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Season 3 - Episode 180 - The distance between you and your outcomes · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning from the Chicken Coop podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop, along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop Today we are
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  talking about the one action that you can take immediately
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  that's going to help you the most.
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  And that is probably one of the most common questions that I get
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  asked when people start coaching right away.
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  You know, what's the one thing that I can do?
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  And they always sound like they're desperate when they ask
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  the question because they are and they want, they want to make
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  changes and they want things to go right away.
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  And it's, it's tough because everyone's in different places,
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  right? And everyone has their own
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  version of their story. We all have a story.
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  And that story is what holds us back ultimately.
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  But this particular question, what's the one thing that I can
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  do? That's what we're focusing on
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  today. And truthfully, the one thing
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  that you can do for yourself, manage your mindset, control
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  your thoughts. However you want to look at it,
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  nobody can control your thoughts, period.
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  You are the one that is in charge of your thoughts.
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  And this is such a hard concept to understand because we are
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  surrounded by things that are constantly attempting to control
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  our thoughts. You know, advertising,
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  influencers, social media, children, our spouses, our
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  bosses, everybody's trying to control your thoughts and
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  ultimately no one has control over them but you.
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  And you are the one that has the ultimate choice of what you want
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  to focus on. Everything happens internally.
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  Everything is an internal game. You know that distance between
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  your two temples, that is what we're talking about.
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  That's how far you are from your goal.
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  The distance, if you measured your head, whatever that
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  distance is between your two temples, that's how far you are
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  from your outcomes. Because it all depends on what
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  you think. It all depends on what you feel.
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  Those two things are combined. Thinking and feeling are
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  combined because they one dictates the other.
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  As I've said before in other podcasts, it's like one is is
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  predicating the other. And if you are looking for
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  reasons to be offended, if you are looking for reasons to give
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  other people control because Oh well, they're my boss or he's my
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  husband or she's my wife or my partner or whatever it might be.
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  That little tiny bit of information.
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  And this is what's so difficult for people to understand is that
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  these these are like little drops of poison.
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  And I'll often use the metaphor of saying, if I had a giant rain
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  barrel and I filled that rain barrel with water and I told you
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  it was the best water in the whole world, totally pure, and
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  you couldn't wait to try that water.
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  And then I walked over and I'm talking like a big giant rain
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  barrel. So let's just say maybe it's 100
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  gallon rain barrel. OK, So it's a good size.
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  And I put one drop of poison into that rain barrel.
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  Just one, just one little drop of poison.
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  And then I say to you, hey, would you like to have a cup of
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  this water? You would look at me like I was
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  absolutely insane. Why would I want to drink that
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  water, Kim? You'd say this is crazy.
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  I don't want to drink that water.
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  You just put a drop of poison into it.
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  Well, the truth is that's what happens in our brain every
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  single day when we allow those little tiny drops of information
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  and thoughts and attempted control from other people to
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  start to penetrate into our psyche, into what we believe.
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  Those little drops add up over and over and over and over.
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  And that's what starts the problem.
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  So think about that. If you wouldn't drink the water
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  that I would offer you with one drop of poison.
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  And by the way, that is probably completely OK to drink it.
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  According to government regulations, you should be
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  allowed to drink that and be safe.
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  So when you even think about that, even more, how crazy is
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  that? You're told it's safe, you can
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  have it, you can drink it, and you'll be OK.
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  And I always love it when someone says, hey, it's OK,
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  you'll be OK. Why do you want to just be OK?
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  You don't want to just be OK. If you didn't, if you just want
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  to be OK, you wouldn't be listening to this because you're
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  trying to find out what are the clues to be better?
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  How do I get to my place where I thrive?
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  How do I get to that place where I can consistently feel a
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  certain way? And I, I can't emphasize enough
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  these little tiny drops. These are the ones that are the
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  problem. Taking a drink from that barrel
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  would be a problem. And here we are looking at
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  ourselves every day and we're saying, well, what's the one
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  thing I can do? Everyone wants to look
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  externally for what can I do to change?
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  What's the one action I can take?
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  Well, the one action that you can take is to control what you
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  allow into your brain every single day, your own thoughts,
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  what you're surrounding yourself with, how you view things,
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  asking yourself over and over and over, is this how I really
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  want to view this? Is this true?
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  Is this just what I've always thought?
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  You have got to find your better questions so that you can pull
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  yourself out of this cycle of just allowing everything to
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  happen to you because that is not the way you want to live.
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  So the one thing that I want you to focus on for this whole week,
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  looking up and beyond, I mean, this is just an, you know, a, a,
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  a stepping stone in this process, but it's a continuous
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  stepping stone. I can't stress that enough.
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  This one is a continuous stepping stone.
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  The action that you are going to consistently take is how long am
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  I going to hang on to this? When something happens, how long
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  am I going to look at this as it's an offence, What can I do
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  right now to move myself forward?
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  So you are always managing those thoughts, always managing the
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  emotions, always managing the mindsets.
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  That's the action that you should be focused on.
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  OK guys, I will see you tomorrow.
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  Have a great day.