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Darren Prince - Agent to Magic Johnson & Muhammad Ali | Why Success Made Me Sicker · Success Story with Scott Clary

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  I don't want people to be motivated or inspired by my business success.
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  I want them to try to look in the mirror and be accountable.
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  When you take full ownership, that's usually when the healing journey starts.
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  He was a celebrity agent to the biggest names in the world,
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  but behind the spotlight, he was fighting a battle no one could see.
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  Darren Prince built a career representing icons,
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  navigating the highest levels of sports and entertainment.
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  But while he was managing legends,
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  addiction was managing him.
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  Most of the successful people that I know are living it from an external space.
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  The toys and the flags really define, well,
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  is finding your purpose and your passion from within.
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  I believe I was a prime candidate to fall victim to drug addiction.
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  I just had a huge head start and accessed because I was making real money.
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  His journey from opioid dependency to long-term recovery became the turning point
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  that transformed his life and his mission.
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  Today, he's a best-selling author and international speaker
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  and an advocate proving that success means nothing without freedom.
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  When you're in an addictive state of anything,
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  the biggest struggle is the lack of power.
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  You can truly go through the dark and come out on the light.
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  The strength is in being vulnerable.
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  Not hiding it.
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  When you're able to just come out and have that freedom of saying
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  everything and not hiding it, the miracles start to happen.
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  So, I am the best version of my fucked up self I've ever been.
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  Darren, what does that mean?
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  Well, now being 17 and a half years sober and doing so much awareness work,
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  personal development work, character defect removal,
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  couples still pop up once in a while and there's nobody out there that doesn't have
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  shit, there's nobody out there that doesn't have unresolved trauma.
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  Some suppress it, some bring it to a surface and to live this authentic, transparent frequency.
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  I don't want people to be motivated or inspired by my business success.
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  I want them to try to look in the mirror and be accountable for not looking at your mother,
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  your father, it's their fault, it's the ex-husband, the ex-wife.
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  You made those choices for whatever reason.
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  And when you take full ownership of it, that's usually when the healing journey starts.
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  And David Goggins is a good friend and client.
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  I'm in town for his event tomorrow.
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  And he always says that everybody's fucked up, you know.
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  For somebody to say they're not, you're suppressing a lot of stuff.
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  And most of the successful people that I know,
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  that don't want them at that, are living it from an external space.
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  And they're doing it with the toys and the flax.
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  And sort of we just talked about how you and I really define wealth is finding your purpose
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  and your passion from within and sharing that with the world just like you're doing.
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  So like I said, I'm so grateful and appreciative.
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  Definitely on here because what you've built and the messages that get sent around the universe
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  to help people is tremendous, not just professionally, but personally.
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  I appreciate that a lot.
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  And I think we're very much on the same wavelength when it comes to like what defining success
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  and wealth and whatever, whatever you want to achieve in your life.
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  I think that when people are very young and I think you're an extreme example,
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  people look at sort of the wrong, they get the wrong role models.
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  They look at, okay, how do I make as much money as I possibly can make
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  in the quickest amount of time possible?
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  How do I achieve sort of like the material success?
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  And I think it's even worse now because of Instagram and social media
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  than probably it even was when you were young.
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  But your story is very interesting because you achieve that material success at an incredibly young age,
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  like much younger than most people ever, ever achieve it.
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  Tell me how you achieve that success, but also tell me what it did to you.
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  I grew up in Livingston, New Jersey, and you know, you would have thought from the outside
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  of the, you know, super happy young kid, loving family, you know, I had one sister.
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  And I just never fit him and I always felt socially awkward.
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  It was always like I felt like I had a imposter syndrome for a very young age.
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  And a lot of it when I look back at it was because I was in very small classrooms.
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  A lot of times my friends were in the big classrooms 50, 60 kids and I was put in
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  rooms like this with for your father, people known as the special ed crew.
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  And I heard about it.
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  I heard crickets.
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  I heard teas and I was verbally teased and you never spoke up about it,
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  but I just knew school wasn't for me.
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  And my first experience with drugs were at Sleepboy Campos, about 14
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  and I terrible stomach pains one night and the cancer typically to the nurse.
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  I didn't rise looking back on it.
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  It was separation anxiety.
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  I grew up a mom as boy.
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  Didn't like being away from my mom and dad and she gave me this green liquid.
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  I took it, it tasted terrible, but walking across the softball field back to the bunk,
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  my life changed forever, man.
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  I mean, I felt like Superman.
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  I didn't know what it was, but I was just as popular, just as cool, just as smart,
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  talking with the guys, flirting with the girls at the bunk's next door.
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  And I did this for a few straight weeks, not realizing
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  until my mom and dad came for visitation day.
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  That it was liquid demoral.
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  You know, back then it wasn't a controlled age with substance.
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  And I started that next year when I got back home.
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  I had four different odd jobs.
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  I squeezed orange juice to the supermarket.
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  I worked at a pizza where I was a stock boy at a sneaker store.
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  And I was a bus boy, had a diner.
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  So I would say, well, that money and buy all my friends' baseball car collections.
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  And my father noticed that I could read the back of a baseball car in the 1980s.
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  And literally almost had a photographic memory with numbers.
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  And we would sit in front of the TV.
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  I'd start talking about statistics.
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  And he was mesmerized by it.
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  And one day, an intro to business class teacher,
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  I'm still close with this to this day, Elliot Lovie,
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  challenged the class to go home and create a business.
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  Now, in my mind, I had thousands dollars for the baseball carts.
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  I just never had a plan to execute how to sell them.
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  But I knew from certain trade papers that I was getting,
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  there were these things called baseball cart conventions.
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  So I'd go downstairs to my dad.
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  I'm like, hey, I need insurance for my baseball carts.
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  It looks to me like I'm crazy.
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  I wish it was alive today because he would love the way I tell the story.
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  And insurance, he's like, how much do you have?
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  I'm like, Dad, I probably got about eight or nine.
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  And he's like, all right, I'll call homeowners and try to get like a thousand dollars
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  worth of insurance in case there's ever a flood or got a bit of fire.
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  I'm like, no, Dad, eight or nine thousand.
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  And he looks at me like, I've got three heads.
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  How the hell do you have eight or nine thousand with the carts?
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  I'd go back upstairs and get the price.
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  I got a start showing them.
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  Well, who's going to buy them?
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  I pull out this big newspaper at this big.
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  It was at the holiday and back then, 1984,
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  on Highway Route 10 for anybody from New Jersey listening and living stand.
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  And it was $20 to buy a table.
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  So I executed.
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  I mean, I wasn't a student in school.
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  But when he came to this, my dad started realizing my brain worked with numbers
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  and being a sponge with him from his got into business.
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  He said it was mesmerizing.
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  So now that came with the confidence.
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  So like, I'm like, Dad, support.
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  And every day after school, whatever I had to do,
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  he owned a type setting and design company.
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  I would call them and have them make beautiful signs.
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  I bought display cases.
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  I made sure this was going to be the most beautiful six foot display you've ever seen.
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  And became a big family affair in that Sunday.
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  I actually set up ironically with my best friend,
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  one of my best friends, Steve Simon, who runs my agency.
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  Now we go back since I was 10 years old.
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  And he's one of my top agents at Prince Mark and a group.
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  He went in for the hobby.
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  He spent like two hours the day of throwing some carts in a shoebox.
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  And when I spent two weeks.
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  So when people are listening and talk about preparation
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  to doing a business, nothing just happens like that.
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  Of course not.
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  And two weeks when you're talking several hours at night
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  to prayer prayer for this, I was ready.
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  You know, I knew the market.
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  I knew the business.
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  I had my display laid out.
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  You know, I remember there was no social media back then.
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  Computers were limited.
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  And I went in like, this was my new career.
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  And I made over a thousand dollars at afternoon.
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  And Steve made like 30 bucks.
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  And that was, how old are you again when you're doing?
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  I was 14.
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  So just to paint into picture, 14.
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  You're not, you figure out how to make money.
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  But also you figured out the effects of drugs on confidence
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  and identity, really.
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  This is very young to be dabbing in this shirt.
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  Yeah, that's very, very, okay.
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  So you made that was kind of a perfect storm,
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  but not at the same time that I went home that night.
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  And the one feeling I remember I wrote about this in my book
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  aiming high that I, you know, I published in 2018
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  was I remember getting home and it was so euphoric.
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  I felt so important on this show floor.
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  Like the energy was flowing.
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  People were running over to me.
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  Like I was this hot shot, well respected young kid
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  that knew about the rookies, the minor leakers,
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  the top prospects.
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  And I started making friends with people
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  and I actually felt like, you know, this was school.
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  Like, and I was the head of the class.
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  I was the valvictorian.
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  I was the wine.
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  And all my friends who've sold me their collections
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  again were making fun of it.
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  We do want those stupid cards.
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  Like, cards are corny, bro.
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  Like we got out of baseball cards years ago.
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  Anita's his type years later when they all
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  came back from college break.
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  I started hiring one of them.
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  One at a time.
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  A bunch of one at a time to work for me
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  because they couldn't believe what I built.
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  So that night though, when I was 14, Scott,
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  like I went from like this year for work
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  feeling to all of a sudden, this empty feeling.
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  So there was some unbelievable attachment
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  to the external validation of that $1,000 that I made
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  of the high interest.
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  Of course, it's a high when you make fun.
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  And I couldn't figure out why this happened.
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  It was Sunday night getting ready for bed to go to school.
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  And it went from like this to this.
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  So, you know, looking back at it that time my life,
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  I believe I was a prime candidate to fall victim
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  to drug addiction.
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  I just had a huge head start and access to get whatever I needed
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  because I was making real money.
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  By the time I was 15 years old,
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  I was making a couple hundred thousand dollars a year
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  selling baseball cards.
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  I was literally the first person that stayed in New Jersey
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  to buy a cell phone.
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  It was called Bell Atlantic.
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  And the phone was $3,000 back then.
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  It had huge aluminum battery pack with the rubber antenna.
