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- Lucas: Luna, I want to talk about a question that seems to be popping up in more and more interviews recently — the 'tell me about a time you influenced someone without direct authority' question. Luna: Yeah, I've noticed that too. It used to be mostly for product managers or consultants, but now I'm seeing it for marketing leads, engineers, even some entry-level roles. Lucas: Exactly. And I think there's a reason for that. The modern workplace is heavily matrixed — you rarely have full authority over the people you need to get things done. So hiring managers want to know: can you navigate that reality? Luna: And what typically goes wrong when candidates try to answer it? Lucas: Two big traps. First, they tell a story where they actually did have authority — maybe they were the team lead or the most senior person in the room. That doesn't demonstrate influence without authority, it demonstrates influence with it. Second, they focus too much on the logic of their argument and not enough on the relationship-building side. Luna: Right, because influencing without authority is as much about trust and empathy as it is about data. Lucas: Exactly. So let's build a framework. I think the best answers have three clear elements: context where your lack of authority is clear, a specific approach that shows you understand the other person's incentives, and an outcome that ties back to business impact. Luna: Can we walk through a concrete example? I always find that helps more than abstract advice. Lucas: Sure. Let's say you're a marketing analyst, and you need the engineering team to prioritize a data pipeline fix that would let you run better attribution reports. You don't manage any engineers, and they're already behind on their roadmap. What do you do? Luna: So the context is clear — you have no authority, and the engineering team has competing priorities. That's the setup. Lucas: Right. A weak answer would be: 'I explained why the fix was important and showed them the data.' That's just logic. A strong answer goes deeper — it shows you understood what the engineering team cared about. Luna: Like maybe they cared about reducing technical debt, or they had a performance goal that your fix would also help with? Lucas: Exactly. So a good story might go: 'I scheduled a 15-minute chat with the engineering lead, not to pitch my project, but to understand their current bottlenecks. I learned they were struggling with data accuracy issues that were causing rework. So I reframed my pipeline fix as something that would reduce their rework time by an estimated 20 percent. That aligned their incentive with mine.' Luna: I love that — you're not just selling your idea, you're mapping it to their pain points. Lucas: And then the outcome. It's not just 'they did the fix.' You'd say: 'They agreed to move it into the next sprint. We got the fix live in two weeks, our attribution accuracy improved by 15 percent, and the engineering team reported lower rework on that pipeline.' Luna: So the outcome is win-win — you show business impact, but you also show that you built a relationship that might help later. Lucas: Exactly. And that's the secret sauce. The best influencing stories aren't about winning an argument — they're about finding common ground. Sometimes it's as simple as asking 'what's your biggest challenge right now?' before you ask for anything. Luna: I want to push back a little though. What if you're in a situation where there's genuinely no overlap in incentives? Like you're asking for something that only helps your team and adds work to theirs? Lucas: That's a great point, and it happens all the time. In that case, the influencing strategy shifts from alignment to reciprocity or vision. Maybe you offer to help them with one of their tasks first — build some goodwill. Or you connect their work to a larger company goal that both teams care about. Luna: So it's more of a negotiation than a persuasion. Lucas: Exactly. And interviewers love when you can articulate that. One candidate I heard about said: 'I realized I was asking them to do something that had no direct benefit to them. So I offered to spend two hours helping them clean up their data model first. That built trust, and they were much more open to my request later.' Luna: That's a great example of walking the walk. It shows you're not just a talker. Lucas: And it demonstrates a key principle: influence without authority often requires you to give before you get. That's a hard skill to fake in an interview. Luna: Let's talk about some common mistakes specific to this question. I've heard candidates say things like 'I kept pushing until they agreed,' which sounds aggressive, not influential. Lucas: Right. Another one is 'I escalated to my manager.' That's not influencing — that's using authority by proxy. An interviewer will see right through that. Luna: Or the candidate who says 'I just explained the facts and they saw I was right.' That might work if you're a subject matter expert, but it's rarely that simple. Lucas: And it misses the relationship element. I'd argue that the most impressive influencing stories include a moment where the candidate learned something from the other person that changed their approach. It shows humility and curiosity. Luna: Yeah, because true influence is a two-way street. If you're not listening, you're not influencing. Lucas: That's a great line. Can we use that as a takeaway for our listeners? Luna: Absolutely. And if you've found these episodes helpful as you prepare for interviews, we just want to say that we keep this show completely ad-free by listener support. So if you'd like to help us keep it that way, you can find us at buy me a coffee dot com slash fexingo. Lucas: Yeah, we don't run ads, and we want to keep it that way. So if the show has helped you nail a question or land a role, that link is a great way to support the work. Luna: And now back to the interview room. So Lucas, what about the STAR method? A lot of candidates are trained to use it, but does it work for this question? Lucas: It does, but with a twist. The 'action' part of STAR is usually where candidates mess up. They describe actions like 'I presented a slide deck' or 'I scheduled a meeting.' Those are too generic. You need to describe the specific influencing tactics you used. Luna: So instead of 'I set up a meeting,' you'd say 'I scheduled a one-on-one to understand their priorities before making my request.' That shows intentionality. Lucas: Exactly. And the 'result' should ideally include a metric. 'We reduced time to market by two weeks' is stronger than 'we got the project done.' Luna: What about candidates who have never managed people? Can they still tell a strong story? Lucas: Absolutely. Some of the best stories come from individual contributors. A junior analyst who influenced a senior stakeholder to adopt a new reporting format — that's a great example. The key is to pick a story where the power dynamic is clear: you had less formal authority than the person you were trying to influence. Luna: And also a story where the stakes are real. Not 'I convinced a coworker to switch lunch spots' — it needs to be a business outcome. Lucas: Right. The stakes give the story weight. If the outcome was measurable, even better. I remember a candidate who said: 'I convinced the VP of product to change the prioritization framework, which led to a 10 percent increase in customer retention.' That's a powerful story. Luna: And how do you prepare for this question if you don't have a perfect story ready? Can you use a hypothetical? Lucas: I'd avoid hypotheticals for this one. Interviewers want real experience. But you can take a small win and scale it up. Maybe you influenced a peer to adopt a new tool — talk about that. The size of the outcome matters less than the quality of the influencing approach. Luna: So to wrap up, the core advice is: show the relationship, show the give and take, and show the impact. Lucas: And don't forget to be curious. The best influencers are the ones who ask great questions. If your story includes a moment where you asked 'what's important to you?' — you're already ahead of most candidates. Luna: Great advice for anyone heading into an interview. Thanks Lucas. Lucas: Thanks Luna. Good luck out there.