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How To Have Rich Conversations · Two Broke Chicks

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Speaker 1: This podcast is recorded on gadigal Land Always was, always
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Speaker 1: will be Aboriginal Land.
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Speaker 2: Hey jis, I'm out and I'm sal And this is
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Speaker 2: two roat chicks to show that shares life lessons and
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Speaker 2: tips to make you what rich rich in life And
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Speaker 2: you're over a very rich weet. Yeah, if you've been
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Speaker 2: living under a rock, maybe you've got us blocked. But
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Speaker 2: this week we launched the new, brand new rich in
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Speaker 2: Life formula for twenty twenty five and beyond baby, and
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Speaker 2: she's already selling out.
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Speaker 3: I know, she's absolutely soaring off the digital shelves.
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Speaker 2: Check so if you have missed it, we relaunched rich
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Speaker 2: in Life, which is our now is three products. She
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Speaker 2: was originally just one, but she is now in a
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Speaker 2: planner and a diary.
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Speaker 1: As well as a journal and rich conversation cards. That's right.
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Speaker 1: Today we were like, let's play, let's play our card game. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: that'd be fucking made because that's fucking fun. Yeah, exactly.
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Speaker 3: And we wanted to make this card game because you know,
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Speaker 3: when you catch up with people and you're just like,
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Speaker 3: how are or you're chatting with a loved one who
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Speaker 3: you've talked to all the time, and sometimes it feels
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Speaker 3: like you've exhausted all of the conversation topics. Yeah, and
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Speaker 3: we wanted to create something that will encourage people to
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Speaker 3: have deeper, richer conversations, to only further their connections with
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Speaker 3: their loved ones, or even to learn things about a stranger.
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Speaker 3: Like there's really no limit in how you can use
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Speaker 3: these cards. So there's fifty two cards, all with different
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Speaker 3: individual prompts. And I love it because it's a mix
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Speaker 3: of like silly and serious.
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Speaker 1: That's what I was going to say, because it's like,
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Speaker 1: conversation cards.
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Speaker 2: Are not a new concept, Like there's definitely quite a
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Speaker 2: bit out there, but I don't feel like I've ever
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Speaker 2: really found one that in capated both the silly and
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Speaker 2: the serious the way that I like.
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Speaker 1: To have conversations.
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Speaker 3: Like a little bit of light and shade, baby, totally
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Speaker 3: stuff to make you giggle, there's stuff to make you think,
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Speaker 3: and there's stuff to make you love.
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Speaker 1: So you can play this with your brother, your mother,
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Speaker 1: your sister, and your friends.
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Speaker 3: But before we start playing, should we get into our obsessions.
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Speaker 1: Of the way, Yes, tell me what are you obsessed with?
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Speaker 3: Okay, So we covered this on our Instagram story and
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Speaker 3: over on our TikTok last week, but it is the
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Speaker 3: entire Adair's Christmas collection.
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Speaker 2: They have quite literally and pun intended play they really have.
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Speaker 1: It's just amazing, like and beautiful. They've nailed it.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, from like the bedding and the sheets to the
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Speaker 3: Christmas ornaments, all of the different decourse slippers, pj's, they
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Speaker 3: have everything. Sometimes with Christmas collections they can be a
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Speaker 3: little bit tacky, but never with the dares.
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Speaker 1: Nah. I agree, they're always so so chic.
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Speaker 3: And I will say we did do a collab with them,
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Speaker 3: but this shout out is not paid.
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Speaker 1: I just wanted it. When you message them, we actually message.
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Speaker 3: That you guys, Yeah, because we'd seen a sneak peak
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Speaker 3: of some of the Christmas stuff that had dropped early.
