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Why are narcissists so DELUSIONAL · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful people? Today,
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  we're gonna be answering the question, why are
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  narcissists so delusional? Like,
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  why? Like, the delusions of Rangier?
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  What even is that? What's
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  the story behind that? If you're new here, my name
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  is Lee Hammack. I'm a clinically diagnosed
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  narcissist, and welcome to another episode of The
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  Narcissist Code. Boom,
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  welcome back, welcome back, welcome back, folks. Yes,
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  delusions of Rangier, delusional narcissists. Why
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  are they so damn delusional? Why
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  can't they just be happy and content with what they
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  have? Why can't they be happy and
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  content with you, with your kids, with your family,
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  whatever they have, their job, their money, they're
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  just the fact that they're still alive and breathing?
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  Why can't they just be content
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  with that? Why are they so delusional?
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  Why? So, I will start off by
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  saying this. Narcissistic people and the delusions of
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  Rangier are actually the delusions of fulfillment.
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  They want to be fulfilled. They
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  want to be happy, happiness. They're
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  chasing happiness, the pursuit or the chase of
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  happiness. You know, that's where a lot
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  of the delusions come from, because narcissists, a lot
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  of us, a lot of narcissists, including
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  myself, we do suffer from them chronic boredom, y
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  'all. It's like we're chronically
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  bored. Like a lot of narcissistic
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  people tend to be. Like we get bored because we
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  don't know what we really want. We
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  don't know what we're really after. We
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  don't know what we're really pursuing out here in
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  the real world. So it's just like, how we get
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  here? Like what is it gonna take to
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  make us happy? You know what I mean? It
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  really is a wild mindset. That's
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  what I just tell people. It's
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  just when you're dealing with a narcissistic person,
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  you know, you will understand what I'm talking
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  about, because that's the mindset. Like
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  we are chasing that high because we get bored. We
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  get lax a days ago. No matter what we have going
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  on, no matter what we are doing, like y 'all, you
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  could be in a fantastic paradise with your
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  narcissistic partner or parent or friend or whoever
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  it is, and they will ruin your trip. They
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  will ruin your vacation because they get bored, you
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  know? Boredom destroys a lot of
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  relationships because they'll start doing things. Pardon
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  the interruption. Just want to let you know that
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  I do have courses and support groups available as
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  well. Courses to help you understand what
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  you went through and support groups to help you
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  during or after the types of relationships. Link
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  in the description. Now back to the video. They
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  have delusions of wanting to be millionaires and
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  wanting a better looking person. You
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  see what I'm saying? They feel like they deserve
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  someone better because they want to be fulfilled. They
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  think that getting this new stuff, that fulfilling this
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  delusion, fulfilling this crazy ass dream, they think
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  it will fulfill them. It really, really is. And
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  that's why I just tell people, like, they really
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  do think that this, like, get into this space right
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  here. They think that if I achieve
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  this super delusional ass goal, that it will make me
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  happy. That I will finally be happy.
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  That I will finally be prepared.
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  That I will finally get
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  something, like, get, I will finally get out of
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  this chronic slump that I'm in. I
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  will finally have what I want. I
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  will finally be content. I will finally be fulfilled.
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  I will finally be able to be
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  happy with what I have. Because
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  that's what happens with narcissists. So
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  this is not me saying that narcissists can't be happy,
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  right? This is not me saying that
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  narcissists cannot be happy. This
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  is me saying that happiness comes and goes very
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  quickly. And it can be an extremely
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  frustrating space to be in as a narcissist. You
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  know, when you feel like you achieve a huge goal,
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  right? I have the delusion of doing
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  this and I have the delusions of doing that.
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  But I actually, when I actually
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  do it, it's frustrating as hell when I'm not happy.
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  If that makes sense. When
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  I actually achieve the goal that I'm after, it's
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  extremely frustrating that I'm not happy when I do
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  it. Or that I'm happy in the
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  moment. But then right after that, I'm
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  unhappy again. They get mad. I
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  have the delusions of going to Tahiti or not Tahiti.
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  Was Tahiti ever? It
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  is replaced. I'm geographically ignorant, y
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  'all. So if Tahiti is not, it is a
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  real place. Tahiti should treat. Yeah,
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  the old drink. Yeah, Tahiti is a real place. I
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  have a dream about going to Tahiti, right? And
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  I get there. I'm expecting to be happy and
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  I'm not. It's frustrating as hell. I
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  might be like, damn, I'm in Tahiti. What's
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  next? It's almost like, damn, what's
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  next? That's extremely frustrating. And
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  this is not me trying to get you to feel sorry for
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  your narcissistic partner or ex or parent or whatever.
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  It's just, I'm just trying to
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  explain the mindset behind why they might be acting
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  in a way that they're acting towards you. Why
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  they might be havin' the way that they are towards
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  you right now. Why they might be treating you
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  the way that they're treating you right now.
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  Because they just expected to be
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  happier. They expected this moment to
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  last longer for them. And that's why I'm just saying
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  like, well, Lee, how do you know what's the
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  delusion of the fulfillment and not just crazy talk?
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  Because I asked my therapist. Y
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  'all know I've been in therapy for so long, or
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  I've been in therapy for seven years. And
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  I just straight up asked my therapist the other day.