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  And the phone clipped on top of this aluminum battery.
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  And it had this leather case.
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  And I had it in my locker.
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  So, I'd be running ads in a magazine that still
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  around to the state called Sports Collectors Digest.
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  And I would have stockbrokers calling.
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  And you couldn't text back then on cell phones,
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  but it did have a voicemail attached to it.
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  So, in between class, I would run to my locker,
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  listen to the messages, eat real quick.
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  And be making notes, writing down notes
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  from these stockbrokers that were called
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  because somebody might have wanted a Mickey Manel
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  rookie that weekend.
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  So, whatever it might have been.
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  Joe DiMaggio, Babe Ruth,
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  could be a modern day.
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  The popular guy's back then,
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  strawberry maddening with weight box tonic
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  when they want to five of this, five of that.
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  So, I just became a broker to all these guys.
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  14, 15, 16, you make a couple hundred thousand.
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  I've always thought about this.
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  Actually, you just mentioned something that
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  I think is actually very true.
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  The same personality that is required
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  to be successful in business,
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  like the obsession over what you're doing
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  and all the preparation and the reason
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  why you made a thousand bucks and know what else did,
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  that personality is a dangerous personality.
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  You got it because you get addicted to anything.
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  So, that same personality that makes you successful,
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  that could be drugs, any kind of gambling,
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  women, whatever your vices.
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  I had all of it.
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  But if you know how to channel it,
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  it can be very useful that personality.
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  But you experience all this stuff way too young.
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  Way too young.
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  And there's no handbook.
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  There's no parent.
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  Charlie Schoen's a dear friend and client too.
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  And he's got New York Times best selling book out.
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  It's been on their flick eight weeks
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  and incredible things happen
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  and screw up this Netflix documentary and other things.
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  And we really identify with this
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  because he's like, even though his dad
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  and his brother were already there,
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  he goes, too, there's just there's no way to like,
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  understand it.
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  You know, I was out here six months ago
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  with my boy Ryan Federman and Mike Tyson.
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  We had a van at the hard rock.
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  Mike and I got a real talk about this.
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  And he's like, Prince, I get him, man.
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  19 years old.
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  I'm the baddest motherfucker on the planet,
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  knocking people out.
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  I got a couple hundred million to the bank.
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  Who gave me a cotton handbook?
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  I had a deal with it.
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  So it's so easy for people to like,
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  look at me or them or whatever.
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  What it, no, that they're, it's, it happens.
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  And there's a reason it's going to happen again.
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  And these influencers now, when you see someone
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  I'm taking their own lives at young ages,
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  because when we think it's about the money,
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  when we think it's about the stuff and the things
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  and the mansions and the jets and the jewelry
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  and the life and the woman are to shopping,
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  whatever that might be, and you get there.
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  And guess what?
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  You realize you're still unfulfilled?
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  It is the most dangerous, scariest,
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  loneliest place the human being can ever be.
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  Because I've been there.
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  And then you have the resources to fuck up your own life.
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  Yep.
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  That's the biggest issue.
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  You're like, what's going to make me feel
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  that same feeling when you got the self-sabotage,
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  the destructive behavior and getting out of sense of self,
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  because at a competent age, I'm not just saying
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  this is for young people.
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  I mean, somebody could be grinding after 10, 15, 20 years.
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  We have a lot of friends that made it big
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  in their 30s, 40s.
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  But again, if you're not doing that work,
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  if you're not doing that inner work,
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  and sense itself, the brokenness,
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  the character defects,
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  the unresolved trauma and you're just suppressing it.
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  And it's just that one goal to build scale and exit.
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  I do not want to be, I don't care what amount of people for you.
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  What was that point when you kept chasing after
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  that you're making $100,000 before you're even 20,
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  which is insane for somebody who's 16, 17 years old?
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  What's the point when it all blows up?
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  I'll give you a little bit in between that,
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  so we can lead to where it blew up if that's okay.
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  For sure, go ahead.
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  So at 19, I sold the baseball car company for a million dollars.
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  It was by inventory, it was my database.
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  And back then, I didn't need to stay on.
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  It was just, I had an invasion where I started getting enamored
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  with autograph signings.
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  I'd be at convention.
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  I'd be like, wow, people are wrapped around the corner
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  to see Joe DiMaggio, Mickey Mantle, and Pete Rose.
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  And I saw one time like,
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  Muhammad Ali was coming to one.
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  I was like, this is so much cooler than baseball cards.
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  Wow.
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  So I wanted to start learning that distance.
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  And we did that for about four years.
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  Now, the reason, just the first time I really hit business
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  adversity, the reason I got out of that was,
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  and I'm very open about it, there was a forgery scandal
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  going on with Michael Jordan litographs.
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  And there was an FBI forensic document expert
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  that the industry was praising as a guru for authentication.
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  And big, big investigation by the FBI.
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  I got investigated, got cleared of mail fraud charges
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  because I truly believe the stuff was real.
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  But there was this whole sort of assembly line
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  of different artists forging his name
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  and the FBI, retired FBI forensic agent went to prison.
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  And so my father, some of the greatest lessons,
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  he could talk about me were three things.
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  It's not what you say, it's what you do.
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  Your reputations, the hardest thing to uphold,
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  and the easiest thing to lose.
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  And that one, that one was really what mattered to me
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  at that time or anything.
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  And he would always say the idea was 1%
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  carrying off through the other 99.
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  So I took whatever I had and I started sending
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  a refund letters, I had to get lawyers involved.
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  I mean, Scott, for the first time of my life here,
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  I'm now 24 and I'm like financially ruined.
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  And so even then you're just worried about going to jail
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  at this point.
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  Yeah, now I'm at the point where I'm already going to go to jail.
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  And I had incredible relationships
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  from booking different autographs on it
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  because a lot of people wanted to know
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  how did I get all these clients.
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  That's why I wanted to give you the background.
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  And I took my last $3,000 and took my father
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  on a fly fishing trip to Alaska.
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  It wasn't happy about it because he knew I was in the balls
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  and my ass, but I knew fishing was our favorite thing to do.
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  And Prince Markham Group would not exist.
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  Did I, if that trip didn't happen,
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  route on this gorgeous stream.
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  And he says to me, what's your next move, fellow?
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  When you, when this all works out,
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  like you're going to go back into that industry,
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  good daddy, you know what, I'm so pissed off.
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  All my people, that were friends and fans,
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  like their haters and people are like,
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  turning their back on me.
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  I'm like, I don't care about that.
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  I want to be an agent,
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  but I don't have eight years to go to law school.
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  He drops the fishing pole on this gorgeous stream
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  and we have this guide with us and it's like law school.
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  He gets down, he gets life is about who you know,
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  now what, you know, think about your resources.
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  Think about who supported you with this case,
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  with the judge and send letters from, you know,
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  magic and the allies and smoke and Joe Frazier and Joe Montana.
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  And he's like, you know, he's giving one name after
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  the Chevy chain like everybody.
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  He goes, what I would do is the next time you see magic,
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  tell him your vision.
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  He goes because he's like family at this point.
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  Even though you guys only go back about three, four years.
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  So I was in a hotel sweet with magic a few weeks later.
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  And it's kind of almost like I would have thought he might have
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  spoke to my dad because they did speak and he's like,
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  what do you think you're going to do next?
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  And at that point, I was cleared.
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  I was charged with like making a false statement
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  because I sort of didn't give everything factual during the interview.
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  So I'd like three years probation,
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  but for the most part, the case against me,
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  you know, firmly to go to prison.
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  They knew I wasn't in the wrong.
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  I just made a stupid mistake, trust him.
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  Just one person.
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  Quick question.
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  What's your go to when you got 10 minutes before a meeting or a workout?
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  So everything you're dealing with
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  is something that most 24's world never have to deal with.
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  You don't have to,
• 21:51
  not that you should never lie to the FBI.
• 21:54
  But just putting yourself in the shoes
• 21:56
  of a 24-year-old that made way too much money really quick,
• 22:00
  you had way more business success
• 22:01
  and most people even achieved in their life
• 22:03
  forget at 19 when you sold.
• 22:05
  Now you're being investigated by the FBI.
• 22:07
  Like, life is coming at you so fucking quick
• 22:10
  that it is really hard.
• 22:11
  For us to make it grow up really quick.
• 22:12
  To understand how to navigate this.
• 22:14
  Because I'm assuming I don't know what your dad
• 22:16
  or your parents did.
• 22:18
  But I don't think that they would have been able
• 22:19
  to give you the exact perfect playbook
• 22:21
  to navigate everything you went through.
• 22:23
  No one's, no one's.
• 22:24
  I like to have his indirect milk coupon advertising.
• 22:26
  But the one great bit of advice on a fishing trip
• 22:30
  was telemates, not what you know,
• 22:32
  it's who you know, and to speak to magic.
• 22:34
  So when I was with,
• 22:36
  I call him Irvin by his real name.
• 22:37
  I was with them and he asked me that question.
• 22:40
  I said Irvin, I want to become an agent.
• 22:41
  I said, I really think I can do this.
• 22:43
  I'm like, I'm learning quite a bit
• 22:45
  about how this works from speaking engagements
• 22:48
  and studying commercials.
• 22:50
  And I bought these books
• 22:51
  about how to contact different ad agencies
• 22:53
  and you know, learning about like merchandising
• 22:56
  convention for endorsements.
• 22:57
  Because all right, because who do you think you want?
• 22:59
  Because you need a big client.
• 23:01
  And you got that big billion dollar smile.
• 23:02
  I'm, I'm sweating.
• 23:04
  I'm in my hand for like, I got to get the question
• 23:06
  on my heart's pal.
• 23:08
  At the point, I'd sum 24, 25.
• 23:10
  And I'm like, ask him.
• 23:11
  You better ask him.
• 23:12
  So when those moments in life, if you don't say it.
• 23:15
  And I'm like, I'd like it to be you.
• 23:18
  And he goes, all right.
