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No Excuses, No Limits: Keep Grinding Until You Succeed · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: It's much easier to come up with excuses why you
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  Speaker 1: can't do it.
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  Speaker 2: If you do what is easy, your life will be how.
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  Speaker 1: If you do what is easy, complain about your situation,
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  Speaker 1: your circumstances, it's a rendering, give up on your dreams,
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  Speaker 1: become depressed and bitter and angry. Anybody can do that.
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  Speaker 1: If you do what is easy, your life will be hall.
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  Speaker 3: If you're living in the past, you're going to be
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  Speaker 3: depressed because you are rehashing things that happen to you
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  Speaker 3: that are not going to happen again. If you're living
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  Speaker 3: in the future, you're going to be anxious because you
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  Speaker 3: are anticipating what's coming, or you're wishing for things that
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  Speaker 3: aren't happening yet. Being in the present is where the
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  Speaker 3: gold is. Being in the present moment is where you
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  Speaker 3: will have the greatest control, where you will feel the
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  Speaker 3: most at ease, and where happiness flourishes.
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  Speaker 4: Many of you have been selling yourself short all of
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  Speaker 4: your life. Have the opportunity to experience more environmental, physical,
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  Speaker 4: and mental abundant. Someone who is in a constant state
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  Speaker 4: of elevation, their self talk is I know who I am,
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  Speaker 4: I know where I'm going, and I know where I
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  Speaker 4: came from.
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  Speaker 5: You have the power within yourself to change millions of
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  Speaker 5: lives by face of life. Our biggest fear in life
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  Speaker 5: is if there is a final resting place in this world.
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  Speaker 5: It is a final judgment and you talk to something
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  Speaker 5: much bigger.
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  Speaker 6: Than its success is the result that you are ultimately seeking.
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  Speaker 6: You must be obsessed with the process. You have no
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  Speaker 6: time to let fear, doubt, failure, quit negative thoughts, or
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  Speaker 6: give up. Enter into your mental.
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  Speaker 7: And that's your energy into things that either enhance your
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  Speaker 7: vitality or the vitality of the world in which we're living.
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  Speaker 7: Because those places to build a better world to invest
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  Speaker 7: your energy and the negative things and all that kind
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  Speaker 7: of stuff like that, you're building a bad world with that,
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  Speaker 7: and you're using your own energy. Your life gets shortened.
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  Speaker 7: And so the reality is consciousness is real. It's a currency,
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  Speaker 7: and if you use it and spend it appropriately, you
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  Speaker 7: can have a much better life.
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  Speaker 2: If you're going to be successful in creating the life
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  Speaker 2: of your dreams, you have to believe that you are
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  Speaker 2: capable of making it happen. You have to believe that
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  Speaker 2: you have the right stuff and that you're able to
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  Speaker 2: pull it off. Now, whether you call it self esteem,
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  Speaker 2: self confidence, or self assurance, it's a deep seat of
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  Speaker 2: belief that you have what it takes, the abilities, the
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  Speaker 2: inner resources, the talents, and the skills to create your
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  Speaker 2: desired results.
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  Speaker 8: To me, every day is a beginning, a new day,
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  Speaker 8: a new week, a new shot at life, an opportunity
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  Speaker 8: to come out of the gate like a man possessed
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  Speaker 8: and attack the day without mercy. And of course I'll
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  Speaker 8: get tired, i will get beat up, I'll get knocked down, drained,
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  Speaker 8: and I will have some bad days, but I will not.
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  Speaker 2: Stop.
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  Speaker 9: You know, if you start with the presumption that there's
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  Speaker 9: a baseline of suffering in life, and that that can
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  Speaker 9: be exaggerated by as a consequence of human failing, as
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  Speaker 9: a consequence of malevolence and betrayal and self betrayal and
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  Speaker 9: deceit and all those things that we do to each
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  Speaker 9: other and ourselves that we know that aren't good. That
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  Speaker 9: amplifies the suffering. That's sort of the baseline against which
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  Speaker 9: you have to work. And it's contemplation of that often
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  Speaker 9: that makes people hopeless and depressed and anxious and overwhelmed
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  Speaker 9: and all of that. And they have the reasons, but
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  Speaker 9: you need something to put up against that, and what
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  Speaker 9: you put up against that is meaning, is actually the
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  Speaker 9: instinct that helps you guide yourself through that catastrophe. And
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  Speaker 9: most of that meaning is to be found in the
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  Speaker 9: adoption of responsibility. So if you think, for example, if
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  Speaker 9: you think about the people that you admire, well, you
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  Speaker 9: think about when you have a clear conscience first, because
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  Speaker 9: that's a good thing to aim at, which is something
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  Speaker 9: different than happiness.
