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32. Give Your Brain What it Needs · Burning Brightly

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  brightly.
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  Give
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  your
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  brain
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  what
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  it
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  needs.
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  This
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  is
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  burning
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  brightly,
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  a
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  podcast
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  for
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  Christian
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  moms
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  who
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  are
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  feeling
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  called
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  to
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  a
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  business
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  and
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  share
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  their
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  light
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  with
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  the
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  world.
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  I'm
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  Bonnie
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  Wiscombe,
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  a
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  life
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  coach,
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  mom,
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  and
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  entrepreneur.
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  And
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  I'm
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  honored
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  to
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  be
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  your
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  guide
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  as
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  you
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  face
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  this
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  business
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  building
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  adventure
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  full
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  of
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  highs,
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  lows,
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  and
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  everything
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  in
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  between.
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  This
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  is
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  where
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  we
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  help
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  each
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  other
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  find
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  the
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  courage
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  to
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  shine.
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  my
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  friends.
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  Welcome
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  back
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  to
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  burning
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  brightly.
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  Today.
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  We're
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  going
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  to
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  talk
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  about
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  what
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  our
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  brain
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  needs.
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  Hmm.
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  What
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  do
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  you
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  guys
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  think
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  it
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  needs
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  besides
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  probably
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  less
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  sugar
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  and
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  more
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  sleep?
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  Well,
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  brain
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  is
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  actually
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  a
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  super
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  efficient
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  machine
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  that
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  wants
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  two
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  things.
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  It
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  wants
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  us
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  to
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  be
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  happy
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  and
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  it
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  wants
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  to
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  do
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  it
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  with
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  minimal
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  effort,
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  lazy
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  and
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  happy
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  essentially.
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  Right.
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  do
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  we
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  know
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  this
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  is
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  true.
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  Well,
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  because
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  we
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  prefer
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  Netflix
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  over
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  reading
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  difficult
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  books.
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  We
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  prefer
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  chocolate
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  over
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  broccoli
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  or
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  Brussels
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  sprouts,
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  and
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  we
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  prefer
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  sleep
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  over
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  like
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  anything.
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  And
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  he
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  sort
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  of
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  hard
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  work,
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  right.
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  Maybe
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  lying
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  in
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  the
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  hammock
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  rather
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  than
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  making
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  dinner
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  or
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  scrubbing
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  the
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  floor.
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  Right.
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  We
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  prefer
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  things
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  that
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  are
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  easy
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  and
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  make
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  us
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  happy.
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  have
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  to
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  be
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  even
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  mad
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  about
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  this.
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  It's
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  just
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  survival.
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  It's
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  how
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  our
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  brain
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  has
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  learned
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  to
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  survive.
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  It
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  wants
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  to
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  minimal
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  effort
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  so
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  that
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  we
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  can
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  stay
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  alive
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  yet
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  another
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  day.
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  but
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  now
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  that
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  we
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  have
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  these
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  really
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  cushy
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  lives
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  where
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  we
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  don't
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  have
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  to
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  worry
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  so
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  much
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  about
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  our
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  day-to-day
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  survival,
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  our
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  brain
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  actually
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  sometimes
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  gets
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  in
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  the
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  way
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  of
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  us
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  building
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  incredible
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  lives
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  that
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  we
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  want
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  to
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  build
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  because
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  these
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  incredible
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  lives
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  require
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  some
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  hard
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  work
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  on
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  our
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  brains.
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  Like
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  wait,
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  but
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  I
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  don't
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  want
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  to
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  do
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  it.
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  I
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  don't
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  want
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  to
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  be
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  lazy.
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  I
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  want
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  to
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  be
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  happy.
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  Just
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  want
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  to
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  watch
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  Netflix
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  all
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  day.
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  have
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  to
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  acknowledge
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  and
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  accept
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  that
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  this
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  is
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  going
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  to
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  come
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  up
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  for
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  our
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  brain
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  and
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  not
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  think
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  that
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  we're
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  doing
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  anything
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  wrong.
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  Right.
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  We've
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  talked
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  about
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  this
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  before.
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  this
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  is
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  what
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  I've
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  noticed.
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  Amongst
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  my
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  clients
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  and
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  myself
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  as
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  well
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  is
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  when
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  we
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  start
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  doing
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  life
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  coaching
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  or
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  mindset
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  work,
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  thought
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  work.
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  We
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  often
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  jump
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  straight
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  to
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  changing
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  the
• 1:50
  thoughts
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  that
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  we
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  are
• 1:51
  thinking.
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  Right.
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  So
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  we
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  will
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  do
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  a
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  model
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  and
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  we
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  will
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  identify
• 1:55
  a
• 1:55
  thought
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  that
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  is
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  causing
• 1:55
  some
• 1:56
  problems
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  or
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  some
• 1:57
  results
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  that
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  we
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  don't
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  want.
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  And
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  we
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  want
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  to
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  just
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  swap
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  the
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  thought
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  out.
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  We
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  want
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  to
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  just
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  kick
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  it
• 2:01
  out
• 2:01
  and
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  replace
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  it
• 2:02
  with
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  something
• 2:02
  more
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  beneficial
• 2:03
  or
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  that
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  will
• 2:03
  give
• 2:04
  us
• 2:04
  a
• 2:04
  result
• 2:04
  that
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  we
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  really
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  love.
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  But
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  we
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  life
• 2:07
  coaches
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  are
• 2:07
  trained
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  to
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  slow
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  down
• 2:09
  and
• 2:10
  stop.
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  Thoughts
• 2:11
  swapping.
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  It's
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  not
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  a
• 2:13
  great
• 2:13
  idea
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  to
• 2:14
  just
• 2:14
  try
• 2:14
  to
• 2:14
  get
• 2:14
  rid
• 2:15
  of
• 2:15
  one
• 2:15
  thought
• 2:15
  and
• 2:15
  replace
• 2:16
  it
• 2:16
  with
• 2:16
  another
• 2:17
  Y.
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  Well,
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  because
• 2:18
  we
• 2:18
  actually
• 2:19
  think
• 2:19
  specific
• 2:20
  thoughts
• 2:20
  for
• 2:20
  a
• 2:20
  reason.
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  There
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  are
• 2:23
  a
• 2:23
  million
• 2:23
  different
• 2:24
  reasons
• 2:24
  why
• 2:24
  thoughts
• 2:25
  might
• 2:25
  be
• 2:25
  going
• 2:25
  through
• 2:25
  our
• 2:25
  brain,
• 2:25
  but
• 2:25
  it's
• 2:26
  very
• 2:26
  important
• 2:26
  that
• 2:26
  we
• 2:26
  figure
• 2:27
  out
• 2:27
  why,
• 2:28
  because
• 2:28
  otherwise
• 2:29
  similar
• 2:30
  thoughts,
• 2:30
  we'll
• 2:30
  just
• 2:30
  replace
• 2:30
  them.
