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What Book Is Considered "The Narcissist's Bible" · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What's going on, beautiful people?
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  Today we're talking about the narcissist Bible or the, the,
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  the, the, the instruction book for narcissists, as it's been
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  called from people in my comments section and whatnot.
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  If you don't know what that is, y'all, today we're talking about
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  the 48 laws of power. Guess we're talking about today,
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  y'all, the 48 laws of power from the perspective of a diagnosed
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  narcissist. If you're new here, my name is
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  Lee Hammock. I'm I'm I am that diagnosed
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  narcissist. And welcome to another episode
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  of the Narcissist Go Boom.
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  What's going on y'all? What's up?
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  What's up? What's up?
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  So the 48 power, 48 laws of power are by Robert Greene.
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  It's a book that a lot of people suggest you read when you're
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  trying to be more ambitious, when you're trying to move up in
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  society, when you're trying to find power and what you know,
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  whatever the relationship dynamics are.
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  I read it when I first got involved in network marketing
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  years ago. They're like, hey man, read this
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  book. This book is amazing, tells you
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  how to become a better person, a better leader, better
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  everything. I'm like, OK, cool, you know.
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  So I started reading it. I was on doing it on audiobook,
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  right? And just the tone of the dude
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  reading it was kind of dark. I like this kind of, it's kind
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  of dark. It's like I, I, I read it on
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  Audible, right on the Audible app.
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  It was just like, welcome to the 48 laws of power.
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  Law one never outshine the master.
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  I'm like, what, what, what is kind of dark, you know, And it's
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  pretty much a book about manipulation, right?
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  I'm going to go read it again. I've read it like 3 times
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  already. I need to read it again.
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  I read it every couple of years or so just to see if my
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  perspective has changed on it. The first time I read it, I
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  thought it was super dark. I like this book is super dark.
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  It's, it's really just trying to teach you how to manipulate
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  people. But then I again, I've read it
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  again twice again, right? And I was just like, you can use
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  this book to be manipulative or you can use it to make your life
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  better. And I, I, I and I also, I don't
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  believe that all forms of manipulation are bad, right?
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  You can manipulate people into taking their medicine that, that
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  if they're sick, you can manipulate people into going to
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  the doctor. You can manipulate people into
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  being better human beings and treating people better and stuff
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  like that, as opposed to being manipulative to take their money
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  or scamming them or something along those lines, right?
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  So that that can be true as well.
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  So you can be manipulative, but like I said, manipulative kind
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  of works in a few different ways.
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  You kind of do. It really depends on how you
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  view it. You know what I mean?
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  That's my thumbnail. You'll see that on the thumbnail
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  right there. I was like, let me pay a picture
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  for the thumbnail. But yes, so you kind of go
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  through the laws and you read it and you can see how people can
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  use this book to learn how to be extremely manipulative, right?
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  You can use it, but as an empath or a narcissistic abuse
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  survivor, you can read it and learn how the mind of a
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  manipulator works. You can stay ahead of people.
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  You can. It doesn't make you bad to try
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  to stay ahead once they it's one step ahead of people, y'all?
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  It doesn't make you a bad person, doesn't make you a bad
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  human being. It just doesn't.
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  It really doesn't. And that's my perspective on it
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  doesn't make you a bad person to to want to learn how to protect
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  yourself because you kind of go through the laws, right?
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  Don't don't trust friends, use enemies.
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  Like what? Like even the the dynamics of
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  the law. Don't trust friends, use enemy
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  mask your intentions like don't let people know what you're
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  going like, don't let people know what you really are up to
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  get what you can from them. This is my interpretation,
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  right? Robert Greene, he he breaks it
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  down on his own. He has a YouTube channel.
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  He breaks it down and whatnot, right?
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  But use your own, your own interpretation, right?
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  That's where it goes. This is part of it.
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  Protect your reputation, of course.
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  Cool. You know, always say less than
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  necessary. It's law 5, which is again, can
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  be manipulative, but it can also be you being analytic, you being
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  an analytical person and just allowing people to talk and
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  trying to see who they really are.
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  You get the scope of who really people, who people really are
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  when you listen to them. When you speak less people tend
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  to tell on themselves. So yeah, you can use this be
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  manipulative to gather information about people to hurt
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  them later. Like as a narcissist, I could
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  use this right here to be manipulative later on down the
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  road as I learn who you are. I'm speaking.
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  I'm speaking less than necessary.
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  I'm just, I'm analyzing, I'm gathering information about you
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  to use against you. You see how that works.
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  That's how it works with narcissistic people like to let
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  always speak, always speak less than necessary, you know, And
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  then I feel like law 6 is definitely, definitely one of
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  those right there manipulation. It says court attention at all
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  costs. So attention over everything.
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  As to me, I see, I see that as any attention is good attention,
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  even the bad stuff. I didn't make the rules.
