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Untying-the-Knots-in-Your-Family-s-Air · INSIGHT FOR LIVING: Biblical Wisdom For Everyday Living

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  Speaker 1: Milcolm Muggridge and a little less than twenty five words
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  Speaker 1: sort of says it all. Any happening great and small
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  Speaker 1: is a parable whereby God speaks to us, and the
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  Speaker 1: art of life is to get the message. Love that quotation,
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  Speaker 1: and the art of life is to get the message.
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  Speaker 1: We couldn't have a better setting, or if you will, context,
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  Speaker 1: in which God is able to speak to us than
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  Speaker 1: this one. We have time, we have nothing that is
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  Speaker 1: of a hard and fast schedule. We have quietness, we
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  Speaker 1: have privacy, we have a Bible, we have hearts that
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  Speaker 1: we can open to him. But the tragedy is that
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  Speaker 1: you will, if you're not careful, come, sit, leave, pack
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  Speaker 1: your things and go back home, and you never get
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  Speaker 1: the message. There's only so much we can do to
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  Speaker 1: help you set it up to receive the message, but
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  Speaker 1: the getting of it is yours. The other day Don
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  Speaker 1: McMahon handed me a true account that illustrates my point perfectly.
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  Speaker 1: As it has to do with context. I'll read it
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  Speaker 1: in a banal setting and at an inconvenient time. Would
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  Speaker 1: people pause to to observe transcendent beauty? This is the
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  Speaker 1: question the Washington Post sought to answer when it commissioned
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  Speaker 1: Joshua Bell, one of the foremost violin players of our generation,
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  Speaker 1: to play in a Washington subway during morning rush hour.
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  Speaker 1: Dressed in nondescript manner jeans, T shirt, and a baseball cap,
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  Speaker 1: Joshua Bell opened up his case, took out his violin,
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  Speaker 1: the Gibson ex Huberman, handcrafted seventeen thirteen by Antonio Stradivaria,
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  Speaker 1: and began to play magnificent music in the subway. He
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  Speaker 1: started with chacone from Box Partita number two in D minor.
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  Speaker 1: Some have called it the greatest piece of music ever written.
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  Speaker 1: Others consider it one of the greatest achievements of any
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  Speaker 1: man in history. Now picture this for forty five minutes.
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  Speaker 1: One of the greatest musicians alive, playing one of the
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  Speaker 1: greatest instruments ever made, played some of the greatest music
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  Speaker 1: ever written. Did anyone stop to listen? It was all
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  Speaker 1: videotaped on camera. Eleven hundred people walked by, seven stopped
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  Speaker 1: to listen. Twenty seven threw money into the open case,
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  Speaker 1: for a total of thirty two dollars. What is amazing
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  Speaker 1: is the night before, in a different context, Bell had
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  Speaker 1: sold out the Boston Symphony Hall, where the cheapest seat
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  Speaker 1: in the house was one hundred dollars. He regularly earns
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  Speaker 1: one thousand dollars a minute for concerts. Don't get your
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  Speaker 1: hopes up? Is that amazing or what? This magnificent musician
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  Speaker 1: standing there without placard, without any signs announcing or explaining,
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  Speaker 1: and the people passed by quickly to go on their way.
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  Speaker 1: I know some had deadlines, but most could have listened
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  Speaker 1: for maybe a few bars pass right on by. It
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  Speaker 1: can happen this week the same way. So I always
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  Speaker 1: look for ways to grab the attention of a gathering
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  Speaker 1: like this right from a start. So I'm going to
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  Speaker 1: use seven words that struck terror in my heart throughout
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  Speaker 1: my days at school. Take out a clean sheet of paper.
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  Speaker 1: What did that mean? Pop quiz? Huh? All right, find
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  Speaker 1: a sheet of paper, get out a pin. Husbands, don't
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  Speaker 1: lean over and say to your wife, Okay, honey, you
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  Speaker 1: do this for us. I'm not gonna no. You get
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  Speaker 1: your own pen, you get your own piece of paper,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm gonna ask you ten questions and you grade yourself.
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  Speaker 1: How easy is that. Let's take a family life quiz.
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  Speaker 1: There's no right or wrong answer, there's only your answer.
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  Speaker 1: So let me tell you the rules of the whiz.
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  Speaker 1: First of all, right, one through ten in a column
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  Speaker 1: right down the page on the left hand side, One
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  Speaker 1: through ten, following each one of the numbers. You're going
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  Speaker 1: to grade one through ten, ten being best, one being worse.
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  Speaker 1: The answer to the questions I'm going to give you now,
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  Speaker 1: I want you to give yourself a grade in each case,
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  Speaker 1: and it's on the basis of your family. Now, you
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  Speaker 1: don't have to be married. I'm talking about your family.
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  Speaker 1: If it's the family of origin, use that one. If
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  Speaker 1: it's a family that sort of adopted you and you're
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  Speaker 1: a part of their life, use that one. If you
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  Speaker 1: recently have lost your spouse, use the home and family
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  Speaker 1: scene that was there prior to the loss of your mate. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: so everybody's qualified to take the quiz, and it's from
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  Speaker 1: one to ten, and you do your own numbering ten
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  Speaker 1: being best one the worst. Number one will represent flexibility
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  Speaker 1: and freedom question on a scale of one to ten.