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  When
• 2:31
  we
• 2:31
  kick
• 2:31
  out
• 2:32
  the
• 2:32
  ones
• 2:32
  we
• 2:32
  don't
• 2:32
  like,
• 2:32
  it's
• 2:33
  not
• 2:33
  a
• 2:33
  matter
• 2:33
  of
• 2:33
  just
• 2:33
  changing
• 2:34
  an
• 2:34
  outfit.
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  It's
• 2:35
  a
• 2:35
  matter
• 2:35
  of
• 2:35
  discovering
• 2:36
  why
• 2:36
  is
• 2:36
  our
• 2:36
  brain
• 2:37
  going
• 2:37
  there
• 2:37
  and
• 2:38
  and
• 2:38
  how
• 2:38
  is
• 2:38
  it
• 2:38
  benefiting
• 2:39
  us
• 2:39
  in
• 2:39
  some
• 2:40
  way
• 2:40
  or
• 2:40
  another?
• 2:41
  Now
• 2:41
  a
• 2:41
  few
• 2:41
  reasons
• 2:42
  that
• 2:42
  we
• 2:42
  might
• 2:42
  be
• 2:42
  holding
• 2:42
  onto
• 2:42
  a
• 2:42
  thought
• 2:43
  that
• 2:43
  doesn't
• 2:43
  really
• 2:43
  serve
• 2:43
  us
• 2:44
  is
• 2:44
  just
• 2:44
  an
• 2:44
  old
• 2:44
  habit.
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  We
• 2:45
  have
• 2:45
  thought
• 2:46
  patterns
• 2:46
  and
• 2:46
  loops
• 2:47
  that
• 2:47
  come
• 2:47
  back
• 2:47
  over
• 2:48
  and
• 2:48
  over
• 2:48
  and
• 2:48
  over
• 2:48
  again,
• 2:48
  we
• 2:49
  kind
• 2:49
  of
• 2:49
  get
• 2:49
  into
• 2:50
  these,
• 2:50
  these
• 2:50
  ruts.
• 2:51
  I
• 2:51
  love
• 2:52
  the
• 2:52
  author,
• 2:52
  John
• 2:52
  AECOM.
• 2:52
  He
• 2:53
  calls
• 2:53
  them
• 2:53
  soundtracks,
• 2:54
  right?
• 2:54
  They're
• 2:54
  just
• 2:54
  these
• 2:55
  soundtracks
• 2:55
  that
• 2:55
  play
• 2:55
  in
• 2:56
  our
• 2:56
  head
• 2:56
  over
• 2:56
  and
• 2:56
  over
• 2:56
  and
• 2:56
  over.
• 2:57
  If
• 2:57
  you've
• 2:57
  ever
• 2:57
  had
• 2:57
  a
• 2:57
  thought
• 2:58
  song
• 2:58
  stuck
• 2:58
  in
• 2:58
  your
• 2:58
  head,
• 2:58
  you
• 2:59
  know
• 2:59
  exactly
• 2:59
  how
• 2:59
  annoying
• 2:59
  this
• 3:00
  is,
• 3:00
  but
• 3:00
  that
• 3:00
  happens
• 3:01
  with
• 3:01
  problematic
• 3:01
  thoughts.
• 3:01
  Sometimes
• 3:02
  just
• 3:02
  habits.
• 3:03
  Sometimes
• 3:03
  it's
• 3:04
  laziness.
• 3:04
  We
• 3:04
  just
• 3:05
  allow
• 3:05
  whatever
• 3:05
  thought.
• 3:06
  Comes
• 3:06
  into
• 3:06
  our
• 3:06
  brain
• 3:06
  to
• 3:07
  stay
• 3:07
  there
• 3:07
  and
• 3:08
  take
• 3:08
  up.
• 3:09
  even
• 3:09
  though
• 3:09
  it's
• 3:09
  not
• 3:10
  giving
• 3:10
  us
• 3:10
  the
• 3:10
  results
• 3:10
  we
• 3:10
  want.
• 3:11
  Sometimes
• 3:12
  it's
• 3:12
  actually
• 3:12
  faulty
• 3:13
  facts.
• 3:13
  Sometimes
• 3:14
  our
• 3:14
  brain
• 3:14
  is
• 3:14
  not
• 3:15
  aware
• 3:15
  of
• 3:15
  all
• 3:16
  the
• 3:16
  facts.
• 3:16
  And
• 3:16
  so
• 3:16
  we
• 3:16
  start
• 3:17
  to
• 3:17
  think
• 3:17
  things
• 3:17
  that
• 3:17
  aren't
• 3:17
  really
• 3:18
  true
• 3:18
  or
• 3:18
  aren't
• 3:19
  serving
• 3:19
  us,
• 3:19
  but
• 3:20
  there
• 3:20
  is
• 3:20
  always
• 3:21
  a
• 3:21
  reason
• 3:21
  that
• 3:21
  your
• 3:21
  brain
• 3:22
  is
• 3:22
  thinking
• 3:23
  the
• 3:23
  thoughts
• 3:23
  it
• 3:23
  is.
• 3:24
  Now
• 3:25
  we
• 3:25
  can
• 3:25
  learn
• 3:26
  and
• 3:26
  benefit
• 3:27
  so
• 3:27
  much
• 3:27
  more
• 3:28
  by
• 3:28
  investigating
• 3:29
  the
• 3:29
  why
• 3:29
  behind
• 3:30
  these
• 3:30
  thoughts,
• 3:30
  rather
• 3:31
  than
• 3:31
  just
• 3:31
  dumping
• 3:32
  the
• 3:32
  quote-unquote
• 3:33
  unuseful
• 3:33
  thought
• 3:33
  and
• 3:34
  grabbing
• 3:34
  a
• 3:34
  new
• 3:34
  one.
• 3:34
  We
• 3:35
  have
• 3:35
  to
• 3:35
  figure
• 3:35
  out
• 3:35
  why
• 3:36
  our
• 3:36
  brain
• 3:36
  is
• 3:36
  going
• 3:36
  there.
• 3:37
  So
• 3:37
  let's
• 3:38
  talk
• 3:38
  about
• 3:38
  what
• 3:38
  this
• 3:38
  looks
• 3:38
  like
• 3:38
  in
• 3:39
  case
• 3:39
  you're
• 3:39
  a
• 3:39
  little
• 3:39
  bit
• 3:39
  confused.
