Latest / Beyond Limits With Olivia Marie / Why Expansion Feels Unsafe

Transcript

Why Expansion Feels Unsafe · Beyond Limits With Olivia Marie

• 0:01
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to the Live Well Podcast.
• 0:03
  SPEAKER_00: I'm your host, Liv, a naturopathic doctor, mentor, energy healer, a catchup reader, intuitive, energetic business mentor, and honestly, so much more.
• 0:12
  SPEAKER_00: I help you heal on a physical and emotional level so that you can feel delicious in your health, body, relationships, career, and bank account.
• 0:20
  SPEAKER_00: This show is for those of you who are looking to go beyond the basic wellness stuff, cut out the BS and really create a life you love.
• 0:27
  SPEAKER_00: We talk about health, trauma healing, energetics, feminine energy, wealth, and magnetism so that you can live a life that feels delicious.
• 0:35
  SPEAKER_00: In these episodes, we will have an honest conversation without the fluffy bullshit.
• 0:39
  SPEAKER_00: You walk away with all of the insights, tools, and tips to truly live your best life, mind, body, and soul.
• 0:46
  SPEAKER_00: If you are looking to live well, you are in the right place.
• 0:49
  SPEAKER_00: For ways to work with me, visit keepupwithlive.com and follow me on Instagram at keep up with live for more.
• 0:54
  SPEAKER_00: And with that, let's get into the show.
• 0:58
  SPEAKER_00: Hello everyone, and welcome back to another episode of the Live Well Podcast.
• 1:02
  SPEAKER_00: We have another juicy one for you guys.
• 1:05
  SPEAKER_00: I love how much you guys have been loving these episodes, getting value from them, learning from them.
• 1:11
  SPEAKER_00: It makes me so happy.
• 1:12
  SPEAKER_00: So if you haven't yet, leave a review or share it with friends, share it with family, post it on your Instagram.
• 1:18
  SPEAKER_00: I love seeing you guys listening to them and really absorbing them and applying it to your life so you can heal and transform and live your best, most aligned life.
• 1:28
  SPEAKER_00: So, with that being said, we are diving in today as to why expansion feels unsafe.
• 1:35
  SPEAKER_00: And I've talked about this in different ways before, but we are diving deeper than we ever have before into this episode.
• 1:44
  SPEAKER_00: And we all know like our ego tries to keep us safe, right?
• 1:48
  SPEAKER_00: If it's outside of our comfort zone, it feels unsafe.
• 1:51
  SPEAKER_00: So our ego kind of jumps in and blocks us.
• 1:53
  SPEAKER_00: That's kind of like the basics, but we're, like I said, going to dive deeper, and I hope that through this episode, it really brings an awareness for you so you can really start to understand and unpack this and of course heal this.
• 2:05
  SPEAKER_00: So a beautiful thing can happen in your system, may freak out.
• 2:11
  SPEAKER_00: You may meet the love of your life, you know, get a million dollars, get the job, the car, whatever it is, something expansive, something quote unquote good, positive, and it's unsafe.
• 2:23
  SPEAKER_00: So we're gonna dive into why, and you can start to break down why certain things feel unsafe or why certain types of expansion might feel unsafe for you.
• 2:31
  SPEAKER_00: So funny.
• 2:33
  SPEAKER_00: When I see people saying, you know, I'm manifested X, I'm freaking out, like, oh my god, and I literally see people post this on their Instagram stories.
• 2:42
  SPEAKER_00: I'm just like, oh my god, that's not good.
• 2:44
  SPEAKER_00: Like nervous system response, like fight or flight.
• 2:47
  SPEAKER_00: That's not good.
• 2:49
  SPEAKER_00: We actually don't want your system to freak out with expansion.
• 2:53
  SPEAKER_00: I don't want you going like, oh my god, they're like, no, I actually want grounded.
• 2:59
  SPEAKER_00: Now you can be excited about something.
• 3:01
  SPEAKER_00: That's not the same as a feeling of like nervous system response where like your palms are sweating, your heart's racing, you could cry and scream and jump for joy at the same time.
• 3:10
  SPEAKER_00: It's just that isn't overwhelming.
• 3:14
  SPEAKER_00: We don't want that.
• 3:14
  SPEAKER_00: We are here for grounded gratitude, grounded joy, grounded happiness, not oh my god, I could throw up, cry, scream at the same time.
• 3:24
  SPEAKER_00: So just notice.
• 3:25
  SPEAKER_00: Notice when good things happen, what response you go into.
• 3:29
  SPEAKER_00: And even stop saying things like I'm freaking out.
• 3:32
  SPEAKER_00: Like clear, cancel, delete.
• 3:34
  SPEAKER_00: When I see people say this, I'm manifesting this, I'm freaking out.
• 3:36
  SPEAKER_00: No, why are we sending this like this message to our nervous system to freak out?
• 3:41
  SPEAKER_00: That's not that's not what we want.
• 3:44
  SPEAKER_00: So let's break down why you might get into this response in the first place and why expansion feels unsafe.
• 3:50
  SPEAKER_00: For example, if the reason you accomplish something, let's say getting a job, promotion, more money, etc., is due to you chasing the feeling of not enough, not feeling worthy.
• 4:01
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe because mom didn't give you love the way you needed, demanded perfectionism.
• 4:06
  SPEAKER_00: Your nervous system will associate expansion with abuse.
• 4:11
  SPEAKER_00: Yes, there is a link between you achieving good things and the trauma and the emotions in your body if you haven't cleared them.
• 4:19
  SPEAKER_00: And this is why expansion will feel unsafe.
• 4:22
  SPEAKER_00: Now you might think, if it's good, how am I associating this with something like lack, something like scarcity, fear, and by abuse I mean anything where you perceived it.
• 4:32
