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In Focus: Embracing a Positive Mindset With Nichelle Hines, Actor, Activist & CRO at Cycle House · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 3: which was pretty difficult, a lot of us have struggled
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  Speaker 3: at times with finding the positives with seeing the bright side.
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  Speaker 4: And so today's episode.
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  Speaker 3: Is all about how to have a more positive mindset,
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  Speaker 3: how to be more optimistic in our day Today, it
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  Speaker 3: was a no brainer for me. I knew exactly who
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  Speaker 3: I wanted to chat with about this, none other than
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  Speaker 3: Michelle Hines.
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  Speaker 4: Nachelle is an.
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  Speaker 3: Actor and activist, the Sea chief ride officer at Cycle
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  Speaker 3: House out in LA and you have heard from her
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  Speaker 3: before on the show as well. Make sure to link
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  Speaker 3: hype woman. I left our first conversation feeling literally like
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  Speaker 3: I could do absolutely anything I set my mind to.
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  Speaker 4: So for today's episode, we're bringing that vibe back.
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  Speaker 3: We're talking about the power of positivity, how to have
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  Speaker 3: more positive thoughts in your day to day and bring
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  Speaker 3: that good nature into so many of the things that
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  Speaker 3: you're doing on the regular. I get it, keeping a
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  Speaker 3: positive outlook might not be something that comes absolutely naturally,
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  Speaker 3: But what I know is that optimism can be just
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  Speaker 4: get to hurtling today, I am chatting with Nachelle Hines.
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  Speaker 3: He's an actor, she's an activist, she's the cro at
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  Speaker 3: cycle House and Michelle.
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  Speaker 4: How are you?
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  Speaker 2: I am good.
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  Speaker 1: It's just been a crazy year, but I'm I mean,
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  Speaker 1: all things considered, it's really good.
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  Speaker 4: All things considered, it's really good.
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  Speaker 3: I know.
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  Speaker 4: It's like finding the small pieces of gratitude.
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  Speaker 2: In our in our day to day here, Oh, small
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  Speaker 2: and large.
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  Speaker 1: I'm constantly shocked by if you're looking for them, the
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  Speaker 1: availability of miracles.
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  Speaker 2: They're everywhere, They're they're there.
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  Speaker 1: You know, if you just if say to yourself and
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  Speaker 1: you open up your day with like hope for a
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  Speaker 1: miracle and listen miracles big or small, like literally, if
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  Speaker 1: like someone takes out my garbage, like if the handyman
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  Speaker 1: sees me and takes the garbage, like that is in
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  Speaker 1: and of itself, because it's something that I didn't want
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  Speaker 1: to do, it's a miracle. I think that we have
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  Speaker 1: to see and acknowledge even what might be considered just oh,
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  Speaker 1: this kind of nice thing that happened. If it was
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  Speaker 1: unexpected and it happened and it changed your day for
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  Speaker 1: the better, why can't you see that as a mini
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  Speaker 1: miracle in your life?
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  Speaker 4: Why not?
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  Speaker 1: Truthfully, what you believe and what you perceive is what
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  Speaker 1: is happening. I think I've learned that more than any
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  Speaker 1: other time in this twenty twenty Well.
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  Speaker 3: You're teeing us off to get into the right vibe,
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  Speaker 3: the right state of mind for what you and I
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  Speaker 3: are specifically talking about. And I think that a lot
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  Speaker 3: of individuals after twenty twenty now in twenty twenty one,
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  Speaker 3: have a renewed sense of hope to focus on the
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  Speaker 3: positive and can admittedly say that maybe in the previous
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  Speaker 3: year they were having trouble finding that silver lining. So
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  Speaker 3: I called you in today, because after having you on
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  Speaker 3: the show last year, I got so much positive feedback
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  Speaker 3: just about the motivation and the energy that you brought
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  Speaker 3: to the feed and I knew that there was no
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  Speaker 3: one better to talk to me about how to stay
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  Speaker 3: positive and adopt a more positive mindset in the day
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  Speaker 3: to day.
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  Speaker 1: Listen, we life is full of challenge, and I think
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  Speaker 1: that so many people wake up in the state of oh,
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  Speaker 1: here comes another day. But every single day is an opportunity,
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  Speaker 1: and if we don't see it as such, then that's
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  Speaker 1: not what we're gonna get. That's what I'm talking about,
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  Speaker 1: how there are miracles everywhere. There's an opportunity for you
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  Speaker 1: to shine every single day. If you think you can,
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  Speaker 1: you can't, right, So if you don't start your day
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  Speaker 1: from that mindset, we all do different things. I have
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  Speaker 1: a ritual of things that I do. I wake up
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  Speaker 1: five things I'm grateful for. I think I probably said
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  Speaker 1: it in our in our time before. But if I'm
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  Speaker 1: thinking about all the things that are against me for
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  Speaker 1: the day, what am I going to notice throughout the
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  Speaker 1: day every single thing that's against me? If I think
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  Speaker 1: about something that I'm grateful for, what am I going
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  Speaker 1: to see more things for me to be grateful for.