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  Speaker 2: Right, A clear consciencens is different than happiness.
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  Speaker 10: That's better, Yeah, that's better guilting yourself.
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  Speaker 11: You're not feeling bad about.
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  Speaker 10: Yourself, that's right.
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  Speaker 9: You feel that you've justified you've justified your existence, right,
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  Speaker 9: and so you're not waking up at three in the
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  Speaker 9: morning in a cold sweat thinking about all the terrible
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  Speaker 9: things that you've involved yourself in.
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  Speaker 11: What you said to someone that you shouldn't have said,
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  Speaker 11: or how you acted.
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  Speaker 9: Or what opportunity you lost, or the things that you've
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  Speaker 9: let go that you should have capitalized on.
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  Speaker 11: All of that.
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  Speaker 9: And so if you think about the times when you're
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  Speaker 9: at peace with yourself with regards to how you're conducting
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  Speaker 9: yourself in the world, it's almost always conditions under which
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  Speaker 9: you've adopted responsibility, right.
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  Speaker 10: At least, the most.
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  Speaker 9: Guilt I think that you can experience, perhaps is the
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  Speaker 9: sure knowledge that you're not even taking care of yourself,
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  Speaker 9: so that you're leaving that responsibility to other people. Because
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  Speaker 9: that's pretty pathetic. And unless you're psychopathic and you know,
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  Speaker 9: and you're living a parasitical life, and that characterizes a
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  Speaker 9: very small minority of people, and an even smaller minority
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  Speaker 9: think that's justifiable. But most of the time you're in
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  Speaker 9: guilt and shame because you're not. Not only are you
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  Speaker 9: not taking care of yourself, let's say so someone else
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  Speaker 9: has to, but you're not living up to your full potential.
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  Speaker 9: And so there's an existential weight that goes along with that.
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  Speaker 12: If you don't learn how to effectively, not destructively, because
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  Speaker 12: that's where most people go. They get into an endless
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  Speaker 12: loop of self punishment, which is totally ineffective. But if
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  Speaker 12: you don't learn to punish yourself, you will never get
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  Speaker 12: where you want to go. Now, that needs to pale
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  Speaker 12: in comparison to the amount of time that you reward yourself,
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  Speaker 12: and you need to earn that reward. If you're just
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  Speaker 12: favishing yourself with emotional praise and you haven't done anything,
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  Speaker 12: then I think that that will cheapen, it will ultimately
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  Speaker 12: mean nothing. And quite frankly, I don't think you can
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  Speaker 12: really bamboozle yourself.
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  Speaker 11: I don't think if you.
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  Speaker 12: Try to praise yourself for stupid ship, I think some
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  Speaker 12: part of you knows you haven't done anything to deserve
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  Speaker 12: that praise. But when you set a bar and you
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  Speaker 12: meet that or exceed that, to then tell yourself, hey,
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  Speaker 12: you did it. You said you were going to do it,
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  Speaker 12: you did it, and that is worthy of praise. And
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  Speaker 12: getting good at praising yourself is inredibly important, and I
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  Speaker 12: think that most people have a very hard time doing both.
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  Speaker 12: Most people don't know how to effectively praise themselves. They
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  Speaker 12: don't know how to get themselves, first of all, to
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  Speaker 12: do things that are praise worthy, and then when they do,
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  Speaker 12: they don't take the time to emotionally reward themselves, meaning
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  Speaker 12: you actually have to feel it. It can't just be intellectual.
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  Speaker 12: You've got to actually feel that. And the same with punishment.
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  Speaker 12: If you say you're going to do something, even if
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  Speaker 12: nobody's watching, and you don't do it, then you need
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  Speaker 12: to emotionally punish yourself. None of you will ever know
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  Speaker 12: whether I actually get out of bed in ten minutes.
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  Speaker 8: Or less or not.
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  Speaker 12: What I say I do all the time. But every
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  Speaker 12: time I miss it, even if I miss it by seconds,
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  Speaker 12: I just gave myself the chills. Even if I miss
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  Speaker 12: it by seconds, I will punish myself for that because
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  Speaker 12: I said I was going to do it and I
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  Speaker 12: didn't do it. So the fact that nobody's watching is
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  Speaker 12: utterly irrelevant to me. It has everything to do with myself. Now.
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  Speaker 12: The reason that this is important, the reason that I
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  Speaker 12: think that people need to do this, is because that's
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  Speaker 12: how you shape your behavior. So like water over time
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  Speaker 12: can create create the Grand Canyon, or you can take
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  Speaker 12: a polishing rock and shape stones, you can shape your personality.
