Latest / The D.L. Hughley Show / DLHS Hour 2 | Can Other People Spank Your Children
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- 0:00Speaker 1: The question that we're asking, ladies and gentlemen, a woman
- 0:02Speaker 1: is accused of overreacting because she told her mother-in-law that
- 0:05Speaker 1: she could not spank her unruly toddler. Do you allow
- 0:11Speaker 1: other people to spank your children? I think it's unreasonable
- 0:16Speaker 1: to expect someone to keep your child and to feed
- 0:21Speaker 1: your child. Like when Nola came here, she came with
- 0:25Speaker 1: no clothes, right?
- 0:26Speaker 2: Nothing.
- 0:26Speaker 3: Everything she needed, she got, right?
- 0:28Speaker 4: Right.
- 0:28Speaker 3: And some of some of that was an ass whooping.
- 0:33Speaker 3: Not delivered by her grandfather, but, you know. No, no, no, no, no, no, no.
- 0:37Speaker 3: I bet this.
- 0:38Speaker 5: Is a problem that happens more and more because, you know,
- 0:41Speaker 5: these generations come in. They're doing, oh, don't spank kids.
- 0:45Speaker 5: It causes damage. And there's been studies to show that
- 0:47Speaker 5: that they don't do corporal punishment.
- 0:49Speaker 3: The people who did the studies actually need their ass whooped.
- 0:51Speaker 3: I mean, I'm just saying in general. So I see
- 0:53Speaker 3: I see this as a more common problem, probably, you know. Junice,
- 0:57Speaker 3: you were saying something off air. I don't want to
- 0:59Speaker 3: miss it. What were you saying? No, I said, you know,
- 1:01Speaker 3: like when we were kids, when my mom would.
- 1:03Speaker 6: Leave us with either relatives or friends, you know, most
- 1:07Speaker 6: of them, we were always taught to be on our
- 1:09Speaker 6: best behavior and we were.
- 1:11Speaker 5: Right.
- 1:12Speaker 3: But there was one uncle, like my Uncle Joe.
- 1:15Speaker 2: Yeah.
- 1:15Speaker 6: He was straight no chaser. I mean, the smallest infraction,
- 1:19Speaker 6: you was going to get it. so I mean was
- 1:22Speaker 6: he a priest no he was a.
- 1:27Speaker 1: Longshoreman come on now with them longshoreman hands oh my
- 1:31Speaker 1: god and that longshoreman belt I had an aunt Levy
- 1:35Speaker 1: made and we all had Levy made so you know
- 1:37Speaker 1: that's a b * * * * Levy was her
- 1:41Speaker 1: name and we couldn't stand with her my aunt needed
- 1:45Speaker 1: everybody we couldn't stand with her she didn't have no
- 1:48Speaker 1: kids didn't want no kids And let you know it, Jack.
- 1:52Speaker 3: You got to stay with her. Yeah, that's probably right.
- 1:55Speaker 1: Man, it was hell. But, you know, I can't say this.
- 1:57Speaker 1: She never– well, here's the thing. I got my ass
- 2:01Speaker 1: whipped so much that I can't tell you if it
- 2:02Speaker 1: was abuse or not.
- 2:04Speaker 3: That's kind of all a blur. I'm not the arbiter
- 2:07Speaker 3: of whether it was abusive or not.
- 2:09Speaker 1: But I can tell you this, that everybody who we
- 2:12Speaker 1: stayed with had permission to put their foot in our ass.
- 2:14Speaker 3: Same here.
- 2:15Speaker 1: Yeah, so I guess they– They solved it by if
- 2:19Speaker 1: you if they can't trust you to that extent that
- 2:22Speaker 1: they can't trust you at all. The question we're asking
- 2:24Speaker 1: a young woman is called unruly. I mean, excuse me, unreasonable,
- 2:27Speaker 1: because she told her mother in law that she can't
- 2:30Speaker 1: spank her two year old unruly toddler. Do you think
- 2:33Speaker 1: that that was you can't someone else spank you?
- 2:36Speaker 3: Here's the thing.
