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Monday Mini: What Now? · Stuff Mom Never Told You

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  Speaker 1: Hey, this is Annie and Samantha and welcome stuff.
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  Speaker 2: We never told you reproduction I heard radio.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know. I think from now on we might
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  Speaker 1: just have to time step everything Annie, probably because of
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  Speaker 1: the way that everything is feeling like it's in turmoil
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  Speaker 1: and crisis, we may need to have I feel like
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  Speaker 1: I was going to say this in our past episode.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like we're going to be in battle mode constantly.
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  Speaker 1: So in my old job, I could never address like
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  Speaker 1: the root of the issue because we were always constantly
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  Speaker 1: putting out fires, immediate fires that nothing could be solved,
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  Speaker 1: especially for like a caseworker. I think that's where we're
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  Speaker 1: going to be at as intersectional feminist podcasts. I think
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  Speaker 1: that's just the constant that we're going to have to
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  Speaker 1: address issues in a timely manner, and that we're about
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  Speaker 1: to be at current events instead of like just educational,
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  Speaker 1: which is typically what we'd like to do. Don't get
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  Speaker 1: me wrong, we still will because we're going to need
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  Speaker 1: those breaks to y'all. Yeah, And also, by the time
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  Speaker 1: something is published, oftentimes we're already out of sync with
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  Speaker 1: the news, like we're already outdated. But with that, we're
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  Speaker 1: gonna put time stamps a lot more. Today is November eighth,
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  Speaker 1: technically Monday, if you're listening to this on the chronological order.
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  Speaker 1: I know a lot of people like to listen to
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  Speaker 1: the shorter episodes anyway, which half the time Monday minis
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  Speaker 1: are no longer minis. But anyway, with that, we know
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  Speaker 1: you are listening to it later, so things are changing.
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  Speaker 1: Hopefully we'll get some more information. There's a lot of
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  Speaker 1: stuff that's happening that I can't keep up with, including
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  Speaker 1: more results, possible conspiracy theories, actual truths. Like there's so
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  Speaker 1: many things happening that try to decipher through all the
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  Speaker 1: information is getting difficult, especially right now. So with that,
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  Speaker 1: as much as we want to crawl into a fetal
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  Speaker 1: position and just sleep through the next four or five years,
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  Speaker 1: we know we can't. Like we said on the last episode,
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  Speaker 1: if you listened, we will not. We will keep pushing,
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  Speaker 1: even though sometimes it feels really hard. Listeners, I wanted
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  Speaker 1: to be very transparent with you and let you know
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  Speaker 1: right now I do feel hopeless, and I say this
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  Speaker 1: with a smile because I don't know how else to
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  Speaker 1: address this without crying again. But one thing that I
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  Speaker 1: understand is that we can't pretend this didn't happen. We
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  Speaker 1: can't pretend like it's not happening. We have to move forward,
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  Speaker 1: and a part of our responsibility to you is to
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  Speaker 1: be a vocal part of this critical journey, scary journey.
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  Speaker 1: It's scary. As we've already talked about how we are
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  Speaker 1: doing and how we are overwhelmed, we will bypass that
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  Speaker 1: for now, and we want to talk offensive, or maybe
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  Speaker 1: perhaps better defensive and what looks like when we were
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  Speaker 1: looking at things defensively and wanting to protect our rights
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  Speaker 1: and the rights of those who are marginalized. So this
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  Speaker 1: is something important for us, and we will keep doing this.
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  Speaker 1: And I will say, as I was researching what to
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  Speaker 1: do now seriously, and I've been googling exactly what to
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  Speaker 1: do now that Trump has been elected like that is
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  Speaker 1: the phrase, or organizations that will fight Trump like that?
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  Speaker 1: Those are the Google searchers that I have been looking up.
