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Modern Feminism Is Making Women Miserable | Episode 3 · Sincerely American

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  I always said I can't date a liberal man because I'm not a
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  lesbian. Me.
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  When I think of a liberal man, I think of someone who's scrawny,
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  who's weak, who's offended by everything and is probably gay,
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  to be honest. Like bring.
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  Back bullying you deserve to be bullied for.
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  That I just can't imagine my husband be doing that.
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  It's like, shut up. I'm coming out against toxic
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  masculinity, save me. He really thought he.
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  Ate me a little bit ghetto sometimes.
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  Sorry. Oh, this hurts my feelings.
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  So we're going to turn it off. We're going to cancel it.
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  Faces like this big blocket. I love any forum where I can
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  have a little rant. Cancel culture is dead.
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  Hi sincerely sisters, and welcome back to Sincerely
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  American. We're so excited to have you
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  guys back this week. It's been already such a fun
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  journey with you guys. And I want to say this, I love
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  when you guys post like you guys in the car listening to our
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  episode or you have it on your TV while you're cooking dinner.
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  I just like love seeing our girls like me posting like what
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  they're doing while watching us and I think it's really funny.
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  Well I have to give a shout out to Isabel, my Co founder with
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  the conservator at her boyfriend Carl.
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  Oh my gosh. This is good.
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  He sent me a video where he had like on 50 laptops playing our
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  episode and he's like getting those viewership numbers up.
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  And I'm like, we love you, Carl. Yeah, we love that.
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  That is a good man. He's a good man, Savannah.
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  He's a good man, Savannah. I obviously love it.
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  We're going to get into this week's episode.
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  Of course, we have some great topics.
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  I think we're like covering a lot of different issues.
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  And let me tell you, I love the questions you guys write in as
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  well. Like you guys are killing it.
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  So let's get into the episode. OK, OK, so let's just roll this
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  clip with this TikTok so we can see this.
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  Jamie is about to cook with this, by the way.
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  This came across my TikTok page like a week ago and I'm just
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  like, I just had a very visceral response to it so let's roll the
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  clap. Men should stay away from these
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  women and avoid them at all costs.
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  So I guess because you can't kill babies anymore because we,
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  you know, overturned Roe V Wade and we're saying like, don't
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  kill your babies. You won't hang out with a man.
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  Like, what type of society are we building with this?
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  Like what own is that as a woman?
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  I don't know, I just feel like when you replace God and you
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  start to be the center of your life and you're not living for
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  something bigger than yourself, you do get this like instant
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  gratification, like hyper sex, actual like environment where
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  people are just putting like such an emphasis on this.
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  And it just goes to show you women have not self reflected in
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  this way. Like they're complaining about
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  Roe V Wade on TikTok, but they're wondering why there's
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  such a like a dating gap, a cultural divide, not just within
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  elections between men and women, but also obviously, like in this
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  dating culture we're seeing because their morals aren't
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  aligned. Men are going back to church in
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  droves. And now we have these women who
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  are just like complaining about this on TikTok.
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  No wonder they don't want to. Date you might be crazy, but I
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  don't know, instead of having meaningless casual sex where you
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  exploit each other's bodies, that's really what that is, is
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  exploiting each other's bodies. How about, I don't know, build a
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  relationship with a man, go on some nice dates, get married and
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  build a family. Feminists are always like,
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  you're just wanting to control our bodies by outlawing
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  abortion. No, we just don't want you
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  killing babies. We're we're not asking that
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  much. Just don't kill babies.
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  And how about develop real relationships with people and
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  don't act like sex is a credit card where it's just a
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  transaction to use between, you know, two people?
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  It's a terrible quote. And I love that she thinks that
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  she was like owning us on that. You're not owning us.
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  You just look terrible in my opinion.
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  Yeah. I mean, I think with this, it
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  just goes to show you, like, of course there's going to be a
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  loneliness epidemic when this is what we have to offer as women.
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  I've seen a lot of tik toks of similar vein like making fun of
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  the male loneliness epidemic. And I went in the comments and
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  some of the comments were like make them lonelier.
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  And I'm like, why do you hate men so much?
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  Like it's just I hate this man hating type of movement that
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  we've developed as women. It's so unattractive.
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  Like this video is exactly what you expect from this liberal
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  girl. She has tattoos everywhere.
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  She's doing like the gross like what is like I'm just like, this
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  is so unattractive. Like this is just not what we
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  should aspire to be as women. As women, we should want to see
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  men succeed. Just as you, if you're a woman,
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  you want you want men to see you succeed.
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  I love with feminists. It's only women can succeed now.
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  It's a very one sided thing. They only want women
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  empowerment. Let's empower everyone and build
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  a better culture with better relationships between the two
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  sexes. Men need women just as much as
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  women need men. We need to remember that.
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  And I think that this shows just the breakdown in our culture
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  with sex. And you know, when I'm very
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  pro-life as you are, Cameron, and you know, we're fighting
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  against abortion. But the main thing that we need
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  to in order to fight this culture is taking away that
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  casual sex culture. And we need to bring back that
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  sex is very sacred. It's an intimate affair between
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  two people who are supposed to love each other.
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  And to me, it's very sad that we see women over and over trying
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  to use this fake empowerment to tell women to go sleep around.
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  And if a man, if you can't have abortion, then just like you're
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  not even going to talk to a man. And that's not empowerment for
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  women at all. Actually, the exact opposite is
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  empowering women, empowering women to develop real
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  relationships and to have, you know, some self respect and
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  dignity for their body and hold that at such a high regard.
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  I think abortion allows a man to take advantage of you because
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  abortion is such a terrible thing that women have to go
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  through. Like, I know these feminists are
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  like, oh, it's just a clump of cells.
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  It's not a big deal. They like to put for that
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  culture. But a lot of women who have had
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  abortions will tell you that it's incredibly traumatic to
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  have to go through that experience.
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  And men don't have to go through that experience like women do.
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  And so men almost in this casual sex culture, they can take
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  advantage of your body, they can have sex and you're the one
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  dealing with the consequences, not the man.
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  The sexual liberation that we've seen through hookup culture,
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  like you see, it has been so detrimental for women because it
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  actually leaves you more empty when you're pursuing this many
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  sexual partners and you're not getting fulfilled and your cup
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  is not being filled with those like emotional stable
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  relationships in your life. Not only is it completely
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  godless, but again, it just leaves you empty feeling alone.
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  Humans thrive on on deep personal connections and that
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  goes for men and women across the board.
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  And so you're right, it's just not for one, obviously the
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  procedure itself with abortion, it's so sad because it does
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  leave not only like physical effects later on, women may have
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  to suffer with like depression, anxiety, whatever comes with
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  that, as well as fertility issues later on.
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  It can if you actually want to have kids with somebody who is a
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  long term partner like your husband.
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  If you're having these abortions over and over again, not only is
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  it terrible for your mental health, but your for your
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  physical health and your reproductive system as well.
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  It should never be something that's celebrated.
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  It should never be promoted. I just think it's the exact
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  opposite of empowerment for women.
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  And you know, I think this is a perfect segue into our next
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  topic when we're talking about, you know, motherhood.
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  And I love this. This ex post has become very
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  viral that I'll let's show up on the screen.
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  So it's the sky surrounded by those swords.
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  And people will post like their hot take.
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  Like, what will people get mad at you about?
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  So this one is most women who abandoned their children to
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  daycare are only making a dollar or two more.
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  And this is a very hot topic. And I know it can be like,
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  really touchy for a lot of people.
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  But you know, it is true that daycare has become increasingly
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  expensive in the US. Like, I think, you know, a lot
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  of daycares, if you're living in like a big city, for example,
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  for one or two children, it can be 60 to $80,000 a year.
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  And obviously, the average salary in America is around
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  $60,000 a year. So a lot of these women are
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  actually just cancelling out their daycare expenses with
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  their job. And so obviously this person,
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  like, doesn't think that this is a good idea.
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  Like what? What is your take on that?