- 2:37Speaker 1: What you're going to learn right now, really soon, if
- 2:40Speaker 1: you have this relationship with your with your with your
- 2:43Speaker 1: mother in law, Now, you don't want to cut off
- 2:45Speaker 1: the avenues you're going to need later on. Because you're
- 2:48Speaker 1: going to want to go on vacation. You're going to
- 2:50Speaker 1: want to go out to dinner. You're going to have
- 2:51Speaker 1: a con. And you're going to need them. And if
- 2:54Speaker 1: you damage the relationship, good luck finding the babysitter you
- 2:58Speaker 1: got to pay for.
- 3:00Speaker 3: Especially with your badass kid. Everybody knows. The word get out.
- 3:03Speaker 3: The word get out when you got a bad kid.
- 3:04Speaker 3: No doubt. The word get out. If grandparents won't keep
- 3:08Speaker 3: them kids, two things. Either they're ugly or they're bad.
- 3:11Speaker 3: And sometimes they're bad. Don't nobody want no ugly bad kids.
- 3:16Speaker 3: I mean, come on now. Are they clumsy?
- 3:21Speaker 1: If you're going to be an ugly kid, you might
- 3:24Speaker 1: as well.
- 3:24Speaker 3: Be nice at least. Come on now. I mean. Is
- 3:28Speaker 3: somebody riding in the car right now looking at the
- 3:30Speaker 3: ugly ass kid they babysitting and cracking up? I'm telling
- 3:33Speaker 3: you right now. You better not say that.
- 3:37Speaker 1: You can't eat ugly and have an ugly attitude. Something
- 3:40Speaker 1: got to be beautiful about you.
- 3:41Speaker 3: Something got to be, yeah. Yeah, come on now. Come on.
- 3:45Speaker 3: And you know, the cuter they are, the more you
- 3:47Speaker 3: let them get away with. Ain't that something? Boy, that's
- 3:49Speaker 3: the truth. It's true. The cuter they are.
- 3:52Speaker 5: It is.
- 3:52Speaker 3: Boy, you know what? If you're ugly, baby, and trust me,
- 3:55Speaker 3: I know you couldn't get away with breathing. Yeah.
- 3:57Speaker 7: Nope.
- 3:59Speaker 3: Why you chew like that? Because I don't know. And then,
- 4:03Speaker 3: you know, unfortunately, that goes when you grow up. Hey, man,
- 4:06Speaker 3: pretty people, they get away with more.
- 4:08Speaker 1: And ugly people get radio shows so no one has
- 4:11Speaker 1: to see them on TV.
- 4:12Speaker 3: That's what happens. That's what goes on. So the question
- 4:15Speaker 3: we're asking, a.
- 4:16Speaker 1: Woman is being called unreasonable because she refused to let
- 4:19Speaker 1: her mother-in-law spank her unruly toddler. Do you let other
- 4:24Speaker 1: people spank your children? We're going to go through the phones.
- 4:28Speaker 8: If your child cannot be disciplined at my home or
- 4:33Speaker 8: when they're with me, then they cannot come. My hairdresser
- 4:37Speaker 8: a long time ago had a sign in her shop
- 4:40Speaker 8: that said, do not get offended that I have to
- 4:43Speaker 8: correct your child.
- 4:45Speaker 9: Be embarrassed that I had to.
- 4:46Speaker 8: So teach the little demon song babies how to be respectful.
- 4:50Speaker 8: Handle them while they're little, when they're acting up out
- 4:54Speaker 8: in public, right there out in public. And you want
- 4:57Speaker 8: to deal with that when you get a little bit older. But, yes,
- 5:00Speaker 8: you can come to my house if.
- 5:01Speaker 2: I can't discipline you.
- 5:02Speaker 8: I ain't trying to beat you, but you're going to
- 5:04Speaker 8: be corrected and disciplined if necessary.
- 5:06Speaker 2: Nobody should be touching your child except you in that way.