• 23:19
  And he smiles, goes, look, you're a good dude, man.
• 23:22
  And you made a mistake.
• 23:24
  And just seeing a God has great men and woman.
• 23:27
  And he's testing you.
• 23:28
  And he goes, and I love you.
• 23:30
  And I love your family.
• 23:31
  Because here's what I'm going to do.
• 23:34
  Get a good entertainment lawyer or find
• 23:36
  him if you don't have it.
• 23:38
  I'm going to let you represent me for two years.
• 23:40
  But if you don't use been a knock down every door
• 23:43
  to bring in all the celebrities he can to build this agency,
• 23:47
  I'm going to fire you before this year or so up.
• 23:49
  Because life isn't about how successful I become, Darren.
• 23:52
  It's about how successful I can make you and everybody
• 23:55
  else around me.
• 23:56
  Because when you got there, you're going
• 23:57
  to learn about paying it forward.
• 23:59
  I couldn't believe it.
• 24:00
  It was just so magical.
• 24:01
  And he was like, because I'm going to be a success.
• 24:03
  The world has never seen it.
• 24:04
  And sports and entertainment fast forward.
• 24:07
  We still laugh about it 30 years ago.
• 24:09
  Multiple in the Empire owns how many sports themes?
• 24:14
  18th world championship now is player owner with the Dodgers.
• 24:18
  Sorry to say, another breaks your heart.
• 24:20
  It's OK.
• 24:20
  I was with them all the day, two hours after the parade.
• 24:23
  And it's just for somebody be such a visionary.
• 24:26
  But also do that to me and allow that
• 24:29
  where I could now bless other people.
• 24:32
  And so the success in the agency,
• 24:35
  life started real quick, man.
• 24:36
  I right after magic, it was Joe Frazier.
• 24:40
  And then Robin at the time in Pamela Anderson we had.
• 24:43
  And Chevy Chase.
• 24:45
  So I learned the business real quick.
• 24:48
  And the drugs really started accelerating the involvement
• 24:55
  in my life.
• 24:56
  But I learned about morality clauses.
• 24:58
  So I moved away from illegal drugs.
• 25:01
  And it became prescription painkillers.
• 25:03
  That was legal.
• 25:04
  So you're too smart for your own good?
• 25:05
  Yeah.
• 25:06
  And I had legitimate back pain side act.
• 25:09
  I was who was working at every doctor.
• 25:11
  So all my success came to me, whatever I wanted.
• 25:13
  And for six or seven years, it worked.
• 25:15
  I mean, I was a networking machine.
• 25:16
  I remember times, you know, I did a couple projects
• 25:19
  with Kobe Bryant.
• 25:20
  I mean, these guys just everybody just gravitated towards.
• 25:23
  And I was super comfortable in my skin when I was high,
• 25:25
  obviously, you know, around the biggest names in the world.
• 25:30
  And I often say when I speak, especially
• 25:33
  to high school kids, that what was once living to use
• 25:37
  turned out to using to live.
• 25:40
  And I don't know when that exact moment was.
• 25:43
  But it got to a point sort of like that metaphor
• 25:46
  you said before where I couldn't really get high anymore.
• 25:51
  Whatever I was taking or mixing or whatever a cocktail,
• 25:55
  it was just making me function.
• 25:59
  There wasn't much more.
• 26:00
  You're a warrior coming to the point where, you know,
• 26:03
  there were multiple overdoses.
• 26:05
  And the last one happened in 2007,
• 26:11
  late 2000, now mid-2007, MBI Alstrad break in Vegas.
• 26:17
  One of my clients was celebrating a big TV show deal
• 26:20
  that we did.
• 26:21
  And I was married at the time.
• 26:23
  And that same Steve Simon that runs my agency now
• 26:27
  to the first baseball coach, we were getting ready
• 26:29
  for an event, he came up to my room.
• 26:30
  And I took, I had vodka, Red Bull, snorted a few oxy-cons.
• 26:36
  I had Tussinix co-off syrup because I had bronchitis that day
• 26:42
  that I got diagnosed with, said,
• 26:44
  doctor gave me anything I needed to get from the pharmacy.
• 26:46
  And man, I was on the ground.
• 26:48
  I mean, I don't remember anything.
• 26:49
  Foaming up my mouth, my eyes just sweating hot flashes,
• 26:53
  chills, the paramedics came into the room.
• 26:56
  Oxygen mask on my face, needle in my arm,
• 26:58
  EKG machine everywhere, clearly I never made it out.
• 27:01
  Then I put Steve, had to see that horrific picture.
• 27:04
  He came to the room to see if I was ready
• 27:06
  and saw paramedics everywhere.
• 27:09
  You know of me just, what the hell's going on?
• 27:12
  And that next day I finally had a little bit of accountability
• 27:16
  where I got home back to New Jersey
• 27:20
  and I called a Addiction Psychiatrist.
• 27:22
  But I lied to him too, so it was a process.
• 27:25
  He told me I was an opiatic, put me on to boxing,
• 27:28
  and I didn't tell him I was sniffing in, but yet at night
• 27:30
  I was still drinking a couple days a week.
• 27:32
  I was on a mood stabilizer, I was taking Xanax
• 27:35
  every once in a while, and that just got to a point
• 27:37
  where I was a shell of myself making millions of dollars,
• 27:41
  biggest names in the world, living in this double life.
• 27:44
  None of it meant anything.
• 27:45
  And that God shot happened on July 1st of 2008.
• 27:49
  My uncle Stu, who's no longer with us,
• 27:53
  was the citizen of my mom in New Jersey.
• 27:55
  And he had a girlfriend up to Tom Andreia.
• 27:58
  They both lived down here on tray, still in Miami.
• 28:01
  And I never met her, Scott, but she walked into my condo
• 28:04
  and she's like, are you okay?
• 28:06
  And something came over me, a connection with this woman
• 28:09
  that I never have with anybody.
• 28:11
  And I told her, now I'm not, and she asked what was wrong.
• 28:13
  I told her everything.
• 28:15
  I told her everything that was going on with the drugs
• 28:17
  and the way that I was feeling.
• 28:19
  And she's like, do you realize your life's so manageable
• 28:22
  and you're an addict?
• 28:23
  And I said, yeah, she goes most importantly,
• 28:25
  she goes, I'm looking at all these photos.
• 28:26
  If you know all these big stars, do you realize that?
• 28:30
  This doesn't mean anything,
• 28:31
  because you don't mean anything to yourself.
• 28:33
  And you've been living this way for decades.
• 28:35
  And that broke my soul.
• 28:37
  And I started to cry.
• 28:38
  And I said, yeah, she goes, do you want the help?
• 28:41
  I said, I would love it.
• 28:42
  And she reached into her pocket.
• 28:45
  And she goes, you know what this is?
• 28:46
  And she goes, last week, I just celebrated
• 28:48
  five years sober.
• 28:49
  It's about five years sober, Quint.
• 28:52
  I could help you get the life on your wild streams.
• 28:56
  And she put me on a detox plan.
• 28:59
  It was the next night, it was July 2nd, 2008.
• 29:01
  I was back in the city with my then wife.
• 29:04
  And crawling out of my skin, detox pain,
• 29:08
  upsets stomach, nauseous.
• 29:10
  They were back in Miami, right?
• 29:11
  I called them.
• 29:12
  I said, I can't freaking do this.
• 29:13
  Forget it.
• 29:14
  I'm gonna call the doctor together.
• 29:15
  I really need to get my uncle straight to yell
• 29:17
  once the damn disease is talking.
• 29:19
  It's this immature child's BS behavior.
• 29:22
  You got to start dealing with your underlining,
• 29:24
  trauma and your issues and get yourself
• 29:26
  to a 12 step meeting.
• 29:28
  And you know, she's trying to support him in the background.
• 29:30
  I said, I can't do it.
• 29:31
  Forget it.
• 29:32
  I hung up the phone, ran in the bathroom,
• 29:34
  locked the door.
• 29:35
  My then wife is banging on the door,
• 29:38
  sterically crying.
• 29:39
  I think I'm gonna overdose.
• 29:40
  I'm going through all the medicine cabinets.
• 29:42
  Got looking for the non narcotic anxiety pill.
• 29:46
  She told me I could take to help with the cravings.
• 29:49
  And I came to bike it and extra shrimp,
• 29:52
  bike it into one of the bottles.
• 29:53
  And there's three opiates obviously to bike it
• 29:56
  in perc ascent, oxyca.
• 29:57
  But the crazy thing was we spent like an hour
• 30:00
  the night before cleaning out all the medicine cabinets
• 30:03
  to make sure there was no temptation in the house.
• 30:05
  So this in that moment, just for that split second,
• 30:08
  I remember thinking, wow, what a gift.
• 30:11
  I thought that was the God shot.
• 30:13
  But then I wanted to live more than I wanted to die.
• 30:16
  And the first time in my life, I thought of my knees,
• 30:22
  the bike it into this hand, then I screamed out to God,
• 30:24
  take the money, take the business, take the notoriety.
• 30:27
  If you can give me a single day of freedom
• 30:29
  and take me out of hell, I promise I'll take other people
• 30:33
  out of hell one day at a time.
• 30:35
  And it was a white light moment that my life
• 30:40
  in the bathroom and the carol I'm building changed forever
• 30:42
  because I had a burning sensation on this shoulder.
• 30:45
  And I'm deaf on my left here,
• 30:46
  I wear a cochlear implant once in a while,
• 30:48
  I don't have it in now, but I heard in my guitar,
• 30:50
  I heard a voice say, I've got you and you're ready.
• 30:53
  And I stood up, I flushed the pills,
• 30:55
  went into the computer, started Googling 12 step
• 30:58
  recovering mutings, found one in her church,
• 31:00
  30 minutes later in the upper 80s,
• 31:02
  went downstairs, flagged attacks,
• 31:04
  there was no Uber back then in 2008.
• 31:07
  And I'm in this cab on this gorgeous summer night
• 31:10
  in July 2nd, 2008.
