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7 - How to Become Your Partner's Biggest Cheerleader · Daily Relationship Tips: Practical Relationship Skills That Help Couples Reconnect

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  Most
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  people
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  think
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  encouragement
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  is
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  something
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  you
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  give
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  to
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  children
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  or
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  employees,
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  someone
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  who
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  needs
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  a
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  confidence
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  boost
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  or
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  a
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  push
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  in
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  the
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  right
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  direction.
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  We
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  rarely
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  think
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  of
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  it
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  as
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  something
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  we
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  owe
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  our
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  partner.
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  But
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  here's
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  the
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  One
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  of
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  the
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  most
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  powerful
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  things
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  you
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  can
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  do
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  for
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  your
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  relationship
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  is
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  something
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  most
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  couples
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  completely
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  overlook.
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  I'm
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  Alastair
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  Dewes,
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  and
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  this
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  is
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  the
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  daily
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  Relationship
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  Tips
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  Podcast,
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  where
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  I
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  share
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  simple,
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  practical
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  tools
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  to
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  help
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  you
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  and
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  your
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  partner
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  feel
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  close,
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  connected,
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  and
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  in
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  love
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  again,
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  one
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  small
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  habit
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  at
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  a
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  time.
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  Here's
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  something
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  many
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  people
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  don't
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  realize.
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  Your
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  partner
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  has
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  dreams,
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  goals
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  they
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  think
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  about
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  quietly.
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  Things
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  they
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  want
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  to
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  achieve
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  or
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  try
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  or
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  become.
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  And
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  whether
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  or
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  not
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  those
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  dreams
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  ever
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  leave
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  the
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  ground
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  has
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  a
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  lot
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  to
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  do
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  with
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  you.
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  Not
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  because
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  you're
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  responsible
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  for
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  their
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  success,
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  but
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  because
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  the
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  people
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  closest
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  to
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  us
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  have
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  an
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  enormous
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  influence
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  on
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  what
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  we
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  believe
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  is
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  possible.
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  When
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  your
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  partner
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  feels
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  genuinely
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  encouraged
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  by
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  you,
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  when
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  they
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  know
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  you
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  believe
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  in
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  them,
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  they're
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  more
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  willing
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  to
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  take
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  risks,
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  push
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  through
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  setbacks,
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  and
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  reach
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  for
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  the
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  things
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  that
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  matter
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  most
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  to
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  them.
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  Now
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  I
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  know
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  what
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  you
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  might
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  be
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  thinking.
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  I
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  do
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  support
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  my
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  partner,
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  and
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  maybe
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  you
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  do.
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  But
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  there's
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  a
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  difference
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  between
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  not
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  getting
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  in
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  the
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  way
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  and
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  actively
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  cheering
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  someone
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  on.
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  Real
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  encouragement
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  is
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  specific
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  and
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  consistent.
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  It's
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  not
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  just
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  good
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  luck
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  with
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  that.
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  I've
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  watched
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  how
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  hard
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  you
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  work
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  at
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  this,
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  and
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  I
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  genuinely
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  think
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  you
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  can
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  make
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  it
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  happen.
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  And
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  here's
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  where
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  most
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  people
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  get
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  this
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  wrong.
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  They
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  assume
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  their
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  partner
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  already
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  knows
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  they're
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  supported.
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  But
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  knowing
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  someone
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  loves
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  you
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  and
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  feeling
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  like
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  they
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  truly
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  believe
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  in
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  you
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  are
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  two
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  very
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  different
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  things.
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  And
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  for
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  many
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  people,
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  especially
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  those
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  who've
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  quietly
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  shelved
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  a
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  dream
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  because
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  nobody
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  around
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  them
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  seemed
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  to
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  notice,
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  that
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  belief
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  from
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  a
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  partner
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  can
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  change
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  everything.
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  So
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  here's
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  the
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  tool.
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  Three
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  simple
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  steps.
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  First,
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  ask
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  your
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  partner
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  what
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  they're
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  working
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  towards
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  right
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  now.
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  A
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  goal.
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  A
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  dream.
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  Something
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  they
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  want
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  to
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  do
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  or
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  change
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  or
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  achieve.
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  Second,
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  tell
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  them
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  specifically
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  what
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  you
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  believe
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  they're
• 2:36
  capable
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  of.
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  Not
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  a
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  vague
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  you'll
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  be
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  great.
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  Something
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  real.
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  Something
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  you've
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  actually
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  observed.
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  I've
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  seen
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  how
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  determined
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  you
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  are
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  when
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  you
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  set
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  your
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  mind
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  to
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  something.
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  I
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  think
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  you
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  can
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  do
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  this.
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  And
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  third,
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  check
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  in
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  regularly.
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  How's
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  that
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  going?
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  What
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  do
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  you
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  need?
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  Ask,
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  affirm,
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  check
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  in.
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  That's
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  the
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  whole
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  practice.
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  And
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  I've
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  seen
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  the
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  difference.
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  This
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  makes
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  one
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  couple
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  I
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  worked
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  with.
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  She
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  had
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  always
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  wanted
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  to
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  go
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  back
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  and
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  study,
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  but
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  had
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  put
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  it
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  on
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  hold
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  for
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  years.
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  When
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  I
• 3:12
  asked
• 3:12
  her
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  why,
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  she
• 3:13
  said
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  quietly,
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  I
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  didn't
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  think
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  he
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  believed
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  it
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  was
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  a
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  good
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  idea.
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  He
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  was
• 3:19
  sitting
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  right
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  next
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  to
• 3:20
  her.
• 3:21
  He
• 3:21
  looked
• 3:22
  genuinely
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  stunned.
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  He'd
• 3:24
  just
• 3:24
  never
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  said
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  anything.
