Latest / Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families / #303 Three Minute Therapy #6 - People Matter Things Don't

Transcript

#303 Three Minute Therapy #6 - People Matter Things Don't · Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

• 0:03
  Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families podcast. It's the podcast for the
• 0:07
  Speaker 1: time poor parent who just wants answers.
• 0:10
  Speaker 2: Now, Hey, Kylie, I'm going to share a story just
• 0:12
  Speaker 2: now that might be a bit embarrassing for you.
• 0:13
  Speaker 3: Are you going to incriminate me?
• 0:15
  Speaker 2: Maybe just a little bit, And I'm going to make
• 0:16
  Speaker 2: myself look really good at the same time.
• 0:18
  Speaker 3: Oh, they're the best stories, aren't they. Hanns what I think?
• 0:22
  Speaker 2: My name's doctor Justin Colson, the author of all these
• 0:24
  Speaker 2: books about how to make your families and relationships happier.
• 0:27
  Speaker 2: I'm not sure if it's going to work today here
• 0:29
  Speaker 2: with Kylie wife co host Mum to our six kids.
• 0:33
  Speaker 2: So we bought a new car a little, oh maybe
• 0:35
  Speaker 2: about a year and a half ago, two years ago,
• 0:38
  Speaker 2: because we've got a big family. It was a brand
• 0:39
  Speaker 2: new key a Carnival. First time we've ever bought a
• 0:41
  Speaker 2: new car in ever ever and not sponsored by the
• 0:45
  Speaker 2: way hashtag not sponsored. But gosh, we love that car.
• 0:49
  Speaker 2: What a fantastic car. If you've got a big family.
• 0:51
  Speaker 3: You know what I love about it the most?
• 0:52
  Speaker 2: In need event, go for it? What do you love
• 0:53
  Speaker 2: about it the most?
• 0:54
  Speaker 1: It's got all of these senses, so it tells you
• 0:56
  Speaker 1: when there's things that are.
• 0:58
  Speaker 3: In the way you seeing, you can't.
• 1:00
  Speaker 1: You can't, like, you can't have an accident in a
• 1:03
  Speaker 1: car like that.
• 1:03
  Speaker 3: Do you do?
• 1:04
  Speaker 2: You know what story I'm going to tell?
• 1:05
  Speaker 3: What story? Are you going to tell about the accident
• 1:07
  Speaker 3: that you had? What accident I've had an accident?
• 1:10
  Speaker 2: Yeah, So we had the car for just a couple
• 1:12
  Speaker 2: of months at most, and so our garage is always
• 1:15
  Speaker 2: pretty full of stuff, and therefore when we turn the
• 1:18
  Speaker 2: car on, all the sensors go bbbby bip all the time.
• 1:23
  Speaker 2: So Kylie gets into the car and the sensors start
• 1:27
  Speaker 2: going as you would probably expect. She pops into a
• 1:31
  Speaker 2: reverse and begins reversing. The door was open, but there
• 1:34
  Speaker 2: was a car parked, a car parked behind the Keya.
• 1:38
  Speaker 3: Our Let's face it, it was a small car.
• 1:41
  Speaker 2: Our teenage daughter drives a sedan, a full sized family sedan.
• 1:46
  Speaker 3: Now you're making it sound really bad. It's much smaller
• 1:49
  Speaker 3: than the Kia.
• 1:51
  Speaker 2: Anything's much smaller than the Keya unless it's a semi trailer.
• 1:54
  Speaker 2: Kylie reverses the car didn't bother because all the senses
• 1:57
  Speaker 2: are going off and they always do.
• 1:58
  Speaker 3: Didn't bother?
• 1:59
  Speaker 2: To actually check the three hundred and sixty degree camera
• 2:03
  Speaker 2: that is displayed on the.
• 2:04
  Speaker 1: The care has the best camera ever on Like I
• 2:06
  Speaker 1: am incriminating myself here, The care has the best camera
• 2:10
  Speaker 1: I've ever seen.
• 2:11
  Speaker 2: On this eight inch color display that shows you everything
