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Ep209. The Messy Side of Success — From Cabo With Love (and Pressure) — with Angie. · The Inner Wealth Podcast

• 0:02
  Speaker 1: Do you ever wake up feeling like there's something missing in your life?
• 0:07
  Speaker 1: Do you ever feel the need to escape your business?
• 0:09
  Speaker 1: Are you running your life or is your life running you?
• 0:12
  Speaker 1: I'm Mike Kitko and I'll help you design and create a life so authentic and aligned with who you really are that you'll get excited just to wake up.
• 0:19
  Speaker 1: I'll help you create real wealth, success and freedom from the inside out.
• 0:23
  Speaker 1: Welcome to the Inner Wealth Podcast, where we learn and choose to live inspired each and every day.
• 0:36
  Speaker 2: Hey guys, mike and Angie Itko again, once again, this has been happening more and more.
• 0:42
  Speaker 2: How cool is that?
• 0:43
  Speaker 3: It really is.
• 0:44
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's very cool.
• 0:45
  Speaker 2: Are you enjoying the journey?
• 0:46
  Speaker 3: I am.
• 0:48
  Speaker 2: Parts of it.
• 0:49
  Speaker 3: I'm trying to enjoy it all, because you can't have one part without the other.
• 0:52
  Speaker 2: That's right, but you are enjoying being on the podcast and making some content.
• 0:57
  Speaker 3: Yeah, absolutely.
• 0:58
  Speaker 3: I love having you here.
• 0:59
  Speaker 3: Thanks for having me.
• 1:03
  Speaker 2: We are in Cabo San Lucas and we are traveling again, and one of the things that we do when we when we travel is we like to make recordings from the beautiful places we go and kind of show you a little bit of scenery.
• 1:15
  Speaker 2: You can't see a lot of the ocean.
• 1:16
  Speaker 2: You can see a little of the ocean back there if you're watching on video, but if you're listening you can't see the ocean but you might be able to hear it Because it's crashing.
• 1:26
  Speaker 3: We're on the Pacific side of Cabo San Lucas, at the Apuello Bonito Sunset Beach Resort, and this is actually a black flag beach back here, which means you can't even touch the water.
• 1:37
  Speaker 3: When we got in on Sunday, we could see we were sitting up at one of the restaurants and looking down.
• 1:42
  Speaker 3: You could actually see the rip currents out there forming, which was something I've never seen before.
• 1:46
  Speaker 2: So the other day I touched.
• 1:47
  Speaker 2: I touched the ocean, and what happened?
• 1:49
  Speaker 3: There's a guy out there with a whistle and his only job is to walk up and down the beach and blow his whistle at people who touch the water just like literally touch the water.
• 1:59
  Speaker 2: And I touched the water and I got yelled at and he came in like shoot me away and shoot us away.
• 2:03
  Speaker 3: Yeah, he pushes it's.
• 2:04
  Speaker 3: It's crazy, and he said that there.
• 2:05
  Speaker 3: Unfortunately, there have been several drownings right here, so they are very cautious and the resort does a great job of keeping everyone safe.
• 2:12
  Speaker 2: Yeah, just, I mean, all day long you hear the whistle, so people are always kind of pushing the limits.
• 2:16
  Speaker 2: But 11 people, he said 11 people have died on this resort.
• 2:20
  Speaker 2: So now you go.
• 2:21
  Speaker 2: There's another part of Cabo that's safer, you know, it's a little cove, a little inlet or whatever whatever you want to call it where you can go and you can swim, but here you can't.
• 2:31
  Speaker 3: But it's beautiful, it's beautiful and it sounds beautiful and there's beautiful rock formations and the waves crashing up against the rocks.
• 2:38
  Speaker 3: It's just stunning.
• 2:41
  Speaker 2: And we go to Cancun a lot.
• 2:42
  Speaker 2: That's our last podcast was in Cancun.
• 2:44
  Speaker 3: Our last podcast.
• 2:45
  Speaker 2: We've been the Turks together on this podcast, so we like to get out and it's been like the last two and a half years.
