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From Rock Bottom to Warrior Mindset – Overcome Any Obstacle and Thrive · Motivational Podcast

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  Speaker 1: They see me now as a guy that with his
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  Speaker 1: shirt off, who can do four thousand and thirty pull
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  Speaker 1: ups in seventeen hours, you can run two hundred and
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  Speaker 1: five miles and thirty nine hours, who can do all
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  Speaker 1: this crazy shit. But what they don't understand is they
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  Speaker 1: don't understand the journey that it took me to get
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  Speaker 1: to this point.
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  Speaker 2: My dad beat the shit on me. I was growing up.
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  Speaker 1: My dad on skating rinks, he owned bars, He ran
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  Speaker 1: prostitutes from Canada to Buffalo, New York. My dad was
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  Speaker 1: a big time, big time hustler. Anything bad about a person,
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  Speaker 1: He was that kind of guy. Beat the shot out
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  Speaker 1: of me, the shit, you know, out of my mom.
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  Speaker 1: There was an incident one time and my mom got
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  Speaker 1: knocked out on top of the stairs and he drugged
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  Speaker 1: me down the stairs by her hair.
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  Speaker 2: In my mind, I was always afraid. My whole life,
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  Speaker 2: I was afraid. But I had this.
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  Speaker 1: Voice, this conscience that would always be battling me and saying, hey,
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  Speaker 1: you got to get up and do something I.
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  Speaker 2: Didn't want to do.
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  Speaker 1: And I have a big time learning disability dad and
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  Speaker 1: believing us going to school. So when I went to school,
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  Speaker 1: my learning disability I had social anxiety. I was just
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  Speaker 1: a jack up kid from living in this tortured home.
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  Speaker 1: So all the insecurities I have, and I was a
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  Speaker 1: kid with my father. It just got worse and worse
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  Speaker 1: and worse, and the shit haunted me. And that voice
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  Speaker 1: that I talked about it kept talking louder and louder
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  Speaker 1: and louder, but I was doing nothing about it. From
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  Speaker 1: the age of nineteen to the age of twenty two,
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  Speaker 1: I gained one hundred and twenty five pounds. I went
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  Speaker 1: from one seventy five to almost three hundred. Two ninety
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  Speaker 1: seven was my heaviest, and I started finding things that
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  Speaker 1: was comfortable, and the more things I found comfortable, the
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  Speaker 1: more uncomfortable my mind was because that voice I was
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  Speaker 1: telling you about.
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  Speaker 2: It always was there. I was just trying to avoid
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  Speaker 2: that conscience.
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  Speaker 1: I wanted to be left alone from that conscience, and
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  Speaker 1: it wouldn't leave me alone. You got to start diving
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  Speaker 1: into those things that you were afraid of. You don't
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  Speaker 1: gain confidence by go into the spot that makes you
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  Speaker 1: feel good. It could be a false reality. In this
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  Speaker 1: second life gives you that challenge. All you want to
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  Speaker 1: do is go back to what makes you confidence. Or
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  Speaker 1: or what gave you confidence? Is that happy spot? No,
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  Speaker 1: what gives you confidence? What gave me confidence? What's spending
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  Speaker 1: years at a kitchen table trying to learn how to
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  Speaker 1: read and write all my own realizing I can't learn
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  Speaker 1: the way you learn. I can't, but I can learn.
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  Speaker 1: What gives you confidence? Not being afraid? It's overcoming the fear.
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  Speaker 2: I just stutter. It's severely bad. So right now, I
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  Speaker 2: don't know how many people are gonna watch this. You
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  Speaker 2: know it gives me confidence. I no longer care if
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  Speaker 2: I say it or start stuttering.
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  Speaker 1: To you, that's what gives me confidence is facing these things,
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  Speaker 1: overcoming them and maybe not overcoming them every day, but
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  Speaker 1: facing them and facing them and facing them pretty soon
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  Speaker 1: like this.
