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Almost Famous OG: Birthday Bash with Ryan Sutter · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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  Speaker 1: This is the almost famous podcast with iHeartRadio.
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  Speaker 2: Welcome to the almost Famous OG podcast.
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  Speaker 1: This is Trista.
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  Speaker 2: If you can't understand my voice, I mean it's been
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  Speaker 2: a while, so hopefully you know that it's Trista and
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  Speaker 2: I am very happily joined by my husband, Ryan Sutter,
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  Speaker 2: who loves podcasting with me. No, I know you don't.
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  Speaker 2: Once we get once we get going, it's all good.
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  Speaker 2: And we're in this lovely Verbo in the Lake Tahoe,
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  Speaker 2: which you know, coming to Lake Tahoe just reminds me
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  Speaker 2: of being in Veil where we lived for twenty years,
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  Speaker 2: and I cannot wait to go and look all around
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  Speaker 2: the property. I know you've seen a little bit of it, and.
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  Speaker 3: It is that's beautiful.
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  Speaker 1: It is beautiful.
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  Speaker 2: We got so lucky, and you guys, listen, procrastinators can
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  Speaker 2: rejoice because Verbo has last minute deals for private vacation
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  Speaker 2: renolds and you'll want to ping this one. I think
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  Speaker 2: it's called the River House in Tahoe and it is stunning.
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  Speaker 2: It has like a massage room, it has a sauna.
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  Speaker 1: What else does it have?
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  Speaker 2: It has a beautiful pool and hot tub outside just
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  Speaker 2: this babbling creek.
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  Speaker 1: Is that what? You call it babbling, bubbling usually brook
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  Speaker 1: babbling brook, thank you babbeling. This is why I bring him.
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  Speaker 2: And they've got nearly three hundred thousand discounted properties that
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  Speaker 2: you can book within thirty days of checking in. So
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  Speaker 2: definitely go on verbo and check out their properties. But
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  Speaker 2: I am really excited to chat with you because this
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  Speaker 2: whole week I guess week because we're not in the weekend.
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  Speaker 1: Was my idea, and I'm so proud of it. I'm
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  Speaker 1: so proud because.
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  Speaker 2: You know how much I love pickleball.
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  Speaker 3: Yes I do.
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  Speaker 1: And so here you are.
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  Speaker 2: And yesterday you were wearing a lovely gift that I
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  Speaker 2: gave you that prepped you for this week, guys, his
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  Speaker 2: very own court shoes, because what were you playing in?
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  Speaker 2: Tell the people what you were playing in before I
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  Speaker 2: got you court shoes.
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  Speaker 3: I don't remember, I don't know. You don't need to
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  Speaker 3: be like super big.
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  Speaker 2: You clearly have not been to my league. Clearly Epic
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  Speaker 2: pick a Ball shout out to Epic Pickleball in Littleton, Colorado.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: No, it is serious business, s babe, and you have
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  Speaker 2: to get into the mindset because we are playing in
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  Speaker 2: a tournament today and we are winning.
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  Speaker 3: I know, okay, I'm not worried about it. I think
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  Speaker 3: I can handle it. I mean, it was pickleball to
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  Speaker 3: as far as I understand, was, if not started, at
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  Speaker 3: least made popular by a population usually over sixty five.
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  Speaker 1: So I feel usually not anymore, and I.
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  Speaker 3: Know it's I know it's caught on with the younger generation.
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  Speaker 3: I actually feel bad for the older folks that started
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  Speaker 3: it and had this kind of to themselves. Yeah right,
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  Speaker 3: and then people like you have come along and made
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  Speaker 3: it really popular and ruined it for all the old
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  Speaker 3: old folks. So I hope you're proud of yourself with
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  Speaker 3: you and your pickball.
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  Speaker 1: Well, you know, I am getting up there in age, yeah, true,
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  Speaker 1: fifty two.
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  Speaker 3: I'm glad you actually found something that you enjoy doing.
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  Speaker 1: I love it.
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  Speaker 2: I love pickleball, and it's really for me obviously. It's
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  Speaker 2: good girl time. Like we get together with you know,
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  Speaker 2: some of our friends who are couples and we get
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  Speaker 2: to play and I I just love it. I you know,
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  Speaker 2: almost famous we usually do in all the iHeart podcasts.