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  Speaker 1: Is there openness, vulnerability, willingness to flex in your home?
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  Speaker 1: Within that same question, is there an atmosphere of freedom
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  Speaker 1: where new thoughts and ideas can be shared discussed, even
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  Speaker 1: if they're unusual and strange. Is there a sense of
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  Speaker 1: family tolerance within your family? Ranks on a scale of
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  Speaker 1: one to ten, give yourself a grade number two. This
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  Speaker 1: will represent affirmation and appreciation on a scale of one
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  Speaker 1: to ten. Does your family have within it a positive
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  Speaker 1: attitude toward life? By that, I mean an absence of
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  Speaker 1: put downs and insults, an absence of sarcastic jabs done
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  Speaker 1: in I'm not talking about the kind that's done in fun.
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  Speaker 1: We all enjoy that, but I mean deliberate put downs,
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  Speaker 1: insulting kind of things. Do you feel in your family
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  Speaker 1: affirmed and valued a person of worth? Scale of one
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  Speaker 1: to ten. How's the affirmation and appreciation? Number three? This
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  Speaker 1: will represent maturity and stability in a time of crisis
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  Speaker 1: on a scale of one to ten. Do you solve
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  Speaker 1: problems together? You remain fairly stable under pressure? Do you
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  Speaker 1: work your way through times of crisis? And do you
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  Speaker 1: maintain a reasonable sense of calm even when the pressure mounts?
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  Speaker 1: Scale of one to ten. You give yourself a greed.
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  Speaker 1: The fourth has to do with integrity. Another word for
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  Speaker 1: character is is your home a place that upholds honesty
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  Speaker 1: and a high ethical standard. Are things like hard work,
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  Speaker 1: truthful communication, keeping your promises important. Integrity is the fourth question.
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  Speaker 1: Give yourself a greed. Number five would be love another
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  Speaker 1: word for commitment, love and commitment. Is your family supportive
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  Speaker 1: of each other? Do you stick together loyally? Do you
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  Speaker 1: stay beside one another when there is a criticism going
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  Speaker 1: on in one of the member's life? Is love demonstrated?
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  Speaker 1: Do you touch each other with hugs, affection, kisses, whispered
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  Speaker 1: words of encouragement and love to each other? Number five,
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  Speaker 1: Give yourself a grade on love and commitment. All right,
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  Speaker 1: we're halfway through. Five more questions. Number six. This would
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  Speaker 1: have to do with yearly activities and traditions. Does your
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  Speaker 1: family return to the same place from time to time?
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  Speaker 1: Do you have certain holiday traditions or family reunions? Are
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  Speaker 1: there memory making events that you look forward to? For example,
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  Speaker 1: in our family life, we went for thirty three consecutive
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  Speaker 1: years to the same conference ground as our children were
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  Speaker 1: growing up. Mount Herman Christian Conference Center. Thirty three years
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  Speaker 1: without a break is a memory in the minds of
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  Speaker 1: the Swindall kids. Do you have traditions that you enjoy.
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  Speaker 1: I'm referring to seasons of the year where Christmas is special, Thanksgiving,
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  Speaker 1: is a special time. Do you keep a kind of
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  Speaker 1: a network of your roots in place with those kind
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  Speaker 1: of yearly activities. Don't have to be the same place,
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  Speaker 1: but it's for the same purpose, all right. That's number six.
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  Speaker 1: Number seven would have to do with leadership. Rate yourself
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  Speaker 1: one to ten. You feel there's fair and consistent leadership
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  Speaker 1: if you're among the children and the family of that
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  Speaker 1: would be among both parents. Do you see them working
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  Speaker 1: together in their leadership? Is the leadership in your family
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  Speaker 1: reasonable when it's necessary? Has there been and is there
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  Speaker 1: strong discipline? Are there creative ideas decisiveness from those who
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  Speaker 1: lead the family? Do you know where your family stands
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  Speaker 1: on crucial issues of life? So number seven has to
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  Speaker 1: do with leadership. Number eight this is in the area
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  Speaker 1: of interest in spiritual things. Is there an absence of
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  Speaker 1: religious hypocrisy empty cliches? Is there the presence of authentic
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  Speaker 1: devotion to Christ? Do you love his word? Is it
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  Speaker 1: read not so much as a whole group reading, though
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  Speaker 1: you may do that regularly, but on your own? Is
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  Speaker 1: that encouraged your involvement in your local church? Is that
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  Speaker 1: a regular thing for your family? Perhaps even service in
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  Speaker 1: the church where you attend Number nine has to do
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  Speaker 1: with fun, leisure, and relaxation. Is your home an enjoyable
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  Speaker 1: place to be? Will the memory of your children be
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  Speaker 1: laughter in the walls? You have fun together. I've said
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  Speaker 1: for years that I hope the children remember me not
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  Speaker 1: as a preacher, but as the man who tossed their
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  Speaker 1: mother in the swimming pool and live to tell the story.