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  Robert Greene did, right? What's this 7 when through
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  action, not argument. OK, you can see how they can
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  they can be manipulative, but it can also be, you know, a
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  strength right there. Just it depends on how you use
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  it, like everything in life depends on how you use it.
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  The intent behind the actions matter, but the impact matters
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  more, right? The you can intend on being a
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  good person. You can intend on being on doing
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  good. I'm going to surprise my wife
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  with this gift right here, you know, but you get the wrong
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  thing. And you, so the intent you, you
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  don't, you approve that you don't listen to your wife or you
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  don't listen to your husband. I'm going to I have the intent
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  of making my wife's birthday the most amazing birthday.
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  I'm going to get her this gold necklace with her name with a
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  solid gold. And then you realize that she's
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  allergic to gold, which is why she wears silver all the time.
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  So your intent was good, but your impact was horrible because
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  you don't listen. You see what I'm saying?
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  That's part of it right there. So and then #8 says let others
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  work and take the credit. That's right.
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  Again, they could be just the boss.
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  They can be a boss being a good leader, or they could be a
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  narcissist taking, taking advantage of people around them,
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  taking credit for the work that they themselves have not done.
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  They just, oh, I did all of that.
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  That's going to be very narcissistic right there.
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  You see how I'm reading this right here as a narcissist, I
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  can read that right there and just be like, OK, I got to find
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  a way to get more from people and do less and take credit for
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  all the stuff that they do. Or you can build a great company
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  and you get credit because the company is a good company,
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  right? But we talk about narcissist was
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  a nine. Make yourself indispensable.
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  You can see how making yourself indispensable as a narcissist
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  can lead to being financially abusive.
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  They can lead to be extremely manipulative.
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  They can lead to you hurting a lot of people.
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  You see, make yourself indispensable.
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  Indispensable means that you are you.
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  You people can't make it so. People can't leave you.
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  People can't get rid of you. Let's move in quickly.
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  Let's move in quickly together. Let's have a baby together.
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  Hey, quit your job, be a stay at home parent.
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  Hey, you don't need to go to school.
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  Hey, you don't need a promotion. Hey, don't do this.
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  Hey, don't do that. You see?
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  Is that how that works? Next one, make people come to
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  you. Again.
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  That doesn't seem narcissistic on the surface, but think about
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  this. It's you're playing you.
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  You're placing bait. You're baiting people to come to
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  you. As a narcissist, I want people
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  to like me, right? Especially as a narcissistic
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  male, I would like, you know, I would like women to like me and
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  approach me. Because if you approach me, then
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  I know I can get away with certain things, right?
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  If you, if I know you like me, I know that I can get away with
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  certain things. You see how that works?
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  And this is the one I left right here.
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  Feign honesty and generosity. What fain honesty and
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  generosity? So fake being honest, fake being
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  generous, you know what I'm saying?
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  Fake, fake the funk. Be who you feel like you need to
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  be right here, you know, And that's what ends up going right
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  there, you know? And so this is the part of right
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  here, like I said, be generous and honest once and manipulate
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  them once their guard is down. This is literally the breakdown.
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  This is what the power moves. The 48 laws of power summary.
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  So this is not from Robert Green, but this is more along
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  the lines right there, you know what I mean?
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  So what's the 8 1911120? It was 11.
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  So 12 is stay away from losers. This is just the general
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  breakdown right here. Stay away from losers.
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  Of course, stay away from losers means you don't want to be
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  around people. You don't want to associate with
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  people that are less than you, right?
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  You don't want to, you don't want to associate with people
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  that are less than you and whatnot.
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  And this is how it goes in these spaces.
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  You don't want people, you know? Yeah, you you want to be around
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  people that elevate you to make you look better.
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  You want to have people around you to make you look better and
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  whatnot. 13 says appeal to self-interest, never mercy or
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  gratitude. You see, these are some of the
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  most powerful laws right here, y'all?
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  And yet, like I said, and This is why I tell so many people
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  right here, when you're dealing with narcissists and people,
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  this is kind of the stuff you have to listen to.
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  You have to look out for people's actual intentions.
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  You mean appeal to selfishness, not virtue.
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  Gather intelligence is the next one.
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  Gather intelligence, then know your opponents, then crush your
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  enemy totally back-to-back to back.
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  So gather intelligence, get to know the person, know who they
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  are, gather get more information, know their likes
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  and dislikes, and then you get to crush your enemy totally.
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  That was like, that's a summary of #16 right there.
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  Then you go to 17. Use your absence to raise your
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  value. You see how that could be
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  manipulative right there? Hey, I'm going to if you if they
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  don't, I'm going to leave. You don't get to do this right
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  here. You threaten sometimes you can
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  threaten people with your absence.
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  Again, this is just my loose interpretation, right?
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  You can threaten people with your absence to control them.
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  I'm going to leave. I'm going to find somebody
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  better. If you don't act right, The next
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  one says stay unpredictable. Never let them know you.
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  Never let anybody know who you really are.