• 2:53
  Speaker 2: It's been pretty heavy travel, yes, yeah, and it's been beautiful, it's been wonderful.
• 2:57
  Speaker 2: But we are here and we wanted to kind of jam a little bit and kind of invite you into our world and what's going on and some of the challenges that we've faced and some of the things that we've learned and some of the, I think, value that we can bring.
• 3:13
  Speaker 2: Because what we do I guess what I do, what I've done and what Angie's doing more and more is I don't share from a place of mastery.
• 3:21
  Speaker 2: I don't share like I know it all or I have it all figured out.
• 3:24
  Speaker 2: I'm not one of those gurus that gets up on the stage and says I have done it, I have conquered it, I have accomplished it and here's how you do it, like you need to do this so you can be like me.
• 3:35
  Speaker 2: No, it's like my life is oftentimes messy and I share the messes, because when we share our messes, people feel more normal, people feel more valuable, they feel more, they feel more I don't know whole complete.
• 3:51
  Speaker 3: It's weird to say that, but feel validated because there's so many gurus out there that just that, that to your point.
• 3:56
  Speaker 3: They get out there and almost are just like I have arrived, I have it figured out, and then they kind of makes people feel bad and that's just not who we are.
• 4:03
  Speaker 2: We want to share all the messiness and I've I've been on stage, you know, early in my speaking engagements I've been on stage and I've spoken from a place of mastery like and not intentionally spoken from a place of here's how you do it, and it didn't really get a whole lot of engagement.
• 4:21
  Speaker 2: But then I had one speaking engagement, one time where I just went out and laid out all the crap in my life and I had a line of people waiting to talk to me.
• 4:29
  Speaker 2: So and and what I?
• 4:30
  Speaker 2: What I realized in that moment is people connect to the messiness.
• 4:33
  Speaker 2: They don't connect to the perfection, and the more human you can be with people, the more real everyone feels together and the more valuable and validated they feel.
• 4:42
  Speaker 2: So we're all messy, so let's be messy together, all right.
• 4:45
  Speaker 2: But we started this.
• 4:48
  Speaker 2: I started this entrepreneurial journey in 2017 and Angie was slow to join the journey, so didn't love the journey at the beginning, wanted me to go get a job.
• 5:01
  Speaker 2: I refused to get a job.
• 5:03
  Speaker 2: We business grew quickly.
• 5:06
  Speaker 2: It replaced our income.
• 5:07
  Speaker 2: We did really, really well.
• 5:09
  Speaker 2: It gave us a sense of security, right, and maybe even a false sense of security at times, but the point being is we we haven't struggled financially since we really started the entrepreneurial journey, the.
• 5:23
  Speaker 2: The first year, we did around $36,000 of sales, but that wasn't a full year and that was like kind of a learning time for me and how to do this and how to make sales and how to invite people into my life.
• 5:36
  Speaker 2: And in the second year, in 2018, we replaced our corporate income and it was a.
• 5:42
  Speaker 2: It was a beautiful journey to watch.
• 5:43
  Speaker 2: We replaced our income and and, uh yeah, we it's like we kind of figured out that.
• 5:50
  Speaker 2: We thought we had it figured out and soon after, we learned the cyclical nature and the volatile nature of entrepreneurship, because it's been more like a roller coaster for us than it has been like a, an Ascension, and we had a couple of cycles up and down for the first few years and then last year we had our, our like best year ever and it was.
• 6:17
  Speaker 2: It was like the, the, the numbers that we did and the sales that we were doing.
• 6:21
  Speaker 2: It was like exceeded, like any expectation that we ever had and and it gave us this like this not sense, not sense of like we have arrived, but it's like okay, this is, this is the payoff.
• 6:33
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 6:34
  Speaker 2: Right, it felt like last year was the payoff for all the, for all the patterns and cycles.
• 6:38
  Speaker 3: Would you say that?
• 6:39
  Speaker 3: Yeah, absolutely, and I think that we're.