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  Speaker 2: And I think that we relinquish control of.
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  Speaker 1: Ourselves and our day and our struggle constantly. And I
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  Speaker 1: think that everyone talks about how hard it is to
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  Speaker 1: be happy. Why can't we translate that into how how
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  Speaker 1: hard it is to be sad? Why can't we start
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  Speaker 1: our day in a positive state and expect that to
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  Speaker 1: be reinforced? Why do we exist in a state, so
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  Speaker 1: many of us, and in a world where we're constantly
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  Speaker 1: looking for things to not go our way? And I
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  Speaker 1: think that it starts with one right. You can control
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  Speaker 1: one thing. You can control yourself and how you respond
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  Speaker 1: to the things that happen to you. And I think
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  Speaker 1: that if you're not doing that, then of course your
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  Speaker 1: day is going wrong. Of course you're seeing negatives in
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  Speaker 1: your life. But if you can start your day from
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  Speaker 1: a space of I expect things to go my way
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  Speaker 1: and that when things don't, I am equipped with every
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  Speaker 1: inch of every bit of my brain power and who
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  Speaker 1: I am and where I'm from and all of these
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  Speaker 1: things that we have to shift that right. Terrible things
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  Speaker 1: happen a lot, and I know in twenty twenty things
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  Speaker 1: have happened.
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  Speaker 2: For people that are not great. I lost a sister
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  Speaker 2: in law to COVID.
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  Speaker 1: My brother is a forty eight year old widower with
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  Speaker 1: a fifteen year old, at thirteen year old and a
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  Speaker 1: just turned twelve year old. And if there's anything that
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  Speaker 1: he's taught me is this is what's happening, and this
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  Speaker 1: is terrible.
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  Speaker 2: But we can choose love.
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  Speaker 1: We can choose to honor her presence in our life
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  Speaker 1: by being better, by showing up and living life to
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  Speaker 1: its fullest. So it's not to say that things don't happen,
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  Speaker 1: but how do you handle the things that happen to
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  Speaker 1: you that are negative?
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  Speaker 2: And that is not to suggest that you're.
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  Speaker 1: Not allowed to be sad or be bad or be
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  Speaker 1: We all have those moments and that's all part of it.
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  Speaker 1: But there are also the silver lining of I have
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  Speaker 1: the love and support of my family. I have three
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  Speaker 1: beautiful children. I could be sad about the state of
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  Speaker 1: cycle house, which we don't even know what that's in.
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  Speaker 1: It could be in a state of flux. It's in
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  Speaker 1: a state of flux.
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  Speaker 2: Well, what can I do?
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  Speaker 1: I can create zooms that I can continue to connect
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  Speaker 1: with my writers that have the ability to connect with me.
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  Speaker 1: I have the option to cry about the fact that
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  Speaker 1: cycle House can't be open and California is going to
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  Speaker 1: be closed for the next nine months. Or I have
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  Speaker 1: the opportunity to say, what can I do to change this?
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  Speaker 1: What can I do to make our circumstances better? What
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  Speaker 1: can I do to continue to give my clients who
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  Speaker 1: I love, who have changed the course of my life
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  Speaker 1: and given me an opportunity. Well, me who is technologically challenged. Right,
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  Speaker 1: I was in acting school when everyone was learning how
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  Speaker 1: to do all this stuff.
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  Speaker 2: So what do I do.
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  Speaker 1: I have a twenty six year old that helps me
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  Speaker 1: and comes in my house and sets this up. I
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  Speaker 1: upgraded my Internet. I figured it out. And I think
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  Speaker 1: that we in this culture and in this time, have
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  Speaker 1: a choice.
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  Speaker 3: Right.
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  Speaker 1: We can be problem keepers, as I like to call them,
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  Speaker 1: like the keeper of the problem, and it gets inside
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  Speaker 1: of us and it breaks us down and it stops
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  Speaker 1: us from doing anything.
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  Speaker 2: Or we can be problem solvers and say, here is
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  Speaker 2: what's happening to me.