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  Speaker 1: Tossing her in the pool is not a big deal.
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  Speaker 1: Living to tell the story is a big deal. Will
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  Speaker 1: my children look back when I'm dead and gone and
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  Speaker 1: remember the laughter of their dead and of their mom
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  Speaker 1: and dead? Are they're happy times? Or his life reduced
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  Speaker 1: to a grim existence of legalism demands expectations that are
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  Speaker 1: often unrealistic. All right? Finally, Number ten expressive open communication?
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  Speaker 1: Expressive open communication? Do you talk openly in your home
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  Speaker 1: or do you have to walk on eggs you listen
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  Speaker 1: when somebody else is talking? Or do you fight it
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  Speaker 1: out verbally, in some cases tragically with your fists? Not
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  Speaker 1: that there's never a disagreement. That's dumb to think that
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  Speaker 1: our home is never a disagreement. Well please, you can
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  Speaker 1: think that if you want to. But there's a disagreement
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  Speaker 1: going on. Like we said, of the little kid who
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  Speaker 1: was told to sit down. He sat down, but he
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  Speaker 1: said to his mom, Mom, I may be sitting down,
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  Speaker 1: but I'm standing up on the end. In your home,
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  Speaker 1: is there an expressive open communication? Okay, now it's time
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  Speaker 1: to grade your paper. Add up your numbers. The highest
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  Speaker 1: possible score is one hundred. If you scored thirty and below,
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  Speaker 1: there's a lot of room for improvement. Okay, you really
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  Speaker 1: need what I'm talking about. If you score thirty in below.
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  Speaker 1: If you scored between thirty and fifty, I'd say you're
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  Speaker 1: more unhappy and unfulfilled than you may realize or admit.
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  Speaker 1: Things do need to be talked out and worked through.
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  Speaker 1: You have a lot of homework take care of. If
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  Speaker 1: you score between fifty and seventy five, you're an above
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  Speaker 1: average home. I commend you stay at it. If you're
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  Speaker 1: seventy five to ninety, you're way ahead of the pack.
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  Speaker 1: In fact, your home should be written up. It ought
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  Speaker 1: to make the headlines the news somewhere. You've scored over
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  Speaker 1: ninety two things are true. Number one, you need to
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  Speaker 1: be preaching this series, and number two, you need to
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  Speaker 1: adopt me. So I learned how to do it as well.
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  Speaker 1: As you're doing it. That's a remarkable score. I'll suggest
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  Speaker 1: that gives you a little fodder to talk about over
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  Speaker 1: lunch or after supper sometime through the time we have
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  Speaker 1: together now, Rather than are taking our own exam let's
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  Speaker 1: let God give us his statements. If you have a Bible,
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  Speaker 1: open it to Deuteronomy chapter six, and we'll spend all
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  Speaker 1: our time right here in this wonderful chapter from the Bible,
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  Speaker 1: Deuteronomy chapter six. And I mentioned earlier context this context,
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  Speaker 1: oh my, talk about having the attention of the people.
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  Speaker 1: First of all, we know the one who is going
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  Speaker 1: to be speaking is Moses. They have now reached the
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  Speaker 1: very edge of what was known as the Promised Land,
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  Speaker 1: the land of Canaan. They have come through the journey
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  Speaker 1: for decades through the wilderness. And if you're ever in
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  Speaker 1: Israel and you're in the wilderness, you know it because
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  Speaker 1: there's nothing green that's sprouting up from the land in
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  Speaker 1: the season of summer, of late spring and summer, it
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  Speaker 1: is dry, it is barren. These people have come through
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  Speaker 1: the land and they are now on the edge, and
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  Speaker 1: Moses has their attention and is preparing them for life
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  Speaker 1: in the land of Canaan. They're not there yet, but
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  Speaker 1: they're right on the verge, and Moses is hoping to
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  Speaker 1: get their attention and keep their attention, knowing that once
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  Speaker 1: they get past the barren wilderness and they move into
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  Speaker 1: a place of plenty, luxury, beauty, greenery, abundance, food, water,
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  Speaker 1: and everything, he wants them ready for that. So you
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  Speaker 1: still have your pencil in your hand or your pen
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  Speaker 1: I want you to circle four words, all right? Verse
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  Speaker 1: four the first word. Don't know what your version you're using,
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  Speaker 1: but find the word here, h ear and circle it.
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  Speaker 1: And verse five, locate the word love. Mark that verse
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  Speaker 1: four is here. Verse five is love. Verse seven, mark
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  Speaker 1: the word teach, you shall teach. Verse thirteen, find the
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  Speaker 1: word fear, you shall fear. Little tip on Bible study,
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  Speaker 1: always pay attention to the main verbs. The thrust of
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  Speaker 1: any section of scripture, any main verse of scripture, hangs
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  Speaker 1: on and revolves around the main verb, almost without exception.
