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Jazmyn W and Joy Taylor Roast Hecklers, Bad Hookups & Lame Men · Two Personal with Joy Taylor

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  Speaker 1: Men don't gain respect for you. Okay, they either respect
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  Speaker 1: you or they don't.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, listen, I love a good dick pic. When
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  Speaker 2: requested on solicited is the quickest way to get me
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  Speaker 2: to never talk to you again.
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  Speaker 1: Your twenties are not for long term relationships. They're not
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  Speaker 1: for kids. Therefore self development fun torking in Miami.
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  Speaker 3: What was I talking about?
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  Speaker 1: You want to sleep on somebody?
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  Speaker 3: I know ya yah, the micro penis distracted me.
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  Speaker 2: Hey, guys, welcome to Personal I'm Joy Taylor. Thanks so
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  Speaker 2: much for joining us today. If you haven't already, make
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  Speaker 2: social media's.
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  Speaker 3: At two Personal Show.
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  Speaker 2: I have been traveling the past couple of weeks. If
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  Speaker 2: you have been following me on social media at Joy
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  Speaker 2: Taylor Talks, I've been on the road for a while.
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  Speaker 3: So I am here.
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  Speaker 2: In New York, in the beautiful New York City at
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  Speaker 2: the best time of the year.
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  Speaker 3: It's been us open.
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  Speaker 2: I was at my nephew's game this weekends at MetLife
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  Speaker 2: and it's just turned fall. It's like the best time
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  Speaker 2: to be in the city. So we are. We're having
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  Speaker 2: a great time. I hope you've been following along, and
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  Speaker 2: I'm very excited for today's episode. We'll get to Never
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  Speaker 2: Too Personal later on the show, but my girl, Jasmine
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  Speaker 2: W is joining the show today and she is amazing.
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  Speaker 2: She's hilarious. She's an incredible stand up comedian, she's an actress,
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  Speaker 2: a content creator. I have been following her for a
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  Speaker 2: very long time. If you've been following her also, one
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  Speaker 2: of her amazing takes is about men dancing, which we
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  Speaker 2: get into right away.
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  Speaker 3: She's incredible.
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  Speaker 2: She is also in our dear friend Kevin Stage's new
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  Speaker 2: show or not new show, his second season of Churchy,
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  Speaker 2: so make sure you check that out as well.
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  Speaker 3: Here is Jasmine W.
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  Speaker 2: I am very excited to have a brilliant comedian podcast
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  Speaker 2: hosts Wonderful Wonderful Roaster of Terrible Dates on social media.
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  Speaker 2: She's a social media maven, sharp humor, unforgettable energy. Missus
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  Speaker 2: Jasmine W. Welcome to you personal what an intro. Thank
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  Speaker 2: you so much, You're welcome.
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  Speaker 3: I'm working on these.
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  Speaker 2: You can follow her at Jasmine JW. Her podcast Jazz
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  Speaker 2: after Dark is available on her Patreon, The Secret Society,
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  Speaker 2: and you can see her comedy show at the Philadelphia
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  Speaker 2: City Winery Live on September twenty fifth.
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  Speaker 3: So a lot going on. I love your work. I
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  Speaker 3: was actually quoting you the other day.
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  Speaker 1: What'd you say?
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  Speaker 2: I mean, unimaginable that man would start dancing? Yeah, I
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  Speaker 2: mean just where were you? Oh not with a man dancing?
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  Speaker 3: Lord?
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  Speaker 1: God, I know when you were. You were in his presence.
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  Speaker 3: No, lord, it's crazy to imagine that.
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  Speaker 1: Oh you didn't see it in person or no?
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  Speaker 2: No, no. Someone was talking about it and I was like,
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  Speaker 2: so a man just started dancing like in the place
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  Speaker 2: by himself. Yeah, and I was like, no, no, no, jazz
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  Speaker 2: would't have been almost. I wish you had videos so
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  Speaker 2: I could send it to her.
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  Speaker 1: I know. I get videos of men dancing all day
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  Speaker 1: in my DMS. I love it though some of them,
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  Speaker 1: some of them actually save and I should comment on
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  Speaker 1: I have them saved, But some of them just like,
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  Speaker 1: don't send me nothing like this ever again, because because.
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  Speaker 3: You don't deserve that, you know, like I deserve better
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  Speaker 3: than this.
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  Speaker 2: That to be clear, there's only so much of men
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  Speaker 2: having fun that I ever want to see. But like,
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  Speaker 2: but because why aren't you building a road? But I do?
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  Speaker 2: You got to give everyone more context because everyone always
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  Speaker 2: thinks I hate man anyway. So yes, let's give a
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  Speaker 2: little more context to this, because this is this is
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  Speaker 2: I associate this with you.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, and I've made it. I've embraced it. You know,
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  Speaker 1: a lot of men bully me on Facebook because I
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  Speaker 1: love to bully them, and they're like, when are you
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  Speaker 1: gonna let this go? I'm like never, never. As long
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  Speaker 1: as I get the videos, I'm gonna keep talking about it.
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  Speaker 1: But it's not. It's not that men can't dance or
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  Speaker 1: line dance or do the electric slide. It's when he
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  Speaker 1: decides that this is his opportunity to give a solo.
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  Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, Like, all this ain't your
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  Speaker 1: opportunity to give a solo, Okay. Correct, That's the thing
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  Speaker 1: I don't like.
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  Speaker 3: If it's not your wedding. If it's not not, not
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  Speaker 3: you're the best man. Okay, not, you're a groomsman. Your way.
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  Speaker 3: If it's not.
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  Speaker 2: Your wedding, we are celebrating your nuptials.
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  Speaker 3: No.
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  Speaker 1: I will also accept your birthday. If it's your birthday and.
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  Speaker 2: You really have to be lit, you can't be too
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  Speaker 2: early in the night, yes, and don't.
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  Speaker 1: Do it all night either.
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  Speaker 2: Wait till mine so you got one song to get
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  Speaker 2: your solo.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, thing off.
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  Speaker 2: Do be honest though, like not to give men any credit,
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  Speaker 2: but like women can't really be doing this either, Like
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  Speaker 2: the girl in the club that's doing too much is
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  Speaker 2: it's not for me either, But if I have I
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  Speaker 2: have to pick a gender that's allowed to do this.
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  Speaker 2: Of course can be women, you know what.
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  Speaker 1: The girl who does it in she's not the girl
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  Speaker 1: I came with, but I do appreciate her for bringing
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  Speaker 1: the energy, you know, but like a little bit.
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  Speaker 3: Just a little part of the song, it can't be
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  Speaker 3: the whole song.
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  Speaker 1: I'm a hyper up either.
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  Speaker 3: Way, of course, like everything else.
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  Speaker 2: And I have ever said this if in the moment,
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  Speaker 2: I'm going to encourage her.
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  Speaker 3: But I just I love I love that bit of yours.
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  Speaker 2: And there's also another part that I love, which is
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  Speaker 2: the crazy dating stories.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, who is it Sarah? It is the waitress.
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  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, Sarah's the my waitress. A lot of people
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  Speaker 1: don't know Sarah's white. In my head, oh I knew
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  Speaker 1: Sarah was white.
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  Speaker 3: See yeah, okay, of course it was like, yeah, I
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  Speaker 3: knew Sarah was white. There was no explanation needed. Perfect, Yeah, Sarah, get.
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  Speaker 2: The Bill, we gotta go, Yeah, what was the most
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  Speaker 2: Just so you know, I'm you have to you gotta
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  Speaker 2: go fologize because I am just I'm having a friend conversation,
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  Speaker 2: like this is what I wanted.
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  Speaker 3: To talk to her about.
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  Speaker 2: This is not even for y'all, This is for me.
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  Speaker 2: What made you come up with that bit? And like,
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  Speaker 2: did somebody send you a story? Was it your own
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  Speaker 2: first original story?
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  Speaker 3: You know what?
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  Speaker 1: It's really mostly inspired by things that I see online, right,
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  Speaker 1: because when I started doing I've been doing these dating
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  Speaker 1: stories for years, but I was married, Like I wasn't
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  Speaker 1: going on dates, so it was like, oh, it was
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  Speaker 1: my friend's stories. It was things that I saw online
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  Speaker 1: that I thought were absolutely ridiculous. So most of it,
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  Speaker 1: most of the dating stories are true. They're inspired by
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  Speaker 1: things that I actually see online, women telling their stories
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  Speaker 1: or whatever, and I just like to recreate them or
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  Speaker 1: exaggerate them or you know, make fun of them, and
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  Speaker 1: I think it's very funny.
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  Speaker 2: There's also I'm just going through her entire cala obviously
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  Speaker 2: a fan. There's also the dealing with white people.
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  Speaker 1: Yes that's from personal experience.
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  Speaker 2: And what Okay, I can't I can't remember her name,
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  Speaker 2: who's the woman that always comes in?
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  Speaker 3: Katie, Katie, Katie. Oh, nobody asked for this right now.
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  Speaker 1: I used to work in tech. There was a girl
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  Speaker 1: that was a Katie. She was first of all, she
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  Speaker 1: was like twenty two. I worked for a space company,
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  Speaker 1: right and she thought that she knew She was just
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  Speaker 1: the most annoying person that thought she knew everything. I'm like, baby,
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  Speaker 1: aren't you sleeping with the manager? Like such your ass? Now?
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  Speaker 1: Like you know, and they're always sleeping with the manager? Okay,
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  Speaker 1: but it's kind of like, you know that annoying person
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  Speaker 1: at work who acts like they know everything, but they're
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  Speaker 1: also somehow clueless and also.
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  Speaker 2: Just has to insert themselves in the conversation. Yes, like
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  Speaker 2: we were done with the conversation. Why why is there
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  Speaker 2: more to say? And it's all about history months? Yeah
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  Speaker 2: girl please?
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  Speaker 3: Yea? So are you are you dating now?
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  Speaker 1: I'm dating? Yeah?
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  Speaker 3: Have you had and were you're dating in Los Angeles? Yeah?
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  Speaker 2: Have you had the LA dating like dating in Los
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  Speaker 2: Angeles experience or has it been positive for you?
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  Speaker 3: You know what?
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  Speaker 1: I I'm the type of person I think that if
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  Speaker 1: you want positive results, you have to think positive. So
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  Speaker 1: I'm not one of those people that say, oh, there's
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  Speaker 1: piercing the dating in the dating pool or dating sucks.
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  Speaker 1: And maybe it's because I was in a relationship for
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  Speaker 1: such a long time. I think dating's fun and everything
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  Speaker 1: is low stakes, and I'm out here for a fun
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  Speaker 1: time and a key key, you know, until I find
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  Speaker 1: somebody that I really like, you know. So I've had
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  Speaker 1: some really good experiences and I've had someones that weren't good.
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  Speaker 3: M hmm.
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  Speaker 1: I've had to walk out on a couple of people,
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  Speaker 1: like got up and just left.
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  Speaker 3: I have never done that.
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  Speaker 1: Bro, It's oh, it's so fun. Do it on your
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  Speaker 1: next one.
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  Speaker 2: Just got like you were just like I'm done with
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  Speaker 2: this conversation and I'm out.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, Like the guy was being kind of mean to
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  Speaker 1: me and I don't tolerate mean. Like it was a
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  Speaker 1: little bit like passive aggressive, and I told yeah, and
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  Speaker 1: I told him, I said, you know something, he said,
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  Speaker 1: I was like, you kind of hurt my feelings, you know.
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  Speaker 1: So he was like, how did I hurt your feelings?