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  Well, I, I think we should also clarify too.
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  Like this is a lot different for single moms.
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  Like if you're, if you're in a two parent household and, and a
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  two and like you have two incomes coming in, Obviously we
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  know like I was raised by a single mom and she would
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  probably say the same thing. She would want to stay home with
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  me. So let's just clarify.
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  This is with people who can rely on another income as well.
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  Looking at it from a macro perspective, This is why the
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  left has targeted women because it was never about empowering
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  them to go work this corporate job or whatever.
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  It was all about control. Because a woman who is rooted in
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  her faith, secure in her family and her relationship, she's the
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  hardest person to manipulate in society.
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  But when you're placing yourself worth and your job and like your
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  boss who sees you as easily replaceable and probably hates
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  you like, you're going to be more susceptible to falling for
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  these emotional manipulation tactics that the left
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  propagates. Yeah, I completely agree.
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  And you know, I'm not a believer in A1 size fits all.
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  Like some people, you know, are promoting every woman should go
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  back to work after having a child or some people are saying,
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  you know, no woman should ever go back to work after having a
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  child. I'm not a one-size-fits-all.
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  I don't. I think every family is
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  different. And I also am, you know,
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  sensitive to the subject because it's not my right to come in and
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  judge how your family's doing. However, I'll speak on just, I
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  think various truths and I think, you know, when you have
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  an infant, that's such a special time in in that child's life
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  where they need you as a mom. And so for me, I just don't
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  believe that any job where you're basically canceling out
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  this daycare salary is worth going to work all day and
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  leaving your child behind. It depends on every family, but
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  if I think prioritizing your child and staying at home is
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  such a beautiful thing and I think we should encourage more
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  woman to do so, I just think you know you're lying to yourself if
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  you think it's better to put your child in daycare all day.
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  And that's why being a mom is the most important job in the
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  world. It's because like you have a say
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  over the morals that you instill in that child and, and the time
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  that you have spent with them, the bond that you have created.
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  And if you leave that in the hands of the government per SE,
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  it's it's horrible. If you grow up with such strong
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  morals and such a strong backbone in your in your
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  household and you're instilling that in them, then they'll
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  actually have a very strong sense of self going off into the
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  real world. But obviously with that we're
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  seeing is people are going into college and obviously they're
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  more susceptible to taking in this this information.
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  You know, we talk a lot about the negative effects of social
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  media in this digital age that we now live in and trust me, I
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  could go on for days about all the negative things that social
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  media and the Internet has brought to our society.
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  But I would say for me, I've seen this in my own life.
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  The one major positive is that you actually can create a career
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  at home and be able to have passions and hobbies outside of
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  just being a mom. That's something that about me
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  as a mom. I need that in my life and
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  you're and you can now do that from home.
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  I do that like I I've created my whole I'm I'm a stay at home mom
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  and with my daughter every single day.
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  You know, I, I have a babysitter here and there, but for the most
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  part I'm a stay at home mom and I'm able to have this wonderful
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  career that I've developed by like working in different hours
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  and, you know, being able to do it online.
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  I do a lot of my meetings when Vivian is down for her nap.
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  And I think that's a beautiful thing that's not talked about
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  enough. And you know, this, I love that
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  this generation of women talk nonstop about trauma that they
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  had growing up and just, you know, how so many people, just
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  the therapy industry that we got into last week.
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  Yet I don't think there's anything more traumatic than
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  ditching your child so you can go girl boss in an office all
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  day. I, I just, I think it's selfish.
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  I'm being honest. I do, I think it's a selfish
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  decision. And that is different from being
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  a single mom where you are the sole provider and you have to do
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  that, that that's a sacrifice you have to make as a single
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  mother. But if you're just doing this
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  because you're like, I want to prioritize myself, then I'm
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  going to be honest. That's my hot take.
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  I do think that's kind of selfish to an extent.
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  Yeah, it's a very selfish way of living.
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  I think that actually brings up a bigger issue.
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  Also, segwaying into the VS Fashion show.
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  Weren't you going to bring something up with that as well?
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  Does pregnancy ruin your body? And I love this topic, Cameron,
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  because I wanted to discuss the VS fashion show that obviously
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  made a comeback last week, and I thought this was the perfect
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  opportunity to do so. So let's put up the video.
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  There's a Candace Swan pool for our listening audience.
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  She looks amazing and fantastic. And I don't know how many kids
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  she's had, but she's definitely a mom.
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  And I think she's in her late 30s and just, wow, what, what an
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  inspiration to like women who are, you know, have had kids and
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  are, you know, in their 20s or 30s, just what you can be at, I
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  think 37 years old. It wasn't just her.
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  They had Bahati walking. I think she has about four kids
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  as well. Yeah, Jasmine, who was actually
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  pregnant while she was walking. But it's beautiful.
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  I think people will instill this idea in your head that, you
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  know, you won't bounce back or like your body.
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  Obviously we say that your body does change, but like they they
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  sit with this mentality of like you know your body's going to
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  change forever and you won't be as attractive just to fear
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  monger and to convince you not to have children.
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  I, I just feel like the society in general, we're settling for
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  mediocrity. It's like I, I was told that a
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  bunch of times when I was pregnant.
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  They're like, you know, your body's going to change forever.
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  Don't worry about getting your old body back and stuff.
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  And you know, to an extent we shouldn't be, you know, I guess
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  hyper fixating on people's bodies and in an unhealthy way.
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  But I can as someone who did go through pregnancy.
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  And by the way, I gained 50 D pounds when I was pregnant.
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  Like, I'm not joking. It was all belly too, like
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  Jamie's tiny SO. I was 24 when I was pregnant and
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  like Cameron and our best friend Bryce, and I'd go out to lunch
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  and they'd be wearing like these cute outfits and meanwhile I'd
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  like gain 50 lbs and like was so bloated.
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  My face was like this big and I felt disgusting.
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  And I remember in that moment I'm like, I don't think I'm ever
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  going to be cute again. That's how you feel when you're
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  pregnant and it's not true. Do never let people convince you
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  of that. It's not true at all.
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  Your body does change. I will not like my body is
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  different than it was before I had a baby, but that's normal.
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  That's part of life. And I think that we should not
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  be settling for mediocrity. Instead, I think we should be
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  striving to be the best versions ourselves as mothers, which
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  means working out, eating healthy, getting back in shape.
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  I think it's totally attainable for a lot of mothers.
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  And it doesn't mean that you need to be stick thin.
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  It doesn't mean that you need to be, you know, just like full
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  muscle. But I think we should, you know,
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  encourage women to be the best versions of themselves.
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  We've just settled for mediocrity and that's like the
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  effects of DEI too. And also just with everyone in
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  today's society getting a participation trophy, You have
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  to remember the VS fashion show is like the Super Bowl for
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  women. Obviously, like the Super Bowl,
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  the best two teams play against each other.
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  The same thing for the VS fashion show.
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  You have the top supermodels that are walking, shredding down
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  the the runway and they are the best of the best.
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  I'm so sick of seeing like, Oh well, they're not being
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  inclusive enough or they're like all this stuff.
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  OK, well they've had a trans person walking down the they
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  have. I don't want to say fatties,
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  but. They are fatties.
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  There's there's fat women and it's like whatever happened to
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  the standards of they are supermodels, They should be the
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  best of the best, just like how the Super Bowl is.
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  That is our Super Bowl for women.
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  You know, it's so weird because we were watching football last
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  night when we when I was like going over our topics and
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  everything. And I'm like, why do men not sit
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  here and compare themselves to, you know, like these top
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  athletes that are in the NFL or, you know, top basketball players
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  or any professional athlete? They can just enjoy the sport
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  and know that these men are at the top of their game and
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  they're just incredible athletes.
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  I think it's the same for women. And I remember I always say the
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  Victoria's Secret show being cancelled was a huge like,
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  candidate event for me in my life.