• 6:40
  Speaker 3: We weren't wrong, as we thought that, okay, cool, we got here and now we're just going to cruise along here and yeah, the journey doesn't work that way.
• 6:49
  Speaker 2: So so what we did is we when, as the income went up, we started traveling more and we started like the we, we kind of I don't want to say balance, but we, we went out of kilter a little bit and I'll say for me, I took my eyes and my energy as much off the business and put it more on life, and maybe there was a little bit of lack of harmony in those two.
• 7:12
  Speaker 3: Yes, we've been using that word a lot the past couple of days.
• 7:14
  Speaker 3: On our mastermind call and you and I and our personal conversations that we've been having, harmony has come up a lot.
• 7:19
  Speaker 3: Yes, I would agree with that.
• 7:21
  Speaker 2: I'd say it's not a sense of achieving or accomplishing any sense of balance, because I don't think the life that we have isn't really balanced but it certainly takes a sense of harmony and unification, of keeping our energy in our life and the business and not having it heavily go one way, and I'd say that probably over the last year and a half our energy has gone more towards life and more business, and the business has been a way for us to live a fuller, richer life.
• 7:58
  Speaker 2: But we've got to keep our focus and attention on both.
• 8:01
  Speaker 3: Right, absolutely, and that's just that's.
• 8:04
  Speaker 3: That's the difficulty of being an entrepreneur.
• 8:06
  Speaker 3: Is that it's all on us, and I think that that was just piece of of what we've learned through this is there's nobody else that's going to do this.
• 8:12
  Speaker 2: Eat what you eat, what you kill.
• 8:13
  Speaker 2: That's the entrepreneurial journey.
• 8:14
  Speaker 2: Eat what you kill, there's nobody going to kill it for you and and you, nobody else is going to feed you.
• 8:19
  Speaker 2: So you know things, that things that we did in the past, things that we kind of leaned into, that gave us, you know that created some success.
• 8:28
  Speaker 2: We not stop doing, we just stop focusing.
• 8:31
  Speaker 2: I'll speak for me, you can speak for you.
• 8:33
  Speaker 2: I don't know, this isn't about blame or this is just about taking ownership, but it's almost like we just I started focusing on different things and focusing on different aspects of life and instead of continuing to focus on the things that created the success and created the abundance in our life, it's just like started to do things differently.
• 8:56
  Speaker 2: You say that's true.
• 8:56
  Speaker 2: Yeah, absolutely.
• 8:59
  Speaker 2: Here's why we're saying this is because this year last year was our best year in business, and this year we've softened a lot and the amount of traveling that we've done has gone up, and so almost like has our expectations about the quality of life that we wanted.
• 9:20
  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's my fault.
• 9:22
  Speaker 2: That we right the expectations for the, the amount that we needed to fund this life, because we traveled over the last couple of years 15 to 20 times a year and so as the spends went up and the sales came down, there was like now there's this pressure on the sales side where you know we really don't have a sales problem, we have a little bit of a spending problem, I would say.
• 9:48
  Speaker 3: Now, let's be fair.
• 9:49
  Speaker 3: A lot of our travel is funded with points.
• 9:52
  Speaker 3: Thank you, Southwest Airlines.
• 9:54
  Speaker 2: Those points came from business spends and life spends, and we laugh at this because it's kind of years ago, and again I'm speaking for me.
• 10:09
  Speaker 2: Years ago I, uh and this is still something I work, I work on, I work through every single day.
• 10:16
  Speaker 2: Um, one of my favorite books in the world is a book called no more Mr Nice guy.
• 10:20
  Speaker 2: All right, and I recommend this book a lot.
• 10:22
  Speaker 2: I, every guy and most gals that I come in contact with, I recommend the book.
• 10:29
  Speaker 2: No More Mr Nice Guy.
• 10:29
  Speaker 2: And no More Mr Nice Guy is all about people pleasing and it's all about basically being codependent, and what that means is needing approval, needing validation, needing to be wanted, needing to sacrifice yourself in some way, shape or form, almost sometimes being a martyr, making somebody else, helping somebody else have a greater experience in life at the expense of your own experience.
