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Put Me in Coach | Jess Ask the Podcast | S3 E1 · Jess Ask

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Hey, it's your girl, Jess. You've just entered a safe space for
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Kingdom entrepreneurs and creatives to decompress, have fun, and yeah, you've guessed
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it a safe place to just ask. Before we get into it, be
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Jessica S. Smith and invital Friends. Also make sure you DM me your
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feedback and questions so we can keep the conversation going. Now, let's get
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into this week's episode. Linda we in season three, Lindo, Lindo,
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Lilda, Hey, Libo, Hey, Paul wall We in season three,
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Deserrate Weird, Season three. How do you feel about that? The feeling
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is that it just we just went up. We just went up. And
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I don't say we just went up, but I feel I didn't see this
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last year. I did not see this last year. Really, I really
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thought so was so you only saw season two. You couldn't see past season
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two. I couldn't even see past season one because from one, I didn't
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have you. I didn't I didn't have a you, I didn't have my
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des array, I didn't have my purpose partner. I love you. I
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love you too, y'all, I'm not sorry for just addressing her right now
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because I need to do that. Y'all were in season three. I'm gonna
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say it again. We are in season three. So that means that if
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you have not listened to, watched pretty much listened to because she came in
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the middle of season two, well probably little bit before the middle, but
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she came long enough to get get things in order in order for your girl.
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Was your girl was struggling. The girl was struggling. So I welcome
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you. I welcome you to just ask the podcast. It's your girl,
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Jessica at Smith, and I'm super excited that we are here with you today.
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So listen. This is a safe space for Kingdom entrepreneurs and creators to
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decompress and have fun. You heard it in the intro, so listen.
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I need you to go ahead and hit that subscribe button for one because y'all
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be playing, y'all, y'all be playing, y'all listen, but y'all'll subscribe.
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How y'all that listen? Help the analytics? Help please help A please
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help help A please y'all. This is I'm really excited because this season I
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feel like a professional not to say that I've been doing this a long time.
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But you know to oh, like this is a good example. So
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my sisters sisters in law, So that means Kindall's sister in law was in
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mid school, right, but anytime we would have like a question or anything,
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it didn't matter that she was still a student. The fact that she
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was studying this stuff made her professional in our eyes. That's for somebody.
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They you studying it, so obviously you got more awareness than me. So
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I'm studying the life of podcasting, interviewing, and this I believe, and
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I'm gonna even say it. I believe I'm gonna have my own TV show
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someday. Just find me in desert, right, you know what I'm saying,
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get us. Why you can't out here get us while you can't because
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we're not gonna be acting funny or nothing. But so why do I say
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I've been studying y'all? Y'all, I don't even just say I've been studying
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desert? Rate you've been studying too, since like who you've been who you've
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been looking to before I give the tea on who I've been studying. So
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I'm a visual person, so I'm learning, you know, aesthetics and learning,
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you know, equipment, things of that nature. And so you know
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your boy, uh, mister tim Ross is probably the one of one of
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the top ones and David because I just love their the flow, I love
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their aesthetic, and I just love the the business part of how they put
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together their podcasts. Yeah, but I'm also a pinterest in a Google check.
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So when I see something in my brain, I'm like, okay,
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so what that really looked like? And so I've literally been on pinters trying
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to find references of what I wanted to the new set to be. And
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so I've been piecing it together and we're we're getting there. And you've been
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piecing they're getting Because this, if y'all see this flower on the back of
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the wall, Jessica want have done it for her still, but this,
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and I think this is a great example of trusting who you are serving with
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or who you're doing business with. You have to be able to trust it.
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Because the woman that God takes me and said I'm changing to see,
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I said, okay, okay, can't ask no questions. And that's rare,
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isn't it. Yeah, Because my sister Killer said, is that I
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ask a lot of questions. You do ask a lot of questions. I
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ask a lot of questions. It's not like annoying, is it. No?
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I mean maybe not for you, I mean maybe for other people.
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How you how you don't know if you don't ask. I know that,
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But like some people, I think there's a grace to dealing with people in
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general, like certain people especially like people that operate out of like intense high
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excellence, like you have to really like I know my team. They say,
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I get on their nerves, like it worked. I know that.
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I know I get on y'all's nerves. They say, bounce later. But
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then their response to what we're doing, they know they have to responding excellence,
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right, and so they also as much as I get on their nerves,
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they also thank me for getting on their nerves because they're like, I
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don't want to saying why you don't understand that. I don't understand why you
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can see this? I don't understand. So now it's affecting different parts of
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their life. It used to, you know, and I y'all gonna hear
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I'm not able to be apologetic about anything, but coach first serving her.
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I thought serving was just like I thought serving was just Okay, I'm gonna
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help you out. You should be grateful for the help. Like in my
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mind, like I did things that excellence, don't get me wrong, But
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in my ignorance, I thought that, Okay, I'm here, I'm just
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here to help. I'm just no, you're here. You're here to supply
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your level of excellence, not just to be walked over anything like that.
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I think that sometimes we make a disconnection on what proper serving looks like.
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You know what I'm saying, like, what what serving in hells? And
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sometimes we can miss the mark and great opportunities. Yeah, we miss great
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opportunities because we do things half. But when we don't have our name on
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it, M like, and so I applied you desiree because and then the
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Lord gave me just as. But of course you've enhanced. You've a baby
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when I tell you lights camera action, sorry, miss Jackson type of thing.
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You definitely enhanced what what I even saw for myself? Listen thing about
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serving when you understand true servitude, I guess I'm not serving you. I'm
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so good. I'm serving unto the Lord. You know what I'm saying.