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  Speaker 2: We usually do like golf tournaments, and I don't play golf,
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  Speaker 2: And I was like, hmm, could we please do a
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  Speaker 2: pickleball tournament because that's something that I really love. And
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  Speaker 2: I know that there are tons of Bachelor Nation people
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  Speaker 2: and of course all of the rest of the people,
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  Speaker 2: Real Housewives, all of the iHeart Podcast people who love
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  Speaker 2: pickleball just as much as me. So I'm really excited
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  Speaker 2: we are actually having a tournament. So there's like tears
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  Speaker 2: you know, people.
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  Speaker 3: That we know or is this yes, like a world world.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, we're going to dominate the world.
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  Speaker 3: People the.
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  Speaker 2: Top, Maybe we should, maybe there's a new idea.
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  Speaker 1: No, it is just us. It's all the people who
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  Speaker 1: are here for this event.
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  Speaker 3: So I feel more confident in our in our potential.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, Deanna has never played before, right, so, and I
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  Speaker 2: think Bob and Canyon played once.
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  Speaker 3: Well, sometimes people that haven't played are the ones that
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  Speaker 3: you got to look out.
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  Speaker 2: You're so right, especially with that big arm wingspand that
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  Speaker 2: Bob has, so yeah, we got to watch out for them. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: we're watching out for you, Bob and Canyon.
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  Speaker 3: Uh.
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  Speaker 2: And then there's the Goldens, who I know will be
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  Speaker 2: bringing it today.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's their sport.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, So who are you excited to see?
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  Speaker 2: I know you probably don't even know most of the
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  Speaker 2: people but.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know who's coming. I mean, I always I'm
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  Speaker 3: always excited to see Bob. Yeah, and I've already seen
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  Speaker 3: him and we were both up early this morning, so
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  Speaker 3: they got to catch up with him a little bit
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  Speaker 3: and hear about his sort of wild travelers try and
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  Speaker 3: get here. It seemed like it was difficult for everyone
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  Speaker 3: to get here, including us, took a little longer than Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I think it was about the storms that he actually
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  Speaker 2: experienced firsthand. But I think that's why we were delayed. Yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: because we had a little bit of a travel date.
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  Speaker 1: Yesterday.
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  Speaker 2: We were supposed to leave Denver at four of seven pm,
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  Speaker 2: and I don't know how many times did it get
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  Speaker 2: pushed back?
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  Speaker 1: Five maybe?
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  Speaker 2: Anyway, we got here all as well, and it's beautiful
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  Speaker 2: and more excited to be here. So what do you
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  Speaker 2: love about Lake Tahoe? Like, I know what I love
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  Speaker 2: and I just kind of specified, But what.
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  Speaker 1: Do you like about time?
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  Speaker 3: I just like all mountain areas. Yeah, I don't. I
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  Speaker 3: think the first time did I or we came here
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  Speaker 3: was when I used to do the extra triathlons and
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  Speaker 3: this one was the national championship for a while. So
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  Speaker 3: we came to that a couple of times, and then
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  Speaker 3: and then it's been a while. All I came and
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  Speaker 3: took a swift water certification class in Trucky a few
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  Speaker 3: years ago to get instructors certified in that, and then
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  Speaker 3: we came a few years ago with the almost famous people,
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  Speaker 3: so I haven't spent a lot of time. It's and
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  Speaker 3: it's funny because I was talking to Bob's wife. She
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  Speaker 3: used to be a snowboarder and she would come up
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  Speaker 3: here in snowboard in school. I mean, she was competitive,
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  Speaker 3: so she would come up here and she had said
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  Speaker 3: she had never been up here in the summertime. And
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  Speaker 3: I don't think I've ever been up here in the.
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  Speaker 2: Winter time, so true, which we haven't.
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  Speaker 3: Crazy, So I love it as a summer destination. I've
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  Speaker 3: never been here in the winter. And the lake obviously
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  Speaker 3: is a big part of it.
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  Speaker 1: It's beautiful, gorgeous.
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  Speaker 2: One of my favorite pictures with Max, with us and
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  Speaker 2: Max is when we were here for the most famous
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  Speaker 2: thing and we stune on the dock, so.
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  Speaker 1: Pretty out there.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel like the same thing, like about the mountains.
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  Speaker 2: You know in Vale they say you come for the winter,
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  Speaker 2: but you stay for the summer. I feel like summer
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  Speaker 2: is so underrated and should not be, even though I
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  Speaker 2: probably shouldn't be telling people that because then, you know,
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  Speaker 2: the mountains will just kept popular.
