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I found out my husband has ANOTHER son that his family kept SECRET from me! | Reddit Stories | EP3158 · ok storytime

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  Speaker 1: Hey, this is Dakota.
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  Speaker 2: And this is Keon, your favorite OK Storytime host, and
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  Speaker 2: we've got some great stories coming right up.
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  Speaker 3: But before that, we have a quick two-minute break from
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  Speaker 3: the sponsors that keep the show alive. I found out
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  Speaker 3: my husband has another son that his family kept secret
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  Speaker 3: from me.
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  Speaker 4: Hey, yo, where this guy come from, huh?
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  Speaker 3: Hey, I'm fuming over here. I, 31 female, am married
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  Speaker 3: to my husband, 40 male. We have been married for
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  Speaker 3: many years and recently welcomed a little boy. He has
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  Speaker 3: a son from a previous relationship who's 11 that we
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  Speaker 3: have part-time, which is important for future reference. We were
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  Speaker 3: recently at my husband's house with his family. He's one
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  Speaker 3: of three brothers, and the whole family was celebrating the
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  Speaker 3: recent pregnancy announcement of my sister-in-law. We were all discussing
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  Speaker 3: the space sleep since they already have two boys. My
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  Speaker 3: father-in-law proclaimed loudly, Of course.
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  Speaker 1: It will be a boy. All my boys have three boys.
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  Speaker 3: Can't argue with that logic.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, boys are boys. I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, they come in threes.
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  Speaker 3: Boys will be boys, and they will have boys, and
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  Speaker 3: those boys will make more boys.
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  Speaker 2: Boys, boys, boys.
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  Speaker 4: Boys, boys, boys.
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  Speaker 2: Boys, boys, boys. I think you went Duran Duran. I
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  Speaker 2: went The Cure, so... I went Lady Gaga.
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  Speaker 1: I laughed. Then I said, not quite yet, father-in-law. Give
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  Speaker 1: us a little time to recover.
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  Speaker 3: That's when everyone just started to stare at me. And
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  Speaker 3: then my husband.
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  Speaker 2: Is this like a Goosebumps episode? What's going on?
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  Speaker 3: I looked at my husband and he looked like he
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  Speaker 3: had seen a ghost. I realized that everyone started looking uncomfortable.
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  Speaker 3: Father-in-law quickly said, Don't make me wait too long. The
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  Speaker 3: conversation returned, and it wasn't brought up again. I was
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  Speaker 3: suspicious and started doing the bad wife thing. By the way,
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  Speaker 3: this comes from a deleted user who's a bad wife.
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  Speaker 3: And if you want to submit your own stories, go
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  Speaker 3: to the r slash ok story time subreddit. I'm Dakota.
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  Speaker 4: I'm Savannah.
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  Speaker 2: I'm Keon.
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  Speaker 3: And we're going to read this bad wife story and
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  Speaker 3: tell this bad wife how bad she is. Okay? And
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  Speaker 3: I mean that 100%. But we don't know everything when
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  Speaker 3: we read these stories. We don't have all the answers.
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  Speaker 3: We only know what we know.
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  Speaker 1: That's why we want you to let us know what
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  Speaker 1: you know.
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  Speaker 3: All right.
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  Speaker 1: Smarty pants.
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  Speaker 2: Dakota, do you want to tell everyone else what you
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  Speaker 2: told me right before we started the stream of you're
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  Speaker 2: not going to be devil's advocate today. You're just going
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  Speaker 2: to be the devil.
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  Speaker 1: I did say that earlier.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not advocating for the devil. I'm going to be
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  Speaker 2: the devil.
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  Speaker 3: We're the devils. The devils. I started snooping through pockets,
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  Speaker 3: checking phone, etc. There was absolutely nothing to indicate he
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  Speaker 3: was cheating, but I could not stop myself. The whole
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  Speaker 3: family knew something I didn't, and I went to his mom, crying,
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  Speaker 3: saying that I knew everything. Mother-in-law is a bit of
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  Speaker 3: a gossip and immediately said, Oh, honey, there's nothing wrong
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  Speaker 3: with an addition.
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  Speaker 1: To the family, even if he is a bit older.
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  Speaker 1: I stopped crying.
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  Speaker 3: Immediately because while I suspected another kid, the older comment
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  Speaker 3: caught me off guard. Turns out my husband has a
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  Speaker 3: 23-year-old son that he has never met.
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  Speaker 2: Oh.
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  Speaker 1: At least he's never met.
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  Speaker 3: Him, right?
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  Speaker 2: New son unlocked.
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  Speaker 3: He's just, he's not really hiding his son from you.
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  Speaker 3: He's never been a father to him in the first place, so.
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  Speaker 4: Would be like no reason to really mention him.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like two negative numbers. When you multiply them,
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  Speaker 3: they turn into a positive number.
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  Speaker 2: Yes.
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  Speaker 4: But two positives do not equal a negative. Make it
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  Speaker 4: make sense, math.
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  Speaker 1: I'm just doing simple math.
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  Speaker 4: Dad math. He's 23.
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  Speaker 3: It looks like this.
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  Speaker 5: You're, what, 31?
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  Speaker 4: A new foe has appeared.
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  Speaker 1: You were eight years old when this child was born.
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  Speaker 2: Wait, what?
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  Speaker 3: And your husband was 17 when he had this child.
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  Speaker 1: Whoa.
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  Speaker 3: Because he's 40.
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  Speaker 4: I didn't write down anything. What am I doing?
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  Speaker 1: Oh, you were listening. You were.
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  Speaker 4: That's crazy.
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  Speaker 3: When he was 17, he got a girl pregnant and
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  Speaker 3: refused to take responsibility. Apparently, the family met him recently
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  Speaker 3: and has been trying to get my husband to meet him.
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  Speaker 1: His son. Only thing is, he didn't tell me.
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  Speaker 3: Apparently, he was worried because I already have insecurities due
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  Speaker 3: to his other son. Not the kid, but that I'm
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  Speaker 3: not the first woman he had a child with.
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  Speaker 1: Now, I am the third. So that's great.
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  Speaker 3: By the way, I completely understand that this means he
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  Speaker 3: didn't cheat on me as time travel has not been invented.
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  Speaker 2: What a mindset to have, honestly.
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  Speaker 4: God, time travel has been involved because this guy would
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  Speaker 4: have been gone.
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  Speaker 2: That we know of.
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  Speaker 3: Did he not cheat on you this whole time before
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  Speaker 3: you guys were dating? Save himself for his destiny, which
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  Speaker 3: is you.
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  Speaker 2: This guy finds just one woman and goes, one child.
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  Speaker 2: All right, to the next.
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  Speaker 3: I told my husband I want to meet his son
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  Speaker 3: and he is angry. He says that he hasn't even
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  Speaker 3: met the kid yet and isn't sure when he wants to.
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  Speaker 1: I am shocked.
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  Speaker 3: He's a wonderful father and loves his other two sons.
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  Speaker 3: Is he going to suddenly turn around one day and
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  Speaker 3: decide that my son isn't worth the effort? I want
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  Speaker 3: to meet my son's brother and I want to foster
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  Speaker 3: a relationship with him like I do my other stepson.
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  Speaker 1: Am I in the wrong?
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  Speaker 4: Truthfully, I think she is like it's not her family
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  Speaker 4: be involved with like, yeah, it's your husband's side of
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  Speaker 4: the family, but he doesn't even know and he doesn't
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  Speaker 4: want a relationship. So you can't force that on him
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  Speaker 4: to be like, well, you should do it because I
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  Speaker 4: want to have a relationship with him. I don't think
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  Speaker 4: that that's cool.
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  Speaker 2: We've always read stories from like the husband's perspective. I
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  Speaker 2: had this child when I was young. I couldn't do this.
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  Speaker 2: And we always get like, it's not your relationship to maintain.
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  Speaker 2: You can ask him why he doesn't.
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  Speaker 4: Want to have that relationship. She also doesn't even know
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  Speaker 4: the story behind it. It may be like traumatic for
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  Speaker 4: him or, you know, things went down where it's like,
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  Speaker 4: you know, no contact because of this, that and the
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  Speaker 4: other thing. So like the fact that she's not even
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  Speaker 4: asking and just thinking about herself, I think you are
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  Speaker 4: being an a-hole.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, like, you know, think of your kids.
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  Speaker 3: What happens if what happens if this 23 year old
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  Speaker 3: son that your husband has ignored turns out to be
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  Speaker 3: a bad guy? Exactly.
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  Speaker 1: Because he didn't have a father figure growing up.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: And then you expose your now children to that. You
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  Speaker 4: don't know this guy. He's a stranger.
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  Speaker 2: Just really weird that this wasn't brought up, you know,
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  Speaker 2: but it was kind of brought up by the family.
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  Speaker 2: Everyone went, oh, she don't know.
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  Speaker 4: Why?
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  Speaker 2: Why wasn't this a thing?
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  Speaker 4: I don't know. Why would it be brought up?
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  Speaker 3: Divorce your husband, marry his son.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, Game of Thrones, calm down. Well, it's not her son.
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  Speaker 2: I know, I'm just saying, Game of Thrones, calm down.
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  Speaker 4: Never seen Game of Thrones.
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  Speaker 2: Good for you.
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  Speaker 3: On a real level, because I was just funning when
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  Speaker 3: I said that he would have a bad attitude because
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  Speaker 3: he didn't have a father figure, seeing as it was
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  Speaker 3: OP's husband who abandoned his son. I think it's fair
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  Speaker 3: to be like, hey, not really comfortable being married to
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  Speaker 3: a scum bag kind of guy.
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  Speaker 2: We don't know that.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: You don't know why we don't know the truth.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Nobody knows the answer.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: But I think I think you definitely have. It's not
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  Speaker 3: out of pocket to be like, yeah, if you're going
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  Speaker 3: to just neglect your son in perpetuity forever, like I'm
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  Speaker 3: not comfortable with that.
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  Speaker 1: Now that I know he exists, I don't like that.
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  Speaker 3: You just pretend he doesn't.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe he's tried. Maybe. That's his relationship. But I think
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  Speaker 2: he should have told you.
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  Speaker 1: He hasn't tried shit.
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  Speaker 2: Be honest here, folks.
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  Speaker 1: That guy hasn't tried once.
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  Speaker 2: You don't know. I do.
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  Speaker 1: He's my dad.
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  Speaker 2: You're one of the sons. Are you the 23-year-old son?
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  Speaker 3: Yes, I'm actually 23. I've been lying about my age
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  Speaker 3: this whole time.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's been showing.
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  Speaker 3: And I would not be a good brother. I'd be
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  Speaker 3: a terrible brother.
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  Speaker 4: Which is why he abandoned you.
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  Speaker 3: Yes.
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  Speaker 1: So he's in the right. I should have been abandoned.
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  Speaker 2: Got him.
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  Speaker 1: It made me who I am, which is perfect.
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  Speaker 2: Update before we but one last thing like to answer
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  Speaker 2: it i don't think anyone here is really an a-hole
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  Speaker 2: until we get the context of why he doesn't have
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  Speaker 2: a relationship with the son i think i.
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  Speaker 4: Think op's the a-hole right now just for her being
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  Speaker 4: like oh like her jumping to conclusions being like you've
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  Speaker 4: been your son now now you're gonna do that to
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  Speaker 4: my son oh yeah like i think you know why
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  Speaker 4: don't you come to it approach it with curiosity rather
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  Speaker 4: than like demanding like you're never gonna do that to
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  Speaker 4: my kid.
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  Speaker 2: Or jumping to conclusions yeah i high emotion you Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: which I get it. Yeah, like a lot of things
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  Speaker 2: are like, there's a third one?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, learn something new. I get it.
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  Speaker 2: All right, third son, or technically first son. Go ahead.
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  Speaker 3: After not speaking for the night, my husband and I
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  Speaker 3: sat down really early this morning while feeding the baby.
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  Speaker 3: He gave me his side of the story and asked
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  Speaker 3: me not to judge. Apparently, when he was a teenager,
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  Speaker 3: he went to a party. I'm judging him already.
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  Speaker 4: When he was a teenager, he went to a party.
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  Speaker 3: You should have been inside studying the blade.
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  Speaker 2: You know, that's what he calls his ding-a-ling, the blade.
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  Speaker 3: The blade.
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  Speaker 1: If you thought Blade was cool, wait till you get
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  Speaker 1: a little Blade 2.
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  Speaker 3: Blade Jr.
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  Speaker 2: He's studying his own blade.
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  Speaker 3: There was drinking at this party. And then, of course,
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  Speaker 3: the horizontal mambo.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my gosh.
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  Speaker 1: Mambo number 6.9.
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  Speaker 2: Ooh. Is that just sped up or slowed down?
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  Speaker 4: Oh, I think slow and snitchy. They slow it down
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  Speaker 4: nice and easy.
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  Speaker 1: He did not know the girl from before, and obviously
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  Speaker 1: there was no protection.
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  Speaker 3: She contacted his friend to get a hold of him
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  Speaker 3: when she found out she was expecting.
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  Speaker 1: My husband was crap.
