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Beek on being SISTERS · Beek on being

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  Melissa Shere Beek: I'm Melissa Beek, and welcome to Beek on Being. Almost twenty five years ago, I started a weekly column in a section of the Miami Herald highlighting topics, writing about being human, and the connective thread we all share. Also giving a special mention to people working to heal the world, coming from a place of kindness and invested in community, I covered what we all discussed in experience. I feel this podcast is a natural extension of that. This podcast is a safe place for everyone to share personal or professional perspectives, to talk openly, ask questions without fear, reconnect, to learn, and to grow.
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  From silly to serious to sublime, it's all about communication and connection. We've got to keep learning, keep growing, and keep being. This is Beak on Being. And today's episode, Beek on Being sisters. Woo hoo.
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  I've got my sisters here today with me. I got all my sisters with me. I'm so happy to introduce them. I've got Sam or Sammy Jo Hi. The blondie over here Oh god.
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  And the baby over there, Jess
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  Jessica Shere: Hi. Jessica.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: So?
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  Jessica Shere: Hey ho. Hey
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  Melissa Shere Beek: ho. So I was talking about our relationship and there's something special about Sisters that no matter what it is. We you're picking up stuff off the couch already?
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: I thought she was wanting to
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  Melissa Shere Beek: But help my hair I've always felt and you can correct me if I'm wrong. But no questions asked. We're always there for each other. We've gotten each other's Okay. And we've gone through serious shit over the years.
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  But there's just this beauty in knowing that I can count on you two, and I feel like you guys feel that way about me.
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  Jessica Shere: Yeah. You don't need as many friends.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: Okay. So that was what I was gonna say.
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  I felt like I never needed a bestie because you guys were my built in besties.
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  Jessica Shere: You're go to.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: Yeah. Always my go to.
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: And then And I tell my kids that too now.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: Yeah. That they they have each other.
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: Yeah. They don't need anybody else.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: But when people meet us and not knowing us or our family, when people meet us nowadays
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  Jessica Shere: Uh-huh. They don't They
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  Melissa Shere Beek: don't put us together at all.
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  Jessica Shere: Not
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  Melissa Shere Beek: at Like, we're three totally totally different personalities and put us together still. You do?
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  Jessica Shere: I do. I think it's always the three of us. Like, when
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: we When we go to say the Shere sisters, when they hear our last name, they put us together. But seeing us and not knowing us
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  Jessica Shere: But then they eventually figure it out.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: When they see us together, they figure it out. But if they meet us individually, I don't think they put us together.
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  Jessica Shere: Maybe not. But okay.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: So I read about, like, birth order stuff. Yeah. And it says, firstborn traits. They're responsible, independent, rule followers, hard workers, reliable, and caretaker role.
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  Jessica Shere: That's you.
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: Shit. I'm wondering what's the No.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: The second second I see. Second born traits, adaptable, creative
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: That's true.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: Sociable
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: eeeh
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  Melissa Shere Beek: Rebellious
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: Oh, yeah.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: Competitive
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: No.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: Conflict avoidant
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: Yeah. Big
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  Melissa Shere Beek: time. Okay. You wanna hear third born?
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  Jessica Shere: No. I'm scared.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: Jesse. Wow. Jesse. Okay. Outgoing
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  Jessica Shere: Yes.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: Dependent
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  Jessica Shere: Oh.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: Mischievous
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  Jessica Shere: Yes.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: People pleasing
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  Jessica Shere: Yes.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: Enjoy the indulgence they receive as the baby of the family.
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  Jessica Shere: Oh, for sure.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: Get more attention from parents and siblings. You have the biggest shit eating green on
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  your face right now. You're like, yeah. Yeah. That's me.
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  Jessica Shere: There's some perks with being the third.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: Oh my god.
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  Do you think birth order plays a part in our personalities?
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: Yes.
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  Jessica Shere: Yes.
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: Yes. A 100%. Yes.
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  Jessica Shere: Yeah? I actually do.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: Why?
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  Jessica Shere: I just think, like, the firstborn's always supposed to the responsible motherly one. The middle one, maybe gets lost in the shuffle sometimes.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: I don't think she gets lost. I think she's like, I'm out doing my own shit.
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  Thank you. Bye. Yeah.
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: Think you took of what it is. Oh, it took care of baby a lot.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: Oh, totally. You were my first first baby. Sam was my first baby. Yeah. Shit all over me.
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  I had cut my nightgown into a shirt. I was so so my peppermint body nightgown. That's right. But I was so happy. Yeah.
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  I was so happy. I was almost seven. I was six and a half, almost seven, and I was so happy that I had, like Finally someone. Yes. And then when you came along, it was besides the dog and the cat that I found in a dumpster and everybody else.
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  But when you came along, I had you two, and I was like, oh, my world is complete. This is super cool.
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  Jessica Shere: That's nice.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: Yeah. No.
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  Jessica Shere: Okay. No. I like being the third. It was it's great.
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: You still like being the third.