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  Speaker 1: Literally, whether you have to write it down or you
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  Speaker 1: have to talk about it or whatever it is, this
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  Speaker 1: is what's happening to me, and here's what I can
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  Speaker 1: do to make it more palatable. And once you're able
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  Speaker 1: to make it palatable, right, it's enough. Once you've survived,
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  Speaker 1: how can you then thrive? So so often we're living
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  Speaker 1: in this state of fear of just trying to survive,
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  Speaker 1: and then you say, no, how can I thrive in
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  Speaker 1: my life? And how can we honor ourselves? And I
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  Speaker 1: think that the greatest form of honor and respect to
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  Speaker 1: yourself is making sure that your life is the best
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  Speaker 1: that it can possibly be that is within your control.
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  Speaker 3: And I think that a lot of people struggle with
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  Speaker 3: this idea that one thing goes wrong or you know,
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  Speaker 3: doesn't go as they had hoped during the day, and
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  Speaker 3: they have maybe unintentionally adopted that all or nothing mentality.
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  Speaker 3: It's like, well, the day's already thrown off, so I'm
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  Speaker 3: going to throw my hands up and just the day's awash.
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  Speaker 3: And that's how it is. So for the person that
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  Speaker 3: can identify that way, the person that is like, actually,
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  Speaker 3: that sounds a lot like how I usually act. What
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  Speaker 3: do you say to them to kind of flip the
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  Speaker 3: script and be more positive even when those hurdles arise.
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  Speaker 1: I think that it's really important to have a personal mantra.
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  Speaker 1: I think it's really important that you have something or
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  Speaker 1: a statement that you can go to that will automatically
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  Speaker 1: shift you. For example, I was like just having this
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  Speaker 1: fear that like, oh, there's gonna be a spider in
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  Speaker 1: my house, right, So every time that I said, okay,
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  Speaker 1: this keeps coming up, this thought keeps coming up, I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: maybe instead of that, every time I think of a spider,
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna think of the man of my dreams entering
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  Speaker 1: my life. I'm not kidding now, every time I think
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  Speaker 1: of spiders, like a good thought is triggered along with it,
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  Speaker 1: and your mind is trainable. Your mind, you are in
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  Speaker 1: control of your thoughts. So often we think that circumstances
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  Speaker 1: and all these things are in control of us, and
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  Speaker 1: it takes so much practice. And actually use the spider
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  Speaker 1: thing as an exercise. Can I take this thing that
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  Speaker 1: for me like I'm a baby, I'm afraid of spiders, needles,
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  Speaker 1: and spiders, whatever. But can I take this thing that
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  Speaker 1: I somehow associate with trauma and turn it into something else.
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  Speaker 1: So it's not that I'm not acknowledging that that thought
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  Speaker 1: is there. I'm acknowledging the thought, and I'm allowing the
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  Speaker 1: negative thought to go through me right as opposed to
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  Speaker 1: the thought comes and we love to hold it and
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  Speaker 1: make love to it and hold on to this thing
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  Speaker 1: where all I'm offering, all I'm suggesting is, can you say,
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  Speaker 1: when something goes wrong, the universe is conspiring for my
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  Speaker 1: greater good? Just a really general one car is a
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  Speaker 1: flat The universe is conspiring for my greater good. I
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  Speaker 1: didn't get the job that I wanted. The universe is
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  Speaker 1: conspiring for my greater good. I didn't, you know, get
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  Speaker 1: the you know, I didn't get.
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  Speaker 2: The Christmas gift that I wanted. The universe is conspiring
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  Speaker 2: for my greater good. And I will tell you.
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  Speaker 1: I'll give you a really tangible, super personal example that's
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  Speaker 1: even deeper than the Spider thing. When the George Floyd
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  Speaker 1: thing was going on, I very much personally felt like
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  Speaker 1: I was at a crossroads. And this is something that's
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  Speaker 1: we're not embarrassing for me to admit, but something that
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  Speaker 1: was real for me that I had to spend a
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  Speaker 1: little bit of time thinking about.
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  Speaker 2: I went to UC Berkeley.
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  Speaker 1: The activist spirit is loud and proud and inside of
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  Speaker 1: me when this happened. Obviously, the way that we were
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  Speaker 1: all communicating was through Instagram, right I have, it's COVID.
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  Speaker 2: Money is different, it's down I have.
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  Speaker 1: I was lucky enough to have some brands that I
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  Speaker 1: was involved with, and I thought, what are these brands
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  Speaker 1: gonna think if I just go into my full black self,
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  Speaker 1: you know, because it's connected to my money, and we
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  Speaker 1: can be honest and upfront about that. I'm the accidental influencer,
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  Speaker 1: which I think is why it's been, you know, somewhat
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  Speaker 1: successful for me, because it was never a plan. I
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  Speaker 1: don't plan content, I don't do those kinds of things.