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  Speaker 1: Now I hurt your feelings. I was like, well, you know,
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  Speaker 1: I want to give you an opportunity to turn turn
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  Speaker 1: turn it around. And he was like, I could take
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  Speaker 1: you home, and I got up. I said, oh, let
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  Speaker 1: me push my chair back, and I just got up
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  Speaker 1: and left, called it uber and left. Then he texted me,
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  Speaker 1: where are you Are you in the bathroom, No, negro,
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  Speaker 1: I'm in my own bathroom at home because I live
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  Speaker 1: up the street.
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  Speaker 3: So he said I could take you home. I don't.
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  Speaker 3: I just can't. I can't. It's not even that serious.
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  Speaker 1: Just apologize, yeah, just say, you know, all I wanted
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  Speaker 1: was a jazz you know what. Let's drink a sip
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  Speaker 1: of wine and start over, you know. Yeah, but no, you.
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  Speaker 3: Can do it. Okay.
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  Speaker 1: I think he was forty. He's the oldest guy I've
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  Speaker 1: ever dayd in La. All the young men love me.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, No, let's let's let's get into it because this
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  Speaker 2: is important. I've talked about this before. Oh yeah, this
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  Speaker 2: is important. Don't piss me off. Don't piss me off,
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  Speaker 2: because I will take your daddy and your son, period
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  Speaker 2: nephew and your nephew. It's all available. So don't pissed
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  Speaker 2: me off. These young men's and I've been asking about
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  Speaker 2: this because I think it's I don't know if it's
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  Speaker 2: like a new thing, because when I ask about it.
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  Speaker 2: Older men are like, oh yeah, we always love older
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  Speaker 2: women blah blah blah.
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  Speaker 3: I'm like, not like this. Yeah, you wanted an experience.
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  Speaker 2: That's different. The young men are not looking for an experience, honey.
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  Speaker 1: What they're looking for huh a wife? Yeah, they're not
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  Speaker 1: playing about us. Well, I mean, when you look as
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  Speaker 1: beautiful as you look, I wouldn't play about you either
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  Speaker 1: anyway the way, Hello, yeah, same for me.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, but I mean, but this is I'm I am
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  Speaker 2: a adult woman, like I am not.
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  Speaker 3: It's you know.
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  Speaker 2: I fucked up and went on and told Paul on
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  Speaker 2: his podcast that my dating range was twenty five to
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  Speaker 2: seventy and now I have twenty two year olds, Like,
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  Speaker 2: what's up?
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  Speaker 3: I'm like, no, first of all, I said twenty five.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and when I said twenty five, I was actually thirty.
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  Speaker 3: Six at the time.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, so technically it's now been moved up to twenty seven.
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  Speaker 3: I should have adjusted for the time past.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, twenty seven is young, though I don't think. I don't.
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  Speaker 1: I wouldn't I but twenty seven.
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  Speaker 3: Is an adult person.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, Like, it's not like if you were like, okay,
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  Speaker 2: he's younger. Yeah, but you wouldn't be like, this is
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  Speaker 2: like a twenty seven and twenty two are completely different humans.
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  Speaker 1: Oh no, yeah, I don't know what it was the
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  Speaker 1: youngest that you would date. Yeah, I'm.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, what is the youngest you would date?
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  Speaker 1: I'm thirty six?
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  Speaker 3: Okay, I'm thirty eight.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, I'll just say that, I don't know if
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  Speaker 1: I have a rate. I'm saying thirty thirty and above.
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  Speaker 1: Thirty thirty and above is so reasonable. No, thirty, but
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  Speaker 1: not ten years older than me either, No more than
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  Speaker 1: ten years older than me.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, So you would not date someone who's fifty.
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  Speaker 1: Now, Okay, But I gave my number to a twenty
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  Speaker 1: four year old a couple of weeks ago that I
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  Speaker 1: met out and oh, I mean, he was dressed really nice,
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  Speaker 1: he was so handsome, he was so respectful, he was
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  Speaker 1: we were chatting. I gave him my number. I made
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  Speaker 1: the mistake of telling my mom I gave him my number.
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  Speaker 1: She was like, oh, that's too you have nephews that age.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, first of all, my sister's fourteen years
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  Speaker 1: older than me. That's your fault.
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  Speaker 3: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: The second of all, I'm like, well, I mean, and
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  Speaker 1: I ended up texting. He was like, you know, let's
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  Speaker 1: get some tacos and go to the beach. And I
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  Speaker 1: was like, okay, it's too cute. Days so cute, right,
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  Speaker 1: But the day before I ended up canceling and I
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  Speaker 1: just I saw him on his Instagram and he was
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  Speaker 1: like going to university for I was like, I was like, babe,
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  Speaker 1: I'm so sorry, like this, I can't. I can't. You're
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  Speaker 1: too young, Like I can't.
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  Speaker 3: We can't, we can't do university.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, he was doing some sort of universe. I think
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  Speaker 1: he was an athlete. I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: Right the way you look at no, I'm with you.
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  Speaker 2: The I'm the same. It's it's it's too young. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: And it's not so much about that. I have nephews
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  Speaker 2: at age too, so I'm like, this is just not
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  Speaker 2: that's not the space for me to be in. But
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  Speaker 2: it's you know, also, so I don't want kids. I've
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  Speaker 2: been married, like, I'm just in a different, different space
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  Speaker 2: in life.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, and I don't want any more kids. So when
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  Speaker 1: you meet somebody who's young, yeah, they don't get it
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  Speaker 1: that stuff.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, and they'll say.
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  Speaker 2: Whatever, I don't. I don't haven't decided of course you
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  Speaker 2: haven't decided. You don't even know who you are. Respectfully,
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  Speaker 2: you don't, Like I didn't know who I was for
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  Speaker 2: a very long time and I'm still finding out. So
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  Speaker 2: it just it just takes time to develop as a person.
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  Speaker 2: I mean the person I was at twenty two is
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  Speaker 2: as a monster. Monster, I was a monster.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, what what age do you think you
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  Speaker 1: were when you've kind of kind of solidified who you were,
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  Speaker 1: like most authentic to of course, you like grow more
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  Speaker 1: in authenticity, but like you really solidify like, oh okay,
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  Speaker 1: this is like I'm pretty solid and who I am.
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  Speaker 2: Honestly, I think around thirty four.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I but because.
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  Speaker 2: I've just had a lot of trauma, I've had to
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  Speaker 2: just kind of like survive, So I hadn't spent a
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  Speaker 2: lot of time really thinking about like what I want
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  Speaker 2: for myself other than you know, my career, what I
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  Speaker 2: really like stand in what makes me feel good? And
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  Speaker 2: I think as a woman also when it comes to
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  Speaker 2: your body, the older you get, at least for me,
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  Speaker 2: the more comfortable I've gotten in my body. Yes, fact,
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  Speaker 2: so you know you think as you get older, you're like, oh,
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  Speaker 2: I'm gonna hate more about my body, and there are
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  Speaker 2: things that I'm like, oh that didn't used to be there,
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  Speaker 2: but it's there now. But like you just get, you
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  Speaker 2: give less fucks the older that you get. Yes, And
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  Speaker 2: so for me, I'm like, if I'm healthy, I'm cool
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  Speaker 2: m hm. And everyone's just gonna get whatever kind of
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  Speaker 2: body I roll out today and you're welcome. But to me,
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  Speaker 2: like those type of things like being confident in my body,
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  Speaker 2: being confident in my spirit, being confident in like the
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  Speaker 2: things that I know I need to work on, like
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  Speaker 2: being honest with myself. I mean, I don't know if
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  Speaker 2: thirty four is an old age to do that, but
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  Speaker 2: it's just that's when it happened.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I would say for me it was probably like
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  Speaker 1: thirty two, probably like the moment I got pregnant. Well, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: that'll look like that year.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: And then do you.
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  Speaker 2: Think that the pregnancy just forced you into it because
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  Speaker 2: of the new responsibilities.
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  Speaker 1: I would say forced as a harsh word, but it
• 15:19
  Speaker 1: was more about like acceptance, and it was also like
• 15:22
  Speaker 1: a mindset shift, like you know what, you're a grown woman,
• 15:26
  Speaker 1: you make good decisions, you know what's best for you. You're
• 15:29
  Speaker 1: in control of your life, you have power, over everything,
• 15:32
  Speaker 1: and it just made me feel like, Okay, it's time
• 15:34
  Speaker 1: to step into your power and stop acting like somebody
• 15:37
  Speaker 1: else's is better, you know at making decisions about your
• 15:40
  Speaker 1: life than you.
• 15:41
  Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, yeah, and you have to trust yourself. Yes.
• 15:45
  Speaker 2: Do you feel like motherhood has changed you in a
• 15:50
  Speaker 2: way that you feel more confident? One?
• 15:53
  Speaker 1: And most people would say, oh, after you give birth.
• 15:56
  Speaker 1: There was a time where I felt insecure about my
• 15:58
  Speaker 1: body just because of the changes I've given birth. But
• 16:00
  Speaker 1: this is the most comfortable I've ever felt. This is
• 16:02
  Speaker 1: the hottest I've ever felt, like, please please baby, bad
• 16:06
  Speaker 1: babbie babby.
• 16:09
  Speaker 3: Absolutely, you'll get no, You'll get no protests out of us.
• 16:13
  Speaker 3: That is the fact.
• 16:14
  Speaker 2: Yeah. What what about your comedy has changed? Do you
• 16:17
  Speaker 2: feel like you hold back that you have, Like, obviously
• 16:20
  Speaker 2: you're very public that you have your mother mamasita, But
• 16:25
  Speaker 2: do you feel like you censor yourself at all? No?
• 16:29
  Speaker 1: I feel like I grow closer to my most authentic self.
• 16:32
  Speaker 1: I think that after like, being a mom has made
• 16:34
  Speaker 1: me more vocal, has made me more I mean, it's
• 16:39
  Speaker 1: made me more like sexual, It's made me more just
• 16:44
  Speaker 1: like open with my opinions and my views on things.
• 16:48
  Speaker 1: And that translates into my comedy quite a bit. Like
• 16:51
  Speaker 1: I just feel like I'm just loud and just unhinged,
• 16:54
  Speaker 1: is what I always say.
• 16:55
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I like that. What how do you balance the.
• 17:01
  Speaker 2: Onslaught of average like NonStop bullshit every day politics, like
• 17:08
  Speaker 2: horrible shit going on in the world. How do you
• 17:10
  Speaker 2: decide what about that you're going to talk about in
• 17:12
  Speaker 2: your comedy?
• 17:13
  Speaker 1: Yeah, well, you know, I think my comedy is more
• 17:15
  Speaker 1: about my own personal experience, and sometimes I talk about
• 17:18
  Speaker 1: a few a few things that happen in politics, but
• 17:21
  Speaker 1: not really. I'm not really a political comedian in my
• 17:24
  Speaker 1: stand up because I do on social media, I do
• 17:27
  Speaker 1: post about politics some and I try to balance, right,
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: there are some things that I think people should know
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: and should be talking about, but also I want to
• 17:35
  Speaker 1: create a space where people do feel safe coming too
• 17:37
  Speaker 1: my page and laughing and escaping and experiencing a key key.
• 17:40
  Speaker 1: So it's a balance there, and stand up is the
• 17:43
  Speaker 1: same way, Like I might make a few jokes up
• 17:45
  Speaker 1: at the top about politics and what might be going
• 17:48
  Speaker 1: on there, but mostly it's about let me tell you
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: about what I've been going through behind the scenes that
• 17:52
  Speaker 1: you would never even know or let's talk about you guys,
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: let's keep I really want it to be an experience
• 17:56
  Speaker 1: where we feel, like somebody said the other day, You're
• 18:00
  Speaker 1: comedy show felt like a group, like a big hangout.
• 18:03
  Speaker 3: Oh that's such a good compliment.
