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Bonus: Spiritual Parenting: Energy Work and Mindfulness · The Spiritual Parent: Mindful Tools for Raising Spiritual and Conscious Kids

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  Carrie Lingenfelter: When we go back to the spiritual piece.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: One thing that I have really picked up on in the last few months is energy work and understanding this idea that our children are a reflection of the emotions we are putting out ourselves.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: An example is the other night.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: I was exhausted and tired and we were getting over a cold which we have had for like two weeks.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Thank you universe for helping us learn to slow down.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Exhausted and tired and we were getting over a cold which we have had for like two weeks, thank you universe for helping us learn to slow down.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: And I was getting a little frustrated with my kiddo, who did not want to brush her teeth, and so I started to get frustrated, frustrated, guess what she started doing back, frustrated, frustrated.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: The more I got frustrated, the more she came back at it.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Right, it can be so hard in that moment to calm our body down because in my mind, my mind, has these red flags beep, beep, beep.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: They're going off in my head.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Hi Conscious Parents.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: It's Keri here and I am here with a little info about raising our mindful kids.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: I've got some tips and tricks about breaking free of the box and becoming who you are and teaching your kids how to do that along the way.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Join us, hey conscious parents.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Today we're going to talk about being a spiritual parent and what that looks like and raising our kids in a spiritual way.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: So we're really embracing it around here at Heart to Heart Parents, and it's kind of almost a little bit of a rebrand and we're really embracing it as we see that parents really are asking for these opportunities in their worlds.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: I was recently doing a speaking event with some other amazing people and it was so fun to connect with so many conscious parents and I realized that so much of what parenting looks like for me is energy work, inner pieces as a parent working on myself, and then inner pieces of my kids and then connection between the two of us, right?
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: So when we're talking, there's the mindfulness piece.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Really, there's so much online about that nowadays, right, you can Google it, you can find apps for it, there's books for it.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: There's guided meditations.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: There's guided meditations.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: There's all this mindful pieces.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Teaching our kids these mindful tools when they're young is so beneficial for them.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Imagine where they'll be when they're 40 years old as well.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Right?
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Things that we've had to readjust.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Come back to ourselves.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Probably we didn't maintain in our 20s.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Maybe if we grew up with it like myself, those are pieces that we can really help our kids with.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: So the mindset pieces are something that are so important.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: And then there's the peaceful parenting, these, these connected pieces of seeing our children for who they are, loving them for who they are, but then also the challenges that they have with them, supporting them and seeing them where they're at.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: And then hearing your own intuition to know which things you can jump on the bandwagon with and which things you need to throw out, because there's so much information about parenting out there that it can be easy to want to do all of it, which can also cause anxiety for us mamas and dads.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: So, being conscious about what is important in your house, what is going to align with you yourself, your husband, your partner, your wife, your kids, your dog I don't know, maybe it goes with the dog, your fish, but really thinking about what is in alignment with your house and what you feel like really resonates with you being in tune with that and then also with that.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: One other key thing I love to talk about is, yes, boundaries.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Boundaries are part of the puzzle too, right, we can have this connection with our kids and then also have boundaries with it, and when I have that strong connection with my kids.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: When I need to bring in those boundaries, I can do it in a loving way and a connected way and that is going to keep that connection flowing with my kids.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: When I need to bring in those boundaries, I can do it in a loving way and a connected way and that is going to keep that connection flowing with my kids.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: That is going to really resonate.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: I actually like the phrase.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: I use it with my 10-year-old because he's now at the age where he's questioning right Even my 7-year-old questions too, now Raising those conscious kids too, right?