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  Speaker 12: You can certainly shape your identity and shape your behaviors
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  Speaker 12: if you learn how to reward and punish yourself. I
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  Speaker 12: know a lot of people don't want to hear that
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  Speaker 12: that is the truth of the human condition.
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  Speaker 1: If I had to.
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  Speaker 13: Choose one pervasive mentality in today's culture that I would
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  Speaker 13: deem the most dangerous, I would select a victim mentality.
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  Speaker 13: Playing the role the victim means pointing the finger at
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  Speaker 13: someone or something outside yourself for things that are going
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  Speaker 13: wrong in your own life. This has to do with
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  Speaker 13: something called your locus of control. Someone who has an
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  Speaker 13: internal locus of control believes that he or she can
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  Speaker 13: influence events in their outcomes, but someone with an external
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  Speaker 13: locus of control blames outside forces, other people, circumstances, or
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  Speaker 13: even fate for everything. Everywhere I look in today's society,
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  Speaker 13: it seems that more and more people have an external
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  Speaker 13: locus of control. For example, if someone is having trouble
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  Speaker 13: getting a job and they blame it on the current
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  Speaker 13: political or economic landscape, they are demonstrating an external locus
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  Speaker 13: of control. Or if they often catch colds and blame
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  Speaker 13: them on their coworkers or germ riddle work environment, that's
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  Speaker 13: an external locus of control mindset. Another one is when
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  Speaker 13: someone is constantly in debt and they blame inflation or
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  Speaker 13: the high cost of living, rather than taking responsibility for
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  Speaker 13: their own financial planning and budgeting. If someone goes through
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  Speaker 13: a divorce or bad breakup and is still in pain
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  Speaker 13: five years later and blaming it on the X, that's
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  Speaker 13: an external locus of control. Essentially, we are choosing to
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  Speaker 13: have an external locus of control anytime that we are
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  Speaker 13: pointing the finger away from ourselves for anything going on
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  Speaker 13: in our life. Here's the problem with this kind of thinking.
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  Speaker 13: It takes away your power. By playing the blame game,
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  Speaker 13: you're effectively throwing up your hands and saying, well, I'm
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  Speaker 13: a victim and there's not a damn thing I can
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  Speaker 13: do about it. The moment you blame someone else for
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  Speaker 13: something you're feeling or experiencing is the moment that you
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  Speaker 13: give up your power. By giving your power away, you
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  Speaker 13: are making a decision to effectively let life happen to you.
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  Speaker 13: You are refusing to take responsibility for your own life.
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  Speaker 13: As you might imagine, that can be a very destructive
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  Speaker 13: pattern to set. In order to stay connected with our
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  Speaker 13: best self, we need to always take responsibility for what
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  Speaker 13: happens in our life. We need to find a way
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  Speaker 13: to have control even in moments where it just seems
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  Speaker 13: like the world is out to get us. Sure, bad
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  Speaker 13: things happen that are outside of our control. But here's
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  Speaker 13: the key. We are one hundred percent in control of
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  Speaker 13: our reactions to those things. We can choose to spiral
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  Speaker 13: into depression, anxiety, anger, resentment, or frustration and just pull
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  Speaker 13: the covers back over our head, or we can choose
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  Speaker 13: to react in a way that benefits us and those
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  Speaker 13: around us. If we fail a test, we can analyze
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  Speaker 13: what went wrong and study in a more effective way
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  Speaker 13: before taking it again. If we keep catching it cold,
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  Speaker 13: we can learn about how to boost our immunity and
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  Speaker 13: overall health. The list goes on and on, but the
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  Speaker 13: bottom line is that we have a choice blame someone
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  Speaker 13: or something else that we can't control, or find a
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  Speaker 13: way we can take responsibility and change what we're doing
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  Speaker 13: so we can change the outcome.
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  Speaker 10: Buddha recognize the only sin as ignorance, and by ignorance
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  Speaker 10: he simply meant not knowing the difference between truth and falsehood.
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  Speaker 10: In other words, our only true dilemma as human beings
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  Speaker 10: is a lack of understanding about ourselves and the true
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  Speaker 10: nature of the world we live in. With more knowledge,
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  Speaker 10: we become more capable people. Without it, we cannot progress.
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  Speaker 10: The truth that we all must come face to face
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  Speaker 10: with is that we know very little about.
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  Speaker 11: Anything at all. Even the many things we think we
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  Speaker 11: know about the world may in fact be completely false.
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  Speaker 11: After all, how could we.