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  Speaker 1: And honestly, I've only been hitting things from twenty sixteen,
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  Speaker 1: twenty seventeen, articles from back then to combat Trump. So
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  Speaker 1: I'm not necessarily revisiting those things because I think it
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  Speaker 1: could have helped, and things like the ACLU will remain
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  Speaker 1: important within our country. They did a lot in things
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  Speaker 1: that they were fighting specifically by state by state. They
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  Speaker 1: did a lot of work. They put a lot of time.
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  Speaker 1: The lawyers, the policymakers roll a lot. We're part of
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  Speaker 1: this NAACP. We know is a huge organization that does
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  Speaker 1: a lot as well, that does ground funding. Planned Parenthood
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  Speaker 1: has done a lot as well. But we also know
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  Speaker 1: when it comes to it, the local things are very important.
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  Speaker 1: So with all of that, things are a bit different,
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  Speaker 1: and will likely be appointing two new Supreme Court justices
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  Speaker 1: as well. We know there's been rumors about Clarence Thomas
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  Speaker 1: as well as Alito, and they've just been waiting hoping
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  Speaker 1: for this results. Yeah, but with all of that, as
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  Speaker 1: much as that makes me nauseous that want to throw up,
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  Speaker 1: that doesn't mean that we can't stop fighting. We have
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  Speaker 1: also talked about the people as a collective. What I
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  Speaker 1: have seen are the amount of people coming back together
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  Speaker 1: and about how to rally. I know there's been protests already,
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  Speaker 1: there are people coming together already to gather together to
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  Speaker 1: problem solve at least have strategy. California, the State of California,
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  Speaker 1: the Say of Washington, all of them have already talked
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  Speaker 1: about what's going to happen and the possibility of things
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  Speaker 1: to happen. Violence is not our go to. We know this,
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  Speaker 1: so this is not the option that we will be
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  Speaker 1: going for. And I say this in reference to the
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  Speaker 1: twenty twenty election. That is not something that we do.
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  Speaker 1: We know this. But what we do well is we
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  Speaker 1: gather together well and coming together, something we have always
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  Speaker 1: done and that is what I'm hoping for Individually. I
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  Speaker 1: will tell y'all at this time, look into your area,
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  Speaker 1: look into your local community and see who are meeting
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  Speaker 1: together and who are coming together as a community. We
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  Speaker 1: know that there's organizations out there, We know that there
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  Speaker 1: are things happening to the point that they get labeled
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  Speaker 1: antifa just because they're anti fascist. I mean that's true,
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  Speaker 1: I guess, but seen as terrorist whatever. Okay, whatever, But
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  Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Keep an eye on your
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  Speaker 1: local officials. What are they saying, what are they doing,
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  Speaker 1: how are they planning for the future. You need to
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  Speaker 1: take a note of what is going on in your
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  Speaker 1: small area. I'm talking about for us, our small area
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  Speaker 1: is Atlanta, the cab County, Decatur, all of that, and
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  Speaker 1: the people that we have put into office. We are
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  Speaker 1: staring and watching Fanny Willis. By the way, she got
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  Speaker 1: nominated and she is still the district attorney for Fulton County.
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  Speaker 1: Just in case y'all needed to know the highlight. We
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  Speaker 1: knew that we knew it would be because come on,
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  Speaker 1: support small businesses. So there's conversation constantly about boycotting and
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  Speaker 1: doing these things and trying to stay away from capitalistic ideas,
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  Speaker 1: especially right now in seeing who is supporting what and
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  Speaker 1: why they're supporting it. A lot of the things that
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  Speaker 1: we're looking at are also again federal standards that are
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  Speaker 1: being depleted or just overridden because they want to make
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  Speaker 1: money on the chief no, no matter who gets sick or
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  Speaker 1: who doesn't get sick. So support small businesses. I think
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  Speaker 1: specifically right now, we've talked about this as repeatedly. As
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  Speaker 1: the holidays are coming up, look for black women owned businesses,
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  Speaker 1: and again watch out for bad players. I think we're
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  Speaker 1: gonna have to stay away from Etsy. Annie. I try
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  Speaker 1: to order a couple of things from Etsy and I
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  Speaker 1: got some sus stuff. Yeah, I was like, what is this?