- 5:12Speaker 2: I mean, it can get out of control quick. Families, family,
- 5:16Speaker 2: they tell you what happened, but you still got to
- 5:19Speaker 2: take care of the business. Yeah, you got to be there.
- 5:23Speaker 2: I don't want a teacher spanking my child. I don't
- 5:25Speaker 2: want anybody spanking my child. No way.
- 5:28Speaker 7: I would let someone else whip my kids. No, let
- 5:31Speaker 7: the parents whip their own kids. No, I feel it's
- 5:34Speaker 7: not right to do because if they leave a scar,
- 5:36Speaker 7: it's going to be bad. And that's something kids would
- 5:38Speaker 7: never forget.
- 5:40Speaker 10: I never had to beat my kids at all, thank God,
- 5:43Speaker 10: and they've grown now. But some of these kids these days,
- 5:46Speaker 10: they deserve more than a beating, man. They're very disrespectful.
- 5:51Speaker 10: They don't even respect their parents, so how can they
- 5:53Speaker 10: respect anybody else? They need more than a beating.
- 5:57Speaker 11: I feel like we need a village.
- 5:59Speaker 9: In order to get a village, if my.
- 6:01Speaker 7: Child is acting up, if I love you, if I trust.
- 6:04Speaker 11: You, tear his tail up, tear him up.
- 6:06Speaker 3: It depends on who it is that they can whip
- 6:10Speaker 3: your children.
- 6:10Speaker 12: But I'm a 60s and 70s baby.
- 6:13Speaker 7: I grew up.
- 6:13Speaker 9: If you got in trouble down at Miss Johnson's house and.
- 6:16Speaker 2: She whipped everybody down there.
- 6:18Speaker 9: Then she called your mama and told your mama that
- 6:20Speaker 9: she whooped you.
- 6:21Speaker 2: And then you were scared to go to bed because.
- 6:23Speaker 12: When your daddy got home, you was going to get another.
- 6:25Speaker 12: So it kind of depends on who it is these
- 6:27Speaker 12: days and what the kid did.
- 6:30Speaker 2: It depends on who it is.
- 6:32Speaker 11: If it's my relative or someone that's close to me
- 6:34Speaker 11: that I consider being, you know, close to me and
- 6:37Speaker 11: know me.
- 6:38Speaker 7: And know my kids, I don't have a problem with that.
- 6:42Speaker 11: But other than that, I think a phone call would
- 6:44Speaker 11: be good and then I would.
- 6:45Speaker 3: Get on them.
- 6:47Speaker 13: I'm a granddad. I got nine grandkids, and they know
- 6:50Speaker 13: what to expect when they come to granddaddy house. No
- 6:52Speaker 13: matter how you treat them at your house, they're going
- 6:55Speaker 13: to get disciplined when they come to granddaddy house. So
- 6:57Speaker 13: if you don't want your kids to have discipline, and
- 6:59Speaker 13: then you keep them, and you take care of them yourself,
- 7:02Speaker 13: and don't bring them to me, because if they come
- 7:03Speaker 13: to me, they're going to get disciplined. When they do
- 7:05Speaker 13: something stupid, they're going to get a spanking for it,
- 7:07Speaker 13: and they're going to know what they're doing is wrong,
- 7:10Speaker 13: and that's my way of teaching.
- 7:13Speaker 11: Don't nobody watch my kids but my mother. And I
- 7:15Speaker 11: wouldn't allow them to go to the in-laws, especially if
- 7:17Speaker 11: the in-laws didn't like the parent. And if the kid
- 7:20Speaker 11: wasn't bad, they'd try to take things out on the child. So,
- 7:23Speaker 11: didn't nobody watch my kids but my mother. Because I
- 7:26Speaker 11: have to be in an orange jumpsuit.
- 7:27Speaker 12: I don't look good in orange.
- 7:29Speaker 7: I think you should absolutely allow, you know, I grew
- 7:32Speaker 7: up in an era where, you know, Mr. Jenkins, you're
- 7:34Speaker 7: cursing outside playing basketball, and we played on the.
- 7:37Speaker 3: Crate, and she'd go upside your head, you know, because Mr.