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  Jessica Shere: Oh, I love it.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: Oh, a 100%. Okay. So I have gifts for you all.
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  Jessica Shere: Oh, shoot.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: They no. Of course. Oh, shit. I mean, I think I said f word in the opening sentence.
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  Jessica Shere: You did.
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  This is gonna be some like talking stuff.
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: It's gonna be our badge.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: Okay. This is Sammy Jo
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: I told you. Was gonna be
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  Melissa Shere Beek: This is Jesse.
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  Jessica Shere: Wait. Oh, I know.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: For those of you who are listening, I got us all shirts that sort of really sum up who we are.
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: Oh my god.
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  Jessica Shere: That's so cute.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: My shirt says, I'm the firstborn. I follow the rules. Sam's is second born. I'm not I'm the reason there were
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: rules. There are rules.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: There are rules. And wait. Third born? Jess, what did you say?
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  Jessica Shere: It says, wait.
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  There were rules?
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  Melissa Shere Beek: And but the I was thinking, though, because you brought up, like, your parenting styles are different. Wait. You have to get the phone? No.
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  No. No. I was saying your parenting styles are different because of the way you said we were raised. So I'm thinking even, you know, same parents raised us, even growing up in the house, totally different rules for me than for you all. Because you're you're shaking your head.
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  Jessica Shere: I think it might Rules for you. Rules for you.
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: No rules
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  Melissa Shere Beek: for No rules for Jess. No. There were rules. No. There were no rules.
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: There were rules.
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  Rules, but not to the extent that I felt like I had.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: Okay. So this is probably an inappropriate Who is Samantha? No. Okay.
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: Oh, no. No. No. Well, yes. I stole the car.
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  But that's
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  Melissa Shere Beek: Okay. Well, that's the best story ever because I was gonna talk about grounding. So when I was a teenager do you remember daddy had the extra the van was an extra car that we had? So he used to let me drive the van and
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  Jessica Shere: do it up. Play
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  Melissa Shere Beek: the music. The van that played Yeah. The Yeah. It had like 30 different
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: I love that.
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  Jessica Shere: Sounds almost orange.
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: Think it every time we get to the messenger's house, I got to pick which one I got to play.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: What did you play?
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: I had number 36. I don't remember. Was a
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  whole set. Crazy. I don't
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  know. It had that many options back then. Oh my god. Were so many options. Remember he had a sheet.
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  Yeah. And you could press the number and it played whatever song it was. Oh, yeah. There was like 40 options.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: When mom walked out, daddy would play the old gray mare just
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: like I just remember the joy of pulling up to the messenger's house and getting to choose whatever song I Wait.
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  Jessica Shere: We drove it from our house to the messenger.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: Yeah. Next door.
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  Right next door. Next door.
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  Literally next door.
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  Jessica Shere: Yeah. To go to road trip.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: It was. It was.
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: It was to go to school. I don't remember, but oh, that was the best.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: Yeah. Because there was, Remember when
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: he had Seven of us. Installed in the van? Oh, that van was the best. That The van was the remember the colors. It had a stripe on the side that was, like, air around.
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  Jessica Shere: It was like orange and brown. Yes. Yes.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: It was very seventies. On the side too.
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: It did. It was hot around
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  Melissa Shere Beek: the side. And it had a table in the back, a little round
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  Jessica Shere: table in
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  Melissa Shere Beek: the back. I remember that.
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: Oh, that was the best car ever.
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  We had the best car.
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  The car I stole, though.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: That's not no. You stole you stole the stole them. Cadillac.
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: The Cadillac. The black Caddy.
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  Jessica Shere: Was it the mom's car?
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: Oh, yeah. Yeah. Was mom's, like No.
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  Jessica Shere: Dad had a Mark seven. And maybe it was not
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: this was the black, big black
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  Melissa Shere Beek: Oh, yeah. Caddy.
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  Jessica Shere: No. Mark seven was like a
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  I remember daddy wanted that.
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: Then dad also had a blue jaguar. Remember that one?
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  Smelled like weed. Ghost in it.
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  Jessica Shere: I don't remember that.
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: That smelled like weed. Dad, and I had no idea dad was smoking.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: Okay. So this is the whole story he's gonna say about the van.
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: We really we really went sidetracked. No. No. You brought me right
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  Melissa Shere Beek: back around. This is the best thing. So I had I got to drive the van. And one day, daddy knocked on the door of my bedroom, and he was screaming.
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  Jessica Shere: Oh, I know the story.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: He had a horrible, horrible temper, and he was screaming, screaming, how could you screaming about a joint he found underneath the front seat of the van. I had no idea what the hell he was talking about. And I was hysterical hysterical in the room crying. And I was saying, I didn't do anything. I've never tried anything.
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  I don’t use drugs. Totally fear of Gd. And and I was
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  like, you could take me
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  to the hospital and have me blood tested. Never done any I was hysterical, hysterical. He's like, you're grounded for life and closed the door, and I'm, like, hours crying. And then, like, a really bad SNL skit, he comes back and knocks on the door, and he's hysterical laughing. He can't even keep his face straight.
