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Regretful Parents: “I Willfully Ruined My Life” · Regretful Parents

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  Speaker 1: Welcome back to our Regretful Parents series. I'm Erica.
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  Speaker 2: And I'm Kristen. And I'm eating something. Sorry. I'm Kristen.
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  Speaker 1: And she is sorry. And she should be sorry. Guys,
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  Speaker 1: tell us in the comments. Is that apple juice? Doesn't
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  Speaker 1: look like it to me. No.
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  Speaker 2: You caught me. It's actually... I have no idea what
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  Speaker 2: else this could be.
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  Speaker 1: It kind of looks like pineapple juice to me.
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  Speaker 2: I was about to suggest pineapple juice, but why would
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  Speaker 2: I lie about that? You know, it's like a different
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  Speaker 2: type of juice and I'm pulling a fast one on you.
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  Speaker 1: I know how you work. She loves to make me
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  Speaker 1: think it's not a more acidic juice.
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  Speaker 2: That's true.
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  Speaker 1: Did you know I'm a little allergic to pineapples, I think?
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  Speaker 2: If you don't even know, how would I know?
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  Speaker 1: You think?
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  Speaker 2: What do you mean? What happens?
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  Speaker 1: Every time I eat a pineapple, my tongue gets like
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  Speaker 1: a little scary.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, prickly?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Weird. Does it stop you from eating pineapple?
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  Speaker 1: Now, kind of, yeah. I love pineapple, though, so sometimes no.
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  Speaker 1: That's why I'll never bring a child into this world,
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  Speaker 1: because if I can't have pineapple, what's even the point?
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  Speaker 2: If you're going to risk death for a pineapple over
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  Speaker 2: your child's having a mother, then maybe it's for the best.
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  Speaker 1: All right, today we are going to read a post
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  Speaker 1: from the Regretful Parents sub Titled, I willfully ruined my life.
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  Speaker 2: Willfully. Love that.
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  Speaker 1: Username is popcorn muncher.
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  Speaker 2: That's good.
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  Speaker 1: I too am a popcorn muncher. This person writes, I
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  Speaker 1: see a lot of parents with babies posting on this sub.
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  Speaker 1: I hate to break it to you, but strap in
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  Speaker 1: because it gets much worse. Okay. I hate that. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I have a tween and a soon-to-be teen. Both boys
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  Speaker 1: probably have some undiagnosed isms. But as you may know,
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  Speaker 1: getting any help is non-existent. We do know that as
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  Speaker 1: two adults that have isms.
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  Speaker 2: Mm-hmm. Yeah, I mean, it depends on what she means
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  Speaker 2: by help. Is it help for the isms? Is it
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  Speaker 2: help for her? I'm assuming it's help for her.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I think it's true for all the types
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  Speaker 1: of help.
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  Speaker 2: We'll find out. They're right.
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  Speaker 1: I finally got my older one seen, and they recommended
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  Speaker 1: a priority assessment, but then went and asked him. He
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  Speaker 1: is of the age of consent for this type of
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  Speaker 1: thing where we are, and he declined. So that was
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  Speaker 1: the end of that path.
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  Speaker 2: My God. You can lead a horse to water.
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  Speaker 1: But you can't get in meds.
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  Speaker 2: No.
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  Speaker 1: So today I asked him to put his clean clothes away.
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  Speaker 1: He wouldn't. So I relented and said I would help
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  Speaker 1: him and just do it. He went mental at me.
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  Speaker 1: Then later on, I found that he had crumbled up
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  Speaker 1: a huge chocolate muffin all over my bedroom and poured
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  Speaker 1: water all over my bed. Completely soaking... Completely soaking the
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  Speaker 1: bed duvet and everything else on the bed.
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  Speaker 2: It's like one thing to have like a shitty kid
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  Speaker 2: and a shitty teenager. It's another when your kid like
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  Speaker 2: actively plots against you and takes action to make your
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  Speaker 2: life harder. Like that is like vindictive, fucked up behavior.
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  Speaker 1: My first thought is like you have to make them what?
