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296. Finding Inner Peace: Rebeckah Price On How To Combat Stress & Come Back To Calm · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: If our movement is a practice that adds more stress
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  Speaker 1: to our body, we're just amplifying the stress in our body.
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  Speaker 1: And that's why sometimes some of the things that we're
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  Speaker 1: doing it's not practical or healthy for you. And so
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  Speaker 1: just looking at that as a conversation to be like,
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  Speaker 1: I'm having a loving conversation with my body.
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  Speaker 2: Hey, everybody, Emily a body here.
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  Speaker 3: You are listening to episode two hundred and ninety six
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  Speaker 3: of Hurdle, a wellness focused podcast where I talk to
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  Speaker 3: inspirational people about everything from their highest ties and toughest moments.
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  Speaker 2: To essential tips on how.
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  Speaker 3: To live a healthier, happier, more motivated life. We all
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  Speaker 3: go through our fair share of hurdles. My goal through
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  Speaker 3: these discussions is to empower you to better navigate yours
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  Speaker 3: and move with intention so that you can stride towards
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  Speaker 3: your own big potential and of course have some fun
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  Speaker 3: along the way.
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  Speaker 2: Hello everyone, how are we doing? What's going on?
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  Speaker 3: I feel like it's been a minute since I've kind
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  Speaker 3: of given the lowdown on the gist of what's happening
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  Speaker 3: here on the show. So as I just told you,
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  Speaker 3: you're listening to Hurdle. My name is Emily a Body.
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  Speaker 3: I am a veteran fitness and wellness health journalist, and
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  Speaker 3: I'm also a certified professional coach, which you can like
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  Speaker 3: into a life coach in addition to a certified run
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  Speaker 3: Coach UESCA, a certified personal trainer via ACE, and a
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  Speaker 3: Level one.
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  Speaker 2: Precision Nutrition coach.
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  Speaker 3: Those are just some of the athletes that I have
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  Speaker 3: in my toolbox that help me not only come to
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  Speaker 3: you with safe and relative conversation and information, but also
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  Speaker 3: enable me to have responsible conversations with everyone that's its
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  Speaker 3: down with me for the show. I firmly believe that
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  Speaker 3: it is our most difficult moments that are our biggest teachers,
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  Speaker 3: and through overcoming the hurdles that we face in life,
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  Speaker 3: we have an opportunity to grow stronger and become better people.
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  Speaker 3: Now that that's out of the way, today, let's talk
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  Speaker 3: about what we're doing here on Hurdle.
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  Speaker 2: I'm chatting with the ever lovely Rebecca Price.
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  Speaker 3: She is a Nike Global Trainer as well as a
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  Speaker 3: yoga teacher, and we are centering our discussion all around
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  Speaker 3: how to combat stress and come back to come when
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  Speaker 3: life feels really hectic. She offers so many unbelievable tips
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  Speaker 3: like truly you're going to need either your fingers at
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  Speaker 3: the ready in your notes app or perhaps the pen
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  Speaker 3: and paper to write them down from movement and breathwork,
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  Speaker 3: breath being one of our most readily available tools that
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  Speaker 3: we do not use to our advantage nearly enough to
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  Speaker 3: seeking out and utilizing talk there the making routines within
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  Speaker 3: life and the incognizant.
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  Speaker 2: Of what your inputs are.
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  Speaker 3: What are the things that you are consuming, not just
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  Speaker 3: within your diet in terms of nutrition, but also the
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  Speaker 3: things that you surround yourself with, the people that you're around,
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  Speaker 3: the things that you are checking out on social media.
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  Speaker 3: We have the opportunity to monitor this and also curate
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  Speaker 3: a better experience. Loved this chat, Absolutely love Rebecca. She's
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  Speaker 3: truly such a light for her community up in Toronto
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  Speaker 3: and beyond, and I am elated to bring it to
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  Speaker 3: the feed. Make sure you're following along with Hurdle over
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  Speaker 3: on social It's at Hurdle Podcast. I myself am over
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  Speaker 3: at Emily a body And with that, let's get to it.
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  Speaker 2: Let's get to hurdling today.
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  Speaker 3: I'm sitting back down with the ever lovely Rebecca Price.
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  Speaker 3: How are we doing?
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  Speaker 2: We are doing greats. Oh the voice. The voice.
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  Speaker 3: I find I feel as though people hear my voice
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  Speaker 3: and they either are really down with it or they're like,
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  Speaker 3: never again, I'm all set. Whenever I hear your voice,
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  Speaker 3: it is entirely like the most soothing part of my morning.
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  Speaker 2: I'm so happy.
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  Speaker 1: I've had people I just taught recently and someone was
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  Speaker 1: just like, can you just record like messages like good morning?
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  Speaker 2: You're worthy? I love you?
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  Speaker 1: Like She's like please, cause I just love the sound
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  Speaker 1: of your voice. And I'm like thanks, You're like I
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  Speaker 1: could do that. You can do that, and then you
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  Speaker 1: can monetize that.
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  Speaker 2: It's very true. That's very true.
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  Speaker 3: It's like there's like only fans for feet, like you're
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  Speaker 3: just like good morning.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, And you know what, is there an only fans
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  Speaker 1: just for voices? I wonder is that technically ASMR that?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah? That is nice. I think that's tapping.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'd be like good good morning, or like ding
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  Speaker 1: ring a bell and.
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  Speaker 2: Be like, oh my god, we're on through a whole concept.
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  Speaker 3: Someone can feel free to dm us and let us
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  Speaker 3: know if there is some sort of a place where
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  Speaker 3: we should be doing special voiceovers. Right is this or
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  Speaker 3: what's the other platform with celebrities where they do the messages.
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  Speaker 2: Cameo, Oh, I never even CAMEO went bankrupt.
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  Speaker 3: Who knows. Anyway, we're gonna We're gonna get all that.
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  Speaker 3: I'm excited to be sitting back down with you today.
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  Speaker 3: I'm excited to be here as well. Whenever you're in
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  Speaker 3: New York, I'm like, please come through the studio. Let's
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  Speaker 3: do something great. You were in New York this time,
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  Speaker 3: originally hailing from Toronto to do some fun classing. Get
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  Speaker 3: together with some folks. Talk to us about what you did.
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  Speaker 1: I hosted a It was called Ilira, which is eurobuff
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  Speaker 1: for wellness, and it was a black wellness experience featuring
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  Speaker 1: like meditation, movement, and mindfulness. And I had my co trainers,
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  Speaker 1: Tara Nicholas from NIKI and David Carson as well from
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  Speaker 1: NIKI Training. We all pulled up landed in Brooklyn at
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  Speaker 1: the Brooklyn Wellness Club and put it on a really
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  Speaker 1: great community event, focused a lot on like community healing,
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  Speaker 1: talking about the importance of self care and wellbeing, and
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  Speaker 1: just held space with each other and for each other
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  Speaker 1: in a loving and nourishing way.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, it sounds delightful. And it was a good success.
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  Speaker 1: It was a huge success. I woke up feeling really grateful.
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  Speaker 1: I probably sent one of the sappiest emails to everybody,
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  Speaker 1: like I love you but and just expressing my gratitude
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  Speaker 1: and you know, appreciation of their supports, especially because sometimes
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  Speaker 1: when you you know, when you have an idea and
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  Speaker 1: you're betting on yourself, sometimes it's a scary place to be,
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  Speaker 1: Like imposter syndrome shows up. So many things show up
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  Speaker 1: in that space, and you invest so much time and energy,
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  Speaker 1: and then when you actually see it come to life,
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  Speaker 1: you're like, Okay, I did that, and you know, just
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  Speaker 1: you know, I wanted to make sure I think the
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  Speaker 1: people that were involved in making it possible.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I did that.
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  Speaker 3: Oh And it's so special to take that time to
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  Speaker 3: reflect something that we'll talk a little bit about today
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  Speaker 3: when it comes to managing stress, which is the topic
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  Speaker 3: of the day.
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  Speaker 2: We're here specifically in the studio to.
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  Speaker 3: Talk about how to find calm, how to manage stress.
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  Speaker 3: We're on the cusp of a new season right now.
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  Speaker 3: Spring has sprung, and with that it's an opportunity to
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  Speaker 3: come back to self and really do an inventory of
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  Speaker 3: what's working for you and what's not working for you,
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  Speaker 3: And what's not working for us as a society right
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  Speaker 3: now is this chronic stress, ambient anxiety lifestyle.
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  Speaker 2: We are not about that.
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  Speaker 1: I think that we've bought too much into like burnout culture,
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  Speaker 1: and we've like normalized it to the point that when
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  Speaker 1: we need to make time for rest and restoration and
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  Speaker 1: just slowing down, it to struggle for us, and we
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  Speaker 1: feel so much guilt around that, and so like it's
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  Speaker 1: really important to take stock and just do like an
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  Speaker 1: internal inventory and an external inventory of like things like
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  Speaker 1: you said that work, don't work, that need to shift
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  Speaker 1: and need to change so that you can just kind
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  Speaker 1: of like feel a little bit more at ease. And
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  Speaker 1: I'd really like to see people start shifting from this
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  Speaker 1: flight fright, farm fear, you know, system, to like one
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  Speaker 1: that's like ease and that's nourishing and that's like simple
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  Speaker 1: in a way, but beneficial that still allows you to
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  Speaker 1: achieve the things that you want to achieve, because I
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  Speaker 1: think people think that if you like slow down, that
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  Speaker 1: you're not going to get things done, but also recognize
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  Speaker 1: that slowing down actually provides you the space to get
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  Speaker 1: things done, not only the right way, but what's the
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  Speaker 1: best way for you to as well.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, this really echoes the sentiments that I subscribe to,
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  Speaker 3: which is being kind but firm as well, Like you
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  Speaker 3: don't have to be a jerk or bossy to get
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  Speaker 3: the things that you want. You can be a kind
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  Speaker 3: person and be good to people and also accomplish what
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  Speaker 3: it is you're after. And there's kind of a misconception
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  Speaker 3: with that sometimes in that people think you need to
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  Speaker 3: step on others to get to the top. But in
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  Speaker 3: my belief system, if you're stepping on others, then you're
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  Speaker 3: doing it wrong, and that there's room for everyone at
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  Speaker 3: the table. It's the person that's going to get ahead
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  Speaker 3: is someone who pulls out a chair from the table
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  Speaker 3: and says, take a seat for me. That's the only
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  Speaker 3: way that I want to get to the proverbial mountain top.
