2: guys and you're in the seal teams and you realize
• 33:29
  Speaker 2: that the big the difference between you and them was
• 33:31
  Speaker 2: that they had just gone to so many more schools
• 33:33
  Speaker 2: than you to be just like a ridiculous operative.
• 33:35
  Speaker 1: They could do everything right.
• 33:37
  Speaker 2: But so for most people, like the military is so good.
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: Not just that like I went to many schools. I
• 33:43
  Speaker 1: went to more than the average person of my amount
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: of time the military had. And it's not like I
• 33:49
  Speaker 1: do have a pretty good retention rate. I would tell
• 33:52
  Speaker 1: you I have it above average retention rate. I remember
• 33:54
  Speaker 1: stuff pretty well, but I still had to do a
• 33:56
  Speaker 1: lot of going back and making sure as I'm learning
• 33:59
  Speaker 1: new stuff, I'm not getting the old stuff right. And
• 34:01
  Speaker 1: think about it, it's like, okay, I've learned how to use
• 34:03
  Speaker 1: all these rocket launchers, i can speak multiple languages, I
• 34:06
  Speaker 1: know how to picklocks. I understand you know, advanced networking
• 34:10
  Speaker 1: and cybersecurity. It's like the list gets really long of
• 34:13
  Speaker 1: all this stuff that you have to know to be
• 34:16
  Speaker 1: a super operative. But these are guys who's like, this
• 34:19
  Speaker 1: is my life, this is what I do. And also
• 34:22
  Speaker 1: stay in great shape and you know, be an excellent shot.
• 34:25
  Speaker 2: But so you understand what you just said, like theoretically
• 34:29
  Speaker 2: makes sense, but I think for most people, like for
• 34:32
  Speaker 2: somebody who hasn't been in the military and never experienced this,
• 34:35
  Speaker 2: or maybe they didn't experience it at a high level,
• 34:37
  Speaker 2: the thought of being able to be like, no, no,
• 34:39
  Speaker 2: you just need to go to the school, because most
• 34:40
  Speaker 2: of us think of school as like as a teacher
• 34:42
  Speaker 2: who's maybe not that invested. It takes, you know, twelve
• 34:44
  Speaker 2: years or whatever, and like I came out with a
• 34:46
  Speaker 2: bunch of stuff I didn't really need to know whereas
• 34:47
  Speaker 2: you guys was like, no, you're going to need this.
• 34:49
  Speaker 2: You're going to need it every day. I think it's
• 34:51
  Speaker 2: a crazy thought that you could go to because how
• 34:53
  Speaker 2: long were schools for you? Like how long?
• 34:56
  Speaker 1: Sometimes there are two weeks, sometimes there are twelve weeks.
• 34:58
  Speaker 1: It depends on the program.
• 34:59
  Speaker 2: And so you go from I don't know how to
• 35:00
  Speaker 2: do this to be doing quote unquote the impossible.
• 35:03
  Speaker 1: But yeah, whether it like I went through jump school
• 35:08
  Speaker 1: in eight weeks and like you come out, you know,
• 35:11
  Speaker 1: and an advanced jumper go through crazy dive school ten
• 35:14
  Speaker 1: or twelve weeks, I don't remember, it's more than eight.
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: You come out the other end, like advanced diver. Before
• 35:19
  Speaker 1: you didn't know how to dive at all and come
• 35:21
  Speaker 1: out the other end advanced diver. But you do it
• 35:23
  Speaker 1: all day, every day with professionals.
• 35:25
  Speaker 2: Right, and so I but like, so, I'm glad you said,
• 35:28
  Speaker 2: because I think that thought process. Now, look, you may
• 35:30
  Speaker 2: not have access or money to be able to pay
• 35:32
  Speaker 2: professionals or the time to go do it for three months,
• 35:34
  Speaker 2: and so we're not saying like, hey, you have to
• 35:36
  Speaker 2: go do this, but at least if you can start
• 35:38
  Speaker 2: to grasp the belief, like we said, belief is what
• 35:42
  Speaker 2: starts first, and then change comes. If you can actually
• 35:44
  Speaker 2: grasp the belief that actually, I'm just the right person,
• 35:47
  Speaker 2: the right training, the right amount of focus away from
• 35:50
  Speaker 2: acquiring whatever skill I need, dide. I hope that encourages.
• 35:53
  Speaker 1: It's it's the Tim Ferriss, you know, like you can
• 35:58
  Speaker 1: you can get the ten thousand hour rule, which is
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: what it takes to become great. I don't think it
• 36:02
  Speaker 1: takes but and Tim Ferriss would talk about that, it
• 36:05
  Speaker 1: doesn't take ten thousand hours if you you follow the
• 36:08
  Speaker 1: experts process with an expert, right, right, And.