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  Speaker 3: Scared and didn't want to believe that the one time
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  Speaker 3: that they had done the deed.
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  Speaker 1: That she got pregnant. He told her that he was too.
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  Speaker 3: Young to have a baby. She agreed and asked for
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  Speaker 3: some money. He gave her a few hundred dollars he
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  Speaker 3: had saved up from a job, gave it to her.
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  Speaker 3: This worked for him because he wouldn't be a father
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  Speaker 3: or disappoint his family.
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  Speaker 1: Never heard from her again.
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  Speaker 3: Earlier in the year, this kid that my husband never
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  Speaker 3: thought existed contacted my father and mother-in-law. His mother had
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  Speaker 3: finally told him about his dad, and now he wanted
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  Speaker 3: to know his family. He knew that his father did
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  Speaker 3: not want to be involved. Father-in-law and mother-in-law were shocked.
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  Speaker 3: and called my husband right away. My husband told them
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  Speaker 3: that this wasn't possible. He had no other children. When
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  Speaker 3: they told him how old he was, he put two
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  Speaker 3: and two together.
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  Speaker 2: Wow, this man really like brushed it under the rug
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  Speaker 2: and went, never looking back on that rug.
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  Speaker 3: Dang.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, after so long.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I feel like now it's kind of like, okay,
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  Speaker 4: we can have a conversation. I can meet you, you know, whatever.
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  Speaker 4: Then I can decide whether to be a part of
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  Speaker 4: your life or not. Obviously, back then it was a
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  Speaker 4: little different because he's like, I am not ready. This
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  Speaker 4: is not happening, you know, swept under the rug, like
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  Speaker 4: you said. But now it's like okay so you are
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  Speaker 4: a full-grown adult you're 40 you don't you're not a
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  Speaker 4: little curious i mean if he's not that's fine He
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  Speaker 4: doesn't have to be, but, you know, someone is reaching
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  Speaker 4: out to get your attention. What do you do?
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  Speaker 3: Father-in-law is pushing husband to be a good father and
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  Speaker 3: be involved, and mother-in-law is insisting that it won't change
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  Speaker 3: life too much. This kid has grown, graduated from college,
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  Speaker 3: just looking for where he came from. To all those
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  Speaker 3: that called me manipulative, uh, duh, yeah, I was, and
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  Speaker 3: I'm proud of it. I thought he was cheating and
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  Speaker 3: had a little baby on the side. Maybe when it
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  Speaker 3: was just us that I could look the other way
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  Speaker 3: or just leave.
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  Speaker 1: But I have a baby with him now.
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  Speaker 3: When I asked him why he didn't just tell me,
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  Speaker 3: he said he still doesn't know if the kid is
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  Speaker 3: his and was scared of.
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  Speaker 1: How I would react.
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  Speaker 3: I am more mad that you lied, you dingus. So
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  Speaker 3: we're looking into couples therapy. I do love him, and
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  Speaker 3: he really is an excellent father with the other two boys.
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  Speaker 3: I know people are mad that I say that, but
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  Speaker 3: it adds to why it was so shocking. As for
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  Speaker 3: the other son, I'm putting a pin in that right now.
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  Speaker 3: What are you, like a voodoo doll? As for the
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  Speaker 3: other son, I found him, and I stuck him with
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  Speaker 3: a little needle. Oof.
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  Speaker 1: I put a pin in him.
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  Speaker 3: Anyway, why'd you do that, mama? Anyway, according to mother-in-law,
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  Speaker 3: he doesn't live nearby and still wants to see the
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  Speaker 3: family with my husband. I'm sure he's busy with his life.
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  Speaker 3: He's not waiting by the phone for his dad to call.
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  Speaker 3: As for what my husband wants to do, he wants
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  Speaker 3: to get a paternity test before he meets his potential firstborn.
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  Speaker 3: I think this is a reasonable request. I hope that
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  Speaker 3: his son is up for it. Thank you for those
• 11:29
  Speaker 3: that posted. And there is a second update. What is
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  Speaker 3: this guy talking about? I want to get the paternity test.
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  Speaker 4: He still doesn't believe it?
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  Speaker 1: Brother, look at him.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: He's, he looks just like you.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah. We've, we've all seen the pictures. I just don't think,
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  Speaker 3: I think it's crazy to do. I would never forget that.
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  Speaker 3: Like someone said they were pregnant when I was 17
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  Speaker 3: and I gave them $ 300 and then they like disappeared.
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  Speaker 3: You think I would, I would never forget that. If
• 11:54
  Speaker 3: someone was like, yeah, there's a kid out there. I
• 11:57
  Speaker 3: wouldn't be like, that's impossible.
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  Speaker 1: What do you mean? I only have two kids. Oh God.
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  Speaker 1: There's that other one, isn't there?
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  Speaker 2: There's another one.
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  Speaker 4: But he's just choosing not to believe it.
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  Speaker 2: I think he's just like, there's no way, right? There's
• 12:09
  Speaker 2: no way.
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  Speaker 4: It's like, oh, you don't remember that conversation 23 years ago?
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  Speaker 3: You know, with the context of like, you know, how
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  Speaker 3: it went down, whatever. I guess it makes sense that
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  Speaker 3: you didn't reach out at all.
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  Speaker 6: Whatever.
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  Speaker 1: You got two other kids.
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  Speaker 2: It's like, whoosh.
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  Speaker 3: It's so far. It's so long ago. You don't even remember.
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  Speaker 3: But as soon as it's like, yeah, you're my dad,
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  Speaker 3: it's like, oh, word. All right, let's meet up. I'm
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  Speaker 3: your dad. I'm your daddy. I ain't your father, but
• 12:32
  Speaker 3: I am your daddy.
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  Speaker 4: I ain't your father, but I am your daddy.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know. His resistance to do that just seems
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  Speaker 3: like kind of scummy.
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  Speaker 4: I mean, yeah, but you also don't know if that
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  Speaker 4: brings up anything for him and whatnot. I don't care
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  Speaker 4: what it brings up for him.
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  Speaker 1: I don't.
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  Speaker 3: I care about this kid who grew up without a
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  Speaker 3: dad for 23 years, finding out where his dad is
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  Speaker 3: and being like, hey, would you like to have a conversation?
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  Speaker 4: You don't know if he grew up without a dad.
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  Speaker 4: He may have grew up with a father figure.
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  Speaker 1: I would have even... Oh, I thought you were talking
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  Speaker 1: about OP.
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  Speaker 4: No.
• 13:01
  Speaker 3: I was like, I would have so much less sympathy
• 13:03
  Speaker 3: for him than I do now already if he grew
• 13:05
  Speaker 3: up without a dad and then found out he had
• 13:07
  Speaker 3: a kid who also grew up without a dad, which
• 13:09
  Speaker 3: is him, and then didn't reach out.
• 13:10
  Speaker 4: OP is a woman. The boyfriend is.
• 13:13
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you're right.
• 13:13
  Speaker 1: Update two. God works fast.
• 13:16
  Speaker 2: Oh.
• 13:16
  Speaker 3: But mother-in-law works faster. Oh.
• 13:19
  Speaker 2: Hmm. I want to see that.
• 13:21
  Speaker 3: After our discussion this morning, my husband asked his mother
• 13:24
  Speaker 3: for the son's contact information. Yay.
• 13:27
  Speaker 1: She was so excited she didn't even reply. She just
• 13:29
  Speaker 1: called the son directly.
• 13:30
  Speaker 3: He ended up FaceTiming my husband as I was leaving
• 13:33
  Speaker 3: for work. I didn't say anything to him because I
• 13:36
  Speaker 3: agreed with many of your replies that this needed to
• 13:39
  Speaker 3: be done by my husband. I did get a look
• 13:42
  Speaker 3: at the phone when I was leaving, and this kid
• 13:44
  Speaker 3: is a man.
• 13:45
  Speaker 2: What do you mean by a man?
• 13:46
  Speaker 4: This kid can vote and buy a lottery.
• 13:49
  Speaker 1: Well, I mean, what did I look like at 23?
• 13:52
  Speaker 2: I know I looked like, honestly, the same.
• 13:54
  Speaker 4: Just imagine me without bangs.
• 13:56
  Speaker 1: Disgusting. No, I'm just kidding.
• 13:59
  Speaker 3: I'm just kidding, man.
• 14:01
  Speaker 4: Me, but bangless. Bangless in Seattle.
• 14:04
  Speaker 3: Wait, if this kid is a man, that means that
• 14:06
  Speaker 3: OP's husband is a man child.
• 14:08
  Speaker 4: That's how that works, I hear.
• 14:10
  Speaker 1: Somebody call Sabrina Carpenter.
• 14:11
  Speaker 4: Somebody call 911.
• 14:13
  Speaker 3: I don't know why I was surprised that he had
• 14:15
  Speaker 3: a beard and everything. In my mind, I was just
• 14:18
  Speaker 3: seeing a little kid, I guess.
• 14:20
  Speaker 2: A 23-year-old as a little kid?
• 14:21
  Speaker 3: You were seeing like the little kid from A Christmas Story?
• 14:24
  Speaker 3: You've seen Ralphie from A Christmas Story? Just a little
• 14:27
  Speaker 3: kid in a suit, glasses on?
• 14:29
  Speaker 4: In a bunny suit.
• 14:30
  Speaker 3: I went to work and got a text message that
• 14:32
  Speaker 3: the son is driving down this weekend for the paternity test.
• 14:35
  Speaker 3: I think the conversation must have gone really well because
• 14:37
  Speaker 3: he's even coming to have dinner. Pray for us.
• 14:40
  Speaker 2: Update three.
• 14:41
  Speaker 3: My husband and his son got their paternity test done
• 14:44
  Speaker 3: and brought him over for lunch with the immediate family. Me,
• 14:47
  Speaker 3: my 11-year-old stepson, baby son, and hubby. It was a
• 14:50
  Speaker 3: little awkward the first 10 minutes, but then the baby
• 14:54
  Speaker 3: projectile vomited all over him and it sort of broke
• 14:56
  Speaker 3: the tension.
• 14:57
  Speaker 4: Oh, good.
• 14:58
  Speaker 2: This is your half brother throwing up on you.
• 15:01
  Speaker 4: Now he's you.
• 15:02
  Speaker 2: I think he likes you. You've been chosen.
• 15:04
  Speaker 4: He may be your half brother, but you just got
• 15:06
  Speaker 4: all of him.
• 15:06
  Speaker 2: Can you imagine this is your, okay, hi, I'm, you know,
• 15:09
  Speaker 2: your dad's wife, but not your mom. Kind of mother-in-law?
• 15:12
  Speaker 2: I don't know. What am I to you? This is
• 15:15
  Speaker 2: your one, this is your baby half-brother, and then this
• 15:18
  Speaker 2: is your other half-brother, but not related to me. Ah.
• 15:22
  Speaker 3: Mm-hmm.
• 15:22
  Speaker 4: Messy, messy.
• 15:24
  Speaker 3: The man was not grossed out at all and said
• 15:27
  Speaker 3: he was used to this. He's married with a one-year-old daughter.
• 15:30
  Speaker 2: Oh. Congratulations, dad found out he's a grandpa.
• 15:33
  Speaker 1: New grandchild unlocked.
• 15:36
  Speaker 4: Whoa, grandchild and like brother are kind of the same.
• 15:40
  Speaker 1: Her grandchild.
• 15:44
  Speaker 4: Her grandchild.
• 15:47
  Speaker 3: He's a wonderful young guy, this guy, who turns out
• 15:50
  Speaker 3: is in the same profession as I am, so we
• 15:53
  Speaker 3: had stuff to talk about. As for the big question
• 15:55
  Speaker 3: as to whether or not he looks like my husband,
• 15:58
  Speaker 3: I can see it.
• 15:59
  Speaker 1: His son is biracial.
• 16:00
  Speaker 3: Logic. But he has a similar height, personality, and body type. Overall,
• 16:05
  Speaker 3: it was a successful lunch, and he hopes to be
• 16:08
  Speaker 3: able to come back next week for the results. I
• 16:10
  Speaker 3: didn't talk to him about any of the past, but
• 16:12
  Speaker 3: from what my husband gathered, Biomom kept Sun in the
• 16:15
  Speaker 3: know for much of his life. He knew he had
• 16:18
  Speaker 3: a dad that didn't want to be involved, and her
• 16:20
  Speaker 3: Catholic parents convinced her against it. Biomom got her life
• 16:24
  Speaker 3: together after he was born and became a nurse. Unfortunately,
• 16:28
  Speaker 3: she passed away after many years of sickness. She did
• 16:31
  Speaker 3: tell him who his dad was before she passed so
• 16:34
  Speaker 3: that he could decide whether or not to look for him.
• 16:37
  Speaker 2: Aw.
• 16:37
  Speaker 3: He didn't for many years, but became curious after he
• 16:40
  Speaker 3: graduated college and started looking for him. Since my husband
• 16:43
  Speaker 3: doesn't have social media, he found mother-in-law. And there is
• 16:47
  Speaker 3: a fourth update.
