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If a narcissist THREATENS you, should you take it SERIOUSLY? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on beautiful folks?
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  Today we're talking about should you take a narcissist threats
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  seriously, Like when they threaten you, should they would
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  they follow through with said threats?
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  If you're new here, my name is Lee Hammock.
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  I'm a self aware narcissist and welcome to another episode of
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  the Narcissist Code. Oh yes, yes, yes, yeah.
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  a day, though at least three longer videos a day about
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  different stuff. But yes, should you take a
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  narcissist threat seriously? So this is this is my
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  perspective right here. Y'all what I've learned, one of
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  the main lessons that I've learned since getting into this,
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  this space of narcissistic abuse of mental health and things like
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  that. Since I've got it in, since I've
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  graciously been allowed into this space, right.
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  One of the main things I've learned, one of the main lessons
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  is I don't put anything past anyone.
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  That's what I've learned. That's one of the main things
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  that I've learned right there is that I refuse to put anything
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  past anyone because anyone is capable of doing anything.
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  You see what I'm saying? It's like people, especially
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  when their backs are against the wall and they have nothing to
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  lose. Will a narcissist follow through
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  with those threats? Some of them will.
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  Let's keep it hot. Let's keep it hot and ready.
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  Y'all know I keep it hot and ready like a Little Caesar's
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  pizza, right? I absolutely do.
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  But that's one of the things I've been doing for a long time.
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  But narcissistic people, y'all, this is one thing you have to
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  realize, one thing you have to think about.
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  Narcissistic people are going to do what it whatever is in their
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  best interest most of the time, very rarely when you have a self
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  sacrificing narcissist, right? But this is one thing you have
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  to consider as well. Of course, I, like I said, take
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  every threat seriously. Like think of like if they if,
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  especially if they're threatening your life, if they
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  threaten to do something to your life or in in your existence, so
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  to speak, like take you out of the take you away from this
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  world, take you out of this planet, right?
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  Take that seriously. But I also say this as well, a
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  lot of times, not all the time. A lot of the time, the power is
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  in the threat. Lee, what the hell does that
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  mean? What I mean is the power, the
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  actual power is in the threat. Whatever you you see what I'm
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  saying? The the power that they have is
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  in the actual threat, whatever the threat is.
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  Let's say the threat is. Let's say the threat is taking
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  the kids, right? I'm going to I'm going to file
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  for full custody. Dude, ask yourself, sometimes
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  could they want full custody? Yeah, sometimes they could
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  right? But ask yourself this question
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  like do they really want full custody or are they trying to
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  annoy me? Are they trying to like scare
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  me? Because the power is in the
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  threat. If they actually follow through
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  and get full custody, is there something that they actually
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  want? How is it going to hinder you?
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  How is it going to hurt you? Typically it's going to be full
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  custody or calling the police or something on you.
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  Like of course, again, y'all think about it.
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  Think about what happens if they follow through, if they like,
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  think about it right here. Watch their previous actions.
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  If they threaten to hit you and they've hit you before, of
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  course, take that seriously, right?
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  But if they threaten to take the kids in file for full custody.
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  But they don't know that they, they don't know your, the, your
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  kids teacher's name. They don't know their allergies.
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  They don't know what they like or dislike.
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  They don't know their favorite color, their favorite fruit,
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  their favorite superhero or baby doll or, you know, action
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  figure, whatever it is. They don't know their favorite
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  board game, their favorite video game.
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  They don't know none of that. Ask yourself, are they really
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  going to go file for full custody or are they trying to
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  scare me into just doing what they want me to do?
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  Because think about it right here, y'all, sometimes when they
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  follow through with the threat, they lose all their power.
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  They no longer have the power, right?
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  They hit you. I'm gonna get y'all again.
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  If they hit you, they've already hit you before.
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  Take those threats seriously. Call the police if they threaten
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  your life. Call the police if they threaten
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  to get full custody. Of course, take the necessary
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  action based on the threat. Whatever the threat is, take the
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  necessary action based on that. Like take the make a, make a
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  plan of action just in case. Like just in case they are
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  serious. Let me go and have a plan of
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  action ready just in case they are serious.
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  This in case they, they, they threatening to harm me, let me
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  go and have a plan of action in place just in case they are
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  serious and they follow through with it, right.
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  Just in case you always want to have that ready.
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  Just in case you want to have, always want to have that like
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  the, the ace of your sleeve, so to speak, just in case.
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  So you always want to be ready, but a lot of times, like I said,
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  they are just talking. They want to scare you.
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  Narcissistic people, they operate on fear.
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  They hope, they're hoping the the more afraid you are, the
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  more control they have. The more afraid you are, the
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  more control that they feel like they have.
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  So of course they're going to try to keep you afraid.
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  Of course they're going to try to keep you fearful and reserved
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  and quiet. You know what I'm saying if you
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  if you, if you, if you if you block me, I'm going to expose
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  your new to the world. OK, This is one of y'all I know
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  I y'all if y'all don't know I run a support group called the
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  mental healers. You can find more information
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  out about here right, but a girl in my support group yesterday,
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  she was just saying Lee, I just like this person is threatened
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  to expose my news to the world if I block them on Instagram.
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  I'll let OK take that threat seriously if they do you have
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  evidence of that threat? Yes.
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  OK, save it, document it, because guess what happens if
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  they expose that? Then no, they lose their power.
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  Yeah, you exposed. OK, I'm not saying this is I'm
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  not trying to make trying to minimize the the fear.