• 18:04
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it was really nice. And she was like, it
• 18:06
  Speaker 1: felt like I was hanging out with my friends, and
• 18:08
  Speaker 1: I loved that. I was like, that's how I wanted
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: to feel.
• 18:11
  Speaker 3: Have you ever been heckled?
• 18:13
  Speaker 2: Girl?
• 18:13
  Speaker 1: Yes? Yes, so many times.
• 18:16
  Speaker 2: I think that we okay. So there's some certain things
• 18:20
  Speaker 2: I think you should go straight to jail for. Hackling
• 18:22
  Speaker 2: is one of them. Straight to jail, Yeah, no trial,
• 18:24
  Speaker 2: straight to prison, throw away the key?
• 18:27
  Speaker 3: Why because here?
• 18:28
  Speaker 2: Because I feel like hackling is selfishly not about the comedian.
• 18:33
  Speaker 2: You're taking up my time. You're not funny. I didn't
• 18:36
  Speaker 2: pay to hear you. Who the fuck are you?
• 18:39
  Speaker 3: Guy or lady?
• 18:41
  Speaker 2: Like I am here to consume comedy from professionals, you
• 18:45
  Speaker 2: are taking time away from their set with your Blogonney.
• 18:49
  Speaker 2: So straight to prison or straight to an island, I
• 18:53
  Speaker 2: don't even care. But how did you handle it?
• 18:56
  Speaker 3: You know what?
• 18:56
  Speaker 1: Nowadays I've been handling it kind of the same way
• 19:00
  Speaker 1: was at the laugh factory like two weeks ago, and
• 19:03
  Speaker 1: this woman was heckling everybody before me, right, and I
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: think maybe I went third and when I got on
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: stage she said her first thing. I said, how girl,
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: you don't say nothing else? You be quiet, you know,
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: and that typically makes them shut up. So you just
• 19:16
  Speaker 1: called come and you you done?
• 19:19
  Speaker 3: All right?
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: Don't say don't say nothing else, You're done, and they
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: typically be quiet.
• 19:25
  Speaker 3: Why do comedies like places not kick them out?
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: Sometimes they do, like they they watched them, and then
• 19:33
  Speaker 1: like even after your set, they'll be like, do you
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: think like we should kick this person out? Like are
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: you okay? Do you what do you think? They asked
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: the comedians too, like and sometimes comics have the power
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: to say, can you just get that person out of here?
• 19:43
  Speaker 3: Yeah?
• 19:43
  Speaker 2: Yeah, So it's never been so disruptive you've kicked someone out.
• 19:48
  Speaker 1: I mean, I've had a white man jump on stage
• 19:50
  Speaker 1: while I was doing comedy. I had a white man
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: in Dallas. Actually I completely tore him to shreds for
• 19:57
  Speaker 1: probably about fifteen minutes, and I wish I I got
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: it on camera, but I actually dropped my camera before recording.
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: I was like, maybe this is God?
• 20:07
  Speaker 3: Who I ate?
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: They have man up and he told me, he was like,
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: I'm waiting for you to be because I called out.
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: I was like, well you got your arms folded, like
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: what's up?
• 20:13
  Speaker 2: You know.
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: He was like, I'm waiting for you to be funny.
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: I say, oh, oh were funny? Now, oh we got
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: to get real funny. And I spent I spent fifteen
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: minutes roasting him.
• 20:23
  Speaker 3: Roasting. Roasting is uh, roasting is a real art.
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 20:27
  Speaker 2: I used to roast people on Twitter before I retired
• 20:30
  Speaker 2: from Twitter. Yeah, and it's you know, if you really
• 20:36
  Speaker 2: are very mean, which I consider myself. Yeah, it's kind
• 20:39
  Speaker 2: of it's very fun. It was like a sport to me.
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: It's fun.
• 20:42
  Speaker 2: But the Internet has changed so much. It's like it's
• 20:44
  Speaker 2: a very well, first of all, there's so many bots. Yeah,
• 20:47
  Speaker 2: it's such a volatile place. It's really hard to for
• 20:51
  Speaker 2: me anyway to find a space to really like interact
• 20:54
  Speaker 2: with fans, which I think is really important for community building.
• 20:58
  Speaker 2: How is it for because obviously sports is just I
• 21:01
  Speaker 2: mean sports fans, we only communicate in atrocities basically, Yeah,
• 21:06
  Speaker 2: how is it in comedy.
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: Like communicating with fans? And you know, I respond, I
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: think people know on Instagram. I respond to my dms
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: as much as I can, Like every day I respond
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: to you know, at least twenty and so I love that.
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: It's a kekey a lot of the times it's the
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: same people and we laugh and everything like that. I
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: think I have a really good space or community. Like
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: people think I get a lot of hate, I really don't.
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: Eighty five percent women follow me on TikTok and Instagram,
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: and then on Facebook I get more hate because it's
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: about fifty to fifty. But you know, when the when
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: the guys on Facebook get rowdy, my dad's in the comments,
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: were responded to people, and I'm in the comments too,
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: just you know, the main thing they'd be like, oh,
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: you're just looking for attention, you just want attention. I say, here,
• 21:49
  Speaker 1: you are giving it to me, daddy.
• 21:53
  Speaker 3: And you know, on a strange thing to say on
• 21:55
  Speaker 3: the internet.
• 21:56
  Speaker 2: Every time someone says that, like yes, yeah, that's the
• 22:01
  Speaker 2: points Like that is literally the point of being a
• 22:03
  Speaker 2: front facing person. That is how we pay our bills
• 22:06
  Speaker 2: is attention. Yeah, what are you talking about?
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: I literally stand on stage and say, hey, everybody listen
• 22:11
  Speaker 1: to me, right you're a comedian, Like, yes, that's is
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: it hard.
• 22:16
  Speaker 3: Well is it hard? Of course it's hard.
• 22:17
  Speaker 2: But I mean I view comedy, particularly stand up comedy,
• 22:23
  Speaker 2: as a very misogynistic and mostly male dominated.
• 22:28
  Speaker 3: Space for sure. What is it like, Because.
• 22:31
  Speaker 2: There has been some I think there's been a little
• 22:34
  Speaker 2: bit of a shift, But what is it like being
• 22:37
  Speaker 2: a black woman in comedy?
• 22:39
  Speaker 1: Well, it's so hard, I think, you know. I think,
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: if you know, if I'm one hundred percent transparent, I
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: think a white woman can get online and say one
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: thing that people think is entertaining, get a podcast, get
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: a show, get all types of things. And as a
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: black woman who has created several things over I mean,
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: I went to school for broadcast communications, like I went
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: to school to create content, you know, and be I
• 23:02
  Speaker 1: wanted to have my own show mixed between Wendy Williams
• 23:04
  Speaker 1: and Oprah, and that's still sort of my goal, you know.
• 23:07
  Speaker 1: But I think I have to constantly prove that I'm
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: talented or funny over and over and over, and people
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: are still like, we don't really know what to do
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: with her. So it's challenging in that aspect, you know.
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: And I think there are you know, just a lot
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: of people who accept the same sort of jokes and
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: content from men and they laugh every time. But you know,
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: women's like, you're not funny. Oh we've heard that before.
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: That's not funny, you know. So I think I think
• 23:36
  Speaker 1: it's just more difficult to prove yourself and have other
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: people see your talents, you know, and recognize it and
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: give you your flowers.
• 23:44
  Speaker 3: I think.
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: So that's it's like the main thing. But that kind
• 23:46
  Speaker 1: of runs everything. It runs like who books you, what
• 23:49
  Speaker 1: opportunities you get, how many tickets you sell? All of
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: these things, you know. So yeah, it's really difficult, but
• 23:55
  Speaker 1: I have a lot of tenacity.
• 23:58
  Speaker 3: I know.
• 23:59
  Speaker 1: I want to quit. I called my friend, I called
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: Bob the Drag Queen last week and said, hey, I
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: text him. I said, hey, do you have twenty minutes
• 24:05
  Speaker 1: for me to cry on the phone with you, because
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: if you have the emotional capacity, let me know. And
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: Bob was like, i'll call you in twenty minutes. And
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: then I want to quit and he's like, no, you're
• 24:15
  Speaker 1: too talented. I'm like, thank you, and we get off
• 24:18
  Speaker 1: the phone and I go write emails.
• 24:21
  Speaker 3: You know.
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: So that's what it is. It's just constantly reminding yourself
• 24:25
  Speaker 1: of what the truth is and the truth is on
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: very talented, So you just have to keep going. But
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: it's incredibly difficult.
• 24:32
  Speaker 2: It's you know, everything you're describing is incredibly similar to
• 24:36
  Speaker 2: the sports space, and you have to constantly affirm while
• 24:41
  Speaker 2: you're there. It's like, Okay, I've only been doing this
• 24:43
  Speaker 2: twenty years. I like, okay, I don't have I haven't
• 24:47
  Speaker 2: done enough yet. Like okay, great, we'll run this back again. Yeah,
• 24:51
  Speaker 2: well we'll start at the bottom again. And I think
• 24:53
  Speaker 2: it like you have to reach a point, unfortunately in
• 24:56
  Speaker 2: your career, where you have that real big breakthrough moment,
• 25:00
  Speaker 2: and then even in that, you still have to stay consistent.
• 25:03
  Speaker 2: And that's I mean, that is just what happens with
• 25:06
  Speaker 2: black women. Is like you have to always affirm why
• 25:08
  Speaker 2: you're there. You always have to be the best. You
• 25:10
  Speaker 2: always have to be the earliest, you always have to
• 25:11
  Speaker 2: be ahead of the curb. You always have to be
• 25:13
  Speaker 2: the most creative, you have to be the funniest every
• 25:16
  Speaker 2: single time. And it's exhausting, and you need those people
• 25:19
  Speaker 2: in your life that you can just say that those
• 25:21
  Speaker 2: things too and then not hold it against you. I
• 25:23
  Speaker 2: mean I have had those many of those womens where
• 25:26
  Speaker 2: I'm like I'm gonna go seut baked potatoes, like right,
• 25:31
  Speaker 2: you know, because it just seems easier. Yeah, But then
• 25:35
  Speaker 2: it's like you're in a competition with yourself, Like so
• 25:38
  Speaker 2: you let them win, then you're like, I'm tired.
• 25:41
  Speaker 3: Yeah, gives the fuck if they win?
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but you know the business needs you, yeah, you know. So,
• 25:47
  Speaker 1: and then just reminding yourself like oh my God, like
• 25:53
  Speaker 1: and I feel like God also sends me reminders that
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: this is what you should be doing. Like people will
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: be like, oh, I hate to interrupt, I hate to
• 25:59
  Speaker 1: come up to you, but I love your work. I'm like, no, please,
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: Like that is God telling me don't stop keep going.
• 26:05
  Speaker 1: When people come up to me and say, hey girl,
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: I just love your I love your videos, that is
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: like a little reminder from me. You know, I really
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: appreciate it. So yeah, I'm constantly reminding myself. But you
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: I am thinking about selling my bathwater girl.
• 26:20
  Speaker 3: You know, didn't Sidney Sweeney do that? Did she? I
• 26:25
  Speaker 3: feel like, was that a joke?
• 26:27
  Speaker 2: I don't want to have gotten I feel like she
• 26:29
  Speaker 2: did her maybe like bathwater soap or something.
• 26:32
  Speaker 3: I don't know. I'm not buying Sidney Sweeney's bathwater.
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: I wouldn't buy it either.
• 26:37
  Speaker 3: Oh her soap.
• 26:38
  Speaker 2: Okay, So I misread the title of that. Her soap
• 26:40
  Speaker 2: is called bathwater, So does it have her bathwater?