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  And it was a big part of like my conservative journey because I
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  like, we grew up watching the Victoria's Secret Fashion Show,
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  getting so excited. I remember they would like
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  publish their workout routines and I would copy the workout
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  routines and I bought the fantasy bra.
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  I had my mom buy that for Christmas for me every year
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  because I was like so excited about the show.
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  And then they cancelled it because these women were too
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  pretty. I'm like, what does that say
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  about our society? And as women, we shouldn't be
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  necessarily really comparing yourself to supermodels, but I
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  think having the emotions. I think you should, I think in
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  order to be the best version of yourself, you should compare
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  yourself to a supermodel and try to be in the best shape as
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  possible. Have the discipline, have like
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  the self obedience, like eat right, be the best version of
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  yourself. Like Jamie was saying, having a
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  healthier diet, no brain fog, like a better mindset going into
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  the day. And you should have the best
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  standards for yourself in order to have like a very a very good
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  life. In my opinion.
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  The reason why I and I don't want to deviate too much off of
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  topic, but all of my friends are better than me in certain
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  aspects. Like and I love that because it
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  always pushes me to be the best version of myself and really
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  opens my eyes and and they're a mentor to me in a lot of ways.
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  But you should actually compare yourself to to people who are
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  better than you. To protect people's emotions so
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  much in this victim society, we're instead lowering the bar
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  on everything to make people feel better.
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  And instead, we should be raising the bar and we should be
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  encouraging people to meet that bar and that it doesn't mean
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  being unhealthy or doing extreme things to achieve this body.
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  And to be honest, these women are genetically blessed to be
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  the most beautiful woman in the world.
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  But for me, I took so much inspiration with their workout
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  routines. I took inspiration with their
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  hair and makeup that they did I thought was fantastic.
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  And, you know, I think all women can aspire to be the best
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  versions of themselves. And I just think, you know, it's
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  such a disappointment that we can't have that as woman anymore
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  and that people don't have the emotional intelligence anymore
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  to see, OK, this is a supermodel and her entire job is to be like
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  the hottest woman in the world. And I know, like, personally in
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  my life, I'm not going to be a supermodel, but that doesn't
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  mean that I can't appreciate that beauty and aspire to be a
• 17:58
  better version of myself and to always be working on myself.
• 18:01
  Like let's hold women to a higher standard, have a higher
• 18:04
  emotional intelligence on that and don't like have the self
• 18:07
  victim like oh Oh my gosh because this woman's skinnier
• 18:10
  and prettier than me I have to tear her down.
• 18:12
  That's so anti woman. In my opinion.
• 18:14
  We should be like celebrating these women who are just the
• 18:17
  pinnacle of beauty and womanhood in every single way.
• 18:20
  Well, it's because we live in a gluttonous society too.
• 18:23
  Sloth and gluttony, they're they're part of the seven
• 18:26
  deadliest sins and people just want to eat all day, sit on the
• 18:29
  couch and, you know, not move their body, but then be told
• 18:32
  that they're beautiful. And it's like, no, that's not a
• 18:34
  beautiful way to live your life. A beautiful way to live your
• 18:37
  life is to eat clean and healthy and go work out and have your
• 18:41
  body be as beautiful as you can make it.
• 18:43
  It's like Charlie Kirk said he was, he was on a campus one day
• 18:47
  and he was talking about the NBA and he was like, OK, what about
• 18:49
  the reverse of DEI? Let's say we replaced all of the
• 18:52
  black basketball athletes with white sub, like subpar white
• 18:57
  players and the product would suck and nobody would watch it.
• 19:01
  It's the same for the VS fashion show where it's like we should
• 19:04
  actually be embracing the pinnacle of woman, like you
• 19:07
  said. And in the pinnacle of beauty, I
• 19:08
  think we're actually starting to embrace this this beauty again.
• 19:12
  And we're done with this cancel culture and this victim
• 19:15
  mentality of like, oh, this hurts my feelings, so we're
• 19:18
  going to turn it off. We're going to cancel it.
• 19:19
  It's like cancel culture is dead.
• 19:22
  Be stronger. America needs to be stronger.
• 19:24
  And Speaking of stronger, we're going to transition into our
• 19:27
  next segment. I thought this one was
• 19:29
  hilarious. We're going into that.
• 19:31
  I have no word segment where we expose just the random Liberal
• 19:35
  insanity, and this one comes courtesy of Cameron.
• 19:43
  Let's roll this club. Do you need some?
• 19:54
  Her listening audience, it's a man who's saying that if a woman
• 19:58
  follows TPUSA, then he's like doing it to the Sabrina
• 20:01
  Carpenter song that he's done with her.
• 20:04
  And then it cuts to camera and she like stitched the video and
• 20:07
  she was putting on lip gloss and saying do you need some?
• 20:10
  I mean, he literally played a video, a video with a Sabrina
• 20:15
  Carpenter song in the back and he thought like women would swim
• 20:18
  for that. I always said I can't date a
• 20:20
  liberal man because I'm not a lesbian.
• 20:25
  You're right, there is no bigger ick than a liberal man.
• 20:28
  Like, to me, when I think of a liberal man, I think of someone
• 20:30
  who's scrawny, who's weak, who's offended by everything and is
• 20:34
  probably gay, to be honest. That's what comes.
• 20:37
  He thought he ate like Xavier. He posted this video and he's
• 20:40
  like, he really thought he ate with that girl.
• 20:41
  Shut up. You thought you ate that.
• 20:46
  Definitely thought that he was gonna get like so many women
• 20:49
  like, you know, like those feminist men who by the way,
• 20:51
  these feminist men who like always try to appeal to these.
• 20:54
  Looks like the Walmart Harry says on or whatever.
• 20:58
  But these feminist men that are always like trying to appeal to
• 21:02
  women, they are actually the most toxic man I've ever met in
• 21:04
  my entire life. They like use like their
• 21:06
  feminism as a front, but they're just like, they're just bad men
• 21:09
  and I. He's like flicking off the
• 21:12
  camera goodbye. It's like, shut the F up.
• 21:15
  Like what? Honestly, you're just so you're
• 21:20
  so delusional. You're so desensitized.
• 21:22
  Like what happened to Charlie Kirk was terrible and he was
• 21:25
  shot in cold blood. And for you to be decent
• 21:28
  advertised and post that and also just be like, so girly pop
• 21:31
  thinking that like you really ate with that.
• 21:33
  You're going to get so many chicks from it.
• 21:34
  Like you're a loser. You are a loser.
• 21:37
  Yeah, who deserves to be, like, publicly shamed for that?
• 21:40
  Like bring back bullying. You deserve to be bullied for
• 21:43
  that. You deserve to be shamed for
• 21:45
  that. What man stitches a Sabrina
• 21:48
  Carpenter? I just can't imagine my husband
• 21:51
  Drake doing. That that is like, shut up.
• 21:54
  And like, shut up. I feel like he's like the type
• 21:56
  of guy we all know this guy. It's like I'm, I'm coming out
• 22:00
  against toxic masculinity. Save me, honestly, say me.
• 22:06
  I want men to be masculine. I want men to be strong, to be
• 22:10
  leaders, to be stoic and to be just like great men who, you
• 22:15
  know, achieve great things. And I think that's why so many
• 22:17
  men are conservative, because that's what the conservative
• 22:19
  movement is all about, is embracing like the beauty of
• 22:22
  womanhood like we do, and also embracing, on the flip side, the
• 22:26
  beauty of masculinity and how important that is to society.
• 22:30
  And this man is not leading anyone with his girly Pop
• 22:33
  Sabrina Carpenter videos. I saw in this video, I don't
• 22:37
  know if this was Love Island or what show this was.
• 22:39
  It was some reality TV and this liberal man was sitting there
• 22:42
  and you think I'm an empath? I am a Capricorn.
• 22:45
  So I think this way. And the the girl's like, OK,
• 22:47
  bye. Like bye.
• 22:49
  Nobody finds that attractive. I'm sorry.
• 22:51
  I don't even think liberal women find that attractive.
