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- 0:00Carrie Lingenfelter: That intensity, that love and passion for being alive and being a human and creating and learning and growing.
- 0:08Carrie Lingenfelter: They are so passionate about being alive so it's sometimes hard to say.
- 0:14Carrie Lingenfelter: Let me stew in that for a little while.
- 0:17Carrie Lingenfelter: Let it resonate in my heart to see where I want to take you with next.
- 0:22Carrie Lingenfelter: That can take a minute.
- 0:23Carrie Lingenfelter: So when we're thinking about these labels, we've got to be mindful, right.
- 0:29Carrie Lingenfelter: We've got to think how can I empower my kid?
- 0:33Carrie Lingenfelter: If I give them the gifted and talented label, if I tell my kids this piece, then what is the pressure that is going to put on them when they're in third grade and something maybe gets hard because third grade.
- 0:47Carrie Lingenfelter: I was just reading oh gosh, there's a really good book.
- 0:49Carrie Lingenfelter: I'm going to have to share it with you guys.
- 0:51Carrie Lingenfelter: Hi, conscious Parents, it's Keri here and I am here with a little info about raising our mindful kids.
- 0:56Carrie Lingenfelter: I've got some tips and tricks about breaking free of the box and becoming who you are and teaching your kids how to do that along the way.
- 1:04Carrie Lingenfelter: Join us, hi there and welcome back.
- 1:07Carrie Lingenfelter: I'm Keri.
- 1:08Carrie Lingenfelter: I'm your friendly, conscious mama here and I am excited to share another quick bonus episode with you parents, conscious parents, mindful and spiritual parents raising our conscious, spiritual and mindful kids as well.
- 1:21Carrie Lingenfelter: So let's jump right in, and mindful kids as well.
- 1:28Carrie Lingenfelter: So let's jump right in.
- 1:29Carrie Lingenfelter: Today we are thinking about prayers and affirmations that we can share with our kids and with ourselves to help us connect with ourselves more deeply and more meaningfully I don't know if that's a word More meaningful connections for ourselves and more meaningful connections with our kids, these kids that are born today.
- 1:46Carrie Lingenfelter: Do we want to use labels?
- 1:47Carrie Lingenfelter: Do we want to classify them?
- 1:50Carrie Lingenfelter: What do we feel like when we think about labels?
- 1:53Carrie Lingenfelter: Do we label ourselves in our minds?
- 1:55Carrie Lingenfelter: Do we label ourselves as the podcast host, as a parent, as a mom, as a highly sensitive person, as a neurodiverse person, gifted and talented all of these labels and ideas that we can brand ourself with.
- 2:09Carrie Lingenfelter: What are our thoughts on labels?
- 2:12Carrie Lingenfelter: As you guys have noticed, I use them a lot in podcasting and Instagram, youtube, all of these social media platforms that I share my messages with you all through, but I don't really use them at home with my kids.
- 2:25Carrie Lingenfelter: Sometimes I'll say things like I feel like you're having a sensitive moment, I feel like you're dysregulated, because I think vocabulary is essential to helping our kids understand their emotional, social, personal, physical stresses that can be going on in their lives, and monitoring where we're at in a daily situation is so helpful for our kids.
- 2:47Carrie Lingenfelter: It's so helpful for ourselves.
- 2:48Carrie Lingenfelter: Is this something that I have recently learned myself?
- 2:51Carrie Lingenfelter: Yes, yes, even as a speech therapist and a former educator, I'm still diving into all of these pieces myself.
- 3:00Carrie Lingenfelter: And as we're talking about labels, one thing I would love for you to keep in mind is our kids are born connected.
- 3:08Carrie Lingenfelter: Our kids are born seeking out spiritual guidance, seeking out spiritual questions and actually already being connected intuitively.
- 3:18Carrie Lingenfelter: They are born with open hearts.
- 3:20Carrie Lingenfelter: They are born hearing what they want in life.