- 7:39Speaker 3: Jenkins knew your mother, you know, your.
- 7:41Speaker 13: Grandmother and stuff.
- 7:43Speaker 3: So I think the problem is we don't allow village
- 7:45Speaker 3: to raise.
- 7:45Speaker 7: Our kids no more.
- 7:46Speaker 3: We, you know, we get those 24-year-old, you know.
- 7:49Speaker 12: 20-year-old mothers, and they want to get all ghetto with
- 7:53Speaker 12: you when you try to correct their child, man.
- 7:56Speaker 3: I think that's the problem.
- 7:57Speaker 7: I'm okay with someone else disciplining my kid.
- 8:01Speaker 9: However, I won't leave my kid with someone who will.
- 8:06Speaker 2: Pick up anything to beat their kid.
- 8:08Speaker 13: Like, you know, if they act out, that's right.
- 8:10Speaker 2: Go ahead.
- 8:11Speaker 3: But don't pick up an iron and hit my baby.
- 8:12Speaker 3: I can hear somebody getting ass whipped right now. That's great.
- 8:17Speaker 3: So the question we're asking a woman that's being.
- 8:18Speaker 1: Called unreasonable because she refuses to let her mother-in-law spank
- 8:22Speaker 1: her unruly or badass. See, unruly ain't a word we use.
- 8:25Speaker 1: You're a badass little toddler. Do you allow people to
- 8:28Speaker 1: spank your children? We're going through the phones.
- 8:30Speaker 3: I was raised in the, it takes a village era.
- 8:34Speaker 7: That would absolutely allow for my children to be disciplined
- 8:37Speaker 7: by someone else.
- 8:38Speaker 13: James Brown put it best. Papa don't take no mess.
- 8:41Speaker 13: You know, my kids act up.
- 8:43Speaker 7: My grandbabies act up.
- 8:44Speaker 13: They get lit up.
- 8:45Speaker 5: So, you know, like D.L.
- 8:47Speaker 13: Said, if you don't want that kid in my house,
- 8:49Speaker 13: you want me to discipline him, don't bring him over.
- 8:51Speaker 3: Right.
- 8:51Speaker 9: That's what I'm saying. If I'm keeping your child and
- 8:55Speaker 9: you know your child is bad and you don't want
- 8:58Speaker 9: nobody putting hands on them, you stay at home and
- 9:00Speaker 9: keep your own child. Keep your own child. Then you
- 9:03Speaker 9: don't have to worry about it.
- 9:04Speaker 12: I say hell to the no, to the no, no, no.
- 9:07Speaker 12: When my kid was coming up, I didn't allow nobody
- 9:10Speaker 12: to discipline my kid, teach my kids. When they started
- 9:12Speaker 12: going to school, that's the first thing I did, to
- 9:15Speaker 12: sign a relief that you cannot spank or discipline my kids.
- 9:19Speaker 12: I'm going to do that. Their mom is going to
- 9:21Speaker 12: do that. My grandparents, that's something different. My mom and dad, hey,
- 9:25Speaker 12: you got free will because I understand that they're going
- 9:28Speaker 12: to do it in love. They're not going to hurt them.
- 9:30Speaker 12: They're not going to try to hurt them. They're not
- 9:31Speaker 12: going to do anything. But if they're not their grandparents,
- 9:35Speaker 12: Can't nobody else discipline my kid? Because I've been through school,
- 9:38Speaker 12: and I understand how they used to power us. And
- 9:41Speaker 12: sometimes I think you got out of hand. So, nope,
- 9:44Speaker 12: I will allow no one to discipline my kid, no
- 9:46Speaker 12: one to power my kid or spank my kid.
- 9:49Speaker 7: If it's a relative of mine, grandparents, I don't mind
- 9:52Speaker 7: them disciplining my child. Anybody else?
- 9:54Speaker 8: No.
- 9:55Speaker 1: You know, I think that there's a lot of merit
- 9:58Speaker 1: to the way that children are being raised.
- 10:00Speaker 3: Raised right now.