• 22:54
  Hence why they're pursuing conservative men so much.
• 22:56
  Because every single woman biologically wants a more
• 22:59
  masculine man who's more stoic in their emotions.
• 23:02
  Like Jamie noted, nobody wants this, like sucky emotion
• 23:06
  constantly, this emotional roller coaster that's going to
• 23:09
  provide you no stability whatsoever outside of fiscal
• 23:13
  stability, emotional stability in your life.
• 23:15
  When there's so much chaos and turmoil that life brings to you,
• 23:19
  you want somebody who's going to be strong in their emotions and
• 23:22
  who can fix your problems. At the end of the day, if he's
• 23:24
  not fixing your problems, he's going to become your biggest
• 23:27
  problem. Yeah, it's no wonder that
• 23:28
  liberal woman or even like posting on TikTok.
• 23:30
  They're like, how do I find a a man who looks conservative but
• 23:33
  is actually liberal? And it's like you all just want
• 23:36
  a conservative man who wants a big, strong, masculine
• 23:38
  conservative man. Let's be honest, this girly pop
• 23:41
  is not appealing to anyone. I can speak as a woman.
• 23:46
  Please like delete your video because it's not great.
• 23:53
  All right, sincerely. So Sarah's now we're headed into
• 23:55
  our non-toxic advice and before we get in, I want to encourage
• 23:59
  all of you guys to submit a question to
• 24:01
  sincerelyamerican.com slash ask a question.
• 24:05
  We love hearing from you and you guys have the best questions.
• 24:07
  Like I mentioned earlier, just fantastic.
• 24:10
  And we like always give us Adm. We love hearing what you guys
• 24:13
  think. Even if you don't like
• 24:14
  something, let us know. OK, so we've been talking a lot
• 24:17
  about guys actually. So now let's get into our first
• 24:20
  question which is from Sienna from Colorado and she says I've
• 24:24
  been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years now and he has
• 24:27
  not proposed. We're living together, we've
• 24:29
  talked about marriage many times, we've looked at rings and
• 24:32
  still nothing. What should I do?
• 24:35
  I think you should know when to grow with somebody.
• 24:38
  No one to forgive, no one to give those cues, but also have
• 24:42
  the self respect and dignity to know when to also walk.
• 24:45
  Walk away from something that is not serving you anymore.
• 24:48
  Because I will say you should want a man and you should
• 24:51
  actually you deserve to have a man in your life who pursues you
• 24:54
  with a sense of urgency. High value men know what they
• 24:57
  want and they're not afraid to get it.
• 24:59
  Same with Jamie's husband, same with mine.
• 25:02
  They knew exactly what they wanted and they knew they had to
• 25:04
  lock it down immediately. Also self reflect and ask like
• 25:07
  am I enabling this complacency? Because when you are living with
• 25:10
  a boyfriend like I have, and you're doing things, wifey
• 25:14
  things on a girlfriend's salary, you're not incentivizing him to
• 25:17
  propose to you. He may be coming home to a home
• 25:20
  that is clean. You may be doing his laundry.
• 25:23
  If you're giving your body your time, your attention, your
• 25:26
  effort, and maybe even throwing in some money in there here and
• 25:29
  there, or going 5050, whatever you're doing, whatever your
• 25:32
  dynamic looks like, you are not incentivizing him to propose.
• 25:36
  You're making his life easier. Make him work for you.
• 25:39
  Yeah, I, I completely agree with that.
• 25:41
  Do not let a man waste your childbearing years.
• 25:44
  I mean, men can have kids at any age technically, and women
• 25:47
  cannot. There is a window in in a
• 25:49
  woman's life that she's able to have kids.
• 25:51
  And so I think it is very scary when a man keeps leading you on
• 25:55
  and there's no commitment there because you need to have that
• 25:58
  commitment, in my opinion. And I think that this is a
• 26:00
  bigger societal trend that I would love to like talk about,
• 26:04
  which is that people take the people take boyfriend and
• 26:08
  girlfriend relationship and they almost treat it as marriage.
• 26:12
  And then on the opposite, there's such a dichotomy here.
• 26:14
  They treat marriage like it's no big deal and divorce rates are
• 26:17
  at an all time high when you are in a boyfriend and girlfriend
• 26:20
  relationship that is not marriage.
• 26:22
  You should not be doing that for honestly, this might be a really
• 26:26
  hot take, but if you've been dating for more than two years,
• 26:28
  it's like, are you guys going to get married or are you not meant
• 26:31
  to be and it's time to move to the next person?
• 26:33
  In my opinion, I just, I don't understand five year plus
• 26:37
  relationships where you guys are living together.
• 26:39
  Mother, you're acting like you're married, but there's no
• 26:41
  real commitment there. I, I just, that's such a common
• 26:44
  thing nowadays in society that people take so long to get
• 26:48
  married. And I think it's either he locks
• 26:50
  you down now or you move on to be honest.
• 26:55
  What is the thing? What is this the trend?
• 26:58
  Clock it. You deserve to be someone's
• 27:00
  dream girl. That is like my, my biggest
• 27:02
  piece of advice when you're dating is, is this the guy that
• 27:05
  that is head over heels and he wants to marry and start a life
• 27:08
  with you? And that might not be every
• 27:10
  single man. If a man doesn't value your
• 27:11
  worth in that way, then I think move on.
• 27:14
  And I also think this, I think you should give him if you put a
• 27:17
  lot of time into this relationship, give him the
• 27:19
  opportunity to propose. But I think it's a very natural
• 27:22
  role within within a relationship that women are the
• 27:25
  ones that push their men along a little bit faster.
• 27:27
  Men can just easily, I think, get a little bit more complacent
• 27:30
  in a relationship. And it's like, I even view me as
• 27:33
  a wife. My job is to make sure that my
• 27:35
  husband, who I love so much and want to see him be the best
• 27:38
  version of himself, is that I'm the one that that's a wife's
• 27:40
  role throughout all of human history is to push their husband
• 27:43
  to be the best version of themselves.
• 27:45
  And so I would definitely put pressure on this relationship.
• 27:47
  And if you are not his dream girl, then find someone that you
• 27:51
  are their dream girl. Women are the neck and men are
• 27:54
  the head of the house. They are leading, but ultimately
• 27:57
  that woman is helping guide his decisions in the direction that
• 28:00
  he is going and that is biblical.
• 28:01
  You are not a builder girl. You are a dream girl.
• 28:04
  I'm not saying you can't help him become the best version of
• 28:07
  himself, but you deserve to be pursued with urgency.
• 28:11
  I completely agree with that. OK, headed to our next question.
• 28:15
  This is from Melanie from North Carolina.
• 28:18
  How do you move on from a past that you're not so proud of?
• 28:21
  I used to be more feminist, liberal, and wild.
• 28:24
  Now I have conservative values and feel almost like an
• 28:27
  imposter. I honestly think that this is
• 28:31
  normal, that you're going to feel the shame and this guilt
• 28:34
  when you're going through a major transformation like this
• 28:37
  because the enemy is going to try to make you feel inferior.
• 28:41
  He doesn't try to attack things or people that he already has.
• 28:45
  He tries to attack people who are undergoing this major
• 28:48
  transformation that he's like ultimately losing to the
• 28:51
  righteous Kingdom. And if he's placing these these
• 28:54
  ideas of shame and guilt into your mind, that is completely
• 28:57
  normal. Just ask God for the strength to
• 28:59
  take those intrusive thoughts captive.
• 29:01
  Also, this would give you a stronger sense of self in my
• 29:04
  opinion, because you're just owning that that was you.
• 29:07
  But that's not you anymore. And you can have the confidence
• 29:10
  knowing that and and creating a better life for yourself in the
• 29:13
  future. One that doesn't emulate your
• 29:15
  past. And you're constantly repeating
• 29:17
  the same mistakes that you made when you were younger.
• 29:19
  Everybody goes through it, everybody has things.
• 29:21
  Yeah, I love this question because I want women to know
• 29:25
  that we are never here to shame you.