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And so when you when you sign up to agree to serve. It's not
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that you're serving this person. Yes, you're coming into agreement with the vision,
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you know what I'm saying, But you're you're serving an excellence. You
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should be serving an excellence unto the Lord. So that way you're not necessarily
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looking for, you know, validation from people. But as long as you
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are operating and God is pleased, no, that's the highest level of to
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meet serve too. So that's that's that's what I'm thinking about as I'm learning
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to serve in a different capacity, and when you're in certain environments like you
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have to respond, you have like when you're in in environments of excellence,
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like you're gonna respond one or two ways. You're gonna run from it or
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you're gonna come up to it, you know what I'm saying. And so
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I'm grateful for the opportunity to be able to serve because you do operate on
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a different on a different level business wise, even though you probably don't.
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I don't. I don't, I haven't fully come into that yet, but
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it's true, like you already have that, Like the attributes are already already
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there, and so the people that that you lead have no choice but to
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respond to the atmosphere that is so good. So I love how you say
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it. I like how you said that there's gonna be a response. It's
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gonna be response, like you're gonna either respond in a way that is not
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conducive for you, are healthy for you, or you just gonna go from
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along for this ride. And I think that years ago, like I knew
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I was excellent, but there was still more excellence in me that it wasn't
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tapped into it until I started. I started a coaching program, Like coaches
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are needed, y'all, listen, shout out to all your all coaches,
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but shout out to our coaches. Coach D, coach j D and D
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FUMBI doctor doctor dumb. So like listen before I before I met coach UH,
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coach D. At the time I met her, I you know,
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I was decent. I think I was decent, you know, but I
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didn't even realize that the woman of God was my my coach. You know,
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she just like I. In my mind, I was like, Okay,
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this lady. I invited her to women's conference that I thought it was
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gonna be a comfort. I don't know what I thought but she when she
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prayed over me that day, she told me that this conference was more about
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me than it was about anybody else. So my willingness thinking watched this.
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So I'm I'm gonna take you back to what you said earlier. You said,
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we when we serve, we serve as unto what if we were doing
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it for the Lord and not man. This is scripture, y'all. So
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Colossians three twenty three says work willingly at whatever you do as though you were
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working for the Lord rather than for people. I'm gonna say that again.
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Yes, I'm a preachers, Come on. Colossians three twenty three says,
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work willingly at whatever you do as though you were working for the Lord rather
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than for people. And sometimes we get it twisted as a rate, like,
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we really get it twisted to the point where we can fixate our minds
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on this is this person, right, I think holly of Coach D.
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Like when I saw her, I was so listen. This is how highly
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I thought of Coach D when I asked her to speak at the conference.
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Right when I asked her to speak at the conference, I was I was
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terrified. I was so scared, and my aunt was like, I don't
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know why you're afraid. If she says yes, great, but if she
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says no, we're still having the conference, period, because the plan don't
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change when people decide to flake or to give you a no. If it's
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God's watch this, y'all. If it's God's plan for something to happen,
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it's gonna happen. And sometimes it's gonna happen when you're being even when you
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be disobedient. Watch this. When Moses decided to get angry or whatever.
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God said. Okay, I'll let you look at the look at the Promised
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land, but you won't be able to be a part of it. You
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can look at it, you can look okay, but you won't be able
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to be a part right because you you didn't line up with what I had
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going on. So now I gotta go ahead and get this off to Joshua.
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And Joshua you need to go ahead. Be botic racis because you see
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I left Moses. Hey, you see most Moses deal. Most is still
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at the mount. Okay, So we gotta folk folk, fixate our minds
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on what why are we serving? The root of why we're serving? And
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so quick story so to finish my store. So when she told me the
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the that the conference that I had, y'all was more for me than it
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was for anyone else, that was when I say it was truth. It
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was definitely truth, y'all. That was back in two thousan twenty and here
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I am now years removed from that, and I'm like, my mind is
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blown. Like the things, the things that I think about. I used
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to think I was weird for think about it, but now being around coach,
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I'm like, no, this this gets you paid. Thinking like this
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gets you paid. Thinking like this also keeps certain people away from you and
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brings the right people that need to be around. It's good. Like I
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would have never met you never, it is true, never met you,
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Desiree. And I think, y'all, the gag is that me and Desiray
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was not stilling these old and honestly, and that's only because of the type
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of personality I have, Like even like joining a mentorship group or something like
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that, I've always been the type or church or whatever just to kind of
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float in the background, you know, like I participate in but you ain't
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gonna see me, you ain't gonna hear me. I'm just gonna be back
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here chilling right, and so which goes to show the leadership that you attach
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yourself too is important because, like I said, when the in certain atmospheres
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and environments, you have to respond. So you either respond by coming up
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or you respond by going away. And and I think if you don't allow
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yourself to respond in a positive way to the environment, you're not doing yourself.
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You're not doing yourself any disjustice. And the purpose of why you being
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there is not being fulfilled. That's so good, that's so good. Everybody
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needs a coach, everybody, everybody, everybody. The reason why you probably
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you still stuck at level the level that you are is because you may've been
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coached. You're trying to do it by yourself. And there's some for one,
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that's some healing that you gotta do for yours, for yourself. I
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didn't even know what a coach was, girl, girl, what is that?