• 26:45
  Speaker 3: Anyway?
• 26:46
  Speaker 2: I'm I support, really, I mean, I'm not gonna use bathwater,
• 26:49
  Speaker 2: but as your friend, I will support.
• 26:51
  Speaker 3: I'll buy some bathwater just.
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: For thirsty men anyway, because y'all I can sol thirsty
• 26:55
  Speaker 1: unto my page. Let me give you something, bathwater something.
• 26:59
  Speaker 3: What is the craziest thing a male fan has asked
• 27:01
  Speaker 3: you for other than sex? Obviously, you know.
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: None of them have ever asked me for a sex.
• 27:06
  Speaker 2: Nobody's DMD you like, yo, I'm trying to fuck. No,
• 27:10
  Speaker 2: I would have posted that.
• 27:13
  Speaker 3: You lucky. I don't want to go. No, they are
• 27:17
  Speaker 3: fucking ferocious.
• 27:18
  Speaker 1: Oh I'm sure they are. But don't you have a
• 27:20
  Speaker 1: lot of men who follow you just because of the
• 27:22
  Speaker 1: industry you work in?
• 27:22
  Speaker 2: Like, oh for sure, Yeah, I have a large me fling.
• 27:25
  Speaker 2: I've gotten a DM from a man that was like,
• 27:27
  Speaker 2: you're trying to fuck. I was like, wow, that's so unoriginal.
• 27:30
  Speaker 1: He's oh my god, and may be just so unfuckable
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: to them.
• 27:33
  Speaker 2: One well, he was fuckable, but what they disappointment but
• 27:37
  Speaker 2: I was like, damn, that's all the game you got.
• 27:39
  Speaker 3: You have to hear me with some better shit than that.
• 27:41
  Speaker 3: That's a terrible line.
• 27:42
  Speaker 1: Oh honey, I would have said, sent me three pictures
• 27:44
  Speaker 1: in a biostro application.
• 27:49
  Speaker 2: Sex is like I don't know. Sex to me is
• 27:53
  Speaker 2: so like I could not have sex with a stranger. Well,
• 27:57
  Speaker 2: I could not have sex.
• 27:58
  Speaker 3: As a stranger.
• 27:59
  Speaker 2: I'm no judgment, but I just need like a I
• 28:03
  Speaker 2: need an emotional connection of something because I want I
• 28:07
  Speaker 2: have to like really feel safe or it's not going
• 28:09
  Speaker 2: to feel good to me. And so that's really more
• 28:12
  Speaker 2: of the reason why I say like a stranger is
• 28:13
  Speaker 2: not doesn't work for me because like there's not gonna
• 28:16
  Speaker 2: be an emotional connection. I'm not going to feel safe.
• 28:18
  Speaker 2: I don't want to worry about being murdered throughout this experience.
• 28:20
  Speaker 2: It's not really my thing, you know, a little just
• 28:25
  Speaker 2: you know what I'm saying, You know what I mean,
• 28:27
  Speaker 2: not like real Yeah, so yeah, I just I'm not
• 28:31
  Speaker 2: you're trying to fuck thing in the dms' is just
• 28:32
  Speaker 2: not solid.
• 28:33
  Speaker 1: Well you know that's funny, Okay, So I was just
• 28:37
  Speaker 1: because I was in a relationship and married for a
• 28:39
  Speaker 1: while I wanted to have a one night stand pretty bad,
• 28:42
  Speaker 1: and I talk about this in my stand up now,
• 28:44
  Speaker 1: and I tried to it didn't really work out. I
• 28:49
  Speaker 1: tried to have sex with a stranger.
• 28:52
  Speaker 3: Hold on, So did it become a two nights standard?
• 28:58
  Speaker 3: Is that like that it became.
• 29:00
  Speaker 1: We went on a date and had some cocktails, went
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: back to his place and me, yea yea yeah.
• 29:12
  Speaker 2: It was so weird.
• 29:13
  Speaker 1: Wait wait wait oh. I was like, why did you
• 29:16
  Speaker 1: even bring me here? Why would you even bring anybody
• 29:18
  Speaker 1: back here? And why don't you have like an extender strap.
• 29:22
  Speaker 3: Something, you know, give me something?
• 29:24
  Speaker 1: I had me coming over here for nothing.
• 29:26
  Speaker 3: I would argue with you, but I have seen one
• 29:28
  Speaker 3: of those before, and it's like.
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: It's unfortunate, but a little mushroom, like a little just
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: right on top of the balls. I'm sure he pee
• 29:37
  Speaker 1: on his balls and.
• 29:39
  Speaker 3: It's my favorite. It was bad. So you were like,
• 29:44
  Speaker 3: this is just not this is not the one night
• 29:46
  Speaker 3: stand I want to have.
• 29:47
  Speaker 1: It just wasn't happening. It wasn't gonna happen, like was
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: it like.
• 29:53
  Speaker 3: Was it have girth at least? Girl?
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: It was barely anything Like it was like one of
• 29:59
  Speaker 1: those little pick it was like it was a micro penis.
• 30:02
  Speaker 1: It was tiny, and I was like, maybe put your
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: clothes back on.
• 30:08
  Speaker 3: No, you didn't do them like.
• 30:10
  Speaker 1: I was like, I'm sorry, I apologize. I know I
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: felt bad. I was very kind to him, but he
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: shouldn't have brought me back there.
• 30:21
  Speaker 3: Okay, maybe he thought.
• 30:24
  Speaker 1: I don't know what the heck he thought. No, I
• 30:28
  Speaker 1: don't know what you could have thought. Where you thought
• 30:30
  Speaker 1: you gonna come home and have a different you gonna
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: have a different situation. No, come on, now, ain't no way.
• 30:38
  Speaker 3: Yeah, the micro penis is tough. It's tough to me.
• 30:40
  Speaker 1: That's like me bringing a guy back to my place
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: and I got Barbie Doll coucie. It's just nothing there.
• 30:45
  Speaker 3: What are we gonna do with that? Barbie Doll Cucci?
• 30:48
  Speaker 3: Just smooth, no hole, just no hole, just smooth. I
• 30:53
  Speaker 3: was like, what smooth?
• 30:55
  Speaker 1: Oh okay, yeah, yeah, there's no parts, no parts that
• 30:59
  Speaker 1: might as well be in that.
• 31:01
  Speaker 2: You know.
• 31:03
  Speaker 3: I don't like to body shame people.
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: People gonna get rip me up for body shaming.
• 31:06
  Speaker 2: But I have done the same thing, not like a
• 31:11
  Speaker 2: one night stand situation, but yeah, like I've been like prepared.
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: You got to know him.
• 31:16
  Speaker 2: Yeah even worse. Oh no, like I adored the person.
• 31:19
  Speaker 2: So I was like, oh my god, did he tell
• 31:21
  Speaker 2: you ahead of time?
• 31:22
  Speaker 3: No, I don't think he thinks it is.
• 31:24
  Speaker 1: Oh no, he knows.
• 31:27
  Speaker 2: I don't know.
• 31:28
  Speaker 3: How how can you like be?
• 31:30
  Speaker 2: I don't know.
• 31:31
  Speaker 3: So you're just like big bravado.
• 31:35
  Speaker 1: He knows.
• 31:36
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know. I don't think he knows.
• 31:39
  Speaker 1: Benefit of the doubt. You're really giving it because he knows,
• 31:43
  Speaker 1: but you can see it. Yeah, and he's seen other
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: people's and he's watched movies or watched you know, adult content,
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: or had other experiences before you.
• 31:54
  Speaker 3: Yeah, so is this has this dissuaded you from pursuing
• 31:57
  Speaker 3: a one night sand? You still have time?
• 31:59
  Speaker 1: I know now I feel like, Okay, I ask every
• 32:04
  Speaker 1: man for a picture, and so they're penis, Yes, send
• 32:09
  Speaker 1: it to me. I gotta see what I'm working with.
• 32:12
  Speaker 3: What you have a catalog of dick pics? Amazing Google Drive?
• 32:19
  Speaker 3: Do they have to be they're just like just the
• 32:20
  Speaker 3: dick though not the full body?
• 32:22
  Speaker 1: Well, it depends on what they send me.
• 32:24
  Speaker 3: Oh okay, you know spe'sfy.
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's locked down.
• 32:27
  Speaker 3: I mean, listen, I love a good dick pic. When requested.
• 32:33
  Speaker 2: When requested on solicited is yeah, is the quickest way
• 32:38
  Speaker 2: to get me to never talk to you again?
• 32:40
  Speaker 3: Who asked you a stick? And if I don't know you,
• 32:43
  Speaker 3: of course not.
• 32:43
  Speaker 2: I mean I actually had to put multiple like sensors
• 32:48
  Speaker 2: on my emails and things because like people checking emails
• 32:51
  Speaker 2: from me and they're like, how are you getting all
• 32:53
  Speaker 2: these dick pics?
• 32:53
  Speaker 3: So like, well, like, yeah, I've seen thousands of dicks.
• 32:56
  Speaker 3: Unfortunately it's crazy.
• 32:58
  Speaker 1: I've only you asked me what was the crazy.
• 33:00
  Speaker 2: Is maybe not thousands, but thousands is unsolicited, Like they'd.
• 33:04
  Speaker 3: Just be slipping it in there, like.
• 33:09
  Speaker 2: It's always a terrible photo, like, oh yeah, aesthetic at all.
• 33:13
  Speaker 3: This is not the angle. It's not the angle. What
• 33:17
  Speaker 3: is this angle?
• 33:18
  Speaker 2: It's just all like it's terrible. It's a terrible angle.
• 33:21
  Speaker 2: Learn your angles. The very at the least you could
• 33:24
  Speaker 2: do is learn your angles. Just stand up, give it
• 33:28
  Speaker 2: a good hog tug, really standing up to sit down.
• 33:31
  Speaker 3: This thing.
• 33:33
  Speaker 1: My favorite ones have been like leaned back.
• 33:35
  Speaker 3: On the bed. I think, yeah, but like they're doing
• 33:37
  Speaker 3: this thing though, I think.
• 33:38
  Speaker 1: They're like all the way flat because yeah, flat flat,
• 33:41
  Speaker 1: yeah yeah.
• 33:42
  Speaker 2: But I'm talking about like sitting like this, like their stomach,
• 33:47
  Speaker 2: isn't it I'm telling you, I'm yeah, don't send me
• 33:51
  Speaker 2: those like just if you're gonna do it, just make
• 33:52
  Speaker 2: it artistic, you know.
• 33:54
  Speaker 1: Yeah, no, I think Okay, an unsolicited dick pick has
• 33:58
  Speaker 1: been one of the worst things I've ever read, But
• 34:00
  Speaker 1: I think the most interesting thing I ever received in
• 34:03
  Speaker 1: my DMS was, you know, I do angry cooking videos
• 34:06
  Speaker 1: where I'm like, oh I do, I'm angry a lot.
• 34:08
  Speaker 1: People are like you're so mad. I'm like, yeah, I am.
• 34:11
  Speaker 1: But a guy DMed me and asked me to look
• 34:15
  Speaker 1: at his page and send him a video of me
• 34:17
  Speaker 1: roasting him for one minute, and he would pay me
• 34:19
  Speaker 1: for it. And I said, oh, absolutely, how much? He said,
• 34:23
  Speaker 1: what's your price? I said fifteen hundred. He said that's
• 34:25
  Speaker 1: too much. I said, I'm famous. He was like that's
• 34:29
  Speaker 1: too much. Yeazz, like please, like he was really wanted
• 34:31
  Speaker 1: to negotiate. I said, okay, well, what's your price? He
• 34:34
  Speaker 1: was like one fifty. I was like that's too low,
• 34:36
  Speaker 1: Like I have to use my artistic ability to go
• 34:38
  Speaker 1: to your page, think of something mean to say, and
• 34:41
  Speaker 1: send you a minute's worth of comedy.