• 3:40
  I
• 3:40
  recently
• 3:41
  coached
• 3:41
  someone
• 3:41
  who
• 3:41
  was
• 3:41
  struggling
• 3:42
  with
• 3:42
  a
• 3:42
  relationship.
• 3:44
  firmly
• 3:44
  believed
• 3:44
  that
• 3:44
  this
• 3:45
  person
• 3:45
  in
• 3:45
  her
• 3:45
  life
• 3:45
  did
• 3:45
  not
• 3:46
  value
• 3:46
  the
• 3:47
  relationship
• 3:47
  as
• 3:47
  much
• 3:48
  as
• 3:48
  she
• 3:48
  did.
• 3:49
  That
• 3:49
  was
• 3:49
  her
• 3:49
  main
• 3:49
  thought
• 3:50
  it
• 3:50
  was,
• 3:50
  I'm
• 3:50
  not
• 3:51
  as
• 3:51
  important
• 3:51
  to
• 3:51
  this
• 3:51
  person
• 3:52
  as
• 3:52
  she
• 3:53
  is
• 3:53
  to
• 3:53
  me.
• 3:54
  Okay.
• 3:54
  That
• 3:54
  would
• 3:54
  be
• 3:54
  a
• 3:54
  painful
• 3:55
  thought.
• 3:55
  Right?
• 3:55
  You
• 3:55
  could
• 3:55
  see
• 3:55
  how
• 3:55
  that
• 3:56
  would
• 3:56
  be
• 3:56
  painful.
• 3:57
  Her
• 3:57
  brain
• 3:58
  then
• 3:58
  became
• 3:59
  expert
• 3:59
  FBI
• 4:00
  investigator
• 4:01
  and
• 4:01
  came
• 4:01
  up
• 4:02
  with
• 4:02
  example
• 4:02
  after
• 4:03
  example,
• 4:03
  after
• 4:03
  example
• 4:04
  of
• 4:04
  how
• 4:05
  and
• 4:05
  why
• 4:05
  this
• 4:05
  thought
• 4:05
  was
• 4:06
  true.
• 4:06
  Literally
• 4:07
  everything
• 4:07
  this
• 4:07
  person
• 4:08
  did
• 4:08
  was
• 4:08
  somehow
• 4:09
  turned
• 4:09
  around
• 4:09
  in
• 4:09
  my
• 4:10
  client's
• 4:10
  brain
• 4:11
  to
• 4:11
  prove
• 4:11
  that
• 4:12
  that
• 4:12
  thought
• 4:12
  was
• 4:12
  true.
• 4:13
  It
• 4:13
  didn't
• 4:13
  matter
• 4:13
  what
• 4:14
  the,
• 4:14
  what
• 4:14
  the
• 4:14
  person
• 4:14
  did
• 4:15
  that
• 4:15
  person
• 4:15
  could
• 4:15
  have
• 4:15
  brought
• 4:16
  a
• 4:16
  four-course
• 4:16
  meal,
• 4:17
  drop
• 4:17
  it
• 4:17
  off
• 4:17
  at
• 4:17
  the
• 4:17
  door.
• 4:18
  And
• 4:18
  my
• 4:18
  friend
• 4:18
  would've
• 4:18
  thought,
• 4:19
  oh,
• 4:19
  It's
• 4:20
  not
• 4:20
  five
• 4:20
  courses.
• 4:21
  I
• 4:21
  know
• 4:21
  that
• 4:21
  sounds
• 4:21
  silly,
• 4:22
  but
• 4:22
  our
• 4:23
  brain
• 4:23
  really,
• 4:23
  really
• 4:24
  is
• 4:24
  so
• 4:24
  good
• 4:25
  at
• 4:25
  finding
• 4:26
  reasons
• 4:27
  to
• 4:27
  believe
• 4:27
  a
• 4:27
  specific
• 4:28
  thought
• 4:28
  that
• 4:28
  we've
• 4:28
  already
• 4:28
  latched
• 4:29
  on
• 4:29
  to.
• 4:29
  Okay.
• 4:30
  of
• 4:30
  course,
• 4:30
  my
• 4:30
  client's
• 4:30
  first
• 4:31
  thought
• 4:31
  was,
• 4:31
  how
• 4:31
  do
• 4:31
  I
• 4:31
  get
• 4:31
  rid
• 4:32
  of
• 4:32
  this?
• 4:32
  This
• 4:32
  is
• 4:32
  causing
• 4:33
  me
• 4:33
  pain.
• 4:33
  I
• 4:33
  want
• 4:33
  to
• 4:33
  get
• 4:34
  through
• 4:34
  this
• 4:34
  thought
• 4:34
  out
• 4:35
  of
• 4:35
  my
• 4:35
  head.
• 4:35
  I
• 4:35
  don't
• 4:35
  want
• 4:35
  to
• 4:35
  believe
• 4:36
  anymore.
• 4:37
  That
• 4:37
  I'm
• 4:37
  not
• 4:37
  as
• 4:37
  important
• 4:37
  to
• 4:37
  her
• 4:38
  as
• 4:38
  she
• 4:38
  is
• 4:38
  to
• 4:38
  me.
• 4:38
  I
• 4:38
  just
• 4:38
  want
• 4:38
  to
• 4:39
  get
• 4:39
  rid
• 4:39
  of
• 4:39
  it,
• 4:39
  but
• 4:40
  she
• 4:40
  couldn't
• 4:40
  let
• 4:40
  go
• 4:40
  of
• 4:40
  it.
• 4:41
  She
• 4:41
  said
• 4:41
  every
• 4:41
  time
• 4:41
  she
• 4:41
  tried
• 4:42
  to
• 4:42
  change
• 4:42
  that
• 4:42
  thought,
• 4:43
  believe
• 4:43
  something
• 4:43
  else.
• 4:44
  She
• 4:44
  couldn't
• 4:45
  EV
• 4:45
  all
• 4:45
  this
• 4:45
  proof
• 4:46
  just
• 4:46
  kept
• 4:46
  coming
• 4:46
  up.
• 4:46
  So
• 4:46
  we
• 4:47
  didn't
• 4:47
  try.
• 4:47
  We
• 4:47
  didn't
• 4:47
  try
• 4:47
  to
• 4:48
  change
• 4:48
  that
• 4:48
  thought.
• 4:48
  Instead,
• 4:48
  we
• 4:49
  just
• 4:49
  looked
• 4:49
  at
• 4:49
  the
• 4:49
  Y.