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  Speaker 1: And I think it's a really good way for us
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  Speaker 1: to learn how to be in better community with each other, right,
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  Speaker 1: Like you know, and I think that you know, as
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  Speaker 1: the world is so huge, but it's also really small,
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  Speaker 1: like collaboration, being connected with each other is really important,
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  Speaker 1: and like more of us are thriving when we bring
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  Speaker 1: other people along rather than just saying okay, I got
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  Speaker 1: this and it's all about me, and that's very individualistic,
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  Speaker 1: and I feel like that's counterproductive to our overall collective
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  Speaker 1: and individual wellbeing. So, like, you know, I'm one of
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  Speaker 1: those people too. Some people say I'm too nice, and
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  Speaker 1: that's okay. I'll wear that hat and that badge very proudly,
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  Speaker 1: but I do leave that. You know, more work gets
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  Speaker 1: done when you are able to sit at a table
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  Speaker 1: and have extra chairs and pull them out for people
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  Speaker 1: to be a part of that table with you.
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  Speaker 3: Also as a single woman, like I do enough on
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  Speaker 3: my own. Yep, you know what I'm saying. So I
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  Speaker 3: love the opportunity to collaborate with other individuals, even if
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  Speaker 3: it is on a brand project where say I'm hosting
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  Speaker 3: something or I'm the figurehead for that experience.
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  Speaker 2: Cool in.
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  Speaker 3: But the exciting part for me is all the work
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  Speaker 3: that happens up until the point where we're ready for
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  Speaker 3: me to get on the MIC. It's the collaboration between
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  Speaker 3: me and individuals on the marketing team. It's the weekly
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  Speaker 3: meetings where it's like, oh, I have a team all
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  Speaker 3: of a sudden that I didn't have last week.
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  Speaker 2: That's the stuff that excites me.
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  Speaker 3: The stuff where we get to go in and sit
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  Speaker 3: down at a table together and I DA together and
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  Speaker 3: create experiences that benefit others coming together in our like
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  Speaker 3: minded passions are like minded purposes.
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  Speaker 1: Right, No, I agree, And I think that it just
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  Speaker 1: allows more versatility, diversity, and it just creates more robustness
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  Speaker 1: because again, like you're also having different perspectives add so
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  Speaker 1: it's like you start with this little seed and it
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  Speaker 1: just kind of flourishes and grows into this beautiful plant
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  Speaker 1: because people are adding onto it. And then also sometimes
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  Speaker 1: it's like okay for you to not do it all
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  Speaker 1: by yourself, and like feeling that support is so nourishing
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  Speaker 1: too as well, especially when you are like like I'm
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  Speaker 1: hyper independent and you're always doing stuff on your own,
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  Speaker 1: and sometimes it's just like nice to turn around and
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  Speaker 1: be like, oh my god, there's someone here with me
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  Speaker 1: that can help and that for me, especially like for instance,
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  Speaker 1: like this event, it was really good to be able
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  Speaker 1: to like tap into Tara tap into David tap into
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  Speaker 1: like the rest of the team who helped create the
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  Speaker 1: experience and be like, oh, like I don't have to
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  Speaker 1: do this right now, like you've got this handled or
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  Speaker 1: you know what I mean, And that collaboration and you know,
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  Speaker 1: which means community. At the end of the day was
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  Speaker 1: really was really beautiful. What does stress look like right
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  Speaker 1: now in your life? Thing that I'm trying to avoid,
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  Speaker 1: run away from, like the plague, honestly, full transparency. It
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  Speaker 1: is something that I actively engage in trying to avoid.
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  Speaker 1: I know that's a group of people in the wellness
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  Speaker 1: industry who like to talk about stress as being something
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  Speaker 1: that's good for you and healthy.
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  Speaker 2: For you, you know, and I.
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  Speaker 1: Think that regardless, we live in a society that are
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  Speaker 1: always going to have systems in place that are going
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  Speaker 1: to make you have stress.
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  Speaker 2: Right However, you know.
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  Speaker 1: That is something that I actively engage in trying to
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  Speaker 1: avoid and you know, just focusing on cultivating practices that
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  Speaker 1: allow me to be softer in a very hard, hard world.
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  Speaker 1: So like recently I started it's called the seventy five
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  Speaker 1: Soft Healing Challenge, and it's a take on the seventy
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  Speaker 1: five Hard but I also wanted to do that healing
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  Speaker 1: part to it, not just like seventy five Soft, but
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  Speaker 1: like healing, because when you're engaging in practices and routines
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  Speaker 1: and things of that nature that allow you to be
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  Speaker 1: like one percent better or allow you to feel like
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  Speaker 1: more supported and nourished. There's a healing that happens as
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  Speaker 1: well well. And so you know, part and partial for me,
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  Speaker 1: like you're running away or and I wouldn't say running away,
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  Speaker 1: like stepping away from like this livelihood of being enveloped
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  Speaker 1: in stress is that it's just not healthy for me physically, emotionally,
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  Speaker 1: and spiritually on so many different levels. And then also
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  Speaker 1: you know, with my illness, stress is not it for me.
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  Speaker 1: So I really have to be mindful of the ways
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  Speaker 1: in which stress shows up for me and how I
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  Speaker 1: navigate through it.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, totally understandable.
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  Speaker 3: And to have the awareness of, Okay, this is a
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  Speaker 3: stressful situation, it's not serving me. And also having the
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  Speaker 3: awareness of if I implement X, then this is what will happen.
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  Speaker 3: That's so special to be able to get you to
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  Speaker 3: a place where you want to be and also taking
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  Speaker 3: ownership over that. I think a lot of the time
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  Speaker 3: when we talk about navigating stress, there can be a
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  Speaker 3: little bit of a victim mindset. It's like, well, this
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  Speaker 3: is just how it is now, and getting a place
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  Speaker 3: instead where you can become the person that reclaims how
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  Speaker 3: you want to feel reclaims the things that are within
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  Speaker 3: your control to navigate a particular environment. I live in Brooklyn,
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  Speaker 3: New York, right, Like Brooklyn is not necessarily inherently a
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  Speaker 3: place that's going to be stress free. There's traffic everywhere,
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  Speaker 3: There is honking outside of my window. There are way
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  Speaker 3: too many people. But in that I have been able
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  Speaker 3: to find certain routines and we'll talk about routines shortly
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  Speaker 3: that fill me up and nurture my soul so that
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  Speaker 3: I don't feel stressed the moment that I walk out
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  Speaker 3: the door.
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  Speaker 2: To each their own. But I know that it is
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  Speaker 2: up to me to cultivate the environment.
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  Speaker 3: Just like you said, you know that you have the
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  Speaker 3: power to do the same, and then I can make
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  Speaker 3: some really good decisions for myself moving forward after I
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  Speaker 3: filled up my own cup oxygen mask for me take
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  Speaker 3: care of everybody else.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, And I think it's really important for us to
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  Speaker 1: recognize the importance of like I would say that your
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  Speaker 1: creator in your pockets of peace, Like you know what
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  Speaker 1: I mean, You're creating pockets of peace for yourself in
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  Speaker 1: the midst of the chaos, right, and so, like you know,
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  Speaker 1: and like Brooklyn is a very lively city, but you know,
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  Speaker 1: we're sitting here and it's really quiet and peaceful at
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  Speaker 1: the same time. So, like, how are you cultivating that
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  Speaker 1: in your spaces, like internally, externally and things of that nature,
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  Speaker 1: just because like it's really important, especially as we're like
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  Speaker 1: continuing to be put in places, in situations and be
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  Speaker 1: around people that may not be you know, as supportive
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  Speaker 1: or nourishing to help us just thrive.
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  Speaker 2: I love an im statement like I am deserving.
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  Speaker 3: Of peace, and even it could be general like that,
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  Speaker 3: or if that feels overwhelming or a little too much,
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  Speaker 3: it can even be I am deserving of pockets of
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  Speaker 3: peace and saying things like that and taking that step
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  Speaker 3: to claim that that in itself is entirely powerful. Right,
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  Speaker 3: that in itself might seem so small, but saying something
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  Speaker 3: like that really sets the tone for what you.
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  Speaker 2: Can do moving forward.
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  Speaker 3: Now, I know there are a myriad of different ways
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  Speaker 3: that we can talk about finding and reclaiming calm and
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  Speaker 3: managing stress. I want to kick our conversation off to
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  Speaker 3: no and surprise with movement. Now, movement can look different
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  Speaker 3: for every individual and even for the same individual depending
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  Speaker 3: on the day. Right, So why is it that movement
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  Speaker 3: is an integral part of the equation when it comes
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  Speaker 3: to managing stress.
