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104: Begin Again: 3 Steps to Move Forward With Self-Compassion · The Everyday Awesome Project

• 0:45
  Samantha Pruitts: Well, hello, beautiful humans.
• 0:47
  Samantha Pruitts: Coach Sam here today going solo.
• 0:50
  Samantha Pruitts: Miss my girl Polly, but I got a few things to say.
• 0:54
  Samantha Pruitts: And actually, what I want to do is a little Earth School microlearning episode.
• 1:00
  Samantha Pruitts: Something that Coach Polly and I have been talking about a lot lately.
• 1:05
  Samantha Pruitts: Building the muscle of self-compassion.
• 1:10
  Samantha Pruitts: Indeed, it's a muscle.
• 1:12
  Samantha Pruitts: It takes practice.
• 1:13
  Samantha Pruitts: It needs to be built.
• 1:15
  Samantha Pruitts: Building the muscle of self-compassion.
• 1:18
  Samantha Pruitts: So today I'm going to give you three steps to begin again.
• 1:25
  Samantha Pruitts: Yes, that's right.
• 1:27
  Samantha Pruitts: To begin again.
• 1:29
  Samantha Pruitts: When you fall back into your old habit of beating yourself up or just simply not giving yourself enough grace to really evolve yourself with self-compassion, I want to give you three steps.
• 1:43
  Samantha Pruitts: Okay, you knew from the beginning it wasn't going to be that simple, right?
• 1:47
  Samantha Pruitts: Okay, let's dig in.
• 1:51
  Samantha Pruitts: Step one.
• 1:54
  Samantha Pruitts: Remember where you came from.
• 1:58
  Samantha Pruitts: Do you know the odds of you being born are actually one in 400 trillion?
• 2:06
  Samantha Pruitts: That's right.
• 2:08
  Samantha Pruitts: T trillion.
• 2:10
  Samantha Pruitts: One in four hundred trillion.
• 2:12
  Samantha Pruitts: You, my friend, are the miraculous result of your parents' meeting, the incredible tenacity and resiliency of one egg and one sperm coming into contact at the exact right time.
• 2:28
  Samantha Pruitts: Your mother's health and the health of your environment being good enough to facilitate you actually surviving and being born.
• 2:37
  Samantha Pruitts: That is wild.
• 2:39
  Samantha Pruitts: So your mother carried you inside her, and on some cellular level, she is inside you now.
• 2:49
  Samantha Pruitts: Your father helped to contribute to your existence and your DNA, as did all the ancestors, whether they raised you or not.
• 3:00
  Samantha Pruitts: And truly, any human who helped to raise you from an infant into an adult, no matter how imperfect, kept you alive and contributed to you becoming.
• 3:13
  Samantha Pruitts: All of these different humans helped you survive by showing you life tools and teaching you how to use them, or by not giving you life tools and therefore making it mandatory that you develop these fierce tools and skills yourself and become who you are today.
• 3:34
  Samantha Pruitts: Congratulations! It's no small feat.
• 3:39
  Samantha Pruitts: So we all came here from someone's, somewhere, and no matter the circumstances, it's an absolute miracle that we are each alive.
• 3:50
  Samantha Pruitts: And therefore, we should remember that every day we stay alive, we are still just learning how to do this incredibly challenging, complicated, and messy thing called living.
• 4:04
  Samantha Pruitts: Keep it real, folks.
• 4:07
  Samantha Pruitts: Number two, become your own soulmate.
• 4:13
  Samantha Pruitts: You all have seemingly unlimited love for others, but not enough love for yourself.
• 4:19
  Samantha Pruitts: Soulmating starts with you first.
• 4:22
  Samantha Pruitts: Self-love.
• 4:25
  Samantha Pruitts: So pay attention and keep relearning how to speak to yourself like your best friend, your little brother, your little sister, or the love of your life.
• 4:36
  Samantha Pruitts: Spoiler alert, you are the love of your life.
• 4:40
  Samantha Pruitts: Write love letters to yourself if this is a hard one for you.
• 4:44
  Samantha Pruitts: That's a project I've been on lately, thanks to uh author Elizabeth Gilbert.