• 29:27
  Our what we want to do with Sincerely American is to empower
• 29:31
  women to be the best versions of themselves, and that means
• 29:34
  improving from your past. And I think the biggest take
• 29:37
  away I have is that Christianity is truly a faith rooted in love,
• 29:41
  forgiveness, and grace. And so I never want you to feel
• 29:44
  like an imposter here. I don't ever want you to feel
• 29:47
  alienated. I want you to know that we
• 29:49
  welcome you in into this world that we have and we want you to
• 29:53
  be a part of this movement. And I actually think some of the
• 29:56
  best advocates in the conservative movement, you know,
• 29:59
  I even think of like Abby Johnson in the pro-life
• 30:01
  movement, for example, she is someone that's had an abortion
• 30:04
  and now she's one of the most powerful advocates against
• 30:07
  abortion. So I think your testimony is a
• 30:10
  wonderful opportunity to share with other women about how
• 30:13
  you've made that evolution and how you've come back home to
• 30:16
  Jesus and you're embracing these biblical values and and
• 30:20
  embracing this traditional way of life.
• 30:23
  And I think that's so powerful. And I want you to know that we
• 30:25
  encourage you and we want you to be here and never be ashamed of
• 30:28
  who you were in the past. Just be the better, best version
• 30:31
  of yourself today and for the future.
• 30:34
  I got. I just love these questions.
• 30:35
  It's like so powerful and I just love like talking to our.
• 30:38
  Girls and so many people relate to this too and have this.
• 30:41
  I had similar questions when I was younger.
• 30:43
  I wish people were addressing this more.
• 30:45
  Yeah. Yeah, I think it's great.
• 30:47
  This is my favorite section for that reason.
• 30:49
  OK, let's go to Josie from California.
• 30:52
  She says. What are some things you would
• 30:54
  tell a single girl to look for in a future husband?
• 30:57
  This is a good one. This is a good one.
• 30:59
  I would look for maybe alignment in your world views, pick
• 31:02
  compatibility over quote UN quote chemistry with that person
• 31:05
  or quote UN quote spark. Honestly, FA spark at this
• 31:09
  point, this is going to be the person who carries you through
• 31:11
  childbirth and the death of your parents and everything that
• 31:14
  comes with life. That is that is hard.
• 31:16
  And you're going to face tribulations and that person is
• 31:19
  going to pick you up at the end of the day.
• 31:20
  And this is one of the most, if not the most important decision
• 31:24
  you will ever make in your entire life.
• 31:26
  And to go off of that as well. I, I would also look inward and
• 31:30
  make sure that you are conducting yourself in a way
• 31:32
  where you're actually going to attract the type of man that you
• 31:35
  want pursuing you. And then also when you get to
• 31:37
  that point where you have found that person, make sure obviously
• 31:40
  that your biblical views align how you want to raise kids and
• 31:44
  pick that compatibility component over that chemistry,
• 31:47
  that lust and that what do they call it in that honeymoon phase.
• 31:51
  Yeah, you know, I always, I always think that there's four
• 31:54
  pillars to make a successful relationship.
• 31:56
  I think one, having values aligned, which obviously for a
• 31:59
  lot of women watching this podcast means that you're a
• 32:01
  conservative and a Christian. Having that values base is so
• 32:04
  important, especially when you're raising kids.
• 32:06
  And I think, you know, a lot of people ask like, can I date a
• 32:08
  liberal guy? And I, I would kind of or a guy
• 32:11
  that's not Christian. And I think that there's going
• 32:13
  to be a lot of trials and tribulations that come with
• 32:16
  that. And I think having that
• 32:16
  foundation is very important. Next, I think it's very
• 32:19
  important to have a guy. I, I, I never would ever
• 32:22
  encourage anybody to marry for money.
• 32:24
  I think it's important though, to have a guy who's ambitious
• 32:26
  and has that provider mindset and, you know, we'll be able to
• 32:29
  take care of your family one day.
• 32:31
  And so like I look back at my relationship and when Drake and
• 32:33
  I first got married, we were so young, obviously, and now we've
• 32:36
  built up this life that we're continuing to build together.
• 32:38
  And I think that's a beautiful thing.
• 32:39
  And I was very attracted to Drake in that way because I knew
• 32:42
  that he was a go getter and he was going to be successful in
• 32:45
  life. And I think that that is very
• 32:47
  important that you have that from a man.
• 32:49
  I would also say physical attraction is very important
• 32:51
  too. I think that's definitely
• 32:53
  something that, you know, you should value, that you want to
• 32:55
  be attracted to your spouse. However, I will say looks will
• 32:58
  fade over time. And I think another really
• 33:01
  important thing to have is just that chemistry and
• 33:04
  compatibility. And is this like the guy that
• 33:06
  you want to is your best friend that if you were on a desert
• 33:08
  island, can you talk to him endlessly?
• 33:10
  I, that's something that I love about Drake and I's relationship
• 33:13
  that I always say is that, you know, if we were stranded on a
• 33:15
  desert island, we could keep each other entertained for years
• 33:18
  because of all of our, and debates that we have.
• 33:20
  And we just have very similar interests and we get along.
• 33:23
  And, you know, having a guy that you just like, love to spend
• 33:25
  time with and that you don't want to get away from is I just
• 33:28
  think such a beautiful thing and important.
• 33:30
  And if you can make all those things work, then no matter what
• 33:32
  life throws at you, I think you can get through it and work
• 33:35
  together and build a beautiful life together.
• 33:37
  Yeah, I think so many people, though, put emphasis on like
• 33:40
  these physical qualities or like we were talking about the height
• 33:43
  in the last episode or like whether they feel that like,
• 33:46
  lustful passion in the very beginning.
• 33:48
  That's what I really meant by like, chemistry.
• 33:50
  Obviously, you want somebody who you mesh with, but yeah, you
• 33:53
  need to actually put an emphasis on if that person loves you
• 33:56
  fearfully, if they challenge you intellectually, if that's what
• 33:59
  you want and has these qualities that are really going to stand
• 34:02
  the test of time. Don't just look at the surface
• 34:04
  level things going into the relationship that modern dating
• 34:08
  culture has often propped up. Instead, like, look inward, Make
• 34:11
  sure you're looking at the forest through the trees.
• 34:14
  Is this person going to be able to be my spouse through all of
• 34:18
  these things occurring in my life and and really being my
• 34:22
  best friend through it, my soul mate, my partner.
• 34:24
  That's going to be the person that you're buried next to.
• 34:26
  That's going to be the person who is the father of your
• 34:29
  children. So choose wisely.
• 34:31
  I also think that there's never going to be a perfect person
• 34:33
  too. I think in this day and age, a
• 34:35
  lot of people will get divorced so quickly because they'll hit
• 34:37
  like some issue in their relationship and instead of like
• 34:40
  standing by each other and staying true to your covenant,
• 34:43
  they'll just like leave and be like, well, I can just find
• 34:45
  somebody better. And so I, I think that is
• 34:47
  important to keep in mind. You're never going to find the
• 34:48
  perfect person, but I think if you look for, you know, the
• 34:50
  things that we mentioned, then you can make it through a lot.
• 34:53
  The grass isn't greener on the other side, the grass is greener
• 34:57
  where you water it. OK, now let's have some fun you
• 35:00
  guys. We're going to head into our
• 35:02
  This is another section that I just love the hot or not
• 35:05
  section. OK Cameron, are espresso
• 35:10
  martinis hot or not? Not I think martini glasses look
• 35:14
  hot in your hand, but I don't want to be wired.
• 35:16
  I am more into like the nightcap where I can go to bed and and
• 35:21
  sleep it off. Espresso martinis keep you
• 35:24
  wired. I don't want to stay up late and
• 35:25
  stay out all night. So that's going to be a knot for
• 35:28
  me. I'm going to have to agree with
• 35:29
  you. It's a knot for me as well.
• 35:31
  I feel terrible in espresso martini.