- 10:01Speaker 1: I don't think that every infraction deserves physical punishment.
- 10:04Speaker 13: Right.
- 10:04Speaker 1: But I do think that there are two-year-olds like even that,
- 10:10Speaker 1: you know, when they get into that phase, you have
- 10:12Speaker 1: to do something that corrects them.
- 10:14Speaker 2: Yeah.
- 10:15Speaker 1: And I'm not saying they always got to be an
- 10:17Speaker 1: ass whooping, but I will say this. No, I was
- 10:20Speaker 1: here for two months. She got jacked up by everybody
- 10:22Speaker 1: but me.
- 10:25Speaker 3: Well, you have to.
- 10:26Speaker 14: I mean, I'm telling you, I firmly believe that's what,
- 10:29Speaker 14: you know, being a parent partially is about is discipline
- 10:33Speaker 14: and understanding who to give that that permission to discipline
- 10:37Speaker 14: your kid or not. And I think if you allow
- 10:39Speaker 14: a kid to just be unruly and you know it,
- 10:41Speaker 14: you're you're a terrible parent.
- 10:43Speaker 3: You're terrible. Yeah, I think so, too. And you know what?
- 10:46Speaker 1: You really have to. You really are a blessed person
- 10:49Speaker 1: if you have a family around you who's willing to
- 10:51Speaker 1: take your children on.
- 10:52Speaker 3: You blessed. It's true. And you do not. That is
- 10:55Speaker 3: a very tenuous relationship.
- 10:57Speaker 1: And one of those is the thing that could damage
- 10:58Speaker 1: that relationship is trying to tell somebody who raised you
- 11:01Speaker 1: or raised the person you with how to raise somebody.
- 11:04Speaker 4: Yeah.
- 11:05Speaker 3: And a lot of times— I don't think— Oh, go ahead.
- 11:07Speaker 3: I'm sorry.
- 11:07Speaker 6: What were you going to say? No, I said a
- 11:08Speaker 6: lot of times it's for the kids' own good. I mean,
- 11:10Speaker 6: especially toddlers that are unruly. They'll go in the kitchen
- 11:14Speaker 6: and try to mess around with hot stuff.
- 11:15Speaker 2: Yeah.
- 11:16Speaker 6: I had a toddler that we used to have to
- 11:18Speaker 6: take care of, and he was fascinated with the extension
- 11:22Speaker 6: cord plug, and he would always be trying to put
- 11:24Speaker 6: his finger in there.
- 11:25Speaker 3: So you let him do it one time. He'll learn. No,
- 11:28Speaker 3: he might not live. That's how I learned. I learned
- 11:32Speaker 3: that way. I like to call it arrhythmia, right?
- 11:34Speaker 7: Go back.
- 11:34Speaker 4: Come on.
- 11:35Speaker 3: Make you sit down for a while. What did they say?
- 11:38Speaker 1: Experience is not the best teacher. Experience is the harshest
- 11:42Speaker 1: teacher because... The lesson comes after the problem.
- 11:48Speaker 5: Tell that little boy, stop crying and slick your hair
- 11:50Speaker 5: back down now. Come on.
- 11:52Speaker 3: Oh, I learned that lesson myself. It is time for
- 11:56Speaker 3: This Week in Music with my man Trey. What's good, y'all?
- 11:59Speaker 4: It's time to turn back the clock for another edition
- 12:02Speaker 4: of This Week in Music History, celebrating the artists, albums,
- 12:06Speaker 4: and moments that crafted all of our playlists.
- 12:09Speaker 3: This week, we're.
- 12:10Speaker 4: Bringing some real heavy hitters to the table. Starting off
- 12:14Speaker 4: on a not-so-high note with the tragic death of Marvin Gaye.
- 12:18Speaker 3: What's going on? What's going on?
- 12:20Speaker 4: And if you don't know, his daddy shot him. Yeah,
- 12:24Speaker 4: his dad shot him. And stories like this really make
- 12:27Speaker 4: me act right around my father.
- 12:29Speaker 3: Like, I don't think.
