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Ep121. Striking the Balance: Embracing Gratitude and the Desire for More. · The Inner Wealth Podcast

• 0:03
  Speaker 1: This is Mike Kitco and I'm a small business owner just like you.
• 0:06
  Speaker 1: I'll never be a hustle, horror, grind guru, but I do believe in having it all health, wealth and a life full of love.
• 0:12
  Speaker 1: Struggle is not the goal and sacrifice is not glamorous.
• 0:15
  Speaker 1: I like the path of least resistance.
• 0:18
  Speaker 1: It just takes a shift in mindset and the beliefs you hold.
• 0:20
  Speaker 1: You believe that you need to sacrifice now to have what you want later, or do you believe that you can have it all all the time?
• 0:27
  Speaker 1: Does your beliefs create your outcomes?
• 0:29
  Speaker 1: I choose to feel wealthy, successful and happy every day, and you get to choose for yourself.
• 0:35
  Speaker 1: Welcome to Lead Love, profit Play, where small business owners learn and choose to have it all and choose to create success without distress.
• 0:43
  Speaker 1: This episode is set to publish on Thanksgiving Day in the United States, 2023.
• 0:56
  Speaker 1: This is my single favorite day of the year.
• 1:02
  Speaker 1: Thanksgiving Day happens the fourth Thursday of every November every year throughout the United States.
• 1:09
  Speaker 1: It's a recognized holiday, federal holiday, and it's a time for giving thanks and for counting your blessings and taking inventory of all the goodness that you have in your life.
• 1:22
  Speaker 1: And this is my single favorite day of the year.
• 1:25
  Speaker 1: The gratitude part is when I was growing up as a little boy.
• 1:31
  Speaker 1: It wasn't as much about the gratitude for me growing up as it was about the traditions of the food and football.
• 1:39
  Speaker 1: My day starts really early when I open my eyes and I am the cook around the house.
• 1:49
  Speaker 1: I do all the grocery shopping, my wife does some of the shopping, but I do all the grocery shopping and I prepare the food.
• 1:58
  Speaker 1: And I wake up and I'll start cutting vegetables for stuffing and I'll start cutting the mushrooms so I can make a.
• 2:05
  Speaker 1: There's this mushroom dish that I make and I have a turkey right now that's brining and it's going to be ready on Thanksgiving Day and after being brined for a couple days and I'll throw it on the smoker and it's just an amazing day and my day starts early and I start doing the prepping and I get everything ready and then football comes on in the morning and I'll turn football on and, man, the house smells great and it looks great.
• 2:32
  Speaker 1: My wife decorated and on Halloween Day this year, october 31st, we actually put the Christmas tree up and it's lit.
• 2:40
  Speaker 1: It's not decorated but it is lit and my house is very festive.
• 2:44
  Speaker 1: And on Thanksgiving Day it's going to be even more festive, my single favorite day of the year and it is a day that's recognized for giving thanks and counting your blessings and stopping and pausing a second and reflecting on how awesome life really is in the first world countries, how good we really have it in the world.
• 3:10
  Speaker 1: Now my family, twice this year, traveled outside the United States and we travel outside the United States regularly and we travel all over the United States regularly.
• 3:21
  Speaker 1: But we've seen destitute places, we've seen impoverished places, we've seen 10 cities and places where people live in abject poverty.
• 3:33
  Speaker 1: So gratitude comes really easy for me and my kids have seen the slums and seen poverty in other countries.
• 3:43
  Speaker 1: So we're a family that's really grateful more days than just one, but this is just an extra special day to increase that level of gratitude and help you reflect on that all day long.
• 3:58
  Speaker 1: Now when, when I'm doing my work inside of Interwealth Global, one question that comes up regularly and let's look, I live a really good life and we are financially, we're blessed and I've got, you know, our mastermind just keeps growing and it's phenomenal.
• 4:19
  Speaker 1: Our business keeps growing.
• 4:20
  Speaker 1: So I'm blessed in many, many ways.
• 4:23
  Speaker 1: I'm blessed with health, I'm blessed with a lot of love in our family and I'm blessed with you know, a growing business, a business that makes a difference in the world and makes a powerful impact.
• 4:31
  Speaker 1: I'm blessed in so many ways.
• 4:34
  Speaker 1: I live a, I have time, freedom, I there's nothing on my calendar that I that I have to do with everything on my calendar.
• 4:40
  Speaker 1: I get to do it.
• 4:40
  Speaker 1: It's not out of obligation, everything's cancelable, and the life that I designed in 2017 is the life that I'm living right now and it's wonderful A life of travel and a life of a life of impact and a life of just just doing things that I love to, to create wealth and to create success and to create impact.