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  Either
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  way,
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  that
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  one
• 3:27
  conversation
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  changed
• 3:29
  things.
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  He
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  started
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  asking
• 3:31
  about
• 3:31
  her
• 3:32
  studies.
• 3:33
  He
• 3:33
  told
• 3:33
  her
• 3:33
  he
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  was
• 3:34
  proud
• 3:34
  of
• 3:34
  her.
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  He
• 3:35
  rearranged
• 3:36
  his
• 3:36
  schedule
• 3:37
  to
• 3:37
  give
• 3:37
  her
• 3:37
  time
• 3:37
  to
• 3:38
  focus.
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  She
• 3:39
  graduated
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  two
• 3:40
  years
• 3:41
  later,
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  and
• 3:42
  when
• 3:42
  I
• 3:43
  saw
• 3:43
  them
• 3:43
  afterwards,
• 3:44
  she
• 3:45
  having
• 3:45
  him
• 3:46
  in
• 3:46
  my
• 3:46
  corner
• 3:46
  made
• 3:47
  all
• 3:47
  the
• 3:47
  difference.
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  So
• 3:49
  here's
• 3:49
  your
• 3:49
  challenge
• 3:50
  for
• 3:50
  today.
• 3:51
  Ask
• 3:52
  your
• 3:52
  partner
• 3:52
  what
• 3:53
  their
• 3:53
  biggest
• 3:53
  goal
• 3:54
  or
• 3:54
  dream
• 3:54
  is
• 3:55
  right
• 3:55
  now.
• 3:57
  Then
• 3:57
  tell
• 3:57
  them
• 3:57
  one
• 3:58
  specific
• 3:58
  thing,
• 3:59
  something
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  real,
• 4:01
  something
• 4:01
  true
• 4:02
  about
• 4:03
  what
• 4:03
  you
• 4:03
  believe
• 4:03
  they're
• 4:04
  capable
• 4:04
  of.
• 4:06
  Because
• 4:06
  here's
• 4:06
  what
• 4:06
  this
• 4:07
  means
• 4:07
  long
• 4:08
  term.
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  When
• 4:09
  your
• 4:10
  partner
• 4:10
  knows
• 4:11
  you
• 4:11
  genuinely
• 4:12
  believe
• 4:12
  in
• 4:12
  them,
• 4:13
  it
• 4:13
  deepens
• 4:13
  the
• 4:14
  bond
• 4:14
  between
• 4:14
  you
• 4:15
  in
• 4:15
  a
• 4:15
  way
• 4:16
  that's
• 4:16
  hard
• 4:16
  to
• 4:16
  describe.
• 4:18
  You
• 4:18
  become
• 4:19
  each
• 4:19
  other's
• 4:19
  biggest
• 4:20
  champions.
• 4:22
  And
• 4:22
  that
• 4:22
  feeling
• 4:23
  of
• 4:23
  being
• 4:24
  truly
• 4:24
  believed
• 4:25
  in
• 4:25
  by
• 4:25
  the
• 4:25
  person
• 4:26
  who
• 4:26
  knows
• 4:26
  you
• 4:26
  best?
• 4:27
  It's
• 4:28
  one
• 4:28
  of
• 4:28
  the
• 4:28
  most
• 4:28
  powerful
• 4:29
  forces
• 4:30
  in
• 4:30
  a
• 4:30
  relationship.
• 4:32
  Ask
• 4:32
  your
• 4:33
  partner
• 4:33
  about
• 4:33
  their
• 4:33
  goals
• 4:34
  today.
• 4:35
  Then
• 4:35
  tell
• 4:36
  them
• 4:36
  specifically
• 4:37
  what
• 4:38
  you
• 4:38
  believe
• 4:38
  they
• 4:39
  can
• 4:39
  do.
• 4:40
  That
• 4:40
  kind
• 4:40
  of
• 4:41
  encouragement
• 4:41
  costs
• 4:42
  nothing
• 4:43
  and
• 4:44
  means
• 4:44
  everything.
• 4:46
  Now
• 4:46
  here's
• 4:47
  a
• 4:47
  question
• 4:47
  worth
• 4:47
  answering
• 4:48
  before
• 4:48
  you
• 4:49
  go
• 4:50
  how
• 4:50
  connected
• 4:51
  is
• 4:51
  your
• 4:51
  relationship
• 4:52
  right
• 4:52
  now?
• 4:53
  Most
• 4:54
  people
• 4:54
  just
• 4:55
  guess,
• 4:56
  but
• 4:56
  you
• 4:56
  don't
• 4:56
  have
• 4:57
  to.
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  a
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  exactly
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• 5:04
  your
• 5:04
  relationship
• 5:04
  stands
• 5:05
  and
• 5:06
  where
• 5:06
  the
• 5:06
  easy
• 5:06
  wins
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• 5:07
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  Take
• 5:09
  it
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  out
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• 5:13
  loving
• 5:13
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• 5:13
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• 5:14
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  And
• 5:16
  while
• 5:16
  you're
• 5:16
  there,
• 5:16
  you'll
• 5:17
  find
• 5:17
  a
• 5:17
  stack
• 5:17
  of
• 5:18
  relationship
• 5:18
  resources
• 5:19
  to
• 5:19
  help
• 5:20
  you
• 5:20
  put
• 5:20
  these
• 5:21
  habits
• 5:21
  into
• 5:21
  practice.
• 5:23
  Everything
• 5:23
  you
• 5:24
  need
• 5:24
  is
• 5:24
  waiting
• 5:24
  there
• 5:25
  for
• 5:25
  you.
• 5:26
  Thanks
• 5:26
  for
• 5:26
  listening
• 5:27
  and
• 5:27
  I'll
• 5:27
  see
• 5:28
  you
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  in
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  the
• 5:28
  next
• 5:28
  episode.