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What is that? I just knew about going to church serving being told
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what to do. And this, this is what a good coach is to
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me. Good coaches wi coach you up so well that they would start asking
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for your input. So if I if you can't coach me and then ask
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me for my input. You ain't a good coach. You're not. You're
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not, because that means that you you're not seeing the fruit goodness, you're
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not seeing the fruit of you're coaching. And this is now mind you,
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I hear, I hear this. This is for the person that's actually invested
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in the coach and the coaching. This is not for the person that is
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not invested. So it's not back on you if they these people are not
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doing their part. But I'm talking about I'm talking about an example of me.
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Yeah, the people that are actually doing their part, the people that
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are actually like showing up, the people that are actually it might take them
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a little bit because I know something. For some things, Coach, you're
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like, why don't you doing this? Why don't you doing this? Why
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don't you doing this? And I'm like, for one is it was big.
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I was fearful, I was scared. I knew the stuff that she
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challenged me and charged me to do. We're not, for one, we're
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not simple things. Listen, I'm just gonna say this. I remember on
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the call when she told you to sell Jesus. She called you a church
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girl girl. I looked at your face. I was like, oh,
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she ain't like that. That was a challenge and what and so and how
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did you respond to being in that environment he's talking about being How did I
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respond? I mean, what did that do? Like? How did you
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how ultimately did you respond? Her challenge made me have questions? Now,
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okay, and this is good. This is so good because now now she
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said something that I did not agree with. So let's let's just give Okay,
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So we on a call, and I mean coaches giving us our lives,
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each one and everybody. It's a leadership called it's a leadership, right
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she give? She getting us in check? Baby, She and unapologetic about
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right, she's getting us a check. And then says, you know,
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we gotta show up and we gotta be consistent. Right, we gotta with
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saying things She's like, she doesn't. One thing I love about her is
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that she's not out for us to just be out here serving her and using
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her ministry or her platform just to say we're doing something. No, if
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we if you're saying that you this, be that for yourself, don't just
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be that for me? And I love that, you know what I'm saying,
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Like, that's that's real coaching, like that's that's a real leader,
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right. And so so we're on this phone and she says, you know,
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Jessica, you ain't you ain't seeing you do mental mondays and you said
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you gonna do excellence like the business of a coach. Why we ain't having
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this conversations long? I mean people people think that our hard Oh child,
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I love coach, Like maybe listen it get me, but when when I
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get it, oh, I run with it like that. In that moment,
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I was like, why she talk calling me like this church girl,
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Like I I don't want to I don't want to just sell Jesus. Now
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that sounds bad, don't It sounds bad to somebody that don't understand that if
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I'm an evangelist, or if I'm called it evangelist to evangelize, everybody don't
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understand Jesus. So I can't use his name all the time. You get
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what I'm saying. So you're telling me to sell Jesus and that don't make
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sense to me. So because you didn't understand, right, is the Needle
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sent me a video? So I think this is what she is. Because
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I was I was like, I know, the woman of God did not
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just like how can I Now, let's be real. In my mind,
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I'm like, how can I really be successful in selling Jesus in the marketplace?
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Right with? Sometimes people don't even want to. They they I'm not
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I'm not a pastor, right, I'm not. I'm trying to find myself
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in the marketplace. And you trying to say, okay, take you know,
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you you the Jesus girl, you the church girl. That's what I
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was hearing at the time. Yeah, but Watchington. You said something powerful
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about being in the right environment. And she planted that seed, the seed
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that I probably didn't necessarily want to hear at the time, but she planted
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that seed. And I go to the podcast something first of all, shout
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out today David Sharon and Dunny Wiggins, Like I went for one. I'm
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gonna be honest. I went because coach Marshall. Shout out to Marshall Fox.
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I went because he was gonna be there. Of course, I wanted
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to enhance the podcast, and also like I didn't know what to expect,
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right, my my expectations weren't high. I just knew that I had to
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be in the room. I just had to be in the room. And
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I wanted to support Coach Marshall because I hadn't I hadn't made him before,
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Like, for one, we gotta get out of this this mindset. Oh,
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we gotta have so much access to our coaches. Like I'm technically not
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in his program right now, and I still call him coach Marshall. Why
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because I'm still learning from him, right, I'm still watching him. I'm
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still benefitting watch this. I'm still benefitting off the things that he imparted into
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me. Because get the gag gets, y'all. I'm not a graphic designer.
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This is the gag. The gag is I am not a graphic designer.
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But there was a season where I worked for my aunt, right and
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shout out to Yellow Rabbit pr and Marketing. I worked for my aunt,
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and I thought, and we've had private conversations on what she wants me to
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do as far as the business or whatever. Once she you know, transitions
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of stuff, Like we've had these type of deep conversations. So I'm like,
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well, shoot, if I'm gonna be doing all this, you know,
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I got the magazine, I got this, I got that. I
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had a friend that brought me to the Good to Go group. That's Marshall's
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Marshall's platform, Marshall's Coach coaching program. And I joined this group and I
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just showed up and I showed y'all. I showed Coach Marshall. He was.
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He would show up and he still does this on different days, but
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on Friday nights, I think it was Thursday or Friday nights, he would
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say, okay, post your work or post me something, post something that
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I could can't critique, shout out to the coaches that give out these free,
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free opportunities for people to be stretched, even if they don't sign up
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for your your program. But he did that, and he said, I
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decided to show one of myne my I think I was writing a book at
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that time. Well this book still is supposed to come out, but I
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was covering the process, process, process, process. So I'm doing this
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cover y'all trash like. But the Man of God, Marshall didn't do me
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like that. Marshall didn't do me like that. The Man of God,
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you know, he had questions and when some don't make sense to him,
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he asked questions. So watch this me being brave enough to show work.
