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Season 3 - Episode 172 - The advantage of not speaking · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning from the Chicken Coop podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop, along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So you've heard me talk a lot about the fact that I would get
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  in trouble as a child saying I was always the one talking in
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  class. I was always the one that had to
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  face the wall. I always had lots of things to
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  say. And I have spent a good deal of
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  my life, especially in the profession I'm in, talking and
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  teaching and doing all these things.
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  But there is an advantage to not speaking, believe it or not.
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  There's a huge advantage to not speaking.
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  There's a huge advantage to working energy, and there's a
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  huge advantage to learning to work energy.
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  And one of the interesting things that I did at some point
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  years ago was to do a silent meditation for three days.
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  And let me tell you, it was one of the most difficult things
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  that I ever did. Where you were supposed to go
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  and you're going to be in a space and you're not going to
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  make eye contact and you're just going to do your chores and
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  you're going to meditate and you'll listen to the teachings,
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  but you do not have the ability to speak.
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  And it you frowned upon for making eye contact.
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  It was probably the hardest thing I have ever done.
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  I have firewalked, I have pole jumped, I have bridge climbed, I
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  have done all kinds of physical stretches.
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  And I will tell you, hands down, that was probably the hardest
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  thing I ever did because for me, talking is just a part of my
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  wiring and it really had me in a place where I had to rely on
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  other skills, energy being a biggest one of it and having an
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  ability to like manage your energy and show your energy in a
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  certain way. So Fast forward when you
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  sometimes are trying to get through your daily life and
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  you're using words all the time. And we know you've heard me say
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  before how we just all have different meanings for different
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  words. Even though we can generally
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  agree on things, we all have different meanings about them,
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  and there are times when using words does not work.
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  When you're in conflict, when you're trying to heal, sometimes
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  your energy is a much better way to go.
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  To pause, pull back and say, you know what?
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  Talking about this is not the right thing.
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  Let's just try to regroup. Let's just try to use our
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  energy. Let's try to have kindness.
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  Let's have acts of kindness. Let's do things that are energy
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  based as opposed to verbally. Because talking about things
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  sometimes just causes more confusion because we have a
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  tendency to want to prove our point.
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  And sometimes proving our point is never going to work because
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  the other person is going to stick to their point.
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  And before you know it, we're all in a state of, you know,
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  arguing our positions and holding our positions, but it's
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  not helping us heal or move forward.
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  So learning to not use words is a process.
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  It is hard. It is something that takes
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  effort. You have to think about how to
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  be instead of how to verbalize it.
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  You have to think about what energy you want to put off in
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  the world. You have to think about how you
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  want to show up. You have to think about that
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  feeling and that emotion that you want to emanate from your
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  body when you are with somebody that you are trying to heal.
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  And a bigger piece of this in your silence in in doing this is
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  managing your mind chatter. At the same time, you're not
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  thinking horrible thoughts about that person because it's very
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  easy to stand there and be angry with someone and look at them
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  and not say to them, God, you pissed me off.
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  But you can think to yourself, God, you pissed me off and
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  that's not healthy. I don't need to tell you that
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  that's not healthy. So this process of of grinding
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  through it and saying I have to find a way to effectively do
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  this is not easy. But guess what it is?
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  It is highly effective when you do it and it heals situations
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  very quickly. So I'm going to say the most
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  important thing that you can do for yourself is to practice
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  this. And even if you're not in a
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  situation where you need to heal up with somebody, it's good to
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  just practice using your physical energy and your thought
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  behind the scenes as opposed to just using your verbal energy
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  and trying to get what you want. Because the truth is words are
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  7% of communication. That's it 7%.
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  Everything else comes in with how you say it and, and, and the
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  structure in which you are saying things.
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  So please keep that in mind. I mean, you're your intention
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  and your energy that you're putting to something is what's
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  really going to influence someone.
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  So refrain from using the words, use your energy, put something
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  good behind it, and show yourself that you actually do
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  have 100% control over yourself. Even though you don't think you
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  do, You do. I promise.
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  You just have to work at it. And is it easy?
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  No, it's not easy. It it's hard.
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  It's actually hard work. It's a simple process, but it's
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  really hard. And the more you practice it,
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  the better you get at it. So practice some silence behind
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  the scenes, shifting and see what happens.
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  All right, my friends, I hope you have a blessed day and I'll
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  see you tomorrow. Bye.