• 16:48
  Speaker 2: Anyone here think that he's not related to Opie's husband?
• 16:53
  Speaker 3: Really?
• 16:53
  Speaker 2: I'm just asking. Do you think there's a chance?
• 16:55
  Speaker 4: That he's just.
• 16:56
  Speaker 2: Just some random guy.
• 16:57
  Speaker 4: Mm. No, I think.
• 16:59
  Speaker 1: He's not.
• 16:59
  Speaker 2: I'm going 0%. He's the son.
• 17:02
  Speaker 4: I'm pretty sure he's the son.
• 17:04
  Speaker 3: Why would.
• 17:04
  Speaker 4: I mean, I guess she could lie about it, but, like, why?
• 17:06
  Speaker 3: Maybe she just didn't know.
• 17:08
  Speaker 2: Well, we're gonna find out.
• 17:09
  Speaker 1: Sorry, update four. The results are in.
• 17:11
  Speaker 3: You are.
• 17:12
  Speaker 1: I know most won't see.
• 17:13
  Speaker 2: What?
• 17:14
  Speaker 4: You are the father.
• 17:15
  Speaker 3: Oh, she's Maury.
• 17:18
  Speaker 2: Ah.
• 17:18
  Speaker 4: She's Maury.
• 17:20
  Speaker 3: Is Maury still alive? No. I know most won't see
• 17:23
  Speaker 3: this update, but for those who were invested, my husband
• 17:26
  Speaker 3: has another son. The paternity test came back positive, and
• 17:30
  Speaker 3: we have become new parents and grandparents. 23-year-old brought his
• 17:36
  Speaker 3: family over for the results. I believe we were all
• 17:39
  Speaker 3: fairly certain at that point. His wife and daughter are wonderful.
• 17:41
  Speaker 3: My husband isn't going to push his son for a
• 17:44
  Speaker 3: relationship now that everything's out in the open. Mostly because
• 17:47
  Speaker 3: his son hasn't really said how much of a relationship
• 17:49
  Speaker 3: he was looking for.
• 17:50
  Speaker 2: But by the way, I have to put that out
• 17:52
  Speaker 2: there that Maripovich is still alive.
• 17:54
  Speaker 4: Look at him go.
• 17:55
  Speaker 1: That's what they said.
• 17:56
  Speaker 4: How old is he?
• 17:56
  Speaker 2: 87.
• 17:57
  Speaker 4: Dang.
• 17:58
  Speaker 3: I'm really happy for this 23-year-old man. And you know what?
• 18:01
  Speaker 3: Maybe your husband wasn't as much of a scummy guy
• 18:04
  Speaker 3: as I thought.
• 18:04
  Speaker 4: That's what I'm saying.
• 18:06
  Speaker 2: Remember when we did that?
• 18:07
  Speaker 4: Give him the benefit of the doubt.
• 18:09
  Speaker 3: I still don't like that it wasn't like, oh, word?
• 18:13
  Speaker 3: All right, immediately need to talk to him. We know
• 18:15
  Speaker 3: he was more on an information search since he began,
• 18:18
  Speaker 3: not really just looking for a father figure, and the
• 18:21
  Speaker 3: paternity test was the first step towards that. My husband
• 18:23
  Speaker 3: is definitely interested in having a relationship with this son,
• 18:27
  Speaker 3: but he does worry that all of the big moments
• 18:29
  Speaker 3: in his son's.
• 18:29
  Speaker 1: Life have already passed.
• 18:31
  Speaker 3: Not worth it. All the big moments are gone. All
• 18:34
  Speaker 3: that's left are the little medium moments. I'm a big
• 18:38
  Speaker 3: moment guy. You only got big enough. Hey, this moment
• 18:41
  Speaker 3: ain't big enough for the two of us.
• 18:43
  Speaker 4: This moment ain't big enough for the two.
• 18:45
  Speaker 1: There's a moment in my boot.
• 18:47
  Speaker 3: He has already gone through graduation, wedding, kid, etc. Either
• 18:51
  Speaker 3: way they choose, I'm on board. Couples therapy has been
• 18:55
  Speaker 3: going great and we even went on a spontaneous vacation
• 18:58
  Speaker 3: while my parents watched the baby. I can't wait to
• 19:01
  Speaker 3: see where this next chapter takes us. Thank you all
• 19:03
  Speaker 3: for the support. There will be no more updates.
• 19:06
  Speaker 2: Should I check?
• 19:07
  Speaker 3: And that's the end of that story. Why?
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: You don't believe women?
• 19:10
  Speaker 4: Women hater.
• 19:10
  Speaker 3: Get a load of this guy. He doesn't doesn't freaking
• 19:12
  Speaker 3: believe women will be.
• 19:13
  Speaker 4: This guy hating all over. Don't know a thing.
• 19:17
  Speaker 1: This guy's cool.
• 19:19
  Speaker 4: This guy's awesome.
• 19:21
  Speaker 2: I can't check because it's deleted.
• 19:24
  Speaker 3: Yeah, they said it was the last update.
• 19:26
  Speaker 4: And they meant it.
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: It was like the last Mimsy.
• 19:29
  Speaker 4: My husband's ex-wife was nicer to me than I deserved.
• 19:33
  Speaker 4: And it's making me jealous.
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: You sound like you're fun. I.
• 19:37
  Speaker 4: 40 female, am very much jealous of my husband's 50
• 19:40
  Speaker 4: male ex. There's a problem here.
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: I guess you're going to have to divorce.
• 19:44
  Speaker 4: Our relationship started with an affair.
• 19:46
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 19:47
  Speaker 4: Okay, so this story already.
• 19:49
  Speaker 3: i hate i already like i said i knew this
• 19:51
  Speaker 3: person was fun i said you sound fun let's keep
• 19:54
  Speaker 3: it rolling let's get into the meat and potatoes of
• 19:57
  Speaker 3: what makes this person so fun first loves affairs second
• 20:01
  Speaker 3: let's find out i.
• 20:02
  Speaker 4: Know it was wrong their marriage was on the rocks
• 20:05
  Speaker 4: and my husband wanted to end it when she 48
• 20:08
  Speaker 4: female learned about the affair she didn't scream or shout
• 20:10
  Speaker 4: at me she was rather calm she only asked me
• 20:12
  Speaker 4: if i truly loved her husband i said yes she
• 20:15
  Speaker 4: told me that if i am going to be a
• 20:16
  Speaker 4: part of my husband's life i better treat her kids
• 20:19
  Speaker 4: 19 females 16 male and 14 female with respect and
• 20:23
  Speaker 4: not push them to accept me.
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: Is that scary i'm not i'm not that's you.
• 20:27
  Speaker 4: I'm not a yeller, so I feel like this would
• 20:29
  Speaker 4: be me. I'm usually one to just be like, I'll
• 20:31
  Speaker 4: just let it go and let you.
• 20:32
  Speaker 2: I don't believe you.
• 20:33
  Speaker 4: She didn't even create any hassle in the divorce. Things
• 20:36
  Speaker 4: were tough. My husband's parents and friends really criticized us
• 20:40
  Speaker 4: and his parents almost disowned me.
• 20:41
  Speaker 5: Oh, that's so unfair.
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: You guys didn't do anything wrong. The marriage was on
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: the rocks.
• 20:46
  Speaker 4: If it wasn't for his ex they would have went
• 20:48
  Speaker 4: with it but his ex convinced them to not cut
• 20:51
  Speaker 4: us off their parents did forgive my husband but i
• 20:54
  Speaker 4: still feel like an outsider to them but they do
• 20:56
  Speaker 4: love our kid for male my husband's ex is very
• 20:59
  Speaker 4: different she never held a grudge against me always pushed
• 21:02
  Speaker 4: her kids to have a relationship with their dad his
• 21:05
  Speaker 4: oldest doesn't talk to him because of the divorce and
• 21:07
  Speaker 4: it always hurts my husband that his daughter wants nothing
• 21:11
  Speaker 4: to do with them The rest of them are good.
• 21:12
  Speaker 4: They do not love me, but they're very civil. By
• 21:15
  Speaker 4: the way, this comes from throwaway1990405 and if you want
• 21:19
  Speaker 4: to submit your own stories, go to the r slash
• 21:20
  Speaker 4: showcase story time subreddit as Opie says. She never badmouthed
• 21:24
  Speaker 4: me or called me a homewrecker. She did her best
• 21:26
  Speaker 4: for the kids. She still tries her best so that
• 21:28
  Speaker 4: her oldest daughter has a good relationship with her dad.
• 21:30
  Speaker 4: I used to think she's a silly woman for not
• 21:33
  Speaker 4: holding a grudge. She was always nice to me. When
• 21:35
  Speaker 4: I was pregnant, she first congratulated me and even though
• 21:38
  Speaker 4: she wasn't invited to my baby shower, she sent me
• 21:40
  Speaker 4: a diaper genie as a gift. I always felt guilty
• 21:42
  Speaker 4: that I hurt such a pious woman.
• 21:44
  Speaker 2: I feel like OP's just in her head. She's like,
• 21:46
  Speaker 2: what's the catch?
• 21:47
  Speaker 4: Yeah, she's like, why is she not being mean to me?
• 21:49
  Speaker 4: She should be mean to me. I took her husband.
• 21:51
  Speaker 4: She has to be mean to me.
• 21:52
  Speaker 3: Huh.
• 21:53
  Speaker 2: Have you asked your husband, OP? Like, hey, do you
• 21:55
  Speaker 2: think she's going to do something?
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: I mean, she got you a diaper genie. That's pretty cool.
• 22:00
  Speaker 3: You just rub the lamp and you're like, change my
• 22:02
  Speaker 3: baby's diaper.
• 22:04
  Speaker 2: Zim, zim, zala, bim.
• 22:05
  Speaker 4: Change my baby's diaper.
• 22:07
  Speaker 2: All right, you have three wishes. You've used two wishes
• 22:09
  Speaker 2: to change your baby's diaper.
• 22:10
  Speaker 4: Change my husband's diaper. Okay. To make it more complicated,
• 22:16
  Speaker 4: she is in a relationship with my cousin, 45 male.
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: Whoa, wait. Whoa, wait, what?
• 22:22
  Speaker 4: This is crazy. Wait, so I, hold on, I gotta
• 22:25
  Speaker 4: write this down.
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: Let's just be honest here.
• 22:28
  Speaker 3: OP's husband's ex-wife is playing the game the way it's
• 22:32
  Speaker 3: meant to be played. She goes, oh, you're going to
• 22:34
  Speaker 3: cheat on me with some other woman? That's fine. Thanks
• 22:37
  Speaker 3: for letting me know where you're really at. I'll be
• 22:40
  Speaker 3: on my way. Let's not waste any more of each
• 22:42
  Speaker 3: other's time. I'm not even going to waste any time
• 22:45
  Speaker 3: being upset. I'm just going to.
• 22:46
  Speaker 1: Go get with your cousin. So I'll see you at
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: the cookout. And guess what? It's going to like me
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: more than you.
• 22:52
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 22:52
  Speaker 3: Because I didn't cheat with no one's husband.
• 22:55
  Speaker 2: I'm going to be real nice. Mm-hmm. Good job.
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: You did a good job.
• 22:58
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah.
• 23:00
  Speaker 4: Words of affirmation. My parents love her. Uncle and aunt
• 23:04
  Speaker 4: love her. Even my cousin's kids love her. She never
• 23:07
  Speaker 4: discriminated between her kids and mine.
• 23:09
  Speaker 2: She's unaliving it with kindness. I don't need to be angry.
• 23:12
  Speaker 2: I just need everyone to love me more than you.
• 23:14
  Speaker 4: She always sends some cookies or extra food for my
• 23:18
  Speaker 4: son with her kids whenever it is their visitation time.
• 23:21
  Speaker 4: She even met my son and treats him like her own.
• 23:23
  Speaker 4: For the longest of time, I wondered why she is
• 23:26
  Speaker 4: like this. Is she trying to win her husband back?
• 23:28
  Speaker 4: I even asked her why she doesn't hate me when
• 23:30
  Speaker 4: I was her husband's mistress. She told me she doesn't
• 23:33
  Speaker 4: see the point because whether or not she hates me
• 23:35
  Speaker 4: or her marriage was over anyways. I am jealous of her.
• 23:38
  Speaker 4: She is not just beautiful, also graceful.
• 23:41
  Speaker 2: Someone called it. So Parbro said OP's guilt is messing
• 23:44
  Speaker 2: her up. I get it. Imagine doing something bad and
• 23:48
  Speaker 2: in return you get rewards?
• 23:51
  Speaker 4: Not Ronan St.
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: Boot, a peaceful resolution.
• 23:53
  Speaker 3: Haha. Yeah, let's figure out how to make this ex-wife
• 23:57
  Speaker 3: get what she really deserves. Let's just start a campaign
• 24:01
  Speaker 3: against her. Hey, well, someone is broad being nice all
• 24:03
  Speaker 3: the time, huh?
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: What is she, a robot? Ooh, she doesn't have any feelings. Ooh, ooh,
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: what are.
• 24:10
  Speaker 2: You, Spock?