• 34:44
  Speaker 3: Right and suspends the fact that you're going to jerk
• 34:46
  Speaker 3: off to this exactly, you know.
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: And he was like, uh, I was like, come back
• 34:51
  Speaker 1: when you can afford it. Oh yeah, and he was
• 34:56
  Speaker 1: like okay. Well He's like maybe i'll shoot you later
• 34:58
  Speaker 1: and see if like we can negotiate or whatever, but
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: he never did again.
• 35:03
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's I mean, you could you can make a
• 35:05
  Speaker 2: really good living out of that. I want to you
• 35:07
  Speaker 2: could definitely be a dominatrix.
• 35:09
  Speaker 3: Let's do it.
• 35:10
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean you're that's like you. It requires a
• 35:13
  Speaker 2: real skill, yeah, to be it, to.
• 35:17
  Speaker 3: Be a dominatrix.
• 35:18
  Speaker 2: I want to go back to the to the one
• 35:20
  Speaker 2: night stand thing. What is what is it that you
• 35:22
  Speaker 2: what is interesting about it to you? Or it is
• 35:25
  Speaker 2: just like a box you want to check.
• 35:27
  Speaker 1: It's like a it's like a box I want to
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: check maybe, or thought I wanted to check, you know.
• 35:33
  Speaker 1: But it's just about the fact that, you know, I
• 35:36
  Speaker 1: grew up in a very religious environment, and then you
• 35:39
  Speaker 1: spend out your time doing the right thing, which is
• 35:42
  Speaker 1: like you know, dedicating your life to somebody and maybe
• 35:44
  Speaker 1: it doesn't work out. And then just the freedom of
• 35:47
  Speaker 1: expression and just being free in general. I'm free to
• 35:49
  Speaker 1: do whatever it is that I want to do. So
• 35:52
  Speaker 1: if I ever come to a place, I'm not looking
• 35:54
  Speaker 1: for a person to have one night stand with. But
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: it just felt like, oh, this might be a good opportunity.
• 35:58
  Speaker 1: I had a good time. Let's see what this turns into.
• 36:01
  Speaker 1: And it turned into that, So maybe that's like, yeah,
• 36:05
  Speaker 1: but I'm not like, oh, I don't do that. I
• 36:10
  Speaker 1: don't have one night stands. It's not gonna be that.
• 36:12
  Speaker 1: Maybe there will be a time in the future where
• 36:14
  Speaker 1: I feel a vibe and it will happen.
• 36:17
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 36:17
  Speaker 2: I mean, I grew up in a religious home also,
• 36:20
  Speaker 2: and I think like finding a space for yourself sexually
• 36:23
  Speaker 2: as a woman when and I don't even know if
• 36:26
  Speaker 2: it's just religious, but certainly I only speaks in my
• 36:28
  Speaker 2: experience the constant like reaffirming that sex is evil and
• 36:34
  Speaker 2: sex is only meant for marriage, and that if you're
• 36:37
  Speaker 2: not a virgin, you are useless, and you know that
• 36:42
  Speaker 2: you could never have a child with someone that you're
• 36:45
  Speaker 2: not married to, and there's just all of these constant
• 36:48
  Speaker 2: things like don't if you think about it, you're wrong,
• 36:51
  Speaker 2: and like if you do, and it puts this insane
• 36:54
  Speaker 2: pressure on sex that you don't feel comfortable talking about it.
• 36:58
  Speaker 3: You don't feel comfortable experimenting to see what you like.
• 37:01
  Speaker 2: You don't feel comfortable moving into certain phases with people
• 37:05
  Speaker 2: that you love. You put almost too much emphasis on
• 37:10
  Speaker 2: the act itself that it causes you anxiety and you're
• 37:13
  Speaker 2: not actually enjoying it because you feel like you're doing
• 37:15
  Speaker 2: something wrong as opposed to something natural. And for me,
• 37:21
  Speaker 2: I'm very protective of my sexual freedom because it took
• 37:26
  Speaker 2: me a long time to develop the skill to be
• 37:29
  Speaker 2: comfortable with like, Okay, this is my choice.
• 37:31
  Speaker 3: I'm choosing to do this.
• 37:33
  Speaker 2: This person doesn't owe me anything, or they do owe
• 37:35
  Speaker 2: me something like, and I'm reasonable about what it is
• 37:38
  Speaker 2: they owe me, you know, like I've invested this amount
• 37:41
  Speaker 2: of time in them, they've invested in me. This is
• 37:43
  Speaker 2: the appropriate response the next day because of that, you know,
• 37:46
  Speaker 2: like you move as an adult, you know, with like
• 37:49
  Speaker 2: a level of emotional intelligence once you achieve that.
• 37:54
  Speaker 3: So that's good that you're doing.
• 37:55
  Speaker 1: That, absolutely, And that's one reason. There's multiple reasons why
• 37:58
  Speaker 1: I started Jazz after Dark, the podcast, but everything you
• 38:01
  Speaker 1: just listed is why. But it's mainly it's like I
• 38:04
  Speaker 1: can't even call my girlfriends and talk about sex with
• 38:06
  Speaker 1: you guys, because y'all are like, oh, girl, I don't know,
• 38:08
  Speaker 1: I don't know.
• 38:10
  Speaker 3: I don't know, girl, I don't know.
• 38:12
  Speaker 1: Well, what are you like in the bedroom?
• 38:13
  Speaker 2: Girl?
• 38:14
  Speaker 3: I don't know. Girl.
• 38:15
  Speaker 1: I just damn we can't even have an open conversation
• 38:18
  Speaker 1: as women, so we can actually take control of our
• 38:20
  Speaker 1: own experiences, you know. And then also the one that
• 38:24
  Speaker 1: back to the one night stand thing. It's like women
• 38:27
  Speaker 1: have so many rules like I only wait ninety days
• 38:29
  Speaker 1: or Steve Harvey said you gotta wait ninety days or whatever,
• 38:32
  Speaker 1: as if like if a man's gonna respect me, a
• 38:35
  Speaker 1: man should respect me the first time I meet him.
• 38:38
  Speaker 1: Men don't gain respect for you, Okay, they either respect
• 38:41
  Speaker 1: you or they don't. So I'm not here for like
• 38:44
  Speaker 1: respectability politics as if I wait, he will respect me more. No,
• 38:47
  Speaker 1: I'm looking for a man that respect me day one. Yeah, okay,
• 38:50
  Speaker 1: because before we do it, you gonna rub my feet.
• 38:52
  Speaker 3: You gone big?
• 38:53
  Speaker 1: Actually, and they do? You know what I mean? So yeah,
• 38:59
  Speaker 1: respect me immediately. That's yeah, you're right about that.
• 39:03
  Speaker 2: I mean, I think I My waiting policy is more
• 39:08
  Speaker 2: for me, like it's not about is this person gonna
• 39:11
  Speaker 2: respect me? Like you can make somebody wait a year.
• 39:13
  Speaker 2: You can make someone wait two days. You can fuck
• 39:16
  Speaker 2: somebody on the first night. It doesn't to your point,
• 39:18
  Speaker 2: they either respect you, they like you, or they don't.
• 39:20
  Speaker 2: But for me, it's more about like me getting to
• 39:24
  Speaker 2: a place where I feel emotionally and physically safe to
• 39:28
  Speaker 2: do it.
• 39:28
  Speaker 3: So it's you know, it's your power though, Well that's
• 39:31
  Speaker 3: what I'm saying.
• 39:31
  Speaker 2: Like I think, I think women and a lot of
• 39:33
  Speaker 2: you're absolutely right, Like women are or taught not to
• 39:37
  Speaker 2: talk about these things. Men can be brash, men can
• 39:41
  Speaker 2: talk about these things. Men can talk about them these
• 39:44
  Speaker 2: you know, boys would be boys.
• 39:45
  Speaker 3: All of that.
• 39:45
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and when women talk about it, you are, you know,
• 39:49
  Speaker 2: considered to be fast or sludy. Good, You're talking about
• 39:52
  Speaker 2: things that everyone does, right, Like, we're not getting into
• 39:56
  Speaker 2: the nuances of what you particularly like in the bedroom,
• 40:00
  Speaker 2: like lreaby you are, you know, but that doesn't mean it,
• 40:03
  Speaker 2: That doesn't mean you you're a certain type of person.
• 40:05
  Speaker 2: It just means that you are a sexually active adult, right.
• 40:09
  Speaker 2: And I think destigmatizing sex is has well it's not
• 40:13
  Speaker 2: the sex has been destigmatized. But we talked about it
• 40:15
  Speaker 2: a couple of weeks ago where there are more women
• 40:18
  Speaker 2: in their forties having children now, yeah than there are teenagers.
• 40:23
  Speaker 3: Yeah, which is how it should be.
• 40:26
  Speaker 2: Right, not necessarily that you need to have kids in
• 40:28
  Speaker 2: your forties, but you know, children shouldn't be having children, right.
• 40:32
  Speaker 2: And if we can do this sex education, if we
• 40:35
  Speaker 2: can destigmatize sex in a way that people feel comfortable
• 40:38
  Speaker 2: asking for condoms, asking for birth control, having conversations with
• 40:42
  Speaker 2: their parents about when they want to become sexually active
• 40:44
  Speaker 2: as opposed to being like, don't have sex ever.
• 40:47
  Speaker 1: That's what my parents told me. Stop when they pout out.
• 40:51
  Speaker 1: I wasn't a virgin.
• 40:53
  Speaker 2: Not.
• 40:53
  Speaker 1: Everybody just calmed down.
• 40:56
  Speaker 3: It just stop, you know. And I was like, okay,
• 40:59
  Speaker 3: well I guess you know, I'll try. Like what is
• 41:03
  Speaker 3: that achieving? Though?
• 41:04
  Speaker 1: Yeah?
• 41:05
  Speaker 2: Meanwhile, meanwhile, men are encouraged to do the absolute fucking most.
• 41:09
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and they're given the tools, given the tools, they're encouraged.
• 41:13
  Speaker 2: They're encouraged a young age. They have conversations younger yeah,
• 41:17
  Speaker 2: like sixth grade. Yeah, like sixth grade. No, if a
• 41:21
  Speaker 2: boy talked to me in sixth grade, I was like,
• 41:23
  Speaker 2: oh what.
• 41:26
  Speaker 3: And everybody changes, you.
• 41:27
  Speaker 2: Know, everyone goes on their own, It grows at their
• 41:30
  Speaker 2: own pace. But it's just it's such a different world. Yeah,
• 41:33
  Speaker 2: I mean, I love the fact that.
• 41:37
  Speaker 1: And I'm I did a whole YouTube video about like
• 41:40
  Speaker 1: things I would tell myself in my twenties, and when
• 41:43
  Speaker 1: girls who are in their twenties like are on my live,
• 41:45
  Speaker 1: I say, go watch that video. Go watch that video.
• 41:47
  Speaker 1: And one of the main things I say, your twenties
• 41:50
  Speaker 1: are not for long term relationships. They're not for kids.
• 41:53
  Speaker 1: They're for self development, fun, torking in Miami, figuring out
• 41:58
  Speaker 1: what you want to do with your life, crime and
• 42:00
  Speaker 1: laughing and hanging out and developing community and moving to
• 42:04
  Speaker 1: somewhere else that you didn't grow up. It's not for
• 42:07
  Speaker 1: giving birth, it's not for finding a husband. You know,
• 42:10
  Speaker 1: you do that when you're thirty, in your thirties, but
• 42:14
  Speaker 1: if you want to, you don't have to, Okay, But
• 42:17
  Speaker 1: your twenties are for that self exploration. And I think
• 42:21
  Speaker 1: the shift is just women realizing, oh I don't have
• 42:26
  Speaker 1: to do what society has told me that I have
• 42:28
  Speaker 1: to do. I'm starting to make my own decisions and
• 42:30
  Speaker 1: that that shift in age just kind of shows that.