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  Speaker 2: I feel like your hair just gets messier and messier
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  Speaker 2: every time you touch it.
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  Speaker 1: I know it does. It really, really getting crazier.
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  Speaker 2: There we go.
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  Speaker 1: No more touching. It looks great.
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  Speaker 2: It does.
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  Speaker 1: Okay.
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  Speaker 2: You just watched it like grow and grow.
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  Speaker 1: I know. The irony actually is that I got a
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  Speaker 1: chemical peel. three days ago, and my face is actually
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  Speaker 1: very peely right now, but I have so much moisturizer
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  Speaker 1: and hyaluronic acid and sunscreen on that you can't tell.
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  Speaker 2: Wow, no, you can't. Yeah, but it's... Maybe it looks
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  Speaker 2: a little.
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  Speaker 1: It looks a little weird.
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  Speaker 2: But, like, yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, but it's layers of peels down there. Anyway, like,
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  Speaker 1: in a perfect world, you would just make your kid
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  Speaker 1: clean it up. Like, you made this mess, now you
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  Speaker 1: have to clean it up. But, like, this kid's not
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  Speaker 1: gonna clean it up. So, like, you're just stuck cleaning
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  Speaker 1: up his chocolate muffin that he poured all over your bed.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. What a weird fucking action to take, too. Like, that's, like,
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  Speaker 2: not normal. Like, it's, like, I guess if you're going
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  Speaker 2: to be, like, a normal teenager and you're mad at
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  Speaker 2: your mom, like, I feel like you just, like, wouldn't
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  Speaker 2: do things that she asks. But, like, to go out
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  Speaker 2: of your way and be like, I'm going to put
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  Speaker 2: something that's hard to get out of her bed sheets. Like,
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  Speaker 2: that is fucking weird.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's vindictive as fuck. She said, now it's all
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  Speaker 1: outside drying out. Who knows how long it's gonna take.
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  Speaker 1: This is not the first time he has taken to
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  Speaker 1: get revenge. On top of this type of occurrence, we
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  Speaker 1: have no family help. I'm an expat and my husband
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  Speaker 1: only has his dad around but refuses any help. He
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  Speaker 1: even refuses to look after our older one when I
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  Speaker 1: was in the hospital having his brother, his grandkids. So
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  Speaker 1: it's either work Or being with the kids. No breaks ever.
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  Speaker 1: What do you think of your face is like?
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  Speaker 2: Well, I'm trying to like follow that because she was saying, oh,
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  Speaker 2: my husband refuses to get his dad to help. And
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  Speaker 2: then she says, even when I was giving birth to
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  Speaker 2: like the youngest one, it sounded like the grandfather then
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  Speaker 2: refused to help. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: She said, I'm an expat and my husband only has
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  Speaker 1: his dad around, but his dad refuses to help.
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  Speaker 2: His dad refuses to help. Okay.
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  Speaker 1: Refused to look after the older one when she was
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  Speaker 1: in the hospital having the older one's brother.
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  Speaker 2: What the fuck is the point of having a child
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  Speaker 2: if you want nothing to do with them? If you
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  Speaker 2: want to be, like, not involved in their lives? Oh, yeah. Like,
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  Speaker 2: the grandfather.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, doesn't this feel like boomer behavior, though?
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  Speaker 2: I mean, listen, I can't speak for all boomers and whatever,
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  Speaker 2: but all I know is, like... But your parents help
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  Speaker 2: your nieces and nephews. They come and watch the kids.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I know.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah. I think my parents would too if
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  Speaker 2: I had had kids. So it's like, I think there's
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  Speaker 2: just shitty people, you know, who aren't taking responsibility for
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  Speaker 2: their own family. And it was like, it just like
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  Speaker 2: boggles my mind that there's people who insist on having
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  Speaker 2: kids who then probably most likely peer pressured their kids
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  Speaker 2: to have kids so they could have green kids.
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  Speaker 1: Yes.