• 31:13
  And looking up, oh my God, what the hell just happened?
• 31:17
  For the first time in my life,
• 31:18
  I wanted to stay super more than I wanted to get high.
• 31:21
  And I walked into this church basement,
• 31:22
  not knowing what to expect, there's about 150 to 200 people.
• 31:26
  All addicts at alcoholics,
• 31:28
  who are a once-of-a-hopeless state of mind
• 31:30
  and the leaders, citizens, anybody,
• 31:31
  knew anybody coming back, anyone's suffering.
• 31:34
  And I believe God raised my hand
• 31:36
  because it went up with no problem.
• 31:38
  I said, I'm sick, I'm suffering, I'm suicidal.
• 31:42
  I don't want to live anymore, I need your guys help.
• 31:44
  I said, I've got so much to live for,
• 31:46
  but I don't care about it anymore
• 31:47
  because my drug addiction and substance abuse issue
• 31:50
  has gotten so bad.
• 31:51
  And I felt a part of something in that hour,
• 31:56
  especially immediately after saying that,
• 31:58
  that I never before had a bunch of grown men
• 32:01
  that walked over to me and they hugged me.
• 32:03
  And they told me things like, we got you.
• 32:07
  We know what you're feeling.
• 32:08
  We've all been there.
• 32:10
  Stick with the winners.
• 32:12
  It's easy to stay here, down that it is to come back.
• 32:16
  I learned about the five days added to the judgment,
• 32:19
  accountability, action and acceptance.
• 32:22
  And then the words are just blew me away,
• 32:24
  where a couple of them came over
• 32:26
  and put their arms around me
• 32:27
  and they said, we're gonna love you
• 32:28
  before we ever learn how to love yourself.
• 32:30
  And what I thought at that moment,
• 32:35
  when I was not my useless, the worst day of my life,
• 32:38
  sooner than later, turned out to be my very best.
• 32:41
  When you go through, because when you started doing drugs,
• 32:45
  you were like 14 years old.
• 32:48
  What age are you now at this?
• 32:50
  Oh, when I got sober, I was 38, 38.
• 32:52
  So from 14 to 38, so basically your whole adult life,
• 32:58
  you had something that was masking and covering.
• 33:02
  After that long, for somebody that is going through this,
• 33:07
  because it seems like you've probably been living in this state
• 33:10
  for longer than most people.
• 33:12
  I think that most people who have been in this state
• 33:15
  of drugs and depression, it's sad to say,
• 33:20
  they probably don't make it.
• 33:21
  They don't make it that long.
• 33:23
  So from somebody who's gone through it and lived through it
• 33:27
  and has learned to love himself
• 33:29
  and learn to reshape your identity,
• 33:31
  which you never had for the first 38 really years of your life.
• 33:36
  This program is one step,
• 33:38
  but what are some other things that you had to do outside
• 33:41
  of just going to this program that really allowed you
• 33:43
  to be successful and not go back?
• 33:46
  12-step recovery meetings are great.
• 33:48
  You know, teachers, you've got the 12 steps.
• 33:50
  And if you Google the 12 steps,
• 33:52
  if you're not familiar with it,
• 33:53
  only the first step talks about alcohol or drugs.
• 33:55
  There are steps for living.
• 33:58
  Every single human can understand
• 34:00
  and appreciate the 12 steps.
• 34:01
  But for me, I wanted to be so uncommon
• 34:05
  in the recovery world amongst the uncommon.
• 34:09
  I always wanted to be different
• 34:10
  and I don't want to just do the program, the fellowship,
• 34:16
  like it's changed my life, it's saved my life.
• 34:18
  But one of the steps is continue to take your own
• 34:21
  person on the inventory when you're wrong, promptly emitted.
• 34:24
  Promptly emitted and that's the 10th step.
• 34:26
  And I'm like, but I don't want to have to keep promptly
• 34:29
  admitting if you're doing the same thing.
• 34:31
  I'm going to get to the root cause of that problem.
• 34:33
  I'm going to get back going to my subconscious.
• 34:35
  So, you know, my boy, John Avley,
• 34:37
  and I always say it's my trainer nutrition.
• 34:39
  He's a master NLP practitioner,
• 34:41
  done a lot of NLP and oral linguistic programming
• 34:44
  over the years.
• 34:45
  Some really deep life changing sessions.
• 34:48
  I've got my by lingerie that's been my meditation,
• 34:51
  life coach that, you know, wrecking
• 34:53
  all that like sound frequency and really taking me back
• 34:57
  into, you know, my inner child talking to myself
• 35:00
  and talking to moments with my mom or certain people
• 35:03
  to clear out that sense of forgiveness.
• 35:05
  And every single day I start to deep breath work, meditation.
• 35:10
  He actually customizes a lot for me,
• 35:12
  based on where I'm at in my life
• 35:13
  and bringing certain moments from the past
• 35:16
  into where I'm at now to like get even different
• 35:19
  layers of feeling.
• 35:21
  Then there's so much biohacking that I do for myself,
• 35:23
  you know, when I talk about this stuff,
• 35:25
  sometimes people are like, well, I'm not
• 35:27
  it's so expensive.
• 35:28
  Like, no, it's really not.
• 35:29
  Like, you can get a cheap grounding mat.
• 35:31
  You can take a cold shower.
• 35:33
  You could put your face into an ice bucket,
• 35:36
  like my fiancee Nutsa does every single morning
• 35:38
  to stimulate yourself.
• 35:39
  Get those brain waves going, you could go on a hike.
• 35:42
  You could drink more water instead of soda and crap.
• 35:48
  You know, you could learn to pray more.
• 35:49
  You can go to church.
• 35:51
  You can find, you can go to temple.
• 35:53
  You could go online and start watching on YouTube
• 35:56
  all the incredible people in the world
• 35:58
  that are giving you these gems from, you know,
• 36:00
  Chase Shetty, you know, it's a good friend of mine
• 36:02
  and Lewis Housen, Tony Robbins, and you like,
• 36:05
  you guys are giving them the tools.
• 36:07
  There is no excuse anymore.
• 36:10
  Like no matter how dark it gets,
• 36:11
  I've seen situations a million times
• 36:15
  where it's the mine, you know.
• 36:16
  I've found that the real self-esteem for me,
• 36:20
  slowly but surely once a day became a month,
• 36:23
  a month became a year was to give this gift away
• 36:25
  to help other people.
• 36:27
  So always living in a certain frequency,
• 36:31
  self-esteem has been built by doing a steamable axe.
• 36:35
  And then, you know, I've been able to,
• 36:37
  I told you earlier on my mom's
• 36:41
  when you're passing up or unveiling us today.
• 36:44
  Well, to go there with such gratitude
• 36:47
  and see her and my dad's plot, of course,
• 36:49
  there's emotions, but dad got me eight and a half years sober.
• 36:54
  Mom had me for 16 and a half years sober.
• 36:58
  Hulk Hogan passed away three months ago.
• 37:01
  Dear friend and client, dear friend
• 37:03
  are God-loving connection
• 37:05
  and what we've been through with each other
• 37:07
  and he's seen me from the lowest of low to the highest
• 37:11
  and I've seen him a beautiful blessing to have dinner
• 37:13
  with Nick and son who have known since it's a little kid
• 37:16
  in New York City two nights ago.
• 37:18
  I was with Magic after the parade,
• 37:20
  two hours after the parade.
• 37:21
  I mean, everything with my clients,
• 37:23
  the business part is so secondary now.
• 37:26
  And this is a successful people in the world.
• 37:29
  Magic got a multi-billion dollar empire,
• 37:31
  like, you know, times I've been around Mark Cuban
• 37:33
  and, you know, Genie Boss who just sold the Lakers,
• 37:36
  money never comes up.
• 37:39
  You know, so that, so when you're watching the people
• 37:42
  that are triggering, oh, that's the life that I want
• 37:44
  or find out why you want it first, identify
• 37:48
  is there, you know, something from that external scent?
• 37:51
  Cause no matter how many regular every day
• 37:55
  super mega wealthy people I know,
• 37:57
  they don't have the wealth of those names
• 37:58
  that I just mentioned and those people
• 38:00
  are never posting yachts and never posting jets
• 38:02
  and never posting jewelry and never posting
• 38:04
  they reflect why because they're whole within them.
• 38:07
  And it's easy to say, oh, well, they're gonna all fit.
• 38:09
  No, they've all had their challenges,
• 38:12
  but they've risen above it.
• 38:14
  And they get more joy at it giving.
• 38:16
  They get more joy out of doing all their philanthropic work.
• 38:19
  They get more joy as seeing other people succeed
• 38:23
  because they in their own way have done the work on themselves.
• 38:28
  So famous or not, like, I just think every single person
• 38:32
  has it in them.
• 38:33
  And I think all the tools are out there
• 38:35
  no matter what you're struggling with.
• 38:37
  My biggest blessing, as you know,
• 38:40
  cause I don't enough reading and watching my interviews
• 38:42
  is that I have my aiming high foundation.
• 38:44
  My five, a one C3 has been just, oh my God, man.
• 38:50
  The dopamine high that I get,
• 38:53
  but I'm maybe to get a call from a family member
• 38:57
  when somebody comes home from a treatment center
• 38:59
  where a family, you know, gets their mother back,
• 39:04
  their father back, whatever it might be.
• 39:07
  It's, it's unexplainable.
• 39:11
  I mean, I'll take that, you know,
• 39:15
  any day that we go for a multimillion dollar business deal,
• 39:19
  cause that's purpose, that's wealth,
• 39:22
  you know, that's changing lives and creating legacy
• 39:24
  for a mother or father, the children.
• 39:29
  And, you know, that just was one of the greatest things
• 39:33
  that I started aiming high foundation.
• 39:35
  Cause I, I knew when I was doing a lot of speaking
• 39:37
  when my book came out that there was people
• 39:40
  that had those white light moments,
• 39:42
  and all I could do was kind of be a voice,
• 39:44
  but I had no sort of white apps.
