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Autism In Children - (How I Was In Birthday Parties) · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  Autism in Children This is how I was as a child.
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  Hey guys, welcome back to the aspy world.
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  My name is Dan. I have autism, ADHD, OCD, and
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  dyslexia, and I make weekly videos on this type of content.
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  Guys, what's going on? Good to have you here.
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  What's going on? Yeah, So if you haven't already,
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  autismhacks.net right now. OK, guys, so I want to do this
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  video about autism and children because I have been a child and
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  I have autism. So I was being.
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  I've been an autistic child and there was so much like about it
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  that I wanted to kind of talk about, but I wanted to kind of
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  home in and stuff like birthday parties, because birthday
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  parties were a huge thing, you know, they were, they were a big
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  deal for me when I was growing up.
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  And I just think that, like, it'd be good for me to share
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  this knowledge with parents and caregivers and everybody else
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  who wants to listen and really just kind of figure out what,
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  what you can do to help, you know, your child or children
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  with an awesome special condition.
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  So before we go any further, guys, if you haven't already
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  now. It's just at the aspy world and
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  you can get in contact with me anytime you like.
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  I always respond true story. So autism creates lots of issues
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  in children, right from the aspect of socializing to sensory
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  processing disorder. And you know, when I was a kid,
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  I was very reserved and I was quiet and I wasn't able to make
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  new friends. I was barely able to keep the
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  ones I had. And you know, I prefer to stay
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  indoors and play with like electronic stuff, like
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  electronic kits and build things and like, you know, radio, like
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  CB radios and ham radios. I loved all that stuff and I'd
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  stay indoors all the time and do this.
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  But all the other kids were out riding their bikes and playing
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  in the streets and stuff like that.
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  And you know, it just wasn't for me.
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  But when I had birthday parties, it was really difficult.
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  My parents would put me, you know, put on a birthday party
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  for me, invite everyone from my class in school because I guess
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  that's what they did when you were in school.
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  It just invite the entire class, even if you weren't really
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  friends with the classes, with waves in it.
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  So my parents invite all these kids to this place in the.
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  I don't know what it was like by our house.
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  Right. And then there's like a big
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  hole. And then they invite all these
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  kids and they do all this birthday party stuff.
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  But I get so triggered and it would be so overwhelming, all
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  these kids and there's noise and there's foods I didn't even
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  like, you know, I didn't even like cheese sandwiches, like egg
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  sandwiches and everything like that.
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  And that's what they that was on, you know, it was weird.
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  So I kind of, like, took myself away from that and I'd get
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  really upset and kind of stressed out about it.
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  So my parents allowed me to just walk home, which is only like
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  across a small lane, to go back in the house and then go back in
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  the house and rest for a little bit and then come back out, go
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  to the party. And because I knew I had to do
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  it. And The thing is, I wanted to
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  see people, you know, I wanted to see my friends.
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  I wanted to be sociable and I liked having friends, but it was
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  just so overwhelming, like rows and rows and tables of food that
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  I didn't like and textures of food I didn't like.
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  And not to mention like music blasting out of the the stereo
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  was too too much for me. And then they they played games
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  which were just completely sensory triggering and anxiety
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  ridden. Like past the parcel.
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  Where you'd have a parcel, the music would stop and the person
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  would open it. But then the music would start
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  and you'd have to pass it on again until somebody got, you
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  know, a prize, which was crazy. And then the musical chairs
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  where, you know, you have to go and sit on a chair quickly and
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  then you take a chair away. Just horrible, man.
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  I was just saying such anxiety. I was so anxious about this
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  whole thing. I just just didn't really want
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  to do it, you know? And the the whole birthday party
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  thing was just with me. It was so stressful because my
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  parents weren't really switched on to like to to be like, Oh
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  yeah, well, you know, Dan doesn't like this.
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  And like, they were just kind of like, oh, it's just a birthday
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  party for kids or just do all this stuff.
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  You know, they did all the typical typical stuff.
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  If they sat down and asked me like, what do you want your
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  birthday party, how many kids, what kind of music level noise
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  and stuff, it would have been so much better.
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  But instead, it caused an unusual relationship between me
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  and my parents where they just say I was miserable and upset
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  with everything and I was just a miserable child and I would just
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  be triggered the whole time and I want to go back in and play
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  with like ham radios and CBS and stuff.
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  So it was very difficult and it was a it was a stressful time
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  actually. I think it got to a point where
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  where where my parents just were like, yeah, we're not going to
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  do, we're not going to do birthday parties anymore.
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  So they just stopped doing birthday parties for me and
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  didn't consult me on it. So I think that like, and
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  there's nothing wrong with my parents, it went horrible and
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  nasty. Maybe I'm portraying them wrong
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  here, but I just feel like a little bit of understanding
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  would have gone a long way. And This is why I'm making this
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  video. Because if I could talk to you
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  and teach you about how my childhood was, maybe, you know,
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  you and your children can have a more successful upbringing and a
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  better relationship around birthday parties and socializing
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  and all those things. You know, being a kid with an
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  autism special condition. Because it is just listening to
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  the kid and realizing what they need.
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  You know, This is why I did a course and I have a, you know,
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  I've got a course out all about this stuff to teach parents, you
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  know, about kids with autism and stuff like that, which you can
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  get from learnautism.net, which is a website where you can go
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  and sign up for that course. But, you know, it's so it's so
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  frustrating that I didn't or couldn't communicate my parents
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  in a better way when I was a kid.
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  But it is what it is and we must learn from these things and move
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  on. So you know, if you have
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  anything to add to this discussion, I'd love to continue
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  the conversation in the comment section with you.
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  So drop me a comment. I read every single one.
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  video, give it a thumbs up and I'll see you in the next one
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  guys.