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  I just like, is it real?
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  Well, that's not the other day.
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  This is years ago. The
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  other year. I said, is it really
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  delusions of grandeur? If I actually achieve it. If
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  I keep achieving these crazy ass things, these
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  crazy ideas just comin' through wishin' I achieve
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  them, then I make it happen. Is
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  that really a delusion of grandeur? And
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  she said, no. She said, it's not always
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  delusions of grandeur. It's the delusions of
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  fulfillment. It's the delusion that this,
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  whatever it is, this big grandiose thing will make
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  you happy. It's the delusion that you'll be
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  happy when you achieve it. It's
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  the delusion that this will make you a better person,
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  it'll make you feel better about yourself, make you
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  the delusion of self -validation. I
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  validate myself by achieving this. No.
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  If you are not happy, if you're not able to sit in
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  the moment and be happy in the moment, then no matter
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  what you do, no matter how many delusional ass dreams
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  you come up with that you actually hit, no matter how
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  many delusional ass goals that you come up with and
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  you actually hit, no matter what happens, you still
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  feel the same way and then be frustrated because most
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  people don't understand why they're not happy when they
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  hit a goal. Why they're not happy when they
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  achieve something. Why they're not happy, you
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  know? Most people, and that's me
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  telling y 'all, this is the space that a lot of people
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  fall into right here. This is the mindset that a lot
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  of people fall into right here. It
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  really is. So this is me telling y 'all,
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  like this is how it's gotta go a lot of times.
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  This is the space that a lot
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  of people fall into right here. So
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  I'm telling you right now, if you're dealing with the
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  narcissist, they seem super delusional and they seem
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  unhappy when they hit a goal, hit a dream. This
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  is why. They think they're gonna be
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  happy. They think they're like, it's
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  crazy about this. Not only do they think that
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  they're gonna be happy, they think the world will
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  appreciate them for some reason. They
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  think they're like, okay, I hit this goal, now the
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  world should appreciate me. Now,
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  I should, not only have I hit this goal, now the
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  world should appreciate me because I'm hitting this
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  goal. Because I achieved this. Let's
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  not eat right there. It's just like, the world should
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  appreciate me. I'm entitled to more, I'm
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  entitled to more because the world appreciates me.
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  I'm entitled to more because
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  people, because I achieved this goal because I
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  achieved this dream. I'm entitled to more. That's
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  where it goes right there, y 'all. So
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  that's what I'm just telling you like it's the
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  loot is y 'all is the delusional mindset they Like
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  a lot of it. You know, not only is it the
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  little up Narcissistic robot resetting talking too fast
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  me too slow down to do be do I'm back Not only is
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  it delusional like the delusions of fulfillment.
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  It's actually the delusion of
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  like in time You feel like you just entitled to it
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  like it's entitlement is the delusions of entitlement
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  is the delusion that you deserve it Just because you
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  are you I Deserve this because I am me not
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  because I'm qualified for not because it's not
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  because anything else It's my birthright. I
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  just deserve it because I'm me I deserve it because I
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  think that I am better than everybody else I
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  deserve it because I know you know, I know I'm me
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  it really is right now It's the deluge really is
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  a truly delusional mindset, but I deserve this because
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  I am me That's where it goes. It's
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  delusions of being entitled to think that you deserve
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  something just because you are you You know, they
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  would like and this was sometimes like they think
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  that they They think they're entitled to you is
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  the delusions of ownership. I
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  think you belong to me I think you belong to me
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  because we kissed one time. I
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  think you belong to me because I like you I Own
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  you you are mine. That's where it goes right there
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  So that's why I'm telling people in this space within
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  this dynamic that this is how you have to go about
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  doing things This is part of it. Like
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  you and I'm gonna just be real with you. Oh,
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  you will never ever truly make a narcissist happy You
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  you can't y 'all that's above your pay grade It
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  just is you can't do it and this is not me trying
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  to just like believe you just be a negative Nancy
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  negative Neil You know There's not me saying that
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  I'm just telling you y 'all because you will drain
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  yourself Trying to make this person happy you will
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  drain yourself Trying to help this person achieve a
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  goal trying to help this person achieve this dream
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  that they have Trying to help this person achieve
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  whatever like this delusional is the I'm gonna
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  start a business And you'll help them start a business
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  and the business will fail. I
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  guess what happens. It's your fault And the crazy
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  thing about it is like they will give you credit
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  They will give you they will give you to blame if
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  it fails, but they'll take all the credit if it
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  succeeds That's crazy, isn't it? Narcissist
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  will give you all the blame if something that y
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  'all working on together something that you helping
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  them with It fails, but if it succeeds they did it on
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  their own they got you know What people the young
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  folks say they got it out the mud, you know, they
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  grind it from it They started from the bottom now
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  they here That's where it goes right there. So
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  I'm just trying to warn you that I'm not look I'm
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  not telling you to abandon it in the night abandon.
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  I'm not telling you to just
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  Give up and walk away on your partner y 'all might
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  been together everybody's situation is different I
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  might have been together for 40 years 50 years But
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  I'm telling you to just take a deeper look at what
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  your situation what you actually have going on what
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  you actually might be Experiencing take a deeper
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  look within yourself and within your within your
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