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596-Rejecting Rage Bait: The Art of Temperance This Aries Season · Spiritual Homegirl

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  Hey, y'all.
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  You are listening to another episode of the Spiritual Homegirl podcast.
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  Sorry, y'all, it's been a while, but we breathe better self and spirit and make peace with the day through wisdom, education and practical, easy to follow tips.
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  I'm your host, Maria, your spiritual homegirl who's also a mental health professional.
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  Happy Aries season.
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  Happy Easter season.
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  Happy Spring.
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  Happy April.
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  I'm really excited.
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  I have been wanting to record an Aryan Update episode for a while, but you know how sometimes when you want to do something but it's not 100% there?
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  I said I'm getting there and I'm kind of popping out of my hibernation.
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  I'm all the way out now, but I was just like and shout out to a couple of my home girls.
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  They're also Aries women and they understand the hibernation.
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  So we all kind of been hibernating in our own way.
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  Happy belated birthday to my girl Dia.
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  Love you so much.
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  She's been my friend for over 20 years.
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  I just wanted to give her a happy, happy birthday shout out and happy birthday tomorrow to my sis, Alipu.
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  And today's episode.
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  Where do.
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  Where do we start?
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  Where do we start?
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  I've just been really quiet and I've also been very in my season too.
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  For those who don't know, I'm about to be very insufferable in the best way.
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  Y'all know I like to cut up during my season.
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  And one thing I've always noticed though, and a lot of my Aries folks have, we've talked about this and we kind of come to our own consensus on this.
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  Whenever our season comes up.
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  It's very passionate.
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  And I don't mean in like a romantic way.
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  I mean passionate, like a warfare kind of energy.
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  And am I saying, oh, it's spiritual warfare?
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  No, no, no.
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  I'm saying that there's a renewed initiative, initiative type of energy.
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  Like, I'm going to do.
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  I'm going to be determined.
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  I'm going to be dedicated.
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  I'm going to make sure I do what I need to do and nobody's going to stop me.
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  And I would pray nobody try to stop me because it's going to be on and popping if somebody tries to stop me.
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  That type of bold Aries energy is what I'm talking about.
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  And as your homegirl who loves you and wants to see you win, I'm telling y'all to please temper yourselves.
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  And when I say you, I mean me as well.
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  I'm never above anything I say.
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  Y'all know this about me for the last umpteenth amount of years.
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  And I know that in my younger years, every season was when I was always getting in the most trouble or when the trouble would start.
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  I had a very quick temper, and I just.
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  You couldn't even stare too long at me.
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  Like, that's how quick my temper used to be.
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  And I can talk about it now because I'm.
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  I'm through that.
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  And the beautiful thing about spiritual homegirl is that I help a lot of other firecrackers like myself, Aries or not help their temperature.
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  And that's important during this season because it's a lot of stuff that's pulling at our.
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  Our emotions, our energy, our spirit, our emotions.
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  A lot of things that's testing your faith, A lot of things that are in society or even in your own house, in your social circle, at your job, in your relationship, whatever it is, please temper yourself, okay?
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  Don't make any kind of moves.
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  For my astrology folks out there, the retrogrades are retrograding.
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  This could be a time for you to pause anyway.
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  Venus or.
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  Or Mercury, whatever, you know, if that's.
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  If that's.
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  You know what.
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  You're also following whatever it is.
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  All I'm saying is to please before y'all get the hauling off, and y'all know what I mean.
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  Please, just think about it.
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  Just think.
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  Hear my voice in your head.
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  Temper yourself.
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  Boo friend, don't do nothing yet.
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  Don't show love.
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  Show love to yourself first.
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  You love yourself more than whatever you about to do.
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  You love yourself more than whatever consequence you about to do by.
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  By.
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  By turning up.
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  Don't do it.
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  Turn down.
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  Don't even turn up or turn down.
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  Just sit, sit.
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  Remove yourself.
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  Take a few minutes.
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  Please, Please think it through.
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  Call a friend, call a family member.
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  Somebody that's not going.
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  Don't call a gasoline friend.
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  And what I mean by gasoline friend is somebody that'll hype you up even more to crash out.
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  Please don't.
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  Please don't.
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  Also, there's a lot of projection going on too.
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  Now, some people, again, my astrology folks, they'll say, oh, that's retrograde.
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  That's me all day.
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  You know, and it is what it is, but whatever it is, please ignore it.
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  They're like, please put.
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  The projection is.
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  Is.
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  It's a lot of confusion, and people will.
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  Well, I didn't I tell y'all the stories about the projection being real?
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  There was a time where I posted something on Instagram and this lady that I've never met in my life.
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  I don't think I've told y'all this, but we can share it.
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  Today there was a woman that I never met in a whole different part of the who somehow thought that because I made a post about a general situation that a lot of us go through, that I was somehow
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  talking about her, me, and like five other people that I.
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  I don't know.
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  I've never shared online community with them or in person community with them, but they were either Christian accounts or spiritual accounts.
