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DLHS Hour 2 | Would You Marry Someone Unemployed · The D.L. Hughley Show

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  Speaker 1: So could you marry somebody who was unemployed, was not
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  Speaker 1: employed if they Okay, what if Jasmine? What if they
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  Speaker 1: were unemployed right now? They just got laid off, You
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  Speaker 1: get married, you were planning to get married, they got
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  Speaker 1: laid off, They got a good seven package, and they
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  Speaker 1: want to take some time before they start working again.
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  Speaker 1: Would you marry somebody? I would have to really just happened.
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  Speaker 1: Weddings just started and he just got laid off. They
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  Speaker 1: has a great job and it's going to take some
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  Speaker 1: time to see regroup and see if he wants to
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  Speaker 1: do it. Would you marry somebody?
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  Speaker 2: I mean, in that case, I might consider it or
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  Speaker 2: n Well, here's my thing. How you start is how
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  Speaker 2: you finish. So if if, if the guy that I'm
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  Speaker 2: dating is in school and he has all these you know,
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  Speaker 2: aspirations to be this, that and the other, there's no
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  Speaker 2: reason for us to rush into a wedding situation. Let's
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  Speaker 2: wait and see what it's going to be. Because the
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  Speaker 2: other thing is I'm not going to be in a
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  Speaker 2: relationship where I'm paying all the bills. I'm just not
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  Speaker 2: going to do it. I will go fifty to fifty
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  Speaker 2: with you. We will split it down the middle, We'll
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  Speaker 2: do whatever.
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  Speaker 1: If I'm just center fac he's just not working now,
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  Speaker 1: you already the marriage is already planned. He's just you know,
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  Speaker 1: taking some time off to decide what he wanted to do.
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  Speaker 1: I know, I've known any number of people that since
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  Speaker 1: win the since the pandemic, you know, they just decided
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  Speaker 1: to do something they wanted to do and find out
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  Speaker 1: search the souls and find out what they were going
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  Speaker 1: to do, and just got some money saved up and
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  Speaker 1: just want to travel and get their head right.
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  Speaker 2: Well, I mean, I think that that's a big gamble
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  Speaker 2: to me. And I'm not mad at anybody who does it,
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  Speaker 2: but I just, I mean, I don't know. It would
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  Speaker 2: depend on what my job situation was. And you know
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  Speaker 2: how much I loved him. I guess if I was
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  Speaker 2: going to marry him and then all of a sudden
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  Speaker 2: he got laid off, I don't know, that would be
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  Speaker 2: a tough one for me. I'm not gonna lie. I
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  Speaker 2: would be like, man, maybe we should wait a minute.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe that's a sign.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe the wedding decorations got to be forms. Apparently we
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  Speaker 1: need to.
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  Speaker 2: Slow down, and maybe we consider that a.
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  Speaker 1: Big executive over at Twitter and that's eon, and he
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  Speaker 1: blew everybody out. Get out. I mean, but all the right,
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  Speaker 1: we're gonna be, We're gonna be, We're gonna be getting
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  Speaker 1: to your the question we're asking. Seventy five percent of
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  Speaker 1: women say they were not marry a man who was
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  Speaker 1: or anybody. I guess, now you can marry anybody, obviously,
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  Speaker 1: but who was unemployed. I think that I would. I
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  Speaker 1: think a lot of dudes I know have done that. Yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: married mary chicks that were not married. They weren't working.
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  Speaker 1: When that weren't working, there weren't Yeah, they weren't working.
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  Speaker 1: It's imperative. Did you marry a woman that's not married? Yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: that is no what not?
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  Speaker 3: No, I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: But well, outside of the morment crowd, then I know
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  Speaker 1: a lot of men who married women who weren't working.
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  Speaker 1: And I know Sherry Shepherd and Mary J. Blige and
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  Speaker 1: they did it too.
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  Speaker 4: Well.
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  Speaker 2: Now, Mary J. Blige's husband had a job, he did,
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  Speaker 2: he did, he did, he had a job.
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  Speaker 1: Well, and who else, Jill Scott? You know, people married people.
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  Speaker 1: But I think for a lot of men, I know
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  Speaker 1: that the predicate wasn't that they be working. For a
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  Speaker 1: lot of women seventy five percent of them, apparently because
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  Speaker 1: they're more selfish than men are in gym.
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  Speaker 2: That's not true.
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  Speaker 1: I think.
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  Speaker 2: I'm telling you. I think I think it goes to tradition.
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  Speaker 2: I think most men, you know, whether it's as they're
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  Speaker 2: coming up in college or post college, you know, a
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  Speaker 2: lot of them think I'm going to take care of
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  Speaker 2: a woman. I want to marry a woman. I want
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  Speaker 2: to take care of her. I want to provide for her,
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  Speaker 2: so if she doesn't have a job, you don't necessarily
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  Speaker 2: think that much about it. I don't know a woman
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  Speaker 2: who says I want to take care of a man.
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  Speaker 1: I just named three of them. What are you talking about.
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  Speaker 3: I don't think.