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  Speaker 2: You know what, man, this is Word's that.
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  Speaker 1: It's not that comfort zone. It's in the discomfort zone.
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  Speaker 1: Is where my confidence is getting built. That's where it's
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  Speaker 1: getting built. But people want to they want to easier answer.
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  Speaker 1: There has to be an easier way.
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  Speaker 2: It's not. I'm sorry. I searched for it my entire life.
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  Speaker 1: I did, I lied, I did everything, and I still
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  Speaker 1: felt empty. I coach a lot of people nowadays, billionaires
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  Speaker 1: who called me on the phone and said, man, I'm.
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  Speaker 2: Still missing something.
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  Speaker 3: It's because they did what they were good at and
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  Speaker 3: they had this beautiful family, two three houses, cars, everything
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  Speaker 3: has everything to work on the outside.
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  Speaker 2: Look at it, like, my god, man, how can you
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  Speaker 2: be unhappy?
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  Speaker 1: I walk around with the backpack with all my stuff
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  Speaker 1: in it, had no car, and I walk around happiest
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  Speaker 1: personal world, have nothing happiest. Hell, it's because I found
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  Speaker 1: out the whole key to life. It's not in all
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  Speaker 1: that you have to face yourself. So many people live
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  Speaker 1: to be one hundred years old and they die miserable
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  Speaker 1: having everything because they never examined. I call it my
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  Speaker 1: live autopsy. You never examine this happiness, peace, enlighten it.
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  Speaker 1: It's all up here, man, It's all up here. And
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  Speaker 1: if I start talking like this, people are man.
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  Speaker 2: You know, I don't know. It's the truth, man, Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: it's all up here. He's gotta be willing to go
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  Speaker 2: and face it. And that's the hard part. Everything I
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  Speaker 2: do in life, it sucks.
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  Speaker 1: That's why when I was three hundred pounds and twenty
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  Speaker 1: four years old, it one like had some big epiphany
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  Speaker 1: of let's just go be a navy seal.
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  Speaker 2: Let's lose some weight.
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  Speaker 1: No, I knew my entire life was going to be
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  Speaker 1: a struggle, which is why I just ignored it that
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  Speaker 1: I said, I'm not even trying to jump off into
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  Speaker 1: this shit and learn how to read, how to write,
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  Speaker 1: how to how to become something I am not.
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  Speaker 2: But through that process something happened to me.
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  Speaker 1: And I realize this is why I feel sorry for
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  Speaker 1: no one in this podcast. They're going to really not
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  Speaker 1: like me because people are going to think that I
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  Speaker 1: am maybe lying or maybe fibbing or exaggerating.
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  Speaker 2: No, I am. Literally.
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  Speaker 1: I was the lowest form on earth, no talent, no
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  Speaker 1: ability to learn, and I literally know what it is
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  Speaker 1: to be rock bottom and to build that up.
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  Speaker 2: So that question about learning is the pain in my ass,
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  Speaker 2: and I don't have to do it. Think about it.
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  Speaker 2: I'm forty nine years old and am a multi millionaire.
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  Speaker 2: I don't have to do anything. So all I thought
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  Speaker 2: about when I was.
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  Speaker 1: Growing up is, man, I can't wait till one day
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  Speaker 1: get to the point where I no longer have to
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  Speaker 1: do this stuff.
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  Speaker 2: But what happened when I got older. It became a
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  Speaker 2: way of living.
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  Speaker 1: So how I do every day is how I do
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  Speaker 1: every day it's a it's a discipline, it's a regiment,
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  Speaker 1: it's a it's a it was a choice I made,
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  Speaker 1: And the choice I made was what are you willing
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  Speaker 1: to sacrifice and what are you willing to give up
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  Speaker 1: to find every bit of who you are as.
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  Speaker 2: A human being?
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  Speaker 1: And I was willing to give everything to do that.