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  Speaker 3: And yeah, I think it's pretty popular.
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  Speaker 2: True true story. And we have a little getaway without
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  Speaker 2: the kids. Hopefully they are taking care of their responsibilities,
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  Speaker 2: including our dog.
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  Speaker 3: I read them this morning about feeding Coda, and I
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  Speaker 3: don't think they haven't.
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  Speaker 1: Really know they did. He just did.
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  Speaker 2: While we've been talking. Max said that blakesleeve at him
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  Speaker 2: and I did say, make sure you get up, make
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  Speaker 2: sure you walk Coda.
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  Speaker 3: Like, yeah, I don't worry about them. I mean, they'll
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  Speaker 3: do what they're going to do, and they're old enough to,
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  Speaker 3: you know, sort of manage on their own. But yeah,
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  Speaker 3: that poor little dog needs attention and he usually gets
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  Speaker 3: it from me and I'm not there, so I don't
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  Speaker 3: worry about it. Like he's like the little kid now
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  Speaker 3: in our family because our little kids aren't little kids anymore.
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  Speaker 2: No, they're not speaking of our baby boy just turned
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  Speaker 2: eighteen years old.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah I cannot.
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  Speaker 2: I still can't believe that we actually have an adult
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  Speaker 2: like he isn't he's official, Yeah, wanted he still leave babe,
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  Speaker 2: I mean, I mean, buddy, Please don't.
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  Speaker 1: Leave, Please don't leave me.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's going to be really interesting to see what
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  Speaker 2: his future entails at Blakesley too, obviously, but he is
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  Speaker 2: right on the precipice. You know, He's got one more
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  Speaker 2: year of school and then we'll see what happens. You know,
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  Speaker 2: for everybody out there, he plays hockey. He would love
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  Speaker 2: to play hockey after high school. But that's a whole
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  Speaker 2: ball game in itself. You have to go to juniors
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  Speaker 2: instead of going to college, and we do. You know,
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  Speaker 2: both of us have master's degrees, and we value education
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  Speaker 2: and we would love for him to get the college experience.
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  Speaker 1: So at least I would so.
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  Speaker 2: But I will say the more and more we've talked
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  Speaker 2: about it, growing up, college was always a given, Like
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  Speaker 2: for my kids, it was like, my kids will go
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  Speaker 2: to college because I felt like that was something that
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  Speaker 2: my parents instilled in me. And more and more I've
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  Speaker 2: had conversations with people. We've talked about it, like the
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  Speaker 2: trades and firefighting, and there's not one specific route that
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  Speaker 2: you like, is the norm anymore? I feel like there's
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  Speaker 2: so many options.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I think I encourage him, you know, while you're
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  Speaker 3: young to do all the things that you can only
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  Speaker 3: do while you're young. Like, if he wants to continue
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  Speaker 3: to try to play hockey, then he should do that now,
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  Speaker 3: because that's like opportunities fall off the table as you
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  Speaker 3: grow older. Yeah, And so to be able to take
• 11:02
  Speaker 3: advantage of all of those now and then, like navigating
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  Speaker 3: the career world or the professional world is difficult, just
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  Speaker 3: because there's so many things changing daily with everything from
• 11:18
  Speaker 3: artificial intelligence and what the impact that has on jobs,
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  Speaker 3: and like if just from a big picture, like high
• 11:25
  Speaker 3: level view that I have, I certainly don't have to
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  Speaker 3: know a ton about it, but it seems like computers
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  Speaker 3: are taking over or capable of taking over a lot
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  Speaker 3: of the intellectual side of work, which is what you
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  Speaker 3: go to college for. And so you're kind of wondering, well,
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  Speaker 3: are you just going to college to learn something that
• 11:44
  Speaker 3: computer could do for you and trying to integrate you know,
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  Speaker 3: I mean it's always been that way, even since just
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  Speaker 3: calculators were invented. You just people just need to figure
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  Speaker 3: out how to work with the the latest technology, and
• 12:00
  Speaker 3: that's kind of an unknown at this point. So don't
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  Speaker 3: I don't worry too much about either of our kids.
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  Speaker 3: I think they're both very capable people, and their heads
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  Speaker 3: are on straight and they both like, you know, just
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  Speaker 3: thinking about Max in particular, because he just turned eighteen,
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  Speaker 3: in his future outside of our house is closer than Blakesley's.