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  Speaker 5: I don't.
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  Speaker 2: I don't think they wanted to. I think that's just
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  Speaker 2: how it ended up.
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  Speaker 1: I don't think I want to take care of people either,
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  Speaker 1: just the way it happens. It's not true.
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  Speaker 6: That's not true.
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  Speaker 1: No, I don't want to take no, no, I don't.
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  Speaker 1: I know what I want to do, and I don't
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  Speaker 1: want to do it. It is my duty and my
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  Speaker 1: responsibility to take out of these lazy ass people who
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  Speaker 1: won't try. That's my duty and respond. Do you know
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  Speaker 1: what I mean, right, right, which And there's a reason
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  Speaker 1: men die seven years before women do. There's a reason
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  Speaker 1: that happens. But I will say this is it is
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  Speaker 1: sad that men are not so concentrating on a woman's
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  Speaker 1: financial status and they care more about others things that
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  Speaker 1: are than women who care about these self official things
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  Speaker 1: like isy working and does it.
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  Speaker 6: That's not superficial.
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  Speaker 1: I know, I was, I was kidding. Well, I think
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  Speaker 1: has a different caveat to it too. I would assume
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  Speaker 1: that even if the guy had a job and it
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  Speaker 1: was a low paying job, Jasmin got so many caveats.
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  Speaker 1: I don't even know what.
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  Speaker 7: Situation.
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  Speaker 6: No.
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  Speaker 2: My thing is, I have a choice like everybody else,
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  Speaker 2: and my choice is if I work, you can I
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  Speaker 2: work hard, you can work hard. I don't want to
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  Speaker 2: be in a position where I am footing the bill
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  Speaker 2: for everything. And we've already had this conversation. When women
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  Speaker 2: are in that position, we will end up, you know,
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  Speaker 2: feeling a certain way about you.
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  Speaker 1: I think it's fairly safe to say that God loves
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  Speaker 1: us more. The question we're asking women, seventy five percent
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  Speaker 1: of them in this room, ninety nine percent of the
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  Speaker 1: women said it was seventy one you got to leave
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  Speaker 1: a little room, throw it. Nothing's one hundred percent. Do
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  Speaker 1: you would you marry someone who was not employed?
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  Speaker 6: Uh?
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  Speaker 1: Seventy five percent of women say yes. Do you think?
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  Speaker 1: Do you agree? Eight seven seven two four two six.
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  Speaker 1: We're opening the phone lines up. What do you think?
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  Speaker 8: I most certainly would marry someone as long as they
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  Speaker 8: have a fourth income, they don't have to work.
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  Speaker 9: I'm retired.
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  Speaker 7: A man should if the intentions are third to praise
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  Speaker 7: her for you know, if she's unemployed, but he has
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  Speaker 7: to know her, her goals and if you said, as
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  Speaker 7: far as patients, to get her situated to where she
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  Speaker 7: can be more productive in the in the marriage. I'm
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  Speaker 7: all for it because I've done it twice and both
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  Speaker 7: were the same. Both were unemployed, and but I ended
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  Speaker 7: up in divorced for both.
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  Speaker 1: But they both all prosper.
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  Speaker 7: And now and they're living very well lives. So if
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  Speaker 7: you have the patience and just the intentions of pursuing
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  Speaker 7: it further, I mean, go for it. I mean love
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  Speaker 7: is love, you know, is not the money on it.
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  Speaker 7: There's no price on marriage. It's just if you got
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  Speaker 7: it to afford it and do it.
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  Speaker 3: So the question is when a marriage someone unemployed. There
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  Speaker 3: are two level There are levels of unemployed, and the
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  Speaker 3: two right off the bat that I find acceptable.
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  Speaker 8: Are retired or heir to a mega fortune. So we
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  Speaker 8: can both island hop and country. But yeah, retired and
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  Speaker 8: and heir to a mega fortune, and we got some
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  Speaker 8: we got something to work with.
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  Speaker 1: I can't afford to marry anybody who's unemployed. I'm a
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  Speaker 1: professional educator. I can baib and take care of myself.
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  Speaker 1: So no, I would not marry anybody who's unemployed.
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  Speaker 5: I would marry someone who's unemployed because I've been so
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  Speaker 5: successful in my career, and I would share the rest
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  Speaker 5: depending on how I'm treated.
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  Speaker 10: Uh nah, I ain't no way.
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  Speaker 11: I can marry a broke woman for one, a broke
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  Speaker 11: woman as an itch if we have nothing in commony.
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  Speaker 11: If you broke now, we can have sex. I can
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  Speaker 11: have sex with the broke woman. Yet, I might even
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  Speaker 11: leave something on a dresser.
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  Speaker 1: But as far as marrying one, no, no, no, no, no.
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  Speaker 11: We're not going to start off that way.
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  Speaker 1: That would never ever happen.
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  Speaker 7: Absolutely lies.
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  Speaker 10: I mean everything is expensive. Everything is expensive. Now. If
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  Speaker 10: it was my man and we've been together for some
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  Speaker 10: years and something that's happened, then that's something that I
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  Speaker 10: could consider.
