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When Life Gets Tough: Find the Strength to Keep Going · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: It's really heavy when you start to look at your
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  Speaker 1: you know, you look at your life, you look at
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  Speaker 1: your health, you look at your business, you look at
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  Speaker 1: your family, you look at your relationships, and you look
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  Speaker 1: at all those things that are messed up in all
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  Speaker 1: those areas. And when you say all those things, all
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  Speaker 1: those problems in my business, my life, my health, all
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  Speaker 1: those things are my fault.
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  Speaker 2: That's really a heavy weight to bear.
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  Speaker 1: But it's also extremely liberating because if it's all your fault,
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  Speaker 1: you're the one that can fix it. You're the one
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  Speaker 1: that can give your business back together, you can repair
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  Speaker 1: the relationships, you can give yourself healthy like you can
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  Speaker 1: take control of all those things.
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  Speaker 3: There are many things in this world that we all
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  Speaker 3: wish weren't true. There are many things that we want
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  Speaker 3: to be that just aren't. The game that you're playing
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  Speaker 3: is human psychology. There is no greater control. There is
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  Speaker 3: no greater control, the control over oneself. Every day that
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  Speaker 3: you're working to build something, whether it's a business, whether
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  Speaker 3: you're trying to be the rate as parent of all time,
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  Speaker 3: it doesn't matter if you fail to understand that the
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  Speaker 3: name of the game is changing yourself, acquiring skills, identifying
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  Speaker 3: the gap between who you are today and the person
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  Speaker 3: you want to become, and accepting that you can do
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  Speaker 3: anything you set your mind to without limitations. So now
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  Speaker 3: how you spend that time? What skills you begin to
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  Speaker 3: acquire in order to execute against the future vision you
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  Speaker 3: have of yourself? That is everything, But you're going to
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  Speaker 3: have to be willing to suffer along the way.
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  Speaker 4: Sometimes you have to go through that adversity and that
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  Speaker 4: challenge and that setback to activate passion in the drive.
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  Speaker 4: You know, sometimes it takes the sting of defeat. Sometimes
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  Speaker 4: it takes the sting of heartbreak to activate something within
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  Speaker 4: you that was needed for you to start moving in
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  Speaker 4: the direction that you're meant to move to get to
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  Speaker 4: where you need to be.
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  Speaker 5: We have two primary choices in life, which can accept
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  Speaker 5: conditions as they exist, we can take the responsibility to
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  Speaker 5: change them. See a lot of people want to exempt
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  Speaker 5: themselves from taking responsibility.
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  Speaker 3: All they want to do is.
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  Speaker 1: Talk about the problem.
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  Speaker 5: Every time you see them, they'll tell you their story
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  Speaker 5: over and over and over and over again. No, No,
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  Speaker 5: you want to take responsibility for your life.
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  Speaker 6: I got me here, I can get me out of this, and.
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  Speaker 7: I'm getting out.
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  Speaker 6: I'm not going to be a volunteer victim.
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  Speaker 8: If you tell yourself the truth, and the truth is
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  Speaker 8: I'm not happy with where I'm at, That's the truth.
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  Speaker 8: The truth is I can do more. The truth is
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  Speaker 8: I can be in better shape. The truth is I
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  Speaker 8: can work harder than I'm working right now. The truth
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  Speaker 8: is I can't do more for my family. The truth
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  Speaker 8: is I can do much better than I'm doing right now.
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  Speaker 8: And if that's the real truth, if that's what you believe,
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  Speaker 8: if you believe that to be the truth, you won't
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  Speaker 8: have to find more discipline. Discipline will find you. It
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  Speaker 8: will wake you up in the morning.
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  Speaker 6: So as you began to look toward making this your decade,
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  Speaker 6: is you begin to look toward making your life different,
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  Speaker 6: you begin to look at yourself. You've got to redefine yourself.
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  Speaker 4: Who are you right now?
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  Speaker 6: And who must you become in order to create what
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  Speaker 6: you want?
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  Speaker 1: What has to change about you?