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Speaker 1: And we were like, oh my god, this is so beautiful.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, but yeah, I just wanted to say this shout
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Speaker 3: out isn't sponsored. I just wanted to make sure that
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Speaker 3: if any of the chicks didn't see the stuff on
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Speaker 3: our story or the TikTok, that they didn't miss out
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Speaker 3: because we're honestly bought so much and it was during
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Speaker 3: their Linen Love of Sale event, so we saved over
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Speaker 3: like four hundred and eighty dollars between us.
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Speaker 1: So yeah, ten Merry Christmas to us.
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Speaker 2: Well, speaking of my session of the week is the
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Speaker 2: Lush Christmas Collection.
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Speaker 1: Oh my god, Yes.
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Speaker 2: I am on my Lush bandwagon at the moment. Ever
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Speaker 2: since we did the video about viral vanilla body care routine,
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Speaker 2: like I've been I've always really liked Lush, but I
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Speaker 2: am really obsessed with it because ever since I started
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Speaker 2: shopping at Lush more, I just keep getting used forel
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Speaker 2: nice compliments like all the fucking time, and it's amazing,
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Speaker 2: like best compliment in the world. And they brought out
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Speaker 2: like these new limited edition things that they've got one
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Speaker 2: called yognog, which, like that name just scratches something in
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Speaker 2: my brain.
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Speaker 3: Well, because eggnog is kind of a bit of a
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Speaker 3: weird concept in itself.
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Speaker 1: What is it again, It's like alcoholic eggs.
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Speaker 2: It's a question for the people in America, like does
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Speaker 2: anyone actually drink eggnog? Or is it just like a thing,
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Speaker 2: Like how in Australia they think it we just put
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Speaker 2: shrimps from the barbie all the time, yeah, or that.
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Speaker 3: We ride like kangaroos to school. Is it a real
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Speaker 3: thing or is it like a stereotype.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know, but what is eggnog? Okay?
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Speaker 3: So eggnog is traditionally made with eggs, egg yolk, sugar, milk,
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Speaker 3: heavy cream, and vanilla extract. It's often spiked with brandy,
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Speaker 3: rum or other liquor and topped with freshly grated nutmeg
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Speaker 3: and or cinnamon sticks.
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Speaker 1: Wait, I might take it back. I can't get around
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Speaker 1: have egg whites in there.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, and I hate that, so it obviously on Google
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Speaker 3: it comes up with like the FAQ's underneath, And the
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Speaker 3: third one is why is it okay to drink eggnog?
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Speaker 2: I got salmonella poisoning from raw eggs when I ate
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Speaker 2: cake batter one time.
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Speaker 3: Okay, so most store bought eggnogs have been pasteurized so
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Speaker 3: that the eggs within the eggnog have been cooked to
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Speaker 3: a level that they are made safe.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, there you go. So you can't make eggnog with
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Speaker 1: raw eggs.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, back to lush Yes, yognog yognog.
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Speaker 1: They also have their fairy ones, snow Fairy.
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Speaker 2: It's like pink and sparkly. They have this like two
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Speaker 2: tone one which is so pretty and they just.
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Speaker 1: Are like a beautiful brand. They smell amazing.
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Speaker 2: They Let the Good Times roll spray is also amazing,
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Speaker 2: and the Yognog comes in like a shower gel as
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Speaker 2: well as a moisturizer. But they've also brought out the
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Speaker 2: Sticky Dates shower gel in a lotion as well.
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Speaker 1: I don't know if it's.
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Speaker 2: A limited edition thing for Christmas, but it's amazing. Sticky
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Speaker 2: Dates is like amazing. And then they also have a
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Speaker 2: Yognog body spray, which is also as good as the
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Speaker 2: Let the Good Times Rolled body spray in my opinion.
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Speaker 3: They also have a Wicked collab coming out for the movie,
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Speaker 3: so if you're a Wicked fan, definitely get around them
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Speaker 3: because they're so cute.
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Speaker 1: And then what's the name of the really nice smelling hair.