• 4:49
  Samantha Pruitts: I write a nightly love letter to myself.
• 4:52
  Samantha Pruitts: Sometimes it's a couple paragraphs, sometimes it's a sentence, sometimes it's a page.
• 4:57
  Samantha Pruitts: Dear Sam, I think this is a great exercise for everybody, and I cannot rave enough about it.
• 5:08
  Samantha Pruitts: Consider writing a love letter to yourself, either once or every damn day if you need to.
• 5:13
  Samantha Pruitts: Acknowledge and give thanks to your body for all it has been through and how every day it keeps showing up for you.
• 5:24
  Samantha Pruitts: Your body is the most resilient, wise, and committed partner you have on this crazy ass ride called life.
• 5:33
  Samantha Pruitts: You might actually want to send your body some flowers and a box of chocolates right now.
• 5:38
  Samantha Pruitts: And then stop throwing punches.
• 5:43
  Samantha Pruitts: No one deserves to be beaten.
• 5:45
  Samantha Pruitts: No one.
• 5:46
  Samantha Pruitts: Stop throwing punches.
• 5:48
  Samantha Pruitts: Work to acknowledge your regrets and say that you're sorry to yourself.
• 5:53
  Samantha Pruitts: Fully express any regrets you hold with speech or in writing so you can forgive yourself.
• 6:01
  Samantha Pruitts: You've gotta release them out of your mind, out of your heart, and out of your body.
• 6:07
  Samantha Pruitts: They are serving no purpose whatsoever, but indeed they are holding you back from liberation.
• 6:14
  Samantha Pruitts: Number three, heal open wounds and work on those scars.
• 6:22
  Samantha Pruitts: Wounds bleed and they get infected.
• 6:25
  Samantha Pruitts: Scars become thick, hard, and they immobilize areas of the body and the heart.
• 6:32
  Samantha Pruitts: Heal open wounds by shifting your thoughts, your talk, and your actions away from re-injury and into resolution.
• 6:44
  Samantha Pruitts: Healing looks different for all of us.
• 6:47
  Samantha Pruitts: There are so many different types of therapies out there these days.
• 6:52
  Samantha Pruitts: Endless amounts of opportunity for body work and energy work.
• 6:57
  Samantha Pruitts: Massive pivots and resets are available for you, change agents.
• 7:02
  Samantha Pruitts: Explore all the ways.
• 7:04
  Samantha Pruitts: Really examine what is absolutely possible for you to heal.
• 7:11
  Samantha Pruitts: There are endless solutions.
• 7:13
  Samantha Pruitts: I believe you really do know what I'm talking about.
• 7:16
  Samantha Pruitts: I mean, I'm not talking about what you see online.
• 7:18
  Samantha Pruitts: I'm talking about really think about it.
• 7:21
  Samantha Pruitts: And then pick the one that feels right for you.
• 7:25
  Samantha Pruitts: By either resolving the issue or just letting go, you can move on and make space for change, fresh body, heart, and mind tissue to grow.
• 7:38
  Samantha Pruitts: Lastly, once the wound scars over, get mobile.
• 7:44
  Samantha Pruitts: Move your heart and the connected tissue of your life so that they don't become hardened, calcified, rigid, and block future energy, relationships, and opportunities from coming to you.
• 8:00
  Samantha Pruitts: Okay, my beautiful humans.
• 8:03
  Samantha Pruitts: Three ways I dropped in your ear today.
• 8:07
  Samantha Pruitts: Three ways to begin again when you are learning or relearning or practicing or simply growing the muscle of self-compassion.
• 8:17
  Samantha Pruitts: I am so excited and I really hope that some of these words vibrated and resonated within you.
• 8:26
  Samantha Pruitts: If self-compassion is really tough for you, reach out to us.
• 8:30
  Samantha Pruitts: We're here to help.
• 8:32
  Samantha Pruitts: Meanwhile, I'll see you next week.
• 8:35
  Samantha Pruitts: And what you need to remember is how your life feels is more important than how it looks.
• 8:42
  Samantha Pruitts: See you next time.