• 35:34
  I'm so weak. I'm like very sensitive to like
• 35:37
  any like there's a lot of medication I can't take.
• 35:38
  I can't take like a night full or day quil because it makes me
• 35:40
  feel so loopy. So I think the calf and alcohol
• 35:43
  hitting together at the same time just does not work for me.
• 35:45
  I want to be able to have that aesthetic.
• 35:47
  Espresso martini or best friend Bryson, she loves an espresso
• 35:51
  martini. She always like orders me one
• 35:52
  and I'm like Bry, I cannot do this.
• 35:54
  Like please. So I'm definitely in this day
• 35:57
  and age more of a wine girl because I think it's just like
• 35:59
  more of a chill type of buzz. So I'm going to go if not OK,
• 36:04
  next. I know we're going to disagree
• 36:05
  with this, as you can see from our nails right now, but long
• 36:08
  nails? I'm going to go with hot.
• 36:10
  I know it's not trendy right now, but Jamie and I also have
• 36:13
  very different hands. She hands where she has very
• 36:19
  small dainty hands and so the short nails look very classy on
• 36:23
  her. I have lung.
• 36:24
  I don't want to say a man hands. I'm sorry.
• 36:28
  I need to like reel it in and lock it.
• 36:31
  OK, put on. It's a little hot in here.
• 36:34
  I have longer fingers, so I want to accentuate them with nails.
• 36:37
  And so I do think I have the in between length where they're
• 36:41
  like more of a medium, not too long, not too short, right in
• 36:44
  the middle. But I I've learned as I've
• 36:46
  gotten older what shape is best for me.
• 36:50
  Like square doesn't look good on me.
• 36:51
  So just finding what looks good for you, the shape, the colors,
• 36:55
  the color analysis, things like that I think will change the
• 36:58
  game a lot. But OK, All in all, I'm gonna go
• 37:01
  with long is hot. I'm gonna go with not.
• 37:05
  I like a short, simple nail. I think that's just my type of
• 37:08
  vibe. I don't think I've ever done a
• 37:10
  nail. I think I did it one time and
• 37:11
  hated it. I also like, feel like I can't
• 37:12
  type on anything and I kind of feel like long nails can be a
• 37:15
  little bit ghetto. Sometimes if they're super long.
• 37:17
  Yeah, if they're super long, like just not my vibe.
• 37:20
  Are you saying I'm ghetto, James?
• 37:22
  No no, you are the opposite of ghetto.
• 37:25
  But this is. I love any forum where I can
• 37:27
  have a little rant. I was at the nail salon
• 37:29
  yesterday and I'm like there is nothing I hate more than going
• 37:32
  to the nail salon one. It takes like 2 hours if you're
• 37:35
  getting a pedicure in manicure and I'm like, this is just such
• 37:38
  a colossal waste of time and it's expensive.
• 37:40
  It's like more and more just like crazy expensive nowadays.
• 37:44
  And I'm just like, I wish I could drop my nails off and have
• 37:47
  them do it because I just have to sit there and like waste
• 37:50
  time. And like, when you're a mom,
• 37:51
  like I feel like anytime you're spending away from your child,
• 37:53
  you're feeling guilty about. So I like to do that very
• 37:55
  intentionally. And I just hate going to the
• 37:57
  nail salon. And I also hate that my husband,
• 38:00
  I think, thinks it's like an enjoyable experience.
• 38:02
  Like, oh, you treated yourself to the nail salon.
• 38:03
  No, this is just what I have to do in order to be a woman
• 38:06
  because I can't have chip nails and look disgusted.
• 38:09
  So that's my hot take about nails.
• 38:10
  I hate getting my nails done. OK, next Canadian tuxedo.
• 38:14
  And for those of you who don't know, because Cameron was like,
• 38:16
  what is that Jamie? Maybe because my family is
• 38:18
  Canadian, but that is the denim on denim look.
• 38:21
  Do you think that's hot or not? Yeah, I mean, I'm from Kentucky.
• 38:23
  I love the western look. I love seeing the Pinterest
• 38:26
  photos of like the girls in Aspen with the denim on denim
• 38:29
  look with the with the fur hats or like the cashmere scarves on.
• 38:33
  I don't know. I think it's cute.
• 38:34
  I also follow like a lot of the bull rider wives too and they
• 38:38
  always wear like a denim, denim on denim look and I'm like, I
• 38:40
  wish I could be as cool as you. I'm going to go hot.
• 38:42
  I'm going to go hot too. I love that for fall.
• 38:44
  I just love a denim on denim look.
• 38:46
  I like that it kind of embraces the very all American look.
• 38:49
  And I think there's like a lot of really cute little denim sets
• 38:52
  right now. And so I'm totally into that.
• 38:54
  OK, next one harder. Not playing hard to get from a
• 38:57
  guy. Do you like that?
• 38:59
  No, I think it's just because if you're playing games with me and
• 39:03
  maybe you're like being very calculated and how long it's
• 39:06
  taking you to respond or like, oh, there's so many guys in her
• 39:09
  DMS. I'm going to make sure that I
• 39:11
  stand out and and make her work for me.
• 39:14
  Whatever I'm so I lose interest so quickly with you, I will just
• 39:18
  move on to the next who's treating me like a Princess,
• 39:20
  who's making sure that I'm like well taken care of throughout
• 39:23
  the day. That's really going to make you
• 39:25
  stand out in my opinion. I don't like the heart to get.
• 39:28
  I'm just, I, I want to say I'm too old.
• 39:30
  I'm 25, but like I just don't, I don't enjoy it.
• 39:34
  I and I'm not built for a nonchalant man.
• 39:36
  Like I want you to court me and pursue me and like make me feel
• 39:39
  like I'm the most important thing in the world.
• 39:41
  Like the love bomb. Have you ever seen the love
• 39:42
  bombing videos where it's like, I do think I deserve a Chanel
• 39:45
  bag on the first date. So like, I would never think
• 39:48
  this is love bombing because I think so.
• 39:51
  I am myself. So I'm like, presume me, love me
• 39:56
  like I I love that. The love bonding is like, of
• 39:59
  course I'm being love bond. Have you met me before?
• 40:01
  Yeah, I'm like, I wouldn't fall for that because I'm like, I do
• 40:03
  think I deserve. OK, I'm going to go opposite.
• 40:06
  I think it's hot. Like honestly, I will say that
• 40:09
  captivated me with Drake because you know, like obviously when
• 40:13
  you're a young woman, you have like different men that are
• 40:14
  interested in you. And Drake like definitely played
• 40:17
  the hard to get game with me. And I was like, what is going on
• 40:20
  with this man? Why is he not into me?
• 40:22
  And it made me more and more into him.
• 40:24
  He was very smart with that and he got me in that way.
• 40:26
  So I, I kind of like a little game.
• 40:28
  I like a little chase. I think, I don't know, I think
• 40:30
  there's something hard about it. And so I'm into it.
• 40:32
  Okay girl, dinner, hot or not. Hot.
• 40:36
  I think girls can actually go without protein like men.
• 40:39
  When I'm cooking for my husband, he's like, why isn't there a
• 40:42
  protein? Like I always have to put like
• 40:44
  chicken on the pasta or like a steak sandwich on the set,
• 40:48
  whatever it may be. I think girls are actually just
• 40:50
  built to eat like a charcuterie board with their Netflix show.
• 40:53
  I'm just going to go hot. I love snacking throughout the
• 40:56
  day. I completely agree.
• 40:57
  It was so weird because, you know, now that I'm married and a
• 41:01
  mom, there is very few times in my life where I'm just like
• 41:03
  alone, which I like. But the other day I went down to
• 41:07
  this conference and I was speaking and I was alone without
• 41:09
  Vivian or Drake. And it was so weird to do dinner
• 41:12
  without them, to be honest. And for dinner I ordered chips
• 41:16
  and guac and pita and hummus. And I think that's like girl
• 41:19
  dinner to its core. And I loved it because I agree
• 41:21
  for men, they want their protein, they want their steak,
• 41:23
  they want their chicken. And I just love like a little
• 41:25
  snack, like I'm a big snack girl.