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  Speaker 1: I personally think that movement is like one of the
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  Speaker 1: main tenants, and I really want to be mindful of
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  Speaker 1: the fact that, like I understand how movement and being
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  Speaker 1: able to move one's body is also privileged, right, And
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  Speaker 1: so I don't take that lightly. That being said, the
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  Speaker 1: body absorbs everything, right. You know, we've heard the book
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  Speaker 1: The Body Keeps Score. There's so much information that's out
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  Speaker 1: there that really indicates to everyone the ways in which
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  Speaker 1: our body stores and how it shows up, not just
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  Speaker 1: through like illnesses, it could just be through our skin,
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  Speaker 1: like so many different ways our body absorbs trauma and
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  Speaker 1: things of that nature. So for me, movement is like
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  Speaker 1: a somatic experience. Movement allows us to move things through, right,
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  Speaker 1: and so like, for instance, if something is stressing me,
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  Speaker 1: one of my go to things is to go for
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  Speaker 1: a walk. So like, I might be in a stressful
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  Speaker 1: situation or have a stressful conversation or maybe even an
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  Speaker 1: argument with somebody, But then afterwards I'll be like, Okay,
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  Speaker 1: how am I going to move through this? I might
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  Speaker 1: just put on my shoes and go outside for a
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  Speaker 1: walk and just go by the water, do whatever I
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  Speaker 1: need to do. I think sometimes what's hard for people
• 17:39
  Speaker 1: is that when we are going through stressful situations and
• 17:43
  Speaker 1: in the midst of stress and moving through stress, we
• 17:47
  Speaker 1: then stop and then everything just sits with us. And
• 17:51
  Speaker 1: like you can see how that kind of shows up
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: in your body, like how your shoulders might feel tight,
• 17:56
  Speaker 1: or how sometimes like I don't know, like maybe your
• 17:59
  Speaker 1: belly feels a little hot, like because you're mad about something,
• 18:02
  Speaker 1: or your hips. You know, chronically a lot of people
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: show up to classes with really hill tight hips, right,
• 18:08
  Speaker 1: so like you know, your body lets you know, right,
• 18:11
  Speaker 1: and it could be like a migraine. Like things happen
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: when you're under a lot of stress, and our ability
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: to kind of like find ways to move that stress
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: out of our body is something that is like a
• 18:22
  Speaker 1: really useful practice that helps us not maintain the level
• 18:27
  Speaker 1: of stress that's in our bodies. Right, And like there's
• 18:29
  Speaker 1: documentation that shows like even just a little bit of
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: like stretching or yoga helps people decompress, right, Like even
• 18:37
  Speaker 1: before bed lags up the wall is like one of
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: the best moves that you could do. You know, may
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: times I've like fallen asleep with fix up the wall,
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: like you know what you mean? Like, because I'm just like, oh,
• 18:45
  Speaker 1: let me and the next thing, you know, I'm like, whoa,
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: how did I get here? Just finding one or two
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: little micropractices that you can turn into macro practices when
• 18:53
  Speaker 1: you really need are really important. But understanding that everything
• 18:57
  Speaker 1: that we like, we put things into our body, not
• 18:59
  Speaker 1: just food and water and drinks, but we put so
• 19:03
  Speaker 1: much into our body and stress is storied in so
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: many different ways in our body, and so we have
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: to start working on finding ways to move through that
• 19:11
  Speaker 1: stress and move that stress out of our bodies. Like
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: that movement is literally expelling that stress out of our body. Hi,
• 19:17
  Speaker 1: my name is Emily Body and I have crazy tight hips.
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: It's me yes, and I love, love, love.
• 19:25
  Speaker 3: The point you made about micro macro movements right, knowing
• 19:29
  Speaker 3: that it doesn't need to be an hour long workout.
• 19:35
  Speaker 2: All you need to do is just move the energy. Right.
• 19:38
  Speaker 3: So maybe that is a walk around the block after
• 19:41
  Speaker 3: getting an undesirable email, or perhaps it is making sure
• 19:45
  Speaker 3: that for ten minutes before you start your workday, if
• 19:48
  Speaker 3: you roll out of bed, you're doing some sort of stretching.
• 19:51
  Speaker 2: In your living room.
• 19:52
  Speaker 3: It's all going to help move things around, and also
• 19:58
  Speaker 3: accepting that sometimes movement isn't going to look like you'd hoped. Yeah, okay,
• 20:03
  Speaker 3: So sometimes maybe you have an injury and you can't
• 20:08
  Speaker 3: do the strength training you want to do, or the
• 20:10
  Speaker 3: running that you want to do or insert xyz activity.
• 20:14
  Speaker 3: But you can do sam yoga in your living room,
• 20:17
  Speaker 3: or you can walk up and down the stairs a
• 20:19
  Speaker 3: few times, whatever it is that you have access to.
• 20:22
  Speaker 3: If you remove the judgment from that thing on how
• 20:24
  Speaker 3: you feel as though it should should in quotes look
• 20:28
  Speaker 3: and allow yourself to do something that can serve you,
• 20:31
  Speaker 3: that's going to be a huge step in the right direction.
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: I think that people, you know, I really invite people
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: to have an understanding that movement is just a loving
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: conversation with our body, right Like you can go for
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: a walk, you can dance like you many times. I
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: dance in my living room, like you know, And sometimes
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: movement for me looks like just rolling my wrists and
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: my ankles in the morning, and like looking from side
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: to side and just stretching my neck because that's all
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: I can do.
• 20:56
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: So, like I feel like, you know, for people, we
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: don't have to overc complicate the concept of movement, and
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: for me, movement doesn't need to be punishment. I think
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: we get enough punishment in the world that like, we
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: don't need to kill ourselves because we're just adding more stress. Like,
• 21:11
  Speaker 1: if our movement is a practice that adds more stress
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: to our body, we're just amplifying the stress in our body.
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: And that's why sometimes some of the things that we're
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: doing it's not practical or healthy for you. And so
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: just looking at that as a conversation to be like,
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: I'm having a loving conversation with my body through movement.
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: And that could be obviously, I'm going to say, yoga
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: could be like, you know, pilates. It could just be
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: like riding your bike. It could just be like dancing.
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: It could be going for a nice little walk, you
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: know what I mean. It could also just be like
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: hugging a friend, you know what I mean. It could
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: just be like that's a movement, right. So I just
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: think that, like, there's so many different innovative ways that
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: we can reimagine what that conversation with movement looks like.
• 21:56
  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, And I really love the idea of listening
• 22:01
  Speaker 3: to your body, right knowing that one day something could
• 22:05
  Speaker 3: feel really good, and then if you go to do
• 22:07
  Speaker 3: the same thing again, it might not feel the same.
• 22:09
  Speaker 2: And that's okay. I a week.
• 22:12
  Speaker 3: Ago went and ran a handful of miles, and then
• 22:16
  Speaker 3: five days later I went to do it again and
• 22:18
  Speaker 3: it didn't feel the same, and I was like, you
• 22:19
  Speaker 3: know what, I'm going to listen to my body, give
• 22:22
  Speaker 3: it the rest that it deserves, take into account and
• 22:24
  Speaker 3: accommodate for the fact that I was doing things in
• 22:26
  Speaker 3: between those two periods of time that didn't make the
• 22:31
  Speaker 3: second run feel that good.
• 22:32
  Speaker 2: And that's okay, right.
• 22:34
  Speaker 3: So just being gentle with yourself and having some grace
• 22:36
  Speaker 3: and knowing that whatever you do, however you move, it
• 22:40
  Speaker 3: is an opportunity, as you said, to give a gift
• 22:42
  Speaker 3: to yourself and then in turn manage stress. So moving
• 22:47
  Speaker 3: super important, also really important, something that we hardly think about,
• 22:51
  Speaker 3: but arguably one of the biggest tools that we have.
• 22:54
  Speaker 3: What is that, Rebecca re Ah, Yes, it's breath work.
• 22:59
  Speaker 3: Talk to me about what taking advantage of your breath
• 23:04
  Speaker 3: can do for the body and our stress response.
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: You know, as a big proponent of breath work, I
• 23:11
  Speaker 1: always say when I teach allow this breath to anchor
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: and guide you through this practice and this practice that
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: we call it. Right, As someone who works in wellness,
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: I always say, like it's the most accessible tool that
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: we have, Like we don't have to pay for breath
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: right now. Maybe in the future, but right now, ill
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: don't have to pay the breaths. Right, It's something that
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: allows you to express yourself without expressing yourself. Right, It's
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: a something that you can access that allows you to
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: check in with yourself. Right, Like you can pay attention
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: to your breath when you're frustrated and angry, how fast
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: your breath is going, you have control to be able
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: to take control over that situation and just slow down
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: your breath. Right, You have breath that you can do
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: to also like activate you and give you energy. So
• 23:55
  Speaker 1: the breath is like very life giving. It's the first
• 23:58
  Speaker 1: thing we take when we're born, that's the last we
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: take when we transition. So you know, for me, breath
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: has been something that has been like a really beneficial
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: tool to help just sustain.
• 24:09
  Speaker 2: Me through day to day practices.
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: Anybody who's around me knows, like I'll just pause just
• 24:14
  Speaker 1: to breathe, right, and whether that's like you know, like
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: a nice deep inhale and like a sigh like a
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: yesterday when I taught, I always close all my classes
• 24:23
  Speaker 1: with three collective community breaths, and it's really interesting to
• 24:25
  Speaker 1: see people like their first in heals like a little right,
• 24:29
  Speaker 1: and then by the time you get to the third,
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: they're like just giving yourself that permission to feel that
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: expansion to as well. And so you know, breath is
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: a really great tool to be able to access to
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: help slow things down, to calm you down, to help
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: regulate your nervous system. Like there's a strong correlation between that,
• 24:49
  Speaker 1: and again, like I said, it's one of the most
• 24:52
  Speaker 1: accessible tools that we have in our wellness toolbox that
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: doesn't require a lot of work, right, It just requires
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: some practice as we start to explore different modalities of breath,
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: But in general, it's just a really easy, accessible tool
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: that's readily available for us and that we use without
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: recognizing it. And once you learn how to tap into
• 25:12
  Speaker 1: your breath, because a lot of us in this world
• 25:15
  Speaker 1: spend so much energy and time shallow breathing. So when
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: you really start to learn about your breath and how
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: it works for and with your body, like amazing transformations
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: can happen through that.
• 25:27
  Speaker 3: For someone who doesn't know about shallow breathing or might
• 25:30
  Speaker 3: not realize that they're doing it, explain a little bit
• 25:33
  Speaker 3: about that.