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  Speaker 2: And we all know this. They just want To post
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  Speaker 2: on Facebook once a year or twice a year that
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  Speaker 2: they love their family and they're, oh, my God, look
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  Speaker 2: how special little Amy is who's in first grade now. Like,
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  Speaker 2: great if that's what makes you fucking happy. But, like,
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  Speaker 2: in a day-to-day scenario, you want nothing to do with
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  Speaker 2: your kids? If your own kids don't even like you,
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  Speaker 2: if your own kids resent you, like, what is the
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  Speaker 2: fucking point? So that, like, your neighbors next door see
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  Speaker 2: a photo every once in a while and they think, wow, cool. Like,
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  Speaker 2: what is going on in your brain that this, like,
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  Speaker 2: makes sense? Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I think the sad thing is that there's not enough
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  Speaker 1: happening in their brain. They're just running on, I guess,
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  Speaker 1: instinct and not actually like mulling through it. See, that's
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  Speaker 1: the thing is like I've been told my whole life,
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  Speaker 1: you're an overthinker, you're an overthinker, don't overthink things. But
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  Speaker 1: like the alternative is that you're not thinking at all.
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  Speaker 1: And that also has problems.
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  Speaker 2: You're doom scrolling TikTok and you get dementia. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: So it's like pick your poison. Do you want to
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  Speaker 1: have three billion children and nobody helps you? Or do
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  Speaker 1: you want to scroll TikTok and have dementia? Those are
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  Speaker 1: the two choices.
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  Speaker 2: That's it. What would you pick?
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I've chosen dementia. Right?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I guess. I mean, we've chosen like friendships, community,
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  Speaker 2: small business, higher education.
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  Speaker 1: And yet we still have dementia.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, obviously, I was just watching a video today
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  Speaker 2: of like all the things you should avoid to not
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  Speaker 2: get dementia. And I was like, oh, shit, I better
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  Speaker 2: start exercising immediately. I better never eat another piece of
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  Speaker 2: sugar again, which I then immediately drink apple juice.
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  Speaker 1: So they're right. So it's either work or being with
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  Speaker 1: the kids. No breaks ever. Even the few things that
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  Speaker 1: they do outside of school don't correspond to each other.
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  Speaker 1: So if one is out, the other is at home.
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  Speaker 1: Can't they do any activities together? Put them in soccer together. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: But like, it's also, I feel like we talk about
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  Speaker 2: a lot of shit on this podcast. We don't talk
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  Speaker 2: enough about how few examples I have of siblings who really,
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  Speaker 2: truly like each other and get along. Like, if you
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  Speaker 2: are of that family where you really like your sibling
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  Speaker 2: and you guys get along and you consider each other
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  Speaker 2: friends and you can depend on each other, like, you're
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  Speaker 2: motherfucking lucky. count your bless because more often than not
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  Speaker 2: that is not the case and so anyway all that
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  Speaker 2: to say you're like well let's just have them both
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  Speaker 2: do the same fucking activity but it's in reality they
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  Speaker 2: probably don't even like each other I know.
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  Speaker 1: It's easier said than done but I do think there's
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  Speaker 1: something to be said about like trying to teach your
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  Speaker 1: kids to have a relationship with each other because like
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  Speaker 1: No shade to my parents, but I don't feel like
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  Speaker 1: that was really a priority for my parents. It's like
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  Speaker 1: making me and my brother spend time together, like each other,
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  Speaker 1: you know, do activities together. I think they just had
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  Speaker 1: their own things going on. But like I've heard Beyonce,
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  Speaker 1: for instance, talk about how her mom like put them
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  Speaker 1: in therapy together when they were children because she was like,
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  Speaker 1: I want you guys to be friends. Like you have
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  Speaker 1: to do this. And I think it was hard for
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  Speaker 1: them at the time, but I think they are friends
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  Speaker 1: now because of that.
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  Speaker 2: So it is motherfucking Beyonce. But more than that, you're
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  Speaker 2: assuming that these are two rational human beings who are
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  Speaker 2: willing to move forward. Like this woman is like, oh,
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  Speaker 2: I want my kid to go get medication. And he
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  Speaker 2: just was like, no. Like in that case with Beyonce
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  Speaker 2: and her sister Solange, they have like two willing participants.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: And like even with I mean, my brother had mental
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  Speaker 2: illness like that was very apparent from like an early age.