• 41:27
  And so that filled me up and I was happy with that.
• 41:29
  So I'm definitely going with hot on that one.
• 41:31
  OK, you guys now heading in to our last segment of the Today
• 41:35
  propaganda that we are not falling for.
• 41:40
  So Cameron today, what propaganda are you not falling
• 41:43
  for? I feel like I'm going to make a
• 41:47
  lot of our our sincerely sisters mad with this one, but go for
• 41:51
  it. This is a hot take of mine.
• 41:53
  I am not falling for the girl math trend and Jamie and I are
• 41:57
  going to probably disagree with this one.
• 41:59
  I have such a hot take with this.
• 42:00
  I think this trend is just coming from like such a
• 42:04
  privileged mindset of like never having to be financially
• 42:07
  literate or responsible. I saw this TikTok and it was
• 42:11
  like, Oh, I I paid in cash for it.
• 42:13
  So you know, that doesn't count girl math like, Oh, I actually
• 42:16
  still have that money. It's like, no, that to me.
• 42:18
  Just you shouldn't post that. That shows to me that you're
• 42:21
  kind of stupid. In my opinion.
• 42:23
  I think it just goes along with the I'm just a girl trend too.
• 42:26
  And I find some of that cute too.
• 42:28
  But also on the flip side of that, it's like you're a 33 year
• 42:30
  old woman and you need to grow up.
• 42:32
  If we're going to be demanding men grow up and not being in
• 42:34
  this Peter Pan syndrome in today's day and age, then we
• 42:37
  also have to have self reflect as women and actually become the
• 42:40
  women that we want to be and not just like this girl.
• 42:42
  Like I wish I could live in this delusion honestly, but I'm just
• 42:45
  not built that way. Like I am somebody who will like
• 42:49
  research things for hours and hours on end to like educate
• 42:52
  myself. And so, like I say, I wanted to
• 42:54
  live in this delusion, but I probably couldn't.
• 42:56
  You're the most independent person I know, Cameron, and
• 42:59
  that's like a a huge compliment. I am definitely a girl Mathur.
• 43:02
  I will not lie. I finance is not my skill set.
• 43:05
  It really is not. But I will say this Cam I rather
• 43:08
  a girl be doing girl math than girl bossing, because I really
• 43:11
  think that that is the beauty of a man and a woman coming
• 43:13
  together in marriage. I don't think a lot of women
• 43:16
  like want to be in charge of the finances.
• 43:18
  I think they want to be taken care of financially.
• 43:20
  So I think the girl math trend kind of actually is exposing
• 43:23
  these like girl boss girls that still just kind of don't want to
• 43:26
  be like dealing with this hardcore finance stuff.
• 43:28
  Like I know a lot, lot of marriages are like this, where
• 43:31
  the man, you know, typically takes care of the finances and
• 43:33
  the woman takes care of a lot of stuff around the house.
• 43:35
  Just like men don't want to be doing laundry and cooking
• 43:38
  usually. That's typically not every
• 43:40
  marriage. And a lot of women are like, no,
• 43:42
  I don't want to be going through and doing my taxes.
• 43:44
  Like that's, that's a blue job and the the pink job is doing
• 43:47
  the cooking and the cleaning. And so I think that kind of
• 43:49
  shows that these traditional gender.
• 43:51
  Roles. I do think that men and women
• 43:53
  obviously are built for each other in a lot of ways.
• 43:56
  And I do see more in a traditional relationship like
• 43:59
  the man being the dominant, like provider in the home.
• 44:02
  But that's not to say that you can't be financially literate
• 44:05
  and actually multiply that and making sure that your finances
• 44:09
  are well in check within your home.
• 44:11
  You know, putting that into a Roth IRA into educational funds
• 44:14
  for your children one day and just being just being smart
• 44:18
  about it. I'm not saying that you have to
• 44:19
  be like a girl boss in this area, but I do think that it
• 44:23
  just helps you be the best version of yourself for like
• 44:26
  your future kids one day, making sure that they're well provided
• 44:29
  for, whether that's putting your money in like educational funds
• 44:32
  for them one day, Roth Iras, retirement accounts so you and
• 44:35
  your husband can have fun or taking what he has brought into
• 44:39
  your home and, and multiplying that and really being
• 44:41
  financially literate enough to understand that.
• 44:43
  So I don't say that you have to girl boss and you have to like
• 44:46
  compete with your husband, but I do think it's good to be
• 44:49
  financially literate and be more financially responsible in that
• 44:52
  regard. I think your advice is better
• 44:53
  than mine so I'm I'm going to leave it there.
• 44:55
  I actually agree with you. OK completely switching like
• 44:59
  topics. My propaganda that I'm not
• 45:02
  falling for is publicly talking about your sex life.
• 45:05
  I cannot tell you the amount of times I'm scrolling on TikTok
• 45:08
  and we get these get ready with me story time where a girl is
• 45:11
  talking about her hookup experience and I'm like this is
• 45:15
  just disgusting. Do you not have dignity or
• 45:17
  shame? Like truly bring back shame.
• 45:19
  I don't think your sex life is ever something that you should
• 45:22
  bring to the Internet and discuss.
• 45:24
  Like people will talk about like their one night stands where
• 45:26
  things went wrong and go into like, very graphic detail about
• 45:29
  it. And I just think this is a
• 45:31
  terrible trend for society. It's like you should keep some
• 45:34
  stuff private. And I also think this is always
• 45:36
  girls doing this. Imagine if a man had a hookup
• 45:38
  experience with you and then went to the Internet to say in
• 45:41
  graphic detail about where things went wrong.
• 45:44
  I think it's a complete invasion of privacy.
• 45:46
  And I'm like, do these women have, I don't know, father
• 45:50
  boyfriends or employers watching this, like this is disgusting
• 45:54
  that women are putting it out. And just my sex life would never
• 45:58
  be something I would publicly bring to the Internet.
• 45:59
  I think it's like so unattractive as a woman to do
• 46:01
  that. Yeah, a digital footprint is
• 46:04
  really, you guys, like that's going to be around forever, even
• 46:07
  when you delete the video. And so Jamie brought up a really
• 46:11
  good point. Like if you're wanting to
• 46:13
  attract a high value man, a high value man's not going to want to
• 46:16
  be with somebody who's dishing out their sex life on social,
• 46:19
  social media for a click and a like from an Indian bot.
• 46:23
  Like, I'm sorry. And also, yeah, are you working
• 46:26
  for someone? Do you have an employer?
• 46:28
  That's a really poor representation on not only your
• 46:30
  family, but your job, your future spouse.
• 46:33
  You should be conducting yourself in a way where you have
• 46:37
  some self respect and you have some dignity.
• 46:39
  I find this very low class very tacky as well.
• 46:43
  Yeah, I completely agree. It's like you're doing this for
• 46:45
  a like, this is like the Kardashian vacation of society
• 46:48
  where it's like you're just willing to go to any extreme to
• 46:51
  get attention and to get some likes and clicks.
• 46:53
  And I don't think it's a positive trend for society.
• 46:55
  Keep some stuff private, people. It's called intimacy for a
• 46:59
  reason. It's supposed to be between you
• 47:02
  2. Yeah, and that's not to say you
• 47:04
  can't, like, share if you're like, girlfriends at brunch here
• 47:06
  and there, like a funny story or whatever that that's different
• 47:09
  than like taking the TikTok and putting it out to millions of
• 47:12
  people about, like, your one night stand.
• 47:15
  Oh like OK. Anyway Cameron, what is the
• 47:19
  propaganda that you are falling for this week?
• 47:21
  I am falling since my frontal lobe has developed.
• 47:24
  I follow for the phrase or the saying you are single until
• 47:28
  you're married. And I think we touched a bit on
• 47:30
  this at the beginning of the episode where we were talking
• 47:34
  about doing wifey things on a girlfriend's salary.