• 4:50
  Why
• 4:51
  was
• 4:51
  her
• 4:51
  brain
• 4:52
  so
• 4:52
  committed
• 4:53
  to
• 4:53
  holding
• 4:53
  onto
• 4:54
  this
• 4:54
  thought?
• 4:55
  Have
• 4:55
  you
• 4:56
  ever
• 4:56
  wondered
• 4:56
  that
• 4:56
  about
• 4:56
  one
• 4:56
  of
• 4:57
  your
• 4:57
  thoughts?
• 4:57
  If
• 4:57
  you
• 4:57
  ever
• 4:57
  thought,
• 4:57
  gosh,
• 4:58
  this
• 4:58
  keeps
• 4:58
  coming
• 4:59
  up
• 4:59
  and
• 4:59
  I
• 4:59
  know
• 4:59
  it's
• 4:59
  not
• 4:59
  true,
• 5:00
  right?
• 5:00
  we
• 5:00
  just
• 5:00
  say
• 5:01
  it
• 5:01
  out
• 5:01
  loud
• 5:01
  on
• 5:01
  a,
• 5:02
  maybe
• 5:02
  a
• 5:02
  coaching
• 5:02
  call
• 5:02
  or
• 5:02
  when
• 5:02
  we're
• 5:03
  doing
• 5:03
  our
• 5:03
  own
• 5:03
  journaling.
• 5:04
  And
• 5:04
  we
• 5:04
  think.
• 5:05
  That
• 5:05
  is
• 5:05
  foolishness.
• 5:06
  I
• 5:06
  don't
• 5:06
  believe
• 5:07
  that
• 5:07
  at
• 5:07
  all.
• 5:07
  I
• 5:07
  love
• 5:08
  doing
• 5:08
  thought
• 5:09
  downloads
• 5:09
  where
• 5:09
  we
• 5:09
  just
• 5:09
  sit
• 5:10
  down
• 5:10
  and
• 5:10
  write
• 5:10
  down
• 5:10
  all
• 5:10
  the
• 5:10
  thoughts
• 5:11
  we're
• 5:11
  thinking
• 5:11
  about
• 5:11
  a
• 5:11
  specific
• 5:12
  subject
• 5:12
  or
• 5:12
  person
• 5:12
  or
• 5:13
  something
• 5:13
  that
• 5:13
  we're
• 5:13
  struggling
• 5:13
  with.
• 5:14
  And
• 5:15
  I'll
• 5:15
  write
• 5:15
  down
• 5:15
  thoughts
• 5:15
  and
• 5:16
  immediately
• 5:16
  think
• 5:16
  that
• 5:17
  is
• 5:17
  nonsensical.
• 5:18
  Why
• 5:19
  has
• 5:19
  that
• 5:19
  thought
• 5:19
  in
• 5:19
  my
• 5:19
  head?
• 5:20
  I
• 5:20
  don't
• 5:20
  believe
• 5:20
  it.
• 5:21
  I
• 5:21
  don't
• 5:21
  want
• 5:21
  to
• 5:21
  believe
• 5:22
  it.
• 5:22
  Or
• 5:22
  sometimes
• 5:23
  you
• 5:23
  do
• 5:23
  believe
• 5:23
  the
• 5:23
  thought,
• 5:24
  but
• 5:24
  you
• 5:24
  know,
• 5:24
  it's
• 5:24
  not
• 5:24
  helping
• 5:25
  things
• 5:25
  is
• 5:25
  making
• 5:25
  it
• 5:26
  worse.
• 5:26
  why
• 5:27
  in
• 5:27
  the
• 5:27
  world
• 5:27
  would
• 5:27
  our
• 5:28
  minds
• 5:28
  want
• 5:28
  to
• 5:28
  think
• 5:29
  something
• 5:29
  that
• 5:29
  keeps
• 5:29
  us
• 5:30
  stuck
• 5:30
  or
• 5:30
  in
• 5:30
  actual
• 5:31
  pain
• 5:32
  or
• 5:32
  discomfort?
• 5:32
  You
• 5:32
  think
• 5:33
  that
• 5:33
  our
• 5:33
  brain
• 5:33
  would
• 5:33
  just
• 5:33
  be
• 5:34
  like,
• 5:34
  no,
• 5:34
  let's
• 5:34
  let
• 5:34
  go
• 5:34
  of
• 5:35
  it.
• 5:35
  And
• 5:35
  sometimes
• 5:36
  admittedly,
• 5:36
  it
• 5:36
  is
• 5:36
  that
• 5:37
  simple.
• 5:37
  We
• 5:37
  will.
• 5:38
  Be
• 5:38
  on
• 5:38
  a
• 5:38
  coaching
• 5:38
  call.
• 5:39
  The
• 5:39
  coach
• 5:40
  will
• 5:40
  say,
• 5:40
  have
• 5:40
  you
• 5:40
  realized
• 5:41
  that
• 5:41
  this
• 5:41
  is
• 5:41
  just
• 5:41
  a
• 5:41
  thought,
• 5:41
  this
• 5:42
  is
• 5:42
  not
• 5:42
  an
• 5:42
  actual
• 5:43
  fact
• 5:43
  and
• 5:43
  we'll
• 5:43
  go,
• 5:43
  oh,
• 5:44
  you're
• 5:44
  right.
• 5:44
  I
• 5:44
  could
• 5:44
  just
• 5:45
  let
• 5:45
  that
• 5:45
  go.
• 5:45
  But
• 5:45
  it's
• 5:46
  rarely
• 5:46
  that
• 5:46
  simple.
• 5:47
  Most
• 5:47
  of
• 5:47
  the
• 5:47
  time
• 5:48
  we
• 5:48
  have
• 5:48
  to
• 5:48
  figure
• 5:48
  out
• 5:48
  why
• 5:48
  we're
• 5:48
  holding
• 5:48
  onto
• 5:49
  it.
• 5:49
  So
• 5:49
  as
• 5:50
  this
• 5:50
  client
• 5:50
  and
• 5:50
  I
• 5:50
  chatted
• 5:50
  more,
• 5:51
  we
• 5:51
  discovered
• 5:51
  that
• 5:51
  her
• 5:51
  brain
• 5:52
  was
• 5:52
  using
• 5:53
  this
• 5:53
  thought.
• 5:54
  To
• 5:54
  close
• 5:54
  herself
• 5:55
  off
• 5:55
  and
• 5:55
  stop
• 5:56
  being
• 5:56
  vulnerable.
• 5:57
  This
• 5:58
  thought
• 5:58
  was
• 5:58
  helping
• 5:59
  to
• 5:59
  protect
• 5:59
  her.