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  Speaker 2: And no, amount of therapy I don't think could have
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  Speaker 2: fixed what we experienced as siblings. And man, I just
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  Speaker 2: think that like it is interesting to think about like
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  Speaker 2: how many people you meet in real life who you
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  Speaker 2: like and who you don't like or who you could
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  Speaker 2: get along with long term and who you couldn't. And
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  Speaker 2: just imagine being like born into a stranger's household. And
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  Speaker 2: now it's like, OK, well, you're either my friend for
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  Speaker 2: the rest of my life and confidant and someone who
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  Speaker 2: I can trust or you're just like a piece of shit.
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  Speaker 2: And I think statistically, you're more likely to end up
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  Speaker 2: with a piece of shit if you just like spawned
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  Speaker 2: in somebody's house with a random person.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, totally.
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  Speaker 2: Anyway, I'm like a tear right now. Just like all
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  Speaker 2: these thoughts today.
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  Speaker 1: No, I think it's good, but, like, this goes back
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  Speaker 1: to what I said before of, like, I don't know
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  Speaker 1: if people think about, like, the fact that, I mean,
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  Speaker 1: if she has two kids, boys, that both have probably
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  Speaker 1: some kind of ism, is, like, bitch, are you a
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  Speaker 1: little ism-y? And did you consider this before you had kids?
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  Speaker 2: Well, everybody has kids with the intention of my kids
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  Speaker 2: are going to be perfect kids. They contribute towards the world.
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  Speaker 1: Problem number one.
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  Speaker 2: No, just imagine if you're like, I'm on the fence
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  Speaker 2: about getting pregnant. Just imagine you spawn a random stranger
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  Speaker 2: that you go outside and meet on the street. You're
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  Speaker 2: going to like that random stranger or not? It's a gamble.
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  Speaker 1: It's a gamble.
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  Speaker 2: And you know, sometimes people are like, it's not a stranger.
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  Speaker 2: It's your flesh and blood. It's your family. No, bitch.
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  Speaker 2: At the end of the day, yes, they inherit your genes. And, like, yes,
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  Speaker 2: you hope that it's like you and your husband, your wife. Like,
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  Speaker 2: you hope that it's, like, got characteristics of your personalities
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  Speaker 2: and it's perfect. But, like, ultimately, it's got its own
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  Speaker 2: little personality. And that personality could put chocolate muffins all
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  Speaker 2: over your bed and water.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. And then what?
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  Speaker 2: And then what? Then you spent at least 18 years in...
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  Speaker 2: at least $ 500, 000 on this muffin crumbler. You could have
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  Speaker 2: just done that yourself for free.
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  Speaker 1: For free. That's what we should tell people. It's like,
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  Speaker 1: if you're on the fence about having kids, try this.
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  Speaker 1: Take a chocolate muffin, crumble it all over your room,
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  Speaker 1: get a couple pitches of water, pour it on your bed.
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  Speaker 1: Then come back, give yourself a concussion, come back from
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  Speaker 1: the concussion and tell yourself that your child did this.
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  Speaker 1: Is this what you want from your life.
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  Speaker 2: Every single day? Rate that experience from a 1 to
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  Speaker 2: a 10 on how much joy it gave you. Yeah. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: And then just remember, this is your child. You love them.
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  Speaker 1: It's magical. Okay. Do you still want to do this?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. It's a good litmus test. Very solid.
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  Speaker 1: Do you still love your muffin crumbler?
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  Speaker 2: I mean, I look at my little muffin crumbler on
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  Speaker 2: the floor here and I'm like, she's done worse than that. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: She didn't cost $ 500, 000 and come out of my vagina either.
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  Speaker 1: Exactly. Exactly.
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  Speaker 2: All right.
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  Speaker 1: They finish it out by saying, if you are a
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  Speaker 1: lurker on the sub, do not have them. You know
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  Speaker 1: the thing that they are saying about men and one
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  Speaker 1: in ten.
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  Speaker 2: Wait, what?