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: So shallow breathing, so a lot of us just go
• 25:36
  Speaker 1: through life, and like a quick, simple thing that I
• 25:38
  Speaker 1: always imagine I encourage people to do is like just
• 25:41
  Speaker 1: like placing hand on chest and hand on belly and
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: just taking some nice slow breaths and just breathing normally
• 25:48
  Speaker 1: and seeing which is rising, whether it's your belly or
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: your chest, And if your chest is rising, then I
• 25:54
  Speaker 1: encourage you to like transition your hand like maybe make
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: a little triangle with your fingers and like a diamond
• 25:59
  Speaker 1: shape by your belly button, and then just really focus
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: on breathing that air to land in your belly. And
• 26:05
  Speaker 1: it takes practice, so if you don't get it the
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: first couple of times, that's quite all right. But that
• 26:10
  Speaker 1: is the difference between shallow breathing and like they call it,
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: belly breath. And it's interesting because when babies are born,
• 26:17
  Speaker 1: when we're all babies, we're all belly breathing, and as
• 26:20
  Speaker 1: life starts to life us, we transition from that belly
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: breath to that shallow breath. And it's really interesting when
• 26:26
  Speaker 1: you're in community and when you're teaching or people. I
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: always see the light bulb go off when they realize
• 26:32
  Speaker 1: like they're breathing here and that they're really not getting
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: the breath to the whole body. And when they have
• 26:39
  Speaker 1: those moments and become mindful of that, it's just really
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: like life changing for them because you can see them
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: like really focusing on reclaiming their breath and that simple
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: exercise is a really quick, easy, accessible way to be
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: able to recognize that.
• 26:53
  Speaker 3: I feel like everyone listening to the podcast right now
• 26:56
  Speaker 3: is probably like, shoot, I've been a shallow breathing for
• 27:00
  Speaker 3: so long, and it's nothing to feel some kind of
• 27:03
  Speaker 3: way about. It's just simply the execution of when you
• 27:06
  Speaker 3: know better, do better. That doesn't mean that every breath
• 27:09
  Speaker 3: that you take for the rest of your life now
• 27:11
  Speaker 3: is going to be a deep belly breath, right, But
• 27:14
  Speaker 3: it's having the awareness to know that it's accessible to
• 27:17
  Speaker 3: you and having the awareness to recognize, oh, like, this
• 27:21
  Speaker 3: is how I've been doing this thing, and I could
• 27:23
  Speaker 3: do it a different way and it can serve me
• 27:25
  Speaker 3: a little bit in a different way, and that's great.
• 27:27
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 27:27
  Speaker 3: It's just again, everything that we're talking about here is
• 27:31
  Speaker 3: approaching the circumstance with some grace so that you can
• 27:34
  Speaker 3: make a tweak and then move forward knowing better.
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: And I think even when it comes down to breath,
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: it's just also understanding that it's there, right. And so
• 27:42
  Speaker 1: when you pay start paying attention to your breath, like
• 27:44
  Speaker 1: you will realize like, oh, I'm angry right now, right
• 27:49
  Speaker 1: like you know what I mean. You will realize okay,
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: like I feel soft right now, like your breath like
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: because you can tell your breath speeds up, your breath
• 27:57
  Speaker 1: slows down, like you know what I mean. And so
• 28:00
  Speaker 1: so when you start to really pay attention to your breath,
• 28:03
  Speaker 1: it's a really good way for you to just tap
• 28:05
  Speaker 1: in and recognize. And if you find yourself like shallow breathing,
• 28:09
  Speaker 1: or if you find yourself like, you know, breathing faster,
• 28:14
  Speaker 1: then that's the cue to you to be able to
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: stop and just be like I'm going to take two minutes.
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: I'm just going to sit here and I'm just gonna breathe, yeah,
• 28:21
  Speaker 1: and I'm going to just reset self regulate myself in
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: a way that doesn't require anything than just a moment,
• 28:28
  Speaker 1: and that doesn't even have to be like two minutes.
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: Sometimes it's like ten seconds, you know what I mean.
• 28:32
  Speaker 1: Sometimes it's like one where you just like a nice
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: deep in heal and then excelling it out you're like
• 28:39
  Speaker 1: and then you just like feel better.
• 28:41
  Speaker 3: Right, It doesn't need to be this big thing. It
• 28:44
  Speaker 3: really is a lot about meeting yourself with where you're at.
• 28:47
  Speaker 3: You know, when we talk about goal setting, often we
• 28:48
  Speaker 3: talk about the smart framework that's specific, measurable, attainable, realistic,
• 28:53
  Speaker 3: or relevant and time bound. Right and for someone who
• 28:56
  Speaker 3: has no breath practice right now, or isn't even aware
• 28:59
  Speaker 3: of how they've been breathing to then say, okay, I'm
• 29:03
  Speaker 3: going to be the person that does ten minutes of
• 29:05
  Speaker 3: breath work every day, that's not really all that relevant
• 29:08
  Speaker 3: or realistic for you.
• 29:09
  Speaker 2: You need to meet yourself with where you're at.
• 29:11
  Speaker 3: So maybe that person then is going to do one
• 29:14
  Speaker 3: minute or three deep breaths three that's it, and that
• 29:18
  Speaker 3: could take you a total of twenty seconds max. That
• 29:22
  Speaker 3: is how you integrate something into your routine in a
• 29:24
  Speaker 3: way that is relevant to who you are, what you
• 29:27
  Speaker 3: have going on.
• 29:28
  Speaker 2: Then over time you can build off of that.
• 29:30
  Speaker 3: Now, I just said the buzzword routine, and we talked
• 29:33
  Speaker 3: a little bit about different aspects of routine, whether that's
• 29:36
  Speaker 3: movement or breathwork, but creating a whole new routine that
• 29:40
  Speaker 3: integrates different good for you practices into your day to
• 29:44
  Speaker 3: day can also be a major way to manage stress
• 29:48
  Speaker 3: and really come back to calm.
• 29:49
  Speaker 2: I know, for me, today is my first day in.
• 29:52
  Speaker 3: Quite some time back in Brooklyn, and I the amount
• 29:56
  Speaker 3: of joy I had from doing my regular morning routine
• 29:59
  Speaker 3: in my regular morning place was unrivaled earlier today. Why
• 30:03
  Speaker 3: is it that developing routines can be so beneficial for
• 30:08
  Speaker 3: someone who's navigating a stressful time?
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: You know, I think, well, you know, first and foremost,
• 30:13
  Speaker 1: our brains are just wired for routine. It kind of
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: like predicts certain things. But also there's safety that's in
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: that routine. Let's first preface this that you know, you
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: have a routine, and it's okay. It's sometimes your routine
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: falls off, and it's okay to jump back on and
• 30:28
  Speaker 1: off the wagon of your routine, right, give yourself that grace.
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: But you know, for me, routines is something that has
• 30:34
  Speaker 1: shown up that has allowed me some stability and allowed
• 30:38
  Speaker 1: me space to have balance, right, And so especially when
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: I understand that the rest of my day or my
• 30:45
  Speaker 1: day to day life is not as routine focused and
• 30:50
  Speaker 1: has some moments of unbalanced or chaos, having a routine
• 30:54
  Speaker 1: for myself is something that kind of like anchors me.
• 30:58
  Speaker 1: And I think I've noticed a lot of people that
• 31:00
  Speaker 1: I've been working with they don't have routines, and so
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: they just kind of like wake up in the morning
• 31:07
  Speaker 1: and maybe they don't have a morning routine, and because
• 31:09
  Speaker 1: they don't have a morning routine, their mornings are very chaotic. Right,
• 31:12
  Speaker 1: Rather than sitting back and saying, Okay, this is how
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: it'd like to start my day, maybe I need to
• 31:17
  Speaker 1: wake up five minutes early, an hour early, depending you know.
• 31:20
  Speaker 1: I know there's some big proponents of the five am club.
• 31:23
  Speaker 1: I'm one of those members. But even if you don't
• 31:25
  Speaker 1: do a five am routine, you can do your eight
• 31:28
  Speaker 1: thirty routine and have it be just as impactful as
• 31:31
  Speaker 1: your five am routine, right, And so like really just
• 31:33
  Speaker 1: focusing on those routines around like how you want to
• 31:36
  Speaker 1: start your day, how you want to end your day,
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: because especially when we're thinking about like a nighttime routine,
• 31:41
  Speaker 1: we're taking that day with us into bed, right.
• 31:44
  Speaker 2: And I don't know about you, but like I know.
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: Sometimes if I don't have my routine, point like, my
• 31:51
  Speaker 1: mind will be running a mile a minute, I'll be
• 31:54
  Speaker 1: waking up at three o'clock in the morning, and people
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: will be talking about my cortisol levels and.
• 31:58
  Speaker 2: All those kinds of things.
• 31:59
  Speaker 1: But like reality is is that when I have a consistent, concise,
• 32:04
  Speaker 1: really supportive, nourishing nighttime routine, like I don't wake up
• 32:08
  Speaker 1: at three o'clock in the morning, I don't wake up
• 32:11
  Speaker 1: cranky in the next day, and my mind is not
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: racing as much. And then if I have my morning
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: routine and book end it with a nice nighttime routine,
• 32:21
  Speaker 1: like I just feel more full. It's really hard to explain,
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: but I just feel more like I'm doing something for myself.
• 32:28
  Speaker 2: One hundred percent. Yeah, definitely.
• 32:31
  Speaker 3: And for me, if I'm off of my routines, I
• 32:35
  Speaker 3: notice a domino effect for everything I'm doing in terms
• 32:39
  Speaker 3: of the decisions that I'm making throughout the day. I
• 32:42
  Speaker 3: may not eat as well as I'd like to eat, and.
• 32:45
  Speaker 2: I'm like, well, we'll just start tomorrow, right.
• 32:48
  Speaker 3: I think the best thing that you can do for
• 32:50
  Speaker 3: yourself is grant yourself the permission to begin again at
• 32:53
  Speaker 3: any moment of the day.
• 32:55
  Speaker 2: It doesn't need to be when you wake up the
• 32:57
  Speaker 2: next day.
• 32:58
  Speaker 3: Also, on the note of what time people wake up
• 33:00
  Speaker 3: in the morning, I was just having a conversation with
• 33:02
  Speaker 3: a friend about this, and I need to hear your POV.
• 33:05
  Speaker 3: If you're an adult, like let's say you are a
• 33:07
  Speaker 3: functioning member of society, you're I'm in my thirties, let's
• 33:11
  Speaker 3: go like mid twenties and above, you've been to the
• 33:13
  Speaker 3: workforce for a few years.