• 6:01
  So
• 6:01
  let's
• 6:01
  take
• 6:02
  a
• 6:02
  closer
• 6:02
  look
• 6:02
  at
• 6:02
  this
• 6:02
  really
• 6:02
  quickly.
• 6:02
  This
• 6:03
  was
• 6:03
  the
• 6:03
  model
• 6:03
  that
• 6:03
  we
• 6:03
  came
• 6:03
  up
• 6:04
  with.
• 6:04
  Something
• 6:05
  happened
• 6:05
  in
• 6:05
  this
• 6:06
  relationship
• 6:06
  between
• 6:07
  my
• 6:07
  client
• 6:07
  and
• 6:07
  her
• 6:07
  friend.
• 6:08
  She
• 6:08
  had
• 6:09
  the
• 6:09
  thought
• 6:09
  she
• 6:09
  doesn't
• 6:10
  value
• 6:10
  the
• 6:10
  relationship
• 6:11
  as
• 6:11
  much
• 6:11
  as
• 6:11
  I
• 6:11
  do.
• 6:12
  She
• 6:12
  felt
• 6:13
  sadness.
• 6:14
  Her
• 6:15
  actions
• 6:15
  looked
• 6:15
  like.
• 6:16
  Behaving
• 6:17
  badly
• 6:17
  towards
• 6:17
  those
• 6:17
  around
• 6:18
  her.
• 6:18
  She
• 6:18
  closed
• 6:19
  herself
• 6:19
  off
• 6:19
  a
• 6:19
  little
• 6:19
  bit
• 6:19
  and
• 6:20
  pulled
• 6:20
  back.
• 6:21
  And
• 6:22
  maybe
• 6:22
  acted
• 6:22
  a
• 6:22
  little
• 6:23
  bit
• 6:23
  cold.
• 6:24
  And
• 6:24
  she
• 6:24
  even
• 6:24
  turned
• 6:24
  to
• 6:25
  a
• 6:25
  little
• 6:25
  bit
• 6:25
  of
• 6:25
  anger,
• 6:25
  right?
• 6:25
  Cause
• 6:26
  anger
• 6:26
  is
• 6:26
  kind
• 6:26
  of
• 6:26
  that
• 6:26
  protective
• 6:26
  protective
• 6:27
  mechanism.
• 6:27
  She
• 6:27
  was
• 6:28
  feeling
• 6:28
  sad
• 6:28
  and
• 6:28
  hurt.
• 6:29
  And
• 6:29
  so
• 6:29
  she
• 6:29
  turned
• 6:29
  to
• 6:29
  anger.
• 6:30
  The
• 6:30
  result
• 6:31
  was
• 6:31
  that
• 6:31
  she
• 6:31
  was
• 6:31
  actually
• 6:32
  at
• 6:33
  risk
• 6:33
  of
• 6:33
  threatening
• 6:33
  the
• 6:33
  relationship
• 6:34
  herself.
• 6:35
  Her
• 6:35
  brain
• 6:35
  was
• 6:35
  getting
• 6:36
  her
• 6:36
  to
• 6:36
  act
• 6:36
  in
• 6:36
  a
• 6:36
  way
• 6:36
  that
• 6:37
  the
• 6:37
  relationship
• 6:37
  meant
• 6:38
  less
• 6:38
  than
• 6:38
  it
• 6:38
  actually
• 6:39
  did.
• 6:39
  Does
• 6:40
  that
• 6:40
  make
• 6:40
  sense?
• 6:41
  So
• 6:41
  even
• 6:42
  though
• 6:42
  she
• 6:42
  wanted
• 6:43
  to
• 6:43
  be
• 6:43
  vulnerable
• 6:43
  and
• 6:43
  she
• 6:43
  wanted
• 6:44
  to
• 6:44
  have
• 6:44
  this
• 6:44
  great
• 6:44
  relationship
• 6:45
  with
• 6:45
  this
• 6:45
  person,
• 6:46
  because
• 6:46
  her
• 6:46
  brain
• 6:47
  thought
• 6:47
  that
• 6:47
  maybe
• 6:48
  the
• 6:48
  other
• 6:48
  person
• 6:48
  didn't
• 6:49
  feel
• 6:49
  that
• 6:50
  way.
• 6:50
  She
• 6:50
  started
• 6:51
  to
• 6:51
  close
• 6:51
  off.
• 6:52
  Okay.
• 6:52
  So
• 6:52
  relationships
• 6:53
  in
• 6:53
  particular
• 6:53
  require
• 6:54
  both
• 6:54
  parties
• 6:54
  to
• 6:54
  be
• 6:55
  very
• 6:55
  vulnerable.
• 6:56
  So
• 6:56
  when
• 6:56
  our
• 6:56
  brain
• 6:57
  senses
• 6:57
  that
• 6:57
  maybe
• 6:57
  that
• 6:58
  person
• 6:58
  isn't
• 6:58
  as
• 6:58
  committed
• 6:59
  as
• 6:59
  I
• 6:59
  am,
• 7:00
  it
• 7:00
  wants
• 7:00
  to
• 7:00
  pull
• 7:01
  back
• 7:01
  and
• 7:01
  protect
• 7:01
  ourselves.
• 7:03
  That
• 7:03
  makes
• 7:03
  sense.
• 7:03
  Right?
• 7:04
  Why
• 7:04
  would
• 7:04
  we
• 7:04
  want
• 7:04
  to
• 7:04
  be
• 7:05
  in
• 7:05
  a
• 7:05
  relationship
• 7:05
  with
• 7:05
  someone
• 7:05
  who's
• 7:06
  not
• 7:06
  as
• 7:06
  committed
• 7:06
  as
• 7:06
  we
• 7:06
  are.
• 7:07
  That
• 7:07
  sounds
• 7:07
  terrifying.
• 7:08
  And
• 7:08
  it
• 7:08
  sounds
• 7:08
  like
• 7:09
  recipe
• 7:09
  for
• 7:10
  disaster.
• 7:10
  We're
• 7:10
  going
• 7:10
  to
• 7:10
  get
• 7:10
  hurt.
• 7:11
  We're
• 7:11
  going
• 7:11
  to
• 7:11
  get
• 7:11
  disappointed
• 7:12
  at
• 7:12
  some
• 7:12
  point,
• 7:12
  let's
• 7:13
  pull
• 7:13
  back
• 7:13
  and
• 7:13
  close
• 7:13
  off,
• 7:13
  but
• 7:14
  that's
• 7:14
  the
• 7:14
  worst
• 7:14
  thing
• 7:15
  to
• 7:15
  do
• 7:15
  in
• 7:15
  a
• 7:15
  relationship.