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  Speaker 3: But I think he's got he's just so well rounded,
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  Speaker 3: and he's he's really developed a lot of maturity over
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  Speaker 3: the last few years, and I think that he's going
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  Speaker 3: to be fine whatever he does. And then and then
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  Speaker 3: Blakesley's a sixteen year old girl, and it's a little
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  Speaker 3: bit harder at least for me to sort of see
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  Speaker 3: any kind of like I don't think she's really even
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  Speaker 3: thinking about it.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, I think she has a little bit, just
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  Speaker 2: because she you know, talks about dancing or modeling or
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  Speaker 2: you know, fashion or whatever, and I bring it up
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  Speaker 2: all the time, like, you know, about college, and we've
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  Speaker 2: looked at a couple of colleges. So I think just
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  Speaker 2: naturally it comes from that conversation of mom nagging and
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  Speaker 2: saying like, you know, what do you want to do?
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  Speaker 2: What do you want to do?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, no, I get it. But like where were we
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  Speaker 3: we were driving home from Max's birthday dinner, Yeah, and
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  Speaker 3: we saw a Bronco and she's always wanted a Bronco
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  Speaker 3: and she's like, you know, Dad, actually I kind of
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  Speaker 3: like g wagons better.
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  Speaker 1: No, I was like, okay, well who doesn't so does.
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  Speaker 3: Everyone, but that's going to have to be like that's
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  Speaker 3: where her mind is. This is sure I want she
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  Speaker 3: wants to be successful. I just don't know that she
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  Speaker 3: knows in what yet.
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  Speaker 1: So yeah, she doesn't get the reality of the situation
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  Speaker 1: quite yet.
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  Speaker 2: One thing we know is that she will not be
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  Speaker 2: getting a g wagon from us. So dinner is you know,
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  Speaker 2: for Max's birthday.
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  Speaker 1: The guilt is alive and well in me because I
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  Speaker 1: wasn't there.
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  Speaker 3: I was wondering if you were going to bring that
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  Speaker 3: Oh you.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, hello reality. I'm I definitely feel guilty that
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  Speaker 2: I wasn't there. I as you know, I feel like
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  Speaker 2: it's really important to take advantage of opportunities and spend
• 14:32
  Speaker 2: time with friends, and that's kind of me time and
• 14:40
  Speaker 2: got invited to go to Caitlin Bristow's fortieth birthday celebration
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  Speaker 2: in Cabo, and of course just so happened to be
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  Speaker 2: when our son turned eighteen years old, so.
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  Speaker 3: His last birthday at our.
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  Speaker 2: Would you stop that No, not true, because next year
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  Speaker 2: he will be at home before he goes away.
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  Speaker 3: Maybe there's no guarantees.
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  Speaker 2: Like you have to add on, like just add on
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  Speaker 2: to that guilt bit. You're doing a real good job
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  Speaker 2: of that.
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  Speaker 3: It's my job.
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  Speaker 1: It's not your job. It's your job to.
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  Speaker 3: Support one of the parents. Was able to get oh
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  Speaker 3: day off working, spend the eighteenth birthday with.
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  Speaker 1: Like, you haven't missed a birthday.
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  Speaker 3: In eighteenth it's a big one.
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  Speaker 1: AnyWho.
• 15:25
  Speaker 3: Anyway, what are you saying about your trip to Mexico?
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  Speaker 3: Didn't you take? Calen's birthday was in Mexico.
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  Speaker 2: Kaln's birthday was in Mexico in Cabo. Her mom owns
• 15:38
  Speaker 2: a house there and was very generous and letting us
• 15:42
  Speaker 2: and hosting us and letting us stay there. I don't
• 15:45
  Speaker 2: think I told you this, but her mom was going
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  Speaker 2: to be there and her appendix burst. Yeah, so she
• 15:53
  Speaker 2: couldn't be there unfortunately. So shout out to Leslie. I
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  Speaker 2: wish I could have spent time with you, but oh
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  Speaker 2: she was. She was, you know, trying to get healthy. Anyway,
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  Speaker 2: we had an incredible girls trip and I really do
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  Speaker 2: feel like it is important for me to I haven't had.
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  Speaker 2: I haven't done anything this summer, Like you went to
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  Speaker 2: have a soupe, falls, you went to like on backpacking
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  Speaker 2: trips or whatever with both of the kids, and I
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  Speaker 2: just I haven't done anything. And I was like, this
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  Speaker 2: is the one. And I asked you guys before I
• 16:29
  Speaker 2: booked the Chickens.