• 5:01
  Speaker 1: But in our mastermind and in our business and in our workshop we just finished up a workshop in our workshop, a question comes up regularly how, how can we be grateful for what we have and stay hungry for more?
• 5:21
  Speaker 1: And fair question, fair question how can we be grateful for what we have and stay hungry for more?
• 5:29
  Speaker 1: Now, this hasn't, this hasn't been easy for me.
• 5:32
  Speaker 1: My whole life I was.
• 5:33
  Speaker 1: You know, if I go back to to my, my, my childhood roots, I grew up in a family where it was you, you were almost dissuaded from wanting, like wanting anything was met with a little bit of shame and some guilt, and and you know people, all you, you just you know whatever you you never satisfied, you always want more, and so it was almost like it was almost like I grew up in a family where you were trained to turn off your want valve and to feel guilty and to feel shameful for wanting anything and and and listen that that that didn't serve me during the course of my life.
• 6:16
  Speaker 1: Now, obviously, our parents do the best they can.
• 6:19
  Speaker 1: I think I do believe that everybody in this world is is doing the best they can.
• 6:24
  Speaker 1: Every single person, eight billion people on the planet.
• 6:27
  Speaker 1: Everybody's doing the best they can.
• 6:28
  Speaker 1: Sometimes it's just not that good.
• 6:31
  Speaker 1: But when, when I was going through you know, religious indoctrination and growing up in a house that I grew up in and being exposed to, you know, I don't know principles that poisonous principles that wanting is not okay or that that that desiring is not okay.
• 6:51
  Speaker 1: This should.
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  Speaker 1: It goes against the human, basic, human premise of creativity and and of of, of abundance and receiving and and accepting, like the goodness of life, the abundance of life, the, the richness of life.
• 7:07
  Speaker 1: There's plenty to go around for everybody.
• 7:09
  Speaker 1: You can have as much as you want, it doesn't mean it it it needs to be taken away from somebody else, like everything keeps expanding in on the face of the earth and everything keeps expanding in the universe.
• 7:23
  Speaker 1: And being grateful sometimes we confuse being grateful for not receiving more, and these two are not in conflict.
• 7:35
  Speaker 1: These two are not in conflict.
• 7:37
  Speaker 1: When we talk about, on Thanksgiving Day, being grateful, it doesn't mean that for the day, we stop wanting more.
• 7:44
  Speaker 1: It means that the way I phrase it is listen, I love what I have and I'm satisfied with what I have and I'm grateful for what I have, but I am open to receiving more.
• 7:59
  Speaker 1: I'm always open to receiving more.
• 8:03
  Speaker 1: I'm grateful for what I have and I have everything I need, but I'll always stay open for more.
• 8:11
  Speaker 1: And this comes in the form of wealth and students and the impact I make in the world and the wealth that my family enjoys, the financial wherewithal that my family enjoys, the amount of the goodness of the food, the quality of the food that we get to enjoy, the materials that we have in our life.
• 8:42
  Speaker 1: And it's almost ironic that in the US, thanksgiving Day, the 4th Thursday of November, is immediately followed by a day called Black Friday, in which the reason it's called Black Friday is because companies in the United States they go on like hyper-tear to discount everything to drive consumer demand.
• 9:10
  Speaker 1: That, for the most part, finally puts them into the black for the year.
• 9:14
  Speaker 1: And if you look at a lot of commercial entities, a lot of consumerism, consumer type products, the companies are in the red until Thanksgiving, until Black Friday, and that's when they finally break into profitability for the year and then they accelerate their profitability through the holidays, through the Christmas holidays.
• 9:36
  Speaker 1: Then they go back into the red right at the beginning of the year, the new year, and we have a day of Thanksgiving and then it's immediately followed by Black Friday where consumer demand just goes through the roof.
• 9:54
  Speaker 1: And listen, here's some concepts that I would invite you to stew on and to, I guess, bang against each other.
• 10:05
  Speaker 1: There's a concept of wanting there's a reason that somebody would want that is painful, that will create struggle where struggle doesn't exist.
• 10:22
  Speaker 1: And that's when there's a feeling or a state or a condition of lack inside of your mind and body, where you feel like something's missing in your life.
• 10:33
  Speaker 1: And listen, you want things, but there's a difference between wanting and needing and you need very little oxygen, water, nutrition, exercise and rest a little bit, of shelter around you.
• 10:50
  Speaker 1: Your needs are very basic, but your wants are many, because the mind wants to want more than it actually wants to have.