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  And mom's laughing behind him too. It's their fucking joint. Yeah. And then he says to me, oh, it must and he through laughter, he's saying, it must have been one of the workmen. I'm gonna have to fire him tomorrow morning.
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  And they, like, laugh down the hall or whatever.
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  Okay.
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  Jessica Shere: Have no clue.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: Ten years later no. No. No. Ten years later, I don't know.
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  Mom and dad are going through closets. I don't know whose closets. There was a joint in one of them. There was a joint in one of them. And then, well, I don't it was yours.
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  There was a joint in one of And
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: It was yours?
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  Melissa Shere Beek: And daddy says, daddy What's it? They light it up because they say, we're not sure if this is a cigarette or a joint. I was like, you know, if I ever first of all, I looked at them like, you're the same parents who grounded me for life, and now you're just, like, lighting up to see what it is, and it wasn't mine. But and I never did it. But I was like, are you fucking kidding me?
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  I would not be alive today if I tried to pull any of the crap that either of you two No.
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  Jessica Shere: Got away Because I it was mine, but I didn't smoke till after high school.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: No. That's what I'm saying.
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  It was you were at college.
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  Jessica Shere: But oh, I was? It was you came home from college. Then it was about me.
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: Oh my god.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: Yeah. But the thing is is I'm saying I would never be alive were to number two. You know? That one? You wanna tell us why you were grounded?
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  You were grounded. You were ground no. You don't have to tell us why you're grounded. You were also grounded for a month. But what did you do with that grounding?
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: First of all. First of Wait. Wait. I want what
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  Melissa Shere Beek: did you do with that grounding?
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: Let wait. Let's take it back for a second because I don't even know why I was grounded.
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  Jessica Shere: Oh, I know why.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: Know why you were grounded, but we're not gonna say.
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: What did I do?
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  Melissa Shere Beek: Something through the window.
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  Jessica Shere: Probably let the cat in or something. No. I know it's not the cat.
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: So no boy can could slide in the window. I may have turned off the alarm, which triggered the chime of the front door so I can let a boy in.
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  Jessica Shere: That could through the window.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: No. I can't get through the atrium.
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  You hid in mom's closet.
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: No. That's a that's a whole other story. He came through the front door, the back door, the side door. I don't know, but I could turn off the chime as every time you opened up the
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  Jessica Shere: front door, know how to do You need that let me know how
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  that works now.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: I don't
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: know how I know. I don't know where it's I knew where it was found. Used to see Cat in through the window.
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  Jessica Shere: Yes. That you did.
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: Okay. So I hate that idea. But I don't think it was the boy snuck in, but I was grounded.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: And And what did you do with your grounding?
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: I didn't I didn't follow it.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: What did you do?
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  Jessica Shere: I decided I was leaving the house to go pick up my friend in her car at the age of 15.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: Without a license.
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: Without a well, no. So the car
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  Melissa Shere Beek: with a learner's for it and figure I mean, the balls to do that.
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  Jessica Shere: Back then too.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: My god. I would be terrified.
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: The funny thing is I had told my kids this story so many times. I was so sure one of them would have done it. No. I don't I know just, it wasn't that I didn't wanna be a rule follower, because I feel like I'm such a rule follower now.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: True.
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: I just think mom's threats were just threat. Like, she wasn't ever following through. And I knew I think in my mind, I knew that I can go to dad, and dad would
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  Jessica Shere: talk Just to be whatever.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: And daddy let us do anything.
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  Jessica Shere: Oh, he didn't care.
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: Yeah. He was scared of mom.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: Yeah. That was the thing. If you crossed a line, he had her back, not
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  us.
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  Jessica Shere: I remember waiting to go outside to the mailbox to get my report card. Wait. Because I didn't want mom to get to it first. I always wanted dad to get to it first. So I remember taking it out of the mailbox.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: And then Did you ever alter it?
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: Oh, hell yeah.
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  Jessica Shere: Oh, gd no.
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  How do
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  Melissa Shere Beek: you alter reports? I don't know. I've never tried it.
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: It wasn't tight, but I remember there were certain times where like a teacher would have to sign something or put a grade in like mom used to come make us make papers and have the teacher sign if we did the homework. I remember the teacher would like do a grade or something if it was like a numerical grade and I could with the red pen
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  Melissa Shere Beek: change it. Really?
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: Oh, I would forge her signature mom's signature all the time.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: Oh
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: my Maybe I'm really bad.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: You're not bad.
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: I should've let all this shit out. No. You're not good.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: You
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  were you've listen. You had balls that none of us had. I thought that was amazing. I you did back don't then. Know
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: so I hate to say this. I was felt like I was so punished all the time. Like, I had to, like Yeah. I had to, like, be normal. Like, not be punished all the time.
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  I don't know why this is ugh. I don't know where this is going.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: Do you have happy, good memories?