• 2:14
  Speaker 2: that's happening around the car.
• 2:16
  Speaker 3: Well, it only works if you look at the camera.
• 2:18
  Speaker 3: I wasn't looking at the camera.
• 2:20
  Speaker 2: Every obstacle that's there reversed tobol first right into the sedan.
• 2:27
  Speaker 1: So luckily, luckily your sedan slumper bar it's plastic, and
• 2:33
  Speaker 1: it bounce back.
• 2:34
  Speaker 2: It sustained all of the damage and it still hasn't
• 2:37
  Speaker 2: been fixed nearly two years later. But I remember you
• 2:41
  Speaker 2: came to my office and I was on a call.
• 2:43
  Speaker 2: I couldn't be disturbed, but I knew that things weren't good.
• 2:46
  Speaker 2: And then you grabbed a piece of paper and wrote, I.
• 2:51
  Speaker 3: Crashed the car. Just crashed the car.
• 2:53
  Speaker 2: And then ran off crying. So I obviously got off
• 2:57
  Speaker 2: the call as quickly as I could walk into the garage,
• 2:58
  Speaker 2: saw it and was like, oh gosh. And then I
• 3:01
  Speaker 2: remembered the lesson that I want to emphasize now. And
• 3:03
  Speaker 2: we've talked about it on the podcast. Before, but I
• 3:05
  Speaker 2: remembered the lesson and it was an important one. People matter, things, don't.
• 3:10
  Speaker 3: Well, I'm glad that I taught you that lesson.
• 3:12
  Speaker 2: Well, you gave me an opportunity to practice the lesson.
• 3:16
  Speaker 2: And I remember specifically what I said to you. Do
• 3:19
  Speaker 2: you remember what I said? No? I said two things.
• 3:22
  Speaker 2: First of all, I said, I love you. I said, Kylie,
• 3:25
  Speaker 2: you're feeling really awful right now, aren't you? And you nodded,
• 3:28
  Speaker 2: and I was like, and I love you. And then
• 3:31
  Speaker 2: I continued, and I think I was a little bit cheeky.
• 3:33
  Speaker 2: I said something along the lines of, isn't it horrible
• 3:36
  Speaker 2: when we ignore those warning beeps and forget to look
• 3:38
  Speaker 2: at the big color screen that show says what's behind us?
• 3:43
  Speaker 2: And then you started crying again.
• 3:45
  Speaker 3: Well, I think there's another lesson that comes out of
• 3:47
  Speaker 3: that as well.
• 3:47
  Speaker 2: We did hug and you took it.
• 3:48
  Speaker 3: Humor helps. Humor does well, it does.
• 3:51
  Speaker 2: So what's the challenge for our families today to help
• 3:53
  Speaker 2: their families to be happier to crash the car?
• 3:57
  Speaker 3: That's definitely a good tip.
• 3:59
  Speaker 2: Challenge accepted. Do you have another one?
• 4:01
  Speaker 3: I do.
• 4:04
  Speaker 1: When things go wrong today and inevitably, at some point,
• 4:07
  Speaker 1: something will, something will be in our path and it
• 4:10
  Speaker 1: will challenge us. Find the opportunity to remember that people matter,
• 4:16
  Speaker 1: things don't.
• 4:17
  Speaker 2: And then give your kids a great big hug and
• 4:18
  Speaker 2: say I love you more than I love that really
• 4:20
  Speaker 2: expensive thing that you're smashed, and we can work that out.
• 4:24
  Speaker 2: Let's just make sure you're okay first. We really hope
• 4:26
  Speaker 2: you enjoyed this tip. Short, sweet, simple, and a bit
• 4:29
  Speaker 2: of fun. The Happy Families podcast is produced by Justin
• 4:32
  Speaker 2: Rulan from Bridge Media and Craig Bruce is our executive producer.
• 4:35
  Speaker 2: Even in the holidays, he never stops that man. If
• 4:38
  Speaker 2: you'd like more information about making your family happier, you
• 4:41
  Speaker 2: can find it all at happy families dot com dot
• 4:43
  Speaker 2: a