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  Speaker 6: As you begin to look toward the future and take
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  Speaker 6: inventory of yourself, what is it about you right now
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  Speaker 6: that you've got to leave this behind because this no
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  Speaker 6: longer fits. Looking at where you want to go and
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  Speaker 6: the kind of person that you must become, the kind
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  Speaker 6: of standards that you have for you.
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  Speaker 5: What is it that you must do differently.
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  Speaker 9: I'm becoming a higher version of myself. I am becoming
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  Speaker 9: the idealized man. I want to become the man that
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  Speaker 9: my children look up to and idealize. I want to
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  Speaker 9: become a role model. I want to be able to impact,
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  Speaker 9: an influence and man inspire people. The one point zero
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  Speaker 9: version of you whose crop duster is not going to
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  Speaker 9: do that. It is the fighter jet version of you
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  Speaker 9: who will do that. Is the man who does not
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  Speaker 9: compromise on his goals and dreams. It is the man
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  Speaker 9: who sticks to his core values. It is the man
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  Speaker 9: who draws a line in the sand and says, no
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  Speaker 9: matter what, I will do these things to become two
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  Speaker 9: point zero.
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  Speaker 7: The right path is often going to be the hard one.
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  Speaker 7: It's going to be the one that requires you to
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  Speaker 7: believe in something with no guarantees, the one that asks
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  Speaker 7: you to let go of all control and walk forward
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  Speaker 7: in blind faith. But you know you're not walking blindly
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  Speaker 7: because you can see it. You can feel that there's
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  Speaker 7: no other choice. But this, everything you've been through has
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  Speaker 7: prepared you for this moment. Lean into it, trust it.
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  Speaker 10: You're ready The key to winning is intentionally putting yourself
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  Speaker 10: in uncomfortable situations. Intentionally putting yourself in uncomfortable and difficult situations.
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  Speaker 10: Make it your mission to become more disciplined, Make it
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  Speaker 10: your mission to become more mentally hard. If you make
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  Speaker 10: one promise to yourself this year, make it this that
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  Speaker 10: you are going to solve the fundamental problem that has
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  Speaker 10: kept you in this place of dissatisfaction for so long.
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  Speaker 10: You are going to address the core issue, and the
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  Speaker 10: core issue is that you lack the ability to do
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  Speaker 10: things when you don't feel like doing them.
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  Speaker 2: But between where you are now and where you want
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  Speaker 2: to go, there's a whole library of lessons that must
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  Speaker 2: be learned. There are lessons that must be learned between
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  Speaker 2: where you are and where you need to go, and
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  Speaker 2: that is called the process. Ladies and gentlemen, embrace the process.
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  Speaker 2: Embrace the hardest parts of this journey, because I promise
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  Speaker 2: you they're going to keep coming in the future. This
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  Speaker 2: is not a one time thing. They're going to continue
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  Speaker 2: to come at you until you learn the lesson you
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  Speaker 2: have to learn, and the reward for learning the lesson
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  Speaker 2: is one of more lessons.
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  Speaker 10: Pretty sure you told yourself.
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  Speaker 1: You were going to start on the first, and I'm.
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  Speaker 10: Pretty sure you told yourself again you were going to
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  Speaker 10: start on the second.
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  Speaker 8: Where's it gonna be.
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  Speaker 10: Make the fucking change that you need to make, become
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  Speaker 10: the person you need to become.
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  Speaker 6: Now is the.
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  Speaker 9: Time to fix it.
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  Speaker 10: So don't wait another day, don't wait on Monday, don't
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  Speaker 10: wait another year.
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  Speaker 6: Start today.
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  Speaker 8: So get control of yourself. Get control of yourself, come
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  Speaker 8: up with a plan, and take action.
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  Speaker 4: Daily.
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  Speaker 1: That's what we're doing, and that's the discipline.
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  Speaker 11: One of the most valuable exercises you can engage in
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  Speaker 11: to accomplish any goal you can set for yourself is
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  Speaker 11: to ask yourself, what is my limiting step? What is
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  Speaker 11: the one factor that determines the speed at which I
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  Speaker 11: achieve my goal or whether I achieve it at all.