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  Jessica Shere: I do.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: Okay. Good. Lay it on us.
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  Jessica Shere: I just okay. Don't remember that much. We're the best.
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: We're the best block.
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  Jessica Shere: Oh. I remember stories for you guys. Best block.
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: We had the best block.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: Wait. What story were you gonna say? And then we'll What get back to the story? What Disney story?
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  Jessica Shere: With the me bouncing on the bed.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: Oh, you were a shit stirrer. We always got in trouble because of you. Yeah. But it was you who was doing it. Do you remember when we all went to Disney, and we're all in the same hotel room, and she was in the cot, and you and I were in one bed, and mom and dad were in the other bed.
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  And she just kept jumping on the cot and jumping on the bed and jumping on the cot. She was causing so much shit. And then just before mom would get up to turn on the light, Jessica would go back down on the cot, and she'd be, like, faking a sleeping.
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: I could see her doing that.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: And mom was yelling
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: She could at still do that right now.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: She could Girl,
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: she would totally would do that right now.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: She The best trick you ever pulled was like, oh, when I would come home from college, and I'd be like, oh, Sissie
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  wait. Will you rub my back?
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  And then I promise after you rub my back
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  Jessica Shere: I would never.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: I'll rub your back. And I was like, okay. That's great. And like, you'd fake a sleep after I rubbed your back. You're like, that's it.
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: And then never yeah. She would still do that and you would. I know you would.
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  Jessica Shere: I’d be like, my god. I gotta go.
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: She's still the baby sister.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: Oh, a 100%.
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: She would be like, tickle my arm, play with my hair.
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  Jessica Shere: I would. I totally I would. I totally
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  Melissa Shere Beek: And and we we indulge you.
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  Jessica Shere: Yeah It it's it's easier to get through life with you too.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: Aw. Thank you.
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  Jessica Shere: You're welcome. You make it easier.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: Thank you.
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  Yep. Do you have, like, moments that you think back that, like, strong Impressions that really stuck with you about, like, sisterhood?
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  Jessica Shere: I mean, the biggest moment for me personally was many years ago when I needed the support from you two.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: Oh, yeah. Well, we love you.
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  Jessica Shere: But it just reassures Yeah. You know, that you have people that support you and are there for you and will do anything for you and understand.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: We love you.
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  Jessica Shere: That's very nice.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: We love a little baby.
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  And Sam?
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: Can I think what was the question?
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  Melissa Shere Beek: Can you repeat the question,
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  Samantha Shere Sharpe: please? Blonde.
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  Melissa Shere Beek: Blonde. No. Is there any strong impression or story that stuck with you over the years about like sisterhood? Like, oh, yeah. This is this is just new.
• 15:25
  Jessica Shere: I love be a sisterhood. I have. Yeah. Have started. You just knew.
• 15:28
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: I feel like when you had Mollie and I would come to your house in Iguana, and I was just always there. And I don't know if it's from pictures and me me remembering pictures sitting on the porch when Mollie was dressed as a pumpkin. Oh, yeah.
• 15:41
  Melissa Shere Beek: I remember that. Like Oh, that's thirty years.
• 15:43
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: Yeah. So, like, that's the memories that I have. I mean, I do remember, I hate to say, when you had gotten, like, blood poisoning from a razor, and mom was like Oh. And you couldn't you couldn't go back to college, and mom was like, get your shit together
• 15:59
  Jessica Shere: Mom, going to to a doctor. Doctor.
• 16:00
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: I remember exactly where you were sitting in the playroom.
• 16:03
  Melissa Shere Beek: In the playroom.
• 16:03
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: Remember it, like, yesterday. Do you
• 16:05
  Melissa Shere Beek: remember what Jessica said?
• 16:06
  Jessica Shere: No. What did I say?
• 16:08
  Oh, you'll be fucking fine. No. I said
• 16:10
  Melissa Shere Beek: You said you you bet
• 16:11
  it was, like, three days. My foot was swollen. It was, like, moving up towards my knee. I couldn't walk. I couldn't put pressure on it.
• 16:17
  And I kept saying, somebody needs to take me somewhere because this is really bad.
• 16:21
  Jessica Shere: Oh, yeah.
• 16:21
  Melissa Shere Beek: I remember. Jessica came in the playroom because I was sitting there. They made me put, like, my
• 16:24
  foot in Nepsen sauce. There that bad couch in the middle of the playroom.
• 16:28
  Jessica Shere: Wicker couch? Yeah.
• 16:30
  Melissa Shere Beek: Yeah. I finally said someone's gotta take me somewhere.
• 16:32
  Jessica Shere: Oh, What did I say?
• 16:33
  Melissa Shere Beek: And Jessica came in, and she's like, you can complain all you want. They aren't doing shit. And eventually eventually, they said to daddy, come on. And he took me to the hospital. Was like a bad Peter Sellers movie because they put me in a wheelchair, my leg was out.