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  Speaker 3: Well, and you were invited to all of those trips.
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  Speaker 3: It's just those that's not really your thing.
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  Speaker 2: Oh no, no, no, someone needed to stay home with
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  Speaker 2: Coda because Max was working when you went to have
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  Speaker 2: a supe.
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  Speaker 1: You couldn't take him.
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  Speaker 2: Remember what you just said about him being our baby. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: so anyway, I thank you for.
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  Speaker 1: Being semi supportive of the trip.
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  Speaker 2: It really was like, you know, for me, social stuff
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  Speaker 2: fills my bucket.
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  Speaker 1: You know that.
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  Speaker 2: Girlfriends fill my bucket, and I didn't. I only knew,
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  Speaker 2: Like I obviously I know Caitlin. It's her birthday and
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  Speaker 2: that's why I got invited, but because I'm a friend.
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  Speaker 2: But I only knew a couple of them because one
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  Speaker 2: has been had been on The Better Et cetera podcast
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  Speaker 2: that I used to do, and I was on her podcast,
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  Speaker 2: Aaron Trelore, and then Cleo is like her, you know
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  Speaker 2: she works with with Caitlin on her Spade and Sparrows brand,
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  Speaker 2: so we had we had talked. I had never met
• 17:44
  Speaker 2: Whitney Angel, who is Crystal's.
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  Speaker 1: Chosen person.
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  Speaker 2: They got engaged but then uh separated and I adore
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  Speaker 2: her Shay who's one of her best friends from growing up,
• 17:58
  Speaker 2: Jess one of her friends from growing up, and then
• 18:01
  Speaker 2: who am I missing Kat who's like herbestie in Nashville,
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  Speaker 2: And just to be able to meet new friends that
• 18:11
  Speaker 2: we were like all on the same page, like the
• 18:15
  Speaker 2: same wavelength. I feel like we all are very interested
• 18:19
  Speaker 2: in like deep connection and conversation, and it was just easy.
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  Speaker 2: It was one of those trips where everyone got along
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  Speaker 2: so well and it was just easy.
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  Speaker 1: There was no drama.
• 18:34
  Speaker 2: Shay had everything like planned out to the nines, so
• 18:38
  Speaker 2: didn't have to even think about anything and could just
• 18:41
  Speaker 2: go and have fun. We dressed up like Abuela's one night,
• 18:45
  Speaker 2: which was so fun, and Leslie had arranged for a
• 18:48
  Speaker 2: mariachi band to come and serenade us, which was hysterical.
• 18:53
  Speaker 2: I cannot wait for Caitlin to post our TikTok that
• 18:56
  Speaker 2: we did, which was so much fun. Like I love
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  Speaker 2: I Love feeling young when I'm definitely not. Like I
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  Speaker 2: was the old, the old abuela of the group and.
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  Speaker 3: You didn't even have to dress up, really, you just
• 19:12
  Speaker 3: I know, right.
• 19:13
  Speaker 2: I totally didn't. I mean literally, if I'd let my
• 19:15
  Speaker 2: hair grow out, it would all be white anyway. So
• 19:20
  Speaker 2: I actually was going to say that in the like
• 19:23
  Speaker 2: the group chat before we left, I'm like, do I
• 19:25
  Speaker 2: have to really bring anything? Because you know, I am
• 19:28
  Speaker 2: fifty two years old anyway, Yes, we all dressed up.
• 19:33
  Speaker 2: I put towels in my under my bra and it
• 19:37
  Speaker 2: tucked in my underwear just to like give myself a
• 19:39
  Speaker 2: little extra padding.
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: Thankfully.
• 19:42
  Speaker 2: My friend Kate Cubic had like a Grandma costume like
• 19:46
  Speaker 2: costume in that she had a cane and a wig
• 19:50
  Speaker 2: and the glasses with the like beaded Oh my gosh,
• 19:54
  Speaker 2: it was so funny. So I've put on the glasses
• 19:57
  Speaker 2: and it has this beaded you know, the beaded thing
• 19:59
  Speaker 2: that you put herud on your next so they don't
• 20:00
  Speaker 2: fall off. And I had them hanging in the front
• 20:04
  Speaker 2: like I because I don't normally wear them. And Whitney
• 20:08
  Speaker 2: was like we were getting ready, and she was like,
• 20:10
  Speaker 2: I think that goes in the back, you know, so
• 20:13
  Speaker 2: that they don't fall off, because the whole purpose of
• 20:15
  Speaker 2: the beaded necklace thing that goes on your glasses is
• 20:18
  Speaker 2: you wear them around the back of your neck so
• 20:21
  Speaker 2: they don't fall off. And I had them in the front,
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: and I was like, oh, yeah, new to this granny game.
