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SEASON 2 DA CREW PODCAST_EPISODE _60_ HOST NATALIE HARVEY · DA CREW Podcast

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  pile of jib into some some bridgings. I need that to man. Hello
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  everybody, and welcome to a new edition of less Chat with Nat. I
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  am your host, Natalie Harvey. I hope everybody is doing well on this
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  Sunday evening. I hope everybody has had a good week. Uh dat's passed
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  and a great weekend, and that you are just doing fine and wonderful and
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  everything is just all copa setic. Today we're gonna just jump right in again.
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  Tonight's topic it's gonna be basically my heart says it all mom life and
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  you know this week coming up it is the week of Mother's Day. This
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  is Mother's Day weekend. And you know, as we think many of us
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  that are mothers, or we are mother figures, or we may be aunties
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  that play the role of the mother or godmother's. You know, sometimes you
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  just have to stop and wonder, like what time I used to do this?
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  And it may sound a little strange, but if you're a parent,
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  you sometimes you're like, did I really create this child? Like this human
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  being really is a replica of me? Of they have my manerysms, they
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  have my thought, some of them have my It's just so much and I
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  go back to I always say Mother's Day Weekend will always be a vital and
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  an important and a pivotal change in my life because I never forget when I
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  was pregnant with my first son. Because if you don't know, I have
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  two boys. They are twenty one and eighteen, and I will never forget
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  when I was pregnant with my first son. That Mother's Day weekend is when
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  I just finally decided to tell everybody, even though they could already see it.
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  But you know, you come out and you say, you know,
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  I'm pregnant, I'm having my first child, and I will never forget two
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  ladies that were very special to me and I always call them like part of
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  my angel crew. I will never forget. They said to me, you
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  got this because you were raised by strong women. You have that mother instinct
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  in you. You helped raise so many children. And at the time when
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  I first had my first son, I was twenty I turned twenty one that
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  December, and this was back in two thousand and two, and I would
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  never forget. I was just like I knew I was ready for it.
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  It was just one of those things where I was like, you know what,
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  I did the deed. I was grown enough to do the deed and
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  enjoyed it. But I'm just saying I did the deed. So in my
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  mindset was I can handle this, regardless of as to whatever challenges may come.
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  I'm ready for it. And I'll never ever ever forget that Mother's Day
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  weekend. It was like the pivotal point in me accepting that, oh wow,
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  I'm really going to be a mom and my life is really changing and
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  I'm going to be responsible for another human being. And it always just shocked
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  me. And then I remember, I remember just how I thought back to
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  my grandmother's and my mom and my aunt and my godmothers and all the different
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  women that have played such a pivotal part in my life and my upbringing.
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  And it was just like, you know what, I have so much of
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  them inside of me that I can do this. I got this. And
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  you know, sometimes if you come from that background or generational how you said,
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  lineage where you're able to talk about the experiences of being a mother in
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  motherhood, you sit back and you recollect on those conversations. And I always
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  remember, like I would see at the time. I used to watch like
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  my cousins with their children and their children were young, and I used to
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  be the one the babysit, and I remember just watching them and then talking
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  to my grandmother and hearing her experience when she had my dad, or even
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  just like my own experience with my mother and I And trust me, sometimes
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  you'll wonder who's the parent and who's the child when it comes to me my
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  mother. But it was just you know, you sit and you recollect and
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  you look and you understand like, wow, if these women can do it,
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  I can do it. And don't get me you're wrong. Sometimes there's
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  just days where you just feel like you're losing your not your mind. But
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  it's all a part of the process of accepting and becoming a mom. You
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  know, sometimes I meet new moms and they're like, well, you don't
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  look like you have grown kids, And I say to them, I say,
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  listen, I said, I have grown kids. But trust me,
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  I've been through some things with my kids. And as a mother, we
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  hold the world in the palm of our hands. You know, civilization began
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  with us. We birth civilization. So when you sit back and you start
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  to ponder on that and you think about the generations that are going to come
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  that have your lineage inside of them, it's like, oh, wow,
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  do I want to leave a legacy that is going to speak to who I
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  am and to who they are? And you know, you just sometimes that
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  makes you wonder like, am I doing it right? Do I have this
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  aught together? And in the days where you're just like, listen, I
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  don't. It is what it is. I'm just gonna go ahead and do
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  it it to me, that's when the most impactful situations happen. And that's
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  when you you know, how we say you put on your big girl draws
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  or your big girl panties and you just say, listen, this is what
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  it is. This is who I am. I am these humans or these
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  these individuals. I am their mother, and I am going to fight for