• 16:46
  And he kept running me into, like, walls and doors, and I thank god I couldn't feel anything. Yeah. I had blood poisoning. They had to give me a bunch of shots and medication. They're like, good thing it didn't get to your heart.
• 16:55
  She would have been
• 16:56
  dead tomorrow. Yeah.
• 16:57
  Jessica Shere: True. Right?
• 16:58
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: Yeah. True. Remember that, like, yesterday. I also remember you had a date. A frog got in the house, and he was chasing the frog.
• 17:05
  Jessica Shere: Wait. I don’t remember.
• 17:06
  Melissa Shere Beek: Oh, yes.
• 17:07
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: You might not have been there. Yeah. Yep. He was hopping all over the front of the house.
• 17:11
  So he Gribbiting up
• 17:12
  Jessica Shere: to the frog. Went after the dog. Had to catch it?
• 17:14
  Melissa Shere Beek: No. He was just following the frog. He He was doing the same thing the frog was.
• 17:18
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: Yeah. That didn't that was Or or when dad or when dad, you had a date with some guy, and he came in with a nose ring.
• 17:25
  Melissa Shere Beek: Oh, that was a ghost.
• 17:26
  Jessica Shere: No. No. It was dad.
• 17:27
  I know who it is. Yeah. The the nose ring.
• 17:30
  Melissa Shere Beek: Didn't she leave around my
• 17:31
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: said my mom said I can something about a bowl. Like Something
• 17:34
  Jessica Shere: about, like, I could drag you.
• 17:36
  Melissa Shere Beek: She did, though. Didn't she
• 17:37
  stick her fingernail up there?
• 17:38
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: No. She had no filter.
• 17:40
  Melissa Shere Beek: Oh my god. So funny.
• 17:42
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: No. But sister. Like, I you know, ebbs and flows. Like, I don't know. Like, there's not one single point, but I I will go back to what you first started and said that if God forbid something ever happened, we would drop everything and
• 17:56
  that was it.
• 17:57
  Yeah. And like I said, I tell my girls this all the time. It's just with all the girl drama that they've both gone through that all you have in life is your sister.
• 18:03
  Melissa Shere Beek: Oh, yeah. A 100%. Does sisterhood mean to
• 18:06
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: you? Oh. Dropping everything and running.
• 18:11
  Jessica Shere: Yeah. I think it means
• 18:15
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: no animosity.
• 18:16
  Jessica Shere: Support, love
• 18:17
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: She's gonna cry. No.
• 18:18
  Jessica Shere: No I'm okay. I've been crying lately, but I'm okay. Support now I'm gonna cry.
• 18:22
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: I told you.
• 18:23
  Melissa Shere Beek: It's okay. It's a good cry.
• 18:25
  Jessica Shere: Thank you. Support, love I think consistency too.
• 18:30
  Melissa Shere Beek: Oh, that's a good one.
• 18:31
  That's a really good one. Yeah.
• 18:33
  Jessica Shere: Just always there.
• 18:34
  Melissa Shere Beek: Yeah. A 100%.
• 18:35
  Consistent. And I'm gonna add one to all of those things.
• 18:38
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: Truth. But like always.
• 18:40
  Vault vault secret keeper.
• 18:42
  Melissa Shere Beek: Oh, a 100%.
• 18:43
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: Oh. There's a lot of secrets we
• 18:46
  all have.
• 18:47
  Melissa Shere Beek: Oh, yeah. That's in the vault, babe. That's totally
• 18:49
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: And nobody I think that's the thing about sisterhood is that we've lived a life that we each understand that nobody else will.
• 18:55
  Melissa Shere Beek: Oh. A 100%. Yeah. A 100%. That's like lock and
• 19:00
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: key done. We can just look at each other and not finish the sentence and know Yeah. What we're gonna
• 19:04
  Melissa Shere Beek: A 100%. Well, you know if it's like
• 19:06
  Jessica Shere: what the good or bad Right.
• 19:07
  Coming or something.
• 19:08
  That to me. Yeah.
• 19:09
  Melissa Shere Beek: A 100%. But, no. And I'm gonna add laughter. Like, pure laughter. Like, even in the thickest of shittiest situations Yes.
• 19:19
  We have found laughter. I can tell Samantha that there's, like okay. So you said there was, like, a big snake that it was on ninety eighth. I was thinking
• 19:28
  Jessica Shere: And she has the picture. No. No.
• 19:30
  Melissa Shere Beek: Do you remember we thought we we're on the way somewhere
• 19:33
  Jessica Shere: Oh.
• 19:33
  Melissa Shere Beek: And we thought there was a tree log, and it was a boa Constrictor . I can say that to her, and I just picture us on a highway.
• 19:40
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: Uh-uh. Wasn't a highway. Was a
• 19:41
  Melissa Shere Beek: dirt road. Dirt by was quarry, and we are hysterical laughing, pissing our pants. And that's it. Like, even in the darkest situations moved.
• 19:51
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: It moved.
• 19:52
  Melissa Shere Beek: Moved. We're like, how are gonna move this tree? And all of a sudden, like, wiggled off. It was, like, eight feet. It was so bad.