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  Speaker 1: And I really had to say, like, at this.
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  Speaker 2: Time in my life, I need this money. I need
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  Speaker 2: this money. This isn't extra psycho, this isn't here. I
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  Speaker 2: have to take care of myself.
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  Speaker 1: And also I'm trying to get back into my career
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  Speaker 1: as an actor, which as we know, can have large
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  Speaker 1: periods of dry spells. And I to have a conversation
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  Speaker 1: with myself about who I am and who I'm willing
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  Speaker 1: to be and what was going on in the world
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  Speaker 1: I wasn't affecting sort of me in this big general scale.
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  Speaker 1: I am a black woman, I'm an activist. I have
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  Speaker 1: strong feelings about what's going on and it is wrong
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  Speaker 1: and it is horrible and something needs to be said.
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  Speaker 2: And I pride myself an authenticity.
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  Speaker 1: So I had the conversation with myself where I had
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  Speaker 1: to say part of my French, but fuck the endorsements.
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  Speaker 1: This is so much bigger than me and so much
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  Speaker 1: more important than me, and I will find a way
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  Speaker 1: to survive. What's the most important is that I share
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  Speaker 1: what is going on within my community and lines being
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  Speaker 1: lost and how that feels, and educate people, regardless about
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  Speaker 1: anybody might choose to feel about what I'm saying, and
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  Speaker 1: risk that money, risk that opportunity that I have.
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  Speaker 2: And I jumped.
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  Speaker 1: I gave a speech in front of twenty thousand people.
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  Speaker 1: I protested, I did talks, I did walks. You saw
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  Speaker 1: the stuff. It's all still there. I said things I
• 17:09
  Speaker 1: lived out loud in my truth as a black woman,
• 17:11
  Speaker 1: of how I felt that was affecting my community, myself,
• 17:14
  Speaker 1: my family, and my life.
• 17:17
  Speaker 2: Well, look at that. Everything tripled and quadrupled.
• 17:22
  Speaker 1: More opportunities, more investments, feeling more seene, feeling more heard.
• 17:27
  Speaker 1: In the letters that I got from people who were
• 17:31
  Speaker 1: not what you would call racist, but were living in
• 17:34
  Speaker 1: privilege and didn't understand and to be able to help
• 17:37
  Speaker 1: open that door in my own small way in this
• 17:39
  Speaker 1: huge movement that took place in twenty twenty. Sometimes you
• 17:44
  Speaker 1: have to see things that might scare you, that you
• 17:48
  Speaker 1: think might hurt you, but that you know that it
• 17:52
  Speaker 1: is really important for you to be authentic and to
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: live out loud.
• 17:55
  Speaker 2: Sometimes you have to jump and you have to take
• 17:57
  Speaker 2: that plunge, come what may.
• 17:59
  Speaker 1: But I promised, if you are living your authentic self,
• 18:02
  Speaker 1: and you are living your truth, and you are fighting
• 18:04
  Speaker 1: for not only who you are, but who you want
• 18:06
  Speaker 1: to be, who you want your future children to be,
• 18:08
  Speaker 1: who you want your friends to be, all of those things,
• 18:11
  Speaker 1: I promise you the universe is conspiring for your greater
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: good and that thing that you might not have gotten
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: or whatever, then there's something better on the other side.
• 18:22
  Speaker 4: Thank you for sharing that with me and with the hurdlers.
• 18:26
  Speaker 3: I feel like watching you this year has been really refreshing,
• 18:32
  Speaker 3: and that when you may not know exactly what to
• 18:38
  Speaker 3: say or how to act, that doesn't mean that there
• 18:40
  Speaker 3: isn't something to say or an action that you can take.
• 18:44
  Speaker 3: And I think often we feel paralyzed because we're worried
• 18:49
  Speaker 3: about again that word what's quote unquote right when sometimes
• 18:55
  Speaker 3: something is certainly better than nothing. I think also something
• 19:00
  Speaker 3: you said toward the beginning of that was kind of
• 19:04
  Speaker 3: rambling off a list of things that could go wrong.
• 19:08
  Speaker 3: You mentioned not getting the Christmas present you wanted, maybe
• 19:11
  Speaker 3: a dear friend passing away, not getting the job that
• 19:14
  Speaker 3: you wanted, And for many, twenty twenty was a series
• 19:19
  Speaker 3: of those things happening right in a row, and it
• 19:22
  Speaker 3: just felt as though we were getting knocked down, and
• 19:26
  Speaker 3: then we managed to somehow get up a little bit,
• 19:28
  Speaker 3: and then we got knocked down again, and then we
• 19:29
  Speaker 3: managed to somehow get you know, and it was cyclic.