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I knew. I know, I'm not a graphic designer. And then at
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that point shout out to camera man, camera, camera is just celebrating I
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think ten years years, ten years. I've been a member since twenty seventeen
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and didn't really understand the tool, like I don't know why you and I
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use camera for everything, so hashtag. But people were like dogging for camera
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and I love Coach Marshall because he says it's a tool to mean. I
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forgot how specifically he say it, but basically it whatever you use, use
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it in excellence. Right, it's a it's a tool. So he wasn't
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knocking me for using canvas. Right, it's a lost story short, y'all.
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My showing up, me showing up virtually and just saying, hey,
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you can look at my stuff and you can go in on me, y'all.
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I listen. After he was done with that live, I wrote him
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and I was like, thank you so much. I've never been so embarrassed
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and so happy and say so happy and Coach Marshall did not did not do
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it on purpose. I was so embarrassed. I was so embarrassed, but
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I was so happy for the critique, like that's how that's what good coaches
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do, like they you are uncomfortable, but you're so appreciative after the thing
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because it makes you better. Right, So fast forward, he invites me
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to be a part of his initial program, like a private group. And
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maybe it was probably I don't think, man, because it was ten of
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us. I don't remember more than ten people being on there. And these
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are people from all on different levels like I'm baby one level, like baby
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one level compared to the people that was on on these calls. But he
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invited me because I showed up. He invited me to this for this opportunity,
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y'all. I think we did about about maybe six months, probably six
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months if that, and then he put took it down just to reconstructing everything.
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But those six months changed my life. Wow, them six months change
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my life. That's why you're getting what you're getting right now. But and
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I and it's interesting, I can still hear him, all right, watch
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your spacing, watch this, watch the color and watch you know, if
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if you can't read something, the people are not gonna know how how to
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get to what they're trying to do. Like why does it? Why?
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Why is this right here? This don't make any sense? Like I literally
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still hear his voice. The seeds are still growing. And I am not
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a graphic designer, and so I would even challenge us as entrepreneurs the things
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that we even don't want to have an idea about. Get the coach for
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it. That's good, Get the invest in the coach for it. Like
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I do not regret. I do not regret going through good to go that's
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good. And I still honor the man of guy even though I'm not currently
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in his program, because what he did for me was he gave me another
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level. Like I'm still I still got Coach D. Now, Coach D
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ain't gone nowhere. Right, Coaches are a good coaches and leaders are able
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to honor other good coaches than leaders. But this is a thing though,
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It's okay to have different coaches at one time in different areas of your life.
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Let's go. You know what I'm saying. Coach DS like push her,
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she's spiritual, she's business. And then specifically you have another coach for
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another specific thing. And it's funny we're talking about coaches. That's one thing
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that that I had decided to invest in for this last quarter is UH,
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a photography business branding coach to kind of help me get my because I have
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all these ideas and I know how I want my my branding photography business to
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look and the experience that I want to offer, and it's been good,
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but I know I wanted to be better and I want to elevate it.
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Right, So that's one thing that I am invested in, and this last
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quarter is a coach for photography, personal branding. That's so good. That's
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what I think. It's also important to understand it's interesting that we're talking about
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this, yeah, because that wasn't That wasn't not the apparently it was,
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but obviously obvious was talking about. Right, So I speak about coach Marshall
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and I still and I still calling him coach, right, and they'll be
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There'll probably be another opportunity for me to say, a coach, watch,
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I need to be in your program again. But right now, this is
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not the season for that, and I think I have an open door for
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that, because, for one, it's important how you manage relationships because when
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you mismanage relationship, people don't want to deal with you. I've seen people
27:08
kicked out of coaching programs hello, just because you paid Listen, we get
27:15
such into this entitlement sometimes, like just because you're paying for somebody's program does
27:18
not mean they owe you more than you owe yourself. That's good. You
27:25
invested into what they have. They know them, they're good, right,
27:29
They didn't stretched to the max. It's a reason why you invested in them.
27:33
So you have to do. You have to be willing enough and invested
27:37
enough to do the work. And we expect. Oh, if I'm being
27:42
there, I'm not going to be the graphic designer that Coach Marshall is if
27:48
I don't put in the work. Now, that's not my goal. My
27:52
goal was to get better, and I knew that he was always gonna out
27:56
and you know, outdo me. Your coach should do. You should be
27:59
You should be okay with that. You should be okay with it, Like
28:04
it's simple, simple as that. You should be okay with that. But
28:11
I have to be okay with my coach dot being my forever. So now
28:18
you have to properly place people and properly give people their proper titles. My
28:22
spiritual father, who is the reason why the podcast is even existing right now,
28:27
because the Man of God put a demand on that, and y'all,
28:32
I can't wait to have him on the show. Y'all, y'all gonna meet
28:33
him, and y'all gonna feel the glory, y'all gonna y'all gonna be good
28:38
after that. Anyway, So what is that two thousand twenty one, two
28:45
thousand twenty two, boom boom boom. You need to do posts, you
28:48
need to do a podcast. But he also taught me. I told me.
28:52
I think it was two thousand twenty one, Yes, two thousand and
28:56
twenty one. He sent me down and he was like, who is H?
29:03
He's like, so, who is who is Coach D? To you?
29:06
Like, usually coaching programs are like six six to twelve months and you
29:11
keep calling her coach D coach D? But I mean, what about your
29:15
relationship? And these are my this is my interpretation of where he said.