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Speaker 2: The Super Milk hair condition to spray that I just
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Speaker 2: like use as a whole body spray because every time
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Speaker 2: I wear that, I get compliments on the two. Yeah,
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Speaker 2: I would give you like a ten product list of
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Speaker 2: things to buy from Lush and it still wouldn't be enough.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, I was gonna say if you're a fan of
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Speaker 3: the Super Milk range. I don't think I'm allowed to
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Speaker 3: say exactly, but I did get a snake peek that's
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Speaker 3: something very exciting is dropping within that range for Black Friday.
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Speaker 1: To make sure we go into store on Black Friday. Definitely.
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Speaker 1: But yeah, there you go. Very good. Okay, Shall we
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Speaker 1: have some rich conversation?
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Speaker 2: Yeah, let's do it, all right, I'm going to shuffle
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Speaker 2: the cards and we're gonna pick just random question.
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Speaker 1: Nice.
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Speaker 2: Okay, what's an unexpected lesson you learned from a past relationship?
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Speaker 3: As I'm sure a lot of you chicks now, I've
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Speaker 3: only really been in one real romantic relationship, and obviously
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Speaker 3: this goes for any type of relationship. Yeah, but one
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Speaker 3: like unexpected lesson that I learned from I would say
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Speaker 3: like my first real crush when I was in high school,
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Speaker 3: and it was like at a time when I really
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Speaker 3: thought that like they were going to be probably like
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Speaker 3: my first boyfriend, and then he just like absolutely broke
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Speaker 3: my heart.
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Speaker 1: And it was.
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Speaker 3: That you shouldn't always share like everything about your relationship
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Speaker 3: and how excited you are online when you're not really committed.
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Speaker 1: To the person. Yeah.
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Speaker 3: So I think that taught me for my relationship that
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Speaker 3: I am in now, because I was like fifteen at
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Speaker 3: the time, that it is better to keep some things
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Speaker 3: that are special private. I think either so that one
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Speaker 3: if it turns out that it's not so special, you're
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Speaker 3: not embarrassed and then have to go fucking clean out
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Speaker 3: your entire MySpace and all your MSN personal messages. But yeah,
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Speaker 3: you know, like you see people and they're going through
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Speaker 3: breakups and you can tell that they're going through a
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Speaker 3: breakup and they're sharing like their inspirational quotes on their
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Speaker 3: story and stuff.
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Speaker 1: Like half of me is like, yes, like power to
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Speaker 1: your girl, But.
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Speaker 3: Then part of me is also like, sometimes it's better
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Speaker 3: just not to like air your dirty laundry or keep
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Speaker 3: somethings personal and or you know, speak about it with
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Speaker 3: your loved ones in person, not share it online to
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Speaker 3: a bunch of strangers.
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Speaker 2: I think I just tend to like really try to
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Speaker 2: pull away from like just any like negativity or like
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Speaker 2: drama or totally stuff like that online because it just
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Speaker 2: doesn't just makes me anxious, like I'm not even involved,
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Speaker 2: and I'm like, oh.
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Speaker 3: Yeah when you see people beefs online or yeah, ever, okay,
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Speaker 3: so what's an unexpected lesson you?
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Speaker 2: Let I think the unexpected lesson I've learned for a
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Speaker 2: past relationship. And I actually was thinking about this the
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Speaker 2: other day is that your internal monologue should never.
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Speaker 1: Be too loud when you're with the right person.
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Speaker 2: And how I was thinking about how just when I
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Speaker 2: would be spending time with someone, and this goes for
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Speaker 2: romantic or platonic relationships or familial that but this mainly
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Speaker 2: applies to when I'm thinking about romantic But when I
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Speaker 2: think about it further, I'm like, oh, I would do
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Speaker 2: that with friends that I think were kind of not
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Speaker 2: very nice to me.
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Speaker 1: But I would be thinking about, oh, okay, I'll sit up,
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Speaker 1: sit up like this, or what do I say? Osh?
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Speaker 1: I should make it joy and like I'm in my
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Speaker 1: head thinking about.