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  Speaker 1: And this is certainly a case in point. Moses is
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  Speaker 1: the spokesman, the Hebrews are the hearers, and they are
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  Speaker 1: now numbering in the multiple hundreds of thousands of people.
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  Speaker 1: They're all anticipating the relief of the wilderness and the
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  Speaker 1: joy of life lived in Canaan. So Moses says, this
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  Speaker 1: is the commandment, the statutes and the judgments which the
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  Speaker 1: Lord your God has commanded me to teach you, that
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  Speaker 1: you might do them in the land where you are
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  Speaker 1: going over to possess it, so that you and your
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  Speaker 1: son and your grandson, we would say, sons and daughters
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  Speaker 1: and all your grandchildren might fear the Lord your God
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  Speaker 1: to keep all of his statutes and his commandments, which
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  Speaker 1: I command you all the days of your life, that
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  Speaker 1: your days may be prolonged. I'm telling you all of
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  Speaker 1: this so you will live longer. I'm not telling you
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  Speaker 1: any of this to restrict you or in any way
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  Speaker 1: to condemn you. I'm telling you this for your good,
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  Speaker 1: so that life will be better for you. The benefits
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  Speaker 1: will come rolling in as you do what I am
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  Speaker 1: telling you to do. Look at verse three, Oh Israel,
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  Speaker 1: you should listen and be careful to do it. That's
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  Speaker 1: the yat to growth. See the two verbs. Listen, do
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  Speaker 1: it a good old nike ad. Just do it. Listen
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  Speaker 1: to what I'm saying, and when my words are gone,
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  Speaker 1: let the message linger in your heart and mind and
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  Speaker 1: obey it. You'll be grateful for both, that it may
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  Speaker 1: be well with you and that you may multiply greatly,
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  Speaker 1: just as the Lord, the God of your father's has
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  Speaker 1: promised you. And a land flowing with milk and honey.
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  Speaker 1: I love the way that reads so many songs written
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  Speaker 1: about the land of milk and honey. These are all
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  Speaker 1: symbols of abundance and a land with wonderful houses and
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  Speaker 1: deep wells full of cool water, and crops that are that.
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  Speaker 1: There are bumper crops and they're available for you in
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  Speaker 1: this land of milk and honey. So first main word here,
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  Speaker 1: Oh Israel. In the Hebrew, it's the word Shamah. Shama
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  Speaker 1: s h little e m a h Shamah. Listen to
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  Speaker 1: what it means. This verse has been called the Shamah
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  Speaker 1: from the Hebrew word translated here. The statement in this
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  Speaker 1: verse is the basic statement of faith in all of Judaism.
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  Speaker 1: The verse means that the Lord Yahweh is totally unique,
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  Speaker 1: He alone is God. Let's leave that quotation and read
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  Speaker 1: the verse here, Oh Israel, shamma Israel. The Lord is
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  Speaker 1: our God. The Lord is aha one one. As in
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  Speaker 1: a cluster of grapes, there is Father, there is son.
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  Speaker 1: There is spirit. But the Lord is one. He is unique.
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  Speaker 1: All the other gods of wood and stone, and metal,
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  Speaker 1: and whatever may be from the imagination of mankind, those
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  Speaker 1: are all gods that you'll find all over the land
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  Speaker 1: of Canaan. But your God is the one true God,
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  Speaker 1: the Akhah God one in three. Now let me continue.
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  Speaker 1: He alone is God. The Israelites could therefore have a
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  Speaker 1: sense of security that was totally impossible for their polytheistic neighbors.
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  Speaker 1: The gods of the ancient Near East rarely were thought
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  Speaker 1: of as acting in harmony. Each god was unpredictable and
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  Speaker 1: morally capricious. Pagan worshiper could never be sure that his
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  Speaker 1: loyalty to one god would serve to protect him from
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  Speaker 1: the capricious wrath of another god. The monotheistic doctrines of
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  Speaker 1: the Israelites lifted them out of that insecure context, so
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  Speaker 1: that they would deal only with one true God, who
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  Speaker 1: would deal with them by a revealed, consistent, and righteous standard.
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  Speaker 1: All of that seems comprised in this fourth verse. When
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  Speaker 1: you travel to Israel, you will on occasion see on
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  Speaker 1: a door post as you reach down to take the door,
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  Speaker 1: even at a hotel, a small cylinder that has been
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  Speaker 1: affixed to the post itself, to this side piece on
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  Speaker 1: which the door opens and closes. Inside this little cylinder
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  Speaker 1: you can often take the top of and you will
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  Speaker 1: find written by hand the words of Deuteronomy six'. Four
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  Speaker 1: it's The. Shamah, remember it's the foundational statement of the
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  Speaker 1: people of the land Of. Israel so the first POINT
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  Speaker 1: i want to leave with, you And moses wanted to
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  Speaker 1: leave with, them is this, here the truth. Continually please
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  Speaker 1: write that down, here the truth. Continually since The lord is,
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  Speaker 1: unique since The lord is Your, god and since The
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  Speaker 1: lord has communicated his truth to, you be sure you get.