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  Speaker 1: And I try to use etc. Over Amazon because we
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  Speaker 1: need to get away Bay from Amazon y'all. I will
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  Speaker 1: tell you firsthand, I order a lot of stuff because
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  Speaker 1: I don't want to go to stores so like like
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  Speaker 1: face stuff or like cosmetic stuff or like that, so
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  Speaker 1: that it will come to me. But I realize I
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  Speaker 1: have a responsibility and I should I did have a responsibility.
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  Speaker 1: So coming back to through, I'm like, all right, we
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  Speaker 1: got a revamp. What's going on? But again, we've also
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  Speaker 1: had this conversation about who is privileged enough to be
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  Speaker 1: able to shop in these areas because buying or doing
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  Speaker 1: these custom things in a small business takes money and
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  Speaker 1: they have to make money, so it's going to cost
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  Speaker 1: more if you can for those of us who are
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  Speaker 1: privileged enough buy those things, look up those things, take
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  Speaker 1: the time to find those businesses. I will say right
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  Speaker 1: this point, I love TikTok, which might not be around
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  Speaker 1: to the New Year, because you know, they have a band,
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  Speaker 1: and Donald Trump said really cool about it because you
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  Speaker 1: know he hated all the information that was being spread
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  Speaker 1: on TikTok, but whatever. On top of that, they are
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  Speaker 1: coming together with different organizations that are asking actual owned
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  Speaker 1: small businesses owned by black women, owned by people of
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  Speaker 1: color to make a list to highlight what they do
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  Speaker 1: and what they sell. Try to find those people. Go
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  Speaker 1: and find them, follow them, find the list, verifies who
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  Speaker 1: they are, because this is going to take extra work,
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  Speaker 1: but I think that's something really important as we talk
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  Speaker 1: about the economy and what has happening in the economy,
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  Speaker 1: the taxes and all of that, and the tariffs. There's
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  Speaker 1: so much to this. Uh, take a break from the toxicity.
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  Speaker 1: Social media is both great and awful. Take some time off,
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  Speaker 1: but also look through who you are following. Find those
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  Speaker 1: who are building up a good community. That's the best
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  Speaker 1: way to do this. Followed those who you know you
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  Speaker 1: can trust. I found some good people. As a person
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  Speaker 1: from the swing state. Again, we talked about this earlier.
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  Speaker 1: Fifty point seven percent voted for Trump. We are begging
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  Speaker 1: for those of you from the outside who seem to
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  Speaker 1: think they're okay because they are in what has always
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  Speaker 1: been blue or what is always considered blue, just to
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  Speaker 1: remember the depth of voter suppression that has occurred here
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  Speaker 1: in many other red states, especially in states like Georgia Alabama,
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  Speaker 1: which are very heavily populated by people of color. That
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  Speaker 1: what happened here with everything from coordinated bomb threads, we
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  Speaker 1: got so many County, which is Atlanta, invalidating absentee voters
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  Speaker 1: and absentee votes by the way, the amount of young people,
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  Speaker 1: especially it was being the black women, I will say that,
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  Speaker 1: or people of color that were driving or flying to
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  Speaker 1: their home state to get their votes in y'all are amazing.
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  Speaker 1: The purging of the voter registration. We had hundreds of
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  Speaker 1: thousands of people being pershed repeatedly. I've had stories of
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  Speaker 1: people being vote like getting their voter registration changed last
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  Speaker 1: minute without their permission. So so many of those things
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  Speaker 1: are happening. And then the overall jerrymandering that has happened.
