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How to Ace a First Date (and How to Prequalify!) · Secrets They'll Only Tell a Matchmaker with Gina Hendrix

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  OK, I'm going to give you some first date tips and questions to
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  ask. Hang on.
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  First of all you all know that I am down with coffee.
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  Down with coffee I love personally, I love coffee.
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  Go go drinking it. But as a date I am down with
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  coffee. So I need you to level up your
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  first date game. And for those of you who say,
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  well, I'm not going to invest time, I might not like them,
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  that means you did not pre qualify harder up front.
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  So pre qualifying out of the gate is key, which means you
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  need to get on a call with this person and on the call is where
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  you ask them certain things you see if you like their voice, you
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  see if you like the vibe, you see if they have the kind of
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  energy you're looking for, you see if they have the kind of
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  lifestyle you're looking for. OK, So some things you can ask
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  even at that phase, even before date one would be so what's you
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  know, what are your top three restaurants that you love in
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  town? Now according to what they
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  picked, that's going to tell you a ton of things about them.
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  Are they basic and they like your basic chain simple
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  restaurants? Are they somebody who picks
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  eclectic things or they like sushi or they like, you know,
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  very, very high end Michelin star restaurants that's going to
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  give you an insight into who they are as a person.
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  It really is. I know that sounds strange but
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  asking them their three favorite restaurants in the area and then
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  you could say, well how recently have you been there?
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  Because a lot of times people like to talk about pie in the
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  sky stuff like oh I love this blah blah blah Michelin star
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  restaurant. Oh really?
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  When's the last time you were there?
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  Oh God, I don't know, 2005. I love to travel.
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  Oh really? When's the last time you were
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  there? I don't know, 2010.
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  You know, you've got to uncover so you've got to pre qualify
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  first when people give you answers like hey, what do you do
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  for a living? Oh you know I'm in sales.
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  You can't just then move it along and ignore it.
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  You have to say, oh, so well what do you sell?
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  Oh, you know, computer, computer software.
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  Well, what does that mean? Computer software.
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  You know, I'm. I'm fascinated.
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  Tell me more. Got to keep peeling back the
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  layers. So pre qualifying is key.
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  That way when you get to the date, here's how it should go.
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  So a first date, in my opinion, at fair minimum should be lunch
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  because lunch is like not such a rush.
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  You can eat, you can talk, you enjoy a meal together or you
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  could do drinks that lead into a meal or dinner or dinner.
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  In my world, I said everybody up for dinner.
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  If anybody says I want coffee, I'm like, wrong answer, that
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  ain't going to happen. So let's say you're at dinner.
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  So if your dinner now hopefully you've already pre qualified,
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  you know their favorite restaurants, you know their
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  lifestyle, you know if they're legally divorced, you know if
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  they want a relationship because this is part of pre qualifying
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  before you even get there. So then when you're on the date,
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  then you want to focus on more specific things that you know
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  that you don't know about them. Like hey, do you watch much
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  Netflix? Like what's the latest show
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  you're watching? Then you'll find out are they
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  ATV person? Are they not ATV person?
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  Then you'll say, So what else do you have going on this weekend?
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  What? What's the last book you read?
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  Are you a morning person? Are you a night person?
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  This is the kind of stuff that I think you should be talking
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  about on a first date to see if now your lifestyles and
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  interests will align. That's what should be the focus
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  of the first date. OK, OK, I hope it helps.