• 24:11
  Speaker 4: I know I was very much younger than her when
• 24:14
  Speaker 4: my husband started the affair, but I can say she
• 24:16
  Speaker 4: is much more better looking than I am. Even if
• 24:19
  Speaker 4: I took her place in her husband's life, but I
• 24:21
  Speaker 4: can never be her.
• 24:23
  Speaker 3: Not that attitude.
• 24:24
  Speaker 2: Ha ha ha.
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: Edit.
• 24:25
  Speaker 4: I knew very well I wasn't going to be treated
• 24:28
  Speaker 4: like a good person here. I know I am not
• 24:29
  Speaker 4: a good person either for breaking up a home. So
• 24:32
  Speaker 4: I'm editing this to clear a few things out. I
• 24:34
  Speaker 4: know I made typos. I wrote this in a hurry.
• 24:37
  Speaker 4: I didn't even have time to reverse what I wrote.
• 24:39
  Speaker 4: I am not in a good position right now. And yes,
• 24:41
  Speaker 4: it is because of my husband too. But that is
• 24:43
  Speaker 4: a story I will share later. I fixed the typos.
• 24:45
  Speaker 4: I hope it is clear to you all.
• 24:48
  Speaker 3: I feel like more than anything in this entire story,
• 24:51
  Speaker 3: OPs need to address that in an update and be like, yeah,
• 24:54
  Speaker 3: I know I made mistakes.
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: I fixed them all. I was in a hurry and
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: I'm emotional.
• 24:59
  Speaker 3: It's like, don't even, what? You're wasting your breath on
• 25:03
  Speaker 3: the wrong fight.
• 25:03
  Speaker 2: And I guarantee you, the ex-wife is living a blissful life.
• 25:08
  Speaker 3: And she won't give you a scrap to fight with.
• 25:11
  Speaker 3: She's just like, no, I literally, I have no enemies.
• 25:13
  Speaker 3: You're fine. It's, hey, he's your husband now.
• 25:16
  Speaker 4: Yeah, good luck.
• 25:16
  Speaker 3: You can be actually OP. You could be just like
• 25:19
  Speaker 3: the ex-wife that you're jealous of. All you gotta do
• 25:21
  Speaker 3: is wait for your husband to cheat on you like
• 25:23
  Speaker 3: he did with his first wife.
• 25:24
  Speaker 4: And then you date his cousin.
• 25:26
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and then you can, you date the, no, you
• 25:28
  Speaker 3: date the cousin of whoever you cheated on you with.
• 25:30
  Speaker 4: Yes, I like her a lot. She's an amazing human.
• 25:33
  Speaker 4: I'm glad I don't have any ex-wife drama in my life.
• 25:35
  Speaker 4: And yes, a part of that really makes me insecure
• 25:38
  Speaker 4: because I keep trying to find a fault in her.
• 25:41
  Speaker 4: Because even my own parents like her when she attended
• 25:44
  Speaker 4: the family functions as my cousin's girlfriend. My cousin and
• 25:47
  Speaker 4: her met each other a year ago when he was
• 25:49
  Speaker 4: visiting me and she came to drop off my kid
• 25:51
  Speaker 4: along with hers. Ooh, so you accidentally set them up.
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: Dang.
• 25:56
  Speaker 4: Way to just like rub it in her face. This
• 25:59
  Speaker 4: is funny. She sometimes invites my son to her house.
• 26:02
  Speaker 4: That's why she herself dropped him off. I asked her
• 26:05
  Speaker 4: to stay for dinner and there my cousin and her
• 26:07
  Speaker 4: hit it off and decided a date. That's pretty much it. Also, no,
• 26:11
  Speaker 4: this was not written by her. She doesn't use social
• 26:13
  Speaker 4: media that much as far as I know. And there's
• 26:16
  Speaker 4: an update.
• 26:16
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I think this is just like your best friend now,
• 26:19
  Speaker 3: I guess. I don't know. I think you just have
• 26:20
  Speaker 3: to accept the fact that you're going to be tormented
• 26:23
  Speaker 3: for the rest of your life about what you did.
• 26:24
  Speaker 3: Just try to live up to the example of your
• 26:26
  Speaker 3: husband's perfect ex-wife.
• 26:27
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 26:29
  Speaker 3: And don't worry about him wanting her back. She'll never
• 26:31
  Speaker 3: come back. Yeah.
• 26:32
  Speaker 1: She's never coming back. Yeah, no.
• 26:34
  Speaker 4: She still has everything that she needs, which is like
• 26:36
  Speaker 4: her kids, you know, her confidence and whatnot. She's very
• 26:39
  Speaker 4: secure in herself, which honestly, very inspiring.
• 26:42
  Speaker 1: She's got OP's cousin.
• 26:43
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 26:43
  Speaker 4: And now she has a great cousin. She has a
• 26:45
  Speaker 4: great boyfriend who happens to be your cousin.
• 26:48
  Speaker 3: Ooh.
• 26:49
  Speaker 4: All right, update. After four days, I made a post
• 26:53
  Speaker 4: a few days ago. There, I vented my frustration about
• 26:56
  Speaker 4: how my husband's ex was so good. Yes, a part
• 26:58
  Speaker 4: of me was jealous of her. Earth, she was so
• 27:00
  Speaker 4: nice and kind. Her kids are really well-behaved.
• 27:03
  Speaker 3: Well, let's pause, OP, because you were also talking about
• 27:05
  Speaker 3: how she's like beautiful, gorgeous. So she's hotter than you.
• 27:09
  Speaker 3: All right, let's not forget that. You're jealous of that.
• 27:11
  Speaker 4: Beautiful, gorgeous. Computer, show me beautiful, gorgeous.
• 27:15
  Speaker 2: You really want beautiful, gorgeous right now?
• 27:17
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I want beautiful, gorgeous right now. I know they
• 27:19
  Speaker 4: will never accept me as their part of the family,
• 27:21
  Speaker 4: but they haven't been mean to me or to my
• 27:24
  Speaker 4: son in any way. Till now, I thought the problem
• 27:26
  Speaker 4: was my husband's ex, but no, the problem was him.
• 27:30
  Speaker 2: What?
• 27:30
  Speaker 4: I do not know how it came to this. I
• 27:32
  Speaker 4: agree when we started dating, he was married. He told
• 27:35
  Speaker 4: me his marriage was already over and he would be
• 27:37
  Speaker 4: getting a divorce soon. Their marriage had problems, that's all
• 27:41
  Speaker 4: I knew. The problem started almost a few months ago.
• 27:44
  Speaker 4: I could see him being distant towards me. Oh no.
• 27:49
  Speaker 4: I know couples go through stages in life where they
• 27:52
  Speaker 4: have been distant towards each other. I tried to give
• 27:54
  Speaker 4: him space that he needs. Before getting married, we went
• 27:56
  Speaker 4: to premarital counseling because my husband was really adamant to
• 28:01
  Speaker 4: not screw up.
• 28:02
  Speaker 1: Too late for that, buddy. It started with a screw-up.
• 28:04
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 28:06
  Speaker 1: Whole thing was founded.
• 28:07
  Speaker 3: On screw-up.
• 28:08
  Speaker 5: On screw-up.
• 28:09
  Speaker 4: For those months, there was no intimacy. I didn't think
• 28:11
  Speaker 4: he would cheat because he wasn't late or hid anything
• 28:15
  Speaker 4: on his phone. Then when we finally became intimate and
• 28:18
  Speaker 4: made love, he said his ex-wife's name.
• 28:20
  Speaker 3: Dude! Hey, what's with the guys confused, huh?
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: You know, it's kind of like muscle memory.
• 28:26
  Speaker 2: Ah.
• 28:30
  Speaker 4: You can't do that.
• 28:34
  Speaker 3: It's almost like.
• 28:35
  Speaker 2: Did you say that was the first time, by the way?
• 28:37
  Speaker 3: That was, I guess, the first time, yeah. And she
• 28:40
  Speaker 3: still had a kid with him who's now four.
• 28:42
  Speaker 4: They did premarital counseling. So I'm sure they had done
• 28:44
  Speaker 4: it before, like during the, you know, she was the
• 28:46
  Speaker 4: affair partner. So I'm sure they were doing it, whatever, blah, blah.
• 28:49
  Speaker 4: But then when they were actually separated and doing premarital counseling...
• 28:53
  Speaker 4: He wasn't he was like, I don't want to screw
• 28:55
  Speaker 4: this up. So we're not going to do anything, blah, blah, blah.
• 28:57
  Speaker 4: And then after when they finally did it.
• 29:00
  Speaker 1: He's like, oh, oh, Shonda.
• 29:03
  Speaker 4: And she's like.
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: Um, yeah. Also, girl, this is the first time this
• 29:09
  Speaker 1: ever happened to anybody.
• 29:10
  Speaker 3: I'm shocked that the man you had an affair with
• 29:13
  Speaker 3: is maybe like, I don't know, like not fully committed
• 29:15
  Speaker 3: to you.
• 29:16
  Speaker 4: That is when I froze.
• 29:17
  Speaker 2: Why?
• 29:18
  Speaker 4: Next day I confronted him. He didn't lie to me.
• 29:20
  Speaker 4: He broke down in tears and said that he is
• 29:22
  Speaker 4: still in love with his ex. My heart broke. I
• 29:25
  Speaker 4: guess I know how she must have felt when I
• 29:28
  Speaker 4: was the other woman. I mean, come on, Opie. You're
• 29:31
  Speaker 4: just now realizing it?
• 29:32
  Speaker 2: Wow.
• 29:33
  Speaker 1: Also, guess what? You don't know that. You still don't
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: actually know how it feels.
• 29:37
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 29:37
  Speaker 1: That's so funny that you're like, it's actually me.
• 29:40
  Speaker 2: Now.
• 29:40
  Speaker 1: I'm the victim.
• 29:41
  Speaker 2: Internet's not going to like that one.
• 29:43
  Speaker 4: I asked him if he really loved her, why did
• 29:46
  Speaker 4: he marry me? I got the full picture after six
• 29:49
  Speaker 4: effing years. Yes, they had problems, but according to my husband,
• 29:53
  Speaker 4: it was his fault.
• 29:54
  Speaker 3: Shocker.
• 29:55
  Speaker 4: He never confessed his affair. His ex-wife found out about
• 29:58
  Speaker 4: the affair on her own and confronted him. He was
• 30:01
  Speaker 4: ready to make the marriage work, but before that, his
• 30:03
  Speaker 4: wife served him divorce papers.
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: He was ready to make the marriage work.
• 30:07
  Speaker 4: He's like, no, no, wait. Now you caught me. I
• 30:09
  Speaker 4: will work harder.
• 30:10
  Speaker 3: All I needed was this one affair that you never
• 30:12
  Speaker 3: found out about. And then I was going to make
• 30:14
  Speaker 3: our marriage work. Oh, why are you like this?
• 30:16
  Speaker 4: The last thing she said was she is giving him
• 30:20
  Speaker 4: the freedom he wants. My husband said he begged and pleaded.
• 30:23
  Speaker 4: His ex was smart. She only kept the house and
• 30:25
  Speaker 4: 50-50 for the kids. She even explained the kids the
• 30:29
  Speaker 4: reason for their divorce. His oldest daughter knew the actual reason,
• 30:33
  Speaker 4: but the other two were given a kid-friendly reason. On
• 30:36
  Speaker 4: top of his divorce and his older daughter not talking
• 30:39
  Speaker 4: to him really put a toll in his mind.
• 30:41
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• 30:44
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• 30:49
  Speaker 4: This got messy real quick. I mean, it was already
• 30:51
  Speaker 4: messy to begin with, but then it just got messier
• 30:54
  Speaker 4: and messier. Now we're going down the rabbit hole.
• 30:55
  Speaker 3: So my biggest question for Oprah. Were you asleep for
• 31:00
  Speaker 3: six years when you built a family and had a
• 31:03
  Speaker 3: child with this guy that you had no actual clue
• 31:06
  Speaker 3: in to how the relationship ended?
• 31:09
  Speaker 2: I think it was blissful and blindfold ignorance.
• 31:12
  Speaker 4: I like to talk about like if I'm if I'm
• 31:15
  Speaker 4: with someone like new, I like to bring up past
• 31:17
  Speaker 4: relationships to see how they like handle things and stuff.
• 31:20
  Speaker 4: And also to see how they like talk about them.
• 31:22
  Speaker 4: The thing is, I mean, obviously I would say bad
• 31:24
  Speaker 4: things because the guy was a bad person. But I mean,
• 31:26
  Speaker 4: there are like good things about the relationship that was
• 31:29
  Speaker 4: really fun and stuff. But like, if it was only
• 31:31
  Speaker 4: bad things, then that's.
• 31:32
  Speaker 3: I don't know.
• 31:33
  Speaker 2: If you guys are going to counseling, what have you,
• 31:36
  Speaker 2: pre-marriage counseling, and then he blurts out his... Ex-wife's name.
• 31:41
  Speaker 3: I don't think you take that investment, you know? I
• 31:43
  Speaker 3: think you maybe withdraw your funds from that.