• 19:32
  Speaker 3: So my question then is what do we tell the
• 19:37
  Speaker 3: person that it just feels like the ocean is just
• 19:41
  Speaker 3: washing over you with negativity. Aside from believing that this
• 19:46
  Speaker 3: is all quote unquote happening for a reason. Yeah, what
• 19:49
  Speaker 3: happens next to keep that positivity to find the silver linings?
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: I think it comes down to establishing your personal code.
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: It makes you feel like there is another shot, that
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: there is another opportunity, whether that is your spiritual work,
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: your exercise, anything that you're doing that is committing yourself
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: to even eating right, what are you eating, what are
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: you putting inside of your body, any of those things
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: that connect you to who you are.
• 20:19
  Speaker 2: And a lot of times there are tasks or things
• 20:21
  Speaker 2: that we do every day.
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: People will be like, well, things are going horrible, but
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: like I run three miles every day for example. Well,
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: then I would say, well, let's step into the gratitude
• 20:30
  Speaker 1: that you have legs, Let's step into the gratitude that
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: you have breath in your body. Let's step into the
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: gratitude that you have your health. There's always something to
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: be grateful for. And I would offer that when it
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: feels that way, and it happens, and it happens a lot,
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: and it happened to me for a long time. People
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: are always like, oh, you're so positive. I work so
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: hard at presence and positivity. And that's the thing when
• 20:55
  Speaker 1: you see people who are consistently that or consistently motivated.
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: I work at that gratitude. Okay, this person passed. I
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: have three beautiful nieces and nephews that now I get
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: to help raise, right or.
• 21:12
  Speaker 3: You know this.
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: I didn't get this, and I didn't get that. You
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: have to find that place in you want to say
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: faith the size of a mustard seed. It doesn't mean
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: that it has to dominate every single thought that you
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: have every single day. But you find that one thing
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: that brings you back and take the time to identify
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: what that is instead of put your practice in. What
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: is making me even continue to have that thought? What
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: is the desire to have a positive thought? That alone
• 21:39
  Speaker 1: is a huge thing. The fact that you are willing
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: to say this is awful? How do I make it better?
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: That is spirit, That is life, and all of these
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: challenges that come. I would say that twenty twenty, though,
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: might be the year that we felt the most alive
• 21:56
  Speaker 1: because a lot of us were sort of in this pattern.
• 21:58
  Speaker 2: Dua dah da da da da dud dah. I was
• 22:00
  Speaker 2: in the pattern. I was in it.
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: I was ignoring what was really going on with me,
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: was like my passion was being ignited of really wanting
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: to be an actor again, and like, how do I
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: mix those two?
• 22:10
  Speaker 2: How does it work?
• 22:10
  Speaker 1: Because I've been spending way too much time on this
• 22:13
  Speaker 1: and not enough time on that, and I have been
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: unsuccessful in this arena. So being forced to slow down
• 22:18
  Speaker 1: sort of reinvigorated me and realigned me with my goals.
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: So I think that when we take that time to
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: tell ourselves to the truth, to get inside of the
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: truth of who we really are, and be willing to
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: face that.
• 22:30
  Speaker 2: I don't care if you wake up Toron and you're like,
• 22:31
  Speaker 2: I want to be a baker.
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: You took the time to figure out what's really going
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: on with you, because that's all you have at the
• 22:39
  Speaker 1: end of the day. What we have is ourselves. I
• 22:42
  Speaker 1: said it at the beginning, I'll say it again. You
• 22:45
  Speaker 1: get to decide how your life goes. Other people don't
• 22:48
  Speaker 1: determine your lives. Not your parents, not your lovers, not
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: your friends. Those are assets on top of what you have.
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: But what you actually have every single day is you
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: and what you choose to.
• 23:02
  Speaker 2: Do and be for you.
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: So I really want to encourage everyone at the end
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: of a tumultuous, crazy, troubling, exciting, in some ways beautiful year,
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: as opposed to necessarily having to listen on every single accomplishment,
• 23:21
  Speaker 1: you're still here and the fact that you're still here,
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: you're still listening, you are thriving.
• 23:27
  Speaker 2: And then you take that and you say, what do
• 23:29
  Speaker 2: I want not a list of We are not our accomplishments.
• 23:34
  Speaker 2: We are who we are. We are us, our authentic
• 23:37
  Speaker 2: selves and what are you going to do about that?
