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Olivia Dean Has the Key to Making Love Work · On Air with Ryan Seacrest

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  Speaker 1: The trending report. Tanya says Olivia Dean has the one
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  Speaker 1: key that will make us all understand love. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: And here's the thing. So the word in and of
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  Speaker 2: itself is something that everybody uses.
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  Speaker 1: Love? It is. No.
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  Speaker 2: The one key to making love work.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, I know what it is. It's the C word.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Communication.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, I thought you were going to say commitment. Yes,
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  Speaker 2: it is communication.
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  Speaker 4: However.
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  Speaker 2: However, the way she explains it is like, you need
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  Speaker 2: to say every single thought that you have out loud
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  Speaker 2: to your partner, every intrusive thought.
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  Speaker 1: Here.
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  Speaker 4: When you love someone or in a loving relationship with someone,
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  Speaker 4: I think you have to get all the things you're
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  Speaker 4: thinking in your head or your anxious thoughts. You kind
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  Speaker 4: of sometimes just have to say them out loud because
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  Speaker 4: if you keep them to yourself, the feelings get trapped
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  Speaker 4: and they have nowhere to go. And then you create
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  Speaker 4: a narrative in your head that's probably not real or
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  Speaker 4: not that deep. So I think communicate, but actually communicate.
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  Speaker 5: Just say all your things and actually that will bring
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  Speaker 5: you closer because then they'll love your weird bits too.
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  Speaker 1: You have to feel safe with the person to be
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  Speaker 1: able to do that.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, but like what she was saying, just say everything,
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  Speaker 2: just every little thing and it's going to make you
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  Speaker 2: stronger as a couple. And I was like, I like that.
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  Speaker 3: I agree.
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  Speaker 1: I think there are degrees of this. You don't want
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  Speaker 1: to emotionally flood everything.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, you do. I'm an emotional flutter.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know that you want to emotionally flood right
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  Speaker 1: out of the gate.
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  Speaker 3: I said I love you to Michael after our first
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  Speaker 3: date because I was drunk.
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  Speaker 1: But that was high risk.
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  Speaker 3: That is very high risk.
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  Speaker 1: I'm telling you. That doesn't work out usually.
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  Speaker 3: Well, here we are.
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  Speaker 1: I think it's good, but I think maybe you dose
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  Speaker 1: it and don't flood it.
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