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  Speaker 1: It back To muggeridge's, comment the art of life is
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  Speaker 1: to get the. Message, now let me confess to, YOU
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  Speaker 1: i have never once gotten a MESSAGE i didn't, hear never.
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  Speaker 1: Once a message must be absorbed for me to get
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  Speaker 1: it and to do something about. It we, are in
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  Speaker 1: these days in which we, live not heard of. Hearing
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  Speaker 1: we're heard of. Listening we filter out noisy stuff all the.
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  Speaker 1: Time and, unfortunately, when for, example A sunday morning comes
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  Speaker 1: and the pastor has prepared his heart and has arranged
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  Speaker 1: his thoughts and has put together in succinct twenty five
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  Speaker 1: thirty five forty five minute time a body of truth for.
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  Speaker 1: You if you're not, careful you'll be preoccupied with what's
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  Speaker 1: coming this next, week or with what somebody in the
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  Speaker 1: church is, wearing or with some bothersome noise that keeps,
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  Speaker 1: recurring or some worry that you brought with. You you
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  Speaker 1: don't hear. It you don't. Listen AND i can find
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  Speaker 1: the same thing true in my own. LIFE i came
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  Speaker 1: across a list of examples when we don't. LISTEN i
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  Speaker 1: just want you to hear. Them you'll identify with more
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  Speaker 1: than a few of. Them When i'm thinking about an
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  Speaker 1: answer while others are, Talking i'm not. Listening WHEN i
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  Speaker 1: give unsolicited, Advice i'm not. Listening unsolicited advice always sounds like.
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  Speaker 1: Criticism WHEN i suggest that they shouldn't feel that, way
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  Speaker 1: That i'm not listening to. Them WHEN i apply a
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  Speaker 1: quick fix to the, Problem i'm not. Listening WHEN i
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  Speaker 1: fail to acknowledge the feelings of the. Speaker i'm not.
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  Speaker 1: Listening WHEN i, fidget glance at my watch and appear
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  Speaker 1: to be. Rushed i'm not listening WHEN i fail to
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  Speaker 1: maintain eye. Contact i'm not listening WHEN i don't ask
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  Speaker 1: follow up. Questions i'm not listening When i'm along with
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  Speaker 1: a person speaking AND i try to top his story
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  Speaker 1: with a bigger and better story of my. Own i'm
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  Speaker 1: not listening when that person shares a difficult experience AND
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  Speaker 1: i counter with one of my. Own i'm not. Listening
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  Speaker 1: are we surprised, then That moses begins with, listen not just,
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  Speaker 1: listen but hear. It when you hear something that is,
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  Speaker 1: moving you're often moved to, tears you're really. Listening at that.
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  Speaker 1: Point when you hear something that is full of passion
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  Speaker 1: and you find yourself, energized you're. Listening you're hearing. It
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  Speaker 1: if you pass it off as just more, words you're
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  Speaker 1: not hearing. It moses says to the people in that
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  Speaker 1: day and in that, context hear, this hear. This listen
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  Speaker 1: to ME i say that, TODAY i say that, tomorrow
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  Speaker 1: the rest of this. Week listen. Carefully this is our
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  Speaker 1: moment to get.
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  Speaker 2: It.
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  Speaker 1: Well the next word is love verse. Five so write
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  Speaker 1: down the words love The lord. Fervently first was to
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  Speaker 1: hear The lord or hear the truth. Continually now we're
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  Speaker 1: to love The lord. Fervently you shall love The, lord Your,
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  Speaker 1: god don't you love this with all your, heart with
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  Speaker 1: all your, soul with all your. Mind these words Which
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  Speaker 1: i'm commanding you today shall be on your. Heart let
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  Speaker 1: me tell you the professional hazard of the Professional, christian
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  Speaker 1: whether we be, musicians, entertainers, preachers, singers it is the
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  Speaker 1: perfunctory spirit about which we go on to do our
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  Speaker 1: work or carry out our. Gift just another, gig just
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  Speaker 1: another funeral, sermon just another, wedding just another series of,
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  Speaker 1: talks just another. Seminar it's another, conference another Crewis oh, no, no,
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  Speaker 1: no there is to be a devotion To. Christ that's
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  Speaker 1: why he, says all your, heart all your, soul all your.
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  Speaker 1: MND i can't speak for you about our first night,
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  Speaker 1: together but what still rings in my mind and are three,
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  Speaker 1: words give Me. Jesus remember When fernando sang, Them, oh
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  Speaker 1: just simple old gospel. Song just give Me jesus WHEN i,
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  Speaker 1: Die just give Me. Jesus just give Me. Jesus moses
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  Speaker 1: says to these people who were weary of the, journey
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  Speaker 1: don't let your love grow. Cold this is a family.
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  Speaker 1: Setting let that love For christ stay fervent, hot your
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  Speaker 1: whole being caught up in. IT i understand in the
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  Speaker 1: one of the last few sermons That Adrian rogers preached
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  Speaker 1: before his. Death he paused right in the middle of
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  Speaker 1: the sermon and looked, down looked up and, SAID i Love.