- 3:24Carrie Lingenfelter: That's sometimes why we label them as impulsive.
- 3:28Carrie Lingenfelter: They're like I really want that thing right there.
- 3:30Carrie Lingenfelter: I'm going to reach out and grab it right away.
- 3:32Carrie Lingenfelter: I'm not going to go through the thought process of is mom okay with me having this?
- 3:36Carrie Lingenfelter: Is it okay if I do this right now Because in 10 minutes I'm going to be late, leaving for ninja class?
- 3:43Carrie Lingenfelter: Should I get out this art set?
- 3:45Carrie Lingenfelter: No, their heart's like I want to do this.
- 3:46Carrie Lingenfelter: This is calling to me and, for whatever reason right now, I am needing this right now.
- 3:51Carrie Lingenfelter: Is it hard to be a human if you live in that impulsive form?
- 3:56Carrie Lingenfelter: Yes, but our kids are born connected to their hearts, connected to their souls, connected to the universe and having this higher level of spirituality that we as parents oftentimes have to reconnect with, because sensitive parents or parents that have grown up with strict parenting, traditional parenting, maybe the universe or universities, people around them have had guidelines, things they needed to accomplish.
- 4:29Carrie Lingenfelter: I loved Ed Cartola used to say the more education somebody has, the more they need to connect and be mindful of their spiritual development and where they're at spiritually, because as we continue to grow and learn in our mind, it turns our brains on more, and then we have to use that to connect with our hearts.
- 4:48Carrie Lingenfelter: Again.
- 4:50Carrie Lingenfelter: Something we can think about while we're thinking about these pieces of labels is if you want to use it or not.
- 4:58Carrie Lingenfelter: If you're going through the process of getting a label for your kid, maybe you need it for insurance purposes.
- 5:04Carrie Lingenfelter: Maybe you need it for working with therapists.
- 5:07Carrie Lingenfelter: Maybe you need it for talking to your school about your kiddo like gifted and talented.
- 5:12Carrie Lingenfelter: That's a label we would all love to hear right, oh, my kid is gifted.
- 5:16Carrie Lingenfelter: Now my heart, my ego too, parent ego, a little bit of parent ego.
- 5:20Carrie Lingenfelter: Oh, my kid is gifted.
- 5:21Carrie Lingenfelter: We're all seeking that.
- 5:23Carrie Lingenfelter: Wouldn't that be lovely if we all had that in our lives?
- 5:25Carrie Lingenfelter: So these labeled pieces think about, when you label your kid as G&T, what does that do to their mind, to their hearts?
- 5:35Carrie Lingenfelter: My kiddo loves the GNT label and for a while I I gave that to him right away.
- 5:41Carrie Lingenfelter: I told him because he, in his heart, he felt like sports aren't my jam, science is my jam.
- 5:48Carrie Lingenfelter: Not all kids are into science.
- 5:49Carrie Lingenfelter: Are there going to be other kids I can connect with mom.
- 5:52Carrie Lingenfelter: So I was like, listen, your brain works quickly and your brain can learn 300 facts about whales.
- 5:58Carrie Lingenfelter: You're really lucky.
- 5:59Carrie Lingenfelter: That's a gift.
- 6:00Carrie Lingenfelter: And so I gave that to him.
- 6:03Carrie Lingenfelter: But then looking back, I'm like, oh gosh, should I have given him that label?
- 6:07Carrie Lingenfelter: I was wanting so desperately to help him feel connected and to help him hear his heart.
- 6:13Carrie Lingenfelter: But really I should have asked him right, what do you feel like in your heart?
- 6:17Carrie Lingenfelter: Is your gift?
- 6:18Carrie Lingenfelter: What do you feel like in your heart?
- 6:20Carrie Lingenfelter: Are you talented at?
- 6:21Carrie Lingenfelter: I shouldn't have said learning these things?
- 6:23Carrie Lingenfelter: This is your gift, right?