• 36:11
  Speaker 2: That's how you guys, you guys got it. Well, yeah,
• 36:13
  Speaker 2: and I just want to instill believe in people because
• 36:14
  Speaker 2: like that will make you go, huh, I could get
• 36:16
  Speaker 2: anything that I want. And that's where it starts to
• 36:18
  Speaker 2: become really fun is whenever you actually believe that last
• 36:21
  Speaker 2: one g everybody's favorite.
• 36:22
  Speaker 1: Suffering, Right, So if you can I wouldn't say overcome sin,
• 36:26
  Speaker 1: but if you can walk with God, yeah, if you
• 36:28
  Speaker 1: can be godly and sin is not like you are
• 36:31
  Speaker 1: not chained up by sin, right, you can't. Like the
• 36:34
  Speaker 1: inability to grow and change is because you're stuck. Like
• 36:37
  Speaker 1: sin is chains. You can't move forward. Skill is there's
• 36:43
  Speaker 1: a wall, like you can't jump high enough, right, Like
• 36:45
  Speaker 1: there's a wall like you must be able to jump
• 36:48
  Speaker 1: onto a forty eight inch block. Until you can do that,
• 36:51
  Speaker 1: you can't move forward. That's a skill, right, you can
• 36:54
  Speaker 1: learn it. You can learn people can tell you, right,
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: and so like you can try and figure out everything else.
• 36:58
  Speaker 1: And some people make ramps to overcome their level of skill.
• 37:01
  Speaker 1: And I appreciate things like that too, but I want
• 37:03
  Speaker 1: you to see it that way. Sin is a chain.
• 37:06
  Speaker 1: Skill is a box you gotta jump on. And then
• 37:08
  Speaker 1: suffering is there are some journeys in life. It's like
• 37:12
  Speaker 1: this is a hundred mile race. Okay, you can fuel good,
• 37:16
  Speaker 1: you cannot fuel good. You can train, you can do
• 37:19
  Speaker 1: whatever you can get out there and hard dog it.
• 37:21
  Speaker 1: You can you know, train for five years, but it's
• 37:23
  Speaker 1: one hundred miles one way or the other, right, right,
• 37:25
  Speaker 1: and you're like, there is no way to run one
• 37:28
  Speaker 1: hundred miles. That isn't suffering. Did you see this dude
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: who just ran the bad Water in twenty one hours? No, dude,
• 37:36
  Speaker 1: forget I forget his name. I should know his name.
• 37:39
  Speaker 1: I'm disrespecting this individual that's insane ran the bad Water,
• 37:42
  Speaker 1: and okay, I got a more insane thing for you.
• 37:45
  Speaker 1: I commented on this on Instagram because I was shocked,
• 37:47
  Speaker 1: and I like hardly ever comment on stuff on Instagram.
• 37:50
  Speaker 1: Ran the bad Water one hundred and thirty five miles.
• 37:52
  Speaker 1: One of the most difficult ultra races where you start
• 37:54
  Speaker 1: in Death Valley and it's Mount Whitney, right, I'm not
• 37:57
  Speaker 1: one hundred percent sure in the series believe it's not Winny,
• 38:00
  Speaker 1: but anyways, start at a start in Death Valley. It's
• 38:04
  Speaker 1: the hottest ultra as well. Ran it in twenty one hours,
• 38:08
  Speaker 1: which is an average pace of like eight eight minute
• 38:10
  Speaker 1: mile or so. It's close to that. Bro. He shared
• 38:14
  Speaker 1: his uh not his woop, but one of the other
• 38:17
  Speaker 1: trackers he ran eighty five percent of the race in
• 38:19
  Speaker 1: zone two. Okay, I mean that is insanity. Insanity.
• 38:27
  Speaker 2: My zone two pace is like between eleven and raven.
• 38:30
  Speaker 1: Not only running it, like just running a sub eight
• 38:32
  Speaker 1: minute mile in zone two is you know, elite athletes impressive.
• 38:36
  Speaker 1: But then did run the hottest ultra marathon in the world,
• 38:40
  Speaker 1: you know, sub eight minute mile ultra and zone two
• 38:44
  Speaker 1: is insanity.
• 38:46
  Speaker 2: Wow.
• 38:47
  Speaker 1: But the reason I brought that up is because I
• 38:50
  Speaker 1: promise you he was still suffering. Oh yeah, well, like
• 38:53
  Speaker 1: he's trained his body how to suffer well, yeah, how
• 38:56
  Speaker 1: to suffer well literally to be able to do that
• 38:58
  Speaker 1: in zone two. Yeah, but I promise you he was suffering.