• 19:58
  And we laughed at each other, and we looked at each other, we laughed at each other. It's like only The whole thing. We could yeah. Well, anyways, but what I'm saying is Another topic. Another topic, another time, but maybe not.
• 20:07
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: Secrets that we have. But you know them because you shared them with you, but nobody else in this world does. Right. Not even mom.
• 20:13
  Melissa Shere Beek: Jessica Face!
• 20:14
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: She's
• 20:15
  so scared of all the shit coming out of my mouth.
• 20:18
  Melissa Shere Beek: Maybe that guy did give you extra coffee today.
• 20:22
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: I just Turning up the volume now. I'm like,
• 20:24
  Melissa Shere Beek: it took a while to kick in, but that extra blueberry coffee,
• 20:29
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: you're you know what? With that gummy in it.
• 20:30
  Jessica Shere: Oh my gd.
• 20:31
  Melissa Shere Beek: What are
• 20:32
  you talking about?
• 20:33
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: I'm joking.
• 20:34
  Melissa Shere Beek: Somebody gave her too much caffeine.
• 20:36
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: No. That caffeine was, like, at 10:30 this time.
• 20:38
  Melissa Shere Beek: Okay. Well, maybe it's a delayed kick in.
• 20:41
  Jessica Shere: It's 04:00. I think you have just a little bit of a problem.
• 20:44
  Melissa Shere Beek: Traffic on the way. Okay. Quickie questions. This is how I like to end my sessions. Alright?
• 20:49
  Jessica Shere: Yes. How did you feel about today? No. No. No.
• 20:51
  Melissa Shere Beek: What can't you live without?
• 20:55
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: My daughters.
• 20:56
  Melissa Shere Beek: Oh, of course.
• 20:58
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: I mean, I got a son there too. But
• 21:01
  Melissa Shere Beek: Without your children, you mean?
• 21:02
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: Well, yeah. Sure.
• 21:04
  Jessica Shere: Okay. I'm gonna go. Mhmm. The kids, but besides the kids. Yeah.
• 21:09
  Melissa Shere Beek: Was thinking more like yeah.
• 21:10
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: Okay. I'll think of
• 21:11
  a better one.
• 21:14
  Jessica Shere: I don't think I can live without my sheet.
• 21:16
  Melissa Shere Beek: Oh, your boppy. Your boppy. That's true. You love it.
• 21:20
  Jessica Shere: I love that thing.
• 21:22
  Melissa Shere Beek: Oh, that's comfort. Gosh. I get it.
• 21:24
  That's a good one. That's a really good one.
• 21:26
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: What can I not live without?
• 21:28
  Jessica Shere: Like, I take it everywhere. So
• 21:29
  Melissa Shere Beek: I love it.
• 21:30
  Jessica Shere: I realize.
• 21:31
  Melissa Shere Beek: I love it.
• 21:33
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: Oh, gd. I don't know because everything is so materialistic. I don't want to see even say anything. Like Okay.
• 21:40
  Jessica Shere: I I want to say it like your phone.
• 21:41
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: No. It's no. Not my phone at all. I'd be happy without a phone. It's not my car, and it's not my house.
• 21:49
  Melissa Shere Beek: Do want me to go? What do
• 21:50
  Jessica Shere: you think? Yeah.
• 21:51
  Melissa Shere Beek: Okay. So besides my kids, of course. I can't live without music
• 21:56
  or books.
• 21:57
  Jessica Shere: I like music. I
• 21:58
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: like actually started reading again. I've read a book in a day and a half.
• 22:01
  Melissa Shere Beek: Yeah. Because if you find something compelling, it's amazing. So music and books.
• 22:04
  Jessica Shere: Music, I absolutely love. It puts me in such a mood.
• 22:07
  I put music in my house when I shower. Yeah. I could see music.
• 22:11
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: But books too, but it like I would say freedom.
• 22:16
  Melissa Shere Beek: Yeah. Yeah. Well, that's gonna be a whole another topic on another day.
• 22:18
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: Oh, that's Okay. We might not have it for
• 22:20
  Melissa Shere Beek: What's one thing you do only for yourself? Like, only for yourself?
• 22:24
  Jessica Shere: Take a bath at night.
• 22:24
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: I was gonna say bath. That's a good one. I was gonna say bath too.
• 22:28
  Melissa Shere Beek: Oh, that's a good one.
• 22:29
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: Not every night, but I do take, like
• 22:31
  Jessica Shere: I take a bath every night. Yeah. On top of a shower in the morning. Yeah. No.
• 22:35
  Melissa Shere Beek: I get it. But, like, if that's your you thing, like, you do solely for Nobody knows about thing.
• 22:40
  Jessica Shere: What's shit?
• 22:41
  Melissa Shere Beek: Can you repeat the
• 22:42
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: question, please? Can you repeat the question, please?
• 22:43
  Jessica Shere: Whose pot is it now?