• 7:16
  So
• 7:16
  interesting.
• 7:17
  So
• 7:17
  let's
• 7:17
  take
• 7:18
  an
• 7:18
  analogy
• 7:18
  for
• 7:18
  a
• 7:18
  second,
• 7:18
  cause
• 7:19
  you
• 7:19
  guys
• 7:19
  know,
• 7:19
  I
• 7:19
  love
• 7:19
  analogies.
• 7:20
  Let's
• 7:20
  think
• 7:21
  for
• 7:21
  just
• 7:21
  a
• 7:21
  second,
• 7:21
  about
• 7:22
  how
• 7:22
  you
• 7:22
  drive
• 7:22
  the
• 7:23
  posture
• 7:23
  of
• 7:23
  how
• 7:23
  you
• 7:23
  drive
• 7:24
  in
• 7:24
  a
• 7:24
  car
• 7:24
  when
• 7:24
  there's
• 7:25
  no
• 7:25
  risks.
• 7:26
  Everything's
• 7:27
  going
• 7:27
  well,
• 7:27
  right.
• 7:28
  just
• 7:28
  kind
• 7:28
  of
• 7:28
  sit
• 7:28
  relaxed,
• 7:29
  maybe
• 7:29
  lean
• 7:29
  back
• 7:29
  in
• 7:29
  your
• 7:29
  seat
• 7:30
  and
• 7:30
  you're
• 7:30
  kind
• 7:30
  of
• 7:30
  holding
• 7:30
  the
• 7:31
  steering
• 7:31
  wheel
• 7:31
  relaxed,
• 7:32
  maybe
• 7:32
  just
• 7:32
  with
• 7:32
  one
• 7:32
  hand,
• 7:33
  right?
• 7:33
  But
• 7:33
  if
• 7:33
  somebody
• 7:34
  cuts
• 7:34
  you
• 7:34
  off
• 7:35
  or
• 7:35
  you
• 7:35
  have
• 7:35
  a
• 7:35
  close
• 7:35
  call
• 7:36
  or
• 7:36
  someone
• 7:36
  runs
• 7:36
  a
• 7:36
  red
• 7:36
  light
• 7:37
  in
• 7:37
  front
• 7:37
  of
• 7:37
  you.
• 7:37
  W
• 7:38
  what
• 7:38
  is
• 7:38
  your
• 7:38
  posture?
• 7:38
  Do
• 7:39
  it
• 7:39
  tenses
• 7:40
  up,
• 7:40
  maybe
• 7:40
  you
• 7:41
  white
• 7:41
  knuckle,
• 7:41
  the
• 7:41
  steering
• 7:42
  wheel.
• 7:42
  Maybe
• 7:42
  you
• 7:43
  swerve.
• 7:43
  Maybe
• 7:43
  you
• 7:44
  reach
• 7:44
  your
• 7:44
  arm
• 7:44
  out
• 7:44
  to
• 7:44
  the
• 7:45
  passenger
• 7:45
  side
• 7:45
  to
• 7:46
  protect
• 7:46
  your
• 7:46
  kid.
• 7:47
  Who's
• 7:47
  in
• 7:47
  the
• 7:47
  seat.
• 7:48
  adopt
• 7:48
  a
• 7:48
  defensive
• 7:49
  posture
• 7:50
  in
• 7:50
  order
• 7:50
  to
• 7:51
  try
• 7:51
  to
• 7:51
  save
• 7:51
  your
• 7:52
  life
• 7:52
  and
• 7:52
  your
• 7:52
  loved
• 7:53
  ones
• 7:53
  lives.
• 7:54
  exactly
• 7:54
  what
• 7:54
  we're
• 7:54
  doing
• 7:54
  in
• 7:55
  relationships.
• 7:55
  We
• 7:55
  throw
• 7:55
  our
• 7:56
  guard
• 7:56
  up
• 7:56
  when
• 7:56
  we
• 7:56
  think,
• 7:56
  oh
• 7:57
  my
• 7:57
  gosh,
• 7:57
  this
• 7:57
  might
• 7:57
  be
• 7:57
  dangerous.
• 7:58
  Even
• 7:59
  when
• 7:59
  having
• 7:59
  the
• 7:59
  guard
• 7:59
  down
• 8:00
  is
• 8:00
  what
• 8:00
  allows
• 8:00
  us.
• 8:01
  To
• 8:02
  drive
• 8:02
  safely,
• 8:03
  right?
• 8:03
  So
• 8:03
  we
• 8:04
  must
• 8:04
  allow
• 8:04
  ourselves
• 8:05
  in
• 8:05
  relationships
• 8:05
  to
• 8:05
  let
• 8:06
  our
• 8:06
  guard
• 8:06
  down
• 8:06
  in
• 8:06
  order
• 8:07
  to
• 8:07
  love
• 8:07
  others
• 8:08
  and
• 8:08
  to
• 8:08
  be
• 8:08
  loved.
• 8:09
  But
• 8:09
  again,
• 8:09
  when
• 8:09
  our
• 8:10
  subconscious
• 8:10
  senses
• 8:10
  danger,
• 8:11
  maybe
• 8:12
  it's
• 8:12
  in
• 8:12
  the
• 8:12
  form
• 8:12
  of
• 8:12
  a
• 8:12
  friend
• 8:13
  or
• 8:13
  a
• 8:13
  loved
• 8:13
  one
• 8:13
  pulling
• 8:13
  back
• 8:14
  somehow.
• 8:15
  Then
• 8:15
  that
• 8:15
  prompts
• 8:15
  us
• 8:16
  to
• 8:16
  protect
• 8:16
  ourselves.
• 8:16
  Our
• 8:16
  arms
• 8:17
  fly
• 8:17
  up,
• 8:17
  we
• 8:17
  get
• 8:17
  angry,
• 8:18
  we
• 8:18
  pull
• 8:18
  back.
• 8:19
  Right?
• 8:19
  We
• 8:19
  things
• 8:20
  that
• 8:20
  actually
• 8:20
  damaged
• 8:20
  the
• 8:20
  relationship
• 8:21
  because
• 8:21
  we
• 8:21
  don't
• 8:21
  want
• 8:21
  to
• 8:21
  get
• 8:22
  hurt
• 8:22
  and
• 8:22
  we
• 8:22
  don't
• 8:22
  want
• 8:22
  to
• 8:22
  get
• 8:23
  disappointed.