  SPEAKER_00: Any fear, shame, guilt, trauma, emotion, etc., that is still stored in your body.
• 4:37
  SPEAKER_00: And of course, I'm gonna give you a personal example.
• 4:39
  SPEAKER_00: So I very much grew up in the household of coming home with a 98 and asking, you know, where's the 2%?
• 4:46
  SPEAKER_00: My mom, that's the type of person.
• 4:48
  SPEAKER_00: Wanted me to do well, uh, we can all understand they're like, yes, motivation to do well, you know, pushing you to be your best self, etc.
• 4:55
  SPEAKER_00: However, that kind of pressure perfectionism then tied good things to this.
• 5:02
  SPEAKER_00: Now I've cleared this.
• 5:03
  SPEAKER_00: This is something that you know I worked on a few years ago, and I think this is a very relevant example.
• 5:07
  SPEAKER_00: So if good things happen, you know, career success make more money, it's like shit, that triggers that type of response.
• 5:15
  SPEAKER_00: The response of not being good enough for mom.
• 5:19
  SPEAKER_00: So your system will then always prioritize survival over everything, and then in this case, survival would be not making more money and not advancing your career because it's actually safer to feel that way.
• 5:31
  SPEAKER_00: So if your nervous system freaks out with good things, I encourage you to start bringing awareness as to hmm, why is my system freaking out over something good?
• 5:39
  SPEAKER_00: And this is why it's so important to unpack these things.
• 5:41
  SPEAKER_00: And this is also I definitely understand it can be difficult to unpack by yourself.
• 5:46
  SPEAKER_00: You may have no idea, and that's the beauty of kind of the work that I do.
• 5:50
  SPEAKER_00: But if you feel like there's a wall or a block for you when it comes to expanding with money, wealth, love, bliss, relationships, etc., we need to kind of dive into this and find out what is that link for you?
• 6:00
  SPEAKER_00: What is the link between expansion, why it feels unsafe?
• 6:03
  SPEAKER_00: So let's look at another example.
• 6:05
  SPEAKER_00: Let's use relationships in love.
• 6:06
  SPEAKER_00: You know, you meet an amazing man, he's emotionally available, he leads, opens doors, pans dates, you know, attractive, you know, has what you desire, but your system can't help but be in fight or flight.
• 6:19
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you're anxious, maybe you're waiting for the shoe to drop, you almost like you're looking for something bad, maybe you're avoidant because of the association of your parents and perhaps any trauma or emotions or abuse.
• 6:32
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe dad wasn't around.
• 6:34
  SPEAKER_00: So someone being around is kind of like a shock, even though it's good.
• 6:37
  SPEAKER_00: It's actually unsafe for you to have an emotionally like available man in your life that's unsafe for you.
• 6:44
  SPEAKER_00: That type of expansion feels unsafe.
• 6:46
  SPEAKER_00: Or, I mean, you can even have a history of abusive exes, and so it's difficult to trust.
• 6:50
  SPEAKER_00: But normally the abusive exes come from something childhood, so we would go all the way back.
• 6:56
  SPEAKER_00: But you can start to see how different types of expansion might feel unsafe for you based on what happened when you were younger.
• 7:02
  SPEAKER_00: And the thing is here is that it sucks.
• 7:04
  SPEAKER_00: I'm the first one to say, like, yeah, it sucks when expansion is unsafe.
• 7:06
  SPEAKER_00: I get it.
• 7:07
  SPEAKER_00: But hopefully, this can show you why this might be happening for you so you can reflect, bring awareness, and then of course heal it.
• 7:15
  SPEAKER_00: Expansion will feel unsafe when it triggers trauma in your system that has yet to be cleared.
• 7:24
  SPEAKER_00: The beautiful thing is like once you clear it, then it's no longer there, and that type of expansion doesn't feel unsafe anymore.
• 7:32
  SPEAKER_00: But really start to ask yourself, and of course, if you need support with this, reach out to me.
• 7:36
  SPEAKER_00: I have a number of beautiful containers that can help with this depending on what's going on or kind of where you're at.
• 7:42
  SPEAKER_00: So I hope this little juicy nugget of an episode was useful to you, helps you start to understand why expansion might feel unsafe for you, kind of maybe the things that you need to work on or look at, release, sit with.
• 7:55
  SPEAKER_00: If you haven't listened to the episode before this all about fear, highly suggest listening to that one.
• 8:00
  SPEAKER_00: I feel like this one and that one really go well together.
• 8:02
  SPEAKER_00: Um just recorded before this.
• 8:04
  SPEAKER_00: We're kind of like on a roll, they're gonna build off of each other.
• 8:06
  SPEAKER_00: So go back and listen to that one as well, and really start to sit down with yourself.
• 8:10
  SPEAKER_00: Like it's one thing to listen to these episodes, be like, yeah, okay, I understand what she's saying, and it's another for you to then go later today, tonight, or this weekend and actually sit down.
• 8:19
  SPEAKER_00: Like, all right, where would expansion feel take me?
• 8:21
  SPEAKER_00: Where maybe have this has this come from up for me before?
• 8:24
  SPEAKER_00: What am I associating this with?
• 8:26
  SPEAKER_00: And really start to unpack and do kind of like the shadow work for yourself.
• 8:30
  SPEAKER_00: So with that being said, I hope you guys enjoyed.
• 8:33
  SPEAKER_00: As always, I'd love to hear from you.
• 8:34
  SPEAKER_00: If you have any more requests for episodes that you want to dive into, I love questions, I love riffing, and I love helping you as much as I can.
• 8:40
  SPEAKER_00: So with that being said, I will see you guys in the next episode.