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  Speaker 2: So studying is no joke.
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  Speaker 1: When you're driven, whatever's in front of you will get destroyed.
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  Speaker 2: So I sat in this chair and I was so
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  Speaker 2: driven to succeed in this race.
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  Speaker 1: And at this time, every goes were you thinking about
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  Speaker 1: the guys that died?
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  Speaker 2: And I'm not gnae to you. I wasn't. This became
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  Speaker 2: a personal thing.
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  Speaker 1: This became me against this race, me against the kids
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  Speaker 1: that called me nigga, me against me.
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  Speaker 2: It just became something that I.
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  Speaker 1: Took so violently personal. And I broke this thing down
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  Speaker 1: to the small pieces.
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  Speaker 2: I said, Okay, I gotta get nutrition.
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  Speaker 1: I gotta be able to stand up before I can
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  Speaker 1: get off this curve and get off this chair and
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  Speaker 1: be able to go thirty miles.
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  Speaker 2: So I went through all these small steps and I
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  Speaker 2: was able to.
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  Speaker 1: Stand up, and then from standing up, I was literally
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  Speaker 1: walking around with my wife at the time, and she goes,
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  Speaker 1: you're not gonna make the time. She goes, You're I mean,
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  Speaker 1: you're walking like thirty seven minute miles. I got to
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  Speaker 1: myrow eighty one and the second she said that I'm
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  Speaker 1: not gonna make the time, I ran the last nineteen
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  Speaker 1: miles NonStop. And I can show you right now when
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  Speaker 1: we get done with this matter of fact.
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  Speaker 2: I'm gonna show you right now.
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  Speaker 1: This was years ago, and I had to put compression
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  Speaker 1: tape on.
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  Speaker 2: My ankle and I had so this was years ago.
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  Speaker 1: I had literally the size of half dollars.
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  Speaker 2: I had to get compression tape and I taped.
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  Speaker 1: Up my ankles and I tacked up my feet, and
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  Speaker 1: that's how I got through that race.
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  Speaker 2: It was like a human to homine.
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  Speaker 1: No's what happened was like my shins hurt so bad
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  Speaker 1: from having stretch fractures that the only way I can
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  Speaker 1: continue on was I taped it. So I wasn't doing
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  Speaker 1: the flex your motion that that activates your your shins.
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  Speaker 1: So I taped my ankles and my shins up and
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  Speaker 1: I got that from because in my third hell week,
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  Speaker 1: they weren't let me go back through you know, training anymore.
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  Speaker 1: So I literally went through all the buds my last
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  Speaker 1: steal training with stretch fractions, shins, plins.
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  Speaker 2: And how I did it was I would take.
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  Speaker 1: My ankles all the way up to my calf every morning,
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  Speaker 1: so for the first hour the pain was excruciating, but
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  Speaker 1: what happened is my feet would go numb.
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  Speaker 2: I did that every single day.
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  Speaker 1: For six months. WHOA. That's how I got through my
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  Speaker 1: third hell we because I was so broken from the
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  Speaker 1: first two that the commander said, hey, the CEO's edition,
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  Speaker 1: last time I sending you through.
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  Speaker 2: So that's how I got the idea to do that.
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  Speaker 1: So with the right and people may listen to this
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  Speaker 1: and say this guy is sadistic, he's crazy, He's no.
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  Speaker 1: If you know how I came up, you realize I
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  Speaker 1: was just a scared kid that found drive and passion
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  Speaker 1: to be something much better than what he thought he was.
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  Speaker 2: And that's why I talk about the warrior mentality.
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  Speaker 1: And that's why so many people are lost when I
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  Speaker 1: start talking. You have.
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  Speaker 2: The right. You're lucky that you don't have to think
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  Speaker 2: like warriors think. You're very privileged.
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  Speaker 1: I chose this world to be a warrior, and I
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  Speaker 1: would choose it again if I came back to this world.