• 22:44
  Melissa Shere Beek: One thing that you do only for yourself.
• 22:47
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: You know, this might sound strange, and this is funny. Lately, I would say about for the last year and a half, I'd like to sleep not only with my comforter, but with a soft blanket over me. And then I put the comfort, but it's mine.
• 22:59
  Melissa Shere Beek: Like, me You can coooon yourself. Oh, yeah.
• 23:01
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: Like, my toes have to go with it. Yeah. That is I could coooon. Now that is, like, my new thing. Like, we went away for soccer, and I forgot to take my blanket.
• 23:10
  I had to stop at a Target and buy a blanket.
• 23:11
  Melissa Shere Beek: I don't have a blanket, but Doug never gets a comforter. He's got his own blanket. Wait. Because I cocoon myself. I cocoon myself.
• 23:17
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: No. Yeah.
• 23:17
  Jessica Shere: That's a good question.
• 23:18
  Melissa Shere Beek: But so one thing I do for myself, my answer, dance.
• 23:22
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: Well, that's you.
• 23:23
  Melissa Shere Beek: That's my jam.
• 23:24
  Jessica Shere: You like that?
• 23:25
  Melissa Shere Beek: Like, every morning, I get up and I dance.
• 23:26
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: I wish there was consistency with dance because I would probably be back to going to Nikki. But Oh. Don't get me started.
• 23:33
  Melissa Shere Beek: Okay. Alright. Last last quickie question before I do my sign off. What is, a secret talent or party trick you have?
• 23:41
  Jessica Shere: I can stick my tongue up my nose and pick it.
• 23:44
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: Shit. Sounds good?
• 23:46
  Melissa Shere Beek: I think Steven just
• 23:48
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: She's doing it.
• 23:49
  Melissa Shere Beek: Oh my god. That's so gross.
• 23:50
  Jessica Shere: It's amazing.
• 23:51
  Melissa Shere Beek: I mean, I can stick my tongue out and touch the top of my nose.
• 23:54
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: Couldn't you stick a spoon? Was it mom?
• 23:56
  Melissa Shere Beek: No. But I'm not going in. I touched the tip.
• 23:57
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: Who's the one who could stick a spoon on them?
• 23:59
  Melissa Shere Beek: I think that was one of my kids.
• 24:01
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: Okay. So what's the question?
• 24:02
  Jessica Shere: Oh, gosh.
• 24:03
  Melissa Shere Beek: Can you repeat the question, please? One, like Menopause brain. You're okay. Oh, perimenopause. That's another episode.
• 24:10
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: Oh, gosh.
• 24:11
  Melissa Shere Beek: So, like, one Secretive challenge? Like a like a party trick or secret thing you can do, we don't know.
• 24:18
  Jessica Shere: I can dance well too.
• 24:21
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: You know?
• 24:22
  Jessica Shere: Not a street dance.
• 24:24
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: I have to say oh gd. I don't wanna say this because I'm, like, a jinx myself.
• 24:28
  Melissa Shere Beek: Okay. Don't.
• 24:31
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: What is one hidden talent?
• 24:33
  Jessica Shere: You got lots of them. I feel.
• 24:37
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: I don't, though. My gd.
• 24:40
  Jessica Shere: You're creative. Yeah.
• 24:43
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: I guess I guess it could be a hidden talent.
• 24:44
  Like, I could see something and I can make it myself.
• 24:48
  Melissa Shere Beek: Yeah. That's great. That's it. Yeah. Can do that.
• 24:52
  We're gonna
• 24:53
  go with
• 24:53
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: I can see a craft and I can I would make it myself first before I would buy it?
• 24:59
  Melissa Shere Beek: No. I love it. Yeah. I'm I'm with you on that one.
• 25:02
  Jessica Shere: It would be thrown across the room before I finish it.
• 25:04
  Melissa Shere Beek: Oh, yeah. That's another episode.
• 25:06
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: Mason calls it the crap closet, but it's the craft Oh, I have another hidden talent.
• 25:11
  Melissa Shere Beek: Okay. Tell us.
• 25:12
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: Me and Bria together.
• 25:13
  Melissa Shere Beek: Okay. Tell
• 25:13
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: us. We are amazing puzzle people.
• 25:16
  Melissa Shere Beek: Oh, yeah. Yeah.
• 25:17
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: No. I have six puzzle stack that we're gonna glue together.
• 25:20
  Melissa Shere Beek: Oh, no. I love puzzles.
• 25:21
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: We are like we are Bria and I together. Puzzle. Puzzle.
• 25:25
  Melissa Shere Beek: Okay. That's good.
• 25:26
  That's a good talent. Okay. That is good.
• 25:28
  Jessica Shere: I can't do I can't.
• 25:29
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: I can't but I can pick nose
• 25:31
  Jessica Shere: With your tongue.
• 25:32
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: I know. With my tongue. I know. I wanted to try. Jessica, that in your in your birthmark in between your ass is really like
• 25:39
  Melissa Shere Beek: With her Boppy.