• 11:00
  Speaker 2: And that book is all about how sometimes and it focuses on men, but women are included Every time I get on a podcast, my nose starts itching right?
• 11:12
  Speaker 3: Well, there's a lot of bugs out here too.
• 11:15
  Speaker 2: But it's everyone, even when we're at the home studio.
• 11:17
  Speaker 2: But yeah, I just wanted to be personal.
• 11:20
  Speaker 2: It's really about it's focused on men, it's written by a guy who works with men and it's focused on men, but women fall into the same, the same category.
• 11:30
  Speaker 2: But over time, men have become more codependent in terms of needing the approval of our spouse, needing the approval of our kids, needing and, and instead of just focusing on providing and protecting and serving a purpose in this world, we've focused on making sure everybody else is okay and, although that's that sounds great, but sometimes that we take our, when we're, when we focus on everybody else's needs, we take our eyes off of our purpose and off of, you know, the providing and the protecting and really being, you know, being that, playing that role in a relationship, and sometimes we water down our authenticity and we water down our uniqueness and we water down our desires so that other people can be okay.
• 12:13
  Speaker 2: Have you seen that in me?
• 12:15
  Speaker 3: Oh, absolutely.
• 12:15
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 12:16
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 12:16
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean yeah, I mean we were just talking about that the other day with um, with just sitting, sitting at the at the restaurant at the table and making sure that everyone else has the better seat.
• 12:28
  Speaker 3: Or the guy with the coffee, the guy who was getting his four coffees the other day.
• 12:34
  Speaker 3: So we were here at the resort and there was a guy getting four coffees and little old man.
• 12:38
  Speaker 3: He was being super slow and Mike was waiting behind him to get his one cup.
• 12:42
  Speaker 3: And Mike thought to himself, if that were me I would let me go ahead.
• 12:46
  Speaker 2: Let the person who needs one cup go ahead because you know and why?
• 12:52
  Speaker 3: Because their experience is more important than mine.
• 12:56
  Speaker 2: What they want is more important than what I want.
• 12:58
  Speaker 2: But this has been a recurring theme in my life and it's not only that.
• 13:01
  Speaker 2: You know, on our mastermind call we talked about, you know, on this patio, like if if there was a table with four chairs and my girls were here, then what I would do is I would take the, the, the seat with my back to the water so that the three of them can see the water, and that's.
• 13:19
  Speaker 2: That's just an example, and then a little bit exaggerated, but that that type of thing shows up everywhere in my life, where I'm always scanning for everyone else's needs and scanning it's like lessening my experience so everybody else can be okay.
• 13:35
  Speaker 3: And, and, even, and, and, refusing to accept when people do the same same for you, like this morning, this.
• 13:40
  Speaker 3: Okay, my only complaint about this resort is that we do not have coffee in our room.
• 13:44
  Speaker 3: We have a coffee maker but no coffee.
• 13:46
  Speaker 3: And I sleep a little bit later than Mike does and when I get up my my first thought is to quickly get ready, quickly get dressed.
• 13:54
  Speaker 3: Because he's been up for an hour and a half, two hours, I want to make sure he gets out to get coffee.
• 13:58
  Speaker 3: So I quickly did that this morning and we got over to the restaurant and I mentioned that to him.
• 14:02
  Speaker 3: I was like I said yeah, my, my focus was getting you out to get coffee.
• 14:06
  Speaker 3: And he immediately rejected that and I said I was trying to make your experience better.
• 14:10
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, and that's nice guy.
• 14:13
  Speaker 2: Shit, right, you're, you're.
• 14:14
  Speaker 2: You didn't need to rush for me because I was fine.
• 14:16
  Speaker 3: I said just accept it.
• 14:17
  Speaker 3: I was trying, I wanted to get you to coffee and it's accepted.