• 23:40
  Speaker 3: What you said before reminds me of something that I
• 23:43
  Speaker 3: did and exercise that I did earlier on in the pandemic,
• 23:47
  Speaker 3: when so many of my good friends were piecing out
• 23:50
  Speaker 3: from New York and it was me and I was,
• 23:52
  Speaker 3: you know, coming back to my why of why I
• 23:54
  Speaker 3: want to be here and how I feel like myself
• 23:56
  Speaker 3: here and how it's not my time to go just
• 23:58
  Speaker 3: because many other people are leaving.
• 24:00
  Speaker 4: I sat down and I made a list of things
• 24:04
  Speaker 4: that I do on my own that bring me joy.
• 24:08
  Speaker 3: And that's such a simple thing to do, right, Like,
• 24:11
  Speaker 3: just sit down for ten twenty minutes and think about
• 24:14
  Speaker 3: the things that I can do, whether it's like an
• 24:16
  Speaker 3: everyday task or something that might be a little bit special,
• 24:20
  Speaker 3: and articulate the things that make me happy, just me
• 24:25
  Speaker 3: and I think so often. I mean, we can talk
• 24:27
  Speaker 3: about this negative mindset. It's easy to be negative when
• 24:31
  Speaker 3: you feel alone or you are alone or you and
• 24:36
  Speaker 3: especially when you don't choose to be that way. So,
• 24:39
  Speaker 3: I mean, the bigger thing for me, and a really
• 24:41
  Speaker 3: big piece to the puzzle in being more positive and
• 24:44
  Speaker 3: to being content solo during all of this was Okay,
• 24:49
  Speaker 3: I can create my own joy, and I can choose
• 24:54
  Speaker 3: to be positive and like even just simple sentences like that,
• 24:58
  Speaker 3: like you said before, I encourage you to have a mantra.
• 25:02
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I can create my own joy.
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: That's right, you know, that's right, And that's the most
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: And also in that, I am sure that you've noticed
• 25:12
  Speaker 1: in this past ye are all the opportunity that exists
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: right so, like I said, as opposed to right now,
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: now that you've made it this far, right now, this time,
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: I don't know if there's a bigger time that I've
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: ever seen in my life where there is opportunity everywhere.
• 25:31
  Speaker 1: You always want to move to New York City it's
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: too expensive, well not anymore, like the.
• 25:34
  Speaker 2: Prices of drafts.
• 25:35
  Speaker 1: People are looking for people to hire, people are every
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: every major metropolitan city is an open door right now,
• 25:44
  Speaker 1: if that's something that you always wanted to do, and
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: like why you stayed, so now that you stayed.
• 25:48
  Speaker 2: You're already ahead of the curve.
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: So when things do start to return to our new
• 25:54
  Speaker 1: version of normalcy, because it's never going to be the
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: way that it was, you're already in the pocket. You're
• 25:59
  Speaker 1: already there. You don't have to find a place you
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: don't have to do X, Y and Z. You can
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: literally jump in and you're ready to go. But also
• 26:05
  Speaker 1: for anybody else that had these dreams in these goals,
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: now is the time. Now we have that little bit
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: of breathing room to create that time in that space,
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: and that jumping off point should be what's in your mind?
• 26:18
  Speaker 2: Like you said, what do I want? What?
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: Right now is probably one of the best times to
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: actually grasp and go for what you want. M Yeah,
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: and now have an opportunity. I totally feel that, And
• 26:32
  Speaker 1: I mean we did say the buzzword mantra.
• 26:35
  Speaker 3: When you have to think about the moments where you're
• 26:37
  Speaker 3: trying to be more positive, where you're trying to keep
• 26:39
  Speaker 3: your head up, what are the words of wisdom that
• 26:42
  Speaker 3: you are leading into most often?
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: Oof, I have a few when I feel like nothing's happening.
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: I definitely do the miracles. There's a there's a miracle
• 26:52
  Speaker 1: around every corner. And it's so funny, like the amount
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: like an Amazon bagage is the rise like joy.
• 26:59
  Speaker 2: I don't have to go to this's and by doghood
• 27:00
  Speaker 2: like no, literally.
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: I practice finding like those moments of joy through things
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: that may seem mundane, but just gratitude that we exist
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: in a world where things can happen like that. For me,
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: that's that's really it is the gratitude. And the other
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: thing is the sun always rises. It always does, and
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: it might take a little bit longer if I think about,
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: like me and my career will good. The sun's rising
• 27:29
  Speaker 1: seven years, seven years. It is never too late. You
• 27:35
  Speaker 1: are never too old, too young, too fat to this,
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: do that, to pretty, too ugly, too black, too brown,
• 27:42
  Speaker 1: to red, to anything. Every single day, every single moment,
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: is an opportunity to change your life.