• 31:45
  Speaker 2: That's when you're buying a used car. And they're like, yeah,
• 31:49
  Speaker 2: this baby's good. This baby's brand new, pretty much. And
• 31:53
  Speaker 2: you take it for a test drive, and it makes
• 31:54
  Speaker 2: that weird sound that you go, that didn't sound good.
• 31:57
  Speaker 4: You just start like, ah.
• 31:59
  Speaker 2: What was that cartoon car, like the cartoon dune buggy?
• 32:02
  Speaker 2: What was it?
• 32:03
  Speaker 1: Herbie?
• 32:03
  Speaker 2: It was Speed Buggy.
• 32:04
  Speaker 4: Speed Buggy.
• 32:05
  Speaker 2: Speed Buggy ever like just. Like, you know, just crashed out.
• 32:08
  Speaker 3: I'm imagining something in my head and I can't place
• 32:11
  Speaker 3: where it's from.
• 32:12
  Speaker 4: I'm going to finish this. I was there for him.
• 32:15
  Speaker 4: He thought that he should move on with his life
• 32:17
  Speaker 4: with me instead. But deep down, he always loved her.
• 32:21
  Speaker 4: He always feels guilty for hurting her. I understand all
• 32:23
  Speaker 4: of that. But I don't understand why now. He said
• 32:27
  Speaker 4: he wants to start a new life with me. I
• 32:28
  Speaker 4: apologize to everyone. I do not hate his ex. It's
• 32:32
  Speaker 4: him that I am mad at. He is a weak man.
• 32:35
  Speaker 4: I am not a better woman. He will always have
• 32:38
  Speaker 4: a place in his heart for her because they have
• 32:40
  Speaker 4: been together since teenagers. I notice the signs now. Whenever
• 32:44
  Speaker 4: he would see his ex with her new boyfriend, he
• 32:47
  Speaker 4: would get upset. He tried to hide it, but I
• 32:49
  Speaker 4: know why.
• 32:49
  Speaker 2: What do you mean?
• 32:51
  Speaker 3: Dang, this girl just learned how to read. She can
• 32:54
  Speaker 3: see the signs now. I think maybe your first sign
• 32:57
  Speaker 3: was when this guy told you, yeah, I'm married, but like,
• 33:01
  Speaker 3: we're basically getting divorced, right? That's when you go, nice champ.
• 33:07
  Speaker 3: Let me know when that divorce paperwork clears, all right?
• 33:10
  Speaker 2: Opie's connecting all the dots. He gets angry when he
• 33:13
  Speaker 2: sees his ex-wife with her new partner for like the
• 33:16
  Speaker 2: entire time, never knew why. And now the ace of base,
• 33:18
  Speaker 2: the sign starts playing in Opie's head.
• 33:21
  Speaker 4: I am living in the guest room until we sort
• 33:24
  Speaker 4: this thing out i guess y'all are happy because i
• 33:26
  Speaker 4: am getting what i deserve.
• 33:28
  Speaker 2: Woe is me that's such a woe is me.
• 33:30
  Speaker 4: It's like well i guess now you know i know
• 33:32
  Speaker 4: that i did wrong and now i'm getting what i
• 33:34
  Speaker 4: deserve are you guys happy now it's like are you
• 33:36
  Speaker 4: Because it seems like you just went into this head
• 33:39
  Speaker 4: first and didn't even ask any questions. It just was like,
• 33:42
  Speaker 4: he's choosing me.
• 33:44
  Speaker 2: And the girl's like, watch this drive.
• 33:46
  Speaker 4: I don't know.
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: I'm pretty happy. I would have liked the zipper on
• 33:49
  Speaker 1: your jacket to get stuck. Or maybe you stubbed your toe.
• 33:52
  Speaker 4: Or not a pin. A button falls off your shirt.
• 33:54
  Speaker 2: I don't know, OP. What do you want? What do
• 33:57
  Speaker 2: you want? You were the affair partner. You know what
• 34:01
  Speaker 2: you saw? You saw very short, like right in front
• 34:03
  Speaker 2: of you. You didn't see the far signs.
• 34:05
  Speaker 3: I really do wonder what this person was trying to
• 34:07
  Speaker 3: get out of posting this. Did they want advice on
• 34:11
  Speaker 3: like how to cope with the nice ex-wife?
• 34:14
  Speaker 2: Are you guilty that you were the affair partner? Do
• 34:17
  Speaker 2: you not want to take accountability?
• 34:18
  Speaker 3: Absolutely crazy that at some point in that story, she's like, yeah,
• 34:21
  Speaker 3: and you know what? I'm not even mad at his ex.
• 34:25
  Speaker 3: I'm mad at him.
• 34:26
  Speaker 4: So OP is 40 female and the husband is 50.
• 34:31
  Speaker 3: Be mad at you.
• 34:32
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 34:32
  Speaker 4: This guy's 50 and he still can't get it right.
• 34:35
  Speaker 2: I mean, that's why the ex-wife went.
• 34:36
  Speaker 3: No.
• 34:37
  Speaker 2: I don't need to work on this. I'm good.
• 34:39
  Speaker 4: We've been together since teenagers. He's changed. Not for the better.
• 34:43
  Speaker 2: There were so many blatant red flags in front of
• 34:45
  Speaker 2: your face, Opie, but you just wanted to continue being jealous.
• 34:49
  Speaker 4: I think truthfully, she didn't ask because she just was like, oh,
• 34:52
  Speaker 4: it has to be the girl's fault because like he's
• 34:54
  Speaker 4: such a good guy and I don't understand how he
• 34:56
  Speaker 4: could do anything wrong. Well, it was kind of like
• 34:58
  Speaker 4: the rose colored glasses.
• 35:00
  Speaker 1: It's not even about asking. He told her he said,
• 35:02
  Speaker 1: I am married, but we're getting divorced.
• 35:05
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 35:06
  Speaker 1: What are we doing here? You're still married.
• 35:07
  Speaker 4: This one guy was like, oh, I'm I'm breaking up
• 35:10
  Speaker 4: with my girlfriend. I like you, blah, blah, blah, all
• 35:12
  Speaker 4: this stuff. And I was like, OK. And I was like,
• 35:15
  Speaker 4: are you sure? Like, you don't like you don't have
• 35:16
  Speaker 4: to break up with.
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: Her or whatever.
• 35:18
  Speaker 4: Like, I mean, and I liked her. She was cool.
• 35:20
  Speaker 2: Were you the affair partner?
• 35:21
  Speaker 5: Huh?
• 35:22
  Speaker 3: He was cheating on his girlfriend and he told you
• 35:24
  Speaker 3: he was going to break up with her and you went, no, don't.
• 35:26
  Speaker 1: Break up with her.
• 35:26
  Speaker 4: Well, I was like, well.
• 35:27
  Speaker 3: Just keep cheating on her with me.
• 35:29
  Speaker 4: No, no, I wasn't cheating.
• 35:31
  Speaker 3: No.
• 35:31
  Speaker 1: What are you talking about?
• 35:32
  Speaker 4: No, he was like, he like came to me and
• 35:35
  Speaker 4: was like, oh, like I want to be.
• 35:37
  Speaker 1: Oh, so he just told you this.
• 35:38
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 35:39
  Speaker 4: But then but then he was like, oh, yeah, we
• 35:40
  Speaker 4: broke up, blah, blah. And then we started becoming the thing, whatever.
• 35:44
  Speaker 4: And then I went to college and then they immediately
• 35:46
  Speaker 4: got back together. And I was like, the thing is,
• 35:48
  Speaker 4: I don't think they were ever actually broken up. I
• 35:49
  Speaker 4: think he just said that they were.
• 35:51
  Speaker 3: Probably.
• 35:51
  Speaker 2: Did she know about you?
• 35:52
  Speaker 4: You want to know what's funny? We're in a show.
• 35:54
  Speaker 4: Me and him were in a show. She was the choreographer.
• 35:57
  Speaker 2: But did she know that you and him hooked up?
• 35:59
  Speaker 4: I told her afterwards.
• 36:01
  Speaker 2: That's all you needed?
• 36:01
  Speaker 3: Okay.
• 36:02
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I told her. I sent her the hey girl text.
• 36:05
  Speaker 4: I was like, you're so nice and pretty and all
• 36:07
  Speaker 4: this stuff. You don't need him. I'm pretty sure he
• 36:09
  Speaker 4: was cheating on you. Because she posted like an anniversary thing.
• 36:12
  Speaker 4: It was like three years with this guy. And I
• 36:13
  Speaker 4: was like, huh?
• 36:14
  Speaker 2: I don't know, Savannah. That sounds kind of weird.
• 36:16
  Speaker 4: Yeah no i he said i mean i believed him
• 36:18
  Speaker 4: i was like oh like he said oh we're not
• 36:20
  Speaker 4: we're not together i remember he came over crying because
• 36:23
  Speaker 4: he was like we just broke uh did any all
• 36:24
  Speaker 4: the stuff and i was like oh okay all right
• 36:27
  Speaker 4: and then we you know we're like a thing for
• 36:29
  Speaker 4: like it was like a month and then i went
• 36:31
  Speaker 4: back to school i thought they were broken up do
• 36:33
  Speaker 4: not come at me he he gave me false information
• 36:36
  Speaker 4: you believed him well yeah i mean was i not
• 36:39
  Speaker 4: supposed to You're.
• 36:40
  Speaker 3: Never supposed to believe men.
• 36:41
  Speaker 2: But believe me when I say this, that's the end
• 36:42
  Speaker 2: of that story. We have another one coming right up.
• 36:44
  Speaker 1: Michaela Sorrell says, Oof.
• 36:46
  Speaker 3: So literally not. Mature in the brains. Sad. But what
• 36:48
  Speaker 3: I still want to remind us all of is the
• 36:51
  Speaker 3: beginning is always rose-tinted glasses, and that makes stupid and blind.
• 36:56
  Speaker 3: That can take years to fall. Hey, we can choose
• 36:58
  Speaker 3: not to have that be the case, though. You can
• 37:00
  Speaker 3: choose to just not have rose- You can take them
• 37:02
  Speaker 3: off and go.
• 37:04
  Speaker 4: I can't stop obsessing over my husband's affair partner. It's
• 37:08
  Speaker 4: tearing me apart.
• 37:10
  Speaker 5: Sounds like you need a new husband.
• 37:12
  Speaker 4: My husband of 12 years, 34 male, cheated on me,
• 37:16
  Speaker 4: 32 female. They never had spicy sleep, but went on
• 37:20
  Speaker 4: two dates that he concealed from me and kissed at
• 37:22
  Speaker 4: the end of each one.
• 37:24
  Speaker 2: Do we believe that?
• 37:25
  Speaker 5: If they're European, it's not cheating.
• 37:28
  Speaker 2: I don't think that's how it works.
• 37:29
  Speaker 5: You've never been to Europe.
• 37:30
  Speaker 2: I have.
• 37:31
  Speaker 4: I've chosen to forgive him for my own reasons. I
• 37:34
  Speaker 4: won't elaborate though, since this post isn't about him. My
• 37:37
  Speaker 4: decision is final and in my eyes, he's earned a
• 37:40
  Speaker 4: second chance. The thing is, I can't stop obsessing over
• 37:43
  Speaker 4: the other woman. I check her Facebook every day. It's private,
• 37:47
  Speaker 4: so it's not like I can see anything anyways. Then
• 37:50
  Speaker 4: why don't you check it? Every time I look in
• 37:52
  Speaker 4: the mirror, I compare myself to her.
• 37:54
  Speaker 1: I mean, she does have you zero to two. You're
• 37:56
  Speaker 1: kind of losing.
• 37:57
  Speaker 4: I mean, I'm sure they've had many kisses. You just
• 38:00
  Speaker 4: think they haven't kissed throughout their entire relationship.
• 38:03
  Speaker 3: How did they?
• 38:03
  Speaker 4: They're married.
• 38:04
  Speaker 2: How are they?
• 38:05
  Speaker 4: How'd they seal it?
• 38:06
  Speaker 2: Started out with a kiss.
• 38:07
  Speaker 4: How did it end up like this?
• 38:08
  Speaker 2: It was only a kiss.
• 38:09
  Speaker 4: She's super skinny without having to try, whereas I work
• 38:12
  Speaker 4: out daily slash diet, and I still have a chubby
• 38:15
  Speaker 4: face and stomach. She's artistic, which I'm definitely not. My
• 38:19
  Speaker 4: husband let me read through every text they've ever exchanged,
• 38:23
  Speaker 4: and even though he insists that she was a mistake,
• 38:25
  Speaker 4: she seems so funny and interesting to talk to.
• 38:28
  Speaker 2: Me.
• 38:30
  Speaker 6: So we got emotional cheating in this as well. And
• 38:33
  Speaker 6: Michaela Sorrell. Okay, as a German, kissing isn't cheating most
• 38:38
  Speaker 6: of the time.
• 38:38
  Speaker 3: There you go.
• 38:39
  Speaker 2: Called it.