• 14:21
  Speaker 2: So all of this, to say that there's a point to all of this and there is an element of you know, the needing to take care of everybody else and needing to make sure everybody else is okay and needing her to be okay so I can be okay, and there's all that stuff to work through is I found this, through this journey of the softening of the sales and keeping, you know, keeping the travel and keeping the spends the same and getting thin on the profit line, right, a little bit thin on the profit line and on the margin at the bottom, and trying to maintain a quality of life to satisfy her, what I've found is I've experienced some pressure and some anxiety and a little bit of stress, trying to make sure she's okay at the not at the expense of me, but to make sure I get the business going for her benefit, not just mine.
• 15:12
  Speaker 2: And this isn't something that she's driving guys, this isn't something that she's doing Like there.
• 15:17
  Speaker 2: There would have been a time in the past where that would have been true, for sure, but not now.
• 15:23
  Speaker 2: She's not doing that and in the softness of the profit line I'm not going to say sales, because you know we still do pretty well relative to society, like, if you look at the average income, like we're, we exceed that, but our spends are the average spends too.
• 15:44
  Speaker 3: But the point being is is this is your fault, you like to tell people I'm expensive, so this is your fault actually.
• 15:53
  Speaker 2: But the point being is in years and years ago.
• 15:56
  Speaker 2: If we go back 10 years ago, she would have been punishing the fuck out of me.
• 16:00
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 16:01
  Speaker 2: And now and now there's no punishment but, but I'm punishing myself, punishment but, but I'm punishing myself and it's attendant.
• 16:08
  Speaker 2: It's something I get to see.
• 16:09
  Speaker 2: Wow, I'm punishing myself and we're still doing better than than the, the, you know the main street, and we're still living a higher quality life than the main street.
• 16:19
  Speaker 2: We still have some reserves, but there's this pressure to make sure she's taken care of that I get to work through.
• 16:23
  Speaker 2: But there's one beautiful, beautiful, beautiful thing that I think we've both experienced in this journey, the cyclical journey In every bit of struggle there's a silver lining, there's some lesson that we get to glean.
• 16:39
  Speaker 3: You can't have one extreme without the other.
• 16:41
  Speaker 3: You have to have that contrast right.
• 16:44
  Speaker 2: But here's the beautiful lesson in all of this that we've gleaned away Okay, when Angie and Mike Kitko face problems now, it's never Angie against Mike, it's Angie and Mike versus the problem.
• 16:57
  Speaker 2: We double down.
• 16:59
  Speaker 2: I'm getting emotional.
• 16:59
  Speaker 2: We double down first and foremost on the commitment to each other, knowing that the and making sure and not reassuring each other.
• 17:09
  Speaker 2: It's almost becoming unspoken now that the commitment to each other matters more than any circumstance and the love and the bond and the unification of us matters more than anything else.
• 17:23
  Speaker 2: And that's a that's been a very, very difficult lesson.
• 17:27
  Speaker 2: For me to like really accept and embrace is that there's always like little Mike, little Mike and the Mike that the little Mike that's being like healed through all this little Mike has a hard time being accepted and approved and appreciated and just infinitely accepted, embraced, and this whole journey has helped me understand that there's there's not a whole lot, obviously, there's not nothing.
• 17:57
  Speaker 2: I could like start like abusing her and of course she'd leave me, but the point is is there's almost nothing I can do to break this bond, and that has been miraculous to experience any thoughts on that?
• 18:09
  Speaker 3: I mean no, I mean what we went through years ago, close to divorce.
• 18:14
  Speaker 2: There's we, we, we got to that point and we made it through that, so we can make it through anything, that's anything and I know in my heart of hearts, in my heart of hearts, there's not one, even gauche, of lack of commitment.
• 18:32
  Speaker 2: I can feel that in my heart and and it's it's almost like I struggle to express it and to have, but like with, with the doubt that I've had in me all these years and all these decades you know, 50, almost 53 years now of feeling not accepted, unlovable.