• 20:26
  Speaker 2: But you'll get it figured out and I'll get it
• 20:29
  Speaker 2: figured out of it.
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you're right.
• 20:32
  Speaker 2: And the Majong portion and Majong I'm all about those,
• 20:39
  Speaker 2: those golden games. I will say we were we were
• 20:50
  Speaker 2: out to lunch on Max's birthday, and I definitely got emotional.
• 20:59
  Speaker 2: I was I was definitely teary and sad that I
• 21:05
  Speaker 2: wasn't with all of you, but think, I'm so thankful
• 21:08
  Speaker 2: to Blakesley because before I left, you know, this was
• 21:11
  Speaker 2: my this was my contribution is and usually, as I
• 21:17
  Speaker 2: will say, I decided I was going to get him
• 21:20
  Speaker 2: eighteen presents for his eighteenth birthday, went and did all
• 21:24
  Speaker 2: the shopping, bought the guitar, got bought the sambas, bought
• 21:27
  Speaker 2: the you know, all the other things and oh the
• 21:30
  Speaker 2: pool stick, and wrap them all in our closet before
• 21:35
  Speaker 2: I left, so that Blakesley could just like take them
• 21:38
  Speaker 2: and set them up and got you know, the banner
• 21:42
  Speaker 2: out so she could hang that up. So I was
• 21:46
  Speaker 2: part of it, even though it was in preparation mode.
• 21:49
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I think Max had a Grade eighteenth birthday, So
• 21:52
  Speaker 3: I don't think it would have been nice to have
• 21:54
  Speaker 3: you there obviously if you didn't have something else going on.
• 21:57
  Speaker 3: But I don't think anyone holds it. Again, you were
• 22:00
  Speaker 3: going to spend that time in Mexico, and we understand
• 22:04
  Speaker 3: that you that you need and deserve that time and Max,
• 22:11
  Speaker 3: Max didn't like it, didn't phase him one way or
• 22:14
  Speaker 3: the other end. So I think it was fortuitous for
• 22:18
  Speaker 3: me because that vacation day popped up and I was
• 22:22
  Speaker 3: able to get it, and then he and I were
• 22:25
  Speaker 3: able to take that backpacking trip and spend some really
• 22:29
  Speaker 3: quality time together. Blakes had a little bit of time
• 22:33
  Speaker 3: on her own, and it all kind of worked out,
• 22:35
  Speaker 3: and then we ended up getting back and going to dinner,
• 22:38
  Speaker 3: and his buddies came down from the mountains and are
• 22:41
  Speaker 3: still at our house, so who knows. So I think
• 22:49
  Speaker 3: it worked out really well for everyone. It was a
• 22:53
  Speaker 3: great weekend and I think he'll remember it. You'll remember it.
• 22:58
  Speaker 3: I think it's a good it just worked out. It
• 23:02
  Speaker 3: was it was good on I don't know a lot
• 23:05
  Speaker 3: of different fronts, and so yeah, I'm glad you had
• 23:07
  Speaker 3: a good time and guts to spend that time with
• 23:09
  Speaker 3: your friends. And I'm glad I got to spend that
• 23:11
  Speaker 3: time with just Max because I don't get a lot
• 23:13
  Speaker 3: of that opportunity these days, so A skipped.
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree you guys.
• 23:19
  Speaker 2: I thought it was really special that you were able
• 23:21
  Speaker 2: to get time off and that he was willing to
• 23:25
  Speaker 2: go on this backpacking trip with you, because it's usually
• 23:28
  Speaker 2: your little adventure buddy Blakesley that goes on those with you.
• 23:31
  Speaker 2: I really feel like I'm proud of him he like
• 23:34
  Speaker 2: you've said, over the past few years, but I think
• 23:37
  Speaker 2: most recently he's really like open to whatever, Like he
• 23:43
  Speaker 2: doesn't automatically say nah, I just want to hang out
• 23:46
  Speaker 2: and play video games or like be on my phone.
• 23:50
  Speaker 2: I feel like he's open to experiencing life more so lately.