• 38:40
  Speaker 4: It's gotten so bad that I don't think I can
• 38:42
  Speaker 4: even visit my favorite vacation destination ever again. She shares
• 38:46
  Speaker 4: a name with the city. What? Dang, what do you
• 38:48
  Speaker 4: think it is?
• 38:49
  Speaker 1: Seattle.
• 38:50
  Speaker 4: Charlotte.
• 38:51
  Speaker 2: Probably Charlotte.
• 38:52
  Speaker 1: Or Jackson.
• 38:53
  Speaker 2: Taylorsville.
• 38:54
  Speaker 4: Fort Lauderdale.
• 38:55
  Speaker 2: What?
• 38:56
  Speaker 5: We're gonna call her that now.
• 38:57
  Speaker 4: By the way this comes from healing from this and
• 39:00
  Speaker 4: if you want to submit your own stories go to
• 39:02
  Speaker 4: the r slash okay story time subreddit as op says
• 39:05
  Speaker 4: i know this obsession isn't healthy and it's in healing
• 39:08
  Speaker 4: of our relationship i just can't get her out of
• 39:11
  Speaker 4: my head for long but whenever i talk about the
• 39:14
  Speaker 4: whole thing it just makes me even more miserable what
• 39:17
  Speaker 4: can i do mm And yes, I know I'm a
• 39:20
  Speaker 4: little crazy. That's why I'm posting here anonymously instead of
• 39:23
  Speaker 4: telling my friends slash bringing it up to him again.
• 39:26
  Speaker 4: There's an update.
• 39:27
  Speaker 1: Do we want to get real or do we want
• 39:28
  Speaker 1: to get silly?
• 39:29
  Speaker 4: I want to get real.
• 39:30
  Speaker 2: Silly.
• 39:30
  Speaker 5: You ever seen Tom and Jerry?
• 39:32
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 39:32
  Speaker 6: You know how they have those big mallets? They just
• 39:34
  Speaker 6: bonk each other on the heads with them? Do that
• 39:37
  Speaker 6: to your husband enough times and this problem will go away.
• 39:39
  Speaker 5: Or the affair partner, Fort Lauderdale.
• 39:41
  Speaker 4: Fort Lauderdale.
• 39:42
  Speaker 5: Do it to her a few times, she's gone.
• 39:44
  Speaker 4: If it makes you miserable, just don't do it. It
• 39:46
  Speaker 4: seems like you just have, like, you do have an
• 39:48
  Speaker 4: unhealthy obsession with this woman. Like, understandable, you're like, what
• 39:52
  Speaker 4: does she have that I don't, that my husband, you know, likes?
• 39:55
  Speaker 4: But the thing is, you can't just sit there and
• 39:57
  Speaker 4: drive yourself insane. You have to sit down and talk
• 39:59
  Speaker 4: with your husband and be like, I need reassurance.
• 40:01
  Speaker 2: Oh wow, you got to.
• 40:02
  Speaker 4: Be You want me to be silly?
• 40:03
  Speaker 5: I had a great banger for this one.
• 40:05
  Speaker 2: Yeah?
• 40:05
  Speaker 6: In order to heal, you must forgive. You have to
• 40:07
  Speaker 6: forgive a part of yourself or her so you can
• 40:10
  Speaker 6: move on to heal. If you don't, you're going to
• 40:11
  Speaker 6: have resentment to the point where you can't begin to heal.
• 40:15
  Speaker 5: Hot take.
• 40:16
  Speaker 2: Thanks, Mr. Miyagi.
• 40:17
  Speaker 3: True.
• 40:17
  Speaker 5: We're Tom and Jerry.
• 40:18
  Speaker 4: Update! It's been two and a half months, so I'm
• 40:22
  Speaker 4: not totally over it, but I'm healing. My husband did
• 40:25
  Speaker 4: something stupid and hurtful, and I did consider leaving him,
• 40:28
  Speaker 4: but ever since this happened, he's done everything in his
• 40:30
  Speaker 4: power to make me feel cared for and appreciated. What
• 40:33
  Speaker 4: do you do?
• 40:35
  Speaker 1: Can't blame him if he's German.
• 40:36
  Speaker 4: Yes, you can.
• 40:37
  Speaker 2: I don't think he's German.
• 40:38
  Speaker 5: We don't know that. That is not confirmed.
• 40:40
  Speaker 4: He's genuinely remorseful. And in my eyes, he's earned a
• 40:42
  Speaker 4: second chance. Yeah, you already said that. Is this another
• 40:46
  Speaker 4: second chance? Is this his third chance? How many second
• 40:48
  Speaker 4: chances are you going to give him?
• 40:49
  Speaker 2: I don't know. Do you? Is that the thing is, OP,
• 40:52
  Speaker 2: do you want to give him a second chance? Yeah,
• 40:53
  Speaker 2: it's like, well, it sounds like, yeah, I does. He
• 40:56
  Speaker 2: deserves it. Should you give it to him?
• 40:58
  Speaker 4: It's like, OK, so he does something bad. You're both upset.
• 41:01
  Speaker 4: You're fighting. He makes up for it. Everything's good now.
• 41:04
  Speaker 4: And then there's another fight. But it's like the cycle
• 41:07
  Speaker 4: of abuse. That's literally what this is. It seems like
• 41:10
  Speaker 4: I mean, I don't know is actually happening because she
• 41:13
  Speaker 4: is leaving out a lot of details. But from what
• 41:15
  Speaker 4: you're telling us, I would put that in the category
• 41:18
  Speaker 4: of it. We've also just started couples counseling, and that
• 41:20
  Speaker 4: is going well so far. For the first few weeks
• 41:23
  Speaker 4: after he confessed, we didn't have spicy sleep. Even being
• 41:27
  Speaker 4: unclothed in front of him felt wrong, since I was
• 41:30
  Speaker 4: not only angry, but constantly comparing myself to this woman.
• 41:34
  Speaker 5: You know you can make yourself tighter.
• 41:35
  Speaker 4: You can make yourself tighter.
• 41:37
  Speaker 2: Riley Wilson.
• 41:39
  Speaker 5: That's what she's comparing herself to?
• 41:40
  Speaker 2: You are out of pocket.
• 41:42
  Speaker 5: I can make myself tighter.
• 41:43
  Speaker 2: Out of pocket.
• 41:44
  Speaker 1: That's really the issue here. That's one of the two issues.
• 41:46
  Speaker 6: Your husband's cheating on you, and you feel like you're
• 41:48
  Speaker 6: not tight enough.
• 41:48
  Speaker 4: I don't think it's her tightness.
• 41:50
  Speaker 3: Really?
• 41:51
  Speaker 4: Really? Really?
• 41:52
  Speaker 6: She called herself chubby in the face. Instead of this
• 41:54
  Speaker 6: other woman looks skinnier. That has a correlation.
• 41:57
  Speaker 1: What tightness?
• 41:57
  Speaker 4: That's thinner, not tighter.
• 41:59
  Speaker 2: How do you want me to bounce off of that, Riley?
• 42:02
  Speaker 1: I think she wants to be tighter here.
• 42:04
  Speaker 4: Stop saying it.
• 42:06
  Speaker 2: I think it's not like if you keep saying it's
• 42:08
  Speaker 2: going to happen.
• 42:09
  Speaker 1: Just tighter.
• 42:10
  Speaker 5: I'm just giving advice. This is really what you want. Okay, okay.
• 42:14
  Speaker 5: Sorry you guys can't agree with me because I'm the
• 42:16
  Speaker 5: tightest one here. You know what?
• 42:17
  Speaker 1: Maybe you guys want to be tight too and you
• 42:19
  Speaker 1: won't admit it.
• 42:20
  Speaker 4: I'm uncomfortable.
• 42:21
  Speaker 2: I need an adult.
• 42:22
  Speaker 4: Neither of us is the type to give up. Though,
• 42:25
  Speaker 4: we each took a week off of work to have
• 42:28
  Speaker 4: a little staycation. At the end of it, we decided
• 42:31
  Speaker 4: we would know if we were going to stay together
• 42:33
  Speaker 4: or break up. It was amazing. We caught up on
• 42:36
  Speaker 4: Game of Thrones, lounged around and ate pizza in our
• 42:38
  Speaker 4: underwear and got wasted off of wine.
• 42:42
  Speaker 2: Sick.
• 42:42
  Speaker 4: So you took a week together off of work and
• 42:45
  Speaker 4: now everything's fine. I mean, I guess.
• 42:47
  Speaker 6: So does that say a lot about your relationship or
• 42:50
  Speaker 6: the status of the workforce in America?
• 42:53
  Speaker 4: I don't know. I think that it's good that you
• 42:55
  Speaker 4: guys are getting along because if you both took a
• 42:57
  Speaker 4: week off and you stayed together and it was miserable,
• 42:59
  Speaker 4: then you know like this isn't going to work. So
• 43:01
  Speaker 4: at least you know like there still is hope for it.
• 43:03
  Speaker 4: But I don't know. It could be false hope.
• 43:06
  Speaker 5: Yo, they got tighter.
• 43:07
  Speaker 2: He's not wrong. He's out of line, but he's not wrong.
• 43:10
  Speaker 4: We talked a lot. We cried. And in the end,
• 43:14
  Speaker 4: I do think we managed to come out of it
• 43:16
  Speaker 4: in a healthy place. On her last day off, we
• 43:18
  Speaker 4: went to the same restaurant where he took the other
• 43:20
  Speaker 4: woman on a date.
• 43:22
  Speaker 2: Now, why would he do that? Why?
• 43:23
  Speaker 6: All this paella here is phenomenal.
• 43:27
  Speaker 1: We gotta go.
• 43:28
  Speaker 4: At the table, we did a silly little ceremony to
• 43:31
  Speaker 4: rechristen it as a place for us where her presence
• 43:35
  Speaker 4: doesn't matter. And you know what? It doesn't matter as
• 43:37
  Speaker 4: much anymore. She doesn't mean anything to us. He was
• 43:40
  Speaker 4: eager to block her on everything and lets me look
• 43:43
  Speaker 4: through his phone, though I haven't been doing it lately
• 43:46
  Speaker 4: because privacy and all that.
• 43:47
  Speaker 6: Hey, it's Smiley Riley here from OK Storytime.
• 43:49
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• 43:52
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• 43:54
  Speaker 5: How good is the food there?
• 43:56
  Speaker 4: It doesn't matter about the food.
• 43:57
  Speaker 2: It's so good it makes you want to cheat.
• 43:59
  Speaker 6: Get me away from that cheesecake. Cheesecake would make me cheat.
• 44:03
  Speaker 6: I would suck a dude's toes for some good cheesecake.
• 44:05
  Speaker 2: You're really unhinged today. What did you drink?
• 44:08
  Speaker 3: Cucumber.
• 44:09
  Speaker 4: Riley came in and he said, I haven't gone to
• 44:11
  Speaker 4: the bathroom in five days.
• 44:12
  Speaker 1: They were like, this stuff's gonna make me poop and pee.
• 44:16
  Speaker 4: And he's like, no, it doesn't make me do that.
• 44:17
  Speaker 4: And we're like, you haven't. And he said, I've been
• 44:19
  Speaker 4: doing this for five days. And we're like, you haven't
• 44:21
  Speaker 4: pooped or peed in five days.
• 44:23
  Speaker 1: Like it doesn't, you don't drink it and immediately poop
• 44:26
  Speaker 1: or pee after.
• 44:27
  Speaker 4: Takes a while.
• 44:28
  Speaker 5: Takes five. To four days.
• 44:30
  Speaker 4: I couldn't imagine that.
• 44:31
  Speaker 5: You sipping on that now?
• 44:32
  Speaker 2: Mm-hmm.
• 44:33
  Speaker 5: You peed yet?
• 44:34
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I did.
• 44:35
  Speaker 2: Oh, wow.
• 44:36
  Speaker 5: It must be working differently.
• 44:37
  Speaker 4: Yeah, it went right through me. Yeah, I don't know.
• 44:39
  Speaker 4: I think if this is what's going to help your relationship,
• 44:42
  Speaker 4: do it. But I don't know. I wouldn't trust him.
• 44:44
  Speaker 1: Oh, you trusting him, Keon?
• 44:46
  Speaker 2: I couldn't. If someone cheated on me, any little thing
• 44:48
  Speaker 2: that was like out of line, I'd be like, they're
• 44:51
  Speaker 2: cheating on me. So, but OP wants to make this work.
• 44:54
  Speaker 2: And you know what? All the power to you. Am
• 44:56
  Speaker 2: I trusting this guy? It seems like he wants to
• 44:59
  Speaker 2: do this. I'm not that type of person.
• 45:01
  Speaker 5: It was only a kiss.
• 45:02
  Speaker 2: How did it end up like this? It was only
• 45:04
  Speaker 2: a kiss. Right?
• 45:05
  Speaker 4: It was only a kiss.
• 45:06
  Speaker 2: And I was in my head. I was comparing myself
• 45:08
  Speaker 2: to her. She was Miss Perfect. I'm not Miss Perfect.
• 45:11
  Speaker 2: Why did he cheat on me? Why was this? Am
• 45:14
  Speaker 2: I terrible? You know?