• 8:24
  Isn't
• 8:24
  that
• 8:25
  so
• 8:25
  fascinating.
• 8:25
  I
• 8:26
  find
• 8:26
  it
• 8:26
  so
• 8:26
  fascinating.
• 8:27
  And
• 8:27
  guess
• 8:28
  what
• 8:28
  friends
• 8:28
  you
• 8:28
  knew
• 8:29
  I
• 8:29
  was
• 8:29
  coming
• 8:29
  back
• 8:29
  to
• 8:29
  this,
• 8:29
  but
• 8:30
  it
• 8:30
  happens
• 8:30
  in
• 8:31
  business
• 8:31
  too.
• 8:32
  Absolutely.
• 8:33
  All
• 8:33
  the
• 8:33
  time.
• 8:35
  We
• 8:35
  will
• 8:35
  come
• 8:35
  up
• 8:35
  with
• 8:36
  thoughts.
• 8:36
  Like
• 8:36
  nobody
• 8:37
  wants
• 8:37
  what
• 8:37
  I
• 8:37
  have
• 8:38
  to
• 8:38
  offer.
• 8:39
  Nobody
• 8:39
  wants
• 8:40
  what
• 8:40
  I'm
• 8:40
  selling.
• 8:41
  our
• 8:41
  brain
• 8:42
  senses
• 8:43
  danger
• 8:43
  discomfort
• 8:44
  in
• 8:44
  the
• 8:44
  form
• 8:45
  of
• 8:45
  potential
• 8:45
  disappointment.
• 8:47
  It
• 8:47
  does
• 8:47
  not
• 8:48
  want
• 8:48
  us
• 8:48
  to
• 8:48
  put
• 8:48
  ourselves
• 8:49
  out
• 8:49
  there
• 8:49
  because
• 8:49
  it
• 8:49
  doesn't
• 8:49
  want
• 8:49
  to
• 8:49
  be
• 8:49
  disappointed.
• 8:50
  And
• 8:50
  it
• 8:50
  doesn't
• 8:51
  want
• 8:51
  to
• 8:51
  fail.
• 8:51
  So
• 8:52
  pay
• 8:52
  attention
• 8:52
  to
• 8:52
  this
• 8:53
  and
• 8:53
  don't
• 8:54
  let
• 8:54
  your
• 8:54
  brain
• 8:54
  lead
• 8:54
  you
• 8:55
  astray.
• 8:56
  We
• 8:56
  can.
• 8:57
  Truly,
• 8:57
  truly
• 8:58
  find
• 8:58
  evidence
• 8:58
  for
• 8:59
  any
• 8:59
  story
• 8:59
  we
• 8:59
  want
• 9:00
  to
• 9:00
  believe.
• 9:00
  We
• 9:00
  can
• 9:00
  find
• 9:01
  evidence
• 9:01
  that
• 9:01
  nobody
• 9:01
  wants
• 9:02
  what
• 9:02
  I'm
• 9:02
  offering.
• 9:02
  We
• 9:03
  can
• 9:03
  find
• 9:03
  evidence
• 9:03
  that
• 9:03
  everybody
• 9:04
  wants
• 9:04
  what
• 9:04
  we're
• 9:04
  offering.
• 9:05
  We
• 9:05
  really
• 9:05
  can.
• 9:06
  But
• 9:06
  just
• 9:06
  notice
• 9:07
  when
• 9:07
  your
• 9:07
  brain
• 9:07
  wants
• 9:08
  to
• 9:08
  believe
• 9:08
  that
• 9:08
  you're
• 9:08
  going
• 9:08
  to
• 9:08
  fail,
• 9:09
  because
• 9:09
  that
• 9:09
  is
• 9:09
  a
• 9:10
  defense
• 9:10
  mechanism.
• 9:11
  It
• 9:11
  is
• 9:11
  trying
• 9:12
  to
• 9:12
  protect
• 9:13
  you.
• 9:13
  It's
• 9:13
  not
• 9:13
  trying
• 9:14
  to
• 9:14
  make
• 9:14
  you
• 9:14
  fail.
• 9:14
  It's
• 9:14
  trying
• 9:14
  to
• 9:15
  make
• 9:15
  you
• 9:15
  stop
• 9:15
  before
• 9:16
  you
• 9:16
  actually
• 9:16
  fail
• 9:17
  before
• 9:17
  your
• 9:17
  failure
• 9:18
  gets
• 9:18
  really
• 9:18
  big
• 9:19
  and
• 9:19
  scary.
• 9:19
  Okay.
• 9:20
  Don't
• 9:20
  hate
• 9:20
  on
• 9:20
  your
• 9:20
  brain
• 9:21
  for
• 9:21
  this.
• 9:22
  Just
• 9:22
  acknowledge
• 9:22
  that
• 9:23
  is
• 9:23
  trying
• 9:23
  to
• 9:23
  keep
• 9:24
  you
• 9:24
  safe.
• 9:25
  only
• 9:25
  believes
• 9:25
  the
• 9:26
  thoughts
• 9:26
  that's
• 9:26
  coming
• 9:26
  up
• 9:26
  with,
• 9:26
  because
• 9:27
  it
• 9:27
  is
• 9:27
  so
• 9:27
  terrified
• 9:28
  of
• 9:28
  the
• 9:28
  alternative,
• 9:29
  which
• 9:29
  is
• 9:29
  failure
• 9:30
  as
• 9:30
  it,
• 9:30
  as
• 9:30
  it
• 9:30
  deems
• 9:31
  at
• 9:31
  right.
• 9:31
  Just
• 9:31
  listen
• 9:32
  to
• 9:32
  this
• 9:32
  acknowledge
• 9:34
  that
• 9:34
  this
• 9:34
  thought
• 9:35
  could
• 9:35
  be
• 9:35
  right.
• 9:36
  And
• 9:37
  we're
• 9:37
  going
• 9:37
  to
• 9:37
  put
• 9:37
  ourselves
• 9:37
  out
• 9:37
  there.
• 9:38
  Anyway.
• 9:38
  I
• 9:38
  think
• 9:38
  this
• 9:38
  is
• 9:38
  so
• 9:39
  powerful.
• 9:40
  That's
• 9:40
  what
• 9:40
  we
• 9:40
  came
• 9:40
  back
• 9:40
  to
• 9:41
  on
• 9:41
  this
• 9:41
  client
• 9:41
  call.