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Speaker 2: How I should act to make this person like me,
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Speaker 2: or like how to be the best version of myself
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Speaker 2: or how to not embarrass myself or how to be
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Speaker 2: hot or like what to like basically manufacturing myself and
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Speaker 2: thinking about how I can be something that the other
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Speaker 2: person will like rather than just being myself. And how like,
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Speaker 2: in comparison to now, when I spend time with people,
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Speaker 2: whether it's you, whether it's our friends, whether it's my partner,
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Speaker 2: I am not thinking like and as someone who is overthinking,
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Speaker 2: like an overthinker with a very loud very busy brain
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Speaker 2: for me to spend time with people and I don't
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Speaker 2: have to think about the way that I act or
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Speaker 2: the way that I want to be perfect for them
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Speaker 2: is such a clear indicator of how good that person
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Speaker 2: is in my life and how healthy that relationship is
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Speaker 2: for me. And they definitely are people that like I
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Speaker 2: meet and I'm like, and I'll have a flare up
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Speaker 2: and I'm like, well, wait, don't be too much or
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Speaker 2: don't talk too much, or don't do this or whatever,
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Speaker 2: and that will still happen. And that's also important at
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Speaker 2: some points in time when you know, maybe you're having
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Speaker 2: a really important meeting at work or you are meeting
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Speaker 2: new people and you do want to put your best
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Speaker 2: foot forward. But I really think about it, especially in
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Speaker 2: like past relationships, is that I don't think I truly
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Speaker 2: ever was myself and I just was always trying to
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Speaker 2: be something that they would like. And how that just
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Speaker 2: doesn't even occur now, Like I'm just a little weirder
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Speaker 2: free and I love that.
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Speaker 1: Yeah.
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Speaker 3: I think once that happens, you realize that it's not
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Speaker 3: normal to question your own behavior and manufacture your own
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Speaker 3: behavior to that level, because when you're with the right
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Speaker 3: person or in the right friendships, they will accept you.
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Speaker 3: So then you don't have to try and make.
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Speaker 1: Up for it or pretend to be something like even
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Speaker 1: when you're having.
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Speaker 2: Sex, I would just be in my head during that
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Speaker 2: like that it would be like difficult to you know,
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Speaker 2: be in the moment.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think that's it. It's like I couldn't really
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Speaker 1: be in the.
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Speaker 2: Moment with people because I was too busy thinking about
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Speaker 2: you know, And that's the thing is that probably was
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Speaker 2: also I think there is a part of that that
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Speaker 2: I played a.
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Speaker 1: Role in as well.
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Speaker 2: But I think when you were in a secure relationship
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Speaker 2: on both ends, Like I'm not saying it's purely that
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Speaker 2: person's fault that I was overthinking either, but I think
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Speaker 2: when you're compatible and when you're in the right relationship,
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Speaker 2: that doesn't happen.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, you don't have to perform. You can just be
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Speaker 1: tell me to stop. Stop. Oh god, Oh, that one
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Speaker 1: really wants to come out. Shit, what is it? Oh
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Speaker 1: my god, what's the silliest thing you've.
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Speaker 2: Done trying to impress someone, probably like fake an orgasm
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Speaker 2: or something, or pretending to.
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Speaker 1: Like something that you don't give.
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Speaker 2: Oh my god, there's I could least like seventeen that
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Speaker 2: I've probably pretended to, Like what have you pretended to?
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Speaker 1: Like just to be cool?
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Speaker 3: Like bands before I being like, oh yeah, I've never
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Speaker 3: even listened to a song.
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Speaker 1: Yeah you know one time. Oh my god, I've got one.
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Speaker 2: Okay, So I've never really been like into the rap
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Speaker 2: music or like the hippitie harp. So like when people
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Speaker 2: listen to like Drake and like the Weekend, Like, I
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Speaker 2: Am not not saying that there's anything wrong with them
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Speaker 2: all that music sucks or anything like that, but I'm.
