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IDC: Focus on Your Win, Not the Audience · R.E.A.L. Talk for REAL L.Y.F.E.

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  Welcome to Real Talk for Real Life, where we're realizing everyone is always
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  learning and you're living your full experience.
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  It's your girl, your host, Coach C. Welcome to Season 8.
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  We are continuing to fall into focus with a fulfilling fourth quarter finish.
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  And before we go any further, we need to settle something.
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  Who cares who is watching? When, anyway.
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  Listen, some of us have spent too much of this year wondering who sees us,
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  who supports us, who acknowledges us, and who has something to say about us.
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  Meanwhile, your goals are still waiting on you to get to work.
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  So today, we are adopting an IDC attitude. I don't care.
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  I don't care who sees. I don't care who knows. I don't care who is doing what.
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  And I don't care who is watching.
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  I am going to put in the work to win in my life.
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  Listen, after what happened this year, after what happened last year,
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  even after whatever happened five minutes before you press play on this episode,
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  your next decision still matters.
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  So let me make this plain. You can care about people, receive wise counsel,
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  and remain accountable while releasing the need for everybody's approval.
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  You can say, that hurt my feelings, and still keep your commitment to yourself.
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  Because IDC does not mean that you stop caring about your life.
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  It means that you care enough about your life to stop letting an audience direct it.
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  Your destiny deserves more attention than your spectators.
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  Now let's put some action behind this attitude. Here is our IDC for this season.
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  I identify your win. What are you actually working toward?
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  Because when you say things like, I just want to do better, that needs direction. Better with what?
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  Your money, your health, consistency, finishing an application,
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  taking a class, or establishing that boundary.
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  Name it and make sure it is your win, something that serves your life,
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  your responsibilities, and the purpose you believe God has placed in you.
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  Someone else's milestone does not have to become your assignment.
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  Maybe your win this quarter is paying a bill off.
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  Maybe it is completing an assignment. Maybe it is finally keeping an appointment
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  you have been putting off.
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  A meaningful win does not have to impress the internet.
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  D, decide what you will do daily.
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  Determination needs somewhere to show up. We can declare, I'm going to win all day long.
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  But what does that declaration require from us on a Tuesday afternoon when we
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  are tired and nobody is cheering us on?
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  Give your goal a place on your calendar.
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  20 minutes to write, a walk after work, a weekly review of your spending,
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  one completed application.
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  Choose an action that you can repeat, including on an ordinary day.
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  And listen, if you miss a day, return at the next opportunity.
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  You do not need to turn one misstep into a month of standing still. C.
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  Commit without the crowd Can you keep going when the response is quiet?
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  When the post gets only three likes? When nobody asks how the project is coming?
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  When somebody else gets celebrated while you are still getting started?
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  Listen at me Quiet progress still counts The savings still add up The pages
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  still become a manuscript, and the practice still develops the skill.
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  You do not have to announce every move to make a meaningful one.
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  And you do not have to spend your energy guessing whether people are watching,
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  judging, or paying attention at all.
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  You have work you can actually do something about.
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  Let them watch if they are watching. You keep your appointment with your purpose.
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  Now, I know somebody is thinking, Coach C, you don't know how much has happened to me this year.
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  You are absolutely right. And I am not asking you to pretend it did not happen.
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  Some experiences require grief.
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  Some require rest, support, or a different plan. Give yourself what you need.
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  Then ask yourself, with what I have available today, what is my next faithful step?
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  You may need to adjust the pace. You may need to change the route.
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  You can still make a choice that supports your future.
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  We cannot control every outcome, but we can take responsibility for our preparation,
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  our effort, and how we respond.
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  That is where we begin.
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  Now, here's your real talk homework. Before this day ends, write down these three things.
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  One, my win.
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  Choose one meaningful goal for the remainder of this year. Be specific enough to recognize progress.
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  Two, write down my distraction. Finish this sentence honestly.
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  I keep losing focus when I worry about blank.
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  Who gets the credit? Who approves? How far ahead somebody else seems to be?
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  Name what keeps pulling you away from your work.
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  Three, write down my next move.
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  Choose one action you can complete within the next 24 hours. Put a time beside it.
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  Then, for the next seven days, spend 10 minutes a day moving that goal forward.
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  At the end of the week, ask yourself, what did I complete?
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  What got in my way? What will I adjust? Give yourself something real to build on.
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  And when you feel yourself checking for the crowd Come back to this right here.
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  I can receive support without requiring applause.
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  I can learn from my past without surrendering my future.
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  I can take my next step before everybody understands it.
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  Who cares who is watching? When, anyway.
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  Who cares who knows? Work, anyway.
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  And if you have to start again, start anyway.
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  Again, I'm reminding you that a fulfilling fourth quarter begins with what you
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  choose to do at the time you still have.
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  Now go keep one promise to yourself.
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  And if this message helped you refocus, share it with somebody who has been
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  waiting for permission to move.
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  Follow Real Talk for real life. That's L-Y-F-E for more purpose,
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  positivity, and a little push when you need it.
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  We have a life to live and we've got work to do. Let's get with it.
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  As always, decide, commit, succeed, keep learning, keep living.
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  This has been Real Talk for Real Life, where we're realizing everyone is always
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  learning and you're living your full experience.
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  and motivation between episodes.
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  This is Coach C. I'll see you in the next one.