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  Speaker 1: JESUS i Love. JESUS i Love. Jesus and the parishioner
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  Speaker 1: who told me that said that just rings clear in
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  Speaker 1: the mind of this. Day there stood a man who
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  Speaker 1: really loved. Pastors here, today just keep Loving. JESUS i
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  Speaker 1: wasn't there at the, banquet but a friend of mine.
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  Speaker 1: Was When Earl campbell, spoke former professional football player earlier
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  Speaker 1: than That All American university Of texas Great Big Earl.
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  Speaker 1: Campbell remember the running back looked like a running fireplug
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  Speaker 1: six feet something. Tall he had earlier placed For lee
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  Speaker 1: Or tyler In, Tyler texas and his dear mama Loved.
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  Speaker 1: Jesus when he's The university Of, TEXAS i, mean he became,
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  Speaker 1: known nationally, known and before long there was talk of
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  Speaker 1: his becoming An All american and sort of began to
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  Speaker 1: believe his own. Stuff earl tells his story so, well
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  Speaker 1: and he, said just For christmas one, year he called
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  Speaker 1: his mother wanted to bring some of his buddies home
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  Speaker 1: to spend the holidays with him and, Said mamma is,
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  Speaker 1: yeah this Is. EARL i just want you to. KNOW
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  Speaker 1: i want to bring some of my buddies home Have
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  Speaker 1: christmas with. Us she, Said, earl are you Loving? Jesus
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  Speaker 1: do you Love? Jesus? Earl, Oh, mama you Understand i'm
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  Speaker 1: in college now and things are not like they were
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  Speaker 1: when we were In tyler And, earl this is your mama.
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  Speaker 1: Talking are your Loving? Jesus? Well, no not like, Okay. Carol,
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  Speaker 1: no not only DO i not want you to bring
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  Speaker 1: your your buddies on, OWN i don't want you to come.
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  Speaker 1: Home you stay right there till you Love jesus long past,
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  Speaker 1: So earl. Said he spent the loneliest two weeks of
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  Speaker 1: his life following that. Time easter rolled around and he
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  Speaker 1: called his. Bomy he, Said, mama this Is. Earl i'm Loving. Jesus,
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  Speaker 1: I'mthing i'm Loving. Jesus i'm Loving. Jesus she, said come on,
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  Speaker 1: home bring all those guys with. YOU i don't, care
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  Speaker 1: but you ain't coming home if you don't Love. Jesus
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  Speaker 1: that's what that's talking. About let's don't get too slick
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  Speaker 1: and quick about all of. This and fake a love For.
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  Speaker 1: Jesus it isn't. Real love him with your whole, heart
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  Speaker 1: with your whole, soul and with all your. Might if
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  Speaker 1: you got to know where you can't do, that then
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  Speaker 1: please step away from the ministry your bad. Advertisement folks
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  Speaker 1: need to be around those that Love, jesus love The
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  Speaker 1: lord with their whole. Heart get your stuff, together then
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  Speaker 1: step back in. Again number three is the word. Teach
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  Speaker 1: this word gets really. Personal listen, closely, parents, Grandparents you
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  Speaker 1: shall teach them what all these words see verse, Six
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  Speaker 1: these words Which i'm commanding. You, okay these words is
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  Speaker 1: what teach refers back. To you shall teach these words. Diligently,
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  Speaker 1: well when WILL i do? That, well look at what it,
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  Speaker 1: says as you shall teach them to your sons and
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  Speaker 1: grandsons and children all over in your. Family you shall
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  Speaker 1: talk of them when you sit in your, house when
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  Speaker 1: you walk by the, way and when you lie, down
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  Speaker 1: and when you rise. Up when when see how it repeats.
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  Speaker 1: It it's given you a context of everyday. Life has
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  Speaker 1: nothing to do With sunday. Religion sunday religion is. Heresy
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  Speaker 1: sunday religion is. Legalism sunday religion changes nobody's life all week.
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  Speaker 1: Long faith and fervent faith in The savior is transforming.
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  Speaker 1: Stuff this is a teaching that goes on in. Lifestyle
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  Speaker 1: it goes on while we're, Driving it goes on while we're.
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  Speaker 1: Eating it goes on around. Bedtime it goes on when
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  Speaker 1: we get up in the. Morning it goes on when
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  Speaker 1: we're getting them dressed for. School it goes on when
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  Speaker 1: we pick them. Up while they come home from, school
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  Speaker 1: it goes. On it goes. On it goes on when
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  Speaker 1: they go off to. College it goes on in our,
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  Speaker 1: letters in our. Emails we're teaching. Them we're. Communicating we're
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  Speaker 1: putting the tapestry, together and we're pulling the threads that
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  Speaker 1: are the right colors so that it makes this magnificent
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  Speaker 1: setting of this fabric of faith in the minds of our.
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  Speaker 1: Kids teach them when you living your. Life even goes
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  Speaker 1: on To savers, aid you shall bind them as a
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  Speaker 1: sign in your. Hand they shall be as frontals on your.