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  Speaker 10: Possibly say with certainty that we know anything if we
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  Speaker 10: only have access to the very thoughts that were planted
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  Speaker 10: in our mind since birth.
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  Speaker 11: What about the.
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  Speaker 10: Knowledge we have not captured. How could that change our
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  Speaker 10: perception of the world. We must be willing to accept
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  Speaker 10: the fact that we may be wrong about many things.
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  Speaker 10: It's okay not to know. We're all doing the best
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  Speaker 10: we can. So let's continue on that path and acquire
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  Speaker 10: the knowledge that's going to get us where we want
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  Speaker 10: to go. The quickest way to dispose of ignorance is
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  Speaker 10: to simply acquire more knowledge. However, it is important to
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  Speaker 10: do so with a sort of curiosity. Do not immediately
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  Speaker 10: accept everything you learn as fact.
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  Speaker 11: Use knowledge as a tool, don't let it use you.
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  Speaker 10: It is easy to get trapped in a dogmatic belief
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  Speaker 10: system as a result of what we learn, but we
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  Speaker 10: must remain flexible. Life is our teacher. Let's always remember
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  Speaker 10: that change is one of the greatest symbols of strength
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  Speaker 10: and willpower you can find. It is easy to find
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  Speaker 10: examples in popular culture movies and books, music, art, entertainment
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  Speaker 10: that reinforce the idea. Many speakers are great at building willpower.
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  Speaker 10: They often base their speeches on the stories of people
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  Speaker 10: who have overcome such destructive behaviors as alcoholism, smoking, and
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  Speaker 10: drug dependence. Although they are very valid examples of how
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  Speaker 10: to bring the idea to perfection, I find them too tragic.
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  Speaker 10: There is no substitute for willpower in any part of
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  Speaker 10: your daily life. You can build will by changing your habits.
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  Speaker 10: I view this trick as an opportunity to challenge myself.
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  Speaker 10: Try to get to bed earlier. If, for example, you
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  Speaker 10: are someone who is prone to staying up late watching
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  Speaker 10: streaming movies or series, it may be a good idea
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  Speaker 10: to finish a book right before bed. Research shows that
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  Speaker 10: we get entertainment from the screen. If you read a
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  Speaker 10: book instead of being submerged for three hours in front
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  Speaker 10: of the screen, it will take you an hour to
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  Speaker 10: get tired. This is because you are reading actively and
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  Speaker 10: not sitting still. Remember that a habit is an underlying
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  Speaker 10: neural connection. If you do something once, it becomes a habit.
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  Speaker 10: If you do the same thing over and again, it
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  Speaker 10: will grow stronger until it becomes an automatic action.
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  Speaker 11: For a week, you'll feel better.
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  Speaker 10: The second trick is to not be afraid of confronting temptations.
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  Speaker 10: If you can face up to temptations without falling in,
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  Speaker 10: you are on the right track. This is something that
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  Speaker 10: can be very difficult for many people. I once read
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  Speaker 10: that fear only grows if it's allowed to. That sentence
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  Speaker 10: changed my view of life and helped me understand how
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  Speaker 10: things were. I became so consumed by the terrors that
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  Speaker 10: terrify me that thinking about them caused me to have
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  Speaker 10: spasms around my body.
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  Speaker 11: As time went on, I learned that there is no way.
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  Speaker 10: To strengthen our will except to expose us to these things.
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  Speaker 10: These fears and temptations are all part of our lives. However,
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  Speaker 10: the real problem arises when your strength is lost or
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  Speaker 10: when you give up on your ability to control these situations.
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  Speaker 10: I take it seriously when I tell you that temptation
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  Speaker 10: is an infallible technique to build will. Is it possible
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  Speaker 10: that you are the type of person who is afraid
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  Speaker 10: to speak in front of others. You can reverse stage fright,
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  Speaker 10: as it has been shown, but you must rise to
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  Speaker 10: the occasion. There are instant gratifications. On the other hand,
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  Speaker 10: if you believe that you have everything necessary to develop
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  Speaker 10: your will, and you do, then what are the chances
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  Speaker 10: of you not getting it? Be ready to show pass
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  Speaker 10: by your favorite bake. You might even ask for coffee.
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  Speaker 10: If you are training yourself to become an independent scartan fighter,
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  Speaker 10: you don't need to be worried. You can do the
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  Speaker 10: same with other temptations. You have already taken the first
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  Speaker 10: steps to overcome the bad habit procrastination.
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  Speaker 11: Now pile up all the tasks you
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  Speaker 10: Need to do and try to complete them according to
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  Speaker 10: important challenge yourself