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Speaker 1: Just not in with the cool. We're just not well versed.
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Speaker 1: No no, no no. But yeah.
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Speaker 2: So in high school very similar, like people would listen
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Speaker 2: to like Nicki Minaj Monster and I was like, I
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Speaker 2: don't know any of the words, and everyone's like wrapping
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Speaker 2: the whole thing. So when super Bass came out, I
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Speaker 2: went home and I've learned the lyrics to Superverse, and
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Speaker 2: I would practice in my room and my mom in
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Speaker 2: and she was.
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Speaker 1: Like, who are you talking to? Like I'm practicing this speech.
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Speaker 2: I literally was playing the song and reading this one
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Speaker 2: is for voice, and I could sup, I still know
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Speaker 2: what worn't for words today. That's probably one of the
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Speaker 2: silliest things I've ever done. And then this is the
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Speaker 2: worst part. I went to school the next day and.
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Speaker 1: Wrapped it for people. Oh my god.
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Speaker 3: There used to be this feature on MSN where you
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Speaker 3: could link like your MSN to your Microsoft Music Player
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Speaker 3: and show what you were listening to in your personal message,
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Speaker 3: and so like, I'd be chatting to a guy and
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Speaker 3: I knew they liked a band like I didn't like them,
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Speaker 3: but I would play the song and then mute it
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Speaker 3: so I didn't have to listen to it, but it
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Speaker 3: would shaft in my MSN thing and.
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Speaker 2: They would say and I'd be like, oh my god, wait,
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Speaker 2: I've got the modern day version of that because I
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Speaker 2: did it.
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Speaker 1: What what.
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Speaker 2: I don't know if I've don'ld you this? So I
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Speaker 2: this is ages ago, by the way.
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Speaker 1: Anymore? But also who it's fucking funny.
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Speaker 2: I went to his Spotify profile and I looked at his.
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Speaker 1: Top played artists.
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Speaker 2: I like found one of the songs, and then like
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Speaker 2: posted a story and put that artist.
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Speaker 1: Oh my god, did he reply?
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Speaker 2: Yes?
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Speaker 1: Wasn't silly? Wasn't silly?
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Speaker 2: Obviously pretending to like things that you don't actually like
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Speaker 2: just to get someone's attention is silly, but it's really funny.
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Speaker 1: We've all been there. Yeah, that's like, Oh, that's so funny.
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Speaker 1: I didn't even remember that I did that until he
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Speaker 1: said that. All Right, I'm sorry, I have.
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Speaker 2: To already answered this on the podcast before, so I
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Speaker 2: have to choose a different answer. Okay, But if you
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Speaker 2: could wipe your brain and consume one piece of content
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Speaker 2: fresh again, what would it be?
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Speaker 1: Harry Potter? Oh, what a great answer, What a great like?
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Speaker 1: There is there any follow up? Elaborate? Absolutely not. Now
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Speaker 1: I ask you, you can only pick. I know what
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Speaker 1: the answer can be.
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Speaker 2: You can only pick between wiping the book or the
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Speaker 2: movie again, which wonder.
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Speaker 3: The books for sure, But I do think that because
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Speaker 3: when I first read them, I was growing up with
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Speaker 3: them and with the characters, and having to wait, you know,
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Speaker 3: a year or more between releases that added to the
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Speaker 3: experience and the hype. So part of me is also like,
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Speaker 3: do I even want to wipe having that memory to
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Speaker 3: consume it fresh, because it probably wouldn't be as satisfying
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Speaker 3: or as like monumental for MANA.
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Speaker 1: Lots of adults like read books and things that will
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Speaker 1: shape them forever. But I think there's something about a
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Speaker 1: book that you really much amrie.
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Speaker 2: Because what I was gonna say is something that I've
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Speaker 2: already said would be thrown a glass.