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  them. You know, I've had situations with my kids where I have had
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  to turn into the lioness Queen Bee. And you know, when I think
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  back on those situations, I'm like, but if I wasn't their mom,
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  what they have somebody to fight for them in the way that I fought for
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  them. What they have somebody to be their advocate. And you know,
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  being an advocate for your children, it's the most rewarding thing possible. I
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  love when I can advocate for my kids. You know, sometimes they get
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  me mad when I have to advocate, because then you have to hear they
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  didn't do something, or you hear the truth. You know, some parents
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  don't want to hear the truth about their kids. But you have to be
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  open enough to know that your children are not perfect, just like we're not
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  perfect as parents. But to be that parental advocate for them in that time
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  of need and in that time of knowing that they need you to be there,
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  that is the most fulfilling thing that I think when you sit back and
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  you recollect that, it helps you to see that, you know what,
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  I may not have always got it right, but I did the best that
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  I can in the situations that I had to deal with. You know,
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  for me, my kids have seen me going through health challenges, We've gone
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  through other challenges in our lives, and they've always say, I get that
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  resilience from you. I get that no nonsense, don't take anything from anybody
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  from you. And you know, I can't discredit their dads, you know,
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  for what they've impacted in their life. But when you are the focal
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  parent, you are the one that they see every day. You are the
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  one that the school goals, the one that has to rown with them to
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  the doctor, the one that has to be the bank and be the coach
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  and run to this, run to that, run to the third It's like
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  you get to understand why they have that respect for you. And then there's
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  days where you just don't want to. You and them are just on two
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  different wavelengths. They're not hearing you and you're not hearing them. And there's
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  always that one child though, that takes on the personality of the parent.
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  For me, it is my second son, he has my temperament down to
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  a science. He's the no nonsense one. And both of my kids are
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  no nonsense. But my youngest son, that one right there, Corey,
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  that is the one that I would say if I had to tell anybody between
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  my two sons, I know that I need to stay on my knees for
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  and pray every day for. That's the That's the right there, because if
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  I tell you he has my temperament, he has that no nonsense. You're
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  not gonna tell me I can't. No, there's not no. It's not
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  in his vocabulary. Let's just put it like that, the word no,
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  the word you can't tell me. It's just not in his vocabulary. He's
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  not hearing it. He he ain't buying it. It is what it is.
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  Christian. On the other hand, I will call my gentle giant.
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  He is the one that he'll come. If you call him, he'll do.
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  He may not want to do it right then and dare, but if
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  you call him and say, Chris, I need you to do this,
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  he'll come and he'll be like, all right, fine, you know it's
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  it's I say to people, I am glad that I have this opportunity to
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  be their mom. I'm glad that the things that I have experienced has made
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  me be the mother that I am in the time that I've had to be
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  their mom. You know, there's been days where I just don't want to
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  be I'd be like, listen, y'all, leave me alone. But then
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  there's those days where I just want that beer hug or that Christian come give
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  me a hug, or Corey, come give me a hug. And it
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  makes the difference. It makes my day better, It makes whatever I'm going
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  through, It makes me feel better in that moment. And then I just
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  sit back and I say God, thank you for letting me be the vessel
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  to birth them. You know, sometimes we don't always get it. We
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  don't always get it right, we don't always understand why we were chosen in
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  that time, because, like I tell people, when I first got pregnant
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  with my son, my plans for my life were totally different. Children were
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  nowhere in the cards for me. I wanted to live my best I wanted
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  at the time I was in college, I was working. I was doing
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  like my little side of hustles as a nail tech cosmetology. I would work
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  at school. I wanted to become a teacher. I had all these great
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  plans and then I'm like, Okay, I can't do everything that I wanted
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  to do. I have to put certain things on the back burner now because
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  I have to be a mom. And you know, a lot of people
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  may get discouraged by that, and at first I think I did. I
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  think I got a little bit discouraged. But then I realized that, you
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  know what, in order for me to be my best me, I can
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  be me and be their mom and still create the life that I wanted to
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  create for them and for myself. Of course, yes, things may have
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  had to get tweaked here and there. I've started school stops, guard it
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  stop, you know, But again, as a parent, as a mother,
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  I had to make sure that they were okay first before putting myself first.
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  You have to your needs sometimes comes in the back burner and your children
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  come to the forefront. You know. When I had my second son,
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  I definitely didn't plan to have any more children. And it always happens like
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  that. Has that happened to anybody else, like when you have your kids.