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  The fear is valid, right? You're you're exposed, right?
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  But then they lose their power. Now you have evidence.
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  Now they asked go to jail for for for revenge, corn replace
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  the C with AP. You get what I'm saying?
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  They go to jail in a lot of states, a lot of districts, a
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  lot of cities. They go to jail for that stuff.
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  I had a person I saw a story other day.
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  It was a couple months ago, but it's dude in over over in the
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  UK. He had filmed X tape with a girl
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  without her knowledge and put it on his only fans.
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  And then he got arrested and he he's in jail right now for it.
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  You know what I mean? And they're pretty like she's a
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  pretty popular, I think she's actress or something like that.
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  So he exposed her and she filed charges and his ass is locked
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  up. This is the type of stuff that
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  happens. Protect yourself, take a plan of
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  action. If they if they follow through
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  with the threat, they lose the power.
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  Of course, if they're threatened to take your life yet they lose
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  the power, but you also lose your life if they're threatening
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  your life. Document all this stuff.
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  Y'all if you, if you whatever state that you're in, document
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  this type of stuff. Of course, you might not be able
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  to use it in court. It might not be valid or
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  whatever. I think in in Commission of a
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  crime, you can record somebody, but just like private
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  conversation might not can record people or whatever.
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  Of course, look up you state laws or whatever.
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  I'm not an attorney. I'm narcissist, you know what
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  I'm saying? But look at your state laws
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  about recording and things like that.
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  Just to protect yourself, just to keep yourself as safe as
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  humanly possible. Because you want to protect.
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  You want to get to protect yourself.
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  You do you. You have, you have to, you have
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  to protect yourself. If you don't, you're going to
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  lose. If you don't, you're going to be
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  sad as hell. Protect yourself at all cause
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  will leave. They keep saying the same thing
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  over and over again. They keep threatening me.
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  Document that type of stuff and be ready to be be ready to act
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  just in case they follow through.
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  You know what I'm saying. I'm not telling you.
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  I'm not saying don't be afraid. That's not what I'm saying.
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  I'm not trying to invalidate you, Lee.
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  You trying to minimize. No, I that's not that's exactly
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  the opposite what I'm trying to do.
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  I'm just trying to wake you up to how the mind of a narcissist
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  works. As long as the threat works
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  without me having to follow through with it, I have control
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  over you. You see what I'm saying?
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  If, if, if I've been threatening to say, if I've been threatening
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  the same thing for 10 years, what are the chance I'm going to
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  follow through it? You see what I'm saying?
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  If I've been, I'm gonna leave you.
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  Don't do that. I'm gonna leave you.
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  It's been 10 years. I ain't left yet.
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  It's a threat. You see what I'm saying?
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  They're not. The power is in the threat.
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  The power is to get you to act the right.
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  Especially if you have abandonment issues and things of
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  that nature. If you have some type of
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  abandonment issue or that type of stuff an abandonment wound
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  that type of dynamic that's what type of stuff happens right.
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  That's what you get caught up with.
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  This is the type of person you get caught up with a lot of the
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  time all the time, so you have to protect yourself.
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  You absolutely do so document all this stuff, y'all.
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  I know I know I'm I'm like tired.
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  Y'all just been walking around the the North Carolina State
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  fair all day. I'm entire I was just like this
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  all this video. It's a little bit late today
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  walk around the State Fair five hours.
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  I'm going to be home earlier, but the State Fair North
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  Carolina and Raleigh. I don't know if y'all see y'all
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  saw me there. You said, hey, set the same
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  clothes as rich or oh, but yeah, this was the type of stuff that
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  happens like the power a lot of times is in the threat.
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  They threaten you to control you, to put fear into you.
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  Will some of them follow through?
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  Absolutely. As I'm not trying to get y'all
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  to lower y'all's defenses. I'm not trying to say don't take
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  it seriously. I said that at the beginning.
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  Take every threat seriously on your life.
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  If they I'm I'm gonna take y'all.
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  I'm gonna I'm gonna send you to me God.
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  Y'all, if they threaten you to send you to me God, You see what
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  I'm saying? If they threaten you to see you
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  meet God, document that type of stuff and send it to the police.
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  Talk to the police. Protect yourself at all costs.
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  Arm yourself. Everybody fighting for the
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  Second Amendment in America, arm yourself.
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  I'm I'm, I'm arming myself more and more and more because I know
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  especially the next upcoming weeks here, these these people,
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  I heard crazy, they said losing their damn mind.
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  So yeah, that you got to get get some home defense because people
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  out here losing their minds. But this is the space that so
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  many people fall into. You have to protect yourself.
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  If they're threatening you, take it seriously.
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  Yeah, if they threaten you take it seriously.
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  But a lot of times, like I said, the threat is to control you, to
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  put that fear into you so you don't act.
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  So you just you just sit there and take it.
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  So you just sit there and take the abuse in fear of
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  retribution, in fear of exposure, in fear of whatever
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  they say they're going to do. You are stronger than you think
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  you are. You are more powerful than you
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  think you are. They want you to think that,
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  y'all? They want you to think that
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  you're weak. It benefits them to think that
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  you are weak. It really, really does that.
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  That's just the end of it right there y'all it, it benefits them
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  to think you would, like I said, could they absolutely follow
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  through with these threats? Yes, they absolutely could.
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  But at the end of the day, it gives them more power to not
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  follow through with it. It just absolutely does y'all.
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