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Speaker 1: But it's very similar to what you just said.
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Speaker 2: Is that I started reading it when I was like
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Speaker 2: seventeen and then grew up with it and like grew
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Speaker 2: up with the same age as like that main character. Yeah,
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Speaker 2: but I wasn't gonna pick that because I've already said
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Speaker 2: that before on the pod.
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Speaker 1: So I was going to say, the Vampire dies.
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Speaker 2: Vampire, Yeah, I fucking love that show. Yeah, but again,
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Speaker 2: would it hit as hard?
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Speaker 1: Who knows.
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Speaker 2: That's what I always try to remember when I am
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Speaker 2: watching a new show for the very first time or
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Speaker 2: reading a new book series for the very first time,
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Speaker 2: that I'm like, this is the first time I get
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Speaker 2: to do this, Yeah, and I am not, like I'm
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Speaker 2: not appreciating it to the value I should, Like I
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Speaker 2: need to be not scrolling on my phone when I'm
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Speaker 2: watching this or really like enjoying how good this is
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Speaker 2: that I get to crawl into bed and read this
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Speaker 2: book for the first fucking time, Like that is just
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Speaker 2: so delicious and I just want to eat that feeling
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Speaker 2: every day.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I love that. Yeah.
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Speaker 3: I think it's such a good reminder to live in
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Speaker 3: the moment but also not live in the past too
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Speaker 3: much and wishing that you can recreate things like that
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Speaker 3: because you can't.
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Speaker 1: You just can't. It's lightning in a bottle, and there
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Speaker 1: are so many things that whether it's you're gonna say
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Speaker 1: lightning McQueen queen that it could.
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Speaker 3: Be like an experience, a TV show, a book, whatever,
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Speaker 3: it is a memory that you look back on, you're.
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Speaker 1: Like, God, I just missed.
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Speaker 3: You can miss it, of course, but you know you're
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Speaker 3: really pine for it, and you're not living in the
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Speaker 3: moment because you're like, you just never know if it
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Speaker 3: would have hit exactly the same, because who you are
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Speaker 3: at that moment in time is so unique. Yeah, And
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Speaker 3: there's a reason why whatever it was resonated with you
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Speaker 3: so deeply in that moment, and perhaps if you were
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Speaker 3: to experience it now, it wouldn't be quite the same,
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Speaker 3: wouldn't have that same impact on you.
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Speaker 1: My second one would be the oc all right, our
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Speaker 1: last one, because we don't want to give them all away.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly, Who want them to be a surprise when
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Speaker 3: you chick drinks with the girls.
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Speaker 1: All right? If you could make one rule that everyone
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Speaker 1: in the world had to follow. What would it be?
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Speaker 1: I know, what, when you see someone, you have to
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Speaker 1: smile at them. What if they don't deserve it?
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Speaker 2: Though, I think if everyone smiled at each other, the
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Speaker 2: world would be a better fucking place.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's true. Maybe some of the people who aren't
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Speaker 1: so nice would be nicer people. If someone was smiling,
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Speaker 1: they experienced kindness and therefore couldn't give it back to someone.
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Speaker 2: That's true, because like I or if someone smiles at you,
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Speaker 2: you've got to smile at the next person.
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Speaker 1: The little flow on effect.
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Speaker 3: Pay it forward.
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Speaker 1: Smile at that's cute. That's the rule I would make.
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Speaker 3: And also everyone has to compliment me, every single person.
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Speaker 1: In the world.
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Speaker 2: I need seven billion or eight billion compliments per day.
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Speaker 1: Thank you? Okay.
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Speaker 3: Mine would be that we would have a two day
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Speaker 3: working week and a five day weekend and everybody has
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Speaker 3: to follow it, so we're all on the same page here.
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Speaker 3: Nothing would get done, SOEU would okay, we'd all bring
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Speaker 3: down our expectations what was required.
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Speaker 1: I love that because it would be different.