• 39:47
  I said, well, you should go to rehab,
• 39:49
  but I was like, I know enough people.
• 39:51
  I've got enough wealth in my real house that I guarantee
• 39:56
  if I start this, I could start getting some great contributions
• 39:59
  to donate 100% of the proceeds to scholarship people.
• 40:02
  I want to be there when the lights are turned on
• 40:05
  cause you always get that, you only get that small moment
• 40:08
  to make it impact.
• 40:09
  And I want to be that guy that says, good,
• 40:12
  you ready to go and pack a bag?
• 40:15
  Cause I'm in my office now in administration
• 40:17
  at this center over here.
• 40:19
  They're gonna get on the phone with you an hour
• 40:21
  or check and you win in a few hours.
• 40:22
  I'm taking care of everything.
• 40:25
  Every expense, I'm just wondering if you have an idea
• 40:30
  about, cause I know that this,
• 40:33
  I know that this moment in your life,
• 40:34
  it reshaped your relationship with money, wealth,
• 40:38
  success, all of it.
• 40:39
  This is what reshaped everything.
• 40:40
  It was like a wake up call, right?
• 40:45
  Why do you think people get so, get success in wealth,
• 40:52
  the things that they try and pursue?
• 40:54
  Why do they get it so wrong?
• 40:56
  Like how do we end up pursuing these things
• 40:59
  that really don't even serve us,
• 41:01
  that don't make us happy, that don't make us fulfilled?
• 41:04
  Because there's a different, I don't,
• 41:06
  I just don't understand how you can answer.
• 41:08
  What's the answer?
• 41:09
  I was with Gary Vay of a couple of weeks ago,
• 41:11
  at the same keynote event that I booked a bunch of clients
• 41:17
  and he always says it.
• 41:19
  Cause most people care too much about what other people think.
• 41:23
  And the ones that make and want to live in that frequency
• 41:30
  and like, oh, I'm showing you,
• 41:31
  there's showing you, there's so all things are possible.
• 41:33
  No, no, you're not.
• 41:35
  Cause even if you're at the few under a million,
• 41:38
  I know plenty of people that you're extremely poor next to,
• 41:42
  and they're not doing that.
• 41:44
  You're doing this cause you got a lot on resolve trauma,
• 41:46
  Mr. Mrs, so and so.
• 41:49
  And you want to flex from all the failure,
• 41:52
  from all the being made fun of the bankruptcy
• 41:56
  was ever might have been,
• 41:57
  cause you don't work on you.
• 41:59
  Because a person that's in a healed frequency,
• 42:01
  it's okay to do that.
• 42:03
  I'm not saying, don't post a vacation everyone
• 42:05
  to our proud that you just bought this new home.
• 42:09
  But living a vibration of what that wealth has now done,
• 42:12
  you know, show individuals whose lives they even packed it.
• 42:17
  That's the content that should be put out there.
• 42:19
  Not that, you know, a lot of make a wealthy people
• 42:23
  want recognition for the contributions
• 42:25
  what they're doing.
• 42:26
  But you know what, those are the stories
• 42:28
  that need to be published more.
• 42:29
  And especially like I said,
• 42:31
  someone has a lead on to realize these everyday people
• 42:33
  that want to be instant famous
• 42:35
  because they're not fulfilled with all their wealth.
• 42:38
  You know, don't just sit here and make it like
• 42:41
  you're doing all that to show people all things are possible.
• 42:45
  Give them a handbook, start your own charity
• 42:48
  where people can send in applications
• 42:52
  that they need real mentorship from you.
• 42:54
  Where how about this?
• 42:55
  How about a hand pick, a dozen people
• 42:58
  that fill applications that actually have real businesses
• 43:01
  that it might have are shot,
• 43:03
  that you invest in in finance,
• 43:05
  become their advisor, their partner.
• 43:07
  Those are the stories we need.
• 43:09
  That's somebody that the people that live in that frequency,
• 43:12
  because I've seen enough, they're healed.
• 43:15
  They get what real wealth is.
• 43:16
  We're blessed with real wealth and abundance
• 43:19
  so it can pay for all the other people.
• 43:21
  I have so much happening in my businesses right now.
• 43:25
  It is mind blowing.
• 43:27
  And it's because number one, I don't have the release
• 43:29
  but money that I use to.
• 43:31
  And Newt's will tell you,
• 43:33
  because you know, we're engaged,
• 43:34
  she's not only a client, I do nothing for me.
• 43:37
  I don't care.
• 43:38
  I need a couple of vacations a year, you know?
• 43:41
  If I go shopping, it's for sneakers,
• 43:42
  indeed it's in Nike's sweatpants and some t-shirts.
• 43:45
  I don't, all that stuff, I've lived it.
• 43:48
  I know it does make me happy.
• 43:50
  I love blessing other people.
• 43:52
  I love blessing my girls, my office in California,
• 43:55
  and my people back in New Jersey,
• 43:57
  and just putting smiles on other people's faces.
• 44:00
  And that just continues to deepen and strengthen
• 44:05
  that self-esteem, paying a forward others.
• 44:08
  It's so interesting how when you serve people,
• 44:11
  the money comes anyways.
• 44:13
  Dan, Flight Shimmer and I spoke a couple of days ago.
• 44:15
  I know you've had them and we had this conversation
• 44:17
  two days ago, I guess, dude, there's nothing better.
• 44:19
  We even go deeper talk about like our exes,
• 44:22
  like we had this conversation about,
• 44:24
  I'm like, I don't hold the grudge against anybody.
• 44:26
  If somebody didn't work here,
• 44:28
  but I don't really ship a one,
• 44:29
  and they've needed my help from time to time,
• 44:31
  they will all tell you, I'm the one they call.
• 44:35
  That's not a simp, that's a good human.
• 44:38
  That knows that if it didn't end,
• 44:41
  obviously catastrophically,
• 44:42
  I mean, the certain ways, certainly ships end that.
• 44:45
  I don't fully agree with it,
• 44:46
  depending on the situation,
• 44:47
  but somebody's a good person,
• 44:49
  and you just had a situation in time
• 44:51
  that whatever it might be.
• 44:53
  I don't ever see an issue with an ex boyfriend,
• 44:56
  a girlfriend helping each other,
• 44:57
  guiding each other, advice for each other,
• 44:59
  you know, how to get ahead financially.
• 45:02
  Like, you know, you gotta let your past make you better,
• 45:05
  not bitter, and I think there's a big misconception on that too.
• 45:09
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  I'd go to Indeed and be super specific.
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  Not just can you edit audio,
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  I'd say I need someone who's edited a conversational podcast
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  and here's the thing with indeed sponsor jobs.
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  or if you're an entrepreneur who's hired marketers
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  or if your founder who leads a whole marketing team,
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  you know the drill.
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  You are creating content for 12 different channels.
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  You're launching campaigns, you're scoring leads,
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  you're analyzing all the data.
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  And somewhere in there, you're actually
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  supposed to do great marketing.
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  And it's exhausting and you're spread to them.
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• 46:57
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  that you shouldn't have to do yourself.
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  It remixes your content instantly.
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  So you're not starting from scratch every single time.
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  It handles lead scoring.
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  So you know exactly who to focus on
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  which customers will probably convert.
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  And it pulls all your analytics and your data
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  and KPIs into one place instead of having them scattered
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  across 15 different tabs and tools.
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  Plus the AI agents that HubSpot builds for you
• 47:23
  can automate the repetitive stuff
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  that's eating away your day.
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  without burning out.
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  instead of duct tape together.
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  to see how this actually works.
• 47:39
  I just wish that more people would just
• 47:41
  when they're trying to live and be successful
• 47:44
  and sort of achieve their purpose,
• 47:46
  if they just focused on giving everything that they've learned
• 47:50
  to the world, like teaching the world what they've learned
• 47:52
  or just helping the world, giving value to the world,
• 47:54
  the money comes anyways.
• 47:56
  The money always comes anyways.
• 47:58
  The money always comes, like there's never anybody
• 48:00
  who's like, I've given non-stop value to the world
• 48:04
  my entire life and I end up coming back to me
• 48:06
  and I can't pay my bills.
• 48:07
  I've never heard it.
• 48:08
  It doesn't exist.
• 48:09
  It just doesn't fucking exist.
• 48:11
  And I just wish people would,
• 48:13
  it seems like this whole hustle culture,
• 48:16
  the people you're talking about on Instagram
• 48:18
  or the posts and their yachts.
• 48:19
  And it seems like they're just trying
• 48:21
  to extract as much value from the world.
• 48:23
  Let me just take as much as I can from the world.
• 48:27
  That's the wrong way to think of a business,
• 48:28
  entrepreneurship, living.
• 48:31
  And like even, you know, you were making money
• 48:35
  and you were doing good work,
• 48:37
  but you were just like, you weren't living the right way.
• 48:40
  Exactly.
• 48:41
  You weren't living the right way.
• 48:42
  I was like, how do I serve myself, how do I serve myself?
• 48:46
  And that's what happened.
• 48:47
  Now on the other side of this,
• 48:49
  when you are healing
• 48:52
  and when you are looking at wealth and success
• 48:54
  in a completely different light,
• 48:56
  like people have to understand,
• 48:57
  it's not like you're not making money anymore at all,
• 49:01
  at all at all.
• 49:02
  It just means you are doing it in a way
• 49:05
  that is serving yourself, serving the world.
• 49:07
  You're not self-destructive.
• 49:08
  You don't have a, there's no limit now on your life anymore
• 49:11
  because the way you make money
• 49:13
  and the way you build a business
• 49:14
  and the way you sort of put yourself out into the world.
• 49:17
  Yeah, there's a business component to it,
• 49:21
  but also you're not gonna die of an overdose
• 49:24
  or kill yourself or God forbid do something
• 49:28
  that's illegal or wrong or immoral
• 49:30
  just because of the way that you operate.