29:19
These are not his egg words. And so I get, oh baby,
29:22
I get defensive. Oh baby, y'all, why'd you get defensive? Because
29:27
I enjoyed the relationship with Coach D. I didn't. I've experienced so much
29:33
walk away and disappointment and relationship. What do I mean by walk away?
29:37
People have walked away from me, people have said, okay, well I've
29:41
I've gotten this out of you. Now now you can go You're good.
29:45
And I wasn't experiencing that with her, like I felt like she genuinely,
29:52
she genuinely cared at this point, you know, there was still some unrevealed
29:56
healing that needed to happen. I didn't know that at the time, but
30:00
I feel like this was the most healthiest relationship I had had with a woman.
30:11
And so now I'm like, Okay, what is this? Yeah,
30:15
you know what I'm saying. Like I was like, this is just a
30:17
good coach, this is a good, good leadership. I've had some good
30:19
leaders like, shout out to Ryan Wood, that's my doulg at my note
30:23
five. You know what I'm saying, I've had some amazing leaders right,
30:26
shout out to Gregg. Y'all heard Grigg used to be my boss. Now
30:30
we're friends. Friends, Now we're friends. But I had never really experienced
30:36
the leadership on the level that she had given it to me, and so
30:38
I thought he was challenging it. So I was ready to nuking books like
30:42
you know, of course, because even at that point, I wasn't calling
30:48
him my spiritual father. I didn't even know who he was, you know,
30:51
what I'm saying, and so he challenged. He challenged me on that,
30:55
and he basically gave me the truth about coaching. So, coaches,
31:02
are you get a coaching or you enjoined a coaching program to develop in certain
31:08
areas, and then you may or may not have an attachment to that.
31:14
That just it's an enhancer. Right, They're always going to be a coach,
31:17
and you can probably still always address him as coach because they still coach
31:19
you in an area. Right. But his explanation of it, and that
31:23
now even my understanding of it is you might do six to twelve months and
31:27
then you're on to the next thing, right, or you might be on
31:30
to the next program that's gonna enhance something else. Well, at this point,
31:34
I have been calling coach coach for over a year and in the program
31:40
for over a year, and the Man of God said, I think you
31:48
need to redefine the relationship. And now I got here. We go with
31:52
them questions again. Good leaders, Pope, make you think, right,
31:56
Good leaders stresser the capacity of your thinking. So if I had never thought
32:01
about, Okay, who is coaching my life, right, I would have
32:05
never got to the point where she's my spiritual mother. We're not gonna get
32:07
into that in this episode or whatever, but she's my spiritual mom. And
32:13
y'all was so nervous when I when I was approaching her about this, I
32:17
was so nervous that I kept laughing. I kept I kept laughing at it.
32:24
And she was like her response to me when I told her this revelation
32:30
that I had, she was like, oh, I didn't. I didn't
32:35
have to announce what was already understood, right. I needed to settle in
32:42
the fact that this was more than a coaching mentorship relationship. I still regard
32:46
as coach. She's still my coach, right, I still she still has
32:50
access, but she is layers to our relationship. Right. But as far
32:52
as Coach Marshall, coach Marshall is Coach Marshall because Coach Marshall did the thing,
33:00
taught me how to survive in these graphic designers streets. Okay, all
33:07
right, And so I think it's okay. I think it's okay for us
33:10
to say you can have multiple coaches. You can have get the coach for
33:17
the right reason, connect with the coach for the right reason. I wasn't
33:25
looking for coach Marshall. I wasn't necessarily looking for coach d but they came
33:30
at the right time and to enhance what I needed. What thank you on
33:35
experience, what God was trying to develop in me. Watch this. There
33:38
was a reason why you're attracted to certain people, attracted certain people. Sometimes
33:44
it's gonna be bad reason, but we're gonna go with the good reasons.
33:46
There's something good in you that attracts good. There's somebols that there's something good
33:51
in you. And then God says, not only do I wanted to be
33:53
good, I want to enhance it to greatness. Why did he Why did
33:58
he get disciples? What was the point of disciples? So they could be
34:01
coached, so they could be coached properly, so they could be coached how
34:06
to do life, so they can be coached how to disciple men. When
34:09
he when he was physically not able to be there anymore, that that is
34:16
the reason, the reason by one of them, I'm trying to say,
34:22
that is the epitome. Thank you Holy Spirit for good coaching, and so
34:28
God can physically stay here, but his presence. Thank you all the spirit
34:30
a good a good coach, their presence remains. Listen the people, the
34:37
bad leadership I experience. I can't even remember their name. I just remember
34:39
how they made me feel. But the good coaching, a good leadership that
34:44
I've experienced, I still call them what they what they are. And that's
34:46
that's the reason why you're gonna get coach mart from me. And Coach D
34:51
is coach D because I that's how it introduced her. But she profit is
34:54
D, doctor D whatever whatever she whatever atmosphere she's in, that's who she
35:00
is to me, right, And so we have to understand how powerful coaching
35:04
is and how necessary coaching is. And watch this, I'm even entering into
35:07
a place, well not not I'm not only being being coach. I'm being
35:14
stretched to coach. And that is scary. It's what scary, scary scary
35:21
monster, because now I gotta trust that was in me, that I'm able
35:27
not only to able to articulated, but that it's good enough to expose.