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  Speaker 1: But the mentality of a warrior is very different than
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  Speaker 1: normal mentality.
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  Speaker 2: You must be that person.
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  Speaker 1: On that door, get ready to open it, thinking to yourself,
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  Speaker 1: if I die.
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  Speaker 2: So be it.
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  Speaker 1: The only way you can go in that door is
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  Speaker 1: knowing there's a great chance you're gonna die. Like being
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  Speaker 1: a seal, you trained with live AMMO, you jump on
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  Speaker 1: an airplane, everything you do, you could die.
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  Speaker 2: So to be a warrior.
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  Speaker 1: Why people don't understand me, I'm glad you don't understand me.
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  Speaker 2: Merry Christmas.
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  Speaker 1: Good on you, because being a warrior takes a whole
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  Speaker 1: different mindset, a whole different mindset to know that there's
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  Speaker 1: a great chance I may not being in like I
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  Speaker 1: was in for twenty one years.
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  Speaker 2: I'm lucky.
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  Speaker 1: I'm very lucky that I'm alive, able to talk to you,
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  Speaker 1: able to still run. But when you sign up on
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  Speaker 1: a dial line to be a set like a seal,
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  Speaker 1: your mentality changes.
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  Speaker 2: I may not live. You accept that, and that's the
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  Speaker 2: mentality you have.
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  Speaker 1: There's tons of takeaways with that one man. It's about
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  Speaker 1: finding energy and strength when you have none, Like a
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  Speaker 1: lot of times in life, like that situation right there. Man,
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  Speaker 1: it's the worst time of your life. There's energy all
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  Speaker 1: around us that we think that we have to have.
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  Speaker 1: It has to come externally. A lot of times we
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  Speaker 1: had like a TV in front of us, watch somebody,
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  Speaker 1: listen to a podcast, listen to a great music. A
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  Speaker 1: lot of times in life is fucking quiet, and those
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  Speaker 1: are the times when you want you.
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  Speaker 2: Run and high. You gotta be able to find energy.
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  Speaker 1: You gotta make up games, make up tricks, make up
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  Speaker 1: whatever you can to get to the next evolution of life.
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  Speaker 1: So taking souls is just another way.
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  Speaker 2: It's not about hurting the person you're against.
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  Speaker 1: It's about finding a tactical advantage in every situation you
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  Speaker 1: fucking physically can to get to the next. You're trying
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  Speaker 1: to inch further to the goal line, and you don't
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  Speaker 1: want to know what it's that line, the goal lines,
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  Speaker 1: whatever it is for you. For me, I want to
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  Speaker 1: get through hell week that gonna get through help with
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  Speaker 1: with you know, with my head up high, being strong.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know what the goal line is for everybody.
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  Speaker 1: My goal has been very different from most people. But
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  Speaker 1: you're trying to find energy and strength to stay in
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  Speaker 1: the fight, to continue on until you get that second win.
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  Speaker 1: The second win is coming. Whatever the second wind may
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  Speaker 1: be for you, it's coming. But what happens is we
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  Speaker 1: get so stressed out that the end is so far
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  Speaker 1: away that we just can't find an another foothold, another
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  Speaker 1: hand hold, so we jump off the cliff and we
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  Speaker 1: just fall. There's another one. You got to find it.
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  Speaker 1: So taking soul is the one way to doing it.
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  Speaker 1: What do you think most people get wrong about motivation.
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  Speaker 2: They think it's a permanent fix. They think it's something
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  Speaker 2: that that is a constant.
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  Speaker 1: They think that maybe once I get it, I'm gonna
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  Speaker 1: hold on to it. And that's the thing about that
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  Speaker 1: I was telling you. I always talk about it's nothing
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  Speaker 1: is permanent. Nothing is permanent, and a lot of times
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  Speaker 1: you have to learn to perform without motivation. You have
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  Speaker 1: to learn to perform without purpose. You have to learn
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  Speaker 1: to perform a lot of different things. And that's what
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  Speaker 1: people think. They think, I need to have this motivation
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  Speaker 1: to work out.