• 45:15
  Speaker 5: You know, I think that about my coworkers too sometimes.
• 45:17
  Speaker 5: How are they so skinny? They're not even trying.
• 45:20
  Speaker 4: Who are you?
• 45:21
  Speaker 2: Who? Who are you talking about?
• 45:26
  Speaker 5: But you don't even try.
• 45:27
  Speaker 2: Sophia eats like a pea and then it's done.
• 45:31
  Speaker 4: No, she does eat. She eats a lot. Whoa!
• 45:35
  Speaker 1: You just called her fat.
• 45:37
  Speaker 4: No, I said she eats a lot because she does.
• 45:39
  Speaker 6: I'm telling Sophia, dude, Savannah just called you fat.
• 45:43
  Speaker 4: Oh my God. First of all, she would never in
• 45:46
  Speaker 4: a million years believe you that I said that because
• 45:49
  Speaker 4: I would never.
• 45:50
  Speaker 3: Wow.
• 45:51
  Speaker 2: Ask her about the paella thing too.
• 45:52
  Speaker 4: No, I was going to ask her when she came back.
• 45:55
  Speaker 4: I'm asking her when she comes back.
• 45:57
  Speaker 5: We're going to tell her the second she gets back
• 45:58
  Speaker 5: into work.
• 45:59
  Speaker 4: Not to be TMI, but we're having spicy sleep again.
• 46:02
  Speaker 1: Too much information!
• 46:04
  Speaker 4: Better than it was before we reconnected like this. I
• 46:07
  Speaker 4: feel like we've regained a spark that we haven't felt
• 46:09
  Speaker 4: in a while. I still think about the other women sometimes,
• 46:13
  Speaker 4: but I'm not obsessive like I used to be. She
• 46:15
  Speaker 4: may have seemed perfect to me, but I don't know her.
• 46:19
  Speaker 4: And there are a million little flaws and quirks that
• 46:21
  Speaker 4: I never got to witness. My husband has been with
• 46:24
  Speaker 4: me for 12 years, and I just have to keep
• 46:26
  Speaker 4: reminding myself that he still chose me. Except for those
• 46:30
  Speaker 4: two times.
• 46:31
  Speaker 2: I would like to say, OP, and I know it's
• 46:33
  Speaker 2: hard because once it's in your mind, it's there and
• 46:36
  Speaker 2: you keep thinking about it. But no one is really
• 46:38
  Speaker 2: or truly perfect. And that's in their own way. Imagine,
• 46:41
  Speaker 2: you got to sit down, lounge around, eat pizza with
• 46:44
  Speaker 2: your husband, and watch Game of Thrones. To him, that
• 46:47
  Speaker 2: might be perfect. Yeah. To her, that's like gross.
• 46:49
  Speaker 3: Who knows?
• 46:50
  Speaker 4: I mean, beauty and societal standards, it's all opinionated.
• 46:56
  Speaker 3: It is.
• 46:56
  Speaker 4: It's all subjective.
• 46:57
  Speaker 6: Around the 1930s, it was great to be a big
• 47:00
  Speaker 6: fat dude because that meant you knew how to eat.
• 47:02
  Speaker 5: And women liked that. That guy got money. He can
• 47:04
  Speaker 5: feed me spaghetti.
• 47:06
  Speaker 3: But now.
• 47:07
  Speaker 6: Women like dad bods, skinny dudes. They like dudes that
• 47:11
  Speaker 6: are Midwest.
• 47:12
  Speaker 4: Truthfully, I just feel like everyone likes whatever. You need
• 47:14
  Speaker 4: to be like, oh, I'm not his type. I'm not
• 47:17
  Speaker 4: her type, whatever, blah, blah, blah. I mean, like, yeah,
• 47:19
  Speaker 4: I feel like everyone does have a type, but it
• 47:21
  Speaker 4: doesn't mean that I'm, like, not open to people who
• 47:23
  Speaker 4: aren't my type.
• 47:24
  Speaker 1: I have a specific type.
• 47:26
  Speaker 2: Do you know what his type is?
• 47:27
  Speaker 4: Redhead, artsy girl.
• 47:29
  Speaker 3: No.
• 47:29
  Speaker 4: Emo girls.
• 47:30
  Speaker 5: Go ahead, Keon.
• 47:31
  Speaker 3: What is it?
• 47:31
  Speaker 2: Goth baddies, emo baddies, and girls with big foreheads.
• 47:34
  Speaker 4: Girls with big foreheads is crazy.
• 47:37
  Speaker 2: This is verbatim from Riley. I just listened.
• 47:40
  Speaker 5: When did I say that?
• 47:42
  Speaker 2: Aw.
• 47:43
  Speaker 5: But he does have a point.
• 47:43
  Speaker 4: But he does have a point.
• 47:45
  Speaker 5: They attract me.
• 47:45
  Speaker 6: It's honestly the bangs that get me. Because usually they
• 47:48
  Speaker 6: get bangs and I'm like, oh, there's so many bangs
• 47:50
  Speaker 6: happening there.
• 47:51
  Speaker 1: Wow.
• 47:51
  Speaker 5: I love Miss Angelina's forehead. I love every beat of her.
• 47:55
  Speaker 2: To quote Riley Wilson.
• 47:56
  Speaker 5: She's the best.
• 47:57
  Speaker 1: I discovered my husband's affair and I plan to expose
• 48:01
  Speaker 1: it to the media?
• 48:02
  Speaker 2: Ha! Ha ha!
• 48:04
  Speaker 6: Everyone will know! I, 32 female, am currently going through
• 48:09
  Speaker 6: a divorce with my husband, 32 male. We were together
• 48:12
  Speaker 6: for seven years and married for a year and a
• 48:15
  Speaker 6: half when, completely out of the blue, he told me
• 48:18
  Speaker 6: he wanted a divorce and that he was done with
• 48:21
  Speaker 6: our marriage. I was devastated and genuinely blindsided. At first,
• 48:27
  Speaker 6: I thought he meant he'd been struggling with depression, burnout,
• 48:30
  Speaker 6: or some other mental health issue related to the pressure
• 48:33
  Speaker 6: of his job because his decision seemed so sudden and
• 48:37
  Speaker 6: completely out of character. He recently filed for a no-fault
• 48:40
  Speaker 6: divorce while I accepted that our marriage was over. I
• 48:44
  Speaker 6: later discovered evidence that he had been having an affair.
• 48:48
  Speaker 1: Before asking for the divorce.
• 48:50
  Speaker 6: Here's where it gets complicated. He's probably like a weatherman
• 48:53
  Speaker 6: or something like that.
• 48:55
  Speaker 4: Why would you say that?
• 48:56
  Speaker 5: Because it's getting complicated.
• 48:57
  Speaker 2: Is it getting complicated for weathermen?
• 48:59
  Speaker 5: It's like, oh, I cheated on my wife. Does that
• 49:01
  Speaker 5: mean I'm cheating you guys and telling you it's going
• 49:03
  Speaker 5: to rain?
• 49:03
  Speaker 2: When it rains, it pours.
• 49:04
  Speaker 6: Because if I tell the world that it's going to rain,
• 49:07
  Speaker 6: that makes my wife wonder if she should go outside.
• 49:09
  Speaker 6: And if she stays at home, that means I can
• 49:10
  Speaker 6: go out and cheat. If I tell her there's a
• 49:12
  Speaker 6: tornado coming through here, she's going to stay home.
• 49:14
  Speaker 5: I'm going to go cheat.
• 49:15
  Speaker 4: Yeah, sure, I guess. I guess you can be a
• 49:17
  Speaker 4: weatherman and cheat. Those things are possible.
• 49:20
  Speaker 6: My husband is a well-known conservative politician.
• 49:25
  Speaker 4: I see. Now I understand.
• 49:29
  Speaker 2: What's his name?
• 49:29
  Speaker 6: Name your favorite conservative politician. I'll go first.
• 49:33
  Speaker 5: I don't know any conservative politicians. I don't know any politicians.
• 49:36
  Speaker 6: I am also conservative, and throughout our relationship, we both
• 49:40
  Speaker 6: publicly presented ourselves as believing strongly in family values, commitment,
• 49:46
  Speaker 6: and fidelity. I don't necessarily want revenge for the relationship ending.
• 49:50
  Speaker 6: What bothers me is the hypocrisy.
• 49:52
  Speaker 2: What if he's just a really good politician?
• 49:55
  Speaker 5: No such thing.
• 49:56
  Speaker 6: By the way, this comes from AmbitiousPaint86, and if you
• 49:59
  Speaker 6: want to speak on your own stories, go to the
• 50:01
  Speaker 6: r slash ok story time subreddit.
• 50:03
  Speaker 2: And I.
• 50:04
  Speaker 1: Work as a podcast person, I can make up words.
• 50:07
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I was gonna say, was that a real word? Wow.
• 50:09
  Speaker 1: Got him.
• 50:10
  Speaker 4: We can, we can do that.
• 50:12
  Speaker 2: He's getting to me.
• 50:13
  Speaker 6: He continues to publicly promote traditional family values while privately
• 50:17
  Speaker 6: behaving in a way that directly contradicts that image.
• 50:21
  Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, a politician.
• 50:23
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 50:24
  Speaker 6: I have evidence of the affair. Some friends have told
• 50:26
  Speaker 6: me I should take it to the media because voters
• 50:29
  Speaker 6: deserve to know if a public figure is presenting a
• 50:32
  Speaker 6: false image. Others say that, regardless of what he did,
• 50:35
  Speaker 6: exposing his private life would be vindictive and unnecessarily destructive,
• 50:40
  Speaker 6: especially since we're already divorcing.
• 50:42
  Speaker 5: I'm genuinely conflicted.
• 50:44
  Speaker 6: Part of me feels that people deserve to know the
• 50:46
  Speaker 6: truth about someone asking for their trust and presenting himself
• 50:50
  Speaker 6: as a man of strong family values. At the same time,
• 50:52
  Speaker 6: I'd be lying if I said revenge isn't a part
• 50:55
  Speaker 6: of it. I'm hurt, angry, and I can't pretend those
• 50:57
  Speaker 6: feelings aren't influencing me. Another part of me wonders whether
• 51:01
  Speaker 6: exposing him would make me no better than him, or
• 51:04
  Speaker 6: whether I'd simply be acting out of pain rather than
• 51:07
  Speaker 6: doing the right thing. So am I the a-hole for
• 51:10
  Speaker 6: even considering giving this information to journalists?
• 51:13
  Speaker 2: You can do it anonymously.
• 51:15
  Speaker 4: That's true. You could do it anonymously.
• 51:17
  Speaker 2: Be like, oh, caught this. Come on, come on. People
• 51:20
  Speaker 2: can put two and two together. You guys are getting
• 51:21
  Speaker 2: divorced and he gets, let's say, even like a week
• 51:24
  Speaker 2: or a month after releases that, oh, new girlfriend, because
• 51:28
  Speaker 2: I'm a man of, even though you get divorced, you
• 51:30
  Speaker 2: can still get out there.
• 51:31
  Speaker 4: I would go for, well, actually, no, I wouldn't. Because
• 51:34
  Speaker 4: I'd be like, eh, too much work. I don't really care.
• 51:35
  Speaker 2: But... They want to cover face.
• 51:37
  Speaker 4: They want to be like, I'm trustworthy. You can trust me, blah, blah, blah. Well, actually, no,
• 51:42
  Speaker 4: I can't because you cheated on your wife.
• 51:44
  Speaker 2: Yeah, what's he going to say to the media? Or
• 51:45
  Speaker 2: how is he going to put it into that where
• 51:47
  Speaker 2: you guys are getting a divorce? And who is he
• 51:49
  Speaker 2: going to put that on? Is he going to be like,
• 51:50
  Speaker 2: it's on both of us? Or is he going to
• 51:51
  Speaker 2: put it on you?
• 51:52
  Speaker 4: He'll probably say something like, there were marital problems.
• 51:55
  Speaker 5: You guys are looking at this wrong.
• 51:57
  Speaker 4: I don't know.
• 51:58
  Speaker 6: We could be making a pretty penny here. Number one,
• 52:01
  Speaker 6: hush money is legal here in America.
• 52:03
  Speaker 2: Hush puppies aren't, though.
• 52:04
  Speaker 1: What you can do is ask your husband for some
• 52:06
  Speaker 1: hush money.
• 52:07
  Speaker 5: Sorry, ex-husband.
• 52:08
  Speaker 4: Oh, it's like the, Lord, show me how to say
• 52:11
  Speaker 4: no to this. I don't know how to say no
• 52:14
  Speaker 4: to this.
• 52:15
  Speaker 1: Or take it to his direct competitor.
• 52:18
  Speaker 6: I got some spicy info.
• 52:20
  Speaker 1: Here you go.
• 52:21
  Speaker 5: Let's make some money out of this.
• 52:22
  Speaker 2: Go to the highest bidder.
• 52:23
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 52:24
  Speaker 1: You chose this life.
• 52:25
  Speaker 6: You could be a good woman or you could be
• 52:27
  Speaker 6: a rich woman.