• 47:37
  But if there is not a ring on your finger, if you have not
• 47:41
  said vows to this person, that man is not your husband and you
• 47:44
  are single. And I think a lot of people
• 47:46
  would say don't be a bad girlfriend.
• 47:47
  I'm not advocating for like hookup culture where you're
• 47:50
  having sex with multiple people on these casual hookups on a
• 47:53
  daily basis, but don't put all of your eggs in one basket.
• 47:57
  I'm going to be the big sister when I tell you this because I
• 47:59
  have been through this. They will waste your your time
• 48:01
  if you're not incentivizing them through making them chase you to
• 48:06
  lock it down, then it's just going to be easy for them.
• 48:09
  And why would they go the extra mile of putting a ring on your
• 48:12
  finger if you're already doing his laundry, being the
• 48:15
  girlfriend who makes the home and he's coming home to a
• 48:19
  peaceful environment and he gets to come home to you every night
• 48:22
  and have your effort, have your time, have your attention, like
• 48:24
  I was saying. And it's just not sustainable
• 48:28
  long term because he's going to get comfortable with you.
• 48:31
  You're not giving him any incentive to lock it down.
• 48:35
  And so I do think that you're single.
• 48:36
  I do think you should pursue other options.
• 48:39
  Go on date, have people court you because somebody will in
• 48:42
  turn be serious about you and you will be their dream girl and
• 48:46
  they will want to lock it down. I told my husband I will be your
• 48:49
  wife but I will not be your girlfriend.
• 48:51
  That is what I said to him and he locked it down immediately
• 48:53
  and we got married and that was the best decision in my life
• 48:56
  that I ever made. But there was a time before that
• 48:58
  where people would waste my time.
• 49:00
  But then I had to self reflect and I was like, am I even
• 49:03
  giving? Am I actually enabling this
• 49:06
  complacency? And so I do think you are single
• 49:10
  until you are married. When you are married, you have
• 49:13
  different responsibilities as a wife and as a partner.
• 49:17
  You have to put that person first.
• 49:19
  You have to put your future family 1st and and make those
• 49:22
  sacrifices when you're single. You don't.
• 49:25
  That person is not your husband. Stop treating him like your
• 49:29
  husband. I completely agree.
• 49:30
  And by the way, this is actually a very traditional take because
• 49:33
  people used to go through recording phase, get engaged and
• 49:36
  get married much quicker than we do nowadays.
• 49:39
  And I agree, people are putting way too much emphasis on a
• 49:41
  girlfriend, boyfriend role. And this is how I always explain
• 49:44
  it. And I think this is actually, if
• 49:45
  you go back, this is a very traditional mindset when you're
• 49:48
  dating. I don't think you should cheat
• 49:50
  on on your boyfriend at all. I'm not saying that, but the
• 49:54
  door is, it's open where if you end up meeting someone that you
• 49:56
  like more, you have every right to be able to move to that
• 49:59
  person. You do not have that commitment
• 50:01
  with that person. And so I say that the door
• 50:04
  becomes completely closed once you get a ring on your finger
• 50:08
  and once you're proposed to and you're engaged, that's when the
• 50:11
  door is closed and you never think of another person again.
• 50:13
  And you have that covenant under marriage.
• 50:15
  That is actually the traditional way.
• 50:16
  And like I said earlier, it's almost a reverse where people
• 50:19
  treat a girlfriend, boyfriend relationship like they're
• 50:21
  married, date for five years and then people get married and
• 50:23
  throw that away in one minute when and things at heart of
• 50:25
  divorce, I have the complete opposite approach.
• 50:27
  So I complete that is propaganda that I am falling.
• 50:29
  For yeah, when you're filling out anything at the doctor's
• 50:32
  office or your taxes or any online form.
• 50:35
  And if you're not married, you're checking single.
• 50:37
  That's true. And also, Jamie would say, I'm
• 50:40
  not advocating for you to be a bad girlfriend.
• 50:43
  I kind of am in a sense. I know that's a hot take.
• 50:46
  I'm not saying like go out there and participate in hookup
• 50:49
  culture. We are obviously advocates
• 50:51
  against that. Do not put your eggs in one
• 50:53
  basket, though. Like let people like let these
• 50:56
  men, if that man is not going to lock you down and see you as
• 51:00
  like such a serious component of his future family and wants you
• 51:03
  to be the mother of his children, wants to carry you
• 51:06
  through hardship and through like the best moments of your
• 51:09
  life and experience that together.
• 51:11
  And he just wants to sit around and like, not pursue you with
• 51:14
  urgency. That man is just not your
• 51:17
  husband in my opinion. You have every single right to
• 51:19
  be courted by a man who wants to love you in the way that you
• 51:23
  deserve. Amen.
• 51:25
  OK, totally different vein of thought.
• 51:27
  The propaganda that I am falling for this week is tracking
• 51:31
  flights. Karen and I have so many funny
• 51:33
  stories. Literally both Cameron and I,
• 51:36
  just for reference, we have like extreme flight anxiety even
• 51:38
  though we fly like sometimes multiple times a week.
• 51:41
  Like I've been on a million flights in my life.
• 51:42
  Whenever there's turbulence, I am freaking out.
• 51:44
  So I am tracking my flight, my love language.
• 51:47
  Cameron tracks my flight every time I get on a flight and vice
• 51:49
  versa. My love language is people who
• 51:51
  track my flights to make sure I'm OK to check the flight
• 51:54
  report. Something that I love about my
• 51:56
  father is that he is always, my entire life.
• 51:59
  He is that type of dad that will be tracking my flight.
• 52:01
  I'll be like flying over and he goes, just so you know, you're
• 52:04
  flying over the Grand Canyon, right?
• 52:05
  Right now, look outside like he's like that type of dad.
• 52:07
  And I'm like, and then he's the type of dad that like gets to
• 52:09
  the airport and is like waiting for me for hours and make sure
• 52:12
  and gets my bag and everything. And I just love that my dad is
• 52:15
  like that my entire life. It's just like really sweet.
• 52:17
  And I'm also that type of person too, where people will be like
• 52:20
  watching movies on the flight. And there I am like zooming in
• 52:23
  on the map, tracking every single thing.
• 52:25
  Like I, I feel like I'm flying the plane.
• 52:28
  Sometimes you guys like I am out watching, making sure we're OK
• 52:31
  when we're on the flight. And yes, I know that air travel
• 52:34
  is the same safest form of travel in the entire world, but
• 52:37
  I am still. I just hate being up in the air
• 52:39
  like that. I have my window shade open.
• 52:41
  I am looking around. I'm making sure that no planes
• 52:43
  are close by. That is me.
• 52:45
  I am a flight tracker till I die.
• 52:47
  I was texting Jamie last night. I had a flight coming in and it
• 52:52
  was very, very turbulent. Jamie immediately is like start
• 52:56
  recording out the window. She sends me the weather report.
• 52:59
  Then we were actually laughing about this topic because last
• 53:02
  night I actually text searched how many.
• 53:05
  We sent turbulence in all caps to each other.
• 53:08
  And that's when we know to immediately be like, what's your
• 53:10
  flight number? What's your time of arrival?
• 53:13
  Where are you? What are you experiencing?
• 53:14
  Because I looked at the window last night, you guys, and the
• 53:17
  freaking wing was bent at 90°. I thought that Jamie was going
• 53:22
  to be the last person I was ever texting because there was so
• 53:24
  much turbulence. It was like flapping in the
• 53:26
  wind. So honestly, that is our love
• 53:28
  language. We have like such bad flight
• 53:30
  anxiety is not rational. We obviously know that.
• 53:33
  But there are so many times we have texted each other and it's
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  like turbulence. Turbulence, severe weather
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  report. Text up, just put like our last
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  few texts up, Brianna. But like, honestly, that is what
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  we text each other. We get each other through the
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  flight anxiety. That is our friendship to a core
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  and that is my love language. I love tracking a flight.
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  Like honestly, I think that's amazing.
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