• 33:14
  Speaker 2: If you were.
• 33:15
  Speaker 3: Getting up after eight am, I don't understand. Yeah, I
• 33:19
  Speaker 3: mean for me personally, it's so hard. That's a hot take.
• 33:22
  Speaker 1: I personally think that, like, you get so much done
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: with a really productive morning routine. I just feel like
• 33:29
  Speaker 1: your day becomes blurry after eight o'clock.
• 33:31
  Speaker 2: I'm sorry.
• 33:32
  Speaker 1: I hope I don't offend anybody by saying that. I
• 33:35
  Speaker 1: just came in with the hot Yeah, I was like,
• 33:38
  Speaker 1: I just kind of feel like the amount of like
• 33:42
  Speaker 1: stuff I'm able to accomplish prior to eight o'clock in
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: the morning is insane. By getting up earlier, right, and
• 33:50
  Speaker 1: I just feel like it just sets a better tone
• 33:53
  Speaker 1: for me for my day. I do struggle with people
• 33:56
  Speaker 1: who like I struggle, and sometimes I'm a little bit
• 33:59
  Speaker 1: in awe. The fact that you can roll out of
• 34:01
  Speaker 1: bed at eight thirty and be somewhere by nine kind
• 34:03
  Speaker 1: of vibes like you know what I mean. But then
• 34:05
  Speaker 1: it just makes me question, like, and I'm not trying
• 34:08
  Speaker 1: to knock anybody, but like, how are you taking care
• 34:10
  Speaker 1: of yourself before you start your day?
• 34:11
  Speaker 2: Exactly?
• 34:12
  Speaker 3: And I will say to those that are listening, and
• 34:14
  Speaker 3: they're like, well, I'm a night owl, and that's when
• 34:16
  Speaker 3: I take my time for myself.
• 34:18
  Speaker 2: Do you know what you're really doing by being a
• 34:20
  Speaker 2: night owl?
• 34:21
  Speaker 3: Like? Are you actually serving your body by staying up
• 34:24
  Speaker 3: until one am? What would be a little bit different
• 34:27
  Speaker 3: if you listen to your circadian rhythm and went to
• 34:31
  Speaker 3: bed at a more culturally acceptable time.
• 34:35
  Speaker 2: I don't know, I'm just throwing these thoughts.
• 34:37
  Speaker 1: It's interesting because you know, I just came back from
• 34:40
  Speaker 1: Jamaica not too long ago, and I stayed in country
• 34:42
  Speaker 1: and like the rooster's crow, like four thirty five o'clock
• 34:46
  Speaker 1: in the morning, and like you're up, like there's no
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: negotiation with your body, Like the sun is literally shining
• 34:53
  Speaker 1: on you, and that's how you start your day. So
• 34:56
  Speaker 1: I feel like, you know, and then everybody's starting their
• 34:59
  Speaker 1: day right, and so you know, it's very hard for
• 35:02
  Speaker 1: me to kind of like and when the sun goes down,
• 35:05
  Speaker 1: you're kind of like ending your day kind of vibe,
• 35:07
  Speaker 1: and so like, I just feel like, you know, I
• 35:10
  Speaker 1: get the whole night hour owl thing and all those
• 35:13
  Speaker 1: kinds of things, but I also think that, you know,
• 35:16
  Speaker 1: sometimes those are just reasons and rationales for the fact
• 35:20
  Speaker 1: that we are subscribing to burnout culture and legitimizing, you know,
• 35:25
  Speaker 1: like survival mode.
• 35:26
  Speaker 3: And on the note of routine, I really want to
• 35:29
  Speaker 3: make sure that we were on this home. I'm not
• 35:30
  Speaker 3: saying you need just like an exercise snack can be
• 35:34
  Speaker 3: good for you, of a routine snack can be good
• 35:38
  Speaker 3: for you. It doesn't need to be some extensive thing
• 35:41
  Speaker 3: in the morning where you're taking thirty minutes for your
• 35:43
  Speaker 3: skincare and breathing for thirty minutes and then journaling for
• 35:47
  Speaker 3: thirty minutes and then before you know it, you have
• 35:48
  Speaker 3: like a four hour morning routine. Nah, it doesn't need
• 35:51
  Speaker 3: to be like that. Meet yourself with where you're at right.
• 35:54
  Speaker 3: So if you don't have one. Right now, ask yourself,
• 35:57
  Speaker 3: what's one thing I want to integrate into my morning
• 35:59
  Speaker 3: that's giving back to me that helps me put on
• 36:02
  Speaker 3: that oxygen mask and then show up how I want
• 36:05
  Speaker 3: to show up moving forward. It can literally be one
• 36:08
  Speaker 3: to five minutes. But I encourage you to take that
• 36:10
  Speaker 3: time for yourself so that you can do that for you.
• 36:13
  Speaker 3: You deserve that time for yourself. I am worthy of
• 36:16
  Speaker 3: that time.
• 36:17
  Speaker 1: Yeah, And I think you know, I really would like
• 36:20
  Speaker 1: to encourage people to step away from like the wellness
• 36:23
  Speaker 1: aesthetic right of like the red light this that like
• 36:27
  Speaker 1: we see that all over like socials and stuff like that,
• 36:30
  Speaker 1: and really just understand this whole entire idea of like like.
• 36:34
  Speaker 2: What you said.
• 36:34
  Speaker 1: It can be a routine snack. Like I think one
• 36:36
  Speaker 1: time I did a post on Instagram or it was
• 36:38
  Speaker 1: like you have five minutes in the morning, and I
• 36:40
  Speaker 1: showed everyone you could do like five minutes of breath work.
• 36:43
  Speaker 1: Five like I mean one minute of breath work, drink
• 36:46
  Speaker 1: your water. That's a minute, right, one minute of a
• 36:49
  Speaker 1: great gratitude list, one minute of like light stretching in bed,
• 36:53
  Speaker 1: and then one minute of I think was breathing or
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: something like that and it was five minutes. That's it, right,
• 36:58
  Speaker 1: that was it. Because people always come to me like, oh,
• 37:00
  Speaker 1: I want to build a routine, I want to meditate,
• 37:02
  Speaker 1: I want to do this, and I'm just like, they're like,
• 37:03
  Speaker 1: but it's hard. I'm like, let's stop making it hard,
• 37:07
  Speaker 1: and let's just make it accessible for me. Wellness is
• 37:10
  Speaker 1: all about accessibility, and so your morning routine could be
• 37:15
  Speaker 1: getting up five minutes, ten minutes earlier and just taking
• 37:18
  Speaker 1: that moment to make a good cup of tea or
• 37:21
  Speaker 1: a good cup of coffee. Right, you're you know, I
• 37:24
  Speaker 1: do not have the time, nor the energy, nor the
• 37:27
  Speaker 1: bandwidth to have a thirty minute like and if I did,
• 37:30
  Speaker 1: I wonder what my skin would look like. But like
• 37:31
  Speaker 1: a thirty minute like you know what I mean, Like,
• 37:34
  Speaker 1: who has time for that?
• 37:35
  Speaker 2: Right?
• 37:36
  Speaker 1: I have time for you know, a really good oil, right,
• 37:40
  Speaker 1: and you know, a little good body brushing and all
• 37:43
  Speaker 1: that kind of stuff. But there's some mornings when I
• 37:45
  Speaker 1: don't do all that, and some mornings I just like
• 37:47
  Speaker 1: today I can only journal. That's all I have the
• 37:49
  Speaker 1: capacity for. And that is fine too. So like when
• 37:52
  Speaker 1: we're thinking about establishing routines too as well, it's Okay,
• 37:56
  Speaker 1: Like if you don't do your top ten or whatever
• 37:59
  Speaker 1: top five for your routine and you just do one,
• 38:01
  Speaker 1: at least you did one thing that gave back to you.
• 38:05
  Speaker 1: And that's what the whole entire purpose of like cultivating
• 38:07
  Speaker 1: these practices around routine are all about. It's about, you know,
• 38:11
  Speaker 1: finding the time and the bandwidth and the space to
• 38:14
  Speaker 1: give back to you.
• 38:15
  Speaker 3: And differentiating between the concept of it is hard and
• 38:20
  Speaker 3: it feels hard, right, because you have the opportunity to
• 38:26
  Speaker 3: understand that it feels hard is not a fact.
• 38:30
  Speaker 2: It's just a feeling.
• 38:31
  Speaker 3: When you say it is hard, you're believing that to
• 38:34
  Speaker 3: be how it is. It's hard, period. So shift that
• 38:38
  Speaker 3: mindset and shift your view on that, and you might
• 38:43
  Speaker 3: be surprised at how you can reclaim your power over
• 38:47
  Speaker 3: an otherwise quote unquote hard task or thing that you
• 38:51
  Speaker 3: want to build into your routine. So we've established here
• 38:54
  Speaker 3: routines can be very good for you when it comes
• 38:56
  Speaker 3: to combating stress, especially because again it's that moment, that
• 39:00
  Speaker 3: period of time that you're doing something for yourself and
• 39:02
  Speaker 3: that can be so so valuable. Something else that can
• 39:06
  Speaker 3: be really helpful in managing stress. We talked about taking
• 39:10
  Speaker 3: that walk around the block, getting outside. What is it
• 39:13
  Speaker 3: that being outside does for us? Regardless unfortunately of the
• 39:16
  Speaker 3: temperature out there.
• 39:17
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean I tied walking around Brooklyn lately and
• 39:20
  Speaker 1: it wasn't it. But you know, I think like just
• 39:23
  Speaker 1: getting outside and just you know, changing your environments, getting
• 39:28
  Speaker 1: some sun on your skin, regardless of how cold or
• 39:32
  Speaker 1: hot it is or wherever you are, just being able
• 39:34
  Speaker 1: to just feel your breath a little bit differently outside.