- 12:30Speaker 4: He's that unstable to up-fire on me, but this is
- 12:34Speaker 4: proof a nigga can get there.
- 12:35Speaker 3: And I'm not gonna take it there. Marvin Gaye Sr.
- 12:39Speaker 4: Was sentenced to a suspended six-year prison term. Five years
- 12:43Speaker 4: probation after pleading no contest to the voluntary manslaughter in
- 12:48Speaker 4: the shooting death of his son. It was a heartbreaking
- 12:50Speaker 4: end to one of the most unforgettable voices of all time.
- 12:54Speaker 4: Marvin Gaye Sr. died in 1998, putting a cap on
- 12:58Speaker 4: one of the most tragic stories in music. On a
- 13:02Speaker 4: lighter note, November 2nd is a big birthday doubleheader. Happy
- 13:07Speaker 4: birthday to Nelly, born in 1974. Oh!
- 13:12Speaker 3: The St. Louis superstar who gave.
- 13:14Speaker 4: Us country grammar hot in here, and the unforgettable duet
- 13:17Speaker 4: with Kelly Rowland, Dilemma. Fun fact, I got a picture
- 13:21Speaker 4: with her when I was a baby.
- 13:22Speaker 3: But, hey, hey, let me not say too much.
- 13:24Speaker 4: And sharing that same birthday, like exact same, down to
- 13:28Speaker 4: the year, the late, great prodigy of Mobb Deep.
- 13:32Speaker 3: I got you stuck off the realness. We be the infamous,
- 13:35Speaker 3: you heard of us.
- 13:36Speaker 4: Born in 1974, the Queensbridge lyricist helped build some of
- 13:41Speaker 4: the grittiest, and most influential East Coast hip-hop ever recorded.
- 13:46Speaker 3: Rest in peace to the legendary prodigy.
- 13:49Speaker 4: Also on November 2nd, Mariah Carey released her album, Rainbow,
- 13:53Speaker 4: featuring Heartbreaker with Jay-Z and Thank God I Found You
- 13:57Speaker 4: featuring Joe and 98 Degrees.
- 13:59Speaker 3: Mariah continued to show the world.
- 14:01Speaker 4: That she could effortlessly move between R & B, pop,
- 14:05Speaker 4: and hip-hop.
- 14:09Speaker 3: And again, she's one of the greatest.
- 14:11Speaker 4: I don't know if I have a little extra bias
- 14:14Speaker 4: because she is my favorite female vocalist of all time.
- 14:18Speaker 3: But man, these are some unforgettable records.
- 14:22Speaker 4: And speaking of Mariah, let's now focus on an artist
- 14:25Speaker 4: she had a little feud with in the 2000s. On
- 14:28Speaker 4: November 5th, 2013, Eminem released the Marshall Mathers LP 2.
- 14:34Speaker 3: The sequel to his.
- 14:35Speaker 4: Legendary 2000 album brought us Berserk, Rap God, and The
- 14:39Speaker 4: Monster featuring Rihanna. Slim Shady was just reminding everybody his
- 14:47Speaker 4: lyrical prowess and how dangerous he was behind the mic.
- 14:51Speaker 4: And to end it off, I need to shout out
- 14:53Speaker 4: one of our modern top dogs. Happy birthday to SZA.
- 14:57Speaker 4: R & B superstar who was born November 8th, 1989,
- 15:01Speaker 4: who brought us modern classics like Love Galore, Kill Bill,
- 15:05Speaker 4: and Snooze. And I just got to put extra love
- 15:07Speaker 4: on this shout out because SZA is genuinely one of
- 15:10Speaker 4: my favorite artists.
- 15:11Speaker 2: Out right now.
- 15:13Speaker 3: So happy birthday, SZA.
- 15:16Speaker 4: All this musical greatness packed into seven days is crazy.
- 15:19Speaker 4: And their continued relevance makes one thing abundantly clear. The
- 15:23Speaker 4: greats never die. That's your Rewind for this week. This
- 15:27Speaker 4: has been Trey5 with This Week in Music History. Keep
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