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- Lucas: I want to start with a number that stopped me cold. A friend of mine runs a product team at a mid-size fintech company, and they did a full calendar audit last quarter. They found that forty percent of their recurring meetings had zero actionable outcomes over a three-month period. Luna: Forty percent? That is wild. And I bet no one noticed until they actually looked. Lucas: Exactly. The meetings were just there — relics from past projects, legacy syncs that no one had bothered to cancel. So the team decided to try something radical. For one quarter, they put every recurring meeting on probation. If a meeting couldn't justify its existence with a clear purpose and a named owner, it got the axe. Luna: How did people react? I feel like meetings are sacred ground in some cultures. Lucas: There was some pushback, but the leadership was transparent. They shared data: each meeting cost roughly the average hourly salary of every attendee multiplied by the number of people. A one-hour meeting with eight people that went nowhere cost the company about six hundred dollars in lost productivity, every single week. Luna: That's over thirty thousand dollars a year for one useless hour. Perspective is powerful. Lucas: The team ended up cutting forty percent of their recurring meetings, and guess what? Nothing broke. Projects still shipped. Decisions still got made. People just started using Slack more thoughtfully and writing clearer status updates. Luna: That's the dream. But I think the hardest part is the social contract — the fear that cancelling a meeting makes you look like you don't care. Lucas: That's real. It's what I call 'attendance theater' — showing up just to be seen. And it's exhausting. So let's talk about a framework I've been using to decide which meetings to cut. Luna: I'm all ears. Lucas: Three questions. One: Can this meeting be an email or an async update? Two: Do I need to be there, or could a delegate represent my team? Three: If we cancelled this meeting today, would anyone notice within a week? Luna: Question three is brutal. Most meetings would fail that test. Lucas: Right. And the beauty is, you don't have to be the lone crusader. You can suggest a trial cancellation with your team. Say, 'Let's skip this week's sync and see if anything breaks.' More often than not, nothing breaks. Luna: I actually did that with my team's weekly status update. I proposed we replace it with a shared doc that everyone updated by Wednesday morning. The first week was awkward — people forgot — but by week three, we had a rhythm. Lucas: And what happened to the meeting slot? Luna: We reclaimed an hour. Some people use it for deep work. I block it for strategic thinking. The team feels less rushed. Lucas: That's the win. And look, I know this sounds like a small-bore productivity hack, but think about the cumulative effect. If you save two hours a week from meetings, that's over a hundred hours a year — that's two and a half extra work weeks. Luna: Honestly, if this episode helps you reclaim even one meeting slot, that feels like a win. And if it does, you know where to find us — buy me a coffee dot com slash fexingo. That little bit of support keeps the show ad-free and helps us keep digging into topics like this. Lucas: Yeah, it's a small gesture that goes a long way. And we're grateful to everyone who's chipped in. Now, back to the meeting audit. One thing I want to emphasize is that the goal isn't to eliminate all meetings. It's to make sure every meeting earns its place. Luna: Right. Some meetings are vital — brainstorming, difficult feedback, team building. The question is which ones actually need synchronous time. Lucas: Exactly. So here's a second framework I've been using. I call it the 'meeting cost label.' For every recurring invite I get, I add a note in the description: 'This meeting costs approximately X dollars per occurrence.' It's a gentle reminder to everyone attending. Luna: Does that actually change behavior? Or do people just ignore it? Lucas: It works surprisingly well. At my previous company, we started adding a cost estimate to all-hands meetings. The organizer would write something like 'This meeting costs $12,000 in attendee time per hour.' Suddenly, people were much more disciplined about starting on time and sticking to the agenda. Luna: I love that. It externalizes the invisible cost. I think a lot of meeting bloat exists because no one ever sees the price tag. Lucas: Right. And there's a psychological concept called the 'endowment effect' applied to calendar slots. Once a meeting is on your calendar, you treat it as valuable, even if it isn't. The default should be no meeting unless there's a strong reason. Luna: I've started doing a quarterly calendar purge. I go through every recurring invite and ask: does this still serve my priorities? If not, I decline or request a change. Lucas: That's smart. And I'd add one more thing: when you cancel a meeting, send a brief note to attendees explaining why. 'I'm cancelling this because I think we can cover the update async. Let me know if you disagree.' It builds trust. Luna: And it models the behavior. If leaders cancel meetings thoughtfully, the team feels permission to do the same. Lucas: Exactly. So to wrap up, here's a concrete challenge for listeners this week. Pick one recurring meeting on your calendar that you suspect is low-value. Cancel it for next week. If no one complains, cancel it permanently. Luna: And if someone does complain, you can always reinstate it. But at least you'll have started a conversation. Lucas: That's the right mindset. The worst that can happen is you save an hour and learn something about how your team communicates. Luna: I'm going to do that myself right after this episode. I have a weekly cross-team sync that I suspect is ripe for the chopping block. Lucas: Let me know how it goes. Maybe we'll do a follow-up episode on what happens when you actually try it. Luna: I'd love that. Thanks, Lucas. Lucas: Thanks, Luna. And thanks to everyone listening. See you next time.