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Speaker 3: If we just had a two day working week and
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Speaker 3: a five day weekend, then we'd be like, oh fuck.
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Speaker 1: I love that you went for two days. You didn't
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Speaker 1: go for four.
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Speaker 3: You didn't go for because I was like, let's flip
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Speaker 3: it and reverse you know what's that song, Missy Elliott?
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Speaker 1: And reverse it? If you got a big let me
20:52
Speaker 1: search it and had I gotta work?
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Speaker 3: Yeah, maybe I went home and read the lyric book Elliot.
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Speaker 1: I've revealed too much on the show. All right, what
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Speaker 1: would you do with five days off? Whatever I wanted? See?
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Speaker 1: That kind of scares me because I'm a bit of
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Speaker 1: a workoholic, so I'm like, what else is there? I
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Speaker 1: would just be working clean my house for five days.
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Speaker 1: Oh you're a freak. You're weird.
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Speaker 3: So clean.
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Speaker 1: Well, there's a.
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Speaker 2: Little sneak peak for our Rich Conversations, so if you
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Speaker 1: It just depends when you want it.
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Speaker 2: If you want them now, get them in the bundle,
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Speaker 2: or if you're happy to wait, you can just get
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Speaker 2: January because they sold out and we had to put
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Speaker 1: We'll keep you updated, yes, but shared you advice with
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Speaker 1: the Chicky Jaw. Now let's do it.
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Speaker 3: This chick says, I'm twenty nine and I've been with
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Speaker 3: my partner for two years. He has an amazing group
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Speaker 3: of friends that he's had for the majority of his life.
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Speaker 3: I'm struggling with jelling with some of the wives and
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Speaker 3: girlfriends of his friends, and it really gets me down
22:20
Speaker 3: from time to time. To be fair, they've been friends
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Speaker 3: for many, many years and individually very lovely, but I
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Speaker 3: found it gatherings. It's very much a pack mentality, and
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Speaker 3: I'm left on the outer. I'm also quite a bit
22:33
Speaker 3: younger than most of them, as they're in their mid thirties.
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Speaker 3: I've spoken with my partner about it many times, and
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Speaker 3: he's so supportive of my feelings and has encouraged friendships
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Speaker 3: as much as he can. I never thought I'd be
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Speaker 3: struggling this much to make friends at twenty nine, and
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Speaker 3: almost feel like they don't need any more friends, so
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Speaker 3: they just don't bother to include.
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Speaker 1: Me in their girly catchups.
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Speaker 3: I hate that I care so much to want to
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Speaker 3: fit in with the wives, but it's just been looming
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Speaker 3: over me for ages.
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Speaker 1: Help.
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Speaker 2: Oh my god, that's such a natural emotion, Like, don't
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Speaker 2: feel bad about the fact that you want to fit in,
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Speaker 2: Like that is a natural human reaction.
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Speaker 1: Like humans are kind of like pack.
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Speaker 2: Animals, so it is a natural urge to want to belong.
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Speaker 2: So like regardless of age, regardless of whether you're twenty
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Speaker 2: nine or forty two, sixty eight or twelve years old,
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Speaker 2: wanting to belong is a natural thing to want and feel.
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Speaker 1: I don't think we ever grow out of that, and
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Speaker 1: we're not supposed to.
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Speaker 2: No, when you if you don't have that, you're losing
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Speaker 2: out on the ability to love and feel and enjoy
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Speaker 2: people and.
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Speaker 1: Make new friends exactly.
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Speaker 2: I think I do completely understand like the dynamic in
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Speaker 2: the scenario of this situation.
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Speaker 1: Don't you.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, for sure, And I think that so many people do,
23:52
Speaker 3: especially if you know you're with somebody and they they're
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Speaker 3: friends with, you know, their same friends from high school
24:00
Speaker 3: or primary school, and they have that bond. I do think,
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Speaker 3: though that you've said that they're all lovely individually.