35:40
And that's a confidence piece. That's a confidence piece. And that's why going
35:45
back to the podcast summit, and I will probably talk about that on another
35:51
another pot like going back to the podcast summit. It's just like the environment
35:58
gave me access to the confirmation I needed it. Gave me access to the
36:05
confirmation I needed to what I was already thinking about right, what I was
36:08
already thinking about doing. And so the coming about excuse me, Jesus Jesus
36:15
being a church girl, a child, I think it was probably trigger too,
36:20
because that's probably people called me when I was growing up, and I
36:22
just being a preacher's kid. And y'a think that's the thing though, I
36:29
think the revelation is the gag is, yes, you're selling Jesus, but
36:34
like you said, we use the serment like even now I have to use
36:38
the serment sometimes when to be like, oh Jesus, right, But it's
36:44
your lifestyle like you sell, you sell Jesus and the light in your lifestyle,
36:47
how you love people, how you treat people, how you show up,
36:51
how you handle your business. To me, that's selling Jesus without saying,
36:54
hey, Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, Jesus,
36:58
Jesus, Jesus. I'm a Christian Jesus believer. Chris, what hey,
37:02
hey eat about? But I think you had to get that revelation on your
37:07
own to to to really start showing up wholeheartedly who you are and who He's
37:12
called you to be marketplace. You know what I'm saying, because the what
37:17
the gag gives you, guys that I'm gonna unapologetically put this in the atmosphere
37:22
is that God gave me the revelation through a young man that I had never
37:30
heard of before y'all ever in life, and he was in I'm gonna I'm
37:37
gonna tell y'all his name is is second because why she I don't remember the
37:39
man name here? It is. He was at the podcast something. He
37:51
was at the podcast something and I went he was teaching on what are you
37:57
teach on? I think he taught on like the vices. I think he
38:00
was talking about how to make how to get quality videos basically. So I'm
38:06
thinking, I'm taking those down for for me. And there's a ray,
38:08
but they look there's a ray because she's the one that's behind the behind the
38:10
camera. But the Man of God dropped a nugget that didn't know it didn't
38:15
know. The body has killed catch with me. So his name is and
38:19
I do not want to butcher it. Omar, I'm not. I'm just
38:23
gonna say Omar, e's e l T A k R O R. I'm
38:30
gonna try l tacerory. Is that how you say his name? It's him.
38:37
It's him right here on Instagram. I'm not gonna. I'm sorry for
38:40
bushing your name, Omar, and the and the gag is it's pastor Omar.
38:45
That's he announced on stage that he was a pastor. Why is that
38:52
so important? Because I believe that was a big thing that the podcast is
38:58
basically what what solution or gap are you feeling? Right? And so when
39:04
he said that he was a pastor, y'all, it did something to me
39:07
because I felt like I was being my calling or my marketplace positioning is for
39:15
kingdom leaders. This is why you got just asked a safe space for kingdom
39:20
entrepreneurs and creatives. I didn't make that up myself. The Lord gave me
39:23
that right. So he was preparing my heart that my marketplace voice would be
39:28
specifically, are geared towards a target, towards kingdom leaders that are interested in
39:34
having a voice in the marketplace. How do you go from being behind the
39:37
poolpit or being in leadership and exude yourself so much to the point where people
39:44
believe you outside of church atmospheres. That's and so when I saw him,
39:50
and he announced that he was a pastor, and he's on a platform with
39:53
people. Some of them people didn't even believe in the Lord, but they
39:59
was like, y'all people are literally lined up for one. I should have
40:01
known he was a pastor because he was at their door Green People before we
40:06
came into Pastor Olmar came out. He was Green People before, and so
40:13
I didn't realize it was him. I didn't realize that he was the one
40:15
that's gonna be on stage. So now you got this man. He's excellent
40:19
in his field of photography, visuals coaching. And then he say he's a
40:24
pastor. That blessed me so much, so much to the point where I
40:28
got in that line. I was the last one, and I said,
40:30
I don't want nothing from you. I don't care about know the cameras or
40:31
anything like that. I just want to say thank you your presence, your
40:37
the simple fact that you're present here today and showing that. Yeah, I'm
40:40
minister, but I'm I'm bombing ministry and on bombing marketplace. That's my calling.
40:45
I'm here to show you Kingdom leaders how to be bombing ministry and in
40:51
the marketplace. And I wasn't confident about that before I was in the atmosphere
40:54
of seeing somebody that was doing who I'm actually exemplifying who I am targeted to.
41:01
Yep, listen like that. That gave me so much confidence because it
41:09
wasn't even about his name. It was about who God had called him to
41:13
be at the time, because you se y'all still can't pronounce the man man
41:15
a God name and we're gonna get that together. But it was more important
41:20
for me to even be there. Yeah, he gives that. He actually
41:23
gives out, you know, free information on if you follow him, you
41:27
know what I'm saying, and that those little nuggets, if you just keep
41:30
down the rabbit hole, you can probably figure out some stuff by yourself.
41:34
He gives that healthy enough information. But in that moment, who he was
41:45
or his name didn't matter. It was who he embody and the fact that
41:51
that one liner, the fact that he was like, yeah, I'm a
41:52
pastor and this is what we're using it. I'm like, what you all,
41:57
pastor, you're power stock and you own this type of stage, talking
42:02
this type of language. You know, sometimes we can be surprised that pastors
42:07
are human, that pastors like bringing your pastor, Pastor Gates, dope all
42:13
the way past the gates, the gates. I hope to have her.