• 49:32
  Out of the hundreds of entries
• 49:33
  I've done here the first person to ever put it out that way
• 49:36
  and I never thought about it,
• 49:37
  but I've done a lot of interviews and TV
• 49:41
  and talk shows and been on Q&A panels.
• 49:46
  And people actually asked me, am I still an agent?
• 49:49
  Because my passion is so much,
• 49:51
  but just like you said, no, that hasn't stopped.
• 49:54
  Like my week was crazy and I'm not,
• 49:56
  none of this is to name drop a reality.
• 49:58
  It was magic on Monday.
• 50:00
  They had Larry Bird do something in Naples yesterday.
• 50:02
  Like we're around all the guys,
• 50:05
  Charlie Sheen's gotta do something tonight in New Jersey.
• 50:08
  We're very blessed to have the talent that we have.
• 50:12
  I just choose not to talk about it all the time.
• 50:15
  People to maybe be a little bit more intrigued
• 50:18
  by my story like to hear some of those stories
• 50:22
  and like I've said, Gogans and speaking tomorrow night.
• 50:25
  But that's not what gets me fired off.
• 50:27
  This is not your identity anymore.
• 50:28
  No, I'm talking about it.
• 50:29
  I'm talking about it because I'm talking about not to name drop.
• 50:32
  I'm talking about it because it's real.
• 50:33
  Yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 50:34
  This is what the schedule of this week was.
• 50:36
  I told you before we went on camera,
• 50:38
  what the week was like.
• 50:39
  The one that was the most emotional was going to do my mom's
• 50:43
  one year unveiling us at the cemetery.
• 50:45
  I told you and the fact that I'd such gratitude
• 50:48
  as heartbreaking and as to see her and my dad together
• 50:51
  on the same different plots next to each other.
• 50:54
  What a blessing that dad had me sober
• 50:56
  for eight and a half years and my mom had me for 16 and a half.
• 50:58
  That means more than any of the other stuff
• 51:00
  that's happening this week.
• 51:01
  I know and it's because like your identity
• 51:03
  is no longer just money, right?
• 51:05
  Your identity is service or the celebrity life
• 51:07
  or the celebrity life.
• 51:09
  There's a few words that you said,
• 51:10
  like a few quotes that I really, really like.
• 51:13
  One of them, I want you to tell me exactly what it means
• 51:16
  because I think it'll mean a lot for people
• 51:17
  that are going through a very hard time in their life
• 51:19
  or they're addicted to something.
• 51:20
  And keep it, when I say addicted to something,
• 51:23
  it could be addicted to work.
• 51:24
  It could be addicted to drugs.
• 51:26
  It could be addicted to a variety of different things.
• 51:29
  Can I have like food, can I have food, anything?
• 51:31
  Any addiction working out.
• 51:33
  And this is a whole other idea.
• 51:34
  Patrick, but David first said this idea
• 51:36
  and I actually really resonated.
• 51:37
  So if people don't believe in this
• 51:38
  not like a spiritual religious podcast,
• 51:41
  but I think this is a valid point.
• 51:42
  If people don't have a God in their life
• 51:46
  in a traditional sense, in a healthy sense,
• 51:48
  then they replace God with some other version of God
• 51:50
  and they worship something else.
• 51:51
  And worshiping something else, idolizing something else,
• 51:56
  to gain food, women, gambling, work, whatever it is,
• 51:59
  idolizing any of these things, it's again,
• 52:02
  self-serving and highly destructive.
• 52:04
  So you cannot idolize anything that just benefits you.
• 52:09
  Like your goal in life should be to give value,
• 52:12
  idolize nothing and just pursue giving value to the world
• 52:15
  and then all the other stuff will come back to you
• 52:16
  in the meantime.
• 52:17
  But you mentioned something about addiction
• 52:20
  and then I think addiction is the same as idolizing,
• 52:23
  is the same as unhealthy obsession,
• 52:24
  is the same as replacing traditional God
• 52:27
  with worshiping some other part of your life.
• 52:30
  But you said the opposite of addiction is connection.
• 52:34
  Explain to me what that means from somebody
• 52:37
  who is worshiping something, they shouldn't be worshiping.
• 52:41
  So Ironic let him if you watched my J. Sheddinger,
• 52:44
  but that's the one that blew him away the most.
• 52:46
  He's like, oh, is that powerful?
• 52:50
  You know, it's the truth.
• 52:51
  It's a disconnect, you know, addiction is,
• 52:56
  you know, when you literally have a disconnect of here.
• 53:00
  So when you get back, dialed back into a power greater
• 53:05
  than herself, but God of your understanding
• 53:08
  anything in life, we could take that power back
• 53:11
  because when you're in an addictive state of anything,
• 53:14
  the biggest struggle is the lack of power.
• 53:17
  So when you could take that back and stay in your truth
• 53:19
  no matter how the healing has to take place,
• 53:22
  the support group, whatever that might be,
• 53:24
  the individuals, the meditation, the prayer,
• 53:28
  the religious center's church's temples
• 53:32
  so you would go to, you're now surrounding
• 53:36
  yourself a vibration of a connection of people
• 53:40
  that understand that connectivity
• 53:42
  and what's needed to stay on that path
• 53:46
  because by meetings that can miss here and there,
• 53:51
  it's not the end of the world,
• 53:52
  but I just feel like a better person when I get to them
• 53:55
  because I often say, like I've said a many interviews,
• 53:59
  I want to be the highest vibrating spiritual being
• 54:01
  and I could be.
• 54:02
  I want to say what I mean, mean what I say
• 54:04
  and not say it, mean, in the heat of an argument
• 54:08
  dealing with the other earth people, I don't want to engage,
• 54:12
  I'd rather just feel all right than right,
• 54:14
  even if I know I'm right, just let it go
• 54:18
  because for any of your listeners,
• 54:20
  the minute you engage and the minute you give back
• 54:24
  that energy, I didn't care if you win that day,
• 54:27
  you've lost because your day's off.
• 54:30
  You know, you've now put yourself into a bad, bad energy space
• 54:34
  and it's just so bad, you know,
• 54:37
  if the twight is just being kind and being in service
• 54:39
  and knowing what our character flaws are, you know,
• 54:42
  like, look, we're not doormats.
• 54:45
  I understand we're human beings every once in a while,
• 54:47
  but it's also, as our parents, you say we know it,
• 54:50
  it's not what you say, it's how you say it.
• 54:53
  That's why I choose to say what I mean,
• 54:55
  mean what I say and not say, mean.
• 54:56
  Now, of course my human will occasionally,
• 55:00
  my sober sponsor, Steve,
• 55:03
  he's like my big spiritual brother, you know,
• 55:05
  we say he still tells me this day,
• 55:07
  once in a while, I can remember what I told you
• 55:08
  if you snap and it happens and you don't feel bad,
• 55:12
  he goes, that's when you're not a doormat.
• 55:14
  Occasionally, you just got to put people into their place.
• 55:18
  He goes, but it's the tone, it's the way you do it.
• 55:22
  You don't need to go like psychotic,
• 55:25
  but you do it to the point where you protect your energy,
• 55:29
  and this is also why the people you surround,
• 55:31
  a couple thoughts just on this topic,
• 55:33
  but the people you surround yourself with
• 55:35
  are so damn important because those are the people
• 55:37
  that give you the right energy,
• 55:39
  encourage the right behaviors.
• 55:40
  This is not a free big as components
• 55:43
  of drug addiction alcoholism right at the top,
• 55:46
  people, places and things.
• 55:48
  The people you hang with, the places you go
• 55:50
  and the things that you do will determine your recovery
• 55:54
  or the quality of your recovery,
• 55:55
  more than anything you ever do.
• 55:57
  And on the inverse, look at the other side of that,
• 56:00
  that can also be the reason why you do get addicted.
• 56:04
  And I actually think this is why isolation is so dangerous
• 56:09
  and we are more isolated than ever before after COVID.
• 56:13
  So if we're sitting at home and we don't have good community
• 56:16
  people around us and all of our input is social media
• 56:20
  and Twitter and argument and anger and animosity,
• 56:25
  that fuels addiction, that fuels bad behavior
• 56:27
  and I think that one of the first steps,
• 56:30
  one of the many steps and you sort of just said this,
• 56:32
  but is to get yourself into environments that are healthy,
• 56:37
  get yourself out of your own head
• 56:38
  and get yourself around people that can hold you accountable
• 56:41
  and lift you up.
• 56:42
  100% I mean the isolation, look, I need to,
• 56:46
  even this morning on my grounding that with my,
• 56:48
  it was my grounding that was my hydrogen water,
• 56:50
  it was meditation, I got to work out
• 56:53
  and you know, eat clean everything I have to do
• 56:54
  because like, here's the thing,
• 56:57
  like healing is an ongoing journey.
• 56:59
  You're never fully healed.
• 57:01
  I choose to say I'm recovered from drug addiction
• 57:06
  because I do basically what I knew every single day
• 57:09
  to stay in that recover frequency.
• 57:12
  I just connect for a week or two, trust me,
• 57:15
  I know this is not a lifetime cure.
• 57:17
  I know it's a one day at a time.
• 57:18
  I love getting high.
• 57:20
  I'm gonna sit here and tell you,
• 57:21
  seven day after you lose,
• 57:22
  I love being high and isolating.
• 57:25
  I just can't do it successfully.
• 57:27
  That's what most real addicts that are on the path
• 57:30
  of sobriety understand.
• 57:31
  So without that connection of individuals
• 57:35
  that know what that's like, you don't stand a chance,
• 57:38
  but it's not just in drugs and alcohol, like I said,
• 57:40
  it's whatever your addiction or your character flaws
• 57:44
  had find that group online,
• 57:47
  whatever it might be, read those books
• 57:50
  to strengthen that connection,
• 57:52
  be around people that understand exactly
• 57:55
  what it is that you're going through.