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  And she lumped me into these groups of, I guess, four other people who didn't know her, saying that we were plotting on her and that we've been spying on her and that we want to harm her.
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  And I thought that was wild.
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  And I said, wow.
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  My thing is when it comes to posts, right?
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  And I see it a lot on threads, more than anything I've been seeing a lot on threads.
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  So thread shout out to y'all.
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  This been the inspiration for today.
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  But just because somebody said something about a situation don't mean they talking about you.
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  It don't even mean they're talking about themselves.
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  They're addressing a situation that probably the people they engage with are talking about.
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  And I saw that on threads today.
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  Some.
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  I mean, literally all this person said was, and I'm not gonna say what, because I don't want to be messy and have y'all looking for the exchange.
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  This person said something about a topic and I saw about five people out of maybe 25, 30 responses.
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  And I stopped scrolling after that.
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  About five to 10 people just going off.
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  And I'm looking again, mind you, like I'm looking and I'm like, where is the connection between what they're saying in response into the original post?
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  And I didn't see it.
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  And what I'm saying to y'all again is, please don't.
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  If the shoot.
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  If the shoe don't fit, don't make it fit.
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  If the shoe fit, it's up to you to see if you're gonna walk in it.
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  Y'all know I'm very direct.
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  Me personally, I've never been a.
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  What's the word?
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  A suburb.
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  Y'all know I don't move like that.
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  Those that know me off here, y'all, y'all know, y'all know I will gladly never mind put an address on it.
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  I'll just pull up to the address if it's that important.
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  Not to start mess, but just to give it to you.
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  Direct, but not a person that believes in rage baiting or trying to make people upset for engagement.
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  And I see that a lot.
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  And that's reverse projection, because people need to do whatever they need to do to get attention.
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  So they gonna say stuff to get you mad and riled up.
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  So it goes both ways.
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  But going back to what I said earlier about tempering yourself and being cool, do not let these folks rage bait you into a response.
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  They need that energy.
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  They need you upset, they need you angry, they need you reactive.
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  They want that from you.
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  Please don't give that to them.
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  And then on the other hand, if someone is saying something and it's a very general situation, if it doesn't have an address, leave it on the playground.
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  It might not be for you, it might not be for anybody.
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  And then of course, with projection, never assume that it's about something you think you know or don't know about somebody.
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  You just don't know where people's inspirations come from.
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  It's a very, I don't want to say nuanced because that's so cliche, but it's a very interesting topic to dive into when it comes to projection because sometimes we project on people and we don't even know.
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  A lot of us may not want to admit it because it shows that we have a flaw.
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  And I know that in the social media age, nobody wants to look like we're human, but we are.
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  I'll tell you some common examples.
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  If you're in corporate America, you're trying to go for a position that is a promotion.
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  If somebody tells you, oh, they're gonna probably give it to that white man, they probably not gonna give it to you.
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  Projection, probably from their own experience, probably because they don't, you know, for whatever reason, they don't think that it's going to happen to you.
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  It's usually personal.
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  It has nothing to do with you.
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  Another example is in relationships.
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  Oh, he or she is probably out there cheating.
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  They didn't answer their phone for a couple hours.
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  I mean, they probably out with that girl or that boy or, you know, I remember when my man or my husband or fiance or husband, ex, wife, whatever.
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  I remember when they wouldn't respond and they were out kicking it with somebody else.
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  Projection, please don't respond to that.
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  Another one with your friends.
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  Oh, they probably, you know, she's friends with a girl that don't like you.
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  So that means that, you know, they probably talking about your business to that girl.
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  Be.
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  Just be careful, okay?
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  A lot of Wires get crossed up around this time, as we know it never fails.
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  Please, just temper yourself and pause before you react.
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  And you know what?
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  Let's investigate it.
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  If you feel away, sit with it.
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  Why do I feel away?
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  Did this person actually do something to me?
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  Did they say something to me?
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  Did they say something about me?
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  Do I know this for certain?
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  How do I know this for certain?
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  If you have no to any of those answers, then what are you tripping on?
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  And I have to use this as well.
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  I've had to use it as well.
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  And at this point, I've always been a.
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  If it ain't addressed to me, I don't care.
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  And I've been like that for some time.
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  But when I was reactive, I had to tell myself these things because, again, I was reacting and I wasn't.
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  And it was really react first, ask questions later.
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  I deal with it when I deal with it.
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  And that's not a healthy way to approach things.
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  And I'm telling y'all, this is somebody who's.
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  Who doesn't want y'all to do that.
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  I'm not gonna go as far as to say that I was a crash out, because that's.
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  That's.
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  That label is a very weird label to take on because it means different things to different people.
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  And as we've seen with some of the recent news headlines, it really is subjective what it means to crash out.
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  But I'm just telling you, just this is the season where we just.
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  We hold our peace.
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  We hold our peace.
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  We move on with love.
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  We're getting joy.
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  We're having fun.
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  We're reclaiming our time.
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  We're reclaiming our happiness.
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  We're rebuilding or celebrating the village we have.
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  We're just doing it up in a positive way.