• 18:51
  Speaker 2: Working through all of this stuff, working through all these stories, working through all this you know the, the abandonment issues and all of this, the neglect issues and and the, the no one being there for me when I was a little kid, working through all this stuff, it's like holy shit, I'm being given the opportunity, the, the beautiful opportunity, to see that she loves me unconditionally and that's been really really strange and it's been really really cool and really really beautiful.
• 19:21
  Speaker 2: And it's come through this little bit of financial struggle-ish, right, the profit-ish.
• 19:28
  Speaker 2: We can always fall back to spending a little bit.
• 19:32
  Speaker 2: It's like a last resort, but the point is there's always a beautiful lesson in the storm.
• 19:43
  Speaker 3: If we pull back the spend, this is not telling the universe.
• 19:45
  Speaker 2: We won't stress the universe and we haven't yet right.
• 19:48
  Speaker 2: We're in Cabo, we're in Cabo San Lucas and some of this travel we do.
• 19:55
  Speaker 2: It's not inexpensive, but anyway it's been a beautiful journey, beautiful ride.
• 19:59
  Speaker 2: We wanted to share this from I just had a little bit of a whew.
• 20:03
  Speaker 2: We just wanted to share this from a place of messiness.
• 20:09
  Speaker 3: Yeah, we have conversations around the anxiety.
• 20:12
  Speaker 3: Either of us are feeling the pressure, the fear and we let it go and just know that that has nothing to do with this, that those problems, those struggles, those peaks and valleys do not affect our commitment to each other.
• 20:31
  Speaker 2: And go back probably a couple of years ago now.
• 20:35
  Speaker 2: Probably a couple of years, maybe, maybe shorter time.
• 20:39
  Speaker 2: Anyway, one time I was walking into the kitchen and Angie looked at me and said what's your broke number?
• 20:46
  Speaker 3: Oh, I remember this conversation and I went, my broke number.
• 20:49
  Speaker 2: What do you mean?
• 20:49
  Speaker 2: She's a number in the bank account or net worth where you'd feel broke, and I'm like a dollar.
• 20:55
  Speaker 2: A dollar.
• 20:56
  Speaker 2: If I have a dollar, I'm in the game.
• 20:57
  Speaker 2: If I have a dollar, I'm good.
• 21:00
  Speaker 2: And I would say even sometimes if I had zero, I'm still good because I'll figure out.
• 21:06
  Speaker 2: I'll figure out.
• 21:06
  Speaker 2: Everything's figureoutable, right.
• 21:08
  Speaker 2: Like when the back gets up against the wall.
• 21:11
  Speaker 2: That's kind of when I'm at my best.
• 21:12
  Speaker 2: Yeah Right, that is.
• 21:14
  Speaker 2: Sometimes it sucks that my back's got to be up against the wall to feel that level of desire to fight or whatever.
• 21:23
  Speaker 2: But the point is is my broke number is really low and the emotions and the pressure that I felt, they haven't been for me, they've been for her, but she's not doing anything to cause that.
• 21:37
  Speaker 2: And I get to sort out all this mess and all these stories and all these beliefs that I have in me that are causing that for her benefit, not for mine.
• 21:48
  Speaker 2: Does that make sense?
• 21:49
  Speaker 2: And this isn't a blame game because she's doing nothing.
• 21:51
  Speaker 2: She's doing nothing, she's doing nothing.
• 21:53
  Speaker 2: I just get to see how this situation is causing me and it's exposing in me more work that I get to do.
• 21:59
  Speaker 2: And I sit in that bed at night while Angie's sleeping and I hear her snore and I'm drilling like crazy.
• 22:06
  Speaker 2: And if you don't know what drilling is, go back a couple episodes ago and look at the drill method and, holy crap, my nose is itchy.
• 22:13
  Speaker 2: You know, I've never done cocaine in my life and I've never snorted anything on my nose, but my nose always itches when I'm like teaching.
• 22:20
  Speaker 2: But anyway, I sit in that bed, lay in that bed.
• 22:24
  Speaker 2: I don't sit, I lay in that bed while she's snoring and I drill.
• 22:28
  Speaker 2: And what drill means?