• 27:49
  Speaker 2: And the sun always rises. It always does.
• 27:52
  Speaker 3: I think we've also been chatting a lot about like
• 27:55
  Speaker 3: how the negative things are happening and we're waking up
• 27:57
  Speaker 3: and it's like, oh, another thing today. But for someone
• 28:00
  Speaker 3: who does want to be proactive, for the person that is,
• 28:03
  Speaker 3: you know, I am going to take ownership over having
• 28:06
  Speaker 3: a positive mindset in twenty twenty one, what would be
• 28:11
  Speaker 3: something that they can do regularly. I know we've talked
• 28:14
  Speaker 3: a lot about having gratitude, but aside from maybe staying
• 28:18
  Speaker 3: out loud or speaking these things into existence, or keeping
• 28:20
  Speaker 3: a journal of these gratitudes, Like, what's another tool that
• 28:23
  Speaker 3: they can exercise from their toolbox to embody positivity.
• 28:28
  Speaker 4: In twenty twenty one.
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: Commit to not starting your day with bad news. Don't
• 28:32
  Speaker 1: understart your day with bad news. Oh I love that tip,
• 28:35
  Speaker 1: Like you do not put your phone down, You do
• 28:38
  Speaker 1: not put your phone on the thirty minutes before you
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: go to bed. And I want people to really think
• 28:43
  Speaker 1: about that, like what are you doing before you go
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: into your space? What are you thinking about?
• 28:51
  Speaker 2: And what are you doing? Are you reading a book
• 28:53
  Speaker 2: on positivity or are you watching you know, the news?
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: And in those first moments when you wake up, you
• 29:00
  Speaker 1: setting the tone for your day and whether or not
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: you want to entern into a specific practice or not.
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: When you open your eyes, are you rolling over and
• 29:07
  Speaker 1: grabbing your phone and turning on your television so that
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: you can be inundated from this place of fear or
• 29:13
  Speaker 1: good news or bad news?
• 29:15
  Speaker 2: Or you know the guy that used to date as
• 29:16
  Speaker 2: a new girlfriend.
• 29:17
  Speaker 1: If you're like digging around in someone's Instagram, or you
• 29:19
  Speaker 1: know this happened or that happened, or get on Twitter
• 29:21
  Speaker 1: and watch people uselessly fighting about stupid things that don't
• 29:25
  Speaker 1: actually mean anything.
• 29:27
  Speaker 2: You your life, your experience is precious.
• 29:32
  Speaker 1: Are you protecting it with what you're putting inside of
• 29:37
  Speaker 1: your body, and that means your mind, your mouth, all
• 29:41
  Speaker 1: of it.
• 29:42
  Speaker 2: What are you?
• 29:43
  Speaker 1: How are you starting and ending your day? So if
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: someone is struggling about what to do, how do you
• 29:48
  Speaker 1: start an end your day?
• 29:49
  Speaker 4: I also think to riff on that a little bit.
• 29:51
  Speaker 3: We talked about the list that I had made of
• 29:53
  Speaker 3: things that I can do to bring me joy, just
• 29:55
  Speaker 3: me as I am, but also being really intentional and
• 29:59
  Speaker 3: paying close to tension to the things in your day
• 30:01
  Speaker 3: that you do that actually make you feel good. So
• 30:05
  Speaker 3: beyond just like that workout, Like I am reminded when
• 30:08
  Speaker 3: I like open my fridge and I see a tub
• 30:11
  Speaker 3: of athletic greens, like drinking this makes me feel good.
• 30:13
  Speaker 1: So I'm the same way with like the protein that
• 30:17
  Speaker 1: I use or different things like that. I'm I'm I'm
• 30:20
  Speaker 1: about to get into the athletic greens too.
• 30:22
  Speaker 2: There's like train doing it. Yeah, do you just do
• 30:25
  Speaker 2: it with water?
• 30:25
  Speaker 3: What do you do?
• 30:26
  Speaker 4: You're all ten to twelve ounces of water one ice cube?
• 30:28
  Speaker 4: Shake it up.
• 30:30
  Speaker 1: Oh that's easy work because I always drink a thing
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: of water anyway. All right, I'm seriously gonna throw the
• 30:34
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna try it right now. I'm serious, But yeah,
• 30:38
  Speaker 1: you get to set your day. Just like you eat breakfast.