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  It's just it was in the time and a space where you just did
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  not plan. It was nothing that you wanted to do. It was not
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  in the cards, it was not in the plans, it was not even
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  a thought. But you know, we do what we do, and we
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  have to just deal with what life deals for us. You know, I
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  think back even when my mother. I'm my mother's only child, and it's
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  funny because I see how being her only child, but I have two sisters
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  from my father. I see how being her only child, how it molded
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  me. And then now being a mom of two, how it's so different.
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  You know, when you have to deal with one child versus two children,
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  you know, it's so different because you're dealing with two different personalities,
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  two different mindsets, two different ways of life technically, you know, and
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  sometimes you want your children to be the same, but you have to remember
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  everybody is different. They can't be the same. You're different. You are
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  different from how I am different. I parent, different from how my mother
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  parent, and my mother parent, different than how her mother parents or my
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  father's mother parent, you know, And but you have to be able to
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  use all of those things as tools to help you in your journey as a
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  mom. We're gonna take a quick break and then we're gonna come right back
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  and wrap up. So we'll be right back. Let's chat with that.
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  Hey hongya and welcome you another episode of the prow podcast. Heyyya, and
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  them. Diva up, yeah, and amplify your voice. I didn't even
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  realize I was on mute. So we are back. So as I was
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  talking and we were talking about mom life and what being a mom means,
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  and as we are getting ready to go into Mother's Day weekend, I just
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  want you to think back about when you first became a mom and how did
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  you feel and what was your fears? Were you nervous, were you scared?
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  You know, was your situation a situation where you had a support system
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  or even if you didn't have a support system, what was your mindset at
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  the time. Was it I don't know what to do, or was it
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  I'm here, I'm going to deal with it, and I'm going to make
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  this be the best situation that it can. And you know, when you
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  think about that, and when you think about women that are moms or want
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  to be moms, or or happen to be mother figures, because some women
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  are not able to become mothers in the physical sense, but they're able to
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  be mothers in a spiritual and an emotional sense of the word. Those times,
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  some of those situations are the most again impactful situations for people or for
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  someone that needs a mom and don't have a mom or never had that real
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  mother figure in their life. You know, sometimes I have godmothers, I
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  have women that I am very close to that I can go to sometimes with
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  things that I don't go to my own mother with and having those bonds,
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  having those relationships. I'm a godmother, I'm an aunt and sometimes my godchildren
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  or the children that call me Auntie, they will come to me and they're
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  express their thoughts and their opinions that maybe sometimes they can't go to their mothers
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  with or that they feel that their mothers may not understand. And I tell
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  them, listen, your parent was once young. Your parent is human.
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  So what you think that a your parent may not have go going through that,
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  you're going through. They understand it. It may not be what they
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  want for you at the time, but trust me, as a mother,
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  we understand. As a mother figure, we understand. Don't let it get
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  you to the point where you feel that you don't have anybody in your corner
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  to understand. Trust me, you do that. Sometimes we need that nurturing
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  to get us to be who we are. We need those those maternal instincts
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  to kick in and help us get us to the next level in life that
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  we need to be at. You know, being a mother is not easy.
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  Being a mom is not easy by no means. It is one of
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  the most taskful and difficult jobs there is, but it is also the most
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  rewarding. It is the most precious gift because when you look at your child
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  after they have entered the world and then you see them grow into who they
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  are, that's where you know, you know, what I did this,
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  and I'm proud of what I did. I'm proud of who I raise,
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  and I'm proud of who I am and who I had to become in order
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  to take on this responsibility. God saw fit to choose me as the vessel
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  or God saw fit to choose me as the person to be that figure in
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  this person's life. So no matter how hard it gets, don't give up
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  on it, don't give up on your kids. Press through. Listen.
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  The mom life is not easy, but it is very rewarding. So on
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  that note, I'm gonna say good night, have a happy Mother's Day next
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  week. Whatever you do, enjoy it and think back on what it means
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  to be a mine there, think back on what it means to have a
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  mom, And if you don't have a mom, think back on the times
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  that you've shared with your mother and how that impacted you. And hold on
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  to those memories because they're there. Sometimes those memories are what you need to
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  carry you through some of the difficulties days in your life. So on that
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  note, I'm going to sign out. This is last shop with that,
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  and we'll see you soon. Good night, Oh person, all things ain't
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  one thing used to be? Where did all the Blue Sky's Boys from the
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  Lord from something? Well, person,