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  Speaker 1: They tried to do that with cop County. It did
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  Speaker 1: not work. Kudos to cop County. We're talking about Marietta, Georgia,
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  Speaker 1: Ostell Mapleton for some of y'all who don't know it's
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  Speaker 1: where the Brave Stadium is now because it's not in Atlanta. Anyway,
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  Speaker 1: they flipped and I love to see that. Of course,
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  Speaker 1: to act as if we as a state gave up
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  Speaker 1: is an insult for those who have put in the
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  Speaker 1: work and who will continue to put in the work.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm talking about black women specifically. Atlanta. Georgia has
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  Speaker 1: been a force because of black women. Please don't insult
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  Speaker 1: them like that. You can be angry at the people
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  Speaker 1: who are outside of the metro areas and such. You
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  Speaker 1: can also be angry at the politicians and the policymakers
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  Speaker 1: trying and doing their damnedest to make sure that they
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  Speaker 1: suppressed votes, for sure, but don't insult the work of
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  Speaker 1: the women, the work of the people who have been
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  Speaker 1: fighting to make change here in the state. Members are
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  Speaker 1: swirling that Marjorie tail Green will try to take John
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  Speaker 1: Ossov's seat in the US Senate, and guarantee we will
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  Speaker 1: be hungering down to make sure that doesn't happen. We
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  Speaker 1: are hurting in this state. We are hurting just as
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  Speaker 1: much as everyone else. We've been affected here and we
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  Speaker 1: are tired, but we are still working. So please remember that.
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  Speaker 1: Please remember that before people come in and negatively just
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  Speaker 1: coming after everyone, because people have done so much work
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  Speaker 1: to even get to that point. The misogyn noir is
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  Speaker 1: really heavy and disgusting. Just FYI, check on your people. Sometimes.
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  Speaker 1: Caring and loving other people and helping other people helps
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  Speaker 1: us in our time of despair. So being able to
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  Speaker 1: go outside of your own morning sometimes to check on
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  Speaker 1: others is really really important and it keeps as a
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  Speaker 1: community together. Go through your stages of grief, but check
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  Speaker 1: on the other people who are there too. Andy, you have.
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  Speaker 2: Thoughts, I mean I have a lot of thoughts.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah enough. It is.
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  Speaker 2: Honestly, growing up here in Georgia, I never would have
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  Speaker 2: thought we would even been close to Swing State. So
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  Speaker 2: I think, even given everything that happened that day, which
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  Speaker 2: by the way, one of those bomb threats was coordinated
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  Speaker 2: by Russia, that it was that close is amazing and
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  Speaker 2: it is a testament to the work of black women.
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  Speaker 2: And before everything unfolded, we were having this community. I
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  Speaker 2: was texting back and forth with all my friends and
• 13:36
  Speaker 2: we were all worried and all of this, but a
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  Speaker 2: lot of people from other countries were sending these messages
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  Speaker 2: in all kinds of spaces, like ay, American women were
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  Speaker 2: thinking of you, or just really kind things. So it
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  Speaker 2: is very welcome. Something as small as that is very
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  Speaker 2: welcomed in it is true like check on the people
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  Speaker 2: in your life, and that can sometimes be hard to
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  Speaker 2: manage when you're going through crisis. Then you have to
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  Speaker 2: sort of balance that. But a lot of people I
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  Speaker 2: know are going through crisis and even if it is
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  Speaker 2: just like hey, thinking of you, that that can mean
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  Speaker 2: a lot of somebody.
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  Speaker 1: Right And with that with things we don't know what
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  Speaker 1: things will look like in the future, but for us
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  Speaker 1: in this man day, this is what our thoughts are.
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  Speaker 1: That we will keep fighting and speaking out as an
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  Speaker 1: intersectional feminist show. We will do as the show has
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  Speaker 1: always done, talk about the issues at hand, the history
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  Speaker 1: of the people who have made change for the better
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  Speaker 1: or for the worst, continuing to walk with you this journey.
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  Speaker 1: And when I say the worst, and what I mean
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  Speaker 1: is so that we don't forget the ugly history as well,
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  Speaker 1: because that is just as important as the good history.