42:19
I want to have her one day, Pastor Gates. This is my request,
42:22
and I hope your response this, Yeah, I want to own your
42:30
cause. The thing is she is doing she's she's embodying that like she a
42:37
pastor pastor, like she she a pastor pastor, and she oiling, she's
42:43
unapologetic oiling. But I also like the aspect that she she exposes her marketplace
42:50
position. And I got like, I like how I'm saying that the marketplace
42:53
position. Yeah, because at the end of the day, it doesn't the
42:58
marketplace doesn't change that I'm a child of God. Yeah, the me being
43:00
a child of God actually enhances the marketplace. And so now some of people,
43:06
some people don't have that confidence to go after what they want to do
43:08
or what they see. Oh, I'm using quotations, y'all. Secular people
43:15
being successful successful with when we as kingdom kingdom entrepreneurs and creators have to realize
43:22
all theyre doing is applot, is applying biblical principles that they don't fully understand
43:29
it's biblical to what they're doing. Discipline, you know, serving giving and
43:38
you know what I'm saying, investing. They like to use the word,
43:45
I mean quotation marks manifesting the manifesting, right like, but we got the
43:52
rule book on it and we don't activate it or take it. It says
43:57
going. Therefore, they don't say, go you Therefore in the church house,
44:01
go you there? For is where are you going? So I'm here,
44:05
we we we you your building. Shout out to des al rate there
44:09
Gil. If you need some photo of a videography comes this is right on,
44:15
because you know, I honestly had to come to a point kind of
44:20
similar where I had to realize that marketplace and ministry like I'm a I'm a
44:28
licensed cosmetologist, photographer, videographer, all the things, which is a marketplace
44:32
service, right, But I had to come into alignment with God wanted to
44:37
use my life and ministry and ministry don't mean the four walls of the church.
44:40
I kept wondering before, I kind of before twenty twenty one, before
44:45
if he woke me up for real, right, I kept wondering. I
44:47
was like, Lord, why am I going home feeling so heavy? Like
44:50
I'm doing hell? Like talking to people they're sharing, they point, they
44:53
crying, they doing all these things like why am I going home so heavy?
44:57
Like what's going on right here? And I had to realize that this
45:00
is my ministerial platform, This space that I have is my ministerial platform.
45:05
So I am a kingdom entrepreneur come and so I had to shift my mindset
45:10
in that. So I don't know, I don't have to show up saying
45:13
hey, Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, because I need to pray for you'll
45:15
will. But when they walk into the door, they already stay. It's
45:19
already It's something about Atmisphere, it's already different. I'm gonna say, I'm
45:22
Beyoncet. I get to hear people say your vibe is just so, you
45:25
got such a good vibe, and I'd be like, oh, okay,
45:29
thanks all the ghost That's what I've been saying in my mind. But I
45:30
had to just come into alignment with that and understanding that it's kingdom, kingdom,
45:38
Kingdom, kingdom, kingdom, and it is okay to be the world
45:44
has done so like we get so invested in the world and their thoughts about
45:51
the kingdom versus us being so overwhelmed by our decision of being a part of
45:57
the kingdom that we met. We feel embarrassed to say, oh, we're
46:01
kingdom this and we're Kingdom that, right, and then use the name of
46:06
God, use the name of Jesus. Listen, David Emotier, I watched
46:14
a video. My y'all, we're gonna have to link this video. We're
46:19
gonna have to link this one. David Emotier was on social social Proof and
46:24
apparently Donny was coached by him and they were talking. You know they have
46:32
he has this uh envision you platform. Awesome. I'm excited about this.
46:38
I just ordered me some alive. It's a super food. But I'm not
46:42
gonna get into that right now. I just ordered me some will link there
46:46
too. But David Emotier, this man of God is a billionaire. The
46:59
same grace, same grace, the Lord, the grace that you had on
47:06
mister emltyer. It's the same grace. I shall walk home, I declared,
47:09
come on, same grade, same grace, billionaire. This man was
47:15
talking about how he came up with envision You and he said he said that
47:22
he was sitting on the couch and Holy Spirit said that gave him the name
47:30
envision you. Now I'm gonna stop because I was thrown I was taken aback
47:37
that the fact that this man said, Holy Spirit said, do you know
47:40
how many people say Holy Spirit publicly? Like address Holy Spirit as Holy Spirit
47:47
as with his name Holy Spirit? He said, he didn't say something said,
47:52
He didn't say something said, he didn't say. The ideal dropped on
47:55
him. The Man of God said, and go listen. We're gonna link
47:59
this video because it's proof. It's proof. I might just screenshot it or
48:04
screen record it for y'all just and put it on the platform. Listen.
48:07
The Man of God said, Holy Spirit said it's time and gave him the
48:15
word in vision you or it might have been vision or something like that,
48:20
and then no, it was an envision. And then he added to you,
48:24
So now you got this influential man and this or we were going somewhere
48:31
with this. You got this billionaire, You got this man that has has
48:37
networked his butt off, right because he's known, well known in the networking
48:42
marketing world, network marketing world. And this man said, Holy Spirit,
48:46
that listen for y'all. Y'all can think I'm church, y'all gonna be,
48:51
but that does something for me. For when you when you really love God
48:53
and you have a heart for God, but you want to be great in
48:55
the marketplace and you see somebody and you hear somebody to say, Holy Spirit
49:00
told me some stuff just not explainable. Some stuff you just have conversation.
49:06
When you understand that you have your own personal relationship with Holy Spirit, you
49:08
have your own personal relationship with the Lord. You appreciate people that are still
49:13
grounded, my God, that are still grounded and mature enough to say this
49:17
ain't me. That's that's the way he said. I'm just acting out what
49:22
Holy Spirit is saying, come on somebody. And sometimes we are stuck because
49:27
we want to explain, be able to say a worldly explanation instead of standing
49:31
on our kingdom explanation and God's expectation of us to just go there for And
49:37
that's literally what David, David, mister emoti Emotia did is that he sat
49:43
down on a I don't even call it a secular platform because my understanding that
49:47
Dave and done he believe in the Lord too. But they don't make they
49:51
they're not just like open they welcome everybody. So it's not a limited platform,
49:55
which I love right, this is not just asking a limited platform either.