• 11:01
  Speaker 1: Your mind wants to want more than it wants to enjoy what it already has.
• 11:05
  Speaker 1: So sometimes, in some cases, your mind creates a state of lack in your mind and your body which makes you feel incomplete.
• 11:15
  Speaker 1: And as soon as I get this thing, then I'll feel complete.
• 11:19
  Speaker 1: It could be with cars, it could be with money, it could be with clothes, it could be with anything the size of your house, it could be with a new boat, it could be with a new career.
• 11:33
  Speaker 1: As soon as I have this thing, then I'll feel okay.
• 11:38
  Speaker 1: And one of my favorite concepts, one of the favorite quotes that I share, is the thing you want will not solve the problem that you have.
• 11:49
  Speaker 1: The problem that you have is you think you have a problem.
• 11:52
  Speaker 1: Now I'll repeat that the thing you want will not solve the problem that you have.
• 12:00
  Speaker 1: The problem that you have is that you think you have a problem because your basic needs if you're listening to this podcast, if you're watching this recording your basic needs are met Oxygen, water, nutrition, exercise, rest, a little bit of shelter around you.
• 12:15
  Speaker 1: If you're watching this or listening to this on a $1,000, multi-thousand dollar device, you have everything you need.
• 12:25
  Speaker 1: If there's a sense of lack in you, like something you don't have enough, or it's incomplete, or you're unfulfilled, the problem is that you feel unfulfilled, not that you don't have that thing.
• 12:37
  Speaker 1: The problem is that you're living with a state of lack inside of you, not that you don't have a thing.
• 12:45
  Speaker 1: The problem is that you think you need something to be okay when you don't need something to be okay, the problem isn't that you don't have something.
• 12:54
  Speaker 1: The problem is that you think you need something to be okay.
• 12:57
  Speaker 1: Now we go back to Thanksgiving and we go back to state of gratitude for having everything that we need in our life oxygen, water, nutrition, exercise, rest, some shelter.
• 13:12
  Speaker 1: We have everything that we need in our life to be okay.
• 13:16
  Speaker 1: We follow that immediately up with lack advertising, where these companies, where the media, where marketing agencies, where advertisers will create a sense of lack in you that they promise to fulfill.
• 13:31
  Speaker 1: There's not a state of lack, but awesome marketers, talented marketers, talented advertisers can create a sense of lack in you even though one doesn't exist.
• 13:48
  Speaker 1: They use your insecurities against you.
• 13:50
  Speaker 1: They use your inadequacies against you.
• 13:52
  Speaker 1: They use states of insignificance against you.
• 13:56
  Speaker 1: They create pain and they create suffering.
• 14:00
  Speaker 1: They create lack in you, even though there's not Then the problem that they create.
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  Speaker 1: They promise to fix.
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  Speaker 1: The thing that you want will not solve the problem that you have.
• 14:14
  Speaker 1: The problem that you have is you think you have a problem.
• 14:16
  Speaker 1: Does this mean that you shouldn't want anything?
• 14:21
  Speaker 1: No, it doesn't mean that.
• 14:24
  Speaker 1: It means be grateful for what you have, because you have everything that you need to survive oxygen, water, nutrition, exercise, rest and some shelter.
• 14:34
  Speaker 1: We live in a very materially rich universe, a very materially rich world, a world abundant with money and abundant with nature and natural resources and abundant with human beings and abundant with options and opportunities and experiences and adventure and beautiful destinations, from the mountains to the seas, to the desert.
• 14:58
  Speaker 1: To now, we're going into outer space.
• 15:01
  Speaker 1: We live in a universe and we live in a world that's full of so much goodness, invited in but not to solve an internal conflict that's not going to be solved by something outside of you.
• 15:16
  Speaker 1: I have right now.
• 15:21
  Speaker 1: We have 40 students in our mastermind, 40 seats filled in our mastermind and there are more than 40 people in our mastermind because we invite the spouse, we invite the committed life partner in as part of the seat.
• 15:36
  Speaker 1: So, although we have 40 seats filled, we have 60 people, 60, some people in there because their partners are part of our mastermind, part of our group and I don't need number 41, I don't need number 42, I don't need number 43, my goal is 100, I don't need 100, but it's an experience and adventure.
• 15:58
  Speaker 1: It's a lot of fun to continue to expand it and create it.
• 16:02
  Speaker 1: But I know all my basic needs are met and this business is something that I get excited to wake up to every day.