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: So I love to use the term I'm here to support you.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: I am here to parent you and nurture you and connect with you.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Part of my job is challenging you and part of my job is bringing you up to the next level of yourself, and so part of that sometimes can look like things that are more challenging for your body, for your heart, and I might have to do some of these challenges with you, but I'm going to support you and I'm still going to be here and hear when you're feeling frustrated by that.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Another thing that I wanted to talk about was the spiritual piece, right.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: What does that mean.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Well, I like to break it down and give you some of these bonus episodes that have some of these energy work pieces guided meditation with energy work.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: It was really interesting.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: The other day my husband and I were talking about guided meditations because when we first started our adventure and meditating it was about 11 years ago now, when I was pregnant with my son.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: We were really in it.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: We knew that we had to really focus on meditation and developing our meditation skills.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: And it was really cool because we had some book I can't remember.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: It was like seven steps to a meditation and it was neat because each step was a different idea of how to meditate.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: They didn't have the guided meditation apps back then, 11 years ago, even that short term ago ago, we didn't have it and it was kind of cool because we had to learn how to meditate on our own and we were going through these steps of how to do it on our own without having the guide.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: The guide is cool, but also Doing it without the guide is going to teach you how to sit with your thoughts.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: It's going to teach you how to release your thoughts when you're sitting.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: It's going to teach you things that you don't necessarily learn with the guides, right?
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: So I actually challenge you guys to try meditating as a parent, by yourself.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: You can do a bathroom meditation if you need it, parents, a car meditation, a meeting space meditation at work.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: If you get like a five minute break and can run into a meeting room, there you go.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: But try to sit alone with your thoughts and release those thoughts alone, with your mind, body, spirit, connection, to be present and conscious and aware, instead of just being guided along in this path.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Right, being guided along it's almost I would describe it almost like almost, maybe watching TV or watching a how to on YouTube.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Right, you're following along on the path, but you're not actively.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Maybe trying it sometime.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Well, I guess you're actively trying it, but it's just a little.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: I think it's a step up when you're trying it without the guide too, and then also having your kids try that with you as well.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: When we go back to the spiritual piece, one thing that I have really picked up on in the last few months is energy work and understanding this idea that our children are a reflection of the emotions we are giving, are putting out ourselves.
• 7:01
  Carrie Lingenfelter: An example is the other night.
• 7:03
  Carrie Lingenfelter: I was exhausted and tired and we were getting over a cold which we have had for like two weeks.
• 7:09
  Carrie Lingenfelter: Thank you, universe, for helping us learn to slow down.
• 7:12
  Carrie Lingenfelter: And I was getting a little frustrated with my kiddo who did not want to brush her teeth, and so I started to get frustrated, frustrated, guess what she started doing, back Frustrated, frustrated.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: And so I started to get frustrated, frustrated, guess what she started doing, back Frustrated, frustrated.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: The more I got frustrated, the more she came back at it.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Right, it can be so hard in that moment to calm our body down because in my mind, my mind, has these red flags beep, beep, beep.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: They're going off in my head.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Why isn't this kid brushing her teeth?
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Why does she keep pushing my buttons?
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Why can't she listen to me?
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Does she do this at school?
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Is she going to become a delinquent?
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Is she going to never get a job?
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: You know it's like you go down the road and so think about that energetically.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: She's feeling that pressure, she's feeling that intensity.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: So, luckily, my husband was like hey, go wash the dishes.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: If you want for a second, I can take over.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: And he came in with a grounded, calm, energy and that reflected back on our kiddo.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: He sat down with her, played with her, calmed her down for a few minutes and then she went and brushed her teeth.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Now, if you think I would have stayed in that room and been going and going and I'm the mom and you need to listen and I kept, you know, right, the ego, the anger, the fear, all these pieces come up.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: It's just going to keep cycling and it can get worse and worse, especially on a sensitive kid at the end of the day, when they're feeling getting over whatever illness we've had.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Think of all those pressures we're putting on that kid's system.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: That's something to think about with.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: The energy work is the reflection of us and showing what also we may need to work on in ourselves as well.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Right, there's that inner child piece of why do I feel like I need to control?
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Why did I get so worked up about this?
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Why did I let that fear control me and come in and snowball in my brain?