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Speaker 1: So I think there's hope.
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Speaker 3: But I do think that sometimes people get stuck in
24:12
Speaker 3: their old ways and their old routines and their clicks
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Speaker 3: without even.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, even be realizing that they're kind of being a
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Speaker 2: bit of a pack yeah and ostracizing you.
24:22
Speaker 3: I think that you could potentially take back the power
24:26
Speaker 3: a little bit.
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Speaker 1: And be like, I'm hosting a girls' night, and you
24:31
Speaker 1: set up the group message and you reach out to
24:33
Speaker 1: everyone and.
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Speaker 3: Be like, hey, chicks, I'm thinking, let's have like a
24:36
Speaker 3: wine and cheese night at mine and invite everybody over
24:40
Speaker 3: and show them how much of a fun time you
24:42
Speaker 3: are and how great it would be if you all
24:44
Speaker 3: hang out together and see how that goes. Because you
24:47
Speaker 3: never know, you might even do it and then be like, oh,
24:50
Speaker 3: actually this isn't for me, or you'll realize that you
24:54
Speaker 3: guys do have a lot in common and have a
24:56
Speaker 3: really good time. And I think that might is that
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Speaker 3: for you a little bit, because at the moment, it's
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Speaker 3: sort of like you're on the outs, which I do
25:04
Speaker 3: understand is really hard and that also takes like a
25:06
Speaker 3: lot of courage to put yourself out there and host something.
25:09
Speaker 3: But I think it could be a case that maybe
25:11
Speaker 3: they don't.
25:11
Speaker 1: Even realize that they're doing it people.
25:13
Speaker 2: Just have a habitual in their relationships. Yeah, Like they
25:17
Speaker 2: gravitate to what they know and what they're comfortable with.
25:20
Speaker 2: So given the fact that they have known each other
25:22
Speaker 2: for longer, that's what they naturally gravitate to. That's what
25:25
Speaker 2: they're naturally comfortable with. And so so often people don't
25:29
Speaker 2: realize that some people might not feel as comfortable or
25:33
Speaker 2: gravitate as easily. And so yeah, I think that's such
25:37
Speaker 2: a great piece of advice, no notes, no addition, it's
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Speaker 2: no comments.
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Speaker 3: And I think as well, I like, I'm sure they
25:44
Speaker 3: are all lovely, but I do also think that sometimes
25:47
Speaker 3: there's an expectation that you have to get along with
25:50
Speaker 3: your partner's friends and their partners, and same with family.
25:55
Speaker 1: Or whatever it is.
25:56
Speaker 3: But like, guess what you don't have to Yeah, and
25:59
Speaker 3: so you also could you know, if you don't get
26:02
Speaker 3: along with them genuinely, you actually don't want to be
26:04
Speaker 3: their friends, Like take some of that pressure off you
26:07
Speaker 3: as well, Like you don't have to be in their
26:10
Speaker 3: click or in their group or have a really close
26:12
Speaker 3: relationship with these people. If you don't genuinely connect and
26:16
Speaker 3: get along, that doesn't make you a failure or any
26:19
Speaker 3: less deserving of friends. It just means that maybe you're
26:22
Speaker 3: not compatible and that's okay too, But I think try
26:24
Speaker 3: the Girl's Night and see how that goes. It reminds
26:26
Speaker 3: me of spoilers in case you haven't seen it, but
26:30
Speaker 3: in Nobody Wants this.
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Speaker 1: Yes, I know exactly the sactly what made me think
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Speaker 1: of that.
26:35
Speaker 3: There's a scene exactly like this where the new girlfriend
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Speaker 3: is trying to break into the wife get strunk with them,
26:41
Speaker 3: and she gets drunk with them and they bond immediately.
26:44
Speaker 1: So and she bonds with them when she like just
26:47
Speaker 1: starts being herself exactly. Yeah, love it. Well that's a
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Speaker 1: wrap woo.
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