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  Speaker 1: Okay, let me just read this to you and see
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  Speaker 1: if you understand this.
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  Speaker 2: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: You know the thing about, you know the thing they
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  Speaker 1: are saying about men.
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  Speaker 2: No.
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  Speaker 1: And one in ten malt scissors being a ball of shit.
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  Speaker 2: What the fuck did you just say? What word did
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  Speaker 2: you just say? What's malt scissors?
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  Speaker 1: M-A-L-T-E-S-E-R-S. Malt scissors.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: Malt scissors.
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  Speaker 2: Do we need to Google that?
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  Speaker 1: Is that a thing? What the hell is a malt scissor?
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  Speaker 2: I mean, if there's one thing you can rely on
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  Speaker 2: when you listen to Dinky and its related podcasts, it's
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  Speaker 2: that you learn something new.
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  Speaker 1: What?
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  Speaker 2: Yes. Okay.
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  Speaker 1: Basically, a... What's it called? Chocolate-covered malt ball.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, like the whoppers kind of thing or whatever? Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: You know the thing they say, basically the thing of like,
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  Speaker 1: if one in ten pieces of candy was a piece
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  Speaker 1: of shit, would you still eat one of the pieces
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  Speaker 1: of candy, knowing that you could also be eating a
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  Speaker 1: piece of shit? Oh. Have you heard that before?
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  Speaker 2: No. But I can understand the metaphor of... Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Mm-hmm.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, got it.
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  Speaker 1: So, same could be said about kids. Would you risk
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  Speaker 1: having them if there was a 1 in 10 chance
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  Speaker 1: of them being shit? Which, bitch, again, if you are
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  Speaker 1: a little is a me, it's not a 1 in 10.
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  Speaker 2: Could be the husband.
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  Speaker 1: Or is your husband likely an is a me person?
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  Speaker 1: Then your child is more than a 1 in 10
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  Speaker 1: likely to be is a me.
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  Speaker 2: And at the end of the day, let's be clear,
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  Speaker 2: we have nothing against is a me's. You know, we
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  Speaker 2: are part of the isomies, but I.
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  Speaker 1: Will just say community.
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  Speaker 2: But I just want to clarify, like, it's OK to
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  Speaker 2: have an isomie child, of course. But I think but
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  Speaker 2: the but the better question here is, like, if you
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  Speaker 2: have a piece of shit kid, regardless of, you know,
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  Speaker 2: it could be medical, it could be behavioral, it could
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  Speaker 2: be whatever. Like, if you if there's one in 10
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  Speaker 2: chance that this could make your life fundamentally so much worse,
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  Speaker 2: is it worth it?
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  Speaker 1: You know what?
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  Speaker 2: Hey, you know what? This person learned her lesson. You
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  Speaker 2: got to give her props to that. She learned her lesson.
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  Speaker 2: Now she's spreading the word. She's spreading the gospel.
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  Speaker 1: And she has chocolate muffin all over her bed. If
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  Speaker 1: you go outside, like if you find a plaza and
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  Speaker 1: you just walk around the plaza, what are the odds
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  Speaker 1: that you think you will find like the first person
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  Speaker 1: you meet that they're going to be like your best friend? Right.
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  Speaker 2: Exactly. You know?
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  Speaker 1: Exactly. It's so it's so much more likely that most
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  Speaker 1: of the people that you meet are going to be
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  Speaker 1: people that you don't like or that you are just
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  Speaker 1: kind of about.
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  Speaker 2: Exactly. And it's like, oh, I shape their environment. I
• 16:20
  Speaker 2: expose them to things that I like and my interests
• 16:24
  Speaker 2: and their hobbies. And it doesn't matter. Doesn't matter. Yeah.
• 16:29
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 16:29
  Speaker 2: Doesn't really matter at the end of the day. Mm hmm.
• 16:34
  Speaker 1: It really doesn't matter. Let's see if anybody had anything
• 16:37
  Speaker 1: useful to say in the comments. First comment says, my
• 16:39
  Speaker 1: biggest fear is birthing my oppressor.