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  That's what narcissistic people do right there.
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  You never let anybody know who you really are because that
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  doesn't serve you that that allows other people to hurt you.
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  If you know me, you can hurt me. And it's 19 right here.
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  Don't isolate yourself. Surround yourself with good
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  people. Surround yourself with powerful
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  people. But it says don't isolate
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  yourself. But then it says keep your
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  independence. You always want to have your
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  own. So people can't control you.
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  Surrender to recover. Let your victims feel smarter.
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  So. So this right here is feigned
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  stupidity right there. Oh, you know, this can be a this
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  can be a version of weaponized incompetence.
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  So you can see how these laws right here can help narcissistic
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  people become more manipulative. Yeah.
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  Create your own identity. Be, you know, create your own
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  identity is what do they do? This is what narcissists do.
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  This is literally what we do. We pretend to be whoever we
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  need. We become who we need to be to
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  get what we want from you. So create your own identity is a
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  big one. Concentrate your forces.
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  Act with boldness. Keep your hands clean.
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  So always have plausible deniability.
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  Always have plausible deniability.
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  Always seem effortless. Always seem effortless.
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  Yes yes yes yes create a cult like following and what's the
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  what does that sound like right there y'all what does it sound
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  like there till 29 says create a cult like following.
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  You always want to have flying monkeys to support you.
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  So always have people that are going to support you no matter
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  what, no matter what you do, no matter what you say, no matter
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  how horrible you are to everybody else, always have
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  people around you around you that are going to support you.
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  Control the options. Find your rivals weakness plan
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  until the end. So stay like listen to this Al
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  control the options control what what people can and can't do.
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  Find your rivals weakness. Study your partner, study your
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  study your opponent, study whoever you're around so that
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  you can you know how to hurt them.
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  You learn you earn leverage. Learn what learn the leverage
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  that you have against people plan until the end.
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  Of course, a lot of people plan. Master the art of timing,
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  because timing is everything. Control the controllables in
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  these situations. Right here you want to be able
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  to control the time in and the time out, everything around you,
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  other people's time. Even.
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  Play to people's fantasies. Learn what people love and give
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  them a little, give them a taste of it.
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  Learn what people love. Learn people's fantasies and let
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  them know that you can supply that fantasy, but then you are
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  in control of it, right? Pretend to be like them.
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  Do I even need to say anything right there?
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  Pretend to be like the person. You pretend to be like this
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  person so you could hurt them later on.
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  That's wild right there. You know, act like the king to
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  become one that's kind of like, you know, dressing for the job
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  you want. You know, ignore what you can't
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  have, which is sometimes in these focuses right here, which
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  makes sense. There are a lot of people,
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  right? Don't feel like great man's
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  shoes create compelling spectacles.
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  Keep the eyes around, you know, maybe make sure that you know
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  how to gather attention, especially in today's society,
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  right? Despise the free lunch.
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  You want any handouts? I like this.
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  For me, I, when I read that, when I see that right there, it
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  makes me think I don't want any help from anybody else because I
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  don't want anybody else to be able to say that you helped me
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  today. That's 32.
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  No, no, that's not 32. That's 4041.
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  Stir up water to catch fish. Always be the pot stirrer.
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  Always be the one knows how to plant the plant.
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  You know, to throw the best bait.
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  You want to have the best bait. Strike the opponent's leaders,
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  win both hearts and minds. So you want to be able to
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  control people, how people feel and how people think.
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  Again, that kind of goes back to the cult like following.
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  Introduce change gradually, love bomb, love bomb somebody
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  possibly right, and then slowly take the love away.
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  That leaves the person wanting more and more and more in the UN
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  control of it right there. Don't seem too perfect.
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  We all make mistakes. I'm not a perfect person.
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  Nobody's perfect. Use the mirror effect.
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  I think mirroring kind of speaks for itself in this in this
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  aspect of things right here. Don't push too far in victory.
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  You don't want to gloat too much because gloating make you seem,
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  you know what I'm saying? Gloating make you seem make you
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  seem narcissistic. Assume formlessness, which means
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  you don't want to. You always want to be able to
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  morph into whoever you want to whoever you need to be able
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  whoever you need to be. You always want to be able to
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  morph into whoever or whomever you in these situations right
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  here to be able to control the situation.
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  Never, it says never bet on stability in lasting order.
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  Everything changes, so you need to be able to change like a like
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  a chameleon y'all. So I hope y'all enjoyed their
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  breakdown. I just wanted to do a breakdown
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  to 48 laws of power and how narcissistic people could use
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  that or could apply to 48 laws in order to be manipulative, in
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  order to take control, in order to just mess with people's
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  heads. You've made it this for y'all.
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  You might as well hit that subscribe button.
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  I rock with y'all. Be safe.
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  Shout out to Robert Green for that amazing book.
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  I love the book y'all. I'm going to read it again and
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  I'm out. Peace what up y'all what up?
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  Peace.