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: There's some inner work to work on too.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: So that's what I talk about when I'm thinking about the spirituality and the energy work, also teaching our kids about energy, how everything is made up of energy.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: I'm energy, you're energy, the plants are energy, the sun has energy.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Right, all these pieces, the earth, has its own vibrational energy.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Everything is made up of energy and so if there's this idea, right, like the string effect, if somebody over here is feeling something or moving the string, somebody over here feels the string right, feels the string moves, picks up on it.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: So there's that idea and that is so cool that you can teach that to your kids and we can teach them to notice.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Using the mind-body-spirit connections.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: We can teach them to notice the energy in a space, the energy that mom or dad feels, brother or sister feels, friends feel.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: That's a big one at school, right, understanding that energy, we can do energy protection ideas.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: I love doing the white light spiraling around us, golden light spiraling around us, roots growing into the ground.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: And then we say a little mantra positive energy only, no negative energy allowed.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: And so it is.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: It's so important that we teach our kids actively about energy and I love to keep doing these bonus episodes where I can go into it more.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: I'm just wanting to give a little quick introduction for those who are new here.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: With Heart to Heart Parents, we've had a huge amount of following and it's really cool to see so many amazing people.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Thank you so much for listening listeners and I wanted to go back and just kind of go through some of these pieces of what we've been seeing.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: So in this spirituality piece we have the mindset too.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: We've talked about that, right.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Right, we've talked about maybe you want to learn more about the law of attraction.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: I love abraham hicks.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Law of attraction is great.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: If you're looking for anything, there's so many resources on youtube.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: With that comes the idea of the energy that we put out is the energy we're going to receive.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: So being conscious of that as a parent, right, and it kind of was reflected with my kiddo when we were wanting to brush our teeth huh, the energy I'm putting out, energy I receive, and you can think about it in bigger pictures that is so, so important to teach your kids the magnetic energy.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: I love talking about that, changing our mindset from the negative of what we don't want to see to the positive of what we do want.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: To see those go under the mindful pieces and then acknowledging our thoughts and our behaviors and patterns.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: That to see those go under the mindful pieces and then acknowledging our thoughts and our behaviors and patterns, that we see those are so important.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Naming it to tame it.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: I love Dr Dan Siegel, name it to tame it.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: It's great the whole brain child.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: So actively helping your child to name their emotions, their behaviors, what is going on, the challenges and bringing them back down.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: You can tailor that with a spiritual piece of helping them stomp the energy out.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: You can bring in solfeggio frequencies on YouTube.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: There's different chakras, there's all seven chakras so you could put in solfeggio frequency, heart chakra and it brings in if you were feeling sad that could bring in to help reset the heart.
• 12:06
  Carrie Lingenfelter: I've actually been doing these every morning and now that I've done all seven, the kids will say I want red today, mom.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Or like if we're all feeling really in our heads and we're all getting emotional, I really love doing the red root chakra.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: That's a great one.
• 12:20
  Carrie Lingenfelter: So this is just a really quick bonus episode rundown, catch-up for those who are just starting to get started with us.
• 12:27
  Carrie Lingenfelter: I wanted to just give a little background information and kind of connect everything together.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: One thing I would love for you to think about as you're going on your parenting journey is any time that you introduce something into your day with your kiddo, into your life, if you're reading a parenting book, if you're listening to this podcast, any podcast and you're wanting to add something in, do it slowly, do it intentionally and do it with connection, because when we're connecting with our kids, connecting with ourselves, connecting with our partner, connecting with our dogs, we can feel the energy.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: We can feel what our kids are needing, what we're needing in our hearts, what anybody is needing in that moment.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Thanks for listening.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Conscious parents.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Happy days.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Well, that's a wrap.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Thanks so much for tuning in.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Changemakers.
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• 13:23
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• 13:28
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• 13:35
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• 13:38
  Carrie Lingenfelter: Thanks so much for tuning in and happy life.
• 13:41
  Carrie Lingenfelter: Happy times.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Changemaker families.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Bye.