• 23:55
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, he was fully engaged in and it
• 24:00
  Speaker 3: wasn't like I didn't feel like he was there just
• 24:03
  Speaker 3: to appease me. Yeah, you know, he was. He waded
• 24:06
  Speaker 3: out into the lake and was looking for fish and
• 24:08
  Speaker 3: climbing on rocks like he always did when he was little,
• 24:11
  Speaker 3: And Yeah, he really seemed to embrace the experience and
• 24:17
  Speaker 3: enjoy it. And I think I anticipate him doing that
• 24:24
  Speaker 3: on his own in his life, which is what you
• 24:27
  Speaker 3: hope for as a parent, is that you do all
• 24:30
  Speaker 3: these things to exemplify the characteristics that you want your
• 24:33
  Speaker 3: kids to some they live live into and you don't
• 24:37
  Speaker 3: actually see that happening until this point in their lives. Yeah,
• 24:40
  Speaker 3: when they start to come around and have an appreciation
• 24:43
  Speaker 3: for the environment or nature and that sort of stuff,
• 24:46
  Speaker 3: and they turn into the people that you really hoped
• 24:50
  Speaker 3: they would turn into as you kind of guided them
• 24:54
  Speaker 3: along their paths. But you never really know. And so
• 24:57
  Speaker 3: when you start to see little things like that, like
• 24:59
  Speaker 3: his whiteboard with the quotes, and yes, his appreciation of
• 25:03
  Speaker 3: going to and going camping with his friends and all
• 25:05
  Speaker 3: these sorts of things that, Yeah, at least from my
• 25:10
  Speaker 3: side of parenting, I always try to sort of encourage
• 25:13
  Speaker 3: and he's picked up on that, which is kind of
• 25:17
  Speaker 3: what you hope for.
• 25:19
  Speaker 2: Oh he he he loves you, He admires you, he
• 25:24
  Speaker 2: looks up to you, And I think that you have
• 25:27
  Speaker 2: done such a good job of instilling that like love
• 25:30
  Speaker 2: of nature and adventure in him.
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: So thank you.
• 25:45
  Speaker 2: So going back to Caitlin's birthday, I just have to
• 25:51
  Speaker 2: say how proud of her I am. She has worked
• 25:55
  Speaker 2: so hard on herself and puts so much work. Again,
• 26:00
  Speaker 2: there's a place called Hoffman that I feel like she's
• 26:03
  Speaker 2: been to. I so want to go. Like it is
• 26:07
  Speaker 2: like deep dive into self growth, if you will. I
• 26:16
  Speaker 2: don't know if that's a good way to describe it,
• 26:18
  Speaker 2: but from what I understand, it seems so powerful and
• 26:23
  Speaker 2: like helping you get through trauma and any issues that
• 26:29
  Speaker 2: you work on or need to work on in yourself. Anyway,
• 26:34
  Speaker 2: I'm just really proud of her and really happy for her.
• 26:38
  Speaker 1: She's in such a good place right now.
• 26:41
  Speaker 2: And one of the girls, Aaron's, she has this podcast
• 26:48
  Speaker 2: called Raw Beauty Talks I think that's what it's called,
• 26:51
  Speaker 2: and really is like a life coach, and she asked
• 26:56
  Speaker 2: Caitlin like every dinner or meal or just when we
• 26:59
  Speaker 2: were sitting around, we would ask each other questions and
• 27:06
  Speaker 2: we even did the living card thing that you guys
• 27:09
  Speaker 2: did for me on my fiftieth you know, she was
• 27:11
  Speaker 2: there and curse out too.
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: Which was really special.
• 27:15
  Speaker 2: But and everyone kind of had the same sentiment that
• 27:20
  Speaker 2: they were happy for her and proud of her for
• 27:23
  Speaker 2: you know, what she's done to work on herself and
• 27:29
  Speaker 2: her anxiety and all of that. And she talks openly
• 27:34
  Speaker 2: about this, so it's not like I'm you know, giving
• 27:37
  Speaker 2: up any secrets that she has. But Aaron asked this question, like,
• 27:44
  Speaker 2: what do you hope in this next chapter of your life?
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: What do you hope for yourself? And she said.