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  Speaker 11: Your ability to identify your limiting step is one of
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  Speaker 11: the best demonstrations of your intelligence. Your capacity to eliminate
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  Speaker 11: this limiting step is one of the best demonstrations of
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  Speaker 11: your overall competence in achieving anything you want. Self confidence
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  Speaker 11: is critical in studying everything that has been written or
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  Speaker 11: set about personal success. The conclusion I came to was
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  Speaker 11: that your level of Self confidence is probably the critical
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  Speaker 11: factor in everything you accomplish. When you have enough self confidence,
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  Speaker 11: you will try almost anything. Because success is largely a
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  Speaker 11: matter of averages or probabilities, the more things you try,
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  Speaker 11: the more likely it is that you will achieve greatly.
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  Speaker 11: The same is true for you. When you set more goals,
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  Speaker 11: try more things, engage in more activities, and explore more opportunities,
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  Speaker 11: your probabilities of success increase dramatically. The only real limiting
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  Speaker 11: step that you might have is your level of self confidence.
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  Speaker 11: When you reach the point at which you believe in
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  Speaker 11: yourself absolutely, the barriers that exist in your external world
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  Speaker 11: will not stop you. The major obstacles to success always
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  Speaker 11: lie within the mind of the end individual. They are
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  Speaker 11: not contained in external circumstances, situations, or people. As soon
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  Speaker 11: as you win the inner battle, the outer battle seems
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  Speaker 11: to take care of itself. How do you infuse your
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  Speaker 11: whole life with the kind of self confidence that makes
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  Speaker 11: everything possible for you? The answer is contained in what
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  Speaker 11: I call the four ds, which determine success in anything
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  Speaker 11: you really want to accomplish. The first D is desire.
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  Speaker 11: You must really want to become a totally self confident
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  Speaker 11: human being. You must build up your desire by thinking
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  Speaker 11: about it and talking about it and working on it
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  Speaker 11: all the time. Your desire must become so intense that
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  Speaker 11: it overrides your fears of failure, rejection, and inferiority, and
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  Speaker 11: it becomes the dominant emotion governing your behaviors. Intense desire
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  Speaker 11: is the starting point of all personality manifation and goal attainment.
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  Speaker 11: The second day is decision. You must make a do
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  Speaker 11: or die decision that you will go to work on
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  Speaker 11: yourself and keep at it until you achieve the kind
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  Speaker 11: of self confidence that enables you to do, b and
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  Speaker 11: say whatever you want. You must burn your mental bridges.
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  Speaker 11: Many people want things, but they never make the clear,
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  Speaker 11: unequivocal decision that they are going to do what it
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  Speaker 11: takes to get them. The third d is determination. Once
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  Speaker 11: you have started to make significant changes in the way
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  Speaker 11: you act, your internal gyroscope will try to take over
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  Speaker 11: and bring you back into your comfort zone, into your
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  Speaker 11: old ways of acting. Sometimes progress will be slow, and
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  Speaker 11: often you will see no progress at all. Nonetheless, you
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  Speaker 11: must persist in the positive and constructive behaviors that you
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  Speaker 11: know will lead to making you into the kind of
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  Speaker 11: person you wish to become. Your determination must be as
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  Speaker 11: unshakable as the self confidence you desire. The fourth D
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  Speaker 11: is discipline. Underlying and surrounding all great achievement in life
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  Speaker 11: is the quality of self discipline. This is the ability
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  Speaker 11: to make yourself do what you should do, when you
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  Speaker 11: should do it, whether you feel like it or not.
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  Speaker 11: Every practice of self discipline strengthens your discipline in every
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  Speaker 11: other area of your life. As Napoleon Hill said after
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  Speaker 11: more than twenty years of research into the lives of
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  Speaker 11: successful men and women, self discipline is the master key
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  Speaker 11: to riches. It is self discipline that makes everything else possible.
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  Speaker 11: If you have the desire to change, the decisiveness to
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  Speaker 11: take action, the determination to persist on your forward track,
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  Speaker 11: and the discipline to make yourself do whatever you need
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  Speaker 11: to do, your self confidence and your success are inevitable.