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  It's always about love.
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  Love is the power of all of this.
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  It's the gas in the car of success.
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  It's the gas in the car of abundance.
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  If you want to add faith in there, too, faith in there as well.
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  There's so many different things that could go into your car.
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  What's going in your car?
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  What's fueling you?
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  Is it rage bait?
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  Is it projection content?
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  Is it your insecurities?
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  Is it your.
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  Your own drama?
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  What is it?
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  And if it's.
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  If it's the bad type of gas or unhealthy type of gas, it's time to switch the quality of what you're fueling yourself with.
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  Go from 87 to 93.
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  Do what you have to do.
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  Okay.
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  I just wanted to Put that message on y'all.
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  I got some other updates.
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  There's.
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  What's some other updates?
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  Trying to think we're gonna talk about money very soon.
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  I love talking about finances.
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  And for those who don't remember la, I used to do, like, the Spirit of Finance workshops and things like that.
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  And I've spoken on panels about, like, our attitudes towards money.
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  What else have we talked about that well, I haven't talked about with y'all?
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  Life is really cool.
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  Life is good.
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  I know some of y'all have been like, you haven't really been on social media.
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  I haven't.
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  Because living life offline, that's just kind of been my focus as of lately.
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  And I know for the social media experts, they'll say, that's not a good idea.
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  Homegirl, you're supposed to show up.
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  Yeah, but showing up for me and showing up for my family is much more important at this time.
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  I'm be honest, at some point I realized that I'm not going to say I took time from my family, but I just knew that I was very intentional with why I have not posted as much on social media.
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  I like my family.
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  I want to spend time with them, and I want to spend time with them in ways that don't require posting all the time.
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  I don't want to have to.
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  I don't.
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  I just don't.
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  I'm not in that space right now, and I'm going to jump out of it at some point because, again, like I said, my hibernation is over.
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  But I've really been enjoying the seeds that I've been sowing and watering with those closest to me, and that's very important to me.
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  I value family so much, and that's from, you know, bay on down.
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  And I don't talk about him a lot because, you know, I like to keep things sacred.
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  But I just have just been in a space where I've just been really enjoying life and I tap in when the spirit tells me to.
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  And like I said, the hibernation is over.
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  And I'll slowly, gradually get back to more regular posting.
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  But I just encourage anybody that is feeling overworked or feeling like they need to pause and take a step back.
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  This may be your opportunity to do so.
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  There's nothing wrong with that.
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  Please don't ever apologize.
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  And the only thing I would also say is invite God to everything you do.
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  That's a lesson that I always keep learning as I get older.
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  I'm very much human.
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  Like I said, I'm Never perfect.
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  I'm never above the things I say.
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  But one thing I can share with y'all is that mustard seed mindset that has been a game changer.
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  I went and bought some mustard seeds so I could look at them and see and visualize like, this is the amount of faith I need to get through.
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  That's, that's beautiful.
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  It's wild because it's so small, but it's so powerful.
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  And another thing that I have been working with is just continuing to work with because it's a constant, like decade long lesson for me.
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  But it's just inviting God in everything that you do.
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  We're always taught to be a boss, be self made, and all other stuff.
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  And it's like, well, where is God and all that?
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  Where's your higher power in all of that?
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  Yes, we have the ability to do things for ourselves, but if you saying that you are of God's image or you're a God on earth, like some people may believe, and there's no shade to that.
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  No shade to that.
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  So I'm not being shady or passive aggressive when I say that, but you still gotta tap in with the higher power, don't you?
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  So just if it's like, no matter how small it could be, just driving to the store, just invite God to go with you.
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  Yes, God is everywhere.
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  But it's different when you intentionally invite God into your life and it's a different parts of your life.
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  And what I can say is that it has been absolutely a game changer.
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  It has.
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  Again, everybody's gonna have different results based on their level of intention and based on what their own individual circumstances are.
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  But as your homegirl who loves you and wants to see you win, I'm gonna always say that because I do.
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  It's.
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  It's done wonders for me now.
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  I'm really grateful for that.
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  So, you know, just wanted to put that out there.
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  But y'all know I can't do any podcast episode without thanking you all for listening.
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  So thank you for listening.
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  Boo.
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  Friends, out of the tens and thousands of podcasts out there in podcast land since 2016, you lent me your ears.
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  As I've grown and evolved on this journey of life, whenever you feel like tapping in, and I really appreciate that.
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  So please go forth, be great.
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  Live, love, laugh, be happy, be joyous.
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  Don't call or respond, I should say, to everything that calls your name, don't even try to make a shoe fit.
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  Forget that shoe.
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  If that shoe ain't delivered to your house, don't worry about it, okay?
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  Live your life, be happy, be joyous, and be faithful.
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  So this has been another episode of the Spiritual Homegirl Podcast.
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  My name is Maria, your spiritual homegirl.
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  And remember, Boo.
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  Friends, trust the journey.
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  Trust yourself.
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  And whatever you do, do it with love, okay?
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  Love, y'all.
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  Peace.