• 57:56
  And especially ones that have more experience at it,
• 57:59
  go into the good side crossing over
• 58:01
  because you will, you'll take from them
• 58:04
  and you're helping them too
• 58:05
  because you're gonna remind them about what it was like
• 58:08
  a little bit early on,
• 58:09
  whether it was a shopping addiction, food addiction,
• 58:12
  sex addiction, gambling addiction,
• 58:15
  so many problems out there.
• 58:16
  And helping others, I assume, helps you.
• 58:20
  That's number one.
• 58:21
  It's number one.
• 58:22
  I've unfortunately seen people fail and die.
• 58:26
  I mean, I scholarshiped a guy during COVID
• 58:29
  and the wife, well, the ex-wife,
• 58:33
  she took, she got the kids away from home
• 58:36
  and she called me, we actually grew up in the same town
• 58:39
  and I spoke to the guy and called me great
• 58:43
  and Brandon Novak, one of my spiritual recovery brothers
• 58:46
  from Jack has, he got on the phone with the guy too
• 58:48
  and we're super pumped and the guy's like,
• 58:50
  thank you for this.
• 58:51
  I'm going to the treatment center and not tomorrow,
• 58:54
  left me a message and I just went into that weekend.
• 58:59
  Man, I did God's work again.
• 59:00
  Thank you, God.
• 59:02
  And that Monday morning, the woman called me
• 59:04
  and I could tell something's wrong in her voice
• 59:09
  and he left the center at Sunday night
• 59:11
  and they found them dead in the park.
• 59:13
  And it just set in at that time
• 59:17
  where I was like, I'm truly part of this fellowship
• 59:21
  where as terrible as the sounds
• 59:25
  that we need to see people fail and die
• 59:27
  so I can live, so we can live,
• 59:30
  to understand that this is life and death.
• 59:33
  Like there's people who are losing more lives
• 59:36
  from drug addiction and substance use
• 59:38
  and mental health than anything, anything.
• 59:41
  And I need to be on my eagum every single day
• 59:45
  to make sure that I don't take a step backwards, you know?
• 59:49
  And that opposite addiction is connection,
• 59:52
  the connection is everything for me
• 59:54
  to stay in that vibration.
• 59:56
  What is that?
• 59:56
  What is that?
• 59:57
  This is for people.
• 59:59
  This is the insignia for the famous side.
• 1:00:02
  At this point, I'm going to have to break out in a minute.
• 1:00:04
  This is alcoholics anonymous,
• 1:00:06
  and they basically, you know, this was the insignia
• 1:00:09
  June 10th of 1935 when the 12-step fellowship was formed.
• 1:00:14
  And, you know, certain old-timers, I apologize
• 1:00:20
  to disrespect, but I live in a different way.
• 1:00:22
  I like people to ask what it is
• 1:00:24
  because even yesterday at my mom's,
• 1:00:29
  we had a lunch for 30 people celebrating my mom.
• 1:00:32
  And one of the waiters came over to me and he said,
• 1:00:36
  man, I'm in recovery today
• 1:00:38
  because how much time do you have?
• 1:00:39
  And I was like 17, half years ago, man, I got seven.
• 1:00:42
  We had a meeting for like 15 minutes with each other.
• 1:00:45
  It's the greatest thing in the world.
• 1:00:46
  Here I'm after dealing with the emotions
• 1:00:48
  to see my mom and my dad trying to stay in gratitude.
• 1:00:51
  And I see this young waiter
• 1:00:53
  and we're in the corner of the restaurant
• 1:00:55
  talking about 15 minutes about.
• 1:00:56
  And so I proudly wear this
• 1:00:58
  because it's why you have me here.
• 1:01:02
  I also think that people underestimate
• 1:01:05
  how much of an impact they have on other people
• 1:01:07
  just by living a good life.
• 1:01:10
  I don't think the average person understands
• 1:01:11
  that people are always watching.
• 1:01:13
  And they're always looking
• 1:01:14
  and they're always wondering, not wondering.
• 1:01:17
  They're always saying, okay, so can I look up to this person?
• 1:01:21
  What have they accomplished?
• 1:01:23
  And you can be a role model in someone's life
• 1:01:26
  without ever knowing it.
• 1:01:28
  Like even the fact that you wear this
• 1:01:31
  and that waiter comes up to you,
• 1:01:33
  like that 15 minute conversation
• 1:01:35
  that's such an advantage.
• 1:01:35
  A big strange number.
• 1:01:36
  He goes, I'd love to stay and talk to it
• 1:01:37
  but you never know what someone else is going through.
• 1:01:39
  I just wish more people would be less selfish about life in general
• 1:01:44
  because if you realize that it's not just your life
• 1:01:46
  that you impact when you make stupid decisions
• 1:01:49
  or you're an asshole or you regress
• 1:01:52
  or you take something or treat somebody a certain way
• 1:01:56
  or it's like there's ripple effects to every single action.
• 1:02:01
  And there could be somebody who looks up to you
• 1:02:04
  who their world view is just shattered
• 1:02:06
  because you did something that you shouldn't have done.
• 1:02:09
  Yeah, well, no.
• 1:02:10
  And we've seen that on forex.
• 1:02:11
  Like people that are very highly respected and highly regarded,
• 1:02:15
  you know, and it's like I truly got to this place
• 1:02:18
  that I've set up before I interviewed my boy Omar.
• 1:02:21
  I said, I think on some other ones that probably I don't care
• 1:02:26
  about the money anymore.
• 1:02:27
  And I think that's why I manifest like I care about my purpose.
• 1:02:32
  And it's like if I lost the business
• 1:02:34
  and the world turns upside down financially
• 1:02:37
  and I lost the money and couldn't live where I live
• 1:02:41
  and drive the car that I drive, it doesn't change me.
• 1:02:45
  I'm moving to a little studio
• 1:02:47
  like this beautiful podcast studio.
• 1:02:50
  And I'm good because I found me, I'll figure life out.
• 1:02:54
  I know enough people out there at that.
• 1:02:56
  Darren Prince is gonna be okay
• 1:02:57
  because I found what matters the most.
• 1:03:00
  And it's an unbelievable feeling of like a super-paradid
• 1:03:04
  but it'll live that authentic and that transparent
• 1:03:07
  and share it with people in an effort to help so many
• 1:03:10
  that need to hear it and that are suffering.
• 1:03:12
  You speak at high school, you speak to kids,
• 1:03:14
  you mention that you really enjoy doing this.
• 1:03:16
  What scares you the most about a younger generation right now?
• 1:03:19
  Well, what's out there?
• 1:03:20
  I didn't have fentanyl.
• 1:03:22
  I didn't have some of the stuff that,
• 1:03:23
  oh, just the access.
• 1:03:25
  It's very scary.
• 1:03:26
  What's out there with them.
• 1:03:28
  And the access to it is like beyond.
• 1:03:33
  I mean, I've been not, I'm not a parent yet.
• 1:03:37
  Let's see what happens.
• 1:03:38
  There's obviously noots and I talk about it.
• 1:03:40
  I want to get married, but it's scary.
• 1:03:42
  And I knew I have kids, right?
• 1:03:43
  No, not yet.
• 1:03:44
  Oh, no, okay.
• 1:03:45
  That's next for us.
• 1:03:46
  I'm scared too.
• 1:03:47
  I am scared about like I want, I'm gonna have kids.
• 1:03:49
  I want kids for sure, but I'm scared.
• 1:03:51
  Yeah, it's a scary situation
• 1:03:53
  because I mean, they're always curious.
• 1:03:57
  Everybody's curious growing up
• 1:03:59
  and getting in with the clicks
• 1:04:01
  and certain groups of friends.
• 1:04:03
  And you don't want to sometimes
• 1:04:04
  that pure pressure.
• 1:04:05
  You don't want to kind of feel like
• 1:04:09
  you don't want to put yourself around an environment.
• 1:04:10
  I know very well to do younger kids that did fine.
• 1:04:14
  I never fell down that road, but they understood that.
• 1:04:16
  You're meeting people, you're experimenting.
• 1:04:19
  You're so, but nowadays it's so scary.
• 1:04:23
  What's out there?
• 1:04:24
  I mean, I hear so many stories of somebody
• 1:04:28
  just one time trying something
• 1:04:30
  and the parents lost their child.
• 1:04:32
  This is actually, this is not an issue
• 1:04:35
  that plagues a certain demographic.
• 1:04:38
  Like I know very, very wealthy.
• 1:04:40
  I know very wealthy families.
• 1:04:42
  Some good friends of ours that have lost their kids.
• 1:04:46
  It happens actually quite a bit in L.A.
• 1:04:50
  It's just, and it's not even addiction at this point.
• 1:04:53
  It's like party drugs that end up killing people.
• 1:04:56
  Yep.
• 1:04:58
  So, you know, I think that's what I said.
• 1:05:01
  It's just one night.
• 1:05:01
  One night a drink, something was in the drink, a pill,
• 1:05:05
  having an idea what was in it.
• 1:05:06
  Oh, you think you're taking something
• 1:05:07
  and it turns out to be something else.
• 1:05:09
  Yeah, well, I mean, so much as being like,
• 1:05:12
  just fentanyl now, man, they're putting it.
• 1:05:14
  I don't understand it.
• 1:05:15
  The philosophy I was like, like if I even at the mindset
• 1:05:20
  of being a drug deal,
• 1:05:21
  why are you putting something in something
• 1:05:23
  that's going to kill somebody?
• 1:05:24
  I don't get it.
• 1:05:25
  I don't understand it.
• 1:05:26
  It's making sense.
• 1:05:27
  Like, is it like, I'm like,
• 1:05:28
  since an aunt meant to kill everybody
• 1:05:30
  or like some people a bit of a bit like,
• 1:05:31
  just get high off it and feel good
• 1:05:33
  and wake up the next day.
• 1:05:34
  Like, I don't understand this.
• 1:05:36
  It's happening too much.
• 1:05:37
  Outside of fentanyl, what would be your,
• 1:05:41
  I mean, that's obviously the other concern.
• 1:05:43
  The other concerns, yeah.
• 1:05:45
  I think there are way too quiet up with success.