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  Speaker 11: You know, you don't turn.
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  Speaker 10: Get back on your man or your woman that you've
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  Speaker 10: been with and building with. I don't care if you've
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  Speaker 10: got married yet or not. But just dating a guy
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  Speaker 10: and he's just like, yeah, I hang out all day
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  Speaker 10: at home, even if he's able to support himself. I
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  Speaker 10: just feel like a man and a woman needs to
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  Speaker 10: be doing something every day other than not working.
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  Speaker 1: The question we're asking seventy five percent of the woman
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  Speaker 1: when polled, said that they would not marry a man
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  Speaker 1: who was not employed. Do you agree that's the question
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  Speaker 1: that we're posing to you? What do you think?
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  Speaker 12: Yeah, No, I wouldn't before you get in a situation
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  Speaker 12: as such as marriage, I believe you shouldn't have a
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  Speaker 12: job to you know, make her feel like a queen
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  Speaker 12: or whatnot. And you know the emphasis support, I wouldn't
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  Speaker 12: be able to respect them.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I married a woman didn't have I married women
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  Speaker 1: that don't have no money, actuating the same thing. I
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  Speaker 1: have no money, right.
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  Speaker 7: I think that if.
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  Speaker 13: A person is between jobs, that's sort of a different story.
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  Speaker 13: You know, it's okay to marry them if they have
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  Speaker 13: something coming up but I don't think I would ever
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  Speaker 13: marry anybody that wasn't working. We wouldn't even be dating
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  Speaker 13: because I'm not going to put in one hundred percent
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  Speaker 13: while they're wasting time and just therefore a piece of
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  Speaker 13: butter or something.
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  Speaker 9: Well, a lot of relationships. If people going in have
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  Speaker 9: cocked and don't know about relationships, and then they're sitting
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  Speaker 9: up and then they're making both of their lives messed up.
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  Speaker 9: They need to sit down and you need to get
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  Speaker 9: your orders in before you get in and mess people
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  Speaker 9: lives up. You know, a lot of people need to
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  Speaker 9: grow up before they go in.
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  Speaker 5: Something I did marry someone that didn't have a job.
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  Speaker 5: In fact, they didn't have a job the first ten
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  Speaker 5: years of our marriage, and I inadvertently help them get
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  Speaker 5: through school get their degree, and they properly left me
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  Speaker 5: and the kids.
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  Speaker 1: So would I do that again?
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  Speaker 10: No?
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  Speaker 5: No, do I coach my daughters. Yes, do not marry
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  Speaker 5: someone that's unemployed. If they're worth waiting for, wait for them.
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  Speaker 5: But I don't get a job, then do it.
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  Speaker 11: I absolutely cannot do it. I cannot marry a woman
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  Speaker 11: who doesn't have a job. I want to wife, not
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  Speaker 11: a daughter. I feel like I have to put you
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  Speaker 11: on my taxes and everything like that. No, that couldn't happen.
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  Speaker 11: She got to stand her own two feet. I stand
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  Speaker 11: on my own two feet. We put our money together,
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  Speaker 11: and we grow.
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  Speaker 10: Anybody that's over the age of thirty five years old
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  Speaker 10: and grown grown should not be marrying anyone that's.
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  Speaker 7: Unemployed, whether you'll be a man or female.
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  Speaker 10: There are too many resources out here in today's world
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  Speaker 10: that you could be using to do side hustles or
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  Speaker 10: get a job where's paying I don't know, fifty forty
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  Speaker 10: thousand a year until you get back on your feet,
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  Speaker 10: so that you'll be able to help your significant other,
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  Speaker 10: other partner that you with inding did marry, But I
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  Speaker 10: personally wouldn't be with Amanda that wasn't unemployed. But if
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  Speaker 10: he needed help, I would help him because that is
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  Speaker 10: what traditional women do. Maybe not for these new age
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  Speaker 10: girls out here or you know women out here, but
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  Speaker 10: I still feel that there are too many resources out
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  Speaker 10: here for anybody.
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  Speaker 5: To be unemployed in any given reason.
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  Speaker 9: In the United States, I feel like this is why
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  Speaker 9: a lot of a lot of women are single.
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  Speaker 13: Like Skip had said just a minute ago, there are
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  Speaker 13: men that.
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  Speaker 1: Are going to school to get their masters, get their
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  Speaker 1: pH d.
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  Speaker 7: I mean, if y'all have been dating and are in love,
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  Speaker 7: you wouldn't hold it.
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  Speaker 4: Down for a little bit until he got that master's
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  Speaker 4: or got that pH d and got that job.
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  Speaker 9: You wouldn't hold it down just just.
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  Speaker 1: For for a little bit, you know what I mean,
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  Speaker 1: Because things happen in life, so you never know what's
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  Speaker 1: gonna happen.
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  Speaker 12: But I mean hold it.
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  Speaker 7: Down until he until he does finish, and y'all take that,
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  Speaker 7: take the next step of your relationship.
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  Speaker 1: That boy trade here less know what life is like
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