• 27:53
  Speaker 2: That she's really in the mode of protecting her peace,
• 27:57
  Speaker 2: which I was like, that is I love that. And actually,
• 28:02
  Speaker 2: I'm putting together a real that I'm going to put
• 28:04
  Speaker 2: out today, and I've found a song that literally says
• 28:08
  Speaker 2: in it about protecting your piece. I think it's called
• 28:11
  Speaker 2: Queen Energy, and I was like, this is the perfect song.
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: So I'm just so proud of her.
• 28:19
  Speaker 2: I'm I'm I feel really blessed and grateful to have
• 28:23
  Speaker 2: been extended the invitation to be part of her celebration.
• 28:28
  Speaker 1: I mean, she.
• 28:28
  Speaker 2: Celebrated a lot. This was like her last, her last
• 28:33
  Speaker 2: celebration for her fortieth birthday, and I feel really lucky
• 28:37
  Speaker 2: that I got to be a part of it, because
• 28:40
  Speaker 2: I you know, she gets a lot of criticism, and
• 28:45
  Speaker 2: I think she's a wonderful, beautiful human being, and I
• 28:51
  Speaker 2: love surrounding myself with people like that, all of.
• 28:53
  Speaker 3: You guys that have been the focus of these shows,
• 28:58
  Speaker 3: and it seems so funny to be talking about the
• 29:00
  Speaker 3: Bachelor after twenty whatever some years, But everybody that's put
• 29:04
  Speaker 3: themselves out there has had, especially lately, has had they
• 29:09
  Speaker 3: have an increased level of criticism from the world because
• 29:13
  Speaker 3: the world's just more critical than when we were on it.
• 29:16
  Speaker 3: There were forever less avenues of criticism, so that helped us.
• 29:20
  Speaker 3: But I think it's hard for people like Caitlin, who
• 29:23
  Speaker 3: are great people, but people can pick them apart and
• 29:28
  Speaker 3: it's impossible to not let that get to you. So
• 29:31
  Speaker 3: for her and anyone who's going through those types of struggles,
• 29:36
  Speaker 3: it's great to find places like Hoffman or just people
• 29:39
  Speaker 3: you can talk to or avenues that you can do
• 29:42
  Speaker 3: some introspection and put some perspective on your life and
• 29:45
  Speaker 3: realize that the people that matter are the ones that
• 29:48
  Speaker 3: go to your fortieth birthday party, that actually skip their
• 29:53
  Speaker 3: eighteen year old son's birthday party to go to your
• 29:56
  Speaker 3: fortieth birthday party because they care so much about you
• 30:00
  Speaker 3: in your future. And that's what more people need, is
• 30:04
  Speaker 3: just whether your support group is one or one hundred,
• 30:08
  Speaker 3: everybody just needs somebody that they can kind of go
• 30:11
  Speaker 3: to to regain their perspective and purpose and that sort
• 30:18
  Speaker 3: of stuff. And so I'm glad that you were able
• 30:20
  Speaker 3: to be a part of that for her, and I
• 30:21
  Speaker 3: hope that she can continue to take this momentum moving
• 30:24
  Speaker 3: forward and really do great things with her life. I'm
• 30:27
  Speaker 3: sure she will. She's an awesome person. So I'm glad
• 30:32
  Speaker 3: you were able to be a part of that.
• 30:33
  Speaker 1: Yeah, me too.
• 30:35
  Speaker 2: I felt like it was it was just good energy,
• 30:41
  Speaker 2: like really good positive energy. And I know you saw,
• 30:47
  Speaker 2: but I got her. She loves playing cards and I
• 30:51
  Speaker 2: had every girl send five or six pictures of them
• 30:55
  Speaker 2: with her, and I had playing cards made for her,
• 30:58
  Speaker 2: and she loved it, like with everybody's pictures on them,
• 31:02
  Speaker 2: she loved it. So just to be able to shower
• 31:05
  Speaker 2: her with love, because I always feel like she showers
• 31:08
  Speaker 2: me with so much love. Like I remember when I
• 31:10
  Speaker 2: was sick and she sent flowers like and I was
• 31:13
  Speaker 2: just I was sick. It's not like my appendix burst
• 31:16
  Speaker 2: or anything. So like just I adore you, Caitlin, if
• 31:21
  Speaker 2: you're listening, and I just wish you know the world
• 31:26
  Speaker 2: saw more of that positive light and energy in you
• 31:31
  Speaker 2: that I see.
• 31:32
  Speaker 1: But happy fortieth birthday.
• 31:34
  Speaker 2: Okay, well, thanks for joining me in this amazing Verbo Again,
• 31:40
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