• 39:38
  Speaker 1: It also provides you this space to be able to
• 39:40
  Speaker 1: just move right and whether that walk looks like you know,
• 39:44
  Speaker 1: like I was telling Emily earlier, I walked to Trader
• 39:46
  Speaker 1: Joe's and that was a different kind of walk than
• 39:48
  Speaker 1: like walking into like Prospect Park, but it's still nonetheless
• 39:51
  Speaker 1: getting outside right and if you're able to like build
• 39:54
  Speaker 1: on that getting outside and taking a moment to like,
• 39:57
  Speaker 1: you know, go somewhere where you have access to like
• 40:00
  Speaker 1: park or something where you can ground a little bit,
• 40:03
  Speaker 1: or you can sit and meditate a little bit. Like then,
• 40:06
  Speaker 1: ancestral speaking, we have that connection to nature. It's all
• 40:09
  Speaker 1: in our DNA being connected to nature. So really just
• 40:12
  Speaker 1: kind of like paying homage and bringing it back to
• 40:15
  Speaker 1: that idea of like being in a natural environment that's
• 40:18
  Speaker 1: really conducive to us. And so, you know, I actively
• 40:22
  Speaker 1: encourage people all the time. Like, you know, my oldest someoneever,
• 40:25
  Speaker 1: he calls me he's stressed out. I'm like, go outside
• 40:27
  Speaker 1: for a walk. Yeah, He's like, I don't want to
• 40:29
  Speaker 1: do it. I'm like, go outside for walk. And then
• 40:31
  Speaker 1: he'll call me later and he'd be like, oh, I
• 40:32
  Speaker 1: feel so much better, right, And I'm like, he's like,
• 40:35
  Speaker 1: I went to the park, I did this, I did that.
• 40:36
  Speaker 1: And I'm like yeah, see right, And so like you know, again,
• 40:40
  Speaker 1: that's nature, you know, is a prescription that doesn't cost
• 40:44
  Speaker 1: money for us to be able to be outside. And
• 40:47
  Speaker 1: I understand that, Like, Okay, we're having this conversation right
• 40:50
  Speaker 1: now here in Brooklyn, but like you know, being outside
• 40:53
  Speaker 1: in an urban center can be just as satisfying and
• 40:57
  Speaker 1: fulfilling as being in somewhere like in like the country
• 41:00
  Speaker 1: side and all those kinds of things. It's what we
• 41:02
  Speaker 1: make out of the experience, right.
• 41:04
  Speaker 3: Yeah, Mom knows best, get outside. Always get outside. On
• 41:08
  Speaker 3: the topic of being outside as well, is get outside
• 41:12
  Speaker 3: and be outside. I think that there is goodness. Of course,
• 41:15
  Speaker 3: I want you to listen to podcasts. I want you
• 41:17
  Speaker 3: to listen to hurdle. I want you to listen to
• 41:18
  Speaker 3: music that brings you back to comm and gives you
• 41:22
  Speaker 3: the vibes if you're going out for a run. But
• 41:24
  Speaker 3: I also think that there's so much value to paying
• 41:26
  Speaker 3: attention to your surroundings and being fully present in nature.
• 41:30
  Speaker 3: This brings about the idea of also being cognizant of
• 41:34
  Speaker 3: what your inputs are.
• 41:35
  Speaker 2: Let's talk a.
• 41:35
  Speaker 3: Little bit about inputs and what we're putting into our body,
• 41:40
  Speaker 3: not just from a nutrition pov although that can certainly
• 41:44
  Speaker 3: contribute to stress, but also what we're consuming, whether that
• 41:47
  Speaker 3: be on our phone, with social media, the people that
• 41:49
  Speaker 3: are in our life, so on and so forth.
• 41:51
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like, you know, one thing that I
• 41:54
  Speaker 1: did a long time ago when the pandemic actually happened.
• 41:57
  Speaker 1: I can't believe I'm still using that word, but you know,
• 42:00
  Speaker 1: once upon a time there was I think called the pandemic.
• 42:02
  Speaker 1: I stopped watching the news mainly because I just mentally
• 42:05
  Speaker 1: didn't have the bandwidth to be able to like process
• 42:08
  Speaker 1: all that information that was coming and I felt like
• 42:10
  Speaker 1: it was making my anxiety like really elevated. And so
• 42:14
  Speaker 1: one of the practices that I've done to help me
• 42:16
  Speaker 1: manage to navigate stress. And I'm not saying be like
• 42:19
  Speaker 1: ignorant to everything that's going on in the world, Like
• 42:22
  Speaker 1: I have ways of being able to access information, but
• 42:25
  Speaker 1: I'm also like really a big proponent of controlling the
• 42:29
  Speaker 1: information that you receive. And so like I've limited like
• 42:33
  Speaker 1: my TV watching time in general, not just like the news,
• 42:36
  Speaker 1: but like how I'm spending my time watching TV. I'm
• 42:40
  Speaker 1: very mindful of, like, you know, stuff that I read
• 42:42
  Speaker 1: and things of that nature, the people and the conversations
• 42:45
  Speaker 1: that I choose to have and if I feel like,
• 42:47
  Speaker 1: you know, they're not supportive conversations or conversations that are
• 42:50
  Speaker 1: bringing me into this very negative or dark space or
• 42:53
  Speaker 1: like stressful you know, beyond work, right, I also kind
• 42:58
  Speaker 1: of like find ways to be to remove that too
• 43:01
  Speaker 1: as well, because you know, there's that saying that we
• 43:04
  Speaker 1: are what we eat, and when when we talk about eating,
• 43:06
  Speaker 1: we're talking about like things that we listen to, the
• 43:09
  Speaker 1: people that we keep company with, you know, the different
• 43:12
  Speaker 1: kinds of foods that we're putting into our body, right,
• 43:15
  Speaker 1: And so just really being mindful of that as a practice,
• 43:18
  Speaker 1: I think would be something that if people really wanted
• 43:22
  Speaker 1: to explore and tap into can make a huge difference.
• 43:25
  Speaker 1: And I feel like a lot of us are in
• 43:27
  Speaker 1: this space where we get a lot of information and
• 43:31
  Speaker 1: the information is really overwhelming and it puts us into
• 43:35
  Speaker 1: these states of like like one, we just don't know
• 43:38
  Speaker 1: how to process or deal with it to depending on
• 43:42
  Speaker 1: the information, it's very traumatic and again we don't know
• 43:45
  Speaker 1: how to process and deal with it and things of
• 43:47
  Speaker 1: that nature. So just really being mindful of the fact
• 43:50
  Speaker 1: that like you can have a lot more control over
• 43:52
  Speaker 1: that and set that as a healthy boundary for yourself
• 43:55
  Speaker 1: because you'll be able to access. Like I said, I
• 43:57
  Speaker 1: access what I need to access when I need to access,
• 44:00
  Speaker 1: But I don't welcome in information or things in my
• 44:05
  Speaker 1: environment that aren't like conducive to supporting my overwall wellbeing.
• 44:09
  Speaker 3: And this is this makes me think about the purposefulness
• 44:14
  Speaker 3: of a routine, right because for me, I used to
• 44:17
  Speaker 3: wake up and the first thing I would do is
• 44:19
  Speaker 3: like look at Instagram, or I used to turn on
• 44:24
  Speaker 3: the podcast the news podcast that I listened to before
• 44:27
  Speaker 3: I join an older did breathwork, And I realized that
• 44:30
  Speaker 3: doing that put me on hire alert kind of made
• 44:34
  Speaker 3: me feel some kind of way that I didn't want
• 44:36
  Speaker 3: to start my day feeling like and so instead now
• 44:39
  Speaker 3: my phone sleeps on its own little charging path that
• 44:42
  Speaker 3: is not within reach of my bed. That was a huge,
• 44:45
  Speaker 3: great thing that I did when I was cognizant of
• 44:47
  Speaker 3: my inputs. And then now I wait until after the
• 44:51
  Speaker 3: breathwork in journaling to when I'm like getting ready to
• 44:54
  Speaker 3: head out the door to listen to my news podcast,
• 44:57
  Speaker 3: and that's you know, ten minutes and the back round
• 45:00
  Speaker 3: of me making my bed and organizing my apartment and
• 45:02
  Speaker 3: like kind of setting myself up for the day that
• 45:04
  Speaker 3: feels good for me, but maybe also in a month
• 45:08
  Speaker 3: that routine might not feel good for me. And so
• 45:10
  Speaker 3: it's just being cognizant of how do the decisions that
• 45:14
  Speaker 3: I'm making impact how I feel and reflecting on that.
• 45:17
  Speaker 3: That goes back to our first conversation on wow, how
• 45:20
  Speaker 3: does it feel if I reflect on what's going on here?
• 45:24
  Speaker 3: How does it feel if I take stock of what's
• 45:26
  Speaker 3: going on and allowing yourself to be more present in
• 45:31
  Speaker 3: your day to day in what you're consuming and how
• 45:34
  Speaker 3: that does affect your body?
• 45:36
  Speaker 1: And I also think that what you touched on was
• 45:37
  Speaker 1: something really important, is the fact that we should allow
• 45:40
  Speaker 1: ourselves the freedom and flexible to be flexible right and
• 45:45
  Speaker 1: not get tied into these static notions of like how
• 45:49
  Speaker 1: things are supposed to be done and how things are
• 45:51
  Speaker 1: supposed to be right. I feel like, you know, we
• 45:55
  Speaker 1: all are growing and evolving. Like like growth is not static,
• 46:00
  Speaker 1: it's constant, and so like like what you said, like
• 46:02
  Speaker 1: this week, it may work from you. Next week it
• 46:04
  Speaker 1: might be something different. You might find something and add
• 46:07
  Speaker 1: it into your repertoire of things to tap into, right,
• 46:11
  Speaker 1: and so like you know, when we're thinking about these
• 46:14
  Speaker 1: things in terms of just supporting ourselves as we are
• 46:17
  Speaker 1: navigating stress, like think of these things, of all little
• 46:20
  Speaker 1: things that you can put into your toolbox and you
• 46:22
  Speaker 1: can take them out, like tap us. You can try this,
• 46:24
  Speaker 1: try that, and see what works for you. And then
• 46:27
  Speaker 1: and you it's okay for you to like say this
• 46:30
  Speaker 1: isn't working for me, and I'm going to put it
• 46:31
  Speaker 1: away for a little while and try something else.