• 42:33
  Speaker 1: And I get excited when I see stats like that.
• 42:36
  Speaker 2: Yeah, me too, I thought it was a great thing
• 42:37
  Speaker 2: because it's also like it is, it is a reflection
• 42:40
  Speaker 2: of women being able to have the power to create
• 42:43
  Speaker 2: their own lives, to start their careers the way that
• 42:45
  Speaker 2: they want to, to select the men that they really
• 42:48
  Speaker 2: want in their lives as supposed to you know, having
• 42:50
  Speaker 2: to be with a man for financial reasons or because
• 42:53
  Speaker 2: this is what you know you're supposed to be doing.
• 42:56
  Speaker 2: And I know marriage is a big part of that
• 42:58
  Speaker 2: conversation as well, because there is a shift, you know,
• 43:03
  Speaker 2: the loneliness apidemic. Oh lord, but there is a shift
• 43:06
  Speaker 2: with women stay lonely. I mean, you don't have to
• 43:11
  Speaker 2: be lonely, but you know use that you don't have
• 43:14
  Speaker 2: to be I mean, no, they don't have to be lonely.
• 43:16
  Speaker 2: They just lonely because they're lames. And men get mad
• 43:20
  Speaker 2: at me when I say that, but I'm like, I
• 43:21
  Speaker 2: don't advocate for lames. I just don't advocate for them. Like,
• 43:25
  Speaker 2: get out of your house, yeah, walk down the street,
• 43:28
  Speaker 2: speak to human beings, join a book club, go read
• 43:31
  Speaker 2: a book, go to therapy, go to the gym, go
• 43:35
  Speaker 2: to a coffee shop and join join a social group,
• 43:39
  Speaker 2: go to church, do anything but sit in front of
• 43:43
  Speaker 2: your computer and talk about how much you hate women
• 43:45
  Speaker 2: and listen to podcasts about how you deserve to, you know,
• 43:49
  Speaker 2: fuck the porn star of your dreams. We don't care
• 43:51
  Speaker 2: that you're alive. And I'm not about to do it.
• 43:54
  Speaker 3: I'm not doing it. I think men are amazing.
• 43:57
  Speaker 2: I think they're intelligent and beautiful creatures. And there is
• 44:00
  Speaker 2: a certain group. There's a small group of that large group.
• 44:03
  Speaker 2: There's a small group of that, and there's a very
• 44:06
  Speaker 2: large group of men that go unchecks and they're they're
• 44:09
  Speaker 2: they're terrible for society.
• 44:10
  Speaker 3: And and that is why women are are.
• 44:15
  Speaker 2: Choosing to not get married. Yeah, they're choosing to have
• 44:18
  Speaker 2: partners later in life. They're choosing to have children later
• 44:21
  Speaker 2: in life because women have the ability to.
• 44:25
  Speaker 1: Choose, yeah, or choosing not to have any more kids
• 44:28
  Speaker 1: like me, won't do won't do it?
• 44:30
  Speaker 3: You know, Would you get married again?
• 44:35
  Speaker 1: Maybe? I don't really know why I would need to,
• 44:39
  Speaker 1: To be honest with you, I'd much rather get a
• 44:42
  Speaker 1: duplex and you live on one side and I live
• 44:45
  Speaker 1: on the other side, and then we come over and
• 44:48
  Speaker 1: maybe there's a door or maybe not between the two. Yeah,
• 44:53
  Speaker 1: connecting hotel room.
• 44:55
  Speaker 3: Do you not like sleeping with your partner.
• 44:57
  Speaker 1: I do, but you know what, I have a child.
• 45:00
  Speaker 1: I kind of feel like I never want my child
• 45:02
  Speaker 1: to live with me and feel like they just can't
• 45:05
  Speaker 1: come in my room. So maybe we have two separate
• 45:08
  Speaker 1: bedrooms or something. But you know, like my dad was
• 45:11
  Speaker 1: a stepdad, and I feel like I never felt like
• 45:14
  Speaker 1: my siblings felt like that. But I'm not my siblings.
• 45:16
  Speaker 1: So I just never want my kid to not be
• 45:18
  Speaker 1: able to walk into their mom's room freely as if
• 45:22
  Speaker 1: it's their room. I don't know, I just have this
• 45:24
  Speaker 1: weird thing about that. But I do love to sleep
• 45:27
  Speaker 1: with my partner. I do love to cuddle. Do I
• 45:28
  Speaker 1: need to do it every night?
• 45:30
  Speaker 2: No?
• 45:31
  Speaker 3: We disagree.
• 45:32
  Speaker 1: You want to sleep every night?
• 45:34
  Speaker 2: Well no, I don't need to with you every night.
• 45:38
  Speaker 2: I haven't lived with a man in a very long time.
• 45:42
  Speaker 2: What's going on with this thing?
• 45:45
  Speaker 3: This is like a little guy. I don't stay on
• 45:50
  Speaker 3: off No, so baggy baggy. So I just like it's
• 45:59
  Speaker 3: like in my brain, now, what was I talking about?
• 46:02
  Speaker 1: You want to sleep on somebody?
• 46:04
  Speaker 2: Yeah?
• 46:04
  Speaker 3: The micro penis distracted me. No, I'm a huge cuddler, Yeah,
• 46:09
  Speaker 3: so am I like all night? All night? Okay. That's
• 46:14
  Speaker 3: that's that's where we re aligned. Yeah, yeah, I am.
• 46:17
  Speaker 2: I mean I need to at the very least have
• 46:19
  Speaker 2: to be like touching, like a foot touch or something,
• 46:21
  Speaker 2: because otherwise I just don't.
• 46:23
  Speaker 3: I don't. You're just taking up space in my bed
• 46:25
  Speaker 3: and like, I don't like that. What's okay?
• 46:29
  Speaker 2: So this is a question I've been asked a couple
• 46:32
  Speaker 2: of times. It's never received well because people don't like
• 46:36
  Speaker 2: when women call themselves pretty. But do you find that
• 46:41
  Speaker 2: being I mean, you are a beautiful woman.
• 46:44
  Speaker 3: Do you find that it is I want to say
• 46:48
  Speaker 3: a challenge. Does it make things different for you in comedy? Yeah?
• 46:56
  Speaker 1: I think it does. I don't you know. I don't
• 46:58
  Speaker 1: know exactly how people will perceive me, but when I
• 47:01
  Speaker 1: get on stage, I think you either feel like, ooh,
• 47:05
  Speaker 1: she's beautiful, like let me pay attention, or ooh she's beautiful,
• 47:10
  Speaker 1: like how can she be funny? I used to immediately
• 47:15
  Speaker 1: tell a joke about myself about me being having like
• 47:18
  Speaker 1: a big forehead or like no ass or something like
• 47:21
  Speaker 1: that to let people know, Oh, I'm on your side.
• 47:23
  Speaker 1: I'm on your side, you know, like, please look at look,
• 47:26
  Speaker 1: I don't have any ass. Look like I'm flat, you know,
• 47:30
  Speaker 1: like live at me, no ass look at her. She's
• 47:33
  Speaker 1: skiddy to get people on my.
• 47:36
  Speaker 3: Side, you know.
• 47:37
  Speaker 1: But yes, but I think now I don't do do
• 47:43
  Speaker 1: that anymore. And I think my talent wants just give
• 47:46
  Speaker 1: me a second. And people do see my talent. But
• 47:49
  Speaker 1: I think it is more difficult because when I child,
• 47:51
  Speaker 1: when I walk into a comedy club and before I
• 47:53
  Speaker 1: get on stage, the other comics are like, you're a comedian.
• 47:57
  Speaker 1: You're a comedian.
• 47:59
  Speaker 3: You're a comedian? Yeah?
• 48:01
  Speaker 1: Why are you asking me two or three times?
• 48:03
  Speaker 3: Yeah? Yes?
• 48:04
  Speaker 2: Oh?
• 48:04
  Speaker 1: Are you as funny as you are beautiful? More funny
• 48:07
  Speaker 1: than I am beautiful? Can you imagine that? I told
• 48:11
  Speaker 1: a man that last week, you know, and girl the misogyny.
• 48:15
  Speaker 1: I got on stage. First of all, I didn't even
• 48:17
  Speaker 1: know who these men were. They introduced themselves to me before,
• 48:20
  Speaker 1: like as soon as I walked in, God damn, I say,
• 48:22
  Speaker 1: I know, right, And so he was like, what's your name?
• 48:26
  Speaker 1: I was like, I'm a comedian. Are you going up tonight?
• 48:29
  Speaker 1: I said yes, I am, and then I went up
• 48:33
  Speaker 1: ate the girls up per usual. I get on stage
• 48:36
  Speaker 1: and he's like, comes up to me, you just booked
• 48:39
  Speaker 1: yourself a comedy show? Did I first of all, I
• 48:44
  Speaker 1: don't know you from a can of coke, honey, Like
• 48:47
  Speaker 1: I don't know you, you know, and then to come
• 48:49
  Speaker 1: up to me and just tell me like, oh, you
• 48:51
  Speaker 1: know what.
• 48:53
  Speaker 3: I just booked you.
• 48:55
  Speaker 1: It turns out I wasn't even available on the date, honey,
• 48:57
  Speaker 1: I'll be in New York. So like the audacity, you know.
• 49:01
  Speaker 1: So it's just kind of like would you do that?
• 49:02
  Speaker 1: Would you have done that to a man? Like like
• 49:06
  Speaker 1: who are you talking to? So it's just like things
• 49:08
  Speaker 1: like that that I have to go through and I'm
• 49:10
  Speaker 1: just like, okay, but I can't be a bitch, you know.
• 49:13
  Speaker 1: I try to keep it cute. But if i'm if
• 49:15
  Speaker 1: I'm say what I'm thinking, then oh she's a bit,
• 49:18
  Speaker 1: she's cocky, she's oh, like I just be I just
• 49:22
  Speaker 1: be quiet, and I just be like mmm, So I know, I.
• 49:26
  Speaker 3: Mean, I I relate to everything that you're saying. Of course.
• 49:30
  Speaker 2: I mean I've been asked that question. It's like the
• 49:32
  Speaker 2: pretty privileged conversation and it's always weird to me. So
• 49:37
  Speaker 2: it's like, okay, so should I call myself ugly?
• 49:41
  Speaker 3: Are we gonna do that? Bit?
• 49:42
  Speaker 2: Yeah?
• 49:43
  Speaker 1: I don't know.
• 49:43
  Speaker 3: I'm not so then like that's being disingenuous.
• 49:47
  Speaker 1: I don't know if you did, people would hate you
• 49:49
  Speaker 1: for that.
• 49:50
  Speaker 3: Oh no, no, for sure, for sure, for sure, for sure,
• 49:52
  Speaker 3: for sure.