- 6:25Carrie Lingenfelter: So we really need to tune inward when we're asked those questions by our kids and sometimes saying I want to think about that for a minute, because I want to give you a really good answer and I want my heart to process it.
- 6:37Carrie Lingenfelter: That would have been the answer I would have loved to have shared with my son and then thought about it and then came with what my heart feels is the best thing for his heart to hear now.
- 6:47Carrie Lingenfelter: But I have gifted and talented kids and they can be intense, right.
- 6:52Carrie Lingenfelter: That intensity, that love and passion for being alive and being a human and creating and learning and growing.
- 7:01Carrie Lingenfelter: They are so passionate about being alive.
- 7:04Carrie Lingenfelter: So it's sometimes hard to say let me stew in that for a little while.
- 7:10Carrie Lingenfelter: Let it resonate in my heart to see where I want to take you with.
- 7:14Carrie Lingenfelter: Next.
- 7:15Carrie Lingenfelter: That can take a minute.
- 7:17Carrie Lingenfelter: So when we're thinking about these labels, we've got to be mindful, right.
- 7:22Carrie Lingenfelter: We've got to think how can I empower my kid if I give them the gifted and talented label, if I tell my kids this piece, then what is the pressure that is going to put on them when they're in third grade and something maybe gets hard Because third grade.
- 7:40Carrie Lingenfelter: I was just reading oh gosh, there's a really good book.
- 7:43Carrie Lingenfelter: I'm going to have to share it with you guys.
- 7:44Carrie Lingenfelter: I'll put it in the show notes.
- 7:45Carrie Lingenfelter: It's really good.
- 7:45Carrie Lingenfelter: Oh, gifted and distracted, I think, is.
- 7:49Carrie Lingenfelter: I'm going to.
- 7:50Carrie Lingenfelter: I'll double check it for you guys.
- 7:51Carrie Lingenfelter: But I was talking about how third grade brings on a new level of challenges academically.
- 7:57Carrie Lingenfelter: And my son he just hit a wall of something that was hard Division.
- 8:02Carrie Lingenfelter: It's something new he's.
- 8:05Carrie Lingenfelter: It's some of the pieces that they've been doing in some of their accelerated math and everything has always come easy learning those facts and all of those pieces.
- 8:13Carrie Lingenfelter: But learning to learn can really be hard on a G&T kid's heart Learning to try something that's new and hard and maybe you don't feel like the perfect kid.
- 8:27Carrie Lingenfelter: So thinking about those labels before we tell our kids is something that I wish I would have thought about, but it's something that I've gone back to and now I don't put a lot of stress on it.
- 8:38Carrie Lingenfelter: Now I love to have my kid reflect on what do you feel like is your gift?
- 8:44Carrie Lingenfelter: I would love for you as parents to think about that.
- 8:47Carrie Lingenfelter: What do you feel like is your gift in life?
- 8:50Carrie Lingenfelter: Are you following your gift in your own field and your work experience?
- 8:55Carrie Lingenfelter: Are you following your gift?
- 8:56Carrie Lingenfelter: Maybe your gift is something you follow in your hobbies.
- 8:58Carrie Lingenfelter: Maybe your gift is something that you do with your kids.
- 9:03Carrie Lingenfelter: Maybe it's something that you do for yourself.
- 9:06Carrie Lingenfelter: So think about what your gift is as well, because as we're teaching our kids to stay connected to themselves, we are also thinking about how to reconnect or stay connected in our own hearts.
- 9:19Carrie Lingenfelter: What's the best teacher, mom and dad?
- 9:22Carrie Lingenfelter: What's our best teacher?
- 9:23Carrie Lingenfelter: Our kids, the people that are with us and going through day-to-day challenges and learning, growing and healing along the way.
- 9:30Carrie Lingenfelter: Think about these labels before you use them.
- 9:33Carrie Lingenfelter: Reflect back on what your own gifts are.