• 25:40
  Jessica Shere: Winner.
• 25:41
  Melissa Shere Beek: With her Boppy.
• 25:42
  Jessica Shere: Winner.
• 25:42
  Melissa Shere Beek: Such an image.
• 25:44
  Mhmm.
• 25:45
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: And picking your ass the same
• 25:46
  Melissa Shere Beek: oh, my gd.
• 25:46
  What? What? She just has a freckle there.
• 25:49
  Where did you go with that?
• 25:50
  Do not pick your Do not go back to this coffee shop. Because
• 25:54
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: my favorite coffee
• 25:55
  Jessica Shere: With her favorite friend. Okay. Order oh.
• 25:59
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: I actually got a banana one, but it didn't taste so good. I went for the blueberry.
• 26:03
  Jessica Shere: Blueberry one.
• 26:03
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: Yeah. I did get a blue because the banana didn't taste well.
• 26:06
  Jessica Shere: But I had Two coffee deep. Oh, gd.
• 26:09
  Melissa Shere Beek: That's alright. Okay. I'm so happy
• 26:12
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: Wait. I wanted another question. I wanna know.
• 26:14
  Melissa Shere Beek: We don't time. I'll give you more questions next week. Okay. But I can't tell you how blessed I feel Aw. To have you girls and and to have you girls here my first episode.
• 26:23
  Jessica Shere: We’re honored.
• 26:24
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: I love this.
• 26:25
  This is like is another bonding experience. Yeah.
• 26:27
  Melissa Shere Beek: Yes
• 26:27
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: I like think it just got us closer. Yeah.
• 26:29
  Jessica Shere: I think we've started to we've we're always close. But I think we started to really like, go to when we were little, like, a couple months. Like, if
• 26:37
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: you're gonna cry. Cry again. You're so cry.
• 26:39
  Jessica Shere: I cry all the time.
• 26:39
  Melissa Shere Beek: It's okay. That's happiness. That's all good.
• 26:42
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: I love this. This is great.
• 26:43
  Melissa Shere Beek: Major in tune.
• 26:44
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: I feel like though we didn't hit on sisters enough.
• 26:46
  Melissa Shere Beek: No. I feel like we need more. We totally missed the topic completely, but that's okay. Alright. So, anyways, I wanted to I wanted to thank you guys.
• 26:54
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: One thing I do wanna say about sisters.
• 26:56
  Melissa Shere Beek: Coffee.
• 26:57
  Jessica Shere: Holy crap.
• 26:59
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: I will I will thank you for one thing that you did pass on to.
• 27:02
  Jessica Shere: You should have the coffee shop sponsor us
• 27:04
  next
• 27:04
  time, by the way.
• 27:05
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: He probably would. There's something you always that you did with your girls that I do with my girls.
• 27:10
  Melissa Shere Beek: Okay. What?
• 27:11
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: And I think you might do it too.
• 27:13
  Jessica Shere: What?
• 27:13
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: Is you do I love you.
• 27:14
  Melissa Shere Beek: Yeah. Love you.
• 27:15
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: And I know I got that from you Yeah. I know. Because I never wanted to embarrass them, you say, so that they could see me, and I didn't have to scream it. And that is one of the things that I
• 27:24
  Jessica Shere: I probably just copy both So I thank you for that.
• 27:30
  Melissa Shere Beek: I always say I love you signing and sign up
• 27:32
  Jessica Shere: with Shane's on a word. It's just great.
• 27:35
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: It's I always do an emoji to the girls.
• 27:37
  Melissa Shere Beek: Thank you.
• 27:37
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: It's the
• 27:38
  one thing I remember you taught you, like, I guess that mother Yeah. Sister thing that you said Yeah. That you did with your girls that I instilled in with you and my girls.
• 27:47
  Melissa Shere Beek: Yeah. I love that.
• 27:48
  I love that. Thank you. That was another question for another week. What you personally incorporate. But okay.
• 27:53
  Yeah. Awesome. Alright. Well, thank you guys for listening out there. Walking.
• 27:59
  God. Okay. Got a table until next week. Thank you guys for listening out there in, wherever you get your podcasts. I we wanna hear anything you'd like to be discussed.
• 28:09
  Please tell us what you think. If you have something to share, you have a special mention to nominate, or you wanna be our guest, reach out to us on Instagram at beak on being. Email us at beakonbeing@gmail.com or log in to beak on being wherever you get your podcasts. A big shout out to Steven Chen. Yeah.
• 28:26
  Thank you.
• 28:27
  Samantha Shere Sharpe: Woo
• 28:27
  Jessica Shere: hoo.
• 28:28
  Melissa Shere Beek: From Penthouse Studios.
• 28:30
  Jessica Shere: Yes. Steven. Yay.
• 28:31
  Melissa Shere Beek: Beek on Being was recorded at Penthouse Studios and is a proud member of the Penthouse Podcast Network. Thank you. Thank you.
• 28:39
  Jessica Shere: Thank you.