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  Speaker 1: Forehead some today still in The orthodox, faith take it.
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  Speaker 1: Literally they have little leather pouches you'll see them that
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  Speaker 1: they tie on their. Foreheads and before you make fun of,
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  Speaker 1: that ask, yourself IF i put The word Of god
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  Speaker 1: in the forefront of my. Mind let's be careful about
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  Speaker 1: picking at details that other people are involved in before
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  Speaker 1: we realize we don't have it together. Ourselves in other,
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  Speaker 1: words make it a part of your your frontal, lobe your,
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  Speaker 1: mind your. Heart bind them as a sign on your,
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  Speaker 1: hand on your. Forehead write them on the doorposts of your.
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  Speaker 1: House either The israelites take that, literally as they put
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  Speaker 1: that that little cylinder there on their a door. Post
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  Speaker 1: write them on the doorposts of your, house so that
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  Speaker 1: every time you come in you glance at. It this
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  Speaker 1: is a house given to The. Word this is a
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  Speaker 1: house committed to The Lord God jahweh is Our, god
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  Speaker 1: no other god before. Us you shall write them on
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  Speaker 1: the doorpost of your house and on your. Gaze why
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  Speaker 1: do all? This remember where we are in. Context we're
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  Speaker 1: on the edge Of. Canaan we're about ready to move
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  Speaker 1: into model. Homes in, fact look at how it. Reads
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  Speaker 1: he steps into the future when he says it shall come,
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  Speaker 1: About so now moves from here to then it shall
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  Speaker 1: come about when The lord Your god brings you into
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  Speaker 1: the land which you swore to your Fathers abraham And,
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  Speaker 1: jacob to give you watch, closely great and splendid cities
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  Speaker 1: that you didn't. Build, wow we're going to get to
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  Speaker 1: move from the wilderness into villages and cities that we didn't.
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  Speaker 1: Build and you'll occupy houses full of good things which
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  Speaker 1: you didn't. FILL i, mean the furniture's, there, Everything the
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  Speaker 1: cabinets will be full of. Food you'll have buckets for
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  Speaker 1: the well. Water you'll have it. ALL i, mean it's
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  Speaker 1: all tailor made for. Living houses full of good things
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  Speaker 1: you didn't. Feel you'll have hewn cisterns that you didn't.
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  Speaker 1: Dig you didn't dig those, wells they'll be there for.
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  Speaker 1: You you'll be. It you'll be enjoying the vineyards and olive
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  Speaker 1: trees which you didn't. Plant you'll eat and you'll be.
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  Speaker 1: Satisfied then watch. Out remember WHAT i told you about The.
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  Speaker 1: Doberman all of a, sudden little ears of the doberman perk.
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  Speaker 1: Up watch. Out why WHAT i gotta watch out? FOR
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  Speaker 1: i got it. Made that's what you watch out. For
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  Speaker 1: watch yourself that you don't forget The lord who brought
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  Speaker 1: you from the land Of egypt out of the house of.
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  Speaker 1: SLAVERY i love. That the REASON i love it is
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  Speaker 1: because it it reve he yields the tendency in every
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  Speaker 1: one of. Us when we are indulged getting something we
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  Speaker 1: didn't work, for something we didn't earn on our. Own
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  Speaker 1: it's called being, indulged and that being indulged leads to.
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  Speaker 1: Indifference oh take it, easy, man and that indifference leads to.
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  Speaker 1: Independence it's Like domino's. Falling we live in an indulged.
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  Speaker 1: Generation Lou holts who Coached Notre, dame as many of you,
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  Speaker 1: remember and then on to other coaching. Positions after all
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  Speaker 1: the coaching, years look. Back someone ask him what's the
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  Speaker 1: difference in the student then and? Now these are horse's.
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  Speaker 1: Words he Led Notre dame to more than a one
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  Speaker 1: hundred victories in eleven. Seasons during an, interview the reporter
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  Speaker 1: asked him to compare the challenges we face today which
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  Speaker 1: were not there when he first. Started he, said today
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  Speaker 1: everybody talks about their own rights and, privileges whereas twenty
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  Speaker 1: five years ago they talked about obligations and. Responsibilities i've
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  Speaker 1: got my, rights thank. You, hey these kind of, Gifts
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  Speaker 1: just think of the contract they're going to write for.
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  Speaker 1: ME i just whipped through freshman year in, school And
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  Speaker 1: i'm ready for the pro. Ranks you may be ready
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  Speaker 1: in some, ways but most are not ready in their.
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  Speaker 1: Character why indulging leads to this, indifference which leads to.
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  Speaker 1: Independence watch, yourself just watch out. Now the fourth is
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  Speaker 1: the fear, factor which is in verse. Thirteen fear The lord.
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  Speaker 1: Greatly put that down after we teach the young, Diligently
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  Speaker 1: we're gonna now fear The lord. Greatly fear The lord
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  Speaker 1: Greatly verses ten to fifteen or thirteen to. Fifteen fear
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  Speaker 1: only The, lord Your. God this is not a frightening.