- 9:36Carrie Lingenfelter: I would love to know what do you guys think my gift is?
- 9:39Carrie Lingenfelter: I was asking my husband the other day.
- 9:41Carrie Lingenfelter: I've done I don't know if anybody's ever done the Garner's Multiple Intelligences.
- 9:46Carrie Lingenfelter: I can't remember if it's seven or eight multiple intelligences, but I did it and I was so surprised.
- 9:53Carrie Lingenfelter: I wasn't surprised by this visual spatial, because I've always loved to do interior design and planning these things Also running around on the metros in Europe.
- 10:02Carrie Lingenfelter: I was great at that and knowing where we had been, oh, it came in so handy when we were in Venice.
- 10:08Carrie Lingenfelter: I don't know if anybody's been to Venice, but that can be.
- 10:10Carrie Lingenfelter: Every street looks the same there.
- 10:12Carrie Lingenfelter: But I got the visual, spatial.
- 10:15Carrie Lingenfelter: I also got intrapersonal, knowing yourself.
- 10:18Carrie Lingenfelter: Interpersonal, knowing relationships between yourself and others, and those were my three top three.
- 10:24Carrie Lingenfelter: I was like what am I going to do with the job?
- 10:27Carrie Lingenfelter: What am I going to do with this?
- 10:29Carrie Lingenfelter: You're going to start a conscious parent podcast?
- 10:32Carrie Lingenfelter: Okay, you're going to start taking some metaphysical classes to grow in your spirituality.
- 10:38Carrie Lingenfelter: You're going to start using Reiki with your kids and also discovering other spiritual modalities, energy work modalities for yourself and for your kids.
- 10:50Carrie Lingenfelter: So maybe your gift might not look like a cut and dry idea of what you're going to do in life or where you're at in life, but how can you use your gifts in your life?
- 11:02Carrie Lingenfelter: Don't forget, as always, to show your kids how we use these gifts, to show them.
- 11:07Carrie Lingenfelter: Maybe it's not your first job.
- 11:11Carrie Lingenfelter: Maybe you change careers later on.
- 11:14Carrie Lingenfelter: Tell your kids what happened, tell your kids how you did it, tell your kids how you tried new things, because don't forget, with any of these kiddos coming in.
- 11:25Carrie Lingenfelter: I love the term.
- 11:26Carrie Lingenfelter: It was in that book and it's going to be in the show notes.
- 11:28Carrie Lingenfelter: Easy things are hard for our kids and hard things can be easy If you are raising a gifted and talented, spirited, highly sensitive and or neurodiverse or twice exceptional kids.
- 11:43Carrie Lingenfelter: Don't forget that piece.
- 11:44Carrie Lingenfelter: Easy things can be hard and hard things can be easy.
- 11:49Carrie Lingenfelter: Oh, one other prayer I forgot.
- 11:51Carrie Lingenfelter: I was going to leave you guys with a prayer today, so I would love for you to put your hand over your heart and think this in your mind as you're going along If you're driving, please pull over.
- 11:59Carrie Lingenfelter: Thank you, so you can start with your God source universe, whatever you believe in, Thank you for helping me to stay connected to the universe, source God, so that I can stay connected into adulthood.
- 12:15Carrie Lingenfelter: Now, how does that feel as a parent, are you connected in adulthood?
- 12:21Carrie Lingenfelter: Maybe you need to reconnect in adulthood so you can change the wording there.
- 12:26Carrie Lingenfelter: And also, as always, use this affirmation prayer with your kids and try to do it every day for a week.
- 12:33Carrie Lingenfelter: I'm going to challenge you with that Peace out parents, sending love your way.
- 12:37Carrie Lingenfelter: Well, that's a wrap.
- 12:39Carrie Lingenfelter: Thanks so much for tuning in Changemakers.
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- 13:07Carrie Lingenfelter: Thanks so much for tuning in and happy life, happy times, change maker families.