49:59
Okay, however, we're gonna talk about the Lord. However, unappligically,
50:05
you're sitting on this platform, and you said, you and this listen,
50:09
this is this is this is a couch. He's sitting like this,
50:12
y'all. I hope y'all can stay here, but y'all, y'all on YouTube
50:15
watch this. This is how he's sitting. Where got his own like this?
50:21
Comfortably? He said, yeah, the Holy Spirit, Bro. You
50:24
said that, like people really understood who he is. So now he's able
50:30
to in the marketplace, his marketplace platform draw people, draw people to Jesus
50:37
because he's given God the credit. He's given God the credit that he deserves.
50:43
And you wonder why he's a billionaire. I wonder how many searches said,
50:46
who is Holy Spirit? Who? Who is? Who is? Who
50:52
is this Holy Spirit? Spirit talks about? That's given him? Who is
50:53
the ideas? Who is? Who is Holy Spirited? Giving you money?
50:59
You this dollar? Ideas? Find out? Find out? Listen? And
51:05
so you got this man, this man that has experienced different levels of transition
51:13
failures, right because he talks about on the pot, y'all, gotta go
51:15
listen to that pod man. He talks about how success and failure have to
51:22
go at the same time. So anytime we experienced is success, there's some
51:25
some type of failure that comes around with it. When we experience failure,
51:29
there's some successes come come. Really, it's almost like the idea of the
51:32
wheat and the tear growing together, right, It's almost like that. And
51:37
so y'all, y'all, I'm not gonna I'm not gonna talk about the whole
51:44
podcast. I'm gonna we gonna link it. It's in the link. Go
51:49
look at the link after this, go watch it because it's absolutely amazing good,
51:54
so amazing, y'all. At the end of the day and then the
52:00
day if we if I wanted to wrap this up, des ray because I
52:05
feel like I'm getting to my preachers annoying because it's so freeing to I'd be
52:13
able to identify Kingdom entrepreneurs that's doing it the right way, yeah, and
52:19
successful and not saying expecting the Lord to drop physical manner all the time.
52:24
Well, even when he dropped physical man manner, I just learned the other
52:28
day that they had to grind it to make what they need to actually eat
52:34
right and so God, Uh, I think Pastor Daniels, Darius Daniels I've
52:39
talked about this. He was like, literally, we have to take what
52:45
God has given us and go through the process of it to reap the reward
52:51
right. But sometimes we're like, God, you ain't sitting no clients.
52:52
What have you made a phone call? Have you told people what you were
52:55
doing? Are you on are you on social media? Which is free?
53:00
Announce what you're doing? Like God has giving you platforms, on platforms.
53:04
God has given you tool at a tool, but you're not using it.
53:07
You're not using it and so more the story he is. I know,
53:10
we went a few different places. It was good though, we went a
53:14
few different places. What the story is, get your coach, Get a
53:17
coach, get you a good one, probably identify your coach. Honor these
53:22
people. Honor the people the best honor you can show somebody is actually doing
53:28
what they told you to do, like suggest that you do and they've taken
53:32
out, especially when they take out extra time with you, like if they've
53:36
taken out extra time to respond to your DM or do anything, Honor them
53:40
by trying at least trying what they say at least try what they say.
53:45
If it don't work, cool, They're human, it might what they may
53:50
work for them may not work for you. However, at least honor them
53:52
by trying and get doing what's doing what's best for you. And so I
54:00
think we got more on this subject, and I think we might talk about
54:02
it again, but we might have a guest on that next time to just
54:07
give us a full understanding of how important and the important the connections are.
54:12
And so desiray you got any final thoughts before I closed us out, I
54:19
think the Holy Spirit had his way because we did not. This wasn't even
54:22
planned. That's not what I told you were talking about what you said we
54:25
was talking about, and so we talked about exactly what we needed to talk
54:28
about. That's and that's how that's how it happened. So, oh,
54:30
announcement were David sha put on a demand on everybody. I'm in the podcast,
54:37
uh, the seventh Figure podcast coaching, and I'm excited about that.
54:43
One of the things he did tell us is that we have to be consistent.
54:45
And so let me apologize for you for the inconsistency of taking a break
54:50
and doing all this stuff like that. I thought this was conducive for my
54:54
schedule and conducive for me. But now I'm learning that I'm acting in what
55:00
I say pro active cause time reactive costs money, and so we're being pro
55:05
active. So we know that you can hear and be a part of the
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community. Every Thursday. Can somebody say everything everyday? So no more breaks?
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No more breaks? Oh can you? Can you pray to responded to
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the environment. That means that the Lord will be seeing in more team members.
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The Lord will be giving us oh more tools. The Lord will be
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giving us access to things that we haven't even asked for, just because we're
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showing up. And so I love y'all until next time. Until next Thursday,
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listen, Remember the life could be more simple if you just ask.
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Till next week. Hey, y'all, thank you for listening to just ask.
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If you enjoyed this experience, be sure to like coming and rate so
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others can find the show. If you'd like to stay connected with me,
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feel free to follow me at thee Jessica at Smith on all platforms. Again,
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I'm your girl, Jacks. Until next time,