• 39:01
  Speaker 1: But also it tells the great story of if you
• 39:04
  Speaker 1: will spend lots of like if you'll get comfortable suffering
• 39:07
  Speaker 1: the moment, the true moment of your testing, it's not
• 39:10
  Speaker 1: so bad, right, yeah, And the flip side of if
• 39:14
  Speaker 1: you don't, if you do not suffer in preparation for
• 39:17
  Speaker 1: your chosen suffering, that suffering is terrible. Yeah. I like,
• 39:21
  Speaker 1: I just thought about that I was like, dude, this
• 39:23
  Speaker 1: guy ran the bad water one in zone two. You're
• 39:26
  Speaker 1: a freak. Good for you, dude, Yeah, good for you.
• 39:29
  Speaker 2: It's incredible pushing the boundaries of what we thought was possible.
• 39:32
  Speaker 1: Hebrews twelve eleven. No discipline seems pleasant at the time.
• 39:37
  Speaker 1: You're gonna have to choose some good suffering in your
• 39:40
  Speaker 1: life to prepare for the chosen suffering for your test.
• 39:44
  Speaker 1: No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful later on.
• 39:49
  Speaker 1: Maybe you should have a different time frame orientation. Later on, however,
• 39:54
  Speaker 1: it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those
• 39:58
  Speaker 1: who have been trained by it. This is God's process. Okay,
• 40:02
  Speaker 1: this is a spiritual process, and this is a natural process.
• 40:05
  Speaker 1: What you choose to put yourself through or when you
• 40:08
  Speaker 1: choose pain, when you choose discipline, when you choose suffering,
• 40:12
  Speaker 1: it makes you better. Galatians chapter six, verse nine. Let
• 40:16
  Speaker 1: us not right whenever you whenever you hear in scripture,
• 40:21
  Speaker 1: let us know what that means. It means up to
• 40:22
  Speaker 1: your means. You got to choose this. God's not going
• 40:25
  Speaker 1: to do this part for you. Let us not become weary.
• 40:29
  Speaker 1: And that's the part that you got to not do.
• 40:32
  Speaker 1: It's not like, man, God, this is so hard, make
• 40:34
  Speaker 1: it easy for me. He's like, son, that's the you part.
• 40:37
  Speaker 1: That's the you part. I'm with you, but you not
• 40:40
  Speaker 1: feeling sorry for yourself and being a baby, that's your
• 40:44
  Speaker 1: Let us not become weary and doing good for at
• 40:47
  Speaker 1: the proper time. We will reap a harvest if we
• 40:52
  Speaker 1: do not give up. As our man Hormosi says, love
• 40:56
  Speaker 1: this one. He needs a sound effect.
• 40:59
  Speaker 2: You can accel leader, Thanks dude, I didn't have much
• 41:02
  Speaker 2: to do today.
• 41:04
  Speaker 1: As Hormosy says, I love this one. Success and failure
• 41:07
  Speaker 1: are on the same highway. Success is just a later exit.
• 41:10
  Speaker 2: Yep, yeah, so true man, So last one, inn g.
• 41:14
  Speaker 2: Because really, when you're talking about suffering, it's really the
• 41:16
  Speaker 2: hard work and you'll and we have such a hackers
• 41:20
  Speaker 2: society of like, you know, the appropriate level effort? How
• 41:22
  Speaker 2: do you determine the appropriate level of effort? Because I
• 41:25
  Speaker 2: think sometimes you think you're giving it all and then
• 41:28
  Speaker 2: somebody comes along and goes like, dude, you're barely even trying,
• 41:31
  Speaker 2: and like that's a blessing if you're willing to receive it.
• 41:33
  Speaker 2: But I mean, how are you supposed to know what
• 41:34
  Speaker 2: the appropriate level of effort is.
• 41:37
  Speaker 1: Will scripture has helped us with that. It says, let
• 41:41
  Speaker 1: us not become weary and doing good for at the
• 41:43
  Speaker 1: proper time. When's the proper time? Well, if you're doing
• 41:46
  Speaker 1: the right thing, you'll get there. And so the point
• 41:50
  Speaker 1: is right you saying when am I going to get there?
• 41:52
  Speaker 1: You know what that is. It's not saying let us
• 41:55
  Speaker 1: not become weary and doing good?
• 41:56
  Speaker 3: Right?
• 41:56
  Speaker 1: Your weariness is you saying I feel like I've done
• 41:59
  Speaker 1: it right? Why am I not producing any fruit?
• 42:03
  Speaker 3: Like?
• 42:03
  Speaker 1: Literally, if you'll burn this into your soul, let us
• 42:07
  Speaker 1: not become weary and doing good. It's like I worked
• 42:09
  Speaker 1: really hard today and I produce no fruit? Right, can't
• 42:11
  Speaker 1: wait to do it tomorrow. If that's really the way
• 42:14
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• 42:18
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