• 1:05:50
  And I'm pursuing this like Instagram version
• 1:05:52
  of support for Yards and bulls.
• 1:05:53
  And just in general, I don't think.
• 1:05:56
  I was at the White House three times
• 1:05:58
  during President Trump's first term,
• 1:06:00
  and I'll probably out there again, love him or hate him.
• 1:06:04
  I have a relationship with them
• 1:06:05
  from the celebrity apprentice days
• 1:06:07
  and his family's great.
• 1:06:08
  They've always been Donald's,
• 1:06:10
  always President Trump's,
• 1:06:11
  who has been a supporter to my charities and rehab stuff.
• 1:06:15
  And I got to get time with Kelly and Conway
• 1:06:18
  and Governor of Christy.
• 1:06:19
  And I told them, I was like,
• 1:06:20
  if you guys want to really help the mental health crisis
• 1:06:24
  and suicide and everything going on
• 1:06:28
  with this younger generation,
• 1:06:29
  why don't you start implementing
• 1:06:30
  in every grammar in high school,
• 1:06:32
  a self development course.
• 1:06:34
  If you start bringing in teachers
• 1:06:36
  that can teach them about self development and self love.
• 1:06:41
  Now you have the nerds, the geeks, the jocks,
• 1:06:44
  whatever group everybody wants to go.
• 1:06:45
  They're all in the same room together.
• 1:06:47
  And they can all throw out there
• 1:06:49
  and they're feeling and they can all be one.
• 1:06:51
  And now there's not anymore bullying and teasing
• 1:06:54
  because everybody's experiencing something.
• 1:06:57
  Part of the class would be,
• 1:06:59
  you have to live in full disclosure
• 1:07:01
  in this classroom or guess why?
• 1:07:02
  You're not getting to the next grade.
• 1:07:03
  That's what this is about.
• 1:07:05
  This is about, so you're ready to leave here
• 1:07:07
  and you take the next step to college.
• 1:07:09
  And then the role, you're going to look back
• 1:07:10
  at this course and this class
• 1:07:13
  that you've talked for six months, whatever right they,
• 1:07:15
  and say this is most impactful class you ever talk
• 1:07:18
  in your educational years.
• 1:07:20
  But they don't tell it.
• 1:07:21
  No, I know.
• 1:07:22
  I mean, we could do a whole podcast
• 1:07:23
  on things that I think are incorrect
• 1:07:24
  and wrong about education and what they teach
• 1:07:28
  versus what they don't teach.
• 1:07:29
  I love that.
• 1:07:30
  Everybody says it's an amazing idea.
• 1:07:32
  They loved it, but I don't regret it
• 1:07:35
  because I wouldn't be standing here
• 1:07:36
  with you sitting here with you today.
• 1:07:38
  But what a game changer it would be.
• 1:07:41
  But I think back now, if I had that at 14,
• 1:07:45
  think about your insecurities and things going,
• 1:07:47
  how cool would that be, man?
• 1:07:49
  Like in what a way to break bread
• 1:07:50
  and for everybody actually makes psychologically
• 1:07:54
  a healthier adult.
• 1:07:56
  Because again, most of the shit that you were talking about
• 1:07:58
  at the beginning, like why people pursue money
• 1:08:02
  or drugs or anything is because of some version
• 1:08:07
  of early childhood trauma that is implanted
• 1:08:10
  into your subconscious.
• 1:08:12
  And trauma doesn't have to be like,
• 1:08:14
  doesn't have to be bad.
• 1:08:15
  It doesn't have to be like, your parents were fighting.
• 1:08:17
  Exactly.
• 1:08:18
  No, it could be, well, your parents had ideas
• 1:08:21
  about what money is and isn't.
• 1:08:22
  And they always said, well, we can't afford that.
• 1:08:24
  So now there's something implanted in your brain about,
• 1:08:26
  now I've got to make more money.
• 1:08:27
  I'm afforded causing insecurity.
• 1:08:28
  I'm obsessed of nutrition.
• 1:08:30
  Or it could be, well, this nurse gave me this drug one time
• 1:08:34
  and I felt at a very young age when my brain isn't even fully,
• 1:08:38
  I don't think your brain's developed at 14.
• 1:08:39
  God forbid, no, it's not even developed
• 1:08:40
  till much later.
• 1:08:41
  So now you're just associating drugs with, okay,
• 1:08:45
  now I have a better, you know, I have more confidence
• 1:08:48
  and I have an easier time making friends.
• 1:08:51
  So that's a memory that's implanted in your brain.
• 1:08:54
  And you have all these memories that are implanted
• 1:08:56
  in your brain when you're just developing.
• 1:08:58
  And that shit does not leave you.
• 1:09:00
  Maybe you don't think about it every single day,
• 1:09:03
  but that isn't your subconscious until you die.
• 1:09:06
  Unless you get it out, talk about it, bring it to the forefront.
• 1:09:11
  And that's why a lot of people are 30, 40, 50
• 1:09:15
  or why can't I have a relationship?
• 1:09:17
  Why do I work, you know, 100 hours a week
• 1:09:21
  and make money when my wife or my husband
• 1:09:24
  doesn't even care about the money that I make?
• 1:09:26
  Why do I have such a poor relationship
• 1:09:28
  with my parents, my kid, all of this is from a young age.
• 1:09:33
  But there's ways to bring it out into the surface.
• 1:09:37
  You just had to, you were forced to bring it out into the surface
• 1:09:39
  or else you would have died.
• 1:09:40
  A hundred percent.
• 1:09:41
  But when I did a, I did Bradley a couple of times.
• 1:09:44
  My boy, I was maybe brother this year.
• 1:09:47
  I think I did, again, I was talking about the biohacking.
• 1:09:50
  I even do like frequency in my brain.
• 1:09:52
  It's this incredible center in West Lake Village, California
• 1:09:56
  called Sports IQ and Browitz next level stuff.
• 1:09:59
  They can measure your emotions with it
• 1:10:02
  and they can actually work on that.
• 1:10:03
  So like, it's mind blowing to me that like,
• 1:10:07
  when you're literally in that place, like, listen to us.
• 1:10:11
  Like, there is ways out there
• 1:10:13
  that you can watch this interview right now
• 1:10:15
  because of Scott's brilliant platform
• 1:10:17
  and there's hope for everybody
• 1:10:19
  if you're in that dark place.
• 1:10:21
  Like, it's all out there now
• 1:10:23
  and it's affordable and some it's free.
• 1:10:26
  Well, this is all free.
• 1:10:27
  You know, on YouTube and Apple, it's fine.
• 1:10:30
  It's all free.
• 1:10:31
  You know what I'm saying?
• 1:10:32
  But like, I'm saying some of the biohacking stuff
• 1:10:35
  and, you know, Gary Breckett got me set up a 10 X
• 1:10:38
  and he was like, you know, some of that, to some of that cost,
• 1:10:41
  but there's so much that doesn't.
• 1:10:43
  There's so many quick fixes on a daily
• 1:10:46
  that you can, if you have an apartment
• 1:10:48
  and you have a shower, I don't care if it's a ship box.
• 1:10:50
  Your shower works.
• 1:10:51
  Run a cold shower for a minute first thing in the morning.
• 1:10:55
  Watch what it does to your endorphins,
• 1:10:57
  don't mean go for a walk around the block,
• 1:10:59
  take your shoes off, walk on the grass for 15 minutes,
• 1:11:02
  consistently do start that routine for a week
• 1:11:07
  and read a couple good books.
• 1:11:09
  You know what I think it is?
• 1:11:10
  I think that the theme or the idea
• 1:11:14
  that will help the most people that I speak about a lot,
• 1:11:16
  it's just like ownership over your own shit.
• 1:11:19
  This is David Goggins.
• 1:11:20
  This is, this is the Apple willing.
• 1:11:23
  I think it's one of the first things I said to you.
• 1:11:25
  It's not your mother, father, sister, brother,
• 1:11:27
  husband, wife, own it.
• 1:11:29
  It was me.
• 1:11:31
  Nobody like, when you talk about ownership,
• 1:11:34
  like if you were to take in that green demoral sleep boy camp,
• 1:11:38
  I don't think it's gonna have the same effect
• 1:11:40
  on you that it had on me.
• 1:11:41
  It had it on me because I suppressed.
• 1:11:43
  I didn't tell the teachers what we're going on.
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  I didn't tell my parents I chose to keep inside
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  the way that I was feeling.
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  So I have to own everything that I did.
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  So I want to give you the opportunity to connect with you.
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  I know your book was a while ago,
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  but obviously if they want to get your book,
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  they can get it Amazon wherever you get your books.
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  Where else should they go?
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  Like social media and Instagram is at agent underscore DP.
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  My father once he free the aiming high foundation
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  website is aiminghighfoundation.org.
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  I'm still on Facebook.
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  Darren Prince, Los Angeles.
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  I'm on LinkedIn somewhere.
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  But yeah, I mean, this isn't about business.
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  Prince Mark and a group is the agency.
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  I can care less if somebody reaches out on that.
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  I prefer if we can get at least one person
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  from this interview that reaches out
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  and says, I saw your interview with Scott
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  and I'm struggling.
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  They're gonna find out how quickly I'll get on the phone.
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  Not not text messages.
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  Literally, we'll have my office set up a call
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  and see if I could do more of God's work
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  as an ambassador for him for him saving and changing my life
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  because there's nothing that means more to me.
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  What would be your last message
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  as somebody who's struggling right now?
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  You know, you don't have to live this way anymore.
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  I've been there.
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  I know where you're at and you can truly go through the dark
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  and come out on the light and have a life blender
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  while do streams, but you can't give up
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  and you have to be open to talk about it.
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  You gotta be able to tell somebody like me
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  or a family or a loved one what's going on.
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  The strength is in being vulnerable.
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  You know, not hiding it.
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  You know, when you're able to just come out
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  and have that freedom of saying everything
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  and not hiding it, the miracles start to happen.