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  Speaker 12: People have enormous capabilities beyond what's commonly thought to be possible.
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  Speaker 12: The power to tap into our unlimited potential is directly
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  Speaker 12: connected to how we define reality, how we view ourselves,
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  Speaker 12: and what believe we can achieve. No matter what is
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  Speaker 12: now or will occur, you can choose right this moment
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  Speaker 12: more empowering meanings for everything in your life. You hold
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  Speaker 12: the power to create a new world for yourself and
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  Speaker 12: those you care about. The mind shift is simple but profound.
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  Speaker 12: Is this the end of something wonderful or the beginning
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  Speaker 12: of something unpleasant? Are you being punished for your failure
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  Speaker 12: or rewarded for your success. The minute you decide to
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  Speaker 12: focus on something, you assign it a meaning and infuse
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  Speaker 12: it with feeling. How you define an event produces emotion
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  Speaker 12: and determines your inner feeling state going forward. The meaning
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  Speaker 12: you assigned to any event, interaction, or outcome defines the
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  Speaker 12: emotional tone of your experience and the feelings you generate
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  Speaker 12: throughout your life. Meaning equals emotion and emotion equals life.
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  Speaker 12: The meaning you give your experiences will always change how
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  Speaker 12: you feel, and the emotion you feel always becomes the
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  Speaker 12: quality of your life. Our memories are actually anchors to
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  Speaker 12: feeling states, images, sounds, and sensations. All of these aspects
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  Speaker 12: rely on the meaning we give to them. The meaning
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  Speaker 12: you attached to something produces the emotion of your life,
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  Speaker 12: and your emotion is your life. Meaning equals emotion, Emotion
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  Speaker 12: equals life. Write this down or memorize this stanza. This
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  Speaker 12: is the essence to the entire power of meaning. The
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  Speaker 12: meaning you give events, interactions, and outcomes determines how you feel.
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  Speaker 12: Meaning informs your emotional state. By creating a ladder of
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  Speaker 12: positive and empowering meanings, you effectively change the direction of
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  Speaker 12: your life and provide yourself rational, proven reasons. Your success
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  Speaker 12: will continue, and it all starts now with your decision
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  Speaker 12: to become conscious of the meanings you are constantly creating.
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  Speaker 12: This technique is called reframing, and it's one of the
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  Speaker 12: most powerful tools you can use to improve your psychology.
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  Speaker 12: Reframing isn't about pretending a situation is great when it
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  Speaker 12: may not be. Rather, it's about discovering what could be great,
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  Speaker 12: what you could learn by consequence, or how you can
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  Speaker 12: use the situation to create a better outcome. Perspective is
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  Speaker 12: a powerful thing. When you can reframe a particular experience
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  Speaker 12: or interaction, you can often change what happens as a result.
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  Speaker 12: Let's say, for example, your boss is always yelling at you.
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  Speaker 12: Human beings tend to attach certain meanings to experiences. In actuality,
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  Speaker 12: there may be an infinite number of ways to interpret
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  Speaker 12: any experience. We frame the events in our life based
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  Speaker 12: on the ways we've decided to perceive similar experiences in
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  Speaker 12: the past, forming habitual patterns we repeat throughout our entire live.
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  Speaker 12: Are your patterns helping or harming you? It's vital to
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  Speaker 12: remember that our perceptions are creative in nature. If we
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  Speaker 12: define something as negative, that's the message our brain receives
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  Speaker 12: and responds to by creating an emotional state to reinforce
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  Speaker 12: that reality. The quality of your life is the quality
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  Speaker 12: of your communication with yourself as well as with others.
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  Speaker 12: Reframing is the difference between being constantly disappointed and being
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  Speaker 12: consistently satisfied. By stacking positive interpretations one after the other,
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  Speaker 12: you become the author of the success story your own life.
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  Speaker 12: How would you feel at bedtime if every day turned
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  Speaker 12: out to be ideal, interesting, or even amazing. It's closer
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  Speaker 12: than you think. Start harnessing your innate ability to supercharge
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  Speaker 12: your emotions, empower your decisions, and elevate your life today
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  Speaker 12: through the power of meaning.