• 22:29
  Speaker 2: The drill method is drop into your body.
• 22:32
  Speaker 2: When I feel the anxiety, I drop into my body, I recognize what's in there and recognize, recognize what I'm feeling and what I'm experiencing.
• 22:39
  Speaker 2: And then I inquire why is this here?
• 22:42
  Speaker 2: What is it telling me?
• 22:42
  Speaker 2: What is it teaching me?
• 22:43
  Speaker 2: What?
• 22:44
  Speaker 2: What is it trying to?
• 22:45
  Speaker 2: How's it trying to get my attention?
• 22:46
  Speaker 2: Like, what's the, what's the, the, the purpose of of that?
• 22:50
  Speaker 2: You know, of that, uh, that that anxiety.
• 22:52
  Speaker 2: Then I listened to it, I let it talk to me and this is where I've realized that, you know, it's all of this insecurity that I feel and all of this you know, conditional love that I've been conditioned to.
• 23:02
  Speaker 2: And then the last L is to let it go.
• 23:04
  Speaker 2: And I sit there and I drill like crazy.
• 23:07
  Speaker 2: And I listened to her snore and I hear her peacefulness and I feel like I'm drilling for the both of us.
• 23:13
  Speaker 2: But the point being is I'm drilling for me but, uh, it's work that I get to do that.
• 23:19
  Speaker 2: If this I'm going to now.
• 23:22
  Speaker 2: I'm going to teach you a little bit.
• 23:24
  Speaker 2: Emotion and anxiety.
• 23:26
  Speaker 2: Any pressure, any stress, any tension we feel in our bodies, it's not created by the circumstance we feel in our bodies.
• 23:37
  Speaker 2: It's not created by the circumstance.
• 23:38
  Speaker 2: It is already in you, it's already in us, it's called samskaras and it's in I've got.
• 23:40
  Speaker 2: I talk about samskaras in my new book, inner World Outer World.
• 23:42
  Speaker 2: It'll be out on August 19th.
• 23:45
  Speaker 2: Talk about samskaras and what samskaras are.
• 23:47
  Speaker 2: It's the pain and the trauma and the uh, the raw, pent up up, painful emotions, suffering emotion that you've experienced in the past, that's still contained within the body.
• 24:00
  Speaker 2: And what happens is when you start to feel like the financial pressure and then you start to feel some financial anxiety or codependent anxiety.
• 24:09
  Speaker 2: It's like if you're watching this one video, in my left hand I have an orange and in my right hand I have a knife and I take and stab the knife into the orange and I wiggle it around and I pull the knife out.
• 24:21
  Speaker 2: The juice starts to escape from the orange.
• 24:24
  Speaker 2: Well, the knife didn't create the juice, the knife just revealed it.
• 24:27
  Speaker 2: And that's exactly when you see the bank account getting low and you see the profit getting low and you start to feel the anxiety.
• 24:35
  Speaker 2: The profit line didn't create the anxiety.
• 24:37
  Speaker 2: The profit line just revealed what was already in there.
• 24:40
  Speaker 2: And what I'm experiencing right now is if that profit line wouldn't have gotten thin, I wouldn't have recognized the anxiety that was still contained within my being.
• 24:49
  Speaker 2: That was already, that was still still contained within my being.
• 24:52
  Speaker 2: And now I get to not have to.
• 24:55
  Speaker 2: Now I get to work through and I get the drill into this and I get to listen to it.
• 25:03
  Speaker 2: Let it tell me why it's there, let it tell me what's trying to teach me, and then I get to let it go.
• 25:05
  Speaker 2: And the more I do that, the more free I become emotionally.
• 25:07
  Speaker 2: And the more free I become emotionally, the easier it is going to be to increase that profit line.
• 25:11
  Speaker 2: That's the whole point of all this work.
• 25:14
  Speaker 2: That's the whole point of the drill method.
• 25:16
  Speaker 3: And there will always be another level.
• 25:18
  Speaker 3: Once we get through this level, there's going to be another level and it's going to keep.