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  Speaker 1: Fear this is a fear that is a deep and
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  Speaker 1: awesome respect for the Living. God fear the results of
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  Speaker 1: a disobedient. Lifestyle fear the consequences of walking against his.
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  Speaker 1: Will back to verse. Thirteen you shall fear, him worship,
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  Speaker 1: him and swear only by his. Name you shall not
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  Speaker 1: follow other, gods any of the gods of the people
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  Speaker 1: who surround. You by getting property that you didn't work,
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  Speaker 1: for in a home you didn't put, together and all
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  Speaker 1: of the abundance that comes with. That watch, Out watch.
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  Speaker 1: Out and the great way to watch out is by
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  Speaker 1: fearing The lord every. Day realize he's still a sovereign.
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  Speaker 1: Head of our. Lives so let me give you three
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  Speaker 1: simple points That i'm. Through number, one the fear Of
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  Speaker 1: god will restrain your family from presumption and. Pride the
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  Speaker 1: fear Of god will restrain your family from presumption and. Pride.
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  Speaker 1: Cultivated not much said these days about the fear Of.
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  Speaker 1: God it's a healthy. Word bible's full of. It the
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  Speaker 1: fear Of god will restrain your family from presumption and.
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  Speaker 1: Pride cultivate. It number, two the worship Of god will
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  Speaker 1: equip your family with strength and. Stability the worship Of
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  Speaker 1: god will equip your family with strength and. Stability participate in.
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  Speaker 1: It make worship a part of your, life and don't
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  Speaker 1: wait On sunday to do. It number, three the name
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  Speaker 1: Of god will give your family identity and. Security repeat.
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  Speaker 1: It the name of Your god will give your family
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  Speaker 1: identity and. Security teach your children these. Things teach your
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  Speaker 1: grandchildren these. Things teach, them tell, them repeat, them live.
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  Speaker 1: Them convinced them it's easy for them to. Misunderstand had
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  Speaker 1: a sweet letter from a father in our church At
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  Speaker 1: stonebriar sent me this. Note he, SAID i just got
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  Speaker 1: done putting our Daughter michaela to. Bed as, usual we
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  Speaker 1: spent time praying. Together Pastor mark told us the Previous
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  Speaker 1: sunday that Since chuck was, ill among other, things we
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  Speaker 1: should pray for him to get. Well so pray For
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  Speaker 1: chuck to get. Well my, first my daughter, prayed and
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  Speaker 1: THEN i. Prayed and afterwards my daughter looked very concerned
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  Speaker 1: and asked WHY i had prayed For Pastor. CHUCK i
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  Speaker 1: said he needed our. Prayers she still wasn't satisfied and
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  Speaker 1: looked rather. BOTHERED i talked again about your health and
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  Speaker 1: we were concerned about. It she didn't quite get. It
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  Speaker 1: she wanted to know WHY i had prayed For Pastor
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  Speaker 1: chuck's quick return To. HELL i GUESS i must have articulated,
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  Speaker 1: incorrectly he, says and missed the end of the. Word it's.
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  Speaker 1: Amazing little funny story like that illustrates the. Kids don't
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  Speaker 1: quickly get, it spell it, out more, importantly live it
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  Speaker 1: out so they can't miss. It hear, it love, him teach,
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  Speaker 1: him fear.
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  Speaker 2: Him do, it do. IT i want us to bow
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  Speaker 2: our heads, now. Please, well all of us have our
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  Speaker 2: minds whirling a.
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  Speaker 1: Little we're sort of passing and review our thoughts of
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  Speaker 1: home and. FAMILY i know your home wasn't. Perfect there
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  Speaker 1: isn't a perfect home on the, planet so don't hide
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  Speaker 1: behind that because it isn't. Perfect AND i need to
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  Speaker 1: just sort of discount. This there's some changes that need
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  Speaker 1: to be, made AND i can't spell that part. OUT
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  Speaker 1: i just know what the book, says AND i can
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  Speaker 1: testify it. Works and so Our father help us this
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  Speaker 1: day in the in and out highs and, lows heat and,
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  Speaker 1: cold in season and out of season to do. It
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  Speaker 1: give us ears to, hear hearts open to, receive wills
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  Speaker 1: willing to, change and may our concern be mainly changes
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  Speaker 1: in our own, life knowing that that will result in
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  Speaker 1: changes in. Others i'm lad to pray to, this especially
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  Speaker 1: for pastors sitting in this meeting who may be weary
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  Speaker 1: of the, work those who, sing those who, perform those
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  Speaker 1: who do their work weeken and week, out usually away from.
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  Speaker 1: Home give us Our father an authentic of, life so
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  Speaker 1: that we don't traffic and unlived. Truth make all of
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  Speaker 1: this a thing of our home and our, hearts and
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  Speaker 1: then it will work its way out into public. Ministry
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  Speaker 1: in the name Of, jesus we all. Pray everybody Said.
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  Speaker 2: Amen the preceding message untying The knots in Your Family's
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  Speaker 2: Air hose was copyrighted in two thousand and, nine and
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