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  Speaker 2: To study, to be better. So if they don't have it,
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  Speaker 2: they just don't fucking do it. And that's where you fail.
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  Speaker 1: You have to learn to train your mind and well
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  Speaker 1: beyond motivation. If you have motivation, that's great. That's some
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  Speaker 1: kindling to the fire. All it takes is a little
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  Speaker 1: bit of fucking spark. You can burn a whole forest up.
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  Speaker 1: But motivation you have to learn to exist without it.
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  Speaker 1: You have to learn to be You have to be
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  Speaker 1: your best self and your least motivated. And that's the
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  Speaker 1: tricky part about all that shit. Motivation is just a word.
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  Speaker 1: You have to have these different things in your mind
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  Speaker 1: on where you want to go and know that motivation
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  Speaker 1: is not.
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  Speaker 2: Gonna get me there because I'm not going to always
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  Speaker 2: be motivated. Chucko said the exact same thing.
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  Speaker 1: You said that discipline needs motivation for breakfast. And discipline's
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  Speaker 1: good too, But without a clear headspace, there's.
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  Speaker 2: No discipline what you mean.
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  Speaker 1: So let's say we have a circuit breaker, okay, and
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  Speaker 1: I'm loading everything up to one fucking circuit. Just load
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  Speaker 1: it up. It's gonna fucking blow. And once that thing blows, man,
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  Speaker 1: the circuits are fucked up. You gotta have each thing
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  Speaker 1: plugged into the right spot. Like a fucking crowded garage.
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  Speaker 1: You can't put anything in it once your brain is crowded.
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  Speaker 1: Discipline is great, Motivation is great, but if you can't
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  Speaker 1: fit shit in your brain because it's all fucking cluttered
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  Speaker 1: with shit.
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  Speaker 2: There's no discipline.
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  Speaker 1: You may have it sometimes when it fits in that
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  Speaker 1: crowded garage of your mind, but.
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  Speaker 2: You don't have the consistency that you need to have
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  Speaker 2: with that discipline.
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  Speaker 1: I came with a thing called perform without purpose, and
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  Speaker 1: so many people they need to have a five K,
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  Speaker 1: a ten K. I need to have a course in
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  Speaker 1: front of me. I need to have something in front
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  Speaker 1: of me for me get my fucking ass up and
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  Speaker 1: do some shit. And that used to be me and nowadays,
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  Speaker 1: you know shit for the past twenty some years. I
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  Speaker 1: don't need fucking purpose and people miss out on this. Man.
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  Speaker 1: The purpose we're all looking for, this golden purpose is
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  Speaker 1: that this is that that isn't making money?
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  Speaker 2: Is it my family? Motherfucker?
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  Speaker 1: The purpose is you. We forget that every fucking day.
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  Speaker 1: I wake up now, I don't want to do some
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  Speaker 1: fucking shit. I'm like, okay, man, do you want to
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  Speaker 1: be a bitch today? Do you want to feel like
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  Speaker 1: a little bitch? Do you want to walk around all
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  Speaker 1: day knowing that you could but you didn't. So it's
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  Speaker 1: performed without purpose. You have to learn how to get
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  Speaker 1: up and do shit when you ain't got no fucking
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  Speaker 1: five K, no ten K, nothing, nothing exists. Your life
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  Speaker 1: fucking sucks. You're in the fucking dungeon. But guess what, motherfucker,
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  Speaker 1: I'm still going to get it because when that time comes,
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  Speaker 1: because the time is gonna come, when that purpose is there,
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  Speaker 1: you'll be ready. But most of us fucking aren't ready
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  Speaker 1: because we don't know how to do without having the
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  Speaker 1: gold and carrot in front of us, And so you're
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  Speaker 1: all fucked