• 46:34
  Speaker 3: And this also beckons us to talk about You said
• 46:38
  Speaker 3: tap us, So then I thought food. So now I'm
• 46:39
  Speaker 3: going to bring food into the conversation. Also, what you
• 46:42
  Speaker 3: put in your body in terms of nutrition is going
• 46:44
  Speaker 3: to impact if you're feeling stressed, especially when the things
• 46:47
  Speaker 3: that you're putting in your body might not actually be
• 46:49
  Speaker 3: all that nutrient dense. So I'm not of the camp
• 46:52
  Speaker 3: that's going to tell you to eliminate anything entirely. I
• 46:54
  Speaker 3: just don't believe in that way of restriction. But what
• 46:57
  Speaker 3: I will say is, if I'm in a place where
• 47:00
  Speaker 3: I'm not really being mindful of what I'm eating, if
• 47:03
  Speaker 3: I'm eating all different things from pizza to French fries
• 47:07
  Speaker 3: to burgers to tacos, and I'm traveling and I'm not
• 47:09
  Speaker 3: getting a lot of sleep, like all these things are
• 47:11
  Speaker 3: going to combine to a place that don't make me
• 47:14
  Speaker 3: feel that good and maybe make me feel more stressed.
• 47:16
  Speaker 3: That doesn't mean that there's not a place in time
• 47:18
  Speaker 3: for going to pizza with your buddy.
• 47:20
  Speaker 2: It's like, of course there is.
• 47:21
  Speaker 3: But if you're living on a diet exclusively of pizza,
• 47:25
  Speaker 3: I mean, it sounds kind of nice, but candidly, you're
• 47:27
  Speaker 3: probably not going to feel all that great, right, Yeah.
• 47:29
  Speaker 1: And I also feel like, you know, we don't need
• 47:32
  Speaker 1: to sit here and you know, hammer at home. But
• 47:34
  Speaker 1: there's so much, you know, evidence that's out there talking
• 47:37
  Speaker 1: about the connection between the brain and the gut. Those
• 47:39
  Speaker 1: are the first two things that are developed when we
• 47:41
  Speaker 1: are embryos. So like there's that strong connection. And you know,
• 47:45
  Speaker 1: when you think about it, there's this word like word,
• 47:47
  Speaker 1: it's called comfort food, right, and so they're naturally predisposed
• 47:52
  Speaker 1: and designed in a way to provide comfort and activate
• 47:55
  Speaker 1: parts of our brain that make us feel a certain way.
• 47:57
  Speaker 1: So I get when you know, when we're stressed, you know,
• 48:00
  Speaker 1: we might reach for that chocolate bar, the bag of
• 48:03
  Speaker 1: chips or whatever. And if we're living in a constant
• 48:06
  Speaker 1: stat of stress, then we're constantly reaching for those things, right.
• 48:10
  Speaker 1: But you know, it's also renegotiating our understanding and our
• 48:15
  Speaker 1: stories that we tell ourselves around food, you know, and
• 48:18
  Speaker 1: a lot of us don't necessarily have healthy relationships around food.
• 48:21
  Speaker 1: And I'm not going to sit here and pretend like
• 48:24
  Speaker 1: I don't get stressed. And I like the other week,
• 48:26
  Speaker 1: I went to my doctor's appointment and I didn't like
• 48:29
  Speaker 1: what the doctor said, and I was so depressed afterwards,
• 48:32
  Speaker 1: and sad. I went downstairs at the hospital and I
• 48:35
  Speaker 1: did a balance, I ate butter pecan tart, and then
• 48:39
  Speaker 1: I had a gluten free because I'm supposed to be
• 48:41
  Speaker 1: eating gluten free, a gluten free slice of cake. So
• 48:43
  Speaker 1: it's like that was my balance and a diet coke. Right,
• 48:47
  Speaker 1: there's my balance. I got the comfort and I got
• 48:49
  Speaker 1: the you know what I mean for me, that's okay
• 48:51
  Speaker 1: because I don't do that on a normal, regular basis,
• 48:53
  Speaker 1: But really examining and having that conversation around how foods
• 49:00
  Speaker 1: aims us, right, and how food not only nourishes us
• 49:03
  Speaker 1: in terms of like our you know, helps with us,
• 49:06
  Speaker 1: but also helps nourish our brain, right, and thinking of
• 49:09
  Speaker 1: the healthy ways that we can sustain a healthy brain
• 49:12
  Speaker 1: and a healthy gut biome is like super critically important.
• 49:15
  Speaker 1: There's so much information out there that lets us know
• 49:19
  Speaker 1: these things and also understanding that it's okay to have
• 49:22
  Speaker 1: that balance, yeah, and tapping into the ways in which
• 49:26
  Speaker 1: you can create that balance for yourself and not feel guilty.
• 49:29
  Speaker 1: I don't want people to feel guilty about the relationships
• 49:31
  Speaker 1: that they have with food, right, because there's also some
• 49:34
  Speaker 1: cultural nuances around food and the stigma around certain people's foods.
• 49:37
  Speaker 1: But also understanding that like you can as long as
• 49:43
  Speaker 1: you're also trying to find accessible ways to meet yourself
• 49:47
  Speaker 1: where you're at that help sustain you in a loving way, right,
• 49:51
  Speaker 1: And so like maybe my conversation when I'm stressed out
• 49:54
  Speaker 1: also looks like I automatically praise somethings sweet. So maybe
• 49:58
  Speaker 1: I'll reach for like some fruit, but which for me
• 50:00
  Speaker 1: is nature's candy. Always tell me that's how I got
• 50:02
  Speaker 1: my kids to eat fruit. I'd be like, it's nature's candy.
• 50:04
  Speaker 1: Eat some right, So like I'll find my way navigating
• 50:08
  Speaker 1: to the store to do that, and you know, maybe
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  Speaker 1: balancing it off with something a little bubbly, like some kombucha.
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  Speaker 2: Right.
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  Speaker 1: But then also I understand that there's going to be
• 50:16
  Speaker 1: a moment I might reach for something like that too
• 50:18
  Speaker 1: as well, but also being aware of the fact that
• 50:21
  Speaker 1: the consistency is the part that kind of sustains and
• 50:24
  Speaker 1: either makes it a healthy habit or a not so
• 50:27
  Speaker 1: healthy habit.
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  Speaker 3: Like the ninety ten, Like ninety percent of the time
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  Speaker 3: maybe you make a quote unquote good choice, and then
• 50:32
  Speaker 3: ten percent of the time it's like this is a
• 50:34
  Speaker 3: treat myself moment, right I And yeah, who hasn't been there?
• 50:37
  Speaker 2: Right? Who hasn't been there?
• 50:38
  Speaker 3: Like finding the balance between the diet coke and the
• 50:41
  Speaker 3: gluten free cake. It's just you have to to do
• 50:44
  Speaker 3: what feels best for you in that moment, with understanding
• 50:47
  Speaker 3: that maybe one day you make the choice that quote
• 50:50
  Speaker 3: unquote wasn't the healthiest one, but then the next time
• 50:53
  Speaker 3: you have the awareness to pivot a little bit. I
• 50:56
  Speaker 3: remember distinctly last year I had a really rough day
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  Speaker 3: and I was standing in Soho near a milk bar
• 51:04
  Speaker 3: and then also a majory like the jewelry store, and
• 51:07
  Speaker 3: I consciously chose to go into majory and buy myself
• 51:11
  Speaker 3: like this like sixty dollars ring that I had been
• 51:13
  Speaker 3: targeted for on Instagram, instead of going to milk bar.
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  Speaker 3: And I talked about that with my life coach specifically
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  Speaker 3: that week, and I was like, I made this choice
• 51:22
  Speaker 3: and I bought myself a ring, and now I can
• 51:24
  Speaker 3: look down at the ring and think to myself, like,
• 51:26
  Speaker 3: remember when you made that really good choice for yourself,
• 51:30
  Speaker 3: and how would it feel if you continue to follow
• 51:33
  Speaker 3: on that path and make those kind of choices more regularly.
• 51:36
  Speaker 3: And it was really indicative of a place that I
• 51:39
  Speaker 3: was in where I was taking ownership over the choices
• 51:42
  Speaker 3: that I have in the day to day. There have
• 51:44
  Speaker 3: been many times within my life, especially with relation to food,
• 51:48
  Speaker 3: where I feel like I don't have ownership before my choices,
• 51:51
  Speaker 3: or I felt as though I wasn't capable of making
• 51:55
  Speaker 3: good decisions. And I've been there. I'm sure many people
• 51:58
  Speaker 3: listening to this have been there, and that's okay. But
• 52:01
  Speaker 3: knowing that you can at any point choose to change
• 52:06
  Speaker 3: that narrative, it might not be easy, but.
• 52:08
  Speaker 2: There is opportunity in that.
• 52:10
  Speaker 3: So yeah, I mean stress, especially when it comes to
• 52:12
  Speaker 3: food for me, has been very difficult literally since I
• 52:17
  Speaker 3: started to understand that I can have agency over what
• 52:19
  Speaker 3: I put into my body. But it's a forever work
• 52:22
  Speaker 3: in progress and one that I get again that word opportunity,
• 52:24
  Speaker 3: it comes up a lot, but the opportunity to learn
• 52:27
  Speaker 3: and grow along.
• 52:28
  Speaker 2: With as I grow.
• 52:29
  Speaker 3: I love what you said before about the fact that
• 52:31
  Speaker 3: like growth doesn't need to be linear and although like
• 52:34
  Speaker 3: we as humans, you know, we have this upward slanting
• 52:37
  Speaker 3: chart for our growth, Like that's literally the only thing
• 52:40
  Speaker 3: I think about your growth, maybe as an entrepreneur, as
• 52:43
  Speaker 3: a woman, or as your emotional growth, Like there are
• 52:45
  Speaker 3: going to be moments where it's skyrocketing and going up,
• 52:48
  Speaker 3: and then maybe it's going to go down, and then
• 52:49
  Speaker 3: maybe it's gonna plateau for a little bit and go
• 52:51
  Speaker 3: down and go up, and all of this is okay
• 52:53
  Speaker 3: as long as you're learning along the way. There's that saying.