• 9:42
  I
• 9:42
  told
• 9:42
  my
• 9:42
  client,
• 9:43
  you
• 9:43
  can
• 9:44
  believe
• 9:44
  that
• 9:44
  thought
• 9:44
  you
• 9:44
  can
• 9:45
  keep
• 9:45
  believing
• 9:45
  that
• 9:45
  the
• 9:45
  person
• 9:46
  is
• 9:46
  less
• 9:46
  invested
• 9:46
  than
• 9:47
  you
• 9:47
  are,
• 9:47
  but
• 9:48
  show
• 9:48
  up
• 9:48
  as
• 9:48
  an
• 9:48
  amazing
• 9:49
  friend
• 9:49
  anyway.
• 9:50
  Love
• 9:50
  her
• 9:51
  anyway,
• 9:51
  a
• 9:51
  hundred
• 9:52
  percent.
• 9:52
  Do
• 9:53
  everything
• 9:53
  you
• 9:53
  would
• 9:54
  to
• 9:54
  a
• 9:54
  friend
• 9:54
  that
• 9:54
  you
• 9:54
  felt
• 9:55
  was
• 9:55
  a
• 9:55
  hundred
• 9:55
  percent
• 9:55
  there
• 9:55
  because
• 9:56
  that's
• 9:56
  the
• 9:56
  kind
• 9:57
  of
• 9:57
  friend
• 9:57
  you
• 9:57
  want
• 9:57
  to
• 9:57
  be
• 9:58
  and
• 9:58
  it's
• 9:58
  going
• 9:58
  to
• 9:58
  make
• 9:58
  the
• 9:59
  relationship
• 9:59
  even
• 10:00
  better.
• 10:01
  Same
• 10:01
  thing
• 10:01
  with
• 10:01
  our
• 10:01
  business
• 10:02
  friends.
• 10:02
  We
• 10:03
  can
• 10:03
  believe
• 10:03
  that
• 10:03
  we're
• 10:03
  going
• 10:03
  to
• 10:03
  fail
• 10:04
  it's
• 10:04
  okay.
• 10:04
  Because
• 10:04
  chances
• 10:04
  are
• 10:05
  good.
• 10:05
  We're
• 10:05
  going
• 10:05
  to
• 10:05
  fail
• 10:05
  some
• 10:06
  at
• 10:06
  some
• 10:06
  point
• 10:07
  or
• 10:07
  another,
• 10:07
  right.
• 10:07
  Chances
• 10:08
  are
• 10:08
  good.
• 10:08
  We're
• 10:08
  going
• 10:08
  to
• 10:08
  be
• 10:08
  uncomfortable
• 10:09
  or
• 10:09
  disappointed
• 10:10
  or
• 10:10
  something
• 10:11
  go
• 10:11
  wrong?
• 10:12
  But
• 10:12
  by
• 10:13
  believing
• 10:13
  that
• 10:13
  thought
• 10:14
  early
• 10:14
  on.
• 10:15
  That
• 10:15
  we're
• 10:15
  going
• 10:15
  to
• 10:15
  fail
• 10:16
  and
• 10:16
  nobody
• 10:16
  wants
• 10:16
  what
• 10:17
  we
• 10:17
  have.
• 10:17
  It
• 10:17
  just
• 10:18
  ensures
• 10:18
  that
• 10:18
  we
• 10:18
  pull
• 10:19
  back
• 10:19
  and
• 10:19
  we
• 10:19
  don't
• 10:20
  show
• 10:20
  up
• 10:20
  a
• 10:20
  hundred
• 10:20
  percent
• 10:21
  and
• 10:22
  we
• 10:22
  deserve
• 10:22
  more
• 10:22
  than
• 10:23
  that.
• 10:24
  You
• 10:24
  can
• 10:24
  believe
• 10:25
  the
• 10:25
  thought
• 10:25
  that
• 10:25
  maybe
• 10:26
  nobody
• 10:26
  wants
• 10:26
  what
• 10:26
  you're
• 10:26
  offering,
• 10:27
  but
• 10:27
  offer
• 10:27
  it
• 10:27
  anyway.
• 10:29
  Give
• 10:29
  it
• 10:29
  to
• 10:29
  the
• 10:29
  world
• 10:30
  anyway.
• 10:31
  Don't
• 10:31
  try
• 10:31
  to
• 10:31
  convince
• 10:31
  your
• 10:32
  brain
• 10:32
  by
• 10:32
  thought
• 10:32
  swapping
• 10:33
  instead,
• 10:34
  just
• 10:34
  get
• 10:34
  out
• 10:34
  there,
• 10:34
  do
• 10:35
  the
• 10:35
  work.
• 10:35
  And
• 10:36
  then
• 10:36
  you
• 10:36
  get
• 10:36
  to
• 10:36
  prove
• 10:37
  to
• 10:37
  your
• 10:37
  brain
• 10:37
  that
• 10:37
  it
• 10:37
  was
• 10:37
  wrong
• 10:38
  by
• 10:38
  seeing
• 10:38
  actual
• 10:39
  evidence
• 10:39
  of
• 10:39
  people
• 10:40
  signing
• 10:40
  up
• 10:40
  for
• 10:40
  what
• 10:40
  you
• 10:41
  have
• 10:41
  to
• 10:41
  offer.
• 10:42
  Is
• 10:42
  it
• 10:42
  so
• 10:42
  fun?
• 10:42
  You
• 10:42
  guys,
• 10:43
  this
• 10:43
  stuff
• 10:43
  is
• 10:43
  so
• 10:43
  great.
• 10:44
  Thanks
• 10:44
  so
• 10:44
  much
• 10:44
  for
• 10:44
  tuning
• 10:45
  in
• 10:45
  this
• 10:45
  week.
• 10:45
  I
• 10:45
  I
• 10:46
  have
• 10:46
  something
• 10:46
  super
• 10:46
  exciting
• 10:46
  coming
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  up
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  for
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  you
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  guys
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  in
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  just
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  another
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  week
• 10:48
  or
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  two.
• 10:48
  So
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  stay
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  tuned
• 10:49
  on
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  the
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  podcast.
• 10:50
  be
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  perfect,
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  especially
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  for
• 10:51
  any
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  life
• 10:51
  coach
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  that
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  is
• 10:52
  feeling
• 10:52
  stuck
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  or
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  like
• 10:53
  they
• 10:53
  don't
• 10:54
  know
• 10:54
  where
• 10:54
  to
• 10:54
  go
• 10:54
  next
• 10:54
  to
• 10:55
  launch
• 10:55
  their
• 10:55
  business.
• 10:56
  I've
• 10:56
  got
• 10:56
  you
• 10:56
  covered.
• 10:56
  So
• 10:57
  we'll
• 10:57
  talk
• 10:57
  to
• 10:57
  you
• 10:57
  next
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  week.