• 49:52
  Speaker 2: There's nothing worse than a beautiful woman who is who
• 49:54
  Speaker 2: is talking to everyone like she's like everyone else like bitch, please, Okay,
• 50:00
  Speaker 2: you don't have to do this bit. You just can
• 50:02
  Speaker 2: just be here and be beautiful. We don't need to
• 50:04
  Speaker 2: hear all about how you're having about skin day, Like
• 50:06
  Speaker 2: your skin as perfect, we're looking at it. So I
• 50:09
  Speaker 2: don't I don't like to do that. I don't like
• 50:11
  Speaker 2: to do self deprecating at all. But there is a
• 50:14
  Speaker 2: you know, there's a dark side to it as well,
• 50:17
  Speaker 2: like everything has things to it. And it's like it's
• 50:20
  Speaker 2: just a very testy conversation because it just comes across
• 50:23
  Speaker 2: as arrogant and it's like, this is my experience, So
• 50:27
  Speaker 2: how are you gonna tell me the experiences that I've
• 50:30
  Speaker 2: had moving through the world.
• 50:31
  Speaker 3: Yeah, you don't.
• 50:32
  Speaker 2: You either don't know because you're not, which is fine.
• 50:35
  Speaker 2: It's not like better or worse, that's not what we're
• 50:38
  Speaker 2: talking about. But you walk into a room and you
• 50:42
  Speaker 2: have to prove how serious you are because God made
• 50:45
  Speaker 2: your face perfect.
• 50:47
  Speaker 1: Well you know, yeah, perfect is a is a little
• 50:52
  Speaker 1: bit of a strait. But you know, yeah, people do.
• 50:56
  Speaker 1: I do have to, you know, I struggle for people
• 51:01
  Speaker 1: to take me seriously. But I don't know, I feel
• 51:03
  Speaker 1: like I'm such a unique person because I don't I
• 51:07
  Speaker 1: didn't even realize I was pretty till I was like
• 51:08
  Speaker 1: eighteen seventeen, so that I'm like, that's why I'm funny, you.
• 51:12
  Speaker 3: Know, like I have a personality.
• 51:14
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, I didn't know I was pretty until
• 51:16
  Speaker 1: I got a job at the mall, you know, so
• 51:20
  Speaker 1: that's interesting. But I mean the the privilege of it too,
• 51:24
  Speaker 1: is like I had one of my friends tell me
• 51:27
  Speaker 1: the other day, like, when you walk out of the room,
• 51:29
  Speaker 1: like you're the people, You're the person people are talking
• 51:31
  Speaker 1: about and it's because of your beauty and your talent.
• 51:33
  Speaker 1: And I'm like, oh, yes, I love that, you know,
• 51:36
  Speaker 1: so I'm thankful for that. But yeah, the things I
• 51:40
  Speaker 1: have to go through, I don't. Sometimes I'm like, is
• 51:42
  Speaker 1: it because I'm pretty or is it because I'm a woman?
• 51:44
  Speaker 3: Is it both? I mean, yeah, it can be both,
• 51:46
  Speaker 3: you know, maybe it's for sure. I mean women.
• 51:48
  Speaker 2: Obviously, any woman who is a comic is probably going
• 51:52
  Speaker 2: to say that they've gone through Oh yeah, same thing,
• 51:54
  Speaker 2: that experience of not being taken seriously. Yeah, but there
• 51:58
  Speaker 2: is a there's an added elements to it when you
• 52:01
  Speaker 2: are immediately sexualized. Yes, And it's not just that you're
• 52:05
  Speaker 2: a woman in the space and they don't want women
• 52:06
  Speaker 2: in the space.
• 52:07
  Speaker 3: It's also that you are perceived to.
• 52:09
  Speaker 2: Be in the space because you want attention, right, or
• 52:12
  Speaker 2: you're you're actually not really that funny, You're just like
• 52:15
  Speaker 2: trying something new, or like people would say always like
• 52:19
  Speaker 2: women and sports just like want to be on television,
• 52:21
  Speaker 2: Like there's so many other television jobs. Why wouldn't they
• 52:25
  Speaker 2: just do that, you know, So the things that they
• 52:27
  Speaker 2: say don't even make sense. But it's also like you
• 52:30
  Speaker 2: walking in and someone immediately talking about how you.
• 52:33
  Speaker 1: Look, Yeah, exactly happens all the time, right, and then
• 52:37
  Speaker 1: like you know that to me, that is a dig
• 52:41
  Speaker 1: like I and there's sometimes people comment they're like, oh,
• 52:43
  Speaker 1: well she's beautiful, look at but she's not funny blocked
• 52:47
  Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, if you just like me,
• 52:49
  Speaker 1: because the way I just get out of here, you know,
• 52:51
  Speaker 1: because that hurts my feelings because.
• 52:53
  Speaker 3: This is my art. You know, well what it does
• 52:57
  Speaker 3: is it devalues.
• 53:00
  Speaker 1: Lely devalues me and my artistic abilities, my intelligence, even
• 53:03
  Speaker 1: my creativity, you know, my talents. It's like you're bringing
• 53:07
  Speaker 1: me back down to just the way I look when
• 53:09
  Speaker 1: I've expressed my talents here. And that's so it is dehumanizing,
• 53:13
  Speaker 1: you know, yeah, so yeah, but you know I look
• 53:18
  Speaker 1: real good. So what I don't even mean that.
• 53:21
  Speaker 3: You know, you'll take it. You'll take you'll take the problems.
• 53:25
  Speaker 2: But there there, it is a it is an experience
• 53:27
  Speaker 2: that can be very, very dehumanizing at certain times.
• 53:31
  Speaker 1: You know what joy I'm starting to feel, because I'll
• 53:33
  Speaker 1: be honest with you, I'm very this is the most
• 53:35
  Speaker 1: confident I've ever felt. I feel good about the way
• 53:38
  Speaker 1: I look. I feel good about the way my body looks.
• 53:41
  Speaker 1: I feel free. I'm out, you know, living my best life.
• 53:45
  Speaker 1: And I do feel like people I've ever received some
• 53:49
  Speaker 1: positive feedback lately. But I'm like, am I doing? Am
• 53:51
  Speaker 1: I turning up too much? For y'all? Am I doing
• 53:53
  Speaker 1: too much? Like I ain't gotta opposset everything? But the
• 53:56
  Speaker 1: girls have been dming me do more. We love to
• 53:59
  Speaker 1: see it. We love to see you a mom do this.
• 54:00
  Speaker 1: We love to see you look so happy. Keep doing
• 54:04
  Speaker 1: what you're doing. I'm like, okay, but I do feel
• 54:07
  Speaker 1: like I'm kind of doing a lot. I'm about to
• 54:08
  Speaker 1: do a little bit more. I don't want you to
• 54:10
  Speaker 1: get uncomfortable.
• 54:11
  Speaker 3: No, you No, you should do you should. You should
• 54:13
  Speaker 3: be authentic to what feels right.
• 54:15
  Speaker 2: And I think especially being a front facing person or
• 54:17
  Speaker 2: like someone that makes content being doing something that's authentic.
• 54:22
  Speaker 2: When for me, my policy is like if I have
• 54:24
  Speaker 2: to think about it too much, I just don't do it. Yeah,
• 54:27
  Speaker 2: because there's something in my gut that's saying like this
• 54:29
  Speaker 2: is not it, or this is not authentic, or this
• 54:32
  Speaker 2: is going too far whatever that means for me. But yeah,
• 54:35
  Speaker 2: I mean I hear that from women all the time
• 54:37
  Speaker 2: that it's like it's it is refreshing to see someone
• 54:43
  Speaker 2: really step into their power. Yeah, And you're going through
• 54:47
  Speaker 2: phases of your life publicly, like you're going through getting divorced,
• 54:51
  Speaker 2: you're going through being a mother, like you're going through
• 54:55
  Speaker 2: career changes and challenges, and you're not doing all of
• 54:57
  Speaker 2: that in private.
• 54:59
  Speaker 3: You're doing that public and so that is an exchange
• 55:02
  Speaker 3: of being, you know, in front of the camera or
• 55:05
  Speaker 3: being on stage, like you have to bear a little
• 55:08
  Speaker 3: bit of yourself. Yeah, for sure.
• 55:10
  Speaker 2: And sometimes you're gonna stumble, you know, like as you do,
• 55:13
  Speaker 2: as we all do in life. And you know, luckily
• 55:17
  Speaker 2: for you, you're hilarious, so you can build it into
• 55:19
  Speaker 2: your your content, make money off of it, just like
• 55:23
  Speaker 2: your bathwater.
• 55:24
  Speaker 1: Yes, and one day I'll write a book.
• 55:27
  Speaker 2: Yeah, of course you will. Of course will all right,
• 55:29
  Speaker 2: but before we get you out of here, we're going
• 55:31
  Speaker 2: to do some rapid fire. Do you have a moment
• 55:34
  Speaker 2: on stage or on air that you wish you could
• 55:36
  Speaker 2: take back?
• 55:40
  Speaker 1: Hmmm, hell no, I say what I say.
• 55:46
  Speaker 3: You know, I'm trying to think too.
• 55:50
  Speaker 2: I'm sure there's been a moment where I was like
• 55:52
  Speaker 2: I said something inaccurate or something like that, but like
• 55:57
  Speaker 2: that happens.
• 55:58
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't.
• 55:58
  Speaker 2: I can't think of anything that I've said. I said
• 56:01
  Speaker 2: what I said, and if it was like offense, actually
• 56:04
  Speaker 2: that's not true. I'm gonna take it back. It came
• 56:06
  Speaker 2: to me getting older, my brain's moving slower.
• 56:10
  Speaker 1: Uh.
• 56:11
  Speaker 3: We were we were wrong about manti Ao. We were wrong. Yeah,
• 56:16
  Speaker 3: we were wrong about Manti Ao. I we were wrong.
• 56:19
  Speaker 3: There's just no way around that.
• 56:21
  Speaker 1: Favorite guilty pleasure television show. I feel like it's so
• 56:26
  Speaker 1: typical for me. Oh you know what, I married at
• 56:28
  Speaker 1: first sight?
• 56:29
  Speaker 3: Oh okay, I don't. I don't watch that one. I
• 56:32
  Speaker 3: like that one. I mean, I don't even know if
• 56:35
  Speaker 3: this is guilty pleasure.
• 56:36
  Speaker 2: But like I loved Flavor of Love and Rock of Love,
• 56:42
  Speaker 2: and like Flavor of Love three and Rock of Love
• 56:45
  Speaker 2: four and all like they were in appointment television films.
• 56:50
  Speaker 2: I love New York, Bring Incredible Television, Bring it Back. Yeah,
• 56:55
  Speaker 2: that was when reality television was like absolutely piquked. Yes,
• 56:59
  Speaker 2: I couldn't believe it. I don't believe people were acting
• 57:02
  Speaker 2: this way.
• 57:03
  Speaker 3: I mean, oh I love that.
• 57:05
  Speaker 1: I didn't know I could go back that far.
• 57:07
  Speaker 3: Oh yeah, well yeah, I mean those are those are standards.
• 57:11
  Speaker 2: Favorite beauty trick or products you feel like you do
• 57:14
  Speaker 2: you share these with the doors?
• 57:15
  Speaker 1: Yeah right now, oh favorite beauty trick. Well, I think
• 57:25
  Speaker 1: I people know me right now. I'm sort of phasing
• 57:27
  Speaker 1: into I'm a lip gloss girl. I love lip gloss,
• 57:30
  Speaker 1: and you have to put it like on top of
• 57:32
  Speaker 1: your lip. Your lips are good, you have to put
• 57:34
  Speaker 1: it on top of your lip like and push it
• 57:38
  Speaker 1: up over the lip line.
• 57:39
  Speaker 3: It doesn't go in the middle.
• 57:41
  Speaker 1: It does, but you want to put on first of all,
• 57:43
  Speaker 1: you put it on like a whore. Have you ever
• 57:44
  Speaker 1: heard me say that. I see you put it on
• 57:47
  Speaker 1: like you got a job to do, a girl.
• 57:49
  Speaker 3: Okay, okay.