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  Speaker 1: We know this, and again we know that critical race
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  Speaker 1: theory has gotten so misconstrued as an attack instead of history,
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  Speaker 1: which is interesting. But we are going to make sure
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  Speaker 1: that we include all of that in the conversation. We
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  Speaker 1: will continue to research and work in collaboration to dismantle
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  Speaker 1: the oppressive system and to undo the misinformation and disinformation
• 15:37
  Speaker 1: that have helped to uphold the current oppressive systems. And
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  Speaker 1: we want to hear from you, hear what you need
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  Speaker 1: and what is important from you. But with that we
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  Speaker 1: ask that you also be open to hear from others,
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  Speaker 1: especially those in the marginalized communities, and be uncomfortable with
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  Speaker 1: some hard truth that many of us want to pretend
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  Speaker 1: doesn't exist or didn't realize it existed. Privilege exists, and
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  Speaker 1: there is a hierarchy in the system. The question is
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  Speaker 1: how is that privileged used and are you willing to
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  Speaker 1: lose it for the sake of this community. I think
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  Speaker 1: there's been a lot in conversation. Again, we're not coming
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  Speaker 1: into this blame game. We're not coming into this with
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  Speaker 1: like blaming or victimizing one group or any of that,
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  Speaker 1: or villainizing another group. What we're wanting to do is
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  Speaker 1: be honest, transparent, and open, and that includes making you
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  Speaker 1: feel uncomfortable. I know a chunk of our listeners are
• 16:52
  Speaker 1: white women. I have had women send emails to me
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  Speaker 1: saying that they are upset with me for using the
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  Speaker 1: word white women. I laugh because it kind of was like, huh,
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  Speaker 1: but why are you offended by that term? You are
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  Speaker 1: a white woman, obviously, if you're responding in a way
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  Speaker 1: that you're offended that I refer to you that way,
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  Speaker 1: I don't think she listens anymore. I'm sure she doesn't
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  Speaker 1: I'm a most she doesn't. But with that, we also
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  Speaker 1: know that you have been trying to work for the
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  Speaker 1: betterment of the entirety of the community, and you understand
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  Speaker 1: what it takes to be an intersectional feminist. So I
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  Speaker 1: will say, if terms like white women, or if terms
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  Speaker 1: in which we ask why a chunk and majority of
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  Speaker 1: and I know again it's not our listeners for the
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  Speaker 1: most part, I would be shocked. I think we got
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  Speaker 1: I think we like they let us go a long
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  Speaker 1: time ago. But for those who voted for Trump, the
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  Speaker 1: fact that it was majority white women once again, majority
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  Speaker 1: of all white men, majority of Latino men, and I
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  Speaker 1: guess Asian men now like what the that we have
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  Speaker 1: to have these conversations of why people of color are
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  Speaker 1: questioning allyship in general, why black women are having to
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  Speaker 1: question everyone, and why so many people are okay with
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  Speaker 1: their destruction, why women in general are okay with men
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: or a government owning our bodies, or why people of
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  Speaker 1: color immigrants are like, nah, I'm one of the good ones.
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  Speaker 1: I'll be fun here. Baby, You're about to be gone.
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  Speaker 1: And I hate that for you, I hate that for
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  Speaker 1: your family. I hate that we are in this place.
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  Speaker 1: So with that as a person of empathy, As people
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  Speaker 1: of empathy, we want to make sure not only not
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  Speaker 1: only are we holding people accountable who are making questionable choices,
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  Speaker 1: but we still want to fight for you, and we
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  Speaker 1: asked the same with that, we asked that we all
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  Speaker 1: still stand uncomfortably in this results that we did not
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  Speaker 1: want and unite in order to You can't undo it,
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  Speaker 1: I guess we can't really just make it better in
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  Speaker 1: the future and try to do better for the future.
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  Speaker 1: So listeners, we need to hear from you because we
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: have two so I guess technically five perspectives here Insminty,
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: which are great, but we need your perspective to so
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  Speaker 1: be willing to talk to us about some things that
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: you think are important that we might not see, and
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  Speaker 1: then be willing to listen to others that we may
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  Speaker 1: bring on who make you uncomfortable as well.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, and I oh. As always, you have any resources.
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  Speaker 2: If you have any advice in this time, please let
• 20:32
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