• 16:46
  Speaker 2: I mean, mine too. I mean, like, mine too, girl.
• 16:51
  Speaker 1: How many women are doing that every day? That's why
• 16:53
  Speaker 1: I'm such an advocate for being like, women, stop having children,
• 16:55
  Speaker 1: because you know what? This place isn't for us.
• 17:00
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's not for us, and it's not... Yeah, there's just.
• 17:04
  Speaker 2: And imagine you give birth to a daughter and you're like, great,
• 17:06
  Speaker 2: you're inheriting the curse. Yes. You've inherited the curse.
• 17:11
  Speaker 1: Is that bad?
• 17:12
  Speaker 2: I don't know. The whole thing is just bad. I mean,
• 17:14
  Speaker 2: it's bad. Yeah.
• 17:16
  Speaker 1: Next comment said, I do wish it was talked about
• 17:18
  Speaker 1: more that you can say the majority of the time
• 17:20
  Speaker 1: kids are healthy and turn out OK. But man, if
• 17:23
  Speaker 1: you hit those odds or something is majorly wrong, there's
• 17:26
  Speaker 1: no undo button. But it's not the majority of time
• 17:29
  Speaker 1: that kids are OK and healthy. I don't think that's
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: the majority of time.
• 17:36
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know. I don't know what the percentage is.
• 17:38
  Speaker 2: I don't know. I really don't. I might have optimism
• 17:41
  Speaker 2: that it is the majority. But either way, it's not
• 17:44
  Speaker 2: worth the risk, even if it's, you know, it's like
• 17:47
  Speaker 2: a one in four chance. Those are those odds are high, baby.
• 17:50
  Speaker 2: Those odds are high.
• 17:52
  Speaker 1: Yeah. You have to be very lucky. Couldn't be me.
• 17:56
  Speaker 2: I don't have that kind of luck. Couldn't be me.
• 17:58
  Speaker 2: Couldn't be me.
• 17:59
  Speaker 1: Well, guys, tell us what kind of luck you have
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: in the comments. And then don't forget to like and subscribe.
• 18:04
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• 18:06
  Speaker 2: If you have a normal kid and you like your
• 18:08
  Speaker 2: kid and you're like, hell yeah to kids, let us know.
• 18:13
  Speaker 1: You know what? I don't think we've ever gotten that comment.
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: I love my kids.
• 18:17
  Speaker 2: I'm sure there are because we do have a lot
• 18:19
  Speaker 2: of parent lurkers and parents who watch. So I'm sure
• 18:23
  Speaker 2: there are parents who have great kids who are just
• 18:25
  Speaker 2: kind of fascinated by the horror stories. Or they have
• 18:30
  Speaker 2: one kid who's a fuck up and the rest are
• 18:32
  Speaker 2: pretty cool. Like, I'm sure. But ultimately, we're not going
• 18:36
  Speaker 2: to hear from the people who regret having kids because
• 18:39
  Speaker 2: that's why it's such an anonymous community. We rarely hear
• 18:42
  Speaker 2: from them publicly. And we have in the past. So
• 18:46
  Speaker 2: if you're one of those, thanks for being honest. Thanks
• 18:50
  Speaker 2: for being real.
• 18:51
  Speaker 1: And you can share your story with us at dinky
• 18:53
  Speaker 1: at dinkypod.com. Maybe we'll read it right here, right then.
• 18:58
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• 19:01
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• 19:04
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• 19:06
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• 19:10
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• 19:27
  Speaker 1: Bam that's what i'm talking about baby.
• 19:31
  Speaker 2: We gotta we gotta buy our own fucking merch we
• 19:33
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• 19:33
  Speaker 1: Shirts but yeah i forgot that that was the whole
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: plan we.
• 19:38
  Speaker 2: Really should we should wear it the entire time we're
• 19:41
  Speaker 2: doing every.
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: Time we do a regretful parents yeah we should okay
• 19:44
  Speaker 1: well the good thing is it's really cute looks real cute.
• 19:48
  Speaker 2: Looks real cute and um as always, don't get pregnant.
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: Don't, guys. Don't. Don't.