• 57:50
  Speaker 1: And then you have so much on you can push
• 57:52
  Speaker 1: the product up up and over the top of your
• 57:55
  Speaker 1: lip because you want the top to shine. So when
• 57:59
  Speaker 1: you kind of like it like it's like a pow,
• 58:00
  Speaker 1: it's just so. It's so cute, and all the girls
• 58:03
  Speaker 1: are DM and me saying, I put it on like
• 58:05
  Speaker 1: a whore and I put it on top.
• 58:06
  Speaker 3: It's so cute. Do you have a favorite lip glass?
• 58:09
  Speaker 1: Yes, the Amicola lip gloss is really really good. But
• 58:12
  Speaker 1: they're they're going out of business.
• 58:13
  Speaker 3: Oh no, I know. I hate when that happens.
• 58:16
  Speaker 1: Uh.
• 58:16
  Speaker 2: My favorite beauty strick or products right now, I would
• 58:19
  Speaker 2: say the product is it's s I V M. It's
• 58:23
  Speaker 2: I have no idea what the product is, but my
• 58:27
  Speaker 2: amazing esthetician recommended for me and it is so good.
• 58:31
  Speaker 3: It like rebuilds the.
• 58:34
  Speaker 2: What's it called of your face or no, not collagen,
• 58:37
  Speaker 2: but like your barrier okay, and it's so good.
• 58:40
  Speaker 3: I use it every day. What is it moisturizer or
• 58:43
  Speaker 3: it's like a I don't know, it's like a thing.
• 58:46
  Speaker 2: It's like a serum almost really yeah, but it's really expensive,
• 58:51
  Speaker 2: well not really that expensive, but like it's kind of
• 58:53
  Speaker 2: expensive for one product.
• 58:54
  Speaker 3: But it's so good.
• 58:55
  Speaker 1: Okay, Now I need to know what and what step
• 58:57
  Speaker 1: of the routine do you use it in? Because I
• 58:59
  Speaker 1: love skincare.
• 59:00
  Speaker 3: I will send it to you. I love this product.
• 59:03
  Speaker 2: And she actually doesn't recommend every product to every person,
• 59:05
  Speaker 2: actually makes a specific thing, but this is one of
• 59:07
  Speaker 2: the ones that she recommends everybody.
• 59:08
  Speaker 3: Okay, it is the third fourth step.
• 59:13
  Speaker 2: So through spray, and then I had like these two
• 59:15
  Speaker 2: other things which I can remember, and the other serums,
• 59:18
  Speaker 2: and then it's it's.
• 59:19
  Speaker 3: The fourth thing. Okay. Interesting and then she faced like
• 59:21
  Speaker 3: some shiny and like bouncy in the morning. I love it.
• 59:26
  Speaker 3: Craziest TikTok rabbit hole you've ever gone down?
• 59:31
  Speaker 1: I kind of did some satire to this, and this
• 59:33
  Speaker 1: is recent. It's the lady who thinks her psychiatrist was
• 59:37
  Speaker 1: in love with her? Ever say that I saw?
• 59:39
  Speaker 3: I mean, I did get down the rabbit hole but
• 59:40
  Speaker 3: like I saw that. What happened with that?
• 59:42
  Speaker 1: She had a psychiatrist who saw her a very like
• 59:46
  Speaker 1: not that all, not that much time because you know psychiatrists,
• 59:49
  Speaker 1: they only prescribe medication, so you don't spend time. It's
• 59:51
  Speaker 1: not your therapist.
• 59:52
  Speaker 3: No, I see my psychiatrist every six months.
• 59:54
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and so she's like, oh, yeah, he was in
• 59:56
  Speaker 1: love with me, kind of obsessed with me, and then
• 59:59
  Speaker 1: he created bounce Like she was talking about the things
• 1:00:01
  Speaker 1: that he told her to create boundaries, and she's like, yeah,
• 1:00:04
  Speaker 1: like he actually loves these glasses that I'm wearing because
• 1:00:07
  Speaker 1: he told me he loved these glasses. So I'm kind
• 1:00:09
  Speaker 1: of wearing these hoping that he sees this. And everybody's like, girl,
• 1:00:12
  Speaker 1: the psychiatrist is not.
• 1:00:14
  Speaker 3: In love with you. Girls TikTok was telling her that
• 1:00:17
  Speaker 3: the psychiatrist was not in love with her.
• 1:00:18
  Speaker 1: Everybody was telling her on TikTok that they weren't, and
• 1:00:20
  Speaker 1: she's made a seventeen part series about it.
• 1:00:22
  Speaker 3: Oh forbid, don't ever let me det down.
• 1:00:28
  Speaker 1: Like you're going to see it tonight. So you're going
• 1:00:31
  Speaker 1: to see it tonight.
• 1:00:32
  Speaker 3: I really loved redheads are black.
• 1:00:36
  Speaker 1: Oh, redheads are black they're not.
• 1:00:38
  Speaker 3: Well, someone ruined it, right what they said. I heard that.
• 1:00:41
  Speaker 2: That's what happened. I mean the thing that they always say.
• 1:00:44
  Speaker 2: But oh but for like a good solid three days,
• 1:00:48
  Speaker 2: it was great content. Yeah, if you could have any superpower,
• 1:00:52
  Speaker 2: what would it be? Any superpower? I just want to
• 1:01:00
  Speaker 2: be rich, Write me a check.
• 1:01:05
  Speaker 1: Everything.
• 1:01:06
  Speaker 3: Who needs a superpower when you're rich?
• 1:01:09
  Speaker 2: They don't never, they don't never think about this. They're like, honey,
• 1:01:12
  Speaker 2: I have a helicopter lens on my I don't need
• 1:01:16
  Speaker 2: a superpower. I am superman exactly. That's a great that's
• 1:01:20
  Speaker 2: actually the only answer. But I would say a fly.
• 1:01:23
  Speaker 2: I mean, if I could fly my my eye, would
• 1:01:25
  Speaker 2: IY be rich? I'd be so convenient.
• 1:01:28
  Speaker 3: Like imagine if you could be like all right, like
• 1:01:30
  Speaker 3: done with this interview. I'm gonna go to New York.
• 1:01:31
  Speaker 3: I'll be there in two minutes because I can fly.
• 1:01:35
  Speaker 1: I just feel like if I could fly, people just
• 1:01:37
  Speaker 1: gonna be pulling me in all different like that just
• 1:01:39
  Speaker 1: requires me to work more. You just said a work scenario.
• 1:01:43
  Speaker 3: Oh no, you gotta you know, I could just like
• 1:01:46
  Speaker 3: fly see my you know what I mean, see my
• 1:01:47
  Speaker 3: work in New York.
• 1:01:48
  Speaker 2: Not that work.
• 1:01:49
  Speaker 3: Oh Okay, work, uh that kind of work and then
• 1:01:55
  Speaker 3: like just be back, you know what I mean.
• 1:01:56
  Speaker 1: But then when you get there, you all disheveled because
• 1:01:59
  Speaker 1: you've been in the air for Yeah.
• 1:02:00
  Speaker 2: I lett me like, fix my hair a little bit.
• 1:02:02
  Speaker 2: Maybe I'll get like a bonnet, you know, a flying bonnet.
• 1:02:04
  Speaker 3: Yes, you gotta have to help me. Yeah for the now.
• 1:02:09
  Speaker 2: Bugs, I know, I gotta save the world and shit,
• 1:02:13
  Speaker 2: but flying would be cool though.
• 1:02:15
  Speaker 3: This was so great. Thank you so much for coming down.
• 1:02:18
  Speaker 2: Make sure that you follow Jasmine and on Instagram Jazmine
• 1:02:22
  Speaker 2: JW and her podcast Jazz at the Dark on her Patreon,
• 1:02:26
  Speaker 2: The Secret Society, and you can see her comedy show
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  Speaker 2: again in Philadelphia at the Philadelphia City Winery on September
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  Speaker 2: twenty fifth.
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  Speaker 3: And yeah, let us know when you have a show
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  Speaker 3: because I'm coming out girl. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Check my page for other dates too, you never know.
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  Speaker 1: I'm adding cities all the time.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, make sure you go and find great great follow
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  Speaker 2: Thanks so much for coming Oh, thank you for having me.
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  Speaker 3: Loved hanging with Jazz.
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  Speaker 2: Make sure you follow her on social media and check
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  Speaker 2: out her shows when she travels around the country. She
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  Speaker 2: is amazing and I really appreciate her coming by to
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  Speaker 2: hang with us on Too Personal. All right, now it's
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  Speaker 2: time for Never Too Personal. If you want to be
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  Speaker 2: I just turned thirty and I feel stuck at a
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  Speaker 2: job I don't love. I want to make a career change,
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  Speaker 2: but I'm scared of starting over. How do you know
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  Speaker 2: when it's the right time to take that leap? So
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  Speaker 2: I don't like the advice of just quitting your job.
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  Speaker 2: I think it's much easier to find a new job
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  Speaker 2: when you already have a job. The anxiety and stress
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  Speaker 2: of worrying about being employed while also trying to find
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  Speaker 2: something that you really enjoy, for me, doesn't really create
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  Speaker 2: a good mixture of success. So I always recommend that
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  Speaker 2: you start looking while you are still employed.
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  Speaker 3: But I also think that you need to make a plan.
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  Speaker 3: It's really fun the idea of walking in.
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  Speaker 2: And quitting your job that you hate and starting a
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  Speaker 2: new life, but it's also wildly unrealistic. Make a plan,
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  Speaker 2: a plan for long term success in your career change.
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  Speaker 2: Make sure that you have the skills and the relationships
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  Speaker 2: to move into a new career space. But if it's
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  Speaker 2: something that you really want to do and you're truly unhappy,
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  Speaker 2: there's no time like the present.
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  Speaker 3: No one's going to do it for you.
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  Speaker 2: Your current situation is not going to magically transform into
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  Speaker 2: something that you truly love if it's something that you're
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  Speaker 2: not passionate about. And the real ty is that when
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  Speaker 2: you work in a space that you're passionate about, more
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  Speaker 2: things come to you because you're excited about it.
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  Speaker 3: You put an extra work in a way that doesn't
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  Speaker 3: feel like work. It feels like fun.
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  Speaker 2: You're making relationships in the industry. You're putting out good
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  Speaker 2: energy and good work. People like working with you, they
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  Speaker 2: want to hire you again, or they want to advance
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  Speaker 2: you in the space that you're in. So making a
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  Speaker 2: career change into something that you're really passionate about is,
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  Speaker 2: in my opinion, the best way to actually be successful
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  Speaker 2: because you're going to be pouring the right energy into
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  Speaker 2: the work that you do. But always make a plan.
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  Speaker 2: Don't just quit your job and up and try and
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  Speaker 2: get into a new industry. Make a real plan to
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  Speaker 2: make the change. Make sure that you have the money
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  Speaker 2: that you need to do that. Make sure that you
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  Speaker 2: have the skills and relationships you need to do that,
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  Speaker 2: but then do it. Don't get paralyzed by the idea
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  Speaker 2: that you're too old or that you know aren't going
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  Speaker 2: to be able to start over and have real success
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  Speaker 2: because you've been working in a different industry. People make
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  Speaker 2: changes all the time and have so much success and
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  Speaker 2: their lives are better and fuller because of it. So
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  Speaker 2: days doesn't matter how much time you put in a
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  Speaker 2: different industry doesn't matter.
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  Speaker 3: But what does matter is that you have a.
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  Speaker 2: Real plan that can be executed and that you are
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  Speaker 2: able to actually get work and have success in the
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  Speaker 2: industry that you want to move to. But I always say,
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  Speaker 2: go for it, just be practical about it. That's a
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