• 25:22
  Speaker 3: The levels are going to keep popping up until the day we die.
• 25:25
  Speaker 3: Yep.
• 25:26
  Speaker 2: And thank you for listening to our story Again.
• 25:32
  Speaker 2: What we try to do is we try to teach from our messiness, not from our mastery.
• 25:37
  Speaker 2: There's a lot of gurus out there who'll teach you from the mastery, but they've got some part of their lives that's messy, but they probably won't tell you that part.
• 25:45
  Speaker 2: We lead from the messy part and let everybody be real and human and vulnerable together.
• 25:51
  Speaker 3: Yeah, don't let those Lambos enroll, lex, it's for you, and human and vulnerable together.
• 25:54
  Speaker 2: Yeah, don't let those Lambos and Rolexes fool you.
• 25:55
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm on the phone with some of those people that had tens of millions of dollars of net worth and feel broke and broken and alone.
• 26:04
  Speaker 2: And I'm on the phone with them and I know really what's going on with them and I understand and I love them infinitely and I love them immensely and it's fun to work with those guys.
• 26:13
  Speaker 2: But what it's taught me is nobody has it all figured out and nobody ever will.
• 26:17
  Speaker 2: And if they tell you they have it all figured out, fucking run, they're lying to you, they're putting on a show, they've got a mask on and we decided and vowed to take off the masks and let's be real together.
• 26:31
  Speaker 2: Let's be human together.
• 26:31
  Speaker 2: All right, take off the masks and let's be real together.
• 26:34
  Speaker 3: Let's be human together, right?
• 26:35
  Speaker 3: Any any last thoughts?
• 26:36
  Speaker 3: No, just thanks.
• 26:36
  Speaker 3: I appreciate it being here again.
• 26:37
  Speaker 3: I love this and I'm just going to keep planning trips, that's.
• 26:41
  Speaker 2: There you go.
• 26:42
  Speaker 3: I'm just going to keep doing this.
• 26:44
  Speaker 2: And I just felt the anxiety again.
• 26:46
  Speaker 2: There we go, more drilling to do guys from Canc or from Cabo, from Cabo, from Cabo.
• 26:52
  Speaker 3: We're heading over to Lovers and Divorce Beach today.
• 26:55
  Speaker 2: We'll see how that turns out.
• 26:55
  Speaker 2: We'll see which side we end up on.
• 26:56
  Speaker 2: Let's end up on the lover side.
• 26:58
  Speaker 2: I guess there's two sides of this beach Lover's side, lover's beach and divorce beach.
• 27:02
  Speaker 2: But anyway, from Cabo, love you guys.
• 27:05
  Speaker 2: Thank you for being with us, thank you for and even if you're watching this years and years after, and I believe that as life and as time goes on, this content will become more real and more valuable and more watched over time.
• 27:23
  Speaker 2: So that's why I don't really worry about how many downloads and we have a little loyal following but I don't worry about how many downloads we get.
• 27:29
  Speaker 2: I don't worry about how many downloads we get because I know this is the work that, as time goes on, that's going to become more worthy and more valuable or not worthy, more valuable and more intentional because the world's changing.
• 27:42
  Speaker 2: The world's changing and it's going from more of a more of a mental world to more of an emotional world.
• 27:51
  Speaker 2: Ok, and we're, we're, we're moving from a world that decides through the mental realm into a world that decides from the emotional realm.
• 27:56
  Speaker 2: All right, that full body, yes, it's going to be the yes, and right now there's a lot of people making a lot of the bad decisions with their minds.
• 28:03
  Speaker 2: All right, the mind's the worst mechanism to make.
• 28:05
  Speaker 2: To make decisions, the body is the most powerful and this content is going to become more powerful over time and more intentional.
• 28:13
  Speaker 2: All right, so thanks for watching, thanks for listening, love you, guys, and we'll see you, maybe next trip, I don't know.
• 28:18
  Speaker 2: Nah, we'll see you next week.
• 28:26
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