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: What's your soul eating for breakfast? What is your mind
• 30:46
  Speaker 1: eating for breakfast? Right? You want to start your day?
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: Some people, you know like a lighter thing. I like
• 30:53
  Speaker 1: to drink my protein and now my athletic greens. You know, like,
• 30:56
  Speaker 1: how are we starting our day? And you get to
• 31:00
  Speaker 1: give your soul the same food that you give your.
• 31:03
  Speaker 2: Body for sure, for sure?
• 31:06
  Speaker 3: Okay, so you have one opportunity to offer up one
• 31:11
  Speaker 3: more piece of advice on how to be more positive.
• 31:14
  Speaker 4: In twenty twenty one, Michelle Hines, what.
• 31:18
  Speaker 1: Do you tell the hurdlers if it gives you that tingle,
• 31:23
  Speaker 1: that scare, that little bit of fear, What if can
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: I do it?
• 31:30
  Speaker 2: Jump in the water is warm?
• 31:33
  Speaker 1: If you are coming up on something in your life
• 31:36
  Speaker 1: that makes you feel that, we all know what I'm
• 31:39
  Speaker 1: talking about. We've all had those moments, whether it's public speaking, proposing,
• 31:44
  Speaker 1: decide and have a kit, any of those things that
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: make you feel that excited, scared, nervous, but like kind
• 31:48
  Speaker 1: of jittery happy energy. Don't run from the challenges in
• 31:54
  Speaker 1: your life. Go towards them, run towards them. And I
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: promise if you're doing that, then you live authentically and
• 32:01
  Speaker 1: your life will change for the better. So do one
• 32:03
  Speaker 1: thing that you've been thinking about that you are afraid of.
• 32:07
  Speaker 1: Lace up those shoes and go outside and try to
• 32:09
  Speaker 1: go for a run. Call that girl that you've always wanted, like,
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: start completing the circle of your life.
• 32:16
  Speaker 2: Complete acts.
• 32:17
  Speaker 4: Michelle, what excites you about twenty twenty one? What are
• 32:19
  Speaker 4: you ampt about?
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: Oh, more life, travel really excites me, getting to hug
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: my friends. I'm going to find a partner in twenty
• 32:29
  Speaker 1: twenty one. Oh, I'm manifesting that. I'm manifesting it. He's
• 32:32
  Speaker 1: coming and for me, coming for both of us.
• 32:34
  Speaker 3: It is if your first date with the man that
• 32:37
  Speaker 3: you think is going to be your husband, I expect
• 32:40
  Speaker 3: a text message.
• 32:41
  Speaker 2: I promise you that you will get that text message.
• 32:43
  Speaker 4: All right, you're on my first text list, too perfect.
• 32:46
  Speaker 1: I'll probably tell him. I'll be like, listen, so I've
• 32:49
  Speaker 1: decided we're getting married. So that's not it all in
• 32:51
  Speaker 1: your mind. You should leave since I believe in brutal honesty.
• 32:56
  Speaker 1: So I'm manifesting a partner. More travel, more give biggs
• 33:01
  Speaker 1: or gigs for myself, more love and most importantly, more
• 33:05
  Speaker 1: love for all of us, more understanding and more people
• 33:08
  Speaker 1: voting and knowing what's going on locally in their city.
• 33:12
  Speaker 2: Know what's up. I love this.
• 33:14
  Speaker 3: I love you At Michelle. How do the hurdlers keep
• 33:17
  Speaker 3: up with you? How do they stay in the loop?
• 33:19
  Speaker 3: Give me the details, come hang out with me.
• 33:21
  Speaker 2: It's really difficult at Nichelle.
• 33:24
  Speaker 1: So Nichelle with an end, you want to work out
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: with me, it's it's in my freaking what are they profile?
• 33:30
  Speaker 1: You want to yep, slide in the DMS. You have
• 33:33
  Speaker 1: any questions, comments, concerns. And also shout out to all
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: the hurlers that hit me up afterwards. I really appreciate it.
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: For me being able to give the gift of positivity
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: and reminding people of who they are is the greatest,
• 33:47
  Speaker 1: one of the greatest gifts I've ever received in my life.
• 33:50
  Speaker 2: So shout out to all the hurdlers that started.
• 33:52
  Speaker 1: Rocking with me, that came to me through Emily, And
• 33:54
  Speaker 1: you can find me at Michelle anytime, any place.
• 33:57
  Speaker 4: Amazing.
• 33:58
  Speaker 3: I am over at Hurdle Podcast Austin at EMILYA. Boddy
• 34:01
  Speaker 3: another hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time.