• 52:28
  Speaker 2: Or you could be a good rich woman. You dare
• 52:31
  Speaker 2: to say there's no such thing?
• 52:32
  Speaker 5: No such thing. In the 80s, 90s, sure. Now, come on.
• 52:36
  Speaker 2: Update.
• 52:37
  Speaker 6: I am now officially divorced. Thankfully, we didn't have any children.
• 52:41
  Speaker 6: I did, however, have my own little bit of fun.
• 52:44
  Speaker 6: For years, I've hosted a huge garden party for my birthday.
• 52:47
  Speaker 6: usually around 60 people, and people my ex-husband and I
• 52:50
  Speaker 6: worked with on different projects. This August, despite everything that
• 52:54
  Speaker 6: had happened, I decided to organize it again and invite
• 52:57
  Speaker 6: as many people as I could. To my surprise, a
• 53:01
  Speaker 6: lot of them showed up, including people I thought had
• 53:04
  Speaker 6: sided with my ex. It turned out that many of
• 53:07
  Speaker 6: them simply had no idea what had actually happened and
• 53:10
  Speaker 6: were surprised that he wasn't at the party. So as
• 53:14
  Speaker 6: a birthday girl should, I got nicely.
• 53:16
  Speaker 5: Wasted and told people the story.
• 53:18
  Speaker 6: The cheating, the fact that some of our friends knew
• 53:21
  Speaker 6: about it, and that my ex had pressured them not
• 53:25
  Speaker 6: to tell me.
• 53:26
  Speaker 2: And you didn't get any money out of it.
• 53:27
  Speaker 1: That's what, yeah, that's exactly what I was about to say.
• 53:30
  Speaker 4: I mean, I don't know if this makes her a
• 53:31
  Speaker 4: fool or him a fool. Because it is kind of, like,
• 53:34
  Speaker 4: gross that she did that. Like, you know, invited all
• 53:36
  Speaker 4: these people, blah.
• 53:37
  Speaker 2: Blah, blah.
• 53:37
  Speaker 4: Had a party, got wasted, and was like, hey, guys,
• 53:40
  Speaker 4: by the way, we're all here because my husband cheated
• 53:42
  Speaker 4: on me.
• 53:44
  Speaker 2: Vote for him.
• 53:44
  Speaker 4: Oh, my God, you think you know a guy, huh?
• 53:48
  Speaker 5: I think you know a guy.
• 53:49
  Speaker 4: Yeah, like, I don't know. That seems kind of trashy,
• 53:52
  Speaker 4: in my opinion, to get, like, wasted and, like, say
• 53:54
  Speaker 4: this announcement.
• 53:54
  Speaker 2: But what's trashier, Savannah?
• 53:56
  Speaker 4: Then, yeah, or doing it. Well, definitely doing it.
• 53:59
  Speaker 3: Doing it.
• 54:00
  Speaker 4: But I think the way that she did it, she
• 54:01
  Speaker 4: could have presented it herself, like, very professional.
• 54:04
  Speaker 2: She went out the way she wanted to do it.
• 54:05
  Speaker 4: She's a politician's wife. She knows what professional is, and
• 54:08
  Speaker 4: she decided to go away when I.
• 54:09
  Speaker 2: Well, she's a politician's... Ex-wife.
• 54:11
  Speaker 4: Ex-wife.
• 54:12
  Speaker 2: Might as well go out with a babe.
• 54:13
  Speaker 4: I mean, you could do whatever you want. I just
• 54:14
  Speaker 4: wouldn't do it in that way.
• 54:15
  Speaker 1: I would rather watch a horror movie than have to
• 54:17
  Speaker 1: interact with any of these people.
• 54:19
  Speaker 5: That says a lot.
• 54:20
  Speaker 4: I love horror, so I'd watch it any day.
• 54:22
  Speaker 5: It sounds like you didn't hear what I said.
• 54:23
  Speaker 3: I did.
• 54:24
  Speaker 6: I also exaggerated a little and said I had pictures, screenshots,
• 54:29
  Speaker 6: recordings proving the affair and that I was prepared to
• 54:33
  Speaker 6: use everything in court and possibly go to the media.
• 54:36
  Speaker 6: In reality, I had some screenshots and statements from friends,
• 54:40
  Speaker 6: but definitely not the dramatic collection of evidence I had
• 54:43
  Speaker 6: made it sound like I had.
• 54:44
  Speaker 5: So you're lying.
• 54:45
  Speaker 6: Apparently, when they brought out my birthday cake, I also
• 54:47
  Speaker 6: raised my glass and said a toast to my friends,
• 54:50
  Speaker 6: except the ones who knew about the cheating and didn't
• 54:53
  Speaker 6: tell me.
• 54:54
  Speaker 1: Girls!
• 54:55
  Speaker 2: It's a little fun. It's a little juicy, but it's
• 54:57
  Speaker 2: Opie's birthday.
• 54:58
  Speaker 4: You know there's going to be backlash and you can't
• 55:00
  Speaker 4: you can't blame anyone but yourself for organizing this event
• 55:03
  Speaker 4: and just getting completely wasted and doing all of this.
• 55:05
  Speaker 4: So and yeah, Mike has Karen. So she's a liar also.
• 55:09
  Speaker 1: And you see here she's a politician.
• 55:10
  Speaker 6: Wife and you see her how she kind of blows
• 55:12
  Speaker 6: over that fact doesn't even like have accountability for.
• 55:15
  Speaker 4: It yeah exactly she's like i don't care i'm exposing
• 55:18
  Speaker 4: him like it doesn't matter to me.
• 55:20
  Speaker 2: She's like you know what let's like this let's like
• 55:21
  Speaker 2: the ship let's burn it to the ground i.
• 55:23
  Speaker 4: Like the one story that we read about the girl
• 55:25
  Speaker 4: like how you know she was very poised in her
• 55:28
  Speaker 4: like divorce and i was like that's how i.
• 55:29
  Speaker 2: Would be but not everyone's like that i know I
• 55:32
  Speaker 2: regret nothing, lol.
• 55:33
  Speaker 6: A few days later, my ex contacted me through our lawyers,
• 55:36
  Speaker 6: asking what he could do to make the divorce as
• 55:39
  Speaker 6: easy as possible. In the end, I got the apartment,
• 55:41
  Speaker 6: he paid off half of the mortgage, and he even
• 55:43
  Speaker 6: covered my lawyer's fees. The divorce itself went smoothly. There's
• 55:47
  Speaker 6: an election next year. He might as well just say his.
• 55:50
  Speaker 2: No.
• 55:51
  Speaker 5: We live in a European country.
• 55:54
  Speaker 2: Oh.
• 55:55
  Speaker 6: And because my ex and I have moved in the
• 55:57
  Speaker 6: same professional and social circles for years, quite a lot
• 56:00
  Speaker 6: of people now know what happened. I'm still not going
• 56:04
  Speaker 6: to the media.
• 56:05
  Speaker 2: But that doesn't mean not one of the people is not. No,
• 56:08
  Speaker 2: I'm sorry. That doesn't mean one of the people that
• 56:09
  Speaker 2: you told is not.
• 56:10
  Speaker 4: Yeah, so she went about it and like, I'm gonna
• 56:14
  Speaker 4: just make it knowledge to you people. You do what
• 56:16
  Speaker 4: you want with that knowledge. Instead of being like, I'm
• 56:19
  Speaker 4: gonna tell my story to everyone. I don't care who
• 56:21
  Speaker 4: you are.
• 56:21
  Speaker 2: Here's a lighter. Here's the gasoline. Do what you want, kids.
• 56:24
  Speaker 2: Have fun with it. Ah, I don't know.
• 56:26
  Speaker 6: But if the story eventually reaches one of his political
• 56:31
  Speaker 6: opponents and they decide to use it against him, that's
• 56:34
  Speaker 6: not really my problem anymore.
• 56:36
  Speaker 5: This chapter is closed. I'm divorced. I'm moving on.
• 56:39
  Speaker 6: And considering where I was when I wrote the original post,
• 56:42
  Speaker 6: I'm actually feeling pretty good.
• 56:43
  Speaker 5: Thank you, Reddit.
• 56:44
  Speaker 6: You made me feel a little less alone when I
• 56:47
  Speaker 6: was at my lowest. That was just a yucky story.
• 56:49
  Speaker 2: Ugh.
• 56:50
  Speaker 4: When it comes to politics, it already is messy. But
• 56:52
  Speaker 4: then adding in drama created by politics is a whole
• 56:56
  Speaker 4: nother thing to be like, oh, you know, I'm going
• 56:59
  Speaker 4: to save face. But it's like, oh, but you can't
• 57:00
  Speaker 4: because now you just not only exposed your husband, but
• 57:03
  Speaker 4: you also exposed yourself.
• 57:04
  Speaker 1: Yucky, yucky, yucky.
• 57:06
  Speaker 2: That is the end of the story. But we have comments.
• 57:09
  Speaker 4: These comments are from the story. I always hated my
• 57:12
  Speaker 4: husband's friend. turns out i had a good reason which
• 57:16
  Speaker 4: was posted april 24th 2025 this is the tldr for
• 57:19
  Speaker 4: story one op barely knew bob one of her husband's
• 57:22
  Speaker 4: newer friends and kept a polite distance the way she
• 57:25
  Speaker 4: does with all of her husband's circle but over a
• 57:28
  Speaker 4: few months bob's behavior started feeling off op brushed off
• 57:31
  Speaker 4: her bad gut feeling until one day bob wandered into
• 57:34
  Speaker 4: her kitchen while her husband was in the next room
• 57:37
  Speaker 4: and said the two of them would be good together
• 57:39
  Speaker 4: if she weren't married OP saw red and exploded. But
• 57:43
  Speaker 4: what really got under her skin wasn't just Bob, it
• 57:46
  Speaker 4: was her husband's strangely calm reaction, which left her feeling dismissed, cheapened,
• 57:51
  Speaker 4: and oddly distant from the man she trusted most. If
• 57:53
  Speaker 4: you're curious to know the full story, you can go
• 57:55
  Speaker 4: watch the full video.
• 57:56
  Speaker 2: I want to say I remember this one, but I
• 57:58
  Speaker 2: don't because this is from a year ago.
• 58:00
  Speaker 4: I wasn't here yet.
• 58:01
  Speaker 2: First comment here is from Okinshadow6763 saying, He didn't care
• 58:06
  Speaker 2: that his partner was upset, didn't step up, and didn't
• 58:08
  Speaker 2: stop hanging out with the guy. But when one of
• 58:11
  Speaker 2: his buddies was crossed, jumped to run and save him
• 58:14
  Speaker 2: and bring him home. Utter trash partner.
• 58:16
  Speaker 5: Yeah, honestly.
• 58:17
  Speaker 4: Trash partner.
• 58:18
  Speaker 2: Trash. Another comment from Blue Skies X4W says, Why is
• 58:22
  Speaker 2: it that when a woman gets angry and expresses that anger,
• 58:25
  Speaker 2: she's as seen as a witch, emotional, or being overdramatic?
• 58:29
  Speaker 2: I'm so sick of people belittling our anger. If it
• 58:31
  Speaker 2: was one of the husband's male friends that exploded like this,
• 58:33
  Speaker 2: the husband would back him up. Or at least not
• 58:36
  Speaker 2: joke and belittle him.
• 58:37
  Speaker 4: Truthfully, I love female rage. I think it's all the rage.
• 58:40
  Speaker 2: Comment here from Sandra Connelly saying, She isn't overreacting. Women
• 58:46
  Speaker 2: have a sixth sense and hers were spot on. Please
• 58:49
  Speaker 2: be careful. Your husband needs to wake up. Always listen
• 58:53
  Speaker 2: to your gut.
• 58:54
  Speaker 5: That's right.
• 58:55
  Speaker 2: One last comment from a really cool name. Jedi Zombies says,
• 58:59
  Speaker 2: I'm proud of OP for standing up for herself. I've
• 59:01
  Speaker 2: been in very similar cases where an ex's friend was
• 59:03
  Speaker 2: being a major creep or a bully and the ex
• 59:06
  Speaker 2: wouldn't do anything about it. And I was told to
• 59:08
  Speaker 2: buck up and deal with it. and the friend was
• 59:10
  Speaker 2: just like that. If you fly off the handle one
• 59:13
  Speaker 2: time and shatter their confidence, it's harder for creeps to
• 59:16
  Speaker 2: keep creeping. I support female rage, just like Savannah said.
• 59:19
  Speaker 3: Right?
• 59:20
  Speaker 4: Female rage is the rage! It's so fun! It's just
• 59:23
  Speaker 4: like everyone should get mad. It's really fun. If you
• 59:26
  Speaker 4: ever like watch, if you like look up like female rage,
• 59:28
  Speaker 4: like compilations of like, just like women in like any
• 59:32
  Speaker 4: media and stuff. Oh, it's like so justifying.
• 59:35
  Speaker 2: But that is the end of the comments and the
• 59:38
  Speaker 2: end of this episode.
• 59:39
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• 59:41
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• 59:43
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