• 16:09
  Speaker 1: And I don't need more clients, but experiencing the building of more clients and a richer community and a more meaningful and powerful community, that is worth the fricking ticket price.
• 16:21
  Speaker 1: But it's different.
• 16:25
  Speaker 1: My wants are not needs.
• 16:28
  Speaker 1: And when there's a sense of lack inside of you that you're trying to fill with a new television or with a new car, or with new clothes or with a new watch or with a new whatever, when there's a sense of lack inside of you, a sense of unfulfillment, that you're trying to solve through some external resource, through some material or another amount of wealth or just your addiction to more.
• 16:56
  Speaker 1: If you're trying to solve an internal problem, it's because you've made your wants needs and you need very little oxygen, water, nutrition, exercise and rest.
• 17:07
  Speaker 1: If you're listening to this, you don't need anything, but if you want comes from a place of lack, then you're missing the whole point of all of this.
• 17:22
  Speaker 1: My friend Brian and I have a word and I mean I just stole the word from them, but we call it funsies.
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: We're building our business for funsies.
• 17:34
  Speaker 1: We're I host workshop workshops for funsies.
• 17:40
  Speaker 1: In our last workshop we signed eight new students.
• 17:44
  Speaker 1: Eight new seats filled for funsies.
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: Now there's eight new members, the couple more, 10 or 11, based on spouses and partners coming into the group with us.
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: But we've got eight new seats and that's that new students, new people whose lives are gonna change.
• 18:03
  Speaker 1: And what's gonna happen is we're gonna unlock the process of feeling grateful.
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: Grateful for what you have, safe and secure in what you have, satisfied with what you have, but open up the opportunity to always receive more, not from a place of lack but from a place of funsies, not trying to solve an internal conflict.
• 18:29
  Speaker 1: Thanksgiving Day in the US, my favorite single day of the year is all about understanding that you're already living in abundance because all the oxygen you need is fully available to you.
• 18:47
  Speaker 1: I guarantee you, if you're listening to this, your fridge is full.
• 18:51
  Speaker 1: You got food in the fridge.
• 18:53
  Speaker 1: When you turn on your spigot, your water spigot water comes out of it.
• 18:57
  Speaker 1: I guarantee you you have everything that you need.
• 18:59
  Speaker 1: Your wants may be abundant too, but make sure your wants don't become needs, and that's how you increase the level of gratitude that you have in this world while maintaining in a place where you'll be open to receive more and live life for funsies, not for having your perceived needs made what you just want.
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: This is a very important aspect of life.
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: If you want to increase your level of joy, then your level of dissatisfaction must go down, because these two are indirectly proportional.
• 19:48
  Speaker 1: As your level of dissatisfaction goes up, your level of joy goes down, and as your level of joy goes up, your level of dissatisfaction goes down.
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: And it's very, very hyper critically important to manage that level of dissatisfaction that's flowing in your mind and body.
• 20:06
  Speaker 1: And when you do, as you reduce the level of dissatisfaction in your mind and body, your level of joy and your level of gratitude will skyrocket, and then you'll live life for funsies not to solve an internal conflict that can never be solved through a material possession or anything outside of you.
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: And that's what Thanksgiving Day is all about.
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: It's honoring the abundance that's already present and being willing to receive more, based on the increasing abundance all around you.
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: Black Friday is all about creating a lack and creating a need, and I'm not gonna have a and it's pretty typical for people to have Black Friday offerings, right, black Friday discounts, black Friday deals and I'm not gonna have a Black Friday discount and a Black Friday deal.
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: But I am gonna have something really really cool the following Monday when we call it Cyber Monday in the US, maybe abroad too, but I'm gonna be giving something away at such a fricking ridiculous discount that if you're hungry for education, if you're hungry for a higher quality of life, you'd be foolish to pass up In order to see what I got in store.
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: Connect with my Facebook account and watch out on Monday, cause I'm gonna give you the keys to something that and at such a ridiculous discount that it's foolish to say no to.
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: Thanksgiving Day is my favorite day of the year and I'm excited to jam with my family and to give thanks, to give praise to the abundance and this beauty and just a pure majesty of life, and I hope you do the same, no matter where you are around the world.
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: I don't care what country you're in, I don't care what part of the globe you're in.
• 22:13
  Speaker 1: Happy Thanksgiving to you, no matter when you're listening to this episode.
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: It's good to be human together and it's good to know that our needs are met and our wants are plentiful and they're all for funsies.
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: Happy Thanksgiving.
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: If you enjoyed what you heard and you wanna learn more, go to wwwinnerwealthglobalcom for more tools and resources.
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: We'll see you next time.