• 52:56
  Speaker 3: It's that there's the journey is the destination. And for
• 53:00
  Speaker 3: so many of us, as we're navigating stress, like all
• 53:02
  Speaker 3: we can do is learn from our day to day
• 53:04
  Speaker 3: and navigate the difficult moments with the understanding that those
• 53:08
  Speaker 3: difficult moments, those hurdles are going to be the thing
• 53:11
  Speaker 3: that teach us how to navigate the next one that
• 53:13
  Speaker 3: mimics that level of difficulty, toughness, et cetera.
• 53:17
  Speaker 1: And I think that, you know, sometimes we just need
• 53:19
  Speaker 1: to remind it of the fact that life exists in paradoxes, right,
• 53:22
  Speaker 1: Like you can be happy and said at the same time, right,
• 53:25
  Speaker 1: you can exist in two different places at the same time, like, so,
• 53:29
  Speaker 1: you know, and if that's the case, then your growth
• 53:31
  Speaker 1: is also going to be paradoxal. Your healing is going
• 53:33
  Speaker 1: to be paradoxal. And you know, just having that understanding
• 53:36
  Speaker 1: and appreciation for that in the way that it shows up.
• 53:39
  Speaker 1: But I think what this you know, conversation really centers
• 53:43
  Speaker 1: back to when we're thinking about navigating like stress and whatnot.
• 53:45
  Speaker 1: Is this idea of like cultivating a practice of self
• 53:49
  Speaker 1: compassion and cultivating a practice of just real, honest, open
• 53:54
  Speaker 1: self reflection, right, Like you know, we've talked about this
• 53:58
  Speaker 1: many times before, Like the idea of tapping back in
• 54:00
  Speaker 1: asking ourselves what we need, right, what do we need
• 54:03
  Speaker 1: to sustain us to fill us up? And then finding
• 54:06
  Speaker 1: those tools to be able to do that, but then
• 54:09
  Speaker 1: also taking it a step further and giving ourselves that
• 54:13
  Speaker 1: grace that we give everybody else except for ourselves, right,
• 54:17
  Speaker 1: and that compassion so that we allow our selves to
• 54:22
  Speaker 1: be in a place that facilitates growth, that facilitates self love,
• 54:27
  Speaker 1: that facilitates all these things that we're literally on a
• 54:30
  Speaker 1: quest for whether or not we want to hold space
• 54:32
  Speaker 1: and acknowledge that that's kind of like what life is
• 54:36
  Speaker 1: lifing us through to get to those destination points, but
• 54:39
  Speaker 1: also understanding that, like you know, that journey is always
• 54:42
  Speaker 1: going to be one that's going to be rough with
• 54:45
  Speaker 1: peaks and valleys, but also it's always constant and it's
• 54:48
  Speaker 1: constantly evolving, and that's the beautiful thing about being humans
• 54:52
  Speaker 1: and we're humans, being right, So, like you know, really
• 54:56
  Speaker 1: being cognizant of that is really important and not stuck
• 55:00
  Speaker 1: on the semantics of things.
• 55:02
  Speaker 2: I am not a burden.
• 55:04
  Speaker 3: I think that that is an idea, a concept that
• 55:08
  Speaker 3: I worked for a long time repeating out loud to
• 55:12
  Speaker 3: myself because I would be going through moments of stress
• 55:16
  Speaker 3: or moments that I really could use some calm and
• 55:18
  Speaker 3: felt as though I needed to endure them on my own.
• 55:21
  Speaker 3: It was as though I was trying to prove something
• 55:23
  Speaker 3: to myself. And I think that this is the last
• 55:25
  Speaker 3: topic that I want us to talk on today, is
• 55:28
  Speaker 3: the importance of speaking about your stress, whether it be
• 55:31
  Speaker 3: to a licensed professional or simply to a friend. Answering
• 55:37
  Speaker 3: the question how are you authentically and not just going
• 55:40
  Speaker 3: on an autopilot is a great place to start. Chat
• 55:44
  Speaker 3: with me a little bit about how talking to others
• 55:47
  Speaker 3: about how you're doing really can be an important tool
• 55:51
  Speaker 3: to navigating a stressful situation.
• 55:54
  Speaker 1: Well, I think first and foremost, it just legitimizes, like
• 55:57
  Speaker 1: it just allows you to like feel legitimate and authentic
• 56:01
  Speaker 1: in the ways that you're experiencing things and showing up
• 56:05
  Speaker 1: and sometimes that's all we need, right And I also
• 56:08
  Speaker 1: feel that it's just like connection and community is you know,
• 56:13
  Speaker 1: one of those social determinants of health. So being able
• 56:15
  Speaker 1: to foster that sense of belonging, and even if that
• 56:18
  Speaker 1: appears through a conversation where you are talking about stress,
• 56:22
  Speaker 1: allows you to feel that support. And a lot of
• 56:25
  Speaker 1: the times we live in a society that you know,
• 56:28
  Speaker 1: cultivates us to have an understanding of like, Okay, we're
• 56:32
  Speaker 1: supposed to be hyper independent, We're supposed to you know,
• 56:35
  Speaker 1: if you you know, you know the language like put
• 56:37
  Speaker 1: your big girl pendies on, your big boy bris on
• 56:40
  Speaker 1: and just like tap on your chest and everything will
• 56:43
  Speaker 1: be well. And the reality of the situation is that
• 56:45
  Speaker 1: I can tap on my chest all I want and
• 56:47
  Speaker 1: I'm still not well right. And so being open and
• 56:50
  Speaker 1: vulnerable enough to either talk to someone who's professional or
• 56:54
  Speaker 1: you know, find a few friends that you can have
• 56:57
  Speaker 1: open conversations about and be honest with. And if you
• 57:01
  Speaker 1: feel like that's not available to you, you know, having
• 57:03
  Speaker 1: a journaling practice where you can just openly talk to
• 57:06
  Speaker 1: yourself on a piece of paper, it's just as good.
• 57:09
  Speaker 1: I think that again, we're talking about the ways in
• 57:12
  Speaker 1: which our body store things. If we're not talking about
• 57:15
  Speaker 1: those things, we're not moving. So, like when I said
• 57:17
  Speaker 1: earlier about movement, like, movement through something also means that
• 57:22
  Speaker 1: we need to move through the conversations, We need to
• 57:25
  Speaker 1: move through the difficult times, and like that movement in
• 57:28
  Speaker 1: this case looks like us having a conversation about something
• 57:31
  Speaker 1: that is bothering us are stressful, right, And once we
• 57:35
  Speaker 1: have an understanding of that, it just is also freeing
• 57:38
  Speaker 1: up our capacity to like feel safe, right, and also
• 57:45
  Speaker 1: frees up our capacity to understand that it's okay not
• 57:48
  Speaker 1: to be okay. And I think that a lot of
• 57:50
  Speaker 1: us are taught to like move through life not acknowledging
• 57:55
  Speaker 1: the moments where we're not okay and feeling bad when
• 57:58
  Speaker 1: we're like, hey, it's not okay, and we need to
• 58:01
  Speaker 1: kind of move into a space of saying like, no,
• 58:04
  Speaker 1: I didn't have a good day and here's why, right,
• 58:07
  Speaker 1: or yeah, I did have a good day and here's why.
• 58:09
  Speaker 1: I feel like sometimes people hate talking to me because
• 58:11
  Speaker 1: I'll be like how are you? And then I'll be
• 58:13
  Speaker 1: like I'm good, and then I'll be like okay, but
• 58:17
  Speaker 1: why are you good? Like what, like you know what
• 58:19
  Speaker 1: I mean? And then they're like, oh, I'm talking to Rebecca, right,
• 58:22
  Speaker 1: And then some people were like, hey, I already know
• 58:24
  Speaker 1: you already know that I'm not good, So here's what happened, right?
• 58:27
  Speaker 1: Because I also feel like if you're empathic and not
• 58:30
  Speaker 1: feel sense when something's up with somebody, and you'll be
• 58:34
  Speaker 1: able to be like, Okay, what's really going on? Right?
• 58:36
  Speaker 1: And so I think that we're conditioned to just leave
• 58:39
  Speaker 1: it at I'm good or it was okay, right, and
• 58:43
  Speaker 1: like what made it okay? What made it not okay?
• 58:46
  Speaker 1: Because it also provides us an opportunity for our bodies
• 58:50
  Speaker 1: to be able to let us know and communicate our
• 58:54
  Speaker 1: boundaries right. And so sometimes when we're in these situations
• 58:59
  Speaker 1: and we're or under stressed or whatever, beyond a professional
• 59:03
  Speaker 1: just talking to somebody to be able to say, this
• 59:06
  Speaker 1: is what happened, This is the ways in which I
• 59:08
  Speaker 1: felt like angry or my boundaries were crossed, and legitimizing
• 59:13
  Speaker 1: that story for yourself and also allowing you the space
• 59:17
  Speaker 1: to say, like, I have more than enough feelings that
• 59:21
  Speaker 1: extend beyond I'm good and I'm fine.
• 59:23
  Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, oh so powerful. Such a good note to
• 59:26
  Speaker 2: end on.
• 59:27
  Speaker 3: There are so many other tools that you can utilize
• 59:29
  Speaker 3: to counteract stress to come back to calm, but of
• 59:32
  Speaker 3: course these are just a few to get you started.
• 59:36
  Speaker 3: A good jumping off point, Rebecca. For those that aren't
• 59:40
  Speaker 3: following along with you, Jess, yeah, give us the deeds.
• 59:42
  Speaker 3: How do they keep up with you online?
• 59:44
  Speaker 1: They can follow me on Instagram at Rebecca Price so
• 59:48
  Speaker 1: it's r E B E c K eight price. I
• 59:51
  Speaker 1: have a website Rebecca price dot com, and I have
• 59:55
  Speaker 1: some meditations on YouTube at Rebecca Price.
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  Speaker 3: We Love I